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My friend's wife SNUBBED me…over the gift I spent weeks on! -r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP3152 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 2: My friend's wife snubbed me. Over the gift I spent
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  Speaker 2: weeks on. Why didn't you like my gift? Hey, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Looking for some thoughts on if Hubby and I were
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  Speaker 2: a-holes last week. Because I've been getting some mixed feedback
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  Speaker 2: and Hubby was a bit embarrassed. So, last weekend, our
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  Speaker 2: friend and his wife threw a first birthday party for
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  Speaker 2: their son. Our friend's wife is a little difficult, to
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  Speaker 2: say the least, as a person. Not saying there's anything
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  Speaker 2: wrong with her approach to motherhood at all, but she's
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  Speaker 2: very organic, anti-plastic, and very specific about... what goes into
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  Speaker 2: their house. I don't really know what you'd call it,
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  Speaker 2: but they only have brand name baby things, clothes, toys, accessories,
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  Speaker 2: et cetera, that I guess are organic or handmade. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not yet a parent, so I don't know if there's
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  Speaker 2: a name for that. Anyways, leading up to the day,
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  Speaker 2: we weren't sure what to get their son. They had
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  Speaker 2: a registry, but everything on it was expensive. I tried
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  Speaker 2: to find some less pricey alternatives, but really couldn't find
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  Speaker 2: anything that was less than $ 100. Maybe I'm wrong here,
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  Speaker 2: but we just don't have the budget right now to
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  Speaker 2: spend that kind of money. So I decided I'd get
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  Speaker 2: mom and dad something instead. There's a really nice local
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  Speaker 2: store where I live, and I made them a little
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  Speaker 2: basket of all locally sourced and organic items. Think loose teas,
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  Speaker 2: bath salts, candles, honeys, and jams, and freshly made breads
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  Speaker 2: and other homemade organic goodies. My thought was their baby's
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  Speaker 2: turning a year old, and it was kind of a
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  Speaker 2: gift for mom and dad to have a nice home
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  Speaker 2: date morning or night. All locally sourced and organic, which
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  Speaker 2: is right up mom's alley. And it didn't break the
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  Speaker 2: bank account. By the way, this comes from Marybeth2018, and
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  Speaker 2: r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Savannah. I'm Zovia.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: And we're here to talk about some stuff, get some advice,
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  Speaker 2: but we don't have all of your answers. We're only
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  Speaker 2: going to tell you what we would do, but let
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  Speaker 2: us know what you would do down in the comments.
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  Speaker 2: About halfway through the party, they decided to pull everyone
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  Speaker 2: together to open all the gifts. I thought that was
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  Speaker 2: a little weird to stop a party and make everyone watch,
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  Speaker 2: but whatever. The wife's best friend helped them write down
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  Speaker 2: everything and who it's from. This goes on for well
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  Speaker 2: over an hour. And while we're watching, my husband turns
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  Speaker 2: to me and says, I think we messed up. Everyone
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  Speaker 2: got gifts off the registry or similar items. Example, toys
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  Speaker 2: for the baby. We were standing with another couple we're
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  Speaker 2: friends with and his wife, who also just had a baby, said, Oh,
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  Speaker 2: I think what you got is a lovely idea. That
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  Speaker 2: made us feel better. But when it came to our gift,
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  Speaker 2: it was open to a bit of confusion, not only
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  Speaker 2: from the couple, but from some of the people watching
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  Speaker 2: as well. One person said, I thought this was the
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  Speaker 2: baby's birthday. Okay, shut up.
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy to be like, I thought this was the
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  Speaker 4: baby's birthday.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, to call it out is weird. Baby can't drink that.
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  Speaker 2: Baby can't eat that.
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  Speaker 3: Baby can watch.
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  Speaker 2: Shut your mouth.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to show baby how to eat a charcuterie.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: In that moment, I'd be like, yeah, I just felt,
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  Speaker 4: you know, that we wanted to appreciate all the work
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  Speaker 4: that you guys' parents are doing.
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  Speaker 2: That's what you say. You go, well, I just wanted
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  Speaker 2: to appreciate your parents. It made us feel kind of bad,
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  Speaker 2: so while they were looking at everything and asked, I
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  Speaker 2: said we wanted to get mom and dad something. I
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  Speaker 2: felt worse having to explain that in front of everyone too.
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  Speaker 2: I'll also add, I did include that in the card.
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  Speaker 2: He paused and said, thank you. But it just felt
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  Speaker 2: incredibly awkward. Aside from the couple that said it was
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  Speaker 2: a lovely gift, a couple of our other friends who
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  Speaker 2: attended as well said that we missed the mark and
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  Speaker 2: really should have gotten something for the baby. As we
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  Speaker 2: were leaving and saying goodbye, our friend thanked us, but
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  Speaker 2: his wife snubbed me when I went to give her
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  Speaker 2: a hug and say goodbye and walked away. I get
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  Speaker 2: she was busy entertaining, but it made me feel even worse.
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  Speaker 2: On our drive home, hubby was saying that we really
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  Speaker 2: effed up the gif, but thought it was rude she
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  Speaker 2: did that as she gave him a hug goodbye. So,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, were we the a-holes here? I put
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  Speaker 2: a lot of thought into our gif, but felt like
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  Speaker 2: they specifically hurt. Didn't like it and I'm now questioning
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  Speaker 2: if we really missed the mark.
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  Speaker 6: Update.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 2: Holy guacamole. This blew up fast. I really didn't expect it,
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  Speaker 2: but thank you all. I really appreciated the kind words,
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  Speaker 2: especially from other moms because I've been feeling so crappy
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  Speaker 2: since then. And also thank you for future suggestions. We
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  Speaker 2: do have another first birthday coming up at the end
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  Speaker 2: of the summer. Since the comments have been coming in
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  Speaker 2: so hot, I thought I'd add a little bit of
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  Speaker 2: extra content below as I can't keep up with answering
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  Speaker 2: them individually. Gift opening at parties. We've only been to
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  Speaker 2: one other first birthday so far. And that one, the
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  Speaker 2: parents waited until the party was over to open presents
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  Speaker 2: and then sent out thank you cards. I totally get
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  Speaker 2: that at showers and older child parties, it's a thing,
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  Speaker 2: at least where I'm from in the U.S., to open
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  Speaker 2: presents in front of guests, but I guess I didn't
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  Speaker 2: expect it for this one. I know I only had
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  Speaker 2: one other party to compare to, but that's how I
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  Speaker 2: went in thinking based off of the previous one. The
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  Speaker 2: thought behind her gift. The wife has repeatedly told me
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  Speaker 2: about how she romanticizes her bath routine. When they first
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  Speaker 2: moved into their house, the first thing she did was
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  Speaker 2: renovate their master bath, because as per her, she'll have
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  Speaker 2: up to three baths a day that's too many baths.
