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Unlocking Vitality: Emotional Healing, Detox Pathways, and Thriving in a Toxic World · Healthy Happy Wise Wealthy

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Welcome to Healthy, Happy, Wise, Wealthy, the podcast where we talk about everything
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about healthy, happy, wise, wealthy, living from cradle to
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grave. I'm your host, Mary Meyer. There was a lot to learn with
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Kara and Brittany on the topics of detox and vitality. So this is
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split into two episodes. Make sure you catch both. Yeah.
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Before we move on from here though, because I could have said this
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sooner about other systems, but liver, it's like I can't
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move on from that without mentioning. And you got to deal with the anger in
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your life. Yes. You know, in traditional Chinese
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medicine, which I've studied more traditional Chinese medicine,
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Ayurvedic medicine. So a lot of these Eastern
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medicines, so these are ancient ways
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of practicing medicine that are still practiced today, like
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Ayurveda 5000 plus years old, traditional Chinese medicine
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2000 plus. So these, these practices have been around for so
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long and, and one there. I like to explain to people, it's just
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a different looking at the body and the remedies that
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are offered are different. And I really align with both of
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those systems. And
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in traditional Chinese medicine, they.
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100% of the time you're going to be talking about the emotions
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and what's going on in your life and you know what's troubling you. And
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the. Each major organ
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frequency wise correlates with a frequency of an
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emotion. So if you've got
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liver congestion, anger is the
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emotion that resonates with this little lady of the
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liver. Resentment is the
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gallbladder. Anxiety is more in the tummy,
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fear in the kidneys. I could keep going on grief in the
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lungs, but it's so important. Important that
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you can't overlook those emotional pieces and only focus
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on the physical detox. You could physical detox yourself all
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day long. And if you're sitting there red hot with a bunch of
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anger that's unexpressed, you're probably not going to get that
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liver up and running because you got to deal with the emotional
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energy that the liver is holding and being congested by.
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And the other way to think of the liver is it's this
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beautiful organ that filters through
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everything that we ask of our bodies, including
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our emotion. So if you're having a
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very emotional day,
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your liver is working on that emotion
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as well. As if you have a Diet Coke and walk
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through the aisle of chemicals in the supermarket and
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walk outside and talk on yourself. I mean, like ev,
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we, the exposure that we have to toxins is
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more than our bodies are made to tolerate and deal with because our
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bodies are freaking brilliant.
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We are Made to heal. We are literally designed
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to deal with things. But the problem is we
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again have grown away from this understanding, understanding of our beautiful
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bodies and our beautiful earth and the way that it's made as you know,
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the macro and the micro and all these systems that work
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beautifully when you give them what they need and you treat them how they want
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to be treated. And so when we disregard that
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and we have, there's just too much
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to deal with. Our systems are over loaded. You
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know, one of my mentors like, stuff say it's like a lot,
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it is a lot of work to be healthy in modern society.
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It is. Yeah. Yes. And you can't, you can't be
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perfect. I mean, that's, that's the thing. Like we, we can't
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escape the toxins. We cannot be perfect. So
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I always tell people to, you know, do the best you can. And if I'm
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rattling off 10 things for you to do, pick one or two to start with.
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Because when it's completely overwhelming and
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you, you simply cannot do it all. I mean, I didn't.
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I have like, I think I mentioned I've always been on this journey of
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some piece of emotional healing probably since I was,
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I don't even. I was very small. Um, but
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a couple years ago, it's probably been three years ago now when I
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really, I, I started working with a mentor
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to really heal some of my
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core wounds at a deeper level. And
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the first couple months of diving into that,
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I was physically ill the entire time
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because of all the emotions I was stirring
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up and getting rid of. And this was not a new journey
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to me at all. Wow. Yeah. The number
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of times that I have clients who are like, I
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literally, this happened and I physically threw up and I
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wasn't sick. It just like my body rejected that because once you start
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understanding the way emotions actually impact your body,
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you'll start recognizing like there,
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there's this direct correlation. And, and the beauty
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is when we deal with our emotions as we're living our
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lives, which is the way we're made, we're made to
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have emotion. We are human beings and we are given
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these emotions. And when we befriend them and we
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understand what they're trying to tell us, they're gifts.
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They're not always, it's not always fun to feel every emotion. But
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the, the gamut of emotions is what, you know, gives us
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information in our lives. Even symptoms that you're having,
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those are gifts. Those are a sign to. Hey,
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pause. I'm trying to tell you something.
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Yes. Something is not right. Will you please listen to me? I
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mean, I, I'll take this. My, you know, myself, for instance.
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You know, we were talking about estrogen dominance, and if we're not
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having daily bowel movements. I remember years ago,
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periods unbelievably
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heavy. I mean, I was
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ridiculously heavy and
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looking at. And I had ovarian cysts. And so I was
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dealing with the pain of that heavy periods. I was exhausted all the time,
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could not, you know, you'd barely catch up and
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be able to begin to function. And I, I'd start again.
