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Happy Hour #223: Body Shaming in Fitness · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is Sanny and smitha. I welcome to stuff
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Speaker 2: And welcome to another edition of Happy Hour. If you're
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Speaker 2: doing things happy hour ish, do so responsibly because we
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Speaker 2: love you and we want you to be happy and
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Speaker 2: responsible and healthy.
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Speaker 3: Am I right? Yes? Okay, Annie, are you doing happy
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Speaker 3: hourish things?
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Speaker 1: Nope? Because I forgot we were doing a happy hour today.
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Speaker 3: We just look peak behind the closet. We're trying to
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Speaker 3: do things very quickly.
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Speaker 1: Because behind the closet.
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Speaker 3: Well, I'm in the closet. Literally, that's true.
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Speaker 1: That's true.
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Speaker 2: Peak behind the curtains, slash in the closet, because I
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Speaker 2: am both behind a curtain and in a closet. This
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Speaker 2: We are doing this in a like pretty advance yes time.
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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, so we are trying to get ahead.
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Speaker 2: Both of us are also trying to be healthy. So
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Speaker 2: any you've got your hot water.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I mean it's warm water, but yeah.
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Speaker 3: Warm water. Yeah. Do you do that with lemon? We
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Speaker 3: talked about this before.
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Speaker 1: Normally I do, but sometimes it makes me nauseated. Sometimes
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Speaker 1: it's like it's which is interesting because it's supposed to
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Speaker 1: vitamin SEE and lemon and it is supposed to help
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Speaker 1: you absorb water more easily. So a lot of times
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Speaker 1: I like to put it in the water, but it's
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Speaker 1: something about the hot water. And sometimes I put like
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Speaker 1: cinnamon and ginger in there. It feels like it drives
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Speaker 1: me out.
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Speaker 3: Cinnamon is too much to me.
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Speaker 1: I don't usually put cinnamon in there, but sometimes I do.
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Speaker 3: Honey.
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Speaker 2: Maybe yeah, So I actually have my throat coat tea
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Speaker 2: which I've been adding a little a tablespoon of apple
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Speaker 2: cider vinegar. Apparently that gives you like good healing stuff
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Speaker 2: with your voices.
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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe it's like that. We're not for sure, but
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Speaker 3: it's not bad for you, so why not try it?
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Speaker 2: So I was like, Okay, I'll do it in my
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Speaker 2: bubble water because I that is my happy hourish things
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Speaker 2: now because I am old and just looking at alcohol
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Speaker 2: makes me sleepy and get a headache.
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Speaker 3: So we're doing great.
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Speaker 2: I have to prepare for things like that, but you know,
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Speaker 2: my bubble water it makes me pretty happy. I feel
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Speaker 2: like I'm having a party because it's bubbly. Am I
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Speaker 2: right hip for you?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? Sure? Okay, you know what, We're going to move on.
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Speaker 2: But with all of that, I think I kind of
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Speaker 2: wanted to talk about something a little more serious, not
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Speaker 2: too serious, because I'm talking about I guess what would
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Speaker 2: be a hobby. And if those who have been along
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Speaker 2: for this ride know that I have jumped on board
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Speaker 2: with the Zoomba life, teaching some classes, doing some dancing classes,
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Speaker 2: and I've had a lot of fun. But one interesting
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Speaker 2: thing has been sneaking up that I'm going to have
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Speaker 2: to navigate very seriously. And before I jump in, once again,
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Speaker 2: this is a pause with a content warning. We are
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Speaker 2: going to talk about body issues, body shaming, and disorder eating,
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Speaker 2: all of that. So if that is something that triggers you,
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Speaker 2: take a pause, come back later, or just skip. Understand
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Speaker 2: all of that. I've had people, actually, I've had a
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Speaker 2: lot of people in life comment on my body, especially
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Speaker 2: in classes like this, especially when they think I look good.
