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#76 Mrs April Wicks !! · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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Speaker 1: Ash. It's not often that we can say that the
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Speaker 1: guest who's going to jump on this podcast is one
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Speaker 1: that you've had sex with. Oh look, Rosy, your cheeks
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Speaker 1: are going You're so flustered. Oh gosh, I.
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Speaker 2: Do not wish to talk about it. Look, I'm happy
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Speaker 2: she's here. Let's be honest. We are a little worried.
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Speaker 1: We are, of course talking about April, who is your
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Speaker 1: beloved wife.
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Speaker 2: I thought we're talking about your mum.
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Speaker 1: No, oh cut, hey, hey, sorry, sorry, sorry, let's not
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Speaker 1: go there. April is going to dish all the dirt
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Speaker 1: on her husband.
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Speaker 2: Oh god.
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Speaker 1: The co host of this podcast, Two Dating Dad's his
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Speaker 1: name is Ash Wicks. Ashly worried about what the listeners
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Speaker 1: are going to find out.
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Speaker 2: Today, not at all, A little bit worried, tiny bit.
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Speaker 2: But we'll get through. I'm sure we'll get through.
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Speaker 1: She has been one of the most requested guests that
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Speaker 1: we've ever had, and it's taken a very long time,
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Speaker 1: lots of convincing that this is a good idea.
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Speaker 3: All right, Ashes, excited, let's get into it.
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Speaker 2: Stop the touching my knee.
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Speaker 1: Welcome back to two doting dads and one doting mum.
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Speaker 2: I am Mattie j I'm ash A.
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Speaker 4: She is everyone.
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Speaker 2: Much anticipated. I think we've teased it the most.
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Speaker 1: But this is a podcast all about parenting.
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Speaker 2: It's the good, the bad, and the relatable.
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Speaker 1: And April, I dare say, you have a lot of
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Speaker 1: advice to give.
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Speaker 5: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I feel like you have wisdom bursting out of your seams.
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Speaker 5: More so than Ashton. Probably that's about right.
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Speaker 1: Can I ask we were meant to record this last
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Speaker 1: week and you had a tooth or teeth removed? Did
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Speaker 1: that actually happen? I wasn't sure if that.
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Speaker 2: Was made up.
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Speaker 6: They're all there, did you I had some dental work, yeah,
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Speaker 6: and so I decided to postpone.
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Speaker 2: See the mouth mechanic and waste all that money down there.
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Speaker 1: Okay, because I was like, maybe maybe this will never happen.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. She played hard to get for a little while.
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Speaker 5: I was I was going to cancel this morning. To
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Speaker 5: be honest, I was.
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Speaker 1: Expecting when I came in the front door, I didn't
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Speaker 1: think you'd be upstairs. I thought you'd be like running errands.
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Speaker 2: But it's great to have you.
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Speaker 1: Finally, I do want to say we don't have many listeners.
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Speaker 2: Not many.
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Speaker 1: I'm just saying this to make come to But they
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Speaker 1: were all very excited on Facebook, on Instagram, the Facebook man,
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Speaker 1: on the Facebook, everybody was very keen to hear your voice.
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Speaker 5: That's reassuring, I hope.
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Speaker 1: One of them those common questions we had was the
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Speaker 1: story of how you and ash Met. Can you recall
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Speaker 1: the day, yeah, at.
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Speaker 2: The time, exact moment.
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Speaker 1: How did you two come together?
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Speaker 6: So our stories may vary, but my story goes, well,
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Speaker 6: we did know each other at the age of like
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Speaker 6: fourteen through mutual friends from high school.
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Speaker 2: April went out with one of my friends in high school.
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Speaker 6: That's not really how we met, Like, no, no, we
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Speaker 6: just knew each other.
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Speaker 5: And then was what.
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Speaker 1: Was your opinion of ash or was he just kind
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Speaker 1: of someone you knew a little bit? Are we like, Oh,
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Speaker 1: he's quite nice, he's fun.
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Speaker 5: I didn't really know him that well.
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Speaker 6: I just knew who is, what his name was, and
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Speaker 6: who he was and whatnot. There was no reputation, no reputation. No,
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Speaker 6: I think he was fourteen, so he was just another boy, just.
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Speaker 2: Another set of legs.
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Speaker 1: And so how long was it before you guys introduced romantically?
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Speaker 6: So I think you moved down in like you moved away,
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Speaker 6: and then you moved back down to Sydney when you're twenty,
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Speaker 6: and then we ran into each other at the pub.
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Speaker 5: Mona pub No, I want to say. It was a
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Speaker 5: Saturday and I.
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Speaker 6: Was doing my usual rounds as you do when you're twenty,
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Speaker 6: doing a round of the pub, and I ran into
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Speaker 6: you and you stopped me in.
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Speaker 7: My tracks and you go like we're just sweat chat,
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Speaker 7: basic chit chat.
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Speaker 5: How are you going?
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Speaker 6: And then I was like, okay, I'll keep going, Like
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Speaker 6: you know, I just wanted to keep going.
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Speaker 5: Lap, got to finish my lap, like you know, single.
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Speaker 2: Girlps Mayonni's Maenies exactly.
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Speaker 6: And you're like, oh, just one dance because I was
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Speaker 6: right next to the dance well and I was like,
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Speaker 6: oh look look I'm just on a mission and I
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Speaker 6: just want to keep going on.
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Speaker 3: Can I say you have dance experience? Yes, you're a
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Speaker 3: good dance How did you know?
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Speaker 1: I remember seeing a video of you we were on
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Speaker 1: the cruise and I was like, wow, April can really move.
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Speaker 5: I was one of the dancers.
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Speaker 1: It's a bold move. I'm a bold guy. Like does
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Speaker 1: dance rank highly? Then you like I would always want
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Speaker 1: to be with someone who's a dancer.
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Speaker 5: Totally, totally.
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Speaker 6: I did love a dance or but yeah, so I
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Speaker 6: said on just I'll just dom around and then you're
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Speaker 6: like one dance and literally I.
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Speaker 5: Was like, okay, one dance. You know, he's pretty.
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Speaker 6: Persuasive, guys going to be a long episode. And we
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Speaker 6: just had a dance and I think we literally spent
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Speaker 6: the rest of the night together.
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Speaker 1: Was he a good dancer?
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Speaker 6: I can remember his style of dance. You have to
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Speaker 6: remind me what it's called. But I remember you tried
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Speaker 6: to show off with you like, was it like a
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Speaker 6: a crib walk or something.
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Speaker 2: I regret this.
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Speaker 5: It was a shuffle, a shuffle and I don't know.
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Speaker 5: I thought it was all right.
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Speaker 6: And yeah, and then you did like we just hung
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Speaker 6: out the rest of the night and you're making me
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Speaker 6: laugh and then yeah, next thing you know, we're going
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Speaker 6: on some dates.
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Speaker 1: I have seen some photos of the two of you
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Speaker 1: when you were a little bit younger from Ash's Facebook
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Speaker 1: you the two of you very attractive couple.
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Speaker 2: You still are.
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Speaker 1: Thanks, I'm getting lost the words. You two are very spicy.
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Speaker 1: Thank you, You're very attractive. Oh, thank you. You would
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Speaker 1: have been like the couple no.
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Speaker 2: Definitely not.
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Speaker 5: I laugh about it now.
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Speaker 6: But the thing I think that I was attracted to
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Speaker 6: you were like your whole two tattoos that you at
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Speaker 6: the time.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, that's hot, and they're like the
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Speaker 2: worst tattoos I have, yeah, under my arm and under
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Speaker 2: that they're like one of them was done by a
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Speaker 2: tatoo asist that she was pissed and it was like,
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Speaker 2: so it's so bad, and the other one was just
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Speaker 2: like a dumb seventeen year old tatoo.
