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Voddie Baucham - This is How Youth Groups Can Undermine Parental Authority · Voddie Baucham Sermons

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  Speaker 1: Ephesians chapter six, verses one through four. I want to
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  Speaker 1: show you from the scripture, the centrality of the home
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  Speaker 1: in the evangelism and discipleship of the next generation. The
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  Speaker 1: centrality of the home and the evangelism and discipleship of
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  Speaker 1: the next generation. God has a plan for multi-generational faithfulness.
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  Speaker 1: That plan is the family. unfortunately, many of the things
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  Speaker 1: that we currently involve ourselves in actually work against God's
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  Speaker 1: plan of the family. And so currently, what we're doing is,
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  Speaker 1: we're actually, this is, let me give you, for example,
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  Speaker 1: when I say that what we're doing is unbiblical, let
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  Speaker 1: me give you what we say is the goal of
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  Speaker 1: many of our youth ministries. What we say is this,
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  Speaker 1: the youth ministry at so-and-so Baptist church exists to evangelize teenagers,
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  Speaker 1: to disciple them, and to equip them to go and
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  Speaker 1: evangelize other teenagers. Two problems with that. Number one, nine
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  Speaker 1: times out of ten, we never mention parents. And number two,
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  Speaker 1: not your job. Whose job is it to evangelize my children?
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  Speaker 1: The church? No, it's mine. Whose job is it to
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  Speaker 1: disciple my children? The church? No, it's mine. Which means
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  Speaker 1: that at best, any youth ministry that's going to exist
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  Speaker 1: at all had better have a mission statement that says,
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  Speaker 1: we exist to equip and assist parents as they do
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  Speaker 1: what God called them to do and not the church.
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  Speaker 1: It's one thing for me to make that statement. But
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  Speaker 1: I don't want you to just take my word for it.
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  Speaker 1: Ephesians chapter 6, verses 1 through 4. But trust me,
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  Speaker 1: you needed to know all of that. Children, obey your
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  Speaker 1: parents and the Lord, for this is right. Honor your
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  Speaker 1: father and your mother, which is the first commandment of
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  Speaker 1: the promise, that it may be well with you and
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  Speaker 1: that you may live long on the earth. Fathers, do
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  Speaker 1: not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up
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  Speaker 1: in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. The centrality
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  Speaker 1: of the home in the evangelism and discipleship of the
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  Speaker 1: next generation. the centrality of the home that please note
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  Speaker 1: there's a difference because what's happening now is people are
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  Speaker 1: looking at the data and a lot of our youth
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  Speaker 1: ministry programs are now moving toward ministry youth and their
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  Speaker 1: families and so we were saying the kids are ours
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  Speaker 1: and it's our job to evangelize them our job to
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  Speaker 1: disciple them and our job to mobilize them now we
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  Speaker 1: say it's still our job but we want parents to
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  Speaker 1: help us that's still the wrong answer Well, brother, but
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  Speaker 1: you don't understand. These families out there, they're not doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Isn't that interesting? For 30 years, here's what we've been
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  Speaker 1: telling them. We're trained professionals. Please don't try this at home.
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  Speaker 1: You don't understand your kids. Your kids don't like you.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me. Just drop them off now. And now we're
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  Speaker 1: mad because they're doing what we've taught them to do
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  Speaker 1: for 30 years. All right, I'm going to get to
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  Speaker 1: this text. Come on. Three things. demonstrate the centrality of
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  Speaker 1: the home in this process of evangelizing and discipling the
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  Speaker 1: next generation. First, the context of that first verse. Children,
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  Speaker 1: obey your parents and the Lord, for this is right. Now,
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  Speaker 1: in order to understand the context of that verse, you've
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  Speaker 1: got to back up to the paragraph before it. You
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  Speaker 1: back up to the paragraph before it, and you start
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  Speaker 1: with husbands, love your wives as Christ also loved the church.
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  Speaker 1: But the problem with that is, you get there, you've
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  Speaker 1: got to back up the paragraph before that one to
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  Speaker 1: see the context of this section. Wives, be subject to
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  Speaker 1: your own husbands as to the Lord. The problem with
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  Speaker 1: that is that it is the beginning of the section,
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  Speaker 1: but it's got no verb. I know what you're saying.
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  Speaker 1: We got a verb right there. Be subject. Isn't that
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  Speaker 1: the verb? It ought to be italicized in your Bible.
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  Speaker 1: The reason it's italicized is because it's borrowed from verse 21.
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  Speaker 1: In the Greek, there's no verb there in verse 22.
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  Speaker 1: So it's borrowed from verse 21. Problem with starting with
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  Speaker 1: verse 21? If you start with verse 21, you start
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  Speaker 1: at the end of a paragraph. And you can't do that.
