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34. Love in Action: A Reflection on the Power of Doing · Treasured Momma | Time Management Tips, Motherhood, Family Life, Daily Routines, Christianity

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  How would you define love? Do you believe it's a noun or more of a verb?
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  In today's episode, we explore the beautiful dynamics of love.
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  And speaking of beauty, I received a five-star review entitled,
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  Alejandro, and it says, We need more podcasts like these. Thank you for your beautiful testimony.
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  We all need in systems that can glorify God and bring us peace.
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  Keep it up, sister. I'm cheering you on, your sister and fellow podcaster.
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  These reviews help encourage me, they testify to future listeners,
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  feature you in the next episode.
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  For now, let's explore a few takeaways I have from learning to love better.
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  Hey, hey, mama. Welcome back to the Treasured Mama podcast.
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  I'm Kori Messer, a Kingdom Life coach and messy mompreneur.
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  And I want to know if you're like me. Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself
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  in all the things or perhaps you just need some encouragement on this messy
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  journey of authentic motherhood.
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  as we declutter our heads, our hearts, and our homes to discover clarity and confidence.
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  create simple systems for a more peaceful household, and connect with other
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  mamas doing the same, this podcast is right up your alley.
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  My prayer is this episode will encourage you. So grab a drink,
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  take a mommy moment, and listen in to today's goodness.
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  Welcome back, Treasured Mama. Coach Kori here, and we are talking all things L-O-V-E.
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  We are talking about love this month, and today we're diving into how love is in action.
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  It is so interesting to me. As I look back, my husband and I dated when we were
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  in high school, took a break, dated again, and then got married.
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  And here we are over 10 years of marriage later.
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  And we were reflecting recently on how love has changed, how we would define
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  it now versus when we were quite a bit younger.
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  And one of the common themes that came up is that love is in action.
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  You know, there's so many moments when you've done a lot of life together,
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  you've gotten married, you've purchased a house, vehicles, new jobs, had multiple children.
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  You truly see all sides of your spouse to include the ones that may not be so likable in a moment.
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  And yet we still find a way to love each other.
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  And recently we had an experience in our household where somebody was recovering
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  from a medical procedure and a couple other people were really sick.
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  And I found me being one of the people that was sick, it was no question if
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  I would show up for the other people in my family. Why?
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  Because I love them. I may do it more slowly.
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  It may not be as pretty as it usually is.
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  The process may be a little less smooth, but regardless, I still show up for my family.
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  And it's not a question of if.
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  It's more so a following through on the love that I I have for them and demonstrating that with actions.
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  On a relationship you have in your life, present day, right now.
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  It's a relationship where you have love for somebody else.
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  In our previous episode, we talked about the three different types of love,
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  the romantic love, the friendship love, and the agape love, like the love of Christ.
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  And it could could be any of those definitions of love.
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  So think about a relationship that you've had where love was a part of the equation
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  and think how different you show up in those situations versus situations where
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  love is not a part of the equation.
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  And what I believe you will find is that when you love somebody and you are
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  operating from a heart posture of love, you find a way to make things happen.
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  You are solution-minded.
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  You are focused on Christ first before the potential roadblocks.
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  However, when we are engaging in an experience where love is not at the forefront.
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  That is when we tend to become blindsided by potential barriers.
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  We shift from being solution oriented into problem focused.
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  That's what I want to spend the rest of our time talking about here today is
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  sharing some practical examples of how you can show up with love being an action
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  and being very intentional about doing this on the daily,
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  not just in the big moments, a graduation
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  a new birth a wedding valentine's
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  day but really the day-to-day meeting
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  the mundane with a heart posture of love and
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  how do we do that we do that first by
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  aligning our heart with the one who is the purest
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  example of love he is love and
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  that is our heavenly father Father oftentimes I
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  will hear things like Jesus is my
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  Lord and Savior and they really do live out the
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  Savior part God has given his
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  only begotten son for us so we could be saved from
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  our sin the Lord part is where many people profess that out of their mouth but
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  they don't really walk it out as an action because if somebody is Lord over
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  you they have lordship over your life you will will surrender to them in every
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  aspect of your existence.
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  And this is where I find so many of us get caught up in those moments of discomfort.
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  Those moments of stretching, those experiences where we have growing pains,
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  and we decide it's just too much.
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  It's not worth it. And sometimes there are experiences where we do need to walk away.
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  Absolutely, they're out of season or we weren't called to be in that position in the first place,
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  but we do that by meeting with the Father and getting clarity on that instead
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  of basing it on if it's easy or not.
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  But when we are focused first on the Father and we are pursuing a life that
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  is in alignment with Him, we will operate from a place of love.
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  Love is one of these things you can't truly, truly define other than to say Jesus is love.
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  However, I will see posts that express sentiments of describe love in three
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  words or tell me how love feels.
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  Or tell me when you'll know it's love. And I find those questions very interesting
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  because I get the idea of asking the question.
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  However, I don't feel I have ever been able to adequately define love,
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  adequately describe it with earthly words when it's really an eternal perspective.
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  And I absolutely love seeing in my personal life, as I've learned to love better,
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  love deeper, love more consistently, that I receive that more often.
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  If you're in a season where you're feeling as if love is not something you can have,
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  or love is not something that's abundant in your life, or love is something
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  that is hard to come by, I encourage you, beloved, go out and be love to somebody else.
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  Show up as a representation of Christ. Be love.
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  And what we put out, we will then begin to experience more often.
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  If you're looking for more kindness, go be kind. If you're looking for more
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  generosity, go be generous.
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  If you're looking for more love, go be loving.
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  One of the things I love to do is gain clarity on how somebody receives love.
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  You may think of this as their love language.
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  I have one child whose love language is absolutely quality time.
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  He loves to spend time. It doesn't matter the activity.
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  It doesn't matter the conversation.
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  He just wants to spend time with me. And I have another child who loves to do
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  things. It's acts of service.
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  It's creating an art project together. It's playing outside.
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  And it's so fun to create unique experiences, to love that child or for you
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  that person, love them well, love them in the language that they are prepared to receive it.
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  Now, please understand love is love.
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  We don't get to redefine what love is, but the action we take to show that love may look different.
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  Just like getting to point B may be the same for 10 different people if we're
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  all going to the local grocery store, but the path by which we drive there,
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  the action we take may be different.
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  In the end, we get the nourishment from the grocery store. In the end, we show somebody love.
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  We exemplify Jesus to them.
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  And that is ultimately what it's all about. It comes back to modeling a Christ-centered
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  life by loving people in a Christ-centered way.
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  Heavenly Father, thank you so much for this opportunity to have a short and
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  potent conversation on love and how it's an action, God.
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  My prayer is for the person listening to this right now, Lord,
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  that they would uncover a deeper love, a more pure love, and also an expansive
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  love in terms of loving daily,
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  not not just in the big experiences,
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  but meeting people in the mundane and loving them well to be a light in those
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  dark spots, to help people see that you are in existence all the time,
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  everywhere, in all circumstances.
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  It's a matter of us choosing to partner with you in that moment.
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  We thank you for your presence, Lord. In your mighty name, Jesus, we pray.
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  Amen. Hey, Mama, one quick thing before you go. If this podcast blessed you
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