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Speaker 1: Did you show with the tatoos that night?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just walked around these.
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Speaker 5: By the way, he was skinnier than me as well,
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Speaker 5: it was tiny.
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Speaker 2: I was so small.
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Speaker 1: The photos of you when you were younger, you're a
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Speaker 1: bit of a trim young lad.
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Speaker 2: Oh now what am I fat?
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Speaker 8: Dad?
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Speaker 1: Very clean cut?
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Speaker 2: You're allowed ten kilos for every kid you have.
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Speaker 1: You didn't have the mustache. No, did that version of
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Speaker 1: events match what happened from you?
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Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, that was pretty bang on. I think I
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Speaker 2: tried really hard to go home with her. She said, no,
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Speaker 2: kick me off the bus.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, we did catch a bus home.
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Speaker 2: Got a bus home. Well, young I was poor, and
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Speaker 2: then I spent weeks weeks, courting courting weeks to the
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Speaker 2: point where it was a joke between her and her friends.
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Speaker 2: So I was a joke really.
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Speaker 1: Because you were you were like playing hard to.
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Speaker 5: Get or he was very keen.
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Speaker 6: And I remember joking like because he sent like not millions,
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Speaker 6: but he said plenty.
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Speaker 5: Of messages throughout the day.
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Speaker 6: And at that time I had a job where my
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Speaker 6: phone was locked away in a locker and you'd send
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Speaker 6: like a couple of messages like just like, how's your day,
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Speaker 6: but then another one would.
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Speaker 2: Come through the one You're going back to back to.
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Speaker 5: Back, back to back to back.
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Speaker 2: In those days. Yeah, I'd never do that now.
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Speaker 6: And I joked to one of my friends at the
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Speaker 6: time and I was like, oh my god, this guy's
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Speaker 6: so keen.
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Speaker 5: Imagine if I end up marrying him.
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Speaker 2: There you go, guys persistence.
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Speaker 1: Do you remember after you guys met at the pub,
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Speaker 1: like what your first date was?
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Speaker 2: Yes, where did you go?
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Speaker 6: So you'd been out like that whole day, so I
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Speaker 6: think you'd been drinking as well, so you were.
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Speaker 1: Like, it does not sound like that.
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Speaker 6: You were like, oh, we should go out for dinner,
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Speaker 6: but I think you need to Can you pick.
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Speaker 9: Me up.
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Speaker 2: Whoa. I was out during the day, but I had
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Speaker 2: tried to see April at other occasions but she was
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Speaker 2: playing hard to get. And then the one occasion I
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Speaker 2: was in Bondi actually, and the one occasion where she
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Speaker 2: was like, oh I'm free tonight, I was caught up
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Speaker 2: with a girlfriend of mine that had moved down as well,
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Speaker 2: and we just hadn't seen each other yet. She moved
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Speaker 2: to bond Dim, so we caught up for a drink
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Speaker 2: and lunch. I only had like two or three beers,
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Speaker 2: but I got a bus and a train there, you know,
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Speaker 2: thinking Okay, I'll probably just spend the evening in Bondai
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Speaker 2: and see what that's about. And then it was like,
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Speaker 2: oh shit. So I pretty much stopped whatever I was
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Speaker 2: doing and got on a bus and then got on
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Speaker 2: a train. But the thing is, I was like to April,
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Speaker 2: you're gonna have to drive. So I got dropped at
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Speaker 2: her like pretty much at her place, and then we
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Speaker 2: drove to where I was living, which was on the
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Speaker 2: floor of Pete's house the cafe street. So just to
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Speaker 2: clean that up, carry on.
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Speaker 5: I'm pretty sure as well. You did send in a message.
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Speaker 6: I think that's when you told me you're like, oh,
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Speaker 6: I can't afford dinner.
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Speaker 5: I can't remember how I found out that.
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Speaker 6: You couldn't pay for dinner much. Yeah, yeah, I'm pretty
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Speaker 6: sure you like told me straight up. You're like, I
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Speaker 6: haven't got money for dinner, but I'd love to take
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Speaker 6: you out.
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Speaker 2: So I was like, context, context, context is everything, guys.
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Speaker 2: I had. I had packed up my car from living
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Speaker 2: in my parents' house, moved here, was working three jobs
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Speaker 2: that paid cash, and it was like the worst time
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Speaker 2: because I was in Bondou with all my money that
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Speaker 2: I had and had pretty much spent it on lunch
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Speaker 2: and everything, thinking Okay, I'm just going to go home.
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Speaker 2: I'll get paid in the next couple of days from
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Speaker 2: one of these jobs. But then I didn't want to
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Speaker 2: miss the opportunity.
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Speaker 5: So honesty, honesty is the best suppose.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't think I don't recall saying it.
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Speaker 6: Well, I just I can't remember how I found out
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Speaker 6: that I had to pay because I did have to
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Speaker 6: pay to that.
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Speaker 2: No, let's get to that. Okay, you didn't have to pay.
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Speaker 2: He didn't make you pay, because no, he did.
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Speaker 5: He gave me a discount, didn't he because you worked? Well,
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Speaker 5: we end up going for dinner. So yeah, we drove.
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Speaker 5: We drove somewhere. We didn't really have plans, and I
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Speaker 5: was driving.
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Speaker 6: I think we went to go to a sushi place,
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Speaker 6: but we couldn't park or something, and then we end
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Speaker 6: up going to You were like, oh, I work it.
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Speaker 6: I work at this Jazza pizza place, so we'll go there.
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Speaker 5: And so we went there.
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Speaker 6: I had dinner and whatnot, and obviously all his coworkers
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Speaker 6: were like behind my back, which I know now, Yeah,
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Speaker 6: she's down.
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Speaker 5: And then the bill came and I went not to
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Speaker 5: pay and I could.
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Speaker 2: Afford to pay into my name.
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Speaker 1: I think the important thing to remember is that you
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Speaker 1: can start with the bar really low and then from
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Speaker 1: then on that's what I did. Everything's a plus.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, and you did? You did? You used to spoil
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Speaker 5: me rotten, see in what way? Oh?
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Speaker 6: I remember like one of the first Valentine's Days, I
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Speaker 6: think you bought me.
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Speaker 5: An iPad mini. You'd buy me jewelry.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, like like literally spent probably credit card.
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Speaker 2: Debt and make up for that one dinner I couldn't
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Speaker 2: pay for. But it was the most important dinner obviously,
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Speaker 2: But I meant at the time I recall, I was like, okay,
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Speaker 2: well the people I was with in bond, but I
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Speaker 2: got to go, and it was like I got to go.
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Speaker 2: I have to go for a particular reason. I could
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Speaker 2: have easily just been like no, not yeah. Yeah, So
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Speaker 2: that's how that's how the first date went.
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Speaker 1: Do you remember thinking on that date? This feels different
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Speaker 1: to other dates that I've been on.
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Speaker 5: Definitely.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. She had to pay for us, Like I feel
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Speaker 2: slightly lighter in the wallet. It wasn't expensive, all right.
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Speaker 6: No, and like you know you're talking when we were twenty,
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Speaker 6: there was not a high expectation of like as long as.
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Speaker 5: It was about that. Yeah, yeah, I enjoyed his company.
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Speaker 1: Your dog is very into the story. I don't want
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Speaker 1: to ask questions that are too personal. Did you have
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Speaker 1: a kiss after dinner?
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Speaker 2: Was there a kiss that night?
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Speaker 6: Oh?
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Speaker 5: I have no idea.
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Speaker 2: I can't remember. I think so well, I.
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Speaker 5: Don't know where, Like I wouldn't have been at the restaurant.