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  Speaker 1: So in order to understand the context of Ephesians chapter six,
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  Speaker 1: verse one, you got to go all the way back
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  Speaker 1: to Ephesians chapter five and verse 15. Trust me, we're
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  Speaker 1: going somewhere. When you back up to Ephesians chapter five
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  Speaker 1: and verse 15, here's what you get. You get three
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  Speaker 1: contrasts and then you get three commands and then you
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  Speaker 1: get three contexts. All right. Three contrasts. Let's look at them.
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  Speaker 1: Beginning verse 15. Therefore be careful how you walk, not
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  Speaker 1: as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of
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  Speaker 1: your time, because the days are evil. That's contrast number one.
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  Speaker 1: Contrast number two, next verse. So then do not be foolish,
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  Speaker 1: but understand what the will of the Lord is. That's
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  Speaker 1: the second contrast. Don't be foolish, understand the Lord's will.
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  Speaker 1: Third contrast. Do not get drunk with wine, for that
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  Speaker 1: is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit. On the
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  Speaker 1: third contrast, you get three commands. Those three commands are
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  Speaker 1: connected to the third contrast. Look at what he says,
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  Speaker 1: beginning of verse 19. How do you know if somebody's
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  Speaker 1: living a spirit-filled life? Verse 19, speaking to one another
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  Speaker 1: with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing and making melody
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  Speaker 1: in your hearts to the Lord. If you show me
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  Speaker 1: a worshipful person, I'll show you a person who's more
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  Speaker 1: than likely being controlled by the Spirit of God. Show
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  Speaker 1: me a person who's not a worshipful person, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: show you somebody who more than likely is not being
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  Speaker 1: controlled and is not yielding to the Spirit of God.
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  Speaker 1: You can't tell me that somebody is spirit-filled and they're
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  Speaker 1: not worshipful. The two just don't go together. Fair enough?
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  Speaker 1: Look at the next verse. Here's the next command, verse 20.
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  Speaker 1: Always giving thanks for all things in the name of
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  Speaker 1: our Lord Jesus Christ, to God, even the Father. So
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  Speaker 1: you're a worshipful person. Secondly, you're prayerfully thankful. Prayerfully thankful.
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  Speaker 1: Show me somebody who's prayerfully thankful, and I'll show you
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  Speaker 1: somebody who's probably being controlled by the Spirit of God.
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  Speaker 1: Show me somebody who is neither prayerful nor thankful, and
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  Speaker 1: I'll show you somebody who's not Spirit-filled. Fair enough? Those
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  Speaker 1: were easy. Verse 21. Be subject to one another in
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  Speaker 1: the fear of Christ. Show me somebody who submits to
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  Speaker 1: proper biblical authority in their life, and I'll show you
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  Speaker 1: somebody who is spirit-filled. Show me somebody who does not
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  Speaker 1: submit to proper biblical authority in their life, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: show you somebody who's not spirit-filled. Now, go to chapter
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  Speaker 1: 6 and verse 1 and look at it in context. Children,
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  Speaker 1: obey your parents and the Lord, for this is right.
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  Speaker 1: In other words, three contrasts, three commands. On the third command,
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  Speaker 1: you get three contexts. Context number one, wives and husbands.
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  Speaker 1: Context number two, children and parents. Context number three, servants
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  Speaker 1: and masters. And here's what he's saying in verse one.
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  Speaker 1: Show me a child who is not submissive to their
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  Speaker 1: parents' authority, and I'll show you a child who's not
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  Speaker 1: yielded to the Spirit of God. Which means if we
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  Speaker 1: want to lead children toward being Spirit-filled, we don't lead
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  Speaker 1: them toward the youth pastor, we lead them toward mom
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  Speaker 1: and dad. Because the measure of their yielding to the
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  Speaker 1: Spirit of God is whether or not when their parents
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  Speaker 1: say something, they do what they're told, when they're told,
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  Speaker 1: and with a respectful attitude. That's what obedience is. So
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  Speaker 1: number one, we see the centrality of the home in
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  Speaker 1: the context here. He says, you want to take the
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  Speaker 1: spiritual temperature of a young person. You take the spiritual
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  Speaker 1: temperature of a young person by whether or not they
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  Speaker 1: are submissive to the authority of their parents. That's the
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  Speaker 1: authority in their life. That's the spiritual authority in their life.
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  Speaker 1: The spiritual authority in my child's life is me. The
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  Speaker 1: spiritual authority in your child's life is you, which means
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  Speaker 1: anything that the church does. I better not rob spiritual
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  Speaker 1: authority from mom and dad.