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And I, you know, again, in the traditional
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system, went to the OB gyn. They tell me, you know,
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we can do birth control, you can have an
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ablation or hysterectomy.
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And I really didn't want any of those things. But at the time, I didn't.
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Didn't know better. And no one asked me, are
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you having daily bowel movements? Well,
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no. I had been constipated my entire life. I lived
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off of laxatives. And now
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I know better. Like, I, why are we constipated?
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And senna or some stool softener is not the
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answer. Why is this happening?
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So, you know, it just. We need to be
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having. We. We need to be able. Be able to have daily bowel
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movements. But just taking laxative does not
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solve the problem. Not even an herbal one. No,
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it's not the underlying reason. And all the things that
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are going on because you're not having a regular bowel movement. And it's funny
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that we're coming to this one last, because really, this is the center. This is
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the first thing you got to look at. Like, yeah, we look at all the
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pathways and are the pathways open? But if you're
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not having bowel movements, that's
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where you gotta start. Your gut is the center of your
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health. Yeah. And your liver is part of that digestive system,
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by the way. So we've gotten a little work hand in hand. So if one's
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off, the other is going to probably be off as well. Yeah, there
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are two. So, so what do you do? What do you do if. What do
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you tell people to do if they're just, you know, not having daily bowel
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movements? What's the, what's the protocol remedy? I mean, you want
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to, you want to start having daily bowel movements. So if someone
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is taking laxatives, I would probably switch them
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to something more natural to begin with,
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encourage them to have more fiber. What's their water intake,
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you know, the basic things that we can do.
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But then I'm also going to ask them to do some type of
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stool test, and we're going to look at your gut microbiome, and
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we're going to see what exactly is going on in there. And then we
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want to create a detox or a
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protocol to resolve that underlying issue.
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But, you know, a lot of things are recurrent. We can.
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We can do something temporarily, but if you go back to the old
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patterns, if you go back to the old ways, it's
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going to reoccur. So it's really about creating a
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lifestyle that is conducive to health
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in the long run. Yeah. And I would add to
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that, you know, that's why, aside from, like,
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each detox pathway that we're talking about, one of the
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hacks to detox your body is to
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choose a lifestyle where you are exposed
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to less toxins, you know, and
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to try to start learning about where you can. And I
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feel like we could do an entirely additional podcast about
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this, and we should. Yes. Like what? Like, in your
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whole. Like, your whole life. Your whole life and
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your whole life, including your emotional,
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relational life, like, what does it look like to
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limit toxicity? Because, like, as we mentioned, you
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can't avoid it, but there are things you can control.
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And so if you do take control, you know, with
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plastics coming in or, you know, how much chemicals are you bringing
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in, you know, you've got to look at your makeup and your body products
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and your food and your water and your air. Like,
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yeah, there's so much. And that's why I'm saying we could do a
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completely. A different. It's a
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whole nother topic. But you just started one
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spot, one bone. You just. Like, for me growing up,
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you know, I actually like cleaning. Like, I don't mind cleaning. It's like,
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I find some pure joy and satisfaction in getting the job done, I
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guess. But I just would die when it was my job
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to, like, clean the bathroom, especially, like, the tub,
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I would just feel so terrible. And it was years
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later and probably in my 20s, when I realized how
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extremely sensitive I was to all those chemical
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smells. Like, I will not touch Clorox.
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Nobody wants me to do so with a Clorox wipe. I'm like, I'm sorry. Because
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I'll smell it on my hands and it'll give me a headache for as long
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as you. And you can smell it for, like, days. And it's absorbing into your
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system. Absorbing into your system. And there's
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just. Yeah, like I said, like, really looking at
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Limiting, you know, toxicity, including
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toxins, toxic people, you know, really
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looking at what am I consuming and
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digesting every day.
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And. And again, this is not always
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intuitive. It's why you need, like,
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that's why people will guide you through this, because it feels like this
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mountain to climb. And it is. It's a lot.
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And like, for me, I made changes over
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decades, and I feel like I'm still learning a little
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something and making a little change. You know, I'll be like, I didn't know about
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that and make a little change.
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But it's. It. You. You can't let it overwhelm you. You have
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to just start anywhere. Yeah. Right. Pick
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one thing. As soon as you run out of something, like, make a healthier swap.
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Yes. It can be as simple as that. Well, and I think people
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just are. So I'm a little bit always surprised
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at how unaware people are of what they're putting in their
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body, of how much work it is for your body to
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detox what they're putting in. And we're so conditioned.
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I mean, like. I mean, we're just greenwashed. We
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think that if it has a clean label, then
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it's. It's okay. It's painful.
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Yeah. But I mean, they're so good at tricky and t.