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Speaker 2: I remember when are we Because we had to stop
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Speaker 2: at my place before we went, and I was living
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Speaker 2: with Pete and there's three brothers in that house. Oh
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Speaker 2: walked in. They had to get some fresh clothes and
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Speaker 2: Pete was like, where are you going. I was like, oh,
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Speaker 2: I'm going on a date with April Gates and he
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Speaker 2: was like bullshit, You're lying, bullshit. And then I was
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Speaker 2: like it and then he's like walked out open the
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Speaker 2: front doors, like Gavin. She had a big crush on April.
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Speaker 2: So I Stolar stolen something Dolar.
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Speaker 5: I don't think I was ever his.
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Speaker 9: But.
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Speaker 2: He still think. He still thinks he's got to change.
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Speaker 1: And then how long was it then until you guys
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Speaker 1: got engaged?
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Speaker 2: Seven years?
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Speaker 5: No, that's when we got married. We got engaged.
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Speaker 2: That's what I mean.
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Speaker 5: We got engaged.
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Speaker 6: I think it was five years, and then we had
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Speaker 6: a two year engagement because we're quite young.
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Speaker 5: We're engaged at like twenty four.
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Speaker 2: Four twenty five.
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Speaker 5: It was yeah, that's young, fifteen.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we it was like we had been together for
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Speaker 2: like five years. We took a little trip to the
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Speaker 2: States with some friends. Josh and Chan shout out to them,
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Speaker 2: they're probably listening. Probably not, they probably We did like
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Speaker 2: a big, big stint over there, and I got like
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Speaker 2: the ring made and everything here, and I remember I
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Speaker 2: was like, I'm definitely going to do it. Josh and
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Speaker 2: Ceanne knew what was happening, and I said, I definitely
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Speaker 2: want to do it over there. I had to hide
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Speaker 2: the ring the whole time, but I didn't trust the
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Speaker 2: baggage handlers. No, no, I was just going to say
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Speaker 2: sorry guys, but I.
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Speaker 1: Was like, I was like, no, you can't trust No,
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Speaker 1: You've got to have it on you all time.
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Speaker 9: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So what I did was I didn't put it in
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Speaker 2: my pocket. I put it and tucked into my underpants
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Speaker 2: on the side here and so it just like just
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Speaker 2: held there for the whole flight from from Brisbane to
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Speaker 2: to San Francisco. And I remember like it was the
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Speaker 2: next day and we're like going to do this, go
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Speaker 2: up to this big lookout and April was like, why
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Speaker 2: are you acting so weird? I was like, oh, I
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Speaker 2: just feel a bit sick from the pip by jet lag.
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Speaker 2: I was just fucking nervous and iously I was still
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Speaker 2: like holding this ring, so she didn't know. And then
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Speaker 2: I think at one point, we'll let this look out
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Speaker 2: somewhere and you put your arm around me right near it,
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Speaker 2: like like just around my back and right and I
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Speaker 2: was like, oh, fuck you, we goes kind of know
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Speaker 2: what's this. Didn't say anything.
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Speaker 6: Did you have any idea April, No, no clue at all.
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Speaker 5: I like, no, no clue at all.
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Speaker 2: And then yeah, we just went up to this place
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Speaker 2: in San Francisco and the cab driver cried.
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Speaker 6: He got the best footage out of everyone. He got
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Speaker 6: his phone out and he got like and.
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Speaker 2: Then he called his wife and was like, you're.
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Speaker 8: Not going to believe.
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Speaker 2: Where was it at San f A place called Twin Peaks.
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Speaker 10: Yeah.
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Speaker 6: I remember the cab driver the whole way up was
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Speaker 6: joking about Twin Peaks.
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Speaker 5: Don't you remember that? Yeah, and like Twin Peaks.
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Speaker 2: Yea, and yeah they try the wings. I remember we
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Speaker 2: were on the way out there and he was like,
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Speaker 2: do you want me to hang around because it's hard
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Speaker 2: to get back and I.
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Speaker 1: Was like no, no, I don't need a crowd.
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Speaker 2: And then it was like got up there and those
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Speaker 2: people around. April first, as a boyfriend would do, I
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Speaker 2: would like pretend to like when you really you're like,
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Speaker 2: oh you know, and she thought I was doing that,
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Speaker 2: but I was trying to get to turn around.
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Speaker 10: And then grabbed me by the arms and I was
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Speaker 10: like what he's packing?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then yeah, and then the cab driver was
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Speaker 2: like on the phone with his wife obviously Josh and Sihan,
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Speaker 2: who knew what was going on. Obviously. She said yes,
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Speaker 2: but it was funny in the cabin the way back.
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Speaker 2: The guy was like, I had no idea. You were
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Speaker 2: pretty cool to me. I was like, I was sweating,
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Speaker 2: like fuck, Like why did I? I could have just
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Speaker 2: done it like old mate did on the jet STARFF
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Speaker 2: the other day. Did you see that?
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Speaker 6: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: I don't want to shame them because people have got
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Speaker 2: their own things. Yeah, this couple were flying to Bali
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Speaker 2: and he obviously couldn't wait any longer the pressure. He
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Speaker 2: proposed to her on the jet Star. Yeah, just before
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Speaker 2: it too in economy.
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Speaker 1: Hey those drinks are expensive on the flight.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's yeah, twenty fifteen.
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Speaker 1: I always I'm always like, what would it be like
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Speaker 1: in the moment for yourself when your partner's dropping a knee.
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Speaker 1: Do you remember, like do you straight away go oh
18:20
Speaker 1: my god, he's about to propose? Did you like did
18:23
Speaker 1: you realize or is it like a bit you have
18:25
Speaker 1: a moment of confusion of like is this actually happening.
18:28
Speaker 6: It's definitely surreal at first, and then I feel like
18:31
Speaker 6: it's still surreal until you watch footage after, you're like,
18:34
Speaker 6: that actually happened.
18:35
Speaker 1: I sucked on mind? Can I just cry?
18:37
Speaker 2: You're on TV?
18:38
Speaker 1: I didn't know it was We're in FIGI. I just
18:42
Speaker 1: dropped in and started crying, and Laura thought that I
18:44
Speaker 1: was going to say that I had cancer. It's like
18:47
Speaker 1: something's wrong.
18:51
Speaker 2: I can just imagine you, like, I mean, it.
18:54
Speaker 1: Sounds stupid when you think back, You're like, it's no
18:58
Speaker 1: big deal, but it is.
18:59
Speaker 2: It's like it was actually at twenty four, I was
19:02
Speaker 2: fucking ship.
19:04
Speaker 5: No one really we really knew had been engaged.
19:07
Speaker 2: Yeah, one of the first were married. Yeah, who were with?
19:12
Speaker 2: But that was really it?
19:14
Speaker 5: Yeah?
19:14
Speaker 1: What was it do you think about Ash that made
19:16
Speaker 1: you think, Yeah, this is a guy I want to
19:18
Speaker 1: spend the rest of my life with.
19:20
Speaker 2: Don't hold backpack, don't hold look.
19:24
Speaker 5: To be honest, I don't think those like we were
19:25
Speaker 5: still so young. I don't think those like.
19:30
Speaker 6: I always thought, yeah, this is it, this is it.
19:32
Speaker 6: I don't know, but I just feel like it wasn't
19:34
Speaker 6: like yeah, that's definitely why you just the whole it's
19:38
Speaker 6: just always I just I loved his company.
19:40
Speaker 2: The vibe.
19:41
Speaker 6: I always I always joke he's my best friend, and
19:44
Speaker 6: he rolls his eyes and always.
19:46
Speaker 2: Goes, are you my best am? I your best friend? Yeah?
19:51
Speaker 1: I think you want to have that friendship as a foundation.
19:56
Speaker 1: Is always like we can be best friends forever.