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  Speaker 3: What is this ancient genuinely i feel.
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  Speaker 5: Like maybe she's depressed that's too many i wonder if
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  Speaker 5: she had a water birth or well no well i
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  Speaker 5: guess if she just you know if she just had
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  Speaker 5: a kid maybe she needs it but like three baths
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  Speaker 5: is too many baths i'm a huge bath person three
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  Speaker 5: baths is too many.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes as it's her favorite thing to do i'm sure
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  Speaker 2: that's changed a bit now due to having a baby
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  Speaker 2: she showed me her collection of bath essentials before as
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  Speaker 2: well and it's something to say the least She is
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  Speaker 2: also a huge tea drinker. One of her three bridal
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  Speaker 2: showers was a high tea. She had three? Why does
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  Speaker 2: she do everything in threes? Is she like the Holy Trinity?
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  Speaker 2: What's going on? And she collects tea sets. It's kind
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  Speaker 2: of a family thing. As well as herbal teas. So
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  Speaker 2: I thought some tea and a candle in a teacup
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  Speaker 2: would be cute. Lastly, honey was their wedding favor, which
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  Speaker 2: also had a meaning behind it. So I thought this
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  Speaker 2: little gift basket was really personal to them and tied
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  Speaker 2: back to their wedding. We also included a couple of
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  Speaker 2: other little items because, as the comments pointed out, she's
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  Speaker 2: a crunchy or almond mom. We also wrote that this
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  Speaker 2: was a gift for them in the card to celebrate
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  Speaker 2: a magical year celebrating their son's birthday. and also wrote
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  Speaker 2: him a little poem. I totally see where some people
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  Speaker 2: suggested this being a generic basket. I get it, as
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  Speaker 2: it's not necessarily up my alley either, but there was
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  Speaker 2: a lot of thought and meaning behind everything we put
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  Speaker 2: in it. Registry and baby something. Thank you to all
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  Speaker 2: that pointed out. We could have slid in a couple
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  Speaker 2: little things, like a book or a piggy bank, keeping
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  Speaker 2: those in mind for future. I'm not exaggerating at all, though,
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  Speaker 2: when I say that list was cha-ching. We got the
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  Speaker 2: registry when we got the invite about two months before
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  Speaker 2: and my jaw dropped when I saw some of the
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  Speaker 2: things on it. New strollers, brand new baby clothes. Gucci
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  Speaker 2: was actually on there.
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  Speaker 7: Insane.
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  Speaker 2: Gucci baby clothes. They're not that crunchy. They're not that
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  Speaker 2: crunchy if they have Gucci on there. Gucci baby clothes.
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  Speaker 2: Baby doesn't need Gucci. Baby does not need Gucci. It's
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  Speaker 2: going to wear it twice and then grow out of it.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy. Come on. Wooden activity play sets, an outdoor
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  Speaker 2: wooden jungle gym. Those little kid ATV things. Not granola,
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  Speaker 2: but I think that was dad's influence, etc. It was wild.
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  Speaker 2: So when I was trying to compare... It was kind
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  Speaker 2: of hard. That, and there was a list of brands
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  Speaker 2: and things they did not want, example stuffed animals. Avoiding
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  Speaker 2: future events slash gift grabby. We're definitely at that point
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  Speaker 2: with this couple, especially after how I felt during and
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  Speaker 2: leaving the party. I fully understand they've been in an
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  Speaker 2: exciting time in their life, but in the last two years,
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  Speaker 2: There's been a lot of showers for this couple. As mentioned,
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  Speaker 2: three bridal showers, I went to two. An engagement party,
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  Speaker 2: the wedding, which was a mini destination, in my opinion,
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  Speaker 2: due to the day and how far away it was.
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  Speaker 2: Three baby showers, only went to one.
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  Speaker 3: Too many baby showers?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they said that earlier.
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  Speaker 3: I know, but like... Three baby showers, too many baby showers.
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  Speaker 2: She takes three baths and she has three showers. Sometimes
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  Speaker 2: you do just kind of drift apart from people because
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  Speaker 2: they have wildly different lifestyles to you and they just
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  Speaker 2: don't even....
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  Speaker 4: Consider, you know, what you can and cannot do because
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  Speaker 4: they're so in their own world.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
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  Speaker 8: I sent my friend a cat photo, and she ended
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  Speaker 8: our friendship.
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  Speaker 2: Well, if you send it to me, we can start
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  Speaker 2: a friendship.
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  Speaker 8: So I, 35, non-binary, text my now ex-friend, 36 female,
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  Speaker 8: a picture of my Sphinx cat, which I had over
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  Speaker 8: a year already. Over the almost 10-year course of our friendship,
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  Speaker 8: I had told her many times how much I wanted
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  Speaker 8: a Sphinx, but I didn't like breeders. So I'd probably
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  Speaker 8: never have the chance. I had stickers of Sphinx on
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  Speaker 8: random things in my house. I would even send her
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  Speaker 8: videos of Sphinx cats having skin fights, etc. Fast forward
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  Speaker 8: to when this happened. I send her a picture of
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  Speaker 8: my cat. Judas is my profile picture on Facebook. I
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  Speaker 8: share pics of her there constantly, but when I sent
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  Speaker 8: her the pic, she told me Sphinx cats shouldn't exist.
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  Speaker 8: And as a geneticist, she has a bachelor's in genetics.