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Speaker 2: So if they think that I've made progress in like
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Speaker 2: what they think is a good ideal, like losing weight,
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Speaker 2: looking healthier, all these things, If my clothes fit differently,
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Speaker 2: all these things, they immediately comment. And we've talked about
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Speaker 2: this before, like you and I any have talked about
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Speaker 2: the fact that we stand on the ground. So like,
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Speaker 2: even if they have lost weight, even if their goal
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Speaker 2: is to lose weight, we don't comment. I feel awkward
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Speaker 2: in doing so because A we don't know why they're
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Speaker 2: losing weight. It could be a negative thing, it could
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Speaker 2: be a positive thing. B. We don't know the history
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Speaker 2: of their routines and hating eating, eating habits and all
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Speaker 2: of that and see for those who think they've hit
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Speaker 2: a goal if they ever gain those weight, this weight back,
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Speaker 2: or any of those things, it is kind of heartbreaking.
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Speaker 3: And it feels for me.
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Speaker 2: As someone who has gone up and down, up and
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Speaker 2: down my weight, it feels really like I failed and
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Speaker 2: my self esteem it's a new blow when I gain
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Speaker 2: my weight back. So all of those different things that
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Speaker 2: I apply to other people in that this is not
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Speaker 2: something that I want to encourage. Also, if people are
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Speaker 2: losing weight and doing it unhealthily, I'm worried, and I
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Speaker 2: don't want to encourage a bad habit that could actually
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Speaker 2: be harmful for someone. So all those things apply. So
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Speaker 2: being in an industry that really does champion body looks,
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Speaker 2: it's one of those things that I'm a little worried
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Speaker 2: about how to handle one As a leader, I don't
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Speaker 2: want to see people like I want to encourage people
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Speaker 2: to move around and exercise. Of course, I want you
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Speaker 2: to come and have fun. I hope you're sweating, I
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Speaker 2: hope you're doing all the things that are good for
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Speaker 2: you in this moment. But also don't want to be like,
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Speaker 2: oh my god, you look so good. How much weight
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Speaker 2: have you lost? That's not a narrative that necessarily is
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Speaker 2: talking about a success in something we don't again know why.
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Speaker 2: So that's something that I've had to be careful and
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Speaker 2: mindful above. But at the same time, it also is
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Speaker 2: for someone who feel like they do have a good
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Speaker 2: handle on their health and are making progress that includes
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Speaker 2: weight loss, and that is a goal for them, they
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Speaker 2: may feel just as disappointed in me for not acknowledging it.
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Speaker 3: So I have.
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Speaker 2: This moment of like, Okay, I don't know what to
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Speaker 2: do with that one. Two people coming to comment, I'm
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Speaker 2: not trying to lose weight. There's a part of me
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Speaker 2: and there will always be a part of me. There
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Speaker 2: will always be a part of me that I wish
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Speaker 2: I didn't have, and I wish I had more confidence
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Speaker 2: than that wants to lose weight. That feels like I
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Speaker 2: need to lose fifty pounds because I am not where
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Speaker 2: I should be according to the standards and the standards
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Speaker 2: being held up by white supremacy patriarchy. We know this,
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Speaker 2: but I feel like, as someone who was at the
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Speaker 2: front and telling people how to exercise, I'm also disappointing
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Speaker 2: other people. I have had four different people since this
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Speaker 2: moment come and talk to me about my body, and
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Speaker 2: it's not like all telling me I'm fat or anything.
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Speaker 2: I had one person come to me two or three
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Speaker 2: times who was selling a pyramid scheme. Don't get me wrong.
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Speaker 3: They looked happy.
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Speaker 2: They you can tell they work on their body and
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Speaker 2: they that's their life.
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Speaker 3: Obviously they're doing a pyramid scheme.