19:58
Speaker 2: Yeah. I always got his a ship from my boss
20:01
Speaker 2: at the time, who was like who was at the
20:03
Speaker 2: wedding and he was like, don't get up and do
20:05
Speaker 2: this speech where you go you're my best friend, because
20:08
Speaker 2: I'll be like God, And it was like it's so cliche,
20:13
Speaker 2: and it's like, that's why I roll my eyes so much.
20:15
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean she's not my best friend, but I
20:17
Speaker 2: also like to stir up a lot.
20:18
Speaker 5: That's the first time you've admitted that I'm your best friend.
20:21
Speaker 2: It was I said, it's not that I'm not or
20:23
Speaker 2: you're not.
20:24
Speaker 1: He's a for your best friend.
20:26
Speaker 5: Yes, thank you.
20:27
Speaker 3: I love that you can kiss if you want and
20:32
Speaker 3: I pretend like I'm not here.
20:33
Speaker 1: Noe who proposed the idea of having kids first? How
20:41
Speaker 1: did that come about?
20:42
Speaker 6: I would definitely say me, Yeah, we're working in child Yeah,
20:47
Speaker 6: an early educator.
20:49
Speaker 5: If that's what.
20:52
Speaker 2: After us?
20:53
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think it was definitely me, like I have
20:56
Speaker 5: always thought, you know, family of four, that's what I wanted,
20:59
Speaker 5: and literally, what we've got is what I wanted. Boy girl,
21:02
Speaker 5: tic tick, the dream, the.
21:03
Speaker 2: Dream, husband just got it all.
21:05
Speaker 10: Yeah.
21:06
Speaker 2: With the thing with April worked in a child care
21:08
Speaker 2: when we first met as an early education teacher. My
21:12
Speaker 2: sad Well said, ah, and the thing is like it
21:16
Speaker 2: was great, Like I could tell that, like she definitely
21:19
Speaker 2: wanted to be a mum one day. But I think
21:22
Speaker 2: that she brang home so much sickness because April was
21:26
Speaker 2: so immune to it all. Like April would be sick
21:28
Speaker 2: for like three hours and then like bedridden and then
21:30
Speaker 2: she's like, oh, I'm fine because she's so used to it.
21:33
Speaker 2: I just remember being sick every two or three days
21:36
Speaker 2: and I still hang around. No one's asking me any questions,
21:40
Speaker 2: and I just remember a bit like me being so
21:43
Speaker 2: so sick. And then it was like I knew April
21:46
Speaker 2: was more like it's something that I didn't want kids.
21:48
Speaker 2: It wasn't that it was like the classic man thing
21:51
Speaker 2: where you can't admit that you want to you know, yeah,
21:54
Speaker 2: just did that thing where it's like if it happens,
21:55
Speaker 2: it happens whatever. Which after we got married, it was like, Okay, well,
22:00
Speaker 2: maybe we'll start to not not try instead of we're
22:03
Speaker 2: going to actively pursue try. Is that right?
22:08
Speaker 1: How long did you have to try with Oscar first time?
22:12
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very best two goes. But I shouldn't say
22:21
Speaker 2: that because it is so hard for so many other
22:23
Speaker 2: couple were very lucky, very lucky, lucky. I don't want
22:27
Speaker 2: to be canceled lucky.
22:29
Speaker 1: As someone who works in daycares, I have to ask
22:33
Speaker 1: the question, do you guys just flat out lie when
22:36
Speaker 1: you talk about the kids eating all their food?
22:38
Speaker 5: Oh, you're bringing me back. I haven't worked in daycare
22:40
Speaker 5: for ages.
22:41
Speaker 1: It is like a contract that you have to sign.
22:45
Speaker 5: Back.
22:45
Speaker 6: When I worked in daycare, there weren't the apps, so
22:49
Speaker 6: it wasn't It was just like rock and.
22:58
Speaker 5: Flintstone start.
23:00
Speaker 7: Yeah.
23:00
Speaker 6: I think it was like a scrapbook even just put
23:02
Speaker 6: it up when all the parents picked up. It was
23:05
Speaker 6: just like you put it off photos, just this is
23:07
Speaker 6: what we did today, annual.
23:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, did you have one of those old timey cameras?
23:12
Speaker 8: Just like.
23:18
Speaker 2: I thought.
23:20
Speaker 1: I thought maybe working in early education it might did
23:23
Speaker 1: tell you because you're like, oh my god. You get
23:25
Speaker 1: a taste of the realities of what it's like to
23:27
Speaker 1: look after kids.
23:28
Speaker 5: It's so different. So in what way?
23:31
Speaker 6: In what way that you don't you're not you're not
23:34
Speaker 6: emotionally attached to them like they melt down.
23:38
Speaker 2: It's against the law.
23:42
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just very different. I'd say, do.
23:44
Speaker 1: You ever when a kid would either like finish, they
23:47
Speaker 1: go on to like kindie and they would leave, do
23:49
Speaker 1: you have those moments where you're like, I'm going to
23:50
Speaker 1: miss little Timmy.
23:54
Speaker 9: Yes, but no.
23:56
Speaker 2: We had this conversation other day where you were saying
23:59
Speaker 2: that you see kids now, well they were kids that
24:02
Speaker 2: she still look up and they're like adults.
24:04
Speaker 6: They're like, yeah, almost finishing school, and I'm just like,
24:07
Speaker 6: I haven't aged that much.
24:08
Speaker 5: How are these kids this age now? Obviously I have
24:12
Speaker 5: so just too young?
24:15
Speaker 2: You fresh, I know you were like, there's the thing
24:17
Speaker 2: working in early education. I suppose at twenty twenty one
24:21
Speaker 2: you were there too.
24:22
Speaker 5: You're like twenty, it was straight out of school, so eighteen.
24:24
Speaker 2: Till yeah, you can't still a kid yourself. Yeah, I was.
24:28
Speaker 1: It must have helped them. I guess being a mom
24:31
Speaker 1: having the experience, you'd think.
24:33
Speaker 2: So, yeah, didn't.
24:36
Speaker 5: No, I don't.
24:37
Speaker 6: I think it was just so like the emotional thing.
24:39
Speaker 6: You're just emotionally attached now to something like the baby.
24:43
Speaker 2: I feel like, when you know, becoming parents with the
24:46
Speaker 2: changing nappies, I'd never done. I've never even held a baby.
24:50
Speaker 2: I'd had one baby before, one of my kids, and
24:52
Speaker 2: it was against my will. Someone was like where I
24:56
Speaker 2: was at the public with my mate Mick and he
24:59
Speaker 2: had a baby at the time, and he was like,
25:00
Speaker 2: hold this repect and I was like, so when I
25:05
Speaker 2: the confidence that I had in April was like when
25:07
Speaker 2: we were having kids, was like, she can do all that,
25:09
Speaker 2: Like she can teach me how to do that stuff
25:12
Speaker 2: because I don't know. So I feel like I learn
25:14
Speaker 2: a lot from April in terms of that sort of stuff.
25:16
Speaker 2: But she might have not been feeling confident about a
25:19
Speaker 2: lot of it, but she definitely picked up all you're
25:22
Speaker 2: changing app you go do this, They're doing that, they're
25:24
Speaker 2: doing that. I'm like, fuck, I would have had no idea.
25:26
Speaker 5: Yeah, the practical things I may have known.
25:29
Speaker 2: It's the emotional thing. Yeah. I mean every parent, I
25:32
Speaker 2: suppose new parent, like you would know. I think you
25:35
Speaker 2: good kids. Every parent would know where you're like you
25:40
Speaker 2: kind of just like working it out. Oh yeah, emotionally
25:44
Speaker 2: at the same time, this morning, I'm trying to have
25:47
Speaker 2: a cuddle with Oscar and he just got so worked
25:50
Speaker 2: up because he thought the cuddle was so forced that
25:52
Speaker 2: he's had a melt down. And I'm just like, I
25:55
Speaker 2: don't know, what have I done? One and two is
25:58
Speaker 2: like I was just love you. Yeah, and it's like
26:00
Speaker 2: you're still going to work out like those kinks and
26:03
Speaker 2: you know, like even now with osc you think you've
26:05
Speaker 2: worked it out, something changest. Oh.