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  Speaker 8: They trigger her. I was floored. I would never want
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  Speaker 8: to purposely trigger someone, so I was like, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 8: and made the throwaway comment. Well, at least she's adopted.
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  Speaker 8: Then my friend went into a massive rant telling me
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  Speaker 8: the entire genetic history of Sphinx cats, why they shouldn't exist,
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  Speaker 8: and I can never message her about my cats again.
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  Speaker 8: It was honestly about three paragraphs long. She then ended
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  Speaker 8: her three emotional paragraphs with, and I don't want to
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  Speaker 8: talk about it. I told her it was unfair to
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  Speaker 8: unload all her feelings and then tell me I can't
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  Speaker 8: talk about mine. By the way, this comes from you
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  Speaker 8: slash Batman's right nostril. And if you want to submit
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  Speaker 8: your own stories, go to rslash. OK Storytime subreddit. My
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  Speaker 8: name's Mike.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 8: And today we're here to give good advice, but we
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  Speaker 8: don't know all the answers. If you guys have any
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  Speaker 8: advice that you'd like to give, sound off in the
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  Speaker 8: comments below. This seems to be a common theme with her.
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  Speaker 8: I couldn't talk to her about my relationship with my
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  Speaker 8: partner because that made her sad. I couldn't talk about
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  Speaker 8: my job because she didn't have one. That made her sad.
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  Speaker 8: So finally, I realized this doesn't seem to be about
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  Speaker 8: the cat anymore. This woman seems to be genuinely upset
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  Speaker 8: when I'm happy. This is a hard block for me
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  Speaker 8: because her family did everything in the world to get
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  Speaker 8: me to safety when I left my awful ex. They
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  Speaker 8: paid for my flights home to the USA. They paid
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  Speaker 8: for my hotel stays while I was trying to get
• 10:39
  Speaker 8: in a woman's shelter in a country I didn't have
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  Speaker 8: citizenship in. And just so many things. I will say
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  Speaker 8: I paid all the money back with interest.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this seems like one of those people that, like,
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  Speaker 2: you can't, like, they can't be happy for you. No
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  Speaker 2: matter what you say to them, they're going to relate
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  Speaker 2: it back to them and be like, oh, like, that's
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  Speaker 2: not me, so I don't care or something.
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  Speaker 8: And that's also, too, it's like it's such a lose-lose scenario, too, bro.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, why do you keep this person around?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, you really can't.
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  Speaker 2: Like, they're not really, I mean, I guess she said,
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  Speaker 2: you know, her family does a lot for her and
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  Speaker 2: she doesn't want to, like, lose that and it's been, like, But.
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  Speaker 8: There is a point where it's just like, if you
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  Speaker 8: just keep talking to somebody and it's like, they're nothing
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  Speaker 8: but depressed, it's like, I can't talk to you anymore.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's just like, I don't know. I brought this up
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  Speaker 2: so you could share in this with me, not to
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  Speaker 2: give critiques about. I sent you a picture of my cat,
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  Speaker 2: and you sent me back three paragraphs of how.
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  Speaker 3: I can't talk to you about it.
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  Speaker 2: That's insane. If you don't realize how insane that is,
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  Speaker 2: that's on you.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: My God.
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  Speaker 8: I started to feel like this friend only liked when
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  Speaker 8: I was in distress. I had a house she could
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  Speaker 8: stay at and a car so I could drive us everywhere.
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  Speaker 8: to play pogo. She can't drive. I will also mention
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  Speaker 8: she has no problem with her other friends talking about
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  Speaker 8: their relationships and is even besties with a married couple
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  Speaker 8: that also have a type of dog that is prone
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  Speaker 8: to serious health issues. And she loves that dog. So
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  Speaker 8: I'm not sure why she thought I would buy it
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  Speaker 8: when she started talking about the Sphinx cat's genetic history.
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  Speaker 8: It also floored me because everything she said was wrong.
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  Speaker 8: Now I don't have a degree in genetics, but I'm
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  Speaker 8: very aware all of my cat's health. and potential health issues,
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  Speaker 8: as I have pet insurance for all seven of my cats.
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  Speaker 2: Seven!
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  Speaker 8: That would be crazy if they had seven Sphinx cats.
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  Speaker 3: Your entire day is just filled with just cleaning the cat.
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  Speaker 2: Ew.
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  Speaker 3: Every day.
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  Speaker 8: And the insurance costs a lot more monthly if you
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  Speaker 8: have a high-risk health animal, but my now-too-adopted Sphinx cats
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  Speaker 8: cost the same as all my clothed cats. My Sphinx
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  Speaker 8: cat's just going for yearly heart scans since HCM is
• 12:46
  Speaker 8: basically the only thing they're at high risk for other
• 12:48
  Speaker 8: than being cold. Also, this ex-friend's Reddit's so high if
• 12:53
  Speaker 8: you see this is our story.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, they wrote that on the ex-friend's Reddit?
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  Speaker 3: No, no. Ex-friend goes on Reddit a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, this girl just seems like she's super, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like she just has a problem with you. Obviously, she's
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  Speaker 2: jealous of something and like doesn't want you to be
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  Speaker 2: happy about anything. So she just brings you down. That's
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  Speaker 2: not a friend.
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  Speaker 6: True.
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  Speaker 8: Misery loves company.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah, it's true.
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  Speaker 2: And for some reason, she wants to like either one
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  Speaker 2: up you or make you feel bad about like achievements or,
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  Speaker 2: you know, something good that happens in your life or
• 13:24
  Speaker 2: anything like she just does not want to. She does
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  Speaker 2: not want to acknowledge you in a positive way for
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  Speaker 2: some reason. And that's weird. Truly.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
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  Speaker 2: My best friend ghosted our group, then blamed us for it.
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  Speaker 8: Pookie.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks.
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  Speaker 2: Me, 29 male, and my friend Troy, 29 male, knew
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  Speaker 2: each other from high school. We were very close and
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  Speaker 2: good friends. This friendship continued even after we graduated 10
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  Speaker 2: years ago. Me and Troy are part of the same
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: friend group that consists of eight people. Some of us
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  Speaker 2: are single, others have partners. Due to busy schedules, we
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  Speaker 2: try together once a month to do something fun together.