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They are. Yeah. And that's sad that that makes it very,
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very frustrating for the average person that is trying to
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do better and.
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No. And then just even coming back around to this idea of the
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amount of people that are unaware. And again, I think that's part of this,
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like, get people disconnected from their bodies. Get people
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disconnected from the earth. Right. And
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they're. They're just not as
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savvy. You know, the more you are tuned in with your
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body and you start recognizing when, like, oh,
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man, I had that piece of birthday cake. And I feel
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terrible because your body's not made to deal with that much sugar.
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Chemicals or chemicals depending on. Even if it
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weren't eating organic almond flour
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cake, you know, it's like your body's not made to deal with that amount
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of sugar. And again, I'm not saying don't ever have the cake,
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girl. Have the cake. Like, sometimes you gotta have the cake, but
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there's moderation. You know, just even thinking about,
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like. Timing, like eating the cake at the end after you've
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eaten your protein and your fiber. Yep. Versus your blood sugar
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doesn't first. So I am
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curious if we could go back to sweating
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as a detox pathway or your skin as a detox pathway. Because I think we
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I'd like a little bit more information on that. If someone doesn't have
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a sauna. And then I'd love to kind of go. I know,
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Brittany, your website is about vitality, so maybe we can talk about
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just normal people living in this world and how we can. What do we do
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every day to just live a life where we're. We are being
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healthy in this world that really is not healthy. That's so hard to be
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healthy. And then we'll talk a little bit about what you guys are doing
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to. To work together, so. But
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sweating. I know I have an infrared sauna. I think, Kara, that was one of
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the things you had recommended to me initially when I was, you know, dealing with
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limes, and it was. It was powerful. I think I had not. That was part
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of the sickness. I don't know what it was with that, but I don't think
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I had done much sweating for, let's say, 14,
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15 years at that point. Yeah. This is a long time for your
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body to not have that detox pathway. Yeah. So
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I do not have a sauna. I would like one, but I do not have
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one. So
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exercise. Okay. Exercise can be a good way.
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I will take a hot bath and sweat
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in the bath. I mean, I like it hot, and I turn the
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heat on in the bath, and I literally
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lay in the water and sweat. Do you, like, you have a heater outside the
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tub that's blowing on YouTube? Is that what you mean? Okay, yeah, yeah, we have
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one in our wall. But if you didn't have one built in the wall,
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you know, just a tiny little portable heater you could turn on
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in your bathroom. And, you know, in a closed space. Far away from the
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water. Yes, far away from the water. I put some Epsom
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salt and some. Mineral
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salts. Yeah. Baking soda. Baking
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soda, bentonite, clay. You can add
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some essential oils. You know, little hack with
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essential oils, always mix them into your salts.
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If you just put them into the water. You know, oil and water, they don't
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mix. But if you take the essential oil and mix it
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into the salt, it'll dissolve more easily
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into your bath. Good hack. Yeah. Yeah.
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Well, I'm also, if you guys want to say anything about athletic clothes. I know,
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like, I was doing hot yoga forever and then realized that I might have been
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absorbing more toxins through my skin as I me and my.
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Toxic leggings right now. Yeah,
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yeah. I mean, this is, like, an area for
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me that it's on my radar, and
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I haven't been able to implement, like, the Big change yet.
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But there are some companies that are promoting
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clean activewear. I have not made that swap either.
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In fact, I was just telling Cara that I probably needed to do that.
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But it's something that I know of. They have organic cotton, everything
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from little dresses to, you know.
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That'S a switch I'm trying to make right now. I think it's because I. I
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forever wore leggings. And then they got
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to an even worse chemical that I was wearing for a while, while I was
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going to hot yoga. And I feel like I'm. I need,
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you know, like, all the levels I need to detox from that, but
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probably haven't yet. So watch your athletic wear as
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you work out and sweat and even. I mean, even your. Your bras and
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underwear. I was going to say that, too. And especially, like, if anyone
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uses period panties for the ladies out there, you
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know, get. Organic cotton. Linen is another really great
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fabric. Like the frequency of real
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fabrics. Yeah, right. And the more flowy. I mean, is going
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to improve your frequency instead of being restrictive.
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Yeah. Even though, man, I'm
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telling you, decades wearing leggings, you know, like, I'm
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going to work out whether I'm going to work out or not, so. Yeah, well.
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And one of the things that I really think is important on the emotional side
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of things, like I just said, I'm very aware of that. And, like, I
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have implemented it, like, with, you know,
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definitely, like, any products that I use, you know, for
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cycling, menstruals. It's. It's all stuff, like,
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we absorb a lot in that area, so we want to be using
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organic cotton. I've made those changes, but
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in my entire wardrobe, that feels overwhelming. So
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I don't let myself live in fear. I don't go, oh,
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my gosh, I'm being exposed to all these things, and I just don't want anyone
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to be. Out there thinking, like, I am doing. All these things
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because. Yeah. And now you have some awareness.