26:07
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's when I look at parenting. I don't want
26:13
Speaker 1: to talk about it negatively, although I always do. There
26:16
Speaker 1: is a lot that is really hard because toddlers are
26:18
Speaker 1: just hard work, NonStop. But then you get these little
26:22
Speaker 1: moments where you're like, ah, this is fucking great. I
26:25
Speaker 1: love this. What are your moments as a mum where
26:27
Speaker 1: you're like, I absolutely love this so much.
26:30
Speaker 6: It would be the cuddles and the kisses like Oscar
26:33
Speaker 6: is just saying to Ashton, I asked you. I was like,
26:35
Speaker 6: does Oscar just roundly just come up, sit next to
26:37
Speaker 6: you and give you a kiss on the cheek And
26:39
Speaker 6: he said yeah, And I was like, he does that
26:40
Speaker 6: to me too, just like out of the blue.
26:43
Speaker 2: Without Yeah, it sounds like yeah, I just said, yes,
26:49
Speaker 2: I can fit in, all right.
26:50
Speaker 6: I just feel like, obviously we've shown them him that
26:53
Speaker 6: love that he knows how that makes him feel.
26:56
Speaker 5: So now he's learned, you know, if he does it
26:57
Speaker 5: to us.
26:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, even I called him with were I didn't catch him, gotcha.
27:04
Speaker 2: We're at the part just at the back here and
27:06
Speaker 2: Macy was on the swing and he just walks up
27:07
Speaker 2: and goes, can I have a cuddle to Macy? And
27:09
Speaker 2: like gave Macy kiss on the top of the head,
27:11
Speaker 2: and just like toddled off. I don't know. He either
27:15
Speaker 2: loves to do that or he's manipulating. They'll talk about
27:21
Speaker 2: me on the podcast you watch.
27:24
Speaker 1: How did you find going back to work?
27:27
Speaker 5: Ah, so funny enough.
27:28
Speaker 6: I thought I would love being a full time stay
27:32
Speaker 6: at home mum, and then once I had Oscar, I
27:35
Speaker 6: was like.
27:36
Speaker 5: I need some work back in my life. So yeah,
27:39
Speaker 5: I took the year off and.
27:41
Speaker 6: Then I went back and I went back three days,
27:44
Speaker 6: which I think has been a good balance because I
27:47
Speaker 6: needed it.
27:48
Speaker 5: I didn't want to be a stay at home mum.
27:49
Speaker 2: I recall, I do recall how excited April was to
27:53
Speaker 2: go back to work, even just first couple of days.
27:56
Speaker 2: I think a lot more to the adult interact. We
28:02
Speaker 2: still have a really great mother's group that was super supportive,
28:05
Speaker 2: and you get that adult interaction. But I think when
28:08
Speaker 2: you go back to an office where you're like there's
28:11
Speaker 2: no kids inside.
28:13
Speaker 5: You barely even talk about that, and that's.
28:15
Speaker 2: Called child ladies that you know, Like I remember that.
28:20
Speaker 2: She was like, yes, like it kind of after a long,
28:23
Speaker 2: hard year. It was kind of like a bit of
28:26
Speaker 2: a like it was kind of like going on holidays
28:28
Speaker 2: a little.
28:28
Speaker 5: Bit, and it was a break from parenting.
28:30
Speaker 2: She looked at me. Then it was a break.
28:33
Speaker 1: Speaking of work, do you remember when Ash first grabbed
28:38
Speaker 1: a tea towel, draved it over his head and filmed
28:42
Speaker 1: a video And what was your reaction to that.
28:45
Speaker 6: I actually can't remember the first one you ever did.
28:48
Speaker 6: Do you remember the first one you ever did?
28:49
Speaker 2: No, the first one I do recall doing where I
28:52
Speaker 2: thought I'm onto something. There was other stuff where it
28:56
Speaker 2: was like I would pretend to be you, bits and
28:58
Speaker 2: pieces here and there, But the one that really grabbed
29:01
Speaker 2: me was the pointless phone call home when you're leaving work,
29:05
Speaker 2: where it would be me ringing you. I'm like, hey,
29:07
Speaker 2: I'm myay home and you were just like okay, well,
29:09
Speaker 2: okay bye.
29:10
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's it.
29:12
Speaker 2: And the thing is that so many people had different
29:14
Speaker 2: interpretations of what that call meant to them, and I
29:17
Speaker 2: was like, there's something here, psychologically, there's something here, because
29:20
Speaker 2: it wasn't people always say, oh no, you took the
29:22
Speaker 2: piece out of your wi. I'm not taking the piece
29:24
Speaker 2: out of her whatsoever. According to me, I remember saying
29:26
Speaker 2: to you, I don't know if you recall. I was like,
29:29
Speaker 2: so many people must have this conversation. Yeah, let's find out,
29:33
Speaker 2: and that's how where we ended up.
29:34
Speaker 5: Yeah, I've always found it funny.
29:36
Speaker 6: I remember a girlfriend actually asking me like, well, probably
29:38
Speaker 6: about a year ago now, because you've been doing it
29:40
Speaker 6: for a while, and she was like, have you ever
29:42
Speaker 6: thought like taken offense to anything that he's ever posted?
29:45
Speaker 5: And it had never crossed.
29:47
Speaker 6: My mind that any of it would be offensive to
29:50
Speaker 6: me because I'm literally laughing at all of them because.
29:53
Speaker 1: It's you, hey guys, it's me Matt.
29:58
Speaker 2: And also ashes here alongside.
30:00
Speaker 1: We recorded this at a different time, so when we
30:02
Speaker 1: sat down with April, we wanted to let you know
30:04
Speaker 1: that we stuffed up.
30:06
Speaker 2: Well you did.
30:09
Speaker 1: We agreed that it was both of our faults.
30:11
Speaker 2: You agree that it was Actually, no.
30:13
Speaker 1: It wasn't our fault. It was the equipment's fault.
30:15
Speaker 2: Yes, it was the equipment's fault. In that's equipment.
30:18
Speaker 1: It decided to stop recording. So the audio from this
30:22
Speaker 1: point on is a little bit different to what you've
30:24
Speaker 1: just been listening to.
30:25
Speaker 2: It's still great, but you don't want to miss what
30:27
Speaker 2: she says.
30:27
Speaker 8: You do not want to.
30:28
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I can't believe she admitted.
30:29
Speaker 2: That, and we shared a cheeky kiss, not me, Ash
30:33
Speaker 2: and April, you did light it with the audience like that. Again,
30:38
Speaker 2: the only.
30:38
Speaker 8: Thing she ever gets offended by is if the house
30:40
Speaker 8: is a little bit messing. Yes, you couldn't clean up
30:44
Speaker 8: before you film that.
30:47
Speaker 9: Yes, I need to say. I do not far the
30:52
Speaker 9: amount of times talk about.
30:57
Speaker 8: Let's not get into that.
31:00
Speaker 1: Do you remember thinking, oh shit, my husband's going to
31:03
Speaker 1: become a content creator?
31:05
Speaker 9: Yeah, when he got made redundant.
31:10
Speaker 8: I actually never thought it would be something I would
31:12
Speaker 8: do full time.
31:13
Speaker 2: I never really thought that until people started like got
31:16
Speaker 2: management and then I remember when we first started doing
31:19
Speaker 2: this podcast, even just doing content, I was doing both jobs.
