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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: Awe and Discipline 5.14.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  In this idea of this chapter of you that had fear of sin, which
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  sounds like a tough and serious chapter, but the overall theme
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  is this concept that we absorb that Hashem is fully involved in
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  everything and because of that we're at all.
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  And the more we're at all, the more we are afraid and we are
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  fearful of doing the wrong thing just because you don't want to
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  do the wrong thing because we don't want to sin.
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  We don't want to make a mistake and gathered by Hashem, whether
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  it be he brings all examples. There's embarrassment and
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  there's a sense of I'm not living up to what I can live up
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  to with the awareness that I have.
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  I agree on shamis. That's what happens.
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  I'll be I'll be from 483 and on. I'll be showers him as a minute.
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  I'll be delicate enough where a person is in this type of
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  mindset when he realizes I agree on Shamis and the situation of
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  sin comes in front of him and he has he has a temptation to do
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  with sin whom I care about should have it and he realizes
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  wrong. She has all melasata.
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  He's not going to do it in the mana Shalaya said about Lambrot
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  and Nick Vodor Hanslon. He doesn't want to do something
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  bare in the eyes of God just because he is so wowed and so
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  awe of the Davis of he's always afraid I might be doing this
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  wrong. You know people.
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  It's very similar actually, people who are very big
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  warriors, very nervous people after they make a mistake.
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  Oh my gosh, should I do this? Can I do that?
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  I do the other thing that's natural when someone has yah
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  shamim, that's a spiritual idea. It says same, look, a person is
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  nervous, then I make a mistake. You won't hear from a
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  conversation, never have this. You won't hear from a
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  conversation. Like should I have said that or
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  should I not have said that? And there's that sense of doubt
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  and a sense of maybe a little nervousness, not because you're
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  getting punished sometimes because you're afraid of having
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  such a wrong thing to the person that made them feel bad, even
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  what they're going to think in the eyes of the world of
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  Iratyamayan, the idea is you don't want to have done that
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  because of God. That's the goal.
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  The goal of Iratyamayan is, is that I have such a strong sense
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  of his existence. I can be conscious.
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  I have my own. I have my own compass that makes
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  you do the right thing. And I want to do the wrong
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  thing. And I look after my actions and
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  say I feel guilty and anybody has something wrong, not because
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  I'm overly nervous, but rather because I'm overly clear on how
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  great Hashem is and how much he's existed.
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  That's the idea. People love to say, you know,
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  Hashem is great, Hashem is powerful, but he loves me, so
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  because of that I'm good. No, the idea of how Shamayim is,
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  he's great, He's powerful, He loves you.
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  That's true. But at the same time, he's very
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  much present, and I think he's very present.
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  I should not be doing anything that he would disapprove of.
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  The same way a child would be scared to do something wrong in
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  front of their parents. Even something that they think
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  is not so bad, but they know that parent doesn't approve.
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  They'll be nervous to say so. The same thing is true.
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  You're not Shamayim, the real version, yes.
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  You're afraid of doing something wrong in the eyes of your
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  parent, in the eyes of a God. That's how it is.
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  Shaloh, you get to this degree you don't want to have in your
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  actions even parts all you've done that God doesn't approve of
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  Muhammad and Hamap Shia relative slut on Muhammad Alam.
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  You don't want to space out and therefore make a mistake.
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  You don't want to ignore something important and make a
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  mistake. All these things that you think
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  about and say I want to do things right.
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  That all comes from real strong clear your ashram.
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  Yeah, but there's a direction here in any scenario, whether
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  it'll be in your conversations, in your tiffila, in your
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  learning, in your thoughts, all that consciousness, all
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  consciousness idea being a Azen, Neymar, Ashley, Adam, the Fahed
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  Tamit Praiseworthy is the person who's always nervous.
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  Now this doesn't sound good. We're anti nervous today.
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  Mental health, OCB nervousness, all that is correct.
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  We are anti nervous. We are anti.
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  We don't want OCD, We don't. We want a strong mental health,
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  but this is coming from a strong point.
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  It's not coming from a person who has certain levels of fear
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  and nipple weakness. It's kind of a person who has
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  certain levels of strength and understanding and therefore he
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  wants to do things right. I don't know if you saw any of
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  these videos. If you see the videos of China,
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  Trump and Chinese to the videos I watched last night when these
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  videos were sent out of him, you know the of the soldiers
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  standing in line when the 2 presidents, president of America
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  and president of China walk by. And if you watch a video, it's
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  wild. These people are standing
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  perfect. I don't think any one of them is
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  allowed to have more weight than the other guy.
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  Otherwise they do. They're standing perfect,
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  perfectly in line. My wife is convinced that's AI.
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  She thinks they're robots. There's no way.
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  I saw them on the trade show once, standing there.
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  I went to go touch it and then there was a guy.
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  Yeah, exactly. And look, look freaky.
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  And they're holding their guns perfect.
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  And as the presidents walk by, these men turn and it literally,
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  and it watch it, it's wild. They turn, synchronize to
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  perfection. They all look the same,
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  obviously. And that might sound like a
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  little bit bigotry, but they continue walking and right, and
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  they walk and they turn. And as they walk perfect, it's
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  so synchronized. What is that?
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  What is it? What is great training?
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  I'm sure it is unbelievable level of discipline.
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  Discipline. True.
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  You know, it really is fear for their life.