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Speaker 2: Coming to tell me how much more successful I would
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Speaker 2: be if I was thinner, if I had more muscle,
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Speaker 2: if I didn't jiggle here, and she pointed out where
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Speaker 2: I was jiggling and gave me supplement packets to put
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Speaker 2: in my water, and then talk to people around my class.
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't want you to talk to
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Speaker 2: people around my class because if I did not have
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Speaker 2: a good better self esteem right now, which I don't
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Speaker 2: have great self esteem, but I'm older, older now and
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Speaker 2: I have better handle and you were telling me is
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Speaker 2: at like twenty years ago, I probably would quit.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Even though she's been in my class multiple times and
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Speaker 2: loves it, m h so like, and she even has
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Speaker 2: a hard time keeping up with me, I will. I mean,
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Speaker 2: I'm not trying to bribe, but like in some of
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Speaker 2: the things that I do, She's like, oh, okay, so
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Speaker 2: like if it feels odd. I had another woman come
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Speaker 2: and to tell me I have no butt, and I
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Speaker 2: was like, I know this.
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Speaker 3: I am Asian.
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Speaker 2: I am all hips and legs with no booty. I
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Speaker 2: really wish I could change that. I was like, Okay,
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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with that comment. I
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Speaker 2: make jokes about it myself. I am insecure because some
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Speaker 2: of the moves that I try to do do require
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Speaker 2: a little booty.
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Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
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Speaker 3: Okay, you know you've been there.
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Speaker 2: I've had another woman telling me, oh, you look like
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Speaker 2: you're finally losing some of that gut, and I'm like, nope.
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Speaker 3: This is a different shirt. Thank you, I guests.
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Speaker 2: And then I've not had another woman telling me, like
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Speaker 2: again the weights that I should be using or the
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Speaker 2: other exercises, and honestly they're not wrong. Like I know,
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Speaker 2: when it comes to like me, aging because I am
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Speaker 2: aging muscle is very important in order to like make
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Speaker 2: sure my body doesn't break, because I feel like my
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Speaker 2: body's gonna break at any moment a lot of the times,
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Speaker 2: because whether it's arthritis, whether it's because of perimenopause, or
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Speaker 2: whether it's just because you know you overuse it. Or
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Speaker 2: use it the wrong way. Muscle is important, buildings, muscle
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Speaker 2: and mass like that is important. So I'm like, yeah, dude,
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Speaker 2: really here need to be weightlifting or doing something in
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Speaker 2: those types of realms. But it's interesting to have people
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Speaker 2: more comfortably common to me these comments. And I don't
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Speaker 2: know what to do with it because it has slowly
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Speaker 2: started to sleep in Annie like it's all slowly coming
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Speaker 2: in in which I'm like, I buy it different clothes.
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Speaker 2: I need to buy something that either hides it better
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Speaker 2: or looks better or something because there's something that people
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Speaker 2: are noticing or a few people are noticing that I
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Speaker 2: need to change apparently, or I need to Yeah, I've
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Speaker 2: going back to counting a few calories. I'm like, it's
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Speaker 2: not necessarily a bad thing learning to be healthy, so
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Speaker 2: making sure I get just the most enough protein with
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Speaker 2: the amount of all these things. But I also know
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Speaker 2: I can get obsessive in that and it stops me
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Speaker 2: from eating when I need to. I've also talked about
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Speaker 2: the fact that I finally come to a point of
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Speaker 2: not loving my body. Unfortunately. I wish I could appreciate
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Speaker 2: my body more. And then we talked about this on
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Speaker 2: and off. Mic many a times because we've I'm recognizing
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Speaker 2: how much my body did for me and it is
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Speaker 2: doing for me at a younger age. Like as I'm
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Speaker 2: starting to hurt more, I was like, man, I wish
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Speaker 2: I'd have done these things previously or having the confidence previously,
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Speaker 2: but like it still weighs like that on me, in like, Okay,
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Speaker 2: obviously these are the things that still need to change,
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Speaker 2: and I need to change them now before my metabolism
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Speaker 2: he hits the wall apparently according to all the people
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Speaker 2: that are telling me so, and science some science, and
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Speaker 2: there's a lot of like weight management programs that will
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Speaker 2: want to make money off of me.