31:22
Speaker 2: I don't know how I did that. I did not
31:24
Speaker 2: have the spam for that. Now I think I've just
31:25
Speaker 2: completely checked out from that, but I was like I
31:28
Speaker 2: checked out then, and I was lucky that my job
31:31
Speaker 2: was so slow at the time. But I remember April
31:33
Speaker 2: was like, you're not quit. You're not quitting your job,
31:35
Speaker 2: which is fair enough, and I understood that I couldn't
31:38
Speaker 2: just quit to pursue a dream that came out of nowhere.
31:41
Speaker 2: It's never been a lifelong dream of mind to be
31:43
Speaker 2: doing this. It's sort of I sort of started doing it.
31:47
Speaker 2: And then April was also like how happy it made me.
31:51
Speaker 2: I remember there was those years through COVID and stuff,
31:53
Speaker 2: and like, you know, we've sort of struggled with Oscar.
31:57
Speaker 8: We were struggling a bit with being stuck at home,
31:59
Speaker 8: and then you know, I.
32:01
Speaker 2: Was working from home and then April was also working
32:03
Speaker 2: from home.
32:04
Speaker 9: You asked me specifically.
32:06
Speaker 6: I remember you were like, because you're hating your corporate job,
32:09
Speaker 6: and you were like, we just got a what's it called.
32:13
Speaker 8: Pre approved improve I remembered it.
32:15
Speaker 11: Yeah, I remember, yeah.
32:16
Speaker 6: And so, you know, things were looking good and then
32:20
Speaker 6: next you know, Ashton goes, oh, do you think I
32:22
Speaker 6: can quit my job?
32:24
Speaker 9: And do this full time. This is before redundancy, and
32:27
Speaker 9: I just.
32:27
Speaker 6: Thought, definitely, not like, what do you mean, we'll get
32:30
Speaker 6: a house, We'll get that all our ducks in a
32:32
Speaker 6: row first, and then maybe three months after that then
32:37
Speaker 6: you can maybe look at doing it from.
32:38
Speaker 2: The time and then and April's always been like this too,
32:44
Speaker 2: just like you know what whatever will be will be.
32:46
Speaker 8: Everything happens for a reason.
32:47
Speaker 1: I'm welcome the redundancy because I knew that once you could,
32:51
Speaker 1: once you had that removed, you would go all in.
32:54
Speaker 8: Yeah.
32:54
Speaker 2: For me then and even for us then it was
32:58
Speaker 2: like I had to prioritize where I was getting paid consistently.
33:04
Speaker 2: Even though I wasn't, as you know, like amazing money,
33:07
Speaker 2: it was still like it was good and kept it
33:08
Speaker 2: a floes because were two kids.
33:10
Speaker 8: If we didn't have two kids, she'd probably like to
33:12
Speaker 8: do what the fuck you want?
33:13
Speaker 2: But I think like that conversation then to be made redundant.
33:17
Speaker 8: Week later just shows that the universe was like, that's
33:20
Speaker 8: what you're meant to be doing. And I think.
33:23
Speaker 2: There's nothing she could have done about it because it
33:25
Speaker 2: was made redundant.
33:27
Speaker 1: Did you say, Ash, I think I should look for
33:29
Speaker 1: another job or we like, well, let's give the content
33:32
Speaker 1: creation of crack.
33:33
Speaker 6: It was like, Okay, if there's an opportunity, it's gonna
33:36
Speaker 6: be now. But otherwise I would never have let it happen,
33:39
Speaker 6: you know, I literally there wasn't.
33:41
Speaker 8: She would have called that job if you keep him there?
33:44
Speaker 1: We don't want him here, You keep him there?
33:46
Speaker 4: Yes?
33:47
Speaker 6: So no, And I think ever since that did happen, like,
33:49
Speaker 6: I've never seen you more happy or even more driven
33:53
Speaker 6: in what you're doing now.
33:54
Speaker 8: I sleep every day lunchtime.
33:59
Speaker 1: I took it at that point that there would have
34:02
Speaker 1: been occasionals when you guys would have been out in
34:03
Speaker 1: public and someone would have gone, oh my gosh, it's
34:06
Speaker 1: that guy from the town is Yeah.
34:09
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's funny we talk about this because no one.
34:12
Speaker 6: Ever comes up when I'm there. I know, what does
34:17
Speaker 6: that say? Who knows?
34:18
Speaker 8: They're too scared of you?
34:19
Speaker 9: Yeah I'm not. I'm a scary person.
34:21
Speaker 6: But because Ashton would be like, come back from the
34:23
Speaker 6: shops and like, oh I had like three people come
34:25
Speaker 6: up to me.
34:25
Speaker 9: I was like, I'm always at the shops of you.
34:27
Speaker 9: No one has ever come up to you.
34:29
Speaker 11: So people are listening.
34:30
Speaker 1: I'm a lovely woman, very.
34:33
Speaker 9: Friendly and I yeah, bring it on, it's nice.
34:37
Speaker 8: Do you like that or do you dislike that?
34:39
Speaker 11: Are you indifferent?
34:40
Speaker 9: I think it's nice. I think it's actually really really cool.
34:44
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's a bit off.
34:45
Speaker 2: Like for me, you know, two years ago less would
34:50
Speaker 2: never have happened. And now, like you know, like just
34:54
Speaker 2: last weekend going to a magic ground and with a
34:56
Speaker 2: whole congregation of people, you know, couples and stuff that
35:00
Speaker 2: go into and enjoying a sport they both love together,
35:02
Speaker 2: and then they'd see me on the the middle of
35:04
Speaker 2: the street and.
35:04
Speaker 8: They're like it's you. Like, it's just it's a really
35:09
Speaker 8: weird feeling for sure.
35:11
Speaker 9: Question for you, does it get old?
35:13
Speaker 8: Damn on the time?
35:15
Speaker 11: It's time?
35:17
Speaker 8: It's weird? Is where I mean? I'll be honest.
35:21
Speaker 11: For me, it really happens.
35:22
Speaker 8: More so if people have been drinking. I think they're
35:25
Speaker 8: kind of like, oh I I don't really care. They're
35:27
Speaker 8: just like a bit inebriated.
35:28
Speaker 11: Yeah, they're more inclined to be like holy shit.
35:30
Speaker 8: Normally people don't bat nilid. But the other morning I
35:34
Speaker 8: was getting the kids in.
35:35
Speaker 1: The car and the lady walked past and she was
35:37
Speaker 1: like hey, and I was there's split second where I
35:40
Speaker 1: was like, fuck, is that a month from daycare before?
35:42
Speaker 9: Is that?
35:43
Speaker 7: Yeah?
35:44
Speaker 2: Like it was.
35:44
Speaker 11: I couldn't the tone of the high I couldn't quite.
35:46
Speaker 8: Like yeah, just said where it was.
35:48
Speaker 1: And that's why I'm like, I do I know, Like no, no,
35:52
Speaker 1: I just you know, I just love the podcast and
35:54
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh.
35:55
Speaker 8: Thank goodness, where's that?
35:56
Speaker 11: Yeah, we have a segment called petty Couples.
36:03
Speaker 4: I'm were.
36:08
Speaker 11: People want to.
36:08
Speaker 8: Know how you deal with ashes pettiness.
36:12
Speaker 1: More so, particular was a scenario where he only made
36:14
Speaker 1: one side of the bed.
36:16
Speaker 9: Yeah, but he didn't tell you the end of the story.
36:18
Speaker 9: Please he doesn't let me see it. Then he literally
36:23
Speaker 9: will make the other side of the bed.
36:30
Speaker 1: If you had to say what ashes bad habits are,
36:35
Speaker 1: what would they be?
36:37
Speaker 4: God, your bad.
36:39
Speaker 9: Habit would just be like.
36:44
Speaker 11: All the time, I'm.
36:46
Speaker 2: Sorry, how dare I have natural humanly bodily functions?
36:52
Speaker 7: Yeah?
36:55
Speaker 9: Definitely yet starting can you stop it?