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  Speaker 2: We always try and plan the activities in such a
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  Speaker 2: way that everyone invited could have fun. Of course, we
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: don't mind other people to come as long as they
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  Speaker 2: behave like normal adults and don't cause problems. Two years ago,
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  Speaker 2: Troy started to date this girl, Molly. 24 female. I
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  Speaker 2: was super happy for him because he was getting kind
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  Speaker 2: of depressed that he's single in his 20s and how
• 14:23
  Speaker 2: others are in a relationship while he sits alone at home. Note,
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  Speaker 2: I always made time for Troy. Doesn't matter if I
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: was in a relationship or not. By the way, this
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: comes from Kaiser93. And if you want to submit your
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Mike.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: And we are here to tell you some stuff, but
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: we don't have all the answers. We're only going to
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: say what we would do, but let us know what
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: you would do down in the comments. Initially, I liked Molly.
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: She is kind of shy, but we managed to get
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: her to relax in our company. Last year, however, I
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: noticed something strange was happening. Troy started to decline my calls,
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: started to make excuses for why he can't come hang
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: out with us. It's only him and Molly everywhere. Personally,
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: I'm kind of creeped out of relationships like that, but hey,
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: not my relationship, not my problem. Recently, we decided to
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: go somewhere for the weekend. We checked the schedules of
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: everyone in the group and we planned to rent a
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: cabin 40 kilometers from our hometown. I wanted to invite
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: Troy and Molly. I called him and he again made
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: some stupid excuse why he couldn't attend. I rolled my eyes, said, okay, whatever, dude,
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: and hung up. We went without him because we already
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: reserved the cabin. The problem? Four days ago, Molly called me.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: She told me that all of us are terrible people
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: for excluding Troy like that. She proceeded to berate me
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: for two minutes how I should stop hating LMAO. That
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Troy is in a relationship and I'm single. And girl,
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: now we're enemies.
• 15:44
  Speaker 8: Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: I told her to put me on speaker because I
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: knew Troy was close to her. I told him that
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: he's not a man if he lets his girlfriend fight
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: his battles and he could have called me personally or
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: meet so we could solve this matter. I also told
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: him that if Molly breaks up with him, he can
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: forget about having sympathy for me and he shouldn't come
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: to cry on my shoulder and I hung up. Troy
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: texted me three hours later saying that I was rude
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: towards him and his girlfriend and he wants me to apologize.
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: I said that I'm not apologizing to anyone. I also
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: told him that I know this is his first relationship
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: in a long time and I totally understand that his
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: girlfriend comes first. However, he forgot that he has friends
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: during this time. Troy insists that I am still an
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: a-hole because of what I said. Am I the witch? No,
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: you literally invited him. So I don't understand. He must
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: have not like actually said what happened then. He probably
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: just completely like, oh, they all went, blah, blah. She's like, oh, like,
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: why didn't we go? He's like, oh, they didn't invite me.
• 16:38
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 16:39
  Speaker 8: This is, I feel like this also too is just
• 16:41
  Speaker 8: like very like, um, it's like when you're with somebody,
• 16:44
  Speaker 8: it's like taking the time. Like you gotta put, put
• 16:46
  Speaker 8: all the other stuff away. You know, and like this
• 16:49
  Speaker 8: guy was just hanging out with your girl, bro.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, woe is me. I can't I can't,
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: you know, like be be with my friends anymore because
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: of my girlfriend. But figure it out as an edit.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: Since I've been asked multiple times.
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: Molly knew about the invitation. A girl from our friend
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: group has her number and called in front of me
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: to confirm whether they are coming or not. Well, then
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: what was, what's with the, you didn't invite us. Yeah,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: we did. I literally, I witnessed the invite.
• 17:16
  Speaker 8: There was a witness to this.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, I don't know what you, like, were
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: we supposed to ask again after that? It's like, you
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: should have asked three times. I would have said yes
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: the third time.
• 17:25
  Speaker 9: You need to fight for it. Yeah, you need to
• 17:26
  Speaker 9: fight for my friendship.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: I decided to meet up with Troy today to see
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: what the heck is going on. I texted him that
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: I want to see him face to face and to
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: talk like He agreed and we decided to meet in
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: the nearby park. He brought Molly with him, which kind
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: of pissed me off.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's his translator right there. Literally.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry. But whatever. As we talked, things became
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: clear as a bright summer day. I still laugh when
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: I think about it because this is some next level
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: BS here. Molly and Troy were both on this. Molly
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: called me because Troy made her do it. They confessed
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: the whole thing. They made a plan to make the
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: bad guy. I don't know.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: They were just bored. They were bored. They were like,
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: you know what would be really fun as a couple?
• 18:08
  Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: Let's just implode this. Yeah. Let's just blow this crap up.
• 18:11
  Speaker 8: Let's just play devil's advocate and let's just ruin somebody's
• 18:15
  Speaker 8: life real quick.
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: You see the fans, you know, the fans going really
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: fast right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's throw some crap
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: at it.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: They couldn't explain to me why they decided to do that.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Troy told me he didn't appreciate the jokes me and
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: the others were making when Molly was with us. None
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: of the jokes were directed towards Molly or him, but
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: he was not feeling okay with them. I asked why
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: he never said anything about it. Why stay silent? Troy
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: said that he was too ashamed to tell us this.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Molly chimed in and said that this level of profanity
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: is why they stopped hanging out with us. I was stunned.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: Neither Molly or Troy said anything about it. I asked Troy,
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: is he kidding me? He knows me and the others
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: of 14 to 15 years. He knows exactly what kind
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: of people we are. Troy said that he's sorry, but
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: the relationship with Molly is special for him and he
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: doesn't want to lose it.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: He's picking girl over the guys then.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Don't be offended when we don't invite you places or
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: we do and you say no and then still get
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: mad i felt angry angry than i ever felt before
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: but decided not to make a scene like i just
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: say don't be friends with him doesn't seem like he
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: wants to be friends he's like oh i really i'm
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: gonna choose her over every single one of you yeah
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: yeah okay cool we don't have to be friends i
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: just thought that we meant more to you than that
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: but i guess not i.