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And if you can gently walk yourself into the
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thing that feels the easiest to change, you know, one little thing,
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maybe you just start doing this little pump because it doesn't cost anything. So you
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do a little lymph pump. Yeah. And let me say, anyone
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who's just listening, Kara's crossing her hands, using the two
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fingers on her, you know, index finger, middle finger,
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and doing, like, the little pump sensation right above the collarbone,
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basically with your hands crossed. Yeah. The best thing is just to look
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on YouTube and find. Look on YouTube and find.
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Or just watch this on YouTube. There's even
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more that you can do, you know, you can. After you open
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that area, you can then pull down the lymph and I'll do my face
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also, you know, and just like getting things. Because I had a
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head trauma, so I got a lot of congestion in my lymph. And
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so I'm always trying to get things to move, you know.
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But yeah, I think it's important to be really gentle and easy with
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yourself as you make positive changes and find
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the thing that feels like, okay, that vibration plate sounded
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interesting or you know, I can go on a walk or
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you know, whatever it is that felt like a
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low hanging fruit. Start there, celebrate. Feel so
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good about what you're doing and just keep making small changes. Get yourself
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in a community where people are talking about, you know,
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awareness and. Yeah, a little cleaner. Yeah,
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yeah. I think you, you really touched on something very important
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is not living in fear.
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I think that's huge in regards to
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all the things, health, wellness and vitality.
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Because fear is, I mean it just sabotages
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every aspect of you. So whether you're wanting
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to detox physically or
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emotionally and it becomes overwhelming,
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overwhelming and you're, you're
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fearful that you're exposed to all of this stuff.
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I mean, just pause
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because it's not something to be. Yes, it can be,
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it can be scary because we can't get away from it.
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But, but the point is like, don't let that overwhelm
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you. Don't let that take over. Realize that you are
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working towards. Yeah. Be empowered by the knowledge. By
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it. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And we definitely need to do
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another more, maybe more than one conversation about all the things we're talking
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about that you're probably are putting self. You're doing it
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to yourself. You're doing it to yourself when you expose yourself to a lot of
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different things and you don't know it. So I think on this, on this
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path, I think it is so hard to go. I cannot believe. Like, remember one
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of the first things you taught me, Cara, was like, the mercury in my mouth
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is probably causing. It's going to stop me from healing. And that was one of
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the first things I did is have that taken out. What a bad idea to
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put a neurotoxin in your head. But you know, that's what they've been doing.
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So. Yeah, I mean it doesn't make a lot of, there's not a lot of
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common sense in that. But it is what is done in my mind
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anyway. So as we look at every little thing,
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polyester clothing is made of plastic or, you know, and, and,
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you know, chemicals and petrochemicals, so maybe we
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remove some of those. But every little thing you learn also causes
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a distress,
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you know, because then you're like, oh, shoot, these people I love also are
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exposing themselves to it. And are we going to be the person that walks around
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slapping drinks out of people's hands because they shouldn't be having that, or
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food and. No. Wouldn't that be fun, though? I mean, we. I mean, that would
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be kind of fun. Not gonna be. I have done that before, but
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I know. I mean, I never,
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I never flinch, you know, watching people putting stuff in their bodies that I
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know is going to be harmful. Never flinch. But I'm sad.
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I talk about it. And one of the things that I have learned, and this
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is true both emotionally and physically, I cannot let
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myself care more about someone's health or wellness
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than. Than they do. So. And in fact, I
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don't. I have learned that unless
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someone asks me, you know, I. I don't share the
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information unless someone expresses interest, because
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on the contrary, I find people feel pretty defensive.
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And I don't know if that's the fear of, like, oh, I can't afford it,
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or I don't want to make the changes, or. I think we've been taught that
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things like we can. That instant gratification. And so
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if there's something that feels like a lot of effort, it just feels
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like, do I really need to do that? Like, there's just this,
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I don't know, cultural way of thinking that is not restrained, responsible,
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or taking ownership for the knowledge that's out there
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and it's been perpetuated. I mean, we've. We've
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been taught to think like that. So I can't fault someone for
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thinking like that. But I. I am
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here to help you, you know, I'm like, I am here to help you,
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you know, and even I want to just mention that, you know, we've talked about
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the overlap of emotions in the body, but even
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detoxing emotions from your body,
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meaning in your lifetime.
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And this is a lot of the work that I do with people. In your
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lifetime, you've had all these experiences. You've had
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moments of trauma, you've had moments of fear. You've had,
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you know, just different interactions. You've had
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seasons of grief. Maybe you've had some
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really hard things happen, and you've been in a season of grief and
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then had to get back to work and function. And so
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emotions are locked into
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our energetic field and our
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Body, the matter that's in this field. And so when we
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talk about, like, looking at our body
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and considering what are some of the programs
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that are locked into me, and as we loosen
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those up and let them go or give space for
25:45
feeling the things that we've been through in a
25:49
really nurturing and gentle way with
25:53
guidance and support, it's just really amazing
25:56
how we can change the experience of
26:00
our. Of our life and feel more alive and
26:04
vital to segue into this vitality
26:07
that you want to talk about. I think if we're carrying around a lot of
26:11
stuffed emotion, which, again, we've talked about this, you kind of stuff it.
