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4 - One Small Act of Kindness Every Day · Daily Relationship Tips: Practical Relationship Skills That Help Couples Reconnect

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  There's
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  one
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  quality
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  I've
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  noticed
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  in
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  the
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  happiest
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  couples
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  I've
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  worked
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  with
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  over
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  30
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  years.
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  It's
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  not
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  some
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  advanced
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  communication
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  technique.
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  It's
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  not
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  a
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  weekly
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  date
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  night
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  or
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  a
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  couple's
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  workshop.
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  It's
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  something
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  far
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  simpler.
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  And
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  most
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  couples
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  stop
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  doing
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  it
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  so
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  gradually
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  they
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  don't
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  even
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  notice
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  it's
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  gone.
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  I'm
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  Alastair
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  Dwes,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  Daily
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  Relationship
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  Tips
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  Podcast
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  where
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  I
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  share
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  simple,
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  practical
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  tools
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  feel
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  close,
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  connected
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  and
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  in
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  love
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  again,
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  one
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  small
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  habit
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  at
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  a
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  time.
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  Now
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  here's
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  something
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  most
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  people
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  don't
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  realize.
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  We
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  tend
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  to
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  save
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  our
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  worst
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  selves
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  for
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  the
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  people
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  we
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  love
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  most.
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  Think
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  about
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  it.
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  At
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  work,
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  you're
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  patient.
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  With
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  friends,
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  you're
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  warm.
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  With
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  strangers,
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  you
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  say
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  please
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  and
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  thank
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  you
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  without
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  thinking.
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  But
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  at
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  home,
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  after
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  a
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  long
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  day,
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  when
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  you're
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  tired
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  and
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  the
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  kids
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  are
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  loud
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  and
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  there's
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  dinner
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  to
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  sort,
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  that
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  same
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  grace
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  can
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  quietly
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  disappear.
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  It's
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  not
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  intentional.
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  It's
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  just
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  what
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  happens
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  when
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  we
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  let
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  our
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  guard
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  down.
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  And
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  it's
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  quiet
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  ways
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  a
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  relationship
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  starts
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  to
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  lose
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  its
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  warmth.
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  kindness.
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  Now,
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  kindness
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  in
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  a
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  relationship
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  isn't
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  the
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  same
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  as
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  being
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  polite.
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  It's
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  something
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  deeper.
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  It's
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  the
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  daily
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  choice
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  to
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  treat
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  your
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  partner
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  well.
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  Not
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  because
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  they've
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  earned
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  it
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  in
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  that
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  particular
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  moment,
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  but
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  because
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  you
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  love
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  them
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  and
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  you
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  want
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  them
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  to
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  feel
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  it.
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  And
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  here's
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  where
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  most
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  people
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  get
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  this
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  wrong.
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  They
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  assume
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  they're
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  already
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  kind
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  to
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  their
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  partner.
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  And
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  in
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  the
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  big
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  moments
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  birthdays,
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  a
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  tough
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  week
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  at
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  work,
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  times
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  of
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  real
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  need,
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  they
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  probably
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  are.
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  But
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  kindness
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  in
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  a
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  relationship
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  isn't
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  just
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  about
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  the
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  big
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  moments.
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  It's
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  about
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  the
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  small
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  ones.
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  The
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  tone
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  of
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  voice
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  you
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  use
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  when
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  you're
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  frustrated.
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  Whether
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  you
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  help
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  with
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  something
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  without
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  being
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  asked.
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  Whether
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  you
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  say
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  thank
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  you
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  for
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  the
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  things
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  you've
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  stopped
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  noticing.
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  Whether
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  you
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  greet
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  your
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  partner
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  warmly
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  when
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  they
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  walk
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  through
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  the
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  door
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  or
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  barely
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  look
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  up
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  from
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  your
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  phone
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  those
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  small
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  things
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  add
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  up.
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  And
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  when
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  they
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  go
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  missing
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  consistently,
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  a
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  relationship
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  starts
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  to
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  feel
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  cold,
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  even
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  if
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  nobody
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  can
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  point
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  to
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  one
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  specific
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  thing
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  that
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  went
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  wrong.
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  So
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  here's
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  something
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  you
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  can
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  start
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  choose
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  one
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  act
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  of
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  kindness
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  for
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  your
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  partner.
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  Something
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  small,
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  unprompted,
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  with
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  no
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  expectation
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  of
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  anything
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  in
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  return.
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  Maybe
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  you
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  make
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  their
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  favourite
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  meal
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  help
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  with
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  something
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  around
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  the
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  house
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  they've
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  been
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  meaning
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  to
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  get
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  to
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  send
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  a
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  message
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  just
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  to
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  say
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  you're
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  thinking
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  of
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  them.
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  Bring
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  them
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  a
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  coffee
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  without
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  being
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  asked.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  need
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  to
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  be
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  elaborate,
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  it
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  just
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  needs
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  to
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  be
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  genuine.
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  And
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  think
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  about
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  the
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  last
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  time
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  you
• 3:10
  were
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  sharp
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  with
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  your
• 3:11
  partner
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  without
• 3:12
  meaning
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  to.
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  Maybe
• 3:14
  you
• 3:14
  were
• 3:15
  tired
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  or
• 3:15
  distracted
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  or
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  just
• 3:17
  had
• 3:17
  a
• 3:17
  rough
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  day.
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  You
• 3:19
  didn't
• 3:19
  mean
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  it,
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  but
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  they
• 3:21
  felt
• 3:21
  it.
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  And
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  probably
• 3:23
  noticed
• 3:23
  how
• 3:24
  it
• 3:24
  changed
• 3:24
  the
• 3:25
  temperature
• 3:25
  of
• 3:25
  the
• 3:25
  room.