• 19:28
  Speaker 9: I mean, it's the, why did you do this? Or
• 19:30
  Speaker 9: why has it come to this? And they literally just said,
• 19:32
  Speaker 9: I don't know.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I asked him straight, are you saying that until you
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: and Molly are a couple, you won't hang out with us?
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: He said, yes.
• 19:40
  Speaker 6: Cool.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: That's going to be your lifestyle? You guys are going
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: to conjoin and be just one entity? Cool.
• 19:46
  Speaker 8: This did take a turn. At first it was like, okay, cool.
• 19:49
  Speaker 8: Now it's just like, nah, there's nobody. Yeah, buddy.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: Don't worry. It's going to bite him real hard. He's
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: going to go, that was a smart decision.
• 19:58
  Speaker 8: There is a fine line between just healthy and then
• 20:00
  Speaker 8: being whipped. I think this guy's whipped right now.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I nodded, thanked him for his time, and went back home.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: As soon as I came home, I removed Troy from
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: our chat and told the whole story to the other people.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: And I guarantee you, they're not gonna be painted as
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: bad guys. They're gonna be victims. Like, how dare you
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: remove us from the chat? You didn't ask us to
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: remove us from the chat.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: They deserve to know why Troy keeps bailing on us.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: An hour later, Troy texted me to say sorry again.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: I said that his sorry means nothing to me anymore
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: and he can go punt rocks. I wished him happiness
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: with his relationship and cut contact with him. Not gonna lie,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: it hurts. It hurts when one of my closest friends
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: decides to not be an adult and communicate with me.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: It hurts that I had to lose him like that.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: It hurts to think that he actually made a plan
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: with his girlfriend to separate from us instead of telling
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: us like grown people do. I hope they're happy. Even
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: if they break up, I don't think I'll forgive him
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: or make amends with him.
• 20:51
  Speaker 5: Dang.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: And truthfully, I don't think you have to.
• 20:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: It's too, it's too drama for me. Like have a
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: girl pair. I don't know. Like you don't have to,
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying like, you know, she should be treated like,
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: some side piece or whatever. And like, no, I'm going
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: to go be with the guys now or whatever. But
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: it's just like, when you're an adult, you make time
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: for the things that you want to make time with.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: So you obviously want to make time for her, but
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: you don't want to make time for your friends. Then
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: your friends are, your friends are going to notice that
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: and they're not going to be your friends anymore.
• 21:19
  Speaker 9: It's a, it's like when people are like walking and
• 21:22
  Speaker 9: you just stop walking and they, you sure they'll turn
• 21:24
  Speaker 9: around and be like, Hey, you coming?
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: And they just, you coming along?
• 21:27
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 21:27
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: They just, they just stay there.
• 21:28
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: My best friend ignored a funeral but showed up for
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: the party.
• 21:36
  Speaker 8: Oh, getting dog-headed here. What's going on?
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Trick morning for grief.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: For some context, I have always been one of the
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: planners of the friend group, planning parties, dinners, and get-togethers.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: I love getting everyone together. I have been friends with,
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: let's call him Bob, for about 25 years.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: And I always thought he's my ride guy. His girlfriend,
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: let's call her Martha, and I were college friends. About
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: 10 years ago, my BFF and I introduced... Bob and Martha.
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: And they've been dating ever since. Fast forward to now.
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: I have been seeing less and less of Bob and
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Martha in the last few years and chalked it up
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: to all of us just being busy adults. However, last
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: year I had lost my dad. They didn't reach out
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: to check on me when my dad got sick. And
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: when he passed away, they commented on a memorial IG
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: post I made with their condolences.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: But that was it.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: No reaching out to me directly. People can be weird
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: about it and not know how to react, so I
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: somewhat understand their lack of support during that time. The
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: funeral was a few months later. My dad had a
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: lot of friends, so it was a huge and beautiful event,
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: He had helped plan his funeral in his last few
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: months of life. A lot of my friends showed up
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: for support too, including.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Bob and Martha.
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: They never miss a big social event. I thought it
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: was a little odd to see them there because they
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: hadn't spoken to me at all in over eight months,
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: aside from the condolences on my IG post. But I
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: thought that maybe they were trying to be more supportive now.
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: So I was happy to have them there. By the way,
• 22:56
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• 23:02
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• 23:03
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• 23:04
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers,
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: and if you've got answers, give them here. The next month,
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: I moved in with my boyfriend, and it happened to
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: be into their neighborhood. I let them know when I
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: moved in, and they seemed genuinely excited, and like they
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: wanted to get together more often now that we live
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: so close. Soon after, I started reaching out and asking
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: them if they wanted to come over for dinner, grab dinner,
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: go to my pool, and every time.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: I was told they were just too busy.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: With it taking weeks to get a text response. OP,
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: you got to treat this like you're dating someone or
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: like you're trying to go out on a date with someone.
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: If they, every time you text them, hey, you want
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: to hang out? They wait two weeks and then say no.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: They probably don't want.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: To hang out.
• 23:47
  Speaker 8: God, I wish this girl would sleep with me, but
• 23:49
  Speaker 8: she's so busy.
• 23:51
  Speaker 6: All the time.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: She's just so busy.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: She keeps texting me two weeks later saying that she
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: had a family event and she can't hang out with me.
• 23:57
  Speaker 8: She's like tired all the time too. What's going on?
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: After about the third time, Bob said something like, we're
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: booked pretty solid, but how about a date two months
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: from now? I agreed and went on with life. The
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: date that we had agreed to came up and even
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: after me sending reminder texts... Bob and Martha were a no-show.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: This is where I lost it.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: I texted them in the group chat because they would
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: only show up to group events and let them know
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: I got the hint and would no longer be trying
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: to hang.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: Out with them.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: This made them look bad to the friend group and
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: got an immediate response. Not the two weeks later responses
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: that I got from directly messaging them. Their responses were
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: a mix of apologizing for me being offended and them
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: being mad that I sent it in the group chat.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: They ended up making me feel bad, and I apologized
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: for airing the dirty laundry to the group. Bob messaged
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: me privately and asked to get coffee to clear the air.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, now you can hang.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Out, Bob.