37:01
Speaker 8: That's me? I mean, if that's the worst that he's doing,
37:04
Speaker 8: that's pretty good. You're pretty life at the.
37:06
Speaker 4: Start your record?
37:09
Speaker 8: Yes, what would his best habit? Then?
37:15
Speaker 6: One that comes to mind, actually is I do like
37:19
Speaker 6: I don't know if it's a habit, but I do
37:21
Speaker 6: love that.
37:21
Speaker 9: You're an impulse person.
37:24
Speaker 6: Like if we're hesitating on, you know, purchasing something big,
37:28
Speaker 6: I should be like, just do it, just do.
37:30
Speaker 9: It, Whereas I hesitate I think too much about it.
37:32
Speaker 6: Yeah, if it's like, you know, let's book flights, like
37:35
Speaker 6: just do it, I'm like, oh, but it's like two
37:37
Speaker 6: thousand dollars, just do it.
37:38
Speaker 8: Yeah, just do it.
37:39
Speaker 2: It's like what if I wait like two days and
37:41
Speaker 2: say fifteen bucks, like, may just book it?
37:44
Speaker 8: I think like we.
37:47
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've always been like that, and You've always been
37:50
Speaker 2: like so cautious.
37:51
Speaker 4: To buy anything anything, So it kind.
37:55
Speaker 8: Of works for us. If we're both cautious, we would
37:57
Speaker 8: have nothing. We would have no, we couldn't make it.
38:00
Speaker 2: Deion April's dad very much like April, right, whereas he's
38:05
Speaker 2: like so cautious about.
38:06
Speaker 8: Everything and it does drive me crazy.
38:09
Speaker 2: But then also it helps that she listens to when
38:12
Speaker 2: I'm like, just do it, especially if it's something for her, because.
38:15
Speaker 8: She'll be like, oh do I really need like this,
38:18
Speaker 8: and I'll be like, just get it. What's the worst
38:20
Speaker 8: thing going to happen? If the worst is going to
38:21
Speaker 8: happen is you've got it. That's it. You know he's
38:24
Speaker 8: to pull the trigger guy.
38:26
Speaker 6: Definitely and I need that, but then you also need
38:29
Speaker 6: the other way around the perfectly.
38:37
Speaker 8: It's like we're talking about by for the business for
38:40
Speaker 8: no reason. Ape will be like, Nope, definitely not.
38:43
Speaker 1: One of the most common questions we've got was how
38:46
Speaker 1: does April feel about how she's perceived in the videos
38:50
Speaker 1: that Ash makes?
38:51
Speaker 9: Oh, I don't care what other people think about it.
38:54
Speaker 5: I know what I am like, so like that.
38:59
Speaker 1: Have you ever had to say, Ash, I don't want
39:02
Speaker 1: that video published or I want no one taken down?
39:05
Speaker 6: No, Like I said, I think I do find them
39:07
Speaker 6: all funny and maybe call me naive, but I think
39:11
Speaker 6: there's ones that I'm like, I don't do that.
39:17
Speaker 8: I'm not like that.
39:19
Speaker 2: Yeah.
39:21
Speaker 9: Yeah.
39:22
Speaker 8: Have you ever do something and go oh.
39:24
Speaker 11: Fuck, that's gonna do?
39:25
Speaker 9: I do something just in my head and I'll be like, have.
39:27
Speaker 8: You done this? You ma.
39:31
Speaker 7: You?
39:32
Speaker 2: There's so many instances where we've just had a quick
39:36
Speaker 2: conversation and I've laughed and You've gone yeah, yeah, because
39:42
Speaker 2: you're walking content and I tell everyone that that Like.
39:46
Speaker 8: You'll be like, do you think it's going to rain?
39:48
Speaker 2: And I'll be like why, like, or you'll be like
39:53
Speaker 2: if it rains, if you bring washing in, it's like yeah,
39:56
Speaker 2: but that's like you're.
39:57
Speaker 4: Just walking content, You're welcome.
40:01
Speaker 8: That's why it goes into enjoy it than.
40:05
Speaker 1: Have you ever tried the tea towel on yourself whilst
40:09
Speaker 1: she's not been around?
40:10
Speaker 9: Never has it ever crossed my mind to do that.
40:12
Speaker 8: Someone asked me if you ever want to drink sex?
40:15
Speaker 9: Well, that's weird, I.
40:18
Speaker 8: Asked one time after that in confidence. Have you ever
40:24
Speaker 8: tried to hide the teachault?
40:25
Speaker 2: Oh?
40:26
Speaker 6: I do find myself like they're just lying around the
40:28
Speaker 6: house and it's probably a petty thing, and I'll just
40:31
Speaker 6: like pick them.
40:31
Speaker 9: Up and throw them like you know, and he might
40:34
Speaker 9: be looking for it.
40:35
Speaker 4: I don't know.
40:39
Speaker 9: Well, it's more you've just left them in the way.
40:42
Speaker 8: I honestly I'll lose them, or I just get another
40:44
Speaker 8: one out.
40:45
Speaker 6: Or you felt if you folded up nicely and put
40:47
Speaker 6: it down, I wouldn't have to throw it away.
40:49
Speaker 8: How many teatawels do you think there are in this
40:51
Speaker 8: house right now?
40:52
Speaker 6: Well, we started with about forty, and I've only ever
40:54
Speaker 6: seen two.
40:55
Speaker 8: At the moment.
40:57
Speaker 2: Where they go, we we kind of u them as
41:00
Speaker 2: Jim towels too here and there, like the ones that
41:03
Speaker 2: are going to be like, they're good side, they're perfect size.
41:06
Speaker 2: I do need to pop in a Camart get another
41:08
Speaker 2: ten pack.
41:10
Speaker 8: If you're listening, new hair you sponsored? The Pope just
41:13
Speaker 8: came up and.
41:15
Speaker 2: An oh yeah. I mean there's many instances where April
41:20
Speaker 2: has been like or the trouble we're with we're with
41:24
Speaker 2: people somewhere and I like, disappear it and you're like,
41:26
Speaker 2: he's just gone film video?
41:28
Speaker 8: Is he gone? Just disappeared? That's just what I'm like.
41:32
Speaker 1: Such a lucky lady, isn't she. When you first started
41:36
Speaker 1: dating Ash, there was no MO. Currently has the mo?
41:40
Speaker 11: Are you four or against the mo?
41:42
Speaker 9: Have you seen before photos? Yeah?
41:45
Speaker 11: He was handsome.
41:47
Speaker 9: I would say, you look like a baby.
41:49
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, I'm like all for the MOA, thank you.
41:58
Speaker 1: But how do you find like Laura's probably was that
42:00
Speaker 1: I had to remove mine because she hated kissing them out.
42:03
Speaker 9: I think it's been many years now that I'm just
42:06
Speaker 9: used to it.
42:07
Speaker 1: Yeah.
42:08
Speaker 2: Yeah, so lord, if you're listening, real men have more
42:11
Speaker 2: stashes like for me, I you used to hate it.
42:15
Speaker 4: I remember when I get early days.
42:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, when I would just like try it out here
42:20
Speaker 2: and there, and I think over lockdown.
42:23
Speaker 8: I just decided that it's going to be a permanent
42:24
Speaker 8: picture on my face now. And April was like, whatever,
42:27
Speaker 8: this may be prying too much.
42:30
Speaker 1: But we had a story on the podcast where a
42:33
Speaker 1: lady would not shave downstairs because her husband would grow
42:37
Speaker 1: on mustache.
42:37
Speaker 8: She's that the same with yourself, April.
42:40
Speaker 9: So the lady wouldn't shave because he wouldn't shave.
42:45
Speaker 8: That.
42:45
Speaker 9: I've never thought that.
42:46
Speaker 11: Okay, let it marry, thanks man.