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Speaker 3: But I have I've become more comfortable.
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Speaker 2: I feel like the way I dress feels more appropriate
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Speaker 2: to me, and I feel more comfortable in wearing the
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Speaker 2: things I'm wearing. I finally am taking pictures of myself
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Speaker 2: and not hating every single one of them, you know,
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Speaker 2: seeing myself on social media if any of y'all follow
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Speaker 2: me on my Zooma page, I hate it with a passion.
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Speaker 2: And one thing, my people, my Zooma people know, if
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Speaker 2: they've known me from classes that are taken with them,
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Speaker 2: they know I hate.
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Speaker 3: Being in pictures.
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Speaker 2: I despise it, and I will purposely make goofy looking
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Speaker 2: faces so that I don't have to be in pictures
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Speaker 2: or I don't have to take it too seriously. My
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Speaker 2: partner does knows this and he hates it. He's like,
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Speaker 2: he won't let me take a pretty picture. I'm like,
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Speaker 2: I don't like him. I don't like any pictures of myself.
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Speaker 2: So it's really gotten to a point like I was
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Speaker 2: good and I'm still okay, but I can tell this
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Speaker 2: could be a problem in the future conversations. I can
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Speaker 2: tell as I am and watching other people come into
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Speaker 2: my class and trying to navigate how to handle their
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Speaker 2: health as well as their mental health as well as
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Speaker 2: their self esteem. I have some amazing people in my
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Speaker 2: class who you would think who may not meet the standards,
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Speaker 2: but they get it, and I'm like, that's helping to me.
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Speaker 2: But then I also have the same people who've worked
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Speaker 2: all their lives trying to get to a certain goal
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Speaker 2: and now have found medications that assist them, but they
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Speaker 2: seem they can't exercise anymore honestly because it actually has
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Speaker 2: messed with their heart, which several of my people who
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Speaker 2: have been in classes have had to stop because of
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Speaker 2: that going to classes, and they choose to stop going
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Speaker 2: to classes, but they're not happy because they miss those classes.
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Speaker 3: Like those types of people as well.
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Speaker 2: But also at the same time, I know this is
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Speaker 2: something as a person who I have struggle with my weight,
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Speaker 2: struggled with my body, have been thinking about as well,
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Speaker 2: have been dreaming, have dreamt of that perfect body and
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Speaker 2: what the standards have told me. For a flip, like
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Speaker 2: six months, I had that, you know, because well buttrin,
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Speaker 2: that will get yeah, just FYI. Then it started making
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Speaker 2: my heart race. I was like, no, thank you, but
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Speaker 2: like and I wasn't taking it for at that time.
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Speaker 3: I wasn't taking it for weight management.
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Speaker 2: It was because of my depression, which was pretty severe
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Speaker 2: at the time. So like all of these things that
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Speaker 2: kind of came through and I was like, oh, maybe
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Speaker 2: this is what it was. It felt like an accomplishment
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Speaker 2: to be at that point. So when I lost that,
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Speaker 2: which felt like a loss because of COVID, because of
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Speaker 2: everything that went down, like that changed all of our
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Speaker 2: way of being and just being content because I was
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Speaker 2: taking well buttrin because I was severely depressed. So when
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Speaker 2: I stopped being severely depressed and realized I was affecting
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Speaker 2: my heart. I stopped taking it obviously, and that changed everything,
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Speaker 2: you know, Like my unhappiness fueled my weight loss. I
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Speaker 2: would rather be happy, yeah, and chunky, But I also know,
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Speaker 2: and I've been to the doctor. My cholesterol is good,
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Speaker 2: my heart rate is good, my blood pressure is good.
