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How To Tell Your Family You Are Autistic (3 Top Strategies) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So how do you tell your family and friends that you're
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  artistic? Difficult, huh?
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  Here are three top strategies coming up.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism, ADHD, OCD, and
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  dyslexia, and I make weekly videos all about this subject.
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  So guys, what is going on? Welcome back.
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  We're the place where we think differently daily.
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  All right, so I have been asked this question.
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  So how many times, like I probably this is probably the
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  most asked question I have ever been asked on comments.
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  This is how to tell your family you are autistic, right?
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  How do you tell your family you're autistic?
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  Now it's an interesting one because this is the first thing
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  I did. As soon as I was diagnosed with
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  autism, I came home and I told my family because it was
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  something that I felt was so important that they need to
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  know. So I have basically written down
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  3 strategies about explaining that you know how to tell them
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  you are autistic from the get go.
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  So if you are new around here and you haven't already, make
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  sure you can go check me out on Twitter.
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  I actually read every single tweet and I tweet you back every
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  single time. I'm Adm so if you want to reach
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  out to me on Instagram and Twitter, you can do.
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  It's just at the aspy world. So you can, yeah, give me a
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  follow and message me and I'll message you right back.
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  No problem. OK.
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  So let's go through these strategies.
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  So number one is explaining the process now.
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  By explaining the process of how you got your assessment and what
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  took place in it, it allows them to feel, feel part of the
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  journey and almost like they're there with you and this is good
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  for them to understand and connect with you when you need
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  it. And so by telling them how you
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  know the process you went through, the, the the
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  assessment, what happened, who was there, what it felt like,
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  what was the outcome, they kind of get a real sense of what it
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  is. You don't go home and say, hi,
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  I'm autistic, deal with it. You come home and you say like,
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  hey, I just been for the assessment and I did the thing
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  and then I was, you know what I mean?
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  It's like an ongoing process of a of a relationship that that
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  allows people into your world and allows them to understand
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  from your perspective what's going on.
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  That is key for them to understand and support you going
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  forward. Especially family and friends is
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  so, so important because they need to see the big picture.
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  They need to see the whole picture.
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  Because if they don't see the whole picture, how are they ever
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  going to be able to understand? You know, you needed the whole
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  picture, and to understand, so they do too.
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  OK, so #2 is research. Now, it's important to present
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  research to your family and the information that they're going
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  to need to have more info on the subject.
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  So basically when you're telling them about it, you've told them
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  the story, tell them how it came about.
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  But then they'll want to know, well, what is autism?
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  So what you should really do is get some information.
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  It research videos, videos like this one or something like that.
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  Again, some PDF information, maybe some books you can get
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  from the library and and hand them to them and just say like
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  hey, you know, this is extra research, extra reading.
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  So one of the things my parents did after I told them I was on
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  the autism spectrum is that they went and researched it for
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  themselves. I handed them some booklets and
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  stuff like that and so they could get a well-rounded, more
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  educated view on it, even though they kind of knew me inside out.
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  It was just nicer to know from a professional standpoint what
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  kind of all this meant. You know, OK, so #3 is the full
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  picture. Now try to your, you know,
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  trying your best explain to everyone in your family group as
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  if you you only have to explain to a small amount of people and
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  you you all the issues and and you know that you've come across
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  and tell them everything about the situation and given the full
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  picture. Like, you know, there's one
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  thing knowing the process you went through, there's another
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  thing reading the research. But if they don't know you and
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  your struggles and your issues and the things that you know you
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  you have struggles with and they're the people you're going
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  to to be around the whole time, then how are they supposed to
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  support you? You know, So it's it's more of a
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  more of a, hey, why don't we, you know, all knuckle down,
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  listen to what you know you have to say about your autism.
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  And then going forward they can support you and then they can
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  help you in certain situations because they know it.
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  They know the full picture. They know everything.
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  So if you have anything to add to this, please pop it in a
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  comment down below and I'll have a conversation because I read
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  every single comment. Also, guys, if you enjoyed this
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  it. I'll see you in the next one,
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  guys.