26:15
Those symptoms and keep moving. It's the same way with emotions. We stuff them and
26:19
keep showing up and keep having our bright, happy face on
26:23
or our stone face, whatever way you show up. And
26:27
we're holding things that need to be felt.
26:31
So I just think that, you know, it's just.
26:35
It's so important to keep these things in balance, the physical and the
26:38
emotional both. And. Yeah.
26:43
Brittany, what are your thoughts on vitality? I know you talk about it so much.
26:47
It's all over your website.
26:51
That kind of came. Came about when I was working with one of my
26:55
mentors. She's like, well, you're the vitality queen. And like, you're
26:59
right. That is really, like,
27:02
that's. That's what I want. I think because I was in.
27:07
I mean, Kara can identify
27:11
growing up and then all the things that happened in my
27:14
life in my 20s and my 30s. I have
27:18
been on a perpetual cycle of survival.
27:23
And when my health got to the point
27:27
multiple times that I couldn't
27:31
function and digging myself out of that,
27:36
I really realized that I was not
27:39
alone on this island. There were other
27:43
people other than Kara and myself that were going through the same things.
27:48
And, you know, they didn't have answers. They didn't have someone to
27:51
listen to them. They didn't have guidance. And I
27:55
wanted. I wanted to be that person for. For all the
27:59
women. And I mean, I've worked with men too, but all the women
28:02
that could identify with this feeling
28:06
of hopelessness and helplessness and
28:09
wanting to. To live and thrive and be their
28:13
best version of themselves yet, they're barely hanging on.
28:18
And so my work as a functional
28:21
medicine nurse practitioner, trying to find, you know, what's really
28:25
happening in their body, that
28:29
was the starting place of
28:32
renewing their vitality.
28:36
But knowing that emotions are the
28:40
big key. You
28:43
gotta have. You gotta have both sides, sides. And
28:47
so, you know, I probably thought about
28:50
it, but not real consciously. And then when the
28:54
whole picture of one of my programs is
28:58
called Vital Clarity, the Vital Clarity experience.
29:02
And it's a six month program where we dive into
29:06
not only, you know, just your labs, but we,
29:09
you know, do more functional labs and come up with
29:13
the physical things that we need to fix. I knew I
29:17
needed Cara in that emotional
29:20
aspect to help the person
29:24
on the. It's a scale you gotta have, you gotta. Well, you gotta be
29:27
balanced. Yeah. And, and so that, that was just like the missing
29:31
piece of, like, of the Vital Clarity experience. Like, we, we have to do
29:35
this together. Because I was like, oh my gosh, we've been
29:38
together. Been. We've been together since five.
29:42
And, you know. Twins. Yes. We used
29:46
to climb up on the monkey bars in kindergarten at recess. Like,
29:49
our activity was to climb up on the monkey bars and plan our twin outfits
29:53
for the next day. Oh, that's so funny. By the way. We had no
29:57
clothes that looked anything like one another, but we felt like twins. We
30:00
did not look like twins at all, but we were still sisters. So there you
30:04
have it. I love it. Oh my gosh. I feel
30:08
like I, you guys are saying vitality has a lot to do with
30:11
emotional understanding your emotional state and
30:15
why you feel the way you do, and then opening up
30:18
detox pathways. And that might be the first couple steps
30:21
in. Yeah, I mean, you have to be realistic. I, you
30:25
know, I, I, we talked about quick fixes multiple times
30:30
and. Takes time. It takes time. It
30:33
takes time physically, it takes time emotionally.
30:37
And I don't think we ever get to the end.
30:41
It's a, it's about, it's about becoming. I mean, Kara mentioned that,
30:45
you know, she's an author. I just recently was published as well.
30:49
And one of the, one of the things that I mentioned,
30:54
one of my taglines is be exquisitely you. And
30:57
that was something that I didn't even really fully understand what
31:01
that line meant for many years. It was just
31:05
a brand that I decided that I liked. But it, like, it's
31:09
been a becoming of me. Like, what does that mean to me? And that's what
31:12
I want for every woman out there. I want them to be the
31:16
most exquisite, most vibrant person there is
31:20
in their own bodies. I want them to love themselves. I want them to be
31:24
free, full of joy, and just
31:27
radiate all the goodness that they have to offer
31:31
instead of just barely getting by. So that is, and
31:35
that's part of the partnership that we both do
31:39
that with our people. Like, that's what we Both individually
31:42
have been doing from different angles and you know,
31:46
joined together, it's like this powerhouse combo where it's
31:50
like, let's get you healthy on the inside in your
31:54
physical body and let's do the work of looking at
31:58
social programming, family programming, inner child
32:01
wounding, nervous system regulation,
32:04
befriending your emotions. Like if you want to
32:08
live your life, you have to look at
32:12
some of those hard things because when.