• 24:47
  Speaker 6: Hmm, thought we'd wait two months.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: I thought this would be great to get our friendship
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: back on track, but what I got at coffee was
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: just a half-hearted apology and trying to one-up grief. When
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: I mentioned I was sad that they didn't check how
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: I was doing when my dad was sick or after
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: he passed, I was told that.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: I wasn't reaching out to them either.
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: And that they had a lot of tough stuff going
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: on that I didn't know about either. I admit, I
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: had been distraught about my dad, and I wasn't reaching
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: out to friends that weren't talking to me. to see
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: how they were doing during that time. I asked him
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: what they'd been dealing with, and he told me about
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: some mild drama with step-parents and how his uncle had...
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: My uncle had also passed away a month after my
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: dad did, but I was still processing the loss of
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: my father and how hard it was to talk about
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: without crying, so I just opted to not tell any
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: of my friends about my uncle, too.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, B, now you're running up the roof!
• 25:32
  Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: He's like, oh, your uncle? Yeah, my uncle.
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: Shut up. You try to match the grief, too.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: Like, imagine, so you don't want to hang out with me.
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're like, I keep trying to text you.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: You're like, yeah, no, I'm busy, I'm busy. And finally,
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: I just call you on the group chat. And you're like, okay, fine,
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: we go to coffee.
• 25:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: And then I go, yeah, my dad. And the fact
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: that you have been hanging out with me is really rude.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: And then you go, well, you know, dealing with the law.
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: My uncle passed.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: You're like, oh, well, my uncle passed, too.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: Actually, I don't care. So now, like, that erases your excuse. Yeah.
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: What else you got? I would just be fishing for, like, another, like, another, like,
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: in my family.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: It's like, gosh, I don't know. My second grade aunt.
• 26:10
  Speaker 8: Yeah, well, my dog's gardener just passed. I'm sorry.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: It's pretty tough for him. I didn't tell him about
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: our coffee because I didn't want to play the game
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: of who is more sad. We left it on an
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: amicable note, but it really rubbed me the wrong way.
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: I feel like he was more defensive than actually caring
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: that he hurt my feelings. Since then, I've had a
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: few messages of support from Martha about my dad's passing.
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: and radio silence from Bob. I invited them to a
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: few group events over the last six months, but they
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: didn't come. So I no longer am inviting them to
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: group events. This week I had planned a group dinner
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: at my place and I didn't invite them. A few
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: of the friends I did invite have asked if I'm
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: inviting Bob and Martha.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: And I said, no. I was told that I'm overreacting
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: and should continue to invite them to.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: Events I plan. Am I overreacting or are they fake friends?
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: For context about them being so busy, they have no kids, pets,
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: or anyone besides themselves to take care of. My other
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: close friends who have young kids, pets, and parents to
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: take care of were all able to still make some
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: effort to be my friends. despite actually having busy lives?
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Am I overreacting by no longer inviting my friend and
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: his girlfriend, who is also my friend, to any of
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: the group gatherings and parties I throw?
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, no, you're not the a-hole, but it just took
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: you a really long time to figure that out.
• 27:28
  Speaker 6: Yep.
• 27:28
  Speaker 8: Take a hint. Learn that some people just like don't
• 27:30
  Speaker 8: want to hang out with you. Not everybody has to
• 27:32
  Speaker 8: like you, dude.
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: Some people, I think what everyone needs to learn is
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: that some people are not individual hangout people.
• 27:40
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 27:40
  Speaker 8: Some people are just group hangs.
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: Some people are just group hangs and that's okay.
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 27:48
  Speaker 9: My boyfriend's dad found my skincare tool and thought it
• 27:51
  Speaker 9: was something else.
• 27:52
  Speaker 6: He thought it was for your downstairs skin, didn't he?
• 27:56
  Speaker 9: So, this happened two weeks ago, and I've only just
• 27:59
  Speaker 9: stopped cringing entirely when I think about it. My boyfriend
• 28:01
  Speaker 9: and I were visiting his quite conservative parents' house for
• 28:05
  Speaker 9: the weekend. I took a shower, and I remember feeling
• 28:08
  Speaker 9: really smug because I remembered to bring all of my
• 28:10
  Speaker 9: cleansing stuff with me, including my new cleansing brush. For
• 28:14
  Speaker 9: anyone that doesn't know what it is, it's literally a
• 28:16
  Speaker 9: small handheld electronic contraption with a brush at the end
• 28:19
  Speaker 9: of it and does a better job of cleansing your
• 28:21
  Speaker 9: face and leaving your skin smooth AF than if you
• 28:24
  Speaker 9: just used a flannel. After using it, I wrapped myself
• 28:27
  Speaker 9: in a towel and was sorting out my shower bag
• 28:29
  Speaker 9: when I had the amazing idea of detaching the brush
• 28:32
  Speaker 9: from my cleanser and leaving both parts on the windowsill
• 28:36
  Speaker 9: to dry. It's important to note that I had the
• 28:38
  Speaker 9: contraption body facing away towards the window, so you can
• 28:41
  Speaker 9: only really see the handle and then the back of
• 28:44
  Speaker 9: the head of it. Anyway, everything's fine for a couple
• 28:47
  Speaker 9: of hours. Boyfriend and I are sitting in his bedroom
• 28:49
  Speaker 9: when his dad knocks on the door, gives me a
• 28:51
  Speaker 9: really shifty look, then asks for a word with my boyfriend.
• 28:55
  Speaker 9: We both looked at each other weirded out, but my
• 28:57
  Speaker 9: boyfriend obliged and went outside to the hallway. By the way,
• 29:00
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• 29:03
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• 29:06
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 29:06
  Speaker 10: I'm Dakota.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: And I'm Keon.
• 29:09
  Speaker 9: And we are Keon. And we're going to give good
• 29:10
  Speaker 9: advice goofily in the best way we can. It could
• 29:13
  Speaker 9: be my way. It could be Keon's way. It could
• 29:15
  Speaker 9: be other Keon's way.
• 29:17
  Speaker 7: Here's my advice. Always know when something looks like a.