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  I said to this, they're afraid. Who knows what their trainers
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  say? They're afraid.
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  They're right. This is their moment.
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  And then they have kids. This is a classic that kids that
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  are cheering on and these are our really, you know, we have
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  kids, thank God. And my kids would never be that
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  perfect. And these kids are yelling and
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  screaming, waving their flags to perfection.
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  It looks like a joy, it looks like a joke, and I really is.
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  I say you fear for life. I'm only joking.
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  What I mean is the sense of strong discipline in that
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  country because of that sense of fear.
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  It is true to that degree because of that sense of all and
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  fear in the whole thing built the suite.
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  Our concept of Hashem is God exists and He very much exists.
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  And I noticed Him yesterday. I noticed the day before.
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  I'm noticing Him and everything in the world.
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  I've been mentioned, I'm noticing business, I'm seeing
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  everywhere and because of that I want to do what's right in his
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  eyes. Not because I'm overly nervous,
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  worried and I have a worry nature.
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  No, it's because I sense him and he wants things done a certain
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  way and I would love to be the one to follow that lead and I
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  don't want to be the one who does the opposite.
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  What sense it means is that the thickness of fear and awe that
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  shouldn't be around us will guide us to do the right thing.
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  If you say I want only love, you do only love.
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  But you also want something keeping you in checked,
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  something that creates discipline.
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  And a Jew is best, is at his best when he has appreciation of
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  ushion and he has awe of ushion. Those two of the things combine.
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  Putting in the right position. Appreciation alone will not hold
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  you back from doing something wrong.
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  It'll motivate you to do something right, but it will
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  hold you back when there's something wrong.
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  But the awe, the sense of power, of wow and greatness and
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  almighty that'll hold you back or doing anything wrong with
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  these days. If I don't want to cross that
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  Shim, I don't want to do the wrong thing.
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  Forget punishment. I don't think about punishment.
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  I just think about the fact that he's so mighty, He's so
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  powerful, and therefore I want to do things right.
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  And that's something that's very difficult to internalize because
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  our wiring today in the modern day fights this way of thinking
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  for two reasons. Number one, whenever we talk
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  about Hashem, it's about love, right?
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  Well, it is because it hits our heart and it's cozy #2 we don't
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  like fear. We don't allow fear to be in the
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  institutions anymore with schools.
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  We don't allow fear to be in the homes.
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  When it comes to that sort of discipline, we just don't like
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  fear. It's not good.
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  And the reason we don't like fear, there's a reason for it.
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  It's true. And because sadly, there's so
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  many people who are fighting different issues and a lot of
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  them are fighting their own fears.
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  It's a mental health issues that are across the board and it's a
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  real world. And the reality is, is that you
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  don't want fear to be part of the system for young people.
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  You don't want fear to be part of the system for unhealthy
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  older people. But our adults, we do want for
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  strong people, a sense of all, a sense of yes, even here based on
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  oil, to be a part of our mechanism, part of our wiring
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  and a part that makes us a better Jew.
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  And we don't have it that we are lacking discipline.
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  If you're lacking discipline and you might be rah rah, I love
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  Hashem, I love everything, but you might also be rah rah, I
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  love Hashem, I do whatever I want, but I'll also say I love
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  Hashem in the process. That's not much.
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  You need to have the guidance, the compass, discipline, the
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  holding back. The strength of a Jew is defying
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  the Ansar al, not just pushing yourself forward.
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  Also find the Ansar al to say no to things.
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  The power that's saying no is a great, great power that makes us
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  and displays out of discipline. You can't get to it without, you
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  know, you can't get to the idea of saying no just by being a
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  person that says yes, yes, yes to the good things.
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  That will not be a person automatically that says no to
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  the bad things. You need a part of you that
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  closes the bad things off and that is fear and that is overall
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  awe. What's going to make you a
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  disciplined person? A sense of power of Hashem, not
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  just a sense of love, invention. You need that power.
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  Literally. You can be a perfect as a Jew,
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  as those soldiers were in that video.
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  Watch it and laugh because it seems fake.
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  But really what it is at its core, it's people being
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  disciplined. And we want discipline now.
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  Discipline hold people back. Discipline limits people.
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  Discipline has a lot of weaknesses, but the combination
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  of a Jew whose discipline is not coming from a bad place, from a
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  terrified place, it's coming from an all place.
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  If you have that discipline and you have that strength to say
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  I'm not going to do the wrong thing because God doesn't want
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  it, you're a better person. You're a stronger person, you're
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  a more guided person, You're on the best track.
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  Combine the role without that, you're in trouble.
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  This is the idea I should I down to the head to meet
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  praiseworthy. This person is always afraid.
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  We hate fear. No, Praiseworthy is a person who
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  has the right kind of fear. In other words, there's a major
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  place in our world for discipline.
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  It might have changed how it was brought out and might have
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  changed its sources. Or that might be true.
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  By the end of the day, you cannot do away with discipline
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  because if you do, you're doing away with guidance, you're doing
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  away with a track, you're doing away with clarity.
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  You're removing, excuse me, all the great things that make up
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  who we are, makeup, when it holds us back, when doing this
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  in the role, you're going to lose all that.
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  If you're with discipline, if you have discipline and you have
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  the ability to avoid mistakes, nothing's not here.
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  Over and over and over again. It's not here.
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  It's not like this.