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Speaker 2: Like outside of what the chart says my being my
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Speaker 2: is obese, but everything else on the chart is good,
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Speaker 2: you know. So like it's all this level, and obviously
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Speaker 2: I'm moving. I work out five to seven days a week,
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Speaker 2: an hour intensively, like it's and I don't we don't
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Speaker 2: slow down. Like I have had people coming like, oh,
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Speaker 2: you're one of those that keep going. I'm like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: all the way to the end.
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Speaker 3: Let's go.
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Speaker 2: Like that's because I love the dance or I love
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Speaker 2: the movements, so all of these things. But it is
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Speaker 2: really odd, No, it's not really odd. It's really complicated
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Speaker 2: and trying to balance this narrative in an industry that
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Speaker 2: has really skewed standards and also having those standards pushed
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Speaker 2: on me as where before I was at least just
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Speaker 2: a student, right, but being at the front, it feels different,
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Speaker 2: and I'm not really sure how to fully navigate this.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is complicated, and now you feel like you
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Speaker 1: know you've got the lightest on you and that's We've
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Speaker 1: discussed this in other episodes too, but that can be
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Speaker 1: really hard in terms of just whatever decision you make
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Speaker 1: or how you look and knowing that people are going
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Speaker 1: to maybe be inspired by that or think, oh, it's
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Speaker 1: okay if I look like this, or oh it's not
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Speaker 1: okay if I look like this and have And it's
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Speaker 1: pretty wild to meet some of these comments received, but
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Speaker 1: having it be like apparently acceptable. I sometimes I wonder
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Speaker 1: because the weight loss and fitness industry so long has
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Speaker 1: been women specifically, you need to look a certain way,
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Speaker 1: and sometimes I wonder, Well, no, I know it's true,
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Speaker 1: but I always have a when I ever, whenever I
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Speaker 1: get a comment like that, I'm like, are you is
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Speaker 1: this a cut down to make yourself feel better? What
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Speaker 1: is this because you feel insecure? Yeah?
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Speaker 3: This is the thing. Is like most of these comments. Now, again,
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Speaker 3: the parramids game was obvious.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's trying to get me to join her thing.
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Speaker 2: It still was like grating because I'm like, I need
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Speaker 2: you to stop.
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Speaker 3: I need you to stop.
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Speaker 2: The other comments were people that genuinely think they're giving
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Speaker 2: me compliments or good advice. And that's the other part
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Speaker 2: that throws me off to that that I'm like and
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Speaker 2: one person, because who I do know pretty well who
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Speaker 2: said that comment to me is someone who has screaming
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Speaker 2: body issues, constantly talks about how much she doesn't like
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Speaker 2: these things and he doesn't like these things. And when
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Speaker 2: I when I was young, younger, I was this and
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Speaker 2: this like obvious that this new woman is different. But
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Speaker 2: she prides herself on pushing the boundaries and she's like,
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Speaker 2: you know, you see me out there, I'm working out
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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna come in and do it like that's
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Speaker 2: herd thing. But I don't know her very well, but
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Speaker 2: to her, that was a compliment.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and that makes sense. And actually I almost re
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Speaker 1: ran this episode as a classic recently because I've been
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Speaker 1: having similar thoughts. But we did one. We did an
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Speaker 1: episode on the problem of complimenting people's body weight or
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Speaker 1: weight loss specifically, and I've discussed on here. I have
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Speaker 1: multiple friends who are on Ozimpic or something like it,
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Speaker 1: and they are losing weight, but they also know my
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Speaker 1: problems with it. But I was very vocal about it
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Speaker 1: before they started taking it right, So I feel like
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Speaker 1: it would be incredibly disingenuous of me to be like, oh,
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Speaker 1: congrat you, right, But also I know it's important to them,
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Speaker 1: and I don't want it. I don't want to make
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Speaker 1: it about me. So it's a similar issue where I'm
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Speaker 1: in my head about about it. I feel healthy and
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Speaker 1: you're doing it healthily, and it's then great, But I'm
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Speaker 1: not going to compliment the weight loss part. I think
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Speaker 1: I'm just not going to do it.