• 3:26
  Even
• 3:27
  if
• 3:27
  you
• 3:27
  moved
• 3:27
  on
• 3:28
  quickly.
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  That
• 3:30
  moment
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  and
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  all
• 3:31
  the
• 3:31
  small
• 3:32
  moments
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  like
• 3:32
  it
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  are
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  exactly
• 3:34
  what
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  about.
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  Because
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  the
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  same
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  is
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  true
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  in
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  reverse.
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  A
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  moment
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  of
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  unexpected
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  kindness
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  changes
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  the
• 3:43
  temperature
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  too.
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  Immediately.
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  Noticeably,
• 3:46
  in
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  way
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  that
• 3:47
  tends
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  to
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  spread.
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  That's
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  the
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  thing
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  about
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  kindness.
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  It's
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  contagious.
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  When
• 3:53
  you're
• 3:54
  consistently
• 3:54
  kind
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  to
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  your
• 3:55
  partner,
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  they
• 3:56
  naturally
• 3:57
  soften.
• 3:58
  The
• 3:58
  whole
• 3:59
  atmosphere
• 3:59
  of
• 3:59
  the
• 3:59
  relationship
• 4:00
  shifts.
• 4:01
  It
• 4:01
  becomes
• 4:02
  a
• 4:02
  warmer
• 4:03
  place
• 4:03
  to
• 4:03
  be.
• 4:05
  So
• 4:05
  here's
• 4:05
  your
• 4:06
  challenge
• 4:06
  for
• 4:07
  do
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  one
• 4:08
  kind
• 4:08
  thing
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  for
• 4:09
  your
• 4:09
  partner.
• 4:10
  Unprompted,
• 4:11
  unannounced,
• 4:12
  and
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  without
• 4:13
  expecting
• 4:14
  anything
• 4:15
  back.
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  Just
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  do
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  it
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  because
• 4:17
  you
• 4:17
  love
• 4:17
  them.
• 4:18
  Because
• 4:19
  couples
• 4:19
  who
• 4:20
  are
• 4:20
  habitually
• 4:20
  kind
• 4:20
  to
• 4:21
  each
• 4:21
  other
• 4:21
  aren't
• 4:22
  just
• 4:22
  happier
• 4:23
  day
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  day.
• 4:24
  They're
• 4:24
  also
• 4:25
  more
• 4:25
  resilient
• 4:26
  when
• 4:26
  things
• 4:26
  get
• 4:27
  hard.
• 4:28
  Kindness
• 4:29
  builds
• 4:29
  a
• 4:29
  cushion
• 4:30
  of
• 4:30
  goodwill
• 4:30
  in
• 4:31
  your
• 4:31
  relationship.
• 4:32
  And
• 4:33
  when
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  tough
• 4:33
  moments
• 4:34
  come,
• 4:35
  and
• 4:35
  they
• 4:35
  always
• 4:36
  do,
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  cushion
• 4:37
  is
• 4:38
  what
• 4:38
  holds
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  together.
• 4:40
  It's
• 4:40
  not
• 4:40
  complicated.
• 4:41
  It's
• 4:42
  just
• 4:42
  a
• 4:42
  choice.
• 4:43
  Make
• 4:43
  it
• 4:44
  today.
• 4:45
  Do
• 4:45
  one
• 4:45
  kind
• 4:46
  thing
• 4:46
  for
• 4:46
  your
• 4:46
  partner
• 4:46
  today.
• 4:47
  Something
• 4:48
  small,
• 4:49
  genuine.
• 4:50
  No
• 4:50
  strings
• 4:50
  attached.
• 4:52
  Then
• 4:52
  notice
• 4:53
  how
• 4:53
  it
• 4:53
  shifts
• 4:53
  the
• 4:54
  energy
• 4:54
  between
• 4:54
  you.
• 4:56
  Small
• 4:56
  acts
• 4:56
  of
• 4:57
  kindness
• 4:57
  done
• 4:58
  consistently
• 4:59
  are
• 4:59
  what
• 4:59
  keep
• 5:00
  a
• 5:00
  relationship
• 5:00
  feeling
• 5:01
  warm.
• 5:02
  Now,
• 5:03
  if
• 5:03
  today's
• 5:04
  tip
• 5:04
  landed
• 5:04
  for
• 5:04
  you,
• 5:05
  there's
• 5:05
  a
• 5:05
  lot
• 5:06
  more
• 5:06
  where
• 5:06
  it
• 5:06
  came
• 5:07
  from.
• 5:08
  Head
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  dailyrelationshiptips.com
• 5:10
  and
• 5:10
  take
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  free
• 5:11
  two
• 5:12
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• 5:12
  quiz
• 5:12
  to
• 5:13
  see
• 5:13
  how
• 5:13
  connected
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  and
• 5:14
  your
• 5:15
  partner
• 5:15
  are
• 5:15
  right
• 5:16
  now.
• 5:17
  And
• 5:17
  while
• 5:18
  you're
• 5:18
  there,
• 5:18
  you'll
• 5:19
  find
• 5:19
  a
• 5:19
  stack
• 5:19
  of
• 5:20
  relationship
• 5:20
  resources
• 5:21
  and
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  help
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  put
• 5:22
  these
• 5:22
  habits
• 5:23
  into
• 5:23
  practice.
• 5:25
  Everything
• 5:25
  you
• 5:25
  need
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  create
• 5:26
  a
• 5:27
  happier,
• 5:27
  more
• 5:28
  loving
• 5:28
  and
• 5:28
  connected
• 5:29
  relationship
• 5:30
  is
• 5:30
  waiting
• 5:30
  for
• 5:31
  you.
• 5:32
  Thanks
• 5:32
  for
• 5:32
  listening
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  I'll
• 5:33
  see
• 5:33
  you
• 5:34
  in
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  next
• 5:34
  episode.