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I AM LONELY (Autism Loneliness) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Guys, what is up and feel talking about autism and
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  loneliness and it's just something that's just I don't
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  know. I just want to do this video.
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  So we're in the middle of a global pandemic, right?
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  And I guess like nobody can see their friends and hey, guys,
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  look, if you're new around here and this is the first video
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  just like, This one guys. So we're in middle of global
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  pandemic, which is one thing, right?
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  And I was having a conversation with my girlfriend yesterday
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  about loneliness or so the conversation went like this.
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  I was basically sitting there talking to my, my partner about
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  her talking to her friends about stuff.
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  You know, she gets stressed or has issues and stuff, she talks
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  to her best friend and then I was like well I don't you know
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  my best friend is my cousin and I love him dearly but he's like
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  we hang out. Skateboard.
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  You know, we shoot the chat and that's pretty much it, you know.
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  But then she was saying that, you know, she talks to her best
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  friend about things that are really, you know, but maybe
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  personal, you know, the things are personal and so that I
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  thought something was up when I don't have anybody that I can
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  talk to you about stuff that's personal right.
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  Which is like crazy because I have so many acquaintances, I
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  have like I don't know about 7 to 10 really good friends.
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  But never once would I ever consider talking to those people
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  about? Matters of personal issues that
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  like my girlfriend or talks her best friends about.
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  So then I started thinking to myself, like I feel really
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  lonely like I feel really alone and it's not just because you
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  know, we're in a group global pandemic.
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  It's not just because we're not allowed to see anybody and
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  anything like that. And it's more to do the fact
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  that how I communicate with my friends.
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  Really is a struggle to me now. Me and my friends, we talk about
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  things like, you know, talk about like I don't know, I'm
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  really into like craft soda pop so I took while soda pop their
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  into craft beer and soda pops up.
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  Kind of talk about hipster stuff like that.
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  And then we talked about like memes and jokes.
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  And people who live in our town, just things like that in the
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  looks, just funny things that like, we laugh about.
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  But then also, you know, that there's a serious side with one
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  of our friends, in our, in our WhatsApp group, he had covid.
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  So I was helping him out and and directing him which, you know,
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  nutrients to take and things to help battle the virus, but we'd
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  never get to a personal level, like, you know, you know what,
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  our kids, you know, stress with our kids or stress with our Our
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  partners or, you know, him and his wife have enough time or,
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  you know, of me and my partner had a rough time.
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  We never really talked about those lines and so I said to my
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  girlfriend, I said, well, I don't have anybody, I can talk
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  to and I feel really lonely and she said that maybe there's a
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  possibility that I am asking too much of a friendship in my mind.
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  Maybe I'm thinking, like, you know, and what I mean by this is
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  because I've never said to them, hey, you know, this is a
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  personal issue of mine can. You guys about it because I've
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  never done that. I don't know how they'll react.
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  So she thinks that maybe I'm thinking too much about it.
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  Maybe she's thinking, I think that they'll ask me, you know,
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  hey, what's going on your personal life before, you know,
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  anything comes up like that to help me feel less alone.
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  I mean, which is I know the sounds okay.
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  It's a very complex issue to try and talk about.
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  I'm really trying my best to relay this in the best way I
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  can. Other side note guys, I just
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  of her testimonial here. Hello, I'm dr.
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  Pathologist, I was fortunate enough to take Dan's inside,
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  of autism for over 10 years. And I, you know, I think I know
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  the people I work with, because I'm able to use his words and
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  Okay? So then it got me thinking I was
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  like, wow, I really don't feel comfortable talking to anybody
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  about things that are personal about things in my life.
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  And then I start thinking about all the years, I've had friends,
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  I've never spoke to any friend about things are personal my
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  life ever. And it may come from a an issue
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  where autism leaves people with an issue with closeness of
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  connection through communication.
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  So I'm not really close to my parents and I respect my parents
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  when I was Growing up about, you know, girlfriends or people I
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  fancied or things like that, you know.
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  And and telling my parents that we were expecting a baby was
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  quite an interesting concept because I never had a closeness
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  with them. So I just kind of just had some
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  kind of in passing, you know. And, and it was quite difficult
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  and things like that. I always find extremely
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  difficult, you know, explaining to people who I love how much
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  they mean to me and telling them that I love them is a difficult
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  task. I find it really difficult to
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  really add an object. Connect with people, talk to
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  will be completely open with people about things like that.
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  I found it really difficult. No, I want to do.
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  Do you get this issue? I don't know.
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  I wanted to this video, I know it's kind of a loose base video.
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  It's a bit all over the place. I'm sorry.
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  But I wanted to this video because I don't know if this is
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  typical of people on the Spectrum, let me know in the
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  comments down below. How you feel about this because,
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  you know, I want to know. Do you feel those issues to are?
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  You dealing with those as well? Like, is it something that is
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  just so apparent that it causes all these issues in my life?
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  Life. But the product, the outcome of
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  this, if you will, is that I feel lonely, you know, and I
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  feel quite isolated, I feel like I have friends, but they're more
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  like acquaintances. I feel like I don't have
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  anybody, who is personally invested in me, you know, like
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  people who are like really invested in people because I
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  feel like people are invested in their friends where they will do
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  anything for them to look out for them, which is cool, which
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  is awesome. And I do have friends like that,
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  but people who really understand what's going on in your life is
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  quite difficult to come across sometimes and this is definitely
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  thing that I find really difficult to find people who
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  know, you know, you inside out and do all the things that you
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  may struggle with on a personal deep level I guess you guys here
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  in my, you know, awesome, community on my social media are
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  the closest things, I have two real good friends because I talk
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  to you guys quite openly about how I feel about things, you
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  know, this conversation I'm having right now, like I did a
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  video talking about my childhood growing up with autism and I've
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  never spoken my parents about that, you know, and I find it
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  bizarre when I see people who are really comfortable explains
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  their parents about stuff like, you know, say, Sex and
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  relationships and things like that.
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  I don't know. I just find it really bizarre
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  but I want to do this video because if I don't add the fact
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  that I feel lonely, then I have the potential to become more
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  lonely if you know what I mean. So I feel like if you have
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  something to share and you want to join in with this kind of
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  like help thing of a going on and just pop in a comment.
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  I love to talk to every single one of you guys.
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  So, pop in a comment down below, or you can reach me on like,
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  Twitter and Instagram and Facebook at I read all the DM's.
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  So yeah, that'd be super do. Nope, I'll speak to you guys in
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  the next video. Peace.
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