• 29:20
  Speaker 10: Dang dong! A bang dong.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: Bang dong!
• 29:24
  Speaker 9: Let us know what you think in the comments down below,
• 29:26
  Speaker 9: as OP says. After a few moments, he comes back
• 29:29
  Speaker 9: in a bit of a red in the face. Sits
• 29:31
  Speaker 9: down on the bed and says, Why did you leave
• 29:33
  Speaker 9: a spicy sleep toy in the bathroom? Obviously, I looked
• 29:36
  Speaker 9: at my boyfriend and as I said, you're my spicy
• 29:39
  Speaker 9: sleep toy.
• 29:39
  Speaker 6: Dad thinks you got a pocket rocket in the bathroom.
• 29:44
  Speaker 9: No, OP says, obviously I was perplexed saying I really
• 29:47
  Speaker 9: had no idea what he was talking about. He was
• 29:49
  Speaker 9: embarrassed rather than accusatory and explained his dad had briefly
• 29:52
  Speaker 9: described it as a pink with a big bulb and then.
• 29:56
  Speaker 7: It hit me.
• 29:56
  Speaker 9: I too went bright red and laughed rather uncomfortably as
• 30:00
  Speaker 9: I explained what it was. Unfortunately, I didn't realize his
• 30:03
  Speaker 9: dad was lingering outside the door still.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: You don't have to lie, OP. It's okay. But just
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: next time, don't leave it around for everyone to see.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: I swear on my life, it's a face cleanser.
• 30:13
  Speaker 9: I said, brushing up and retrieving it with the brush attachment.
• 30:16
  Speaker 9: And he's like, get that away from me. That's been
• 30:19
  Speaker 9: on your bottom part.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: He's like, whoa.
• 30:21
  Speaker 6: Wait, this is a extremely conservative family man.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: This guy said, he said, that looks like mine. The
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: only spicy sleep toy we have is Jesus.
• 30:35
  Speaker 9: So, Opie continues saying, I handed the cleanser over and
• 30:40
  Speaker 9: he looked really sheepish and apologized and we both had
• 30:43
  Speaker 9: a bit of an awkward laugh about it. My boyfriend
• 30:45
  Speaker 9: then decides to take the jokes up a notch and
• 30:47
  Speaker 9: say how stupid his dad is and how he's a
• 30:50
  Speaker 9: dirty old man for thinking like that. His dad got
• 30:52
  Speaker 9: a bit defensive and his response still makes me want
• 30:54
  Speaker 9: to crawl into a hole and pass away when I
• 30:56
  Speaker 9: think about it.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm sorry, but it just looks like one of
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: your mother's toys. Oh, crap.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: Oh, crap.
• 31:02
  Speaker 10: Right, it looks like mom's.
• 31:04
  Speaker 6: Right.
• 31:04
  Speaker 7: Yikes.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: It looks like your mother's toy, but like bigger. I
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: don't think I would ever recover from this.
• 31:11
  Speaker 6: Ever.
• 31:12
  Speaker 10: As the dad?
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: No, as the son. As the son?
• 31:14
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 31:16
  Speaker 10: I mean, what did the son do? What do you mean?
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: Just listening.
• 31:21
  Speaker 10: Oh, just hearing.
• 31:23
  Speaker 9: Oh, you know, my girlfriend, you thought my girlfriend, this
• 31:25
  Speaker 9: is my girlfriend's toy. No, that's just for her face.
• 31:28
  Speaker 9: I thought it was your mother's toy.
• 31:29
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 31:29
  Speaker 8: Oh, yeah.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Your mother's toy. Your mother's toy looks exactly like that.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: And you go, oh, no.
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: I say, Dad, I'm going to go invent a time
• 31:37
  Speaker 7: machine so you don't ever have to say that to
• 31:40
  Speaker 7: me ever again.
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. Why did you have to drag mom into this?
• 31:44
  Speaker 9: Opie finishes up the story saying, I'm not religious at all,
• 31:48
  Speaker 9: but when I say I wanted God to beam me
• 31:50
  Speaker 9: up there and then, I'm not kidding.
• 31:52
  Speaker 10: Yeah, beam you up to the big USS Enterprise in
• 31:55
  Speaker 10: the sky.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: Scotty, God.
• 31:56
  Speaker 7: Beam me up, Scotty.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: Beam me up, Scotty Pippin.
• 31:59
  Speaker 9: Talking about my... I felt like jumping out the window.
• 32:02
  Speaker 9: The whole energy of the room shifted. His dad made
• 32:05
  Speaker 9: a hasty retreat as my boyfriend stood there gobsmacked, and
• 32:08
  Speaker 9: we didn't dare leave the bedroom again for the next
• 32:10
  Speaker 9: couple of hours. Worst part was we had a family
• 32:13
  Speaker 9: dinner that night, and his mom asked me about the
• 32:15
  Speaker 9: facial cleanser and where to buy one.
• 32:17
  Speaker 6: Fun.
• 32:18
  Speaker 10: Yeah, I just want.
• 32:21
  Speaker 7: To be clean.
• 32:22
  Speaker 9: My boyfriend and his dad put their forks down at
• 32:24
  Speaker 9: the same time.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: Talk about awkward. And that's the end of that story.
• 32:27
  Speaker 10: That is the end of that story.
• 32:29
  Speaker 9: Amazing.
• 32:31
  Speaker 10: And they are not visiting again.
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: The dad just brings it out. See?
• 32:35
  Speaker 6: Just bring everything that you have and put a label
• 32:39
  Speaker 6: on it that says not a d * * * o,
• 32:41
  Speaker 6: not a d * * * o.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: It's a massager. It's for your lower lumbar.
• 32:45
  Speaker 8: I'm sorry.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
• 32:47
  Speaker 6: I'm sorry the first thing your brain sees is your wife's.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: V * * * er.
• 32:53
  Speaker 7: Poor guy.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 32:58
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• 33:02
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• 33:07
  Speaker 6: My sister's boyfriend made a scene over an inside joke.
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: This ain't a scene. It's an inside joke.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: Oh, man.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Grungy as heck.