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Speaker 3: And there's a balance in everything.
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Speaker 2: We talked about this before, because we've talked about what's
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Speaker 2: healthy versus unhealthy, and that's the conversation what we need
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Speaker 2: to have. What is your body telling you? Is it healthy?
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Speaker 2: Are you not healthy? Do you need to change things?
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Speaker 2: Is it mentally healthy? Is it mental health? You know,
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Speaker 2: like those all of those conversations should be in play,
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Speaker 2: but instead the conversation is what people see. And then
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Speaker 2: like championing people who are body positive that may be
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Speaker 2: technically larger on those standards, but maybe they're doing it
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Speaker 2: unhealthily too, so like you don't want to encourage that either,
19:18
Speaker 2: like if their entire meals or I don't know, talking
19:22
Speaker 2: about eating big macs all the time, and obviously seeing
19:26
Speaker 2: how your health designs, and you give big macs to
19:29
Speaker 2: like sports stars who come to celebrate their wins with
19:35
Speaker 2: you as their victory meal, because that's what you like.
19:37
Speaker 2: That's the only thing you like, and that's all you eat.
19:39
Speaker 2: Maybe we should have a conversation about what your health is, sir.
19:44
Speaker 2: But like, but like, if you're truly there's so many
19:48
Speaker 2: healthy people who would be considered big, like people who
19:51
Speaker 2: are vegetarians and true vegetarians that eat like all the
19:56
Speaker 2: vegetables all the time, you know what I mean, Like
19:57
Speaker 2: they are fiber full, like they are e and they
20:01
Speaker 2: not hit the scale of the standard. Like that's just
20:04
Speaker 2: to me, Like that's amazing. And we know there are
20:09
Speaker 2: many people who would be considered plus size who are
20:13
Speaker 2: very healthy and will outlive everyone as they expected because
20:17
Speaker 2: what they're doing is healthy. But at the same time,
20:20
Speaker 2: like we also see the skinny people who are like
20:24
Speaker 2: you are not eating what you should be.
20:25
Speaker 3: I've met a many.
20:27
Speaker 2: Of skinny people only ate candy because they're like, I'd
20:31
Speaker 2: rather have one candy bar and need nothing for the
20:33
Speaker 2: rest of the day. Yeah, so that I can maintain
20:36
Speaker 2: my calories. That is severely unhealthy. You're probably malnourished, yeah,
20:42
Speaker 2: And are you happy yeah yeah, and probably hypoglycemic yep.
20:48
Speaker 3: Yeah.
20:48
Speaker 1: And I think that is a really good point that
20:51
Speaker 1: I constantly have to remind myself of, is that healthy
20:55
Speaker 1: looks different on different people. If you're always comparing yourself
20:59
Speaker 1: to someone else, you're going to be unhappy. And I
21:03
Speaker 1: think that when you find what your health is like,
21:07
Speaker 1: what it looks like, and how you can maintain it
21:09
Speaker 1: and be happy, then that is an accomplishment. That is
21:12
Speaker 1: something that should be celebrated.
21:14
Speaker 2: Exactly, and also just as a reminder, happiness is not consistent.
21:20
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, you know what I mean.
21:22
Speaker 2: Like one day I'm great with my body. The next
21:25
Speaker 2: day I hate everything and I just want to crawl
21:27
Speaker 2: into a hole, you know, And like this is the
21:31
Speaker 2: part of me. I count the fact that I am
21:34
Speaker 2: more happy than not. I count that I'm more content
21:39
Speaker 2: than not yeah, as a success right now.
21:43
Speaker 3: But obviously I have my off days, especially when I.