32:15
And it's in it and it can be a challenge. Like that's why I
32:19
encourage people get support. You're trying to do these things.
32:23
Like it, it is much easier when you have support,
32:26
but it's, it can be hard to go
32:30
into these spaces. But when you've unearthed
32:35
what's under them and the opening and the expansion, it's like that
32:39
contraction of going in and then comes the expansion of the
32:43
life afterwards that you're able to live
32:46
because you've created this space through the healing.
32:50
Yes. And that happens physically, that happens emotionally. And
32:54
when you get both of those on track, you know,
32:57
and you're, and you're working through those things,
33:02
your life is gonna be better. You're gonna be able to show
33:05
up and live your life and feel more alive and
33:09
bring whatever it is that you're here to bring and love your people better
33:13
and love yourself better and just all those really yummy things.
33:17
For sure. Yeah. And I feel like I have in mind, like
33:21
this is for men too. I know we're talking as women and we talk about
33:24
women issues because we're women and that makes sense. I mean, men go through the
33:27
same thing. They have these same. I definitely
33:31
work with male clients. My, my client population is
33:35
more female, but I always have several
33:39
men on, you know, my docket. And I love working with guys and
33:42
I feel like when guys decide that they want to do the
33:46
emotional work, they,
33:50
it's so powerful. And they seem to be
33:54
able to straight because they are more linear. They're able to straight
33:57
line changes, make changes, and it's
34:01
like they can move through things in a different way. And if
34:05
they want to do the work, it makes huge impact. And,
34:09
and it's beautiful. And as women, we want you to be
34:13
in, in, you know, touch with your emotions. So
34:17
no, society tells you that don't feel emotions and that's
34:20
not manly or whatever it is that maybe our
34:24
generations and older have said and maybe it isn't as common, but
34:28
yeah, getting, get in, get in touch with your emotions. You'll
34:32
be healthier. Absolutely. For sure. Yeah.
34:35
Well, and it makes it Easier to be a truly masculine man
34:39
holding the space of the beautiful, you know,
34:44
sacred masculine. When you are in touch
34:47
with those emotions and in a healthy body.
34:51
Yeah. In a healthy body, yeah. So tell
34:54
us, tell me about the stuff you guys are going to be doing together. I
34:57
know it's kind of in progress, but give me a little
35:02
bit, A little rundown. Yeah,
35:06
I mean, I kind of, I kind of touched on it, but yeah, it.
35:10
Currently. Yeah, we are,
35:14
we have the, the. I have so many vital programs.
35:20
We have vitality calls. We have. Yeah, I probably
35:24
overdid it on the, the term vitality. Yeah. What
35:28
is. Okay, so tell me the name of the program again. The Vital Clarity Experience.
35:32
The Vital Clarity Experience. Yes. Yes. Lovely.
35:36
Yeah. And that includes, like she was saying, labs
35:40
and individual care with Britney and then
35:44
a group component with me with the opportunity
35:47
to work individually if desired. Yep.
35:51
So this is something that isn't rolled out yet. People can't find it yet, but
35:55
it's coming. Oh, it's rolled out. Oh, it is rolled out.
35:58
Okay, so how do they, how do we get to it? How do we find
36:02
it? Is it on the website? Your websites? On my website, if
36:05
you complete the application, there's. Or go
36:09
to the contact page, it directs you to the
36:12
application and then you just get in contact with me
36:16
after there's a booking link, after the application
36:20
is completed and then yes, we will have a
36:23
conversation and if it's a good fit, then we can slide
36:27
you in there. That's very cool. It's not yet on
36:31
my website what we do together, but anyone would be welcome to
36:34
reach out on my website, which is just Kara
36:37
stoltenberg.com in terms of, you know, being in contact if
36:41
they, if they needed something directly
36:45
and also information about our program,
36:50
which we need to get on my website. We do.
36:55
So I love that. How long does a program, like how long does it usually
36:58
last for people to walk through it? This is a six
37:02
month program. Six months
37:06
is a good period of time to make some
37:09
significant progress.
37:14
You want to go on beyond there, you can, but the
37:17
initial program is six months. Okay.
37:21
I think you talked a little bit about it and I wasn't registering with me
37:25
that that was your together program. So I guess clarify.
37:28
We both have individual programs. You can work with each of us
37:32
individually as well. Which on my website is going
37:36
to be the same. You're going to complete the same application and then we're just
37:39
going to determine on. On a call which
37:42
program works best for you and
37:46
contact Kara the same way you know, from her website. So.