• 33:19
  Speaker 6: So I, male 27, and my sister, female 19, are
• 33:23
  Speaker 6: at a barbecue at our parents' house with just family
• 33:26
  Speaker 6: and close family friends. We're getting out of the pool
• 33:28
  Speaker 6: and she's mostly dried off when she says she is
• 33:31
  Speaker 6: starving and about to destroy some barbecue. We have an
• 33:35
  Speaker 6: inside joke that even though she is pretty skinny, mom
• 33:38
  Speaker 6: is super stressed about her gaining.
• 33:39
  Speaker 10: Weight because her dad is overweight.
• 33:41
  Speaker 6: So I make fun of mom sometimes when my sister
• 33:44
  Speaker 6: brings up food, which is really just an attempt to
• 33:46
  Speaker 6: shame her into not body shaming my sister.
• 33:49
  Speaker 9: It's like a positive and a negative and then a negative.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: To make a positive?
• 33:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah, you're saying the thing your mom would say as
• 33:56
  Speaker 6: a joke to shame your mom and say, ha ha, see,
• 33:59
  Speaker 6: it's funny because that's a bad.
• 34:00
  Speaker 10: Thing to say.
• 34:01
  Speaker 7: And we're making fun of you.
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: But bad is wrong. But wrong is right.
• 34:05
  Speaker 6: Because I don't mean it. So in this case, I go, whoa, whoa, whoa.
• 34:11
  Speaker 6: Did you clear that with mom first?
• 34:13
  Speaker 10: To which she says, okay. Uh, S-T-F-U, F-slur.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, whoa! For context, I am J with a G. Wait, what? Even, whoa, whoa!
• 34:25
  Speaker 6: And she is an ally, and that is a really
• 34:30
  Speaker 6: common joke between us.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: Nothing seriously offensive. Okay, thank you for your context. I
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: take all my woes back.
• 34:35
  Speaker 6: Hope he said, hope he said, for context, I am
• 34:40
  Speaker 6: an F-slur.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: It's what Opie said. Anyway, it did, however, merit being
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: thrown in the pool.
• 34:46
  Speaker 6: So right as she's getting all the way dry and
• 34:48
  Speaker 6: about to go change clothes, I throw her back in
• 34:50
  Speaker 6: the pool. These and countless other shenanigans are typical in
• 34:54
  Speaker 6: our relationship.
• 34:54
  Speaker 10: If either of us were.
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: Actually pissing the other off, we would tell them and
• 34:58
  Speaker 6: they would apologize.
• 35:00
  Speaker 10: And by the way, this.
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: Comes from particular meningitis.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: Come on.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: All right. Nothing funny about that.
• 35:08
  Speaker 10: Our thoughts are with you.
• 35:10
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• 35:12
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• 35:14
  Speaker 10: I'm Dakota.
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah.
• 35:16
  Speaker 6: And we're going to read this story live from Savannah, Georgia.
• 35:19
  Speaker 6: And we're going to have our thoughts and you get
• 35:21
  Speaker 6: to have yours. Tell us what you think in the comments,
• 35:24
  Speaker 6: my little gooses. OP says, so my sister is dating
• 35:28
  Speaker 6: this guy who's 22 that she's known for a month.
• 35:31
  Speaker 10: But for the sake of fun, let's just say.
• 35:33
  Speaker 6: She's known him for six months. I'm curious of the
• 35:36
  Speaker 6: timing of the relationship being relevant to people anyway.
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 35:40
  Speaker 10: He's a Marine.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: Ooh-ah.
• 35:42
  Speaker 8: Right?
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: Is that what they say?
• 35:43
  Speaker 10: He's Al Pacino.
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: Ooh-ah. 10-4?
• 35:46
  Speaker 5: Huh?
• 35:47
  Speaker 6: And the toxically possessive and overly protective kind. The kind
• 35:51
  Speaker 6: that would have to be talked down from whooping up
• 35:54
  Speaker 6: on a man for catcalling her on the street, which, like,
• 35:57
  Speaker 6: come on, dude. If you catcall women, what are you doing?
• 36:00
  Speaker 6: But I also think being violently aggressive or protective like
• 36:03
  Speaker 6: that is a red flag.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: What if I meow at women? Is that the same thing?
• 36:07
  Speaker 6: I throw my sister in the pool and he reacts
• 36:11
  Speaker 6: super poorly. He immediately stands up and mean mugs me
• 36:14
  Speaker 6: and is walking to me clearly about to throw.
• 36:17
  Speaker 7: Me in the pool.
• 36:17
  Speaker 6: I see him coming and I'm like, don't, don't. And
• 36:21
  Speaker 6: he keeps walking my way and I'm like, no, I'm
• 36:23
  Speaker 6: so serious. Don't, don't put your hands on me. And
• 36:25
  Speaker 6: now people are paying attention and it's a scene. He
• 36:28
  Speaker 6: walks up to me and he's like.
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: If you don't want to go in, why don't you
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: throw her in?
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: That's really good.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: If you don't want to.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: It's just Gingy from Shrek, yeah.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: If you don't want to go in.
• 36:47
  Speaker 6: Eat me!
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: Monster! You monster!
• 36:50
  Speaker 6: He's clearly doing a white knight thing where he's standing
• 36:53
  Speaker 6: up for her because she's a woman who.
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: Needs protecting from a man.
• 36:58
  Speaker 7: By a man.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: Bear in mind, this is like the third time I've
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: ever met him.
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: Trying to de-escalate and sound as lighthearted as possible while
• 37:05
  Speaker 6: remaining serious, I say, she's my little sister.
• 37:07
  Speaker 10: I throw her in pools.
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: I don't know you.
• 37:10
  Speaker 7: You don't throw me in pools.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: I like how throwing people in pools is just like
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: super serious.
• 37:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, if I don't know you.
• 37:18
  Speaker 6: Such a huge difference between, like, if you threw me
• 37:21
  Speaker 6: in the pool versus someone I've casually met two or
• 37:24
  Speaker 6: three times throwing me in the pool. I'm like, yeah, buddy,
• 37:28
  Speaker 6: don't put your hands on me. You don't know me
• 37:30
  Speaker 6: like that.
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