21:45
Speaker 2: Get comments like that and I'm like, what, yeah, do
21:48
Speaker 2: I do about this? Because again, just like a lot
21:53
Speaker 2: of people, I think we all know this. My body
21:56
Speaker 2: comes back to a specific weight. Ever since I've turned
21:59
Speaker 2: twenty five. I think I was at one weight. Anytime
22:03
Speaker 2: I would lose weight, anytime, I would do whatever, anytime
22:06
Speaker 2: I deprived my body of food and calories and then
22:10
Speaker 2: come back to my regular eating. And I mean regular
22:12
Speaker 2: eating what you would be considered under or within the
22:15
Speaker 2: calorie count.
22:16
Speaker 3: I'm at the same weight and it's just bigger. Yeah,
22:20
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
22:21
Speaker 2: So I'm like, and I usually don't go beyond that. Yeah,
22:25
Speaker 2: So that tells me this is where my body is
22:27
Speaker 2: comfortable at.
22:28
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, mine was the same. I had to work
22:31
Speaker 1: so hard to look the standard thin body, and I
22:38
Speaker 1: would accomplish it, but I had to work so hard, right,
22:41
Speaker 1: it was exhausting.
22:42
Speaker 3: Yeah.
22:42
Speaker 1: And if I if I just kind of ate healthily
22:46
Speaker 1: and didn't think too much about it exercise, I would
22:48
Speaker 1: go back in the same weight. Yeah.
22:51
Speaker 2: Yeah. And that's like like I literally for the past
22:55
Speaker 2: since after COVID and even before COVID, but of course,
22:57
Speaker 2: like the COVID, I did nothing.
22:59
Speaker 3: Yeah, on the pandemic and we didn't. I did nothing.
23:03
Speaker 3: I did nothing.
23:04
Speaker 2: But after that I would work out three, if not
23:07
Speaker 2: seven days a week, and in the last three years
23:11
Speaker 2: it has been h five days a week. Consistently that
23:16
Speaker 2: I'm working out so and I have not changed body weight,
23:20
Speaker 2: Like it's obviously like if I'm getting all of that
23:23
Speaker 2: in right, then my body's saying you're fine.
23:27
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is where you are, this is who you are.
23:30
Speaker 3: Deal with it.
23:31
Speaker 2: Yeah, But it's again the dealing with that part that
23:34
Speaker 2: is getting back to who like I see myself as
23:39
Speaker 2: and trying to remain as while I'm being all of
23:43
Speaker 2: a sudden noted as oh, but you're this, but you're
23:45
Speaker 2: an instructor, you're a trainer, you should be.
23:49
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I'll never forget back when I used to
23:54
Speaker 1: have to moderate YouTube comments on the House Stuff Works videos,
23:58
Speaker 1: which was a horrible ask. Do not recommend friend of
24:03
Speaker 1: Joe Holly, who've just recently had a birthday a birthday.
24:09
Speaker 1: She's a huge runner. She ran all the time, she
24:11
Speaker 1: did all kinds of stuff, but her body didn't look
24:14
Speaker 1: like how people envisioned ever runners should look. So she
24:17
Speaker 1: did a video on running and people under the video
24:21
Speaker 1: were like, you definitely don't run, that is a lie.
24:23
Speaker 1: Definitely this, and I'm like, she does.
24:24
Speaker 3: She does? Come with her a half marilony.
24:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to run a half marathon with her.
24:32
Speaker 1: She's the one who got me into it, right. So
24:36
Speaker 1: it's just so frustrating and it's so ingrained and it
24:41
Speaker 1: is hard to not let it get to you. But
24:45
Speaker 1: but I, yeah, I'm seeing you work out and I'm
24:48
Speaker 1: very impressed. So well, thank you. And that's again, this
24:52
Speaker 1: is just something that I'm going to have to navigate.
24:54
Speaker 1: But I kind of forgot what this looked like. Yeah, alas, yes, okay,
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