42:53
Speaker 1: There was a story that we've heard before about Ash
42:57
Speaker 1: passing out during the birth of Macy.
43:01
Speaker 11: Do you remember how those events unfolded?
43:03
Speaker 6: Yes, very clearly actually, because Macie's birth is like, you know,
43:07
Speaker 6: a good birth. It was like you know good, it
43:10
Speaker 6: was planned. It was all very relaxing. The what's the
43:15
Speaker 6: guy who puts your needle?
43:18
Speaker 2: So just for those listeners out there and like a
43:22
Speaker 2: plan see section, it's kind of like looking into a hotel. Yeah,
43:25
Speaker 2: you pick a day, you pick a checking day, you
43:28
Speaker 2: check in time, you pick a time you're going. You
43:33
Speaker 2: do like the normal hotel checking stuff. Sort of obviously
43:37
Speaker 2: with all the medical.
43:38
Speaker 9: Stuff and all very relaxed, and I'm the one who
43:42
Speaker 9: would usually be fainting and stuff.
43:44
Speaker 6: So we get in and I'm getting the epidural I
43:48
Speaker 6: think it is.
43:49
Speaker 2: So it was side saddle on the bed doing so
43:54
Speaker 2: like you see.
43:59
Speaker 8: Anyway horse to go. So I saddled on the bed
44:04
Speaker 8: and I'm in front, and so that then the drug
44:12
Speaker 8: guy he was on behind, so I couldn't even see him.
44:15
Speaker 8: I couldn't see anything that was happening. So that's the
44:16
Speaker 8: situation we're in.
44:18
Speaker 6: Like I'm are cool, current collected and just starting to
44:21
Speaker 6: feel relaxed and numb and lying back down and I
44:26
Speaker 6: don't know he asked him, going.
44:27
Speaker 9: I don't feel good. I don't feel good. And then
44:30
Speaker 9: obviously like they take.
44:31
Speaker 6: It quite seriously because I've probably seen so many men
44:34
Speaker 6: just yeah. And so I just remember not necessarily looking
44:41
Speaker 6: because I don't think I could move that much.
44:45
Speaker 9: Uh, and but my obstitution stayed with me.
44:48
Speaker 6: But everyone else was hands on deck down below, and
44:53
Speaker 6: my obstitution. I remember her saying, Johnny, take some photos.
44:57
Speaker 6: I was like, yeah, yes, please, that was fine.
45:00
Speaker 4: I was like whatever, you.
45:01
Speaker 2: Looked me looking over at me, and I was like
45:03
Speaker 2: legs up on the chair on the flat on my
45:06
Speaker 2: back with a like a wet flannel over my head
45:10
Speaker 2: and a thing ab apple and she was like.
45:12
Speaker 8: This meant to be about me.
45:13
Speaker 10: Yeah, but you must have got up pretty queck.
45:18
Speaker 11: How long was it before you were back on your feet?
45:21
Speaker 2: They wouldn't let me get back up off for a
45:23
Speaker 2: while until we're pretty much done.
45:27
Speaker 9: No, you were standing.
45:28
Speaker 4: Up there when No.
45:29
Speaker 8: I actually I wish you're right. I was sitting right
45:32
Speaker 8: behind where your head is. You can't stand. I remember
45:39
Speaker 8: that they put then they dropped the curtain.
45:41
Speaker 6: I was like, I dropped the curtain and I got
45:45
Speaker 6: to touch Macon and stuff and then probably, well, I know,
45:49
Speaker 6: thank you.
45:52
Speaker 2: Anyway, it's a miracle.
45:56
Speaker 8: That I survived. In true me fashion, I made it all.
46:00
Speaker 4: But you know, like I didn't miss you didn't miss anything.
46:04
Speaker 8: Thank God. But it's always a funny story.
46:06
Speaker 2: I was just laugh because it was it was a
46:09
Speaker 2: plan Z section during the first pregnancy.
46:13
Speaker 8: There was none of that.
46:14
Speaker 9: It was all adrenaline.
46:15
Speaker 8: It was all.
46:15
Speaker 2: Adrenaline just because it was so I remember we were sitting
46:18
Speaker 2: in a room and it was.
46:21
Speaker 9: Kind of like taking photos.
46:24
Speaker 2: Baby then in a minute and it's just a weird situation.
46:27
Speaker 1: Yeah, Laura was introduced and it was like, it's so
46:31
Speaker 1: strange to go like, oh, we're going to have a
46:32
Speaker 1: kid and.
46:33
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah weird.
46:37
Speaker 1: And before we go for like, you have one last
46:39
Speaker 1: question for you? Is there anything that you would like
46:43
Speaker 1: to say to Ash now that you haven't had the
46:46
Speaker 1: opportunity to set up until now, anything at all?
46:49
Speaker 9: Anything at all?
46:51
Speaker 8: Hmmm?
46:54
Speaker 4: Could?
46:54
Speaker 6: I I think I just want to say that, like,
46:57
Speaker 6: super proud of everything that you do.
47:00
Speaker 9: And I know I see you hustle and everything. I
47:02
Speaker 9: know it's for the family. So even though you put
47:05
Speaker 9: on this persona that you are, what what would people say?
47:10
Speaker 6: Yes, smart ass, you are a good egg and not
47:13
Speaker 6: everyone gets to see that side.
47:16
Speaker 8: I appreciate that welcome. That is so beautiful. Yes, I
47:25
Speaker 8: delivered perfectly.
47:28
Speaker 1: If you guys want to kiss by all means, don't
47:31
Speaker 1: hold back and front.
47:32
Speaker 8: Oh yes, take it off.
47:37
Speaker 11: Lovely.
47:38
Speaker 4: Thank you, April, Thank you welcome.
47:40
Speaker 11: I know you've been reluctant. Can I just say you're
47:44
Speaker 11: an absolute natural?
47:46
Speaker 8: It was a pleasure having on the podcast.
47:47
Speaker 4: Don't take my job, Yeah, don't, I'll go back.
47:55
Speaker 1: There is nothing I enjoy more Ash than watching you
47:59
Speaker 1: be affectionate with squirm your wife.
48:02
Speaker 2: I guess you're all squirmy, don't.
48:03
Speaker 1: I love it. Problem I would have preferred a bit
48:06
Speaker 1: of tongue, but that's okay.
48:07
Speaker 2: That's okay on the inside of the outside.
48:12
Speaker 1: It was beautiful, lovely to see the two of you.
48:15
Speaker 1: You're squirming right now.
48:17
Speaker 2: Thank you, April for coming on and making me feel
48:19
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable for that whole chat. I really appreciate it.
48:22
Speaker 1: I loved it. I loved it. Thank you, Thank you
48:24
Speaker 1: to April. And if you've enjoyed this episode, we would
48:27
Speaker 1: absolutely love it even more if you would give us
48:30
Speaker 1: a review, a couple of words, a few stars. That's
48:33
Speaker 1: all it takes to make Ashen myself extremely happy.
48:36
Speaker 2: And if you have any other guests, you'd love us
48:38
Speaker 2: to chat too. Whether it's my mum my Nan, that'd
48:41
Speaker 2: be a good one.
48:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, what other family members? Can we rope?
48:44
Speaker 2: And Nan would be a bit red hot.
48:47
Speaker 1: We have actually had a few requests to get the
48:49
Speaker 1: kids on, so we're made.
48:51
Speaker 2: Don't know how. Maybe we'll think about that, but if
48:55
Speaker 2: you do have any suggestions, please either dms Dad's Instagram,
49:00
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49:04
Speaker 1: And the Facebook group, and don't forget I always forget
49:06
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49:10
Speaker 1: every shadows, yeah, every minute of every day just waiting
49:13
Speaker 1: for you guys to say something so we can engage
49:16
Speaker 1: because we're lonely.
49:17
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