37:50
And these are, these are virtual because you guys aren't in the same
37:54
area. So that's great. I love that you do
37:58
some in person stuff. So again, depending on
38:01
people's needs and depending on like I, I do
38:05
some like deep dive personal retreats and I
38:09
will travel to people. So, you know, I have
38:13
some in person things. I think as our world gets more and
38:16
more
38:20
techie, I get more and more hands on.
38:23
I'm like, let's be in the room together. I want to hug you.
38:27
And Brittany and I actually have dreams that
38:31
will become a reality to do retreats to together
38:35
with. With larger groups of people. Probably in the
38:39
Mediterranean. Yes. Oh, boy.
38:42
Okay. You want to come, Mary?
38:46
Start saving my pennies right now. Sounds lovely.
38:50
We, we have some really beautiful,
38:54
like, we just, we want to get women together in a space
38:58
where we can get really honest about what
39:02
it takes to live that vital life. And
39:05
also what blocks us from that and to clear some of
39:09
those blocks out in a powerful sort of transformational experience
39:13
and time and retreat. I'm a big fan of retreats
39:17
and I feel like they can shift energy,
39:20
they can shift beliefs. Being in the room with
39:25
like working with someone in that capacity,
39:29
you can do a lot virtually, but that
39:32
closeness to that energy just
39:36
can move mountains. And I find
39:40
both. And like, and then the ongoing support, like in
39:44
my work, the ongoing support for transformation
39:47
and day by day making decisions that make my life look
39:51
different based on like I learned these things about my inner
39:55
child wounding. And so now what? Now how do I live
39:58
differently to not have this directing my
40:02
ship, you know, so having that ongoing support I think is
40:06
also important because transformation happens over time.
40:10
But there's this valuable being in
40:14
the room and sharing space. So
40:18
that's definitely on the docket. It.
40:22
That one is not yet set, planned, booked, but it will be.
40:25
So stay tuned. The drawing board stage. It will also
40:29
be fun and there will be dancing and there will be
40:33
a lot of laughing. Maybe some
40:37
wine. Dancing is probably some wine. Definitely some wine.
40:41
Vitality. What was that, Kara?
40:44
I said probably some wine. Definitely some coffee. Those are,
40:48
those are our favorite. Yeah.
40:51
Wine, dancing, coffee. That all sounds good. Yeah. Yeah.
40:55
So, well, thank you guys for coming on. As we close, I want to make
40:59
sure everyone has the resources they need to get in contact with you. So your
41:03
websites, I'm going to spell out their names. Our names are both
41:06
their websites. So. Britney Hayden. Is that how you said
41:10
it? Yeah. B R I T T A
41:14
NY HEYDEN .com
41:18
and then Kara Stoltenberg, K-A
41:21
R-A S-T-O-L-T-E-N-B-E-R-G.com
41:25
so their names, which are not super easy names to spell, it's easy to
41:29
misspell those. So go to show notes or go to
41:33
YouTube if you didn't. You're listening. Didn't catch that. Or just
41:36
Google it. Brittany Heyden, Kara Stoltenberg, do
41:40
your best and I think probably will come up. So
41:44
as you. I want you guys to just to say whatever you want to do
41:46
in closing and I'd love to have you guys back on again to go into
41:49
things that know what we're doing that we could maybe eliminate from our life to
41:53
take in less toxins at some point soon. But
41:57
as you, as you kind of give any closing thoughts, could you also mention
42:00
the books that you have so that they can look for those
42:04
also? Yeah. Or your. Anything else to. That's
42:08
maybe not on your website. Yeah. So
42:11
closing thoughts. I.
42:16
I would like to just say first off, thank you for having me. I've
42:20
enjoyed this conversation so much. Me too. It's
42:23
just been a lot of fun and I think we gave some great
42:28
easy tips and I think that's one of the biggest keys.
42:33
Detoxing does not have to be hard. It just
42:36
takes a little bit of effort and doing
42:40
small adjustments can make a
42:44
big difference. So start
42:47
small and if you are wanting to dive deeper,
42:51
please don't do it on your own. Yeah, please
42:55
seek out someone that can help you, that can guide you
42:58
because it can be a very
43:02
bumpy road and scary if you don't know what you're
43:05
doing. So that would be my
43:09
little tidbit of advice. And as far as
43:14
my new book that was just published, it's called Empower
43:17
her and you can find it on Amazon.
43:21
Nice. Lovely. Yay. Yeah, I
43:24
guess my closing thought would be
43:28
your body is made to heal.
43:32
And I think it's why we're here on the planet. You
43:35
know, if, if there's something physically off,
43:40
your body is brilliant and it knows how to heal
43:44
and it knows how to detox. Your body's made to
43:48
detoxify. But again,
43:51
becoming a little bit aware that there's a lot going on in our environment
43:55
that is more than we were made to handle. Right.
