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Season 3 - Episode 95 - How do you define yourself? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop and I am in the
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  chicken coop today. Rain, rain, rain, rain and more
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  rain. So we are inside and it's really
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  actually nice in here with the sound on the metal roof.
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  It's pretty cool. Anyway, today we are talking
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  about how you define yourself. This is always a fascinating
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  question to ask somebody, or even yourself for that matter,
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  because most of the time we don't think about defining
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  ourselves. We just think about, you know,
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  what we have to do and the chores of the day and what has
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  to get done. And we rarely take the time to
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  pause and say, wait, how do I define myself?
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  Because we have so many different areas of ourselves.
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  Most of us have relationships, whether we're children to
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  somebody or we're parents to somebody or we're grandchildren
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  to somebody. We're partners, we're wives,
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  we're husbands, we're, you know, an employee, a business owner, a
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  leader. All these different roles
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  actually are used in the definitions of ourselves.
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  But I'm not just talking about the big role portion of this.
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  I'm talking about the humanness of you.
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  How do you define the humanness of yourself when you get down to
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  it, the phrases I am, whatever that I am might be.
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  I am creative. I am loving.
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  I am, you know, abundant. How do you think of yourself?
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  How do you define yourself? And typically, this isn't
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  something that anyone teaches you.
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  This isn't something that you sit there in school and you say,
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  OK, I'm going to figure out how now, how I define myself, what
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  happens. It is it comes out in the
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  moments. I am frustrated, I am sad, I am
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  overwhelmed. We use that phrase so readily
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  when it comes to certain things, but not typically the healthy
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  things. It usually shows up with the
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  unhealthy aspects of stuff, and before you know it, we're in a
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  place where we are actually really like embedding this into
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  our subconscious that this is who we are.
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  I I am broke. I am out of money.
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  I am whatever language you want to use on it.
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  Lots of times this shows up with money.
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  So it's important to pay attention to that piece because
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  it's a very sensitive spot as you've heard me mention before.
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  But this I am phrase tends to show up in the negatives and you
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  know, I am out of, I'm out of ideas, I'm starving, I love that
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  one. When people say that I'm
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  starving, I'm not starving, we're hungry.
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  It's that simple. But we always over exaggerate
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  and then we put ourselves in this place of lack.
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  And once you start that again, the phrase I am many teachers
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  will talk about the fact, especially especially if you're
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  in in, you know, religious teachers or spiritual teachers.
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  The I am phrase is the closest phrase that you can use to the
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  holy ground, if you will, because it's talking directly
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  and at to whatever you might believe, to God, to the
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  universe, and it speaks to how you view yourself in the world.
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  So when you start using it, and you use it haphazardly, it is a
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  dangerous, dangerous pond of thin ice, my friends.
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  So the first step in this is asking yourself, well, how do I
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  define myself? Grab a piece of paper, sit down
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  and start to ask yourself, well, what else?
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  What are the other things you you'll start, you'll get a few
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  off that your head right away. Like was when I start mine, one
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  of the very first things that comes up for me is I'm creative.
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  It's part of my identity that I developed early on in my life.
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  And I am very, very blessed that I had a grandmother who really,
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  like, poured into that part of me and talked about it all the
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  time. Any time I drew something for
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  her or any time I painted something, she would always say,
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  Oh my gosh, you're so creative. You're so creative.
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  You're so creative. So I believed her.
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  And it was fortunate for me that she was putting in something
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  really wonderful because very easily she could have been
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  putting in something not so wonderful, You know, And that
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  happens all the time. You know, it happens all the
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  time where somebody doesn't realize what they're doing, you
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  know and boom, before you know it, what their view of you
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  becomes your belief and your I am's.
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  But when you sit down and you start asking the question, who
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  am I? How do you define yourself
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  across the board? I am organized.
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  I am full of love. I'm kind.
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  I share readily with my friends. These definitions are the road
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  map to defining yourself, yes, but redefining yourself?
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  Really. So if there are things on there
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  that you don't feel are accurate about yourself, when you look
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  back at the list and you say, well, you know, I I I am like,
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  especially around the negative ones.
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  If you look back and you say, well, this is here, but I don't
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  want this to be here, you can redefine this, but you've got to
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  be honest with yourself when you start to write the list.
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  So the first thing you're going to notice is you'll come up with
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  a few right away. And they may be positive, they
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  may be negative, they may be a mix, mix, mix of both.
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  But it's not important that you sit there and say, OK, these are
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  negative, these are positive. What's important is that you
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  nail the list down and get that first wave, then there'll be a
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  second wave. So I suggest what you do is you
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  kind of keep it out. That's really loud right now
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  because he's right above my head.
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  You get you the second list will show up, or the second part of
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  the list, and it will flow out of you over the course,
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  typically of 24 to 48 hours, where you'll start to get more
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  and more clarity. You'll have more and more things
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  that pour out of you. You'll have a thought and write
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  it down. You'll have a thought and write
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  it down. So some people find that doing
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  this on paper with a pencil is great.
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  Some people will keep notes on their phone.
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  But whatever. Whichever way you decide to do
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  it, allow yourself enough time to get a full list of things and
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  a full identity that you know you feel is pretty accurate of
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  how you see yourself currently. Then you can go back and say
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  which ones of these do I want to keep, and which ones of these do
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  I want to reshape. And the reshaping process is
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  simply taking those negatives, moving them off the list, or
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  rewriting them, in other words. So if you think I'm poor, I'm
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  broke. If that's on your list, a
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  positive would be I'm abundant, I have more than enough money.
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  I'm a money magnet. You can start doing the flip the
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  opposite. Will these feel right in the
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  beginning? No.
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  But this is part of the re identification that you're going
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  through, the redefining if you will.
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  So you just have to be patient with yourself and start the
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  process off. So right now that's what you're
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  going to focus on. That's what you're going to do.
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  And I hope you guys have a fabulous day defining who am I.
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  I'll see you guys tomorrow. Bye.