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Season 4 - Episode 268 - Is the darkness a bad thing? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey. Everybody good.
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  Morning from the very, very, very dark sky and dark farm.
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  Get to see all the stars and you can hear the rooster off in the
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  distance. And when I was a kid, we're
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  shooting this in the dark because there's a point when I
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  was a kid, I was terrified of the dark, terrified of it.
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  Like could not handle darkness at all.
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  Didn't like it. Had to have a night light in my
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  room, had to have a night light in the hallway, had to have a
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  night light in the bathroom. And still to this day inside my
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  house, I have Night Lights, not for the same reason, but I still
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  have Night Lights. And this, this fear of darkness,
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  no one ever addressed it with me.
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  They just always would say, oh, it's OK, there's nothing there.
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  But no one ever addressed it with me as to what was
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  happening. Now, obviously move forward to
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  where I am now. And I can tell you that it's all
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  based around my certainty, girl driving my bus and how I, I
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  don't like to not know things. So in the dark, you don't know
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  what's in front of you. You don't see it.
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  And many years ago I saw this quote and I've saved it.
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  In fact, I just posted it I think yesterday or the day
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  before up onto Instagram that sometimes you know when you're
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  planted in the darkness, when you're in the darkness, you feel
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  planted and then all of a sudden, you know, you bloom and
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  I and that just I love that theory.
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  I love that concept because the truth is there is a high chance
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  that when you're afraid of something, when you're moving
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  into something, that it's not just your fault for having out
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  of control emotions. It's part of our wiring.
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  We can't help it as human beings.
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  That core system of our brain and our fight or flight syndrome
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  is built around the amygdala having this survival.
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  And so darkness meant fear. Darkness actually at its core
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  was fearful when there was no lights.
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  And if you think back about this, it's it's just absolutely
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  profound to me that yes, I was operating off of a very core
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  system as a very little kid. And because no one could explain
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  it to me or no one thought to explain it to me, I would just
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  be like, oh, this is just silly. You're fine, there's nothing to
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  worry about. You know, whatever it was that
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  they were saying, it wasn't enough for me.
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  I couldn't comprehend what was actually going on.
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  So therefore I got scared all the time.
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  Not to mention, you know, the scary, you always have the
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  scariest when you're a kid because you're little and you
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  feel very vulnerable. And I think again, that survival
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  mechanism, it always comes back to, am I in a survival state?
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  And my clients who I work with regularly know, I'll say, well,
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  is that threat real or perceived?
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  Because if it's perceived, then you know it's operate operating
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  off of an automatic system that's running in your head.
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  And if it's real, then move your ass and do something about it.
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  But in the most of the time it is perceived threat.
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  So we start off right away at a deficit because we're up against
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  that part of our brain that we need to recondition to move
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  around it. And it's hard.
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  So coming and making friends with the darkness over the years
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  has been a thing for me where I will make sure that I am doing
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  that, making friends with the darkness.
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  How do I do it? Well, I come out and I look at
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  the things that are great. I let my eyes adjust.
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  I look up at the stars, which are astoundingly beautiful
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  tonight, Like they are so beautiful.
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  It's, I mean, well, it's this morning now, but it still looks
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  like night and they're, they're just so bright.
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  It's stunning. I couldn't see that.
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  If I refused to put the darkness in some form in my life, I would
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  just miss it. I would just miss the whole
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  thing. So I can look at that.
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  Hearing all the frogs, hearing all the creatures again, That's
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  something that doesn't happen during the day.
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  I can't hear that bullfrog. You can hear him off in the
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  distance. He was just going, now you shut
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  up, but you can hear him off in the distance and there he is
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  right in the pond. And I, I wouldn't hear him if in
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  fact it was daylight and you can hear him talking to another
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  frog. It's so cool.
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  But in the daytime they're silent.
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  So I can find things that are good about the night time.
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  I can find things that I like about the night time.
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  And that's what we have to do when we're in that state of
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  being in the darkness. We have to find things that are
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  good for us to know. We have to find those little
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  things like when we don't know something, we have to say, OK,
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  this is an opportunity to learn when we have to let you know.
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  That's just how I feel about doing all the video stuff.
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  I have to learn. So it's one step at a time, one
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  thing at a time, not to overwhelm ourselves, but just to
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  be like, OK, I'm going to chip away at this.
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  But there are gifts in the darkness in being planted
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  because it gives you an opportunity to bloom.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.