43:59
But there's still a lot you can do to support. Support and so
44:02
befriending your body. Yes.
44:05
You know, she is working hard for you,
44:10
so give her a Little Grace, listen. Yeah. And
44:14
befriend your emotions. It's another
44:18
thing. We. We want to kind of be hard on ourselves. When we're like, oh,
44:21
I'm still just feeling whatever, it's like, okay, like, I had a client the
44:25
other day say, like, trying not to be so grumpy. And I'm like, you know,
44:28
I suggest you lean into that grumpiness. Like,
44:32
befriend it. Talk, like, understand it. Why are you feeling
44:36
grumpy? Like, what's going on? Is there something physically going
44:39
on? I used to always do that as a mom. I would be like, okay,
44:42
he's definitely hungry. We're having a
44:46
testosterone spike. You know, like, what is going on physically
44:49
and what's going on emotionally that's contributing to this
44:53
meltdown right now or this behavior, anger or whatever it is.
44:57
We can do that same thing for ourselves. Like, if you're feeling
45:01
grumpy, rather than just trying to have a positive attitude,
45:05
first lean into.
45:09
I'm grumpy. What's going on here? Give yourself some space.
45:13
And then recognize, like, oh, there's this, and there's this and there's this, and the
45:17
world's on fire. And that's always one of them, you know? And.
45:22
And then perhaps you will
45:25
find it more attainable to choose a positive attitude and be like,
45:29
okay, I want to try to have a great
45:33
day, so I'm gonna. I'm gonna try to
45:37
muster it up, you know, whatever. But befriend your body,
45:41
befriend your emotions, and
45:44
befriend people who are support. Supportive to your
45:48
journey, both physically and emotionally, because
45:52
I don't know what I wouldn't have done without these ladies
45:57
for my whole life, for the last, you know, decade and
46:01
a half, almost two. And, you know, it's really
46:04
important to have support and people in your life
46:08
that are also trying their best,
46:12
for sure, emotionally, like, we learn from each other. We
46:15
carry each other. When. When there are those seasons, we
46:19
hype each other up. You know, this is so important. Get
46:23
behind one another. Yeah. Hold each other's arms up when
46:26
they're falling down. Yeah. Each other on all those things.
46:31
And we all go through hard things. So having a circle is always a.
46:35
The. The. The only. The only good way to move forward
46:38
is that people have more. Circle is one of the most
46:42
powerful things. Yeah. It's so powerful. So I
46:46
have three books that I have contributed to, and
46:49
all three of them are on Amazon. The first one was called Pebbles
46:53
in the Pond, Wave four. The next
46:57
one was called Dream Boldly, I dare you.
47:01
Which was one of my favorites. It was such a fun. It was
47:05
such a fun collaboration. And that was the first.
47:09
There's two volumes of that. Mine was the first one and then
47:13
the last one I just did was a breathwork collaboration.
47:17
It was a book about breath work and that incorporated
47:21
into a personal journey and how breath work has been
47:24
part of my healing. So I'm trying to remember
47:29
the name of that one, but it's that one. They're all on
47:32
Amazon and if you search me, you're going to find them.
47:36
I'm currently working on a book about
47:40
my journey in the last seven years
47:43
since a near death experience that I had
47:47
was in a hit and run accident and was left on the side of the
47:51
road unconscious to die and have
47:55
worked in the last seven years to
47:58
rebuild my life. But the lessons around
48:02
being so very present
48:05
to the now and drawing in all
48:09
my energy to here and being
48:13
present and alive, finding my way to
48:17
I am okay and then realizing,
48:21
oh, that's not enough for me because I. I want to be okay, but I
48:24
want to be alive. Like, I want so much more than I'm
48:28
okay. And. But it took me years
48:32
to get to I'm okay. So, you know, just
48:36
the journey, and it's such a universal journey because
48:40
it's what I walk clients through all the time. I'm not okay.
48:43
I'm okay. Okay, now how do we go from here
48:47
and get you living your best life, you know, and what does that look like
48:51
for you? And that's different for everyone. So I'm. I'm working on that
48:55
one. And, you know, it's. It's a work in progress
48:58
and it's okay with me that it's a work in progress.
49:02
I don't put deadlines on these kind of things. I wait for the urge to
49:05
come through and then I let it roll. That's how
49:09
my writing works. I think all the time, life and flow, and
49:13
then I think of Kara and then I think of my life and I'm like,
49:16
not there yet. But it is a really nice goal.
49:22
I do. I'm like, oh, no flow in this. But yeah,
49:26
I love you. Thank you for having us. This was a really fun
49:30
conversation. Thanks for letting me bring my bestie on. Yes.
49:33
Yeah, I love it. I love that you guys are working together. So.
49:37
All right, you have a wonderful evening, everyone. And until next time.
49:41
Okay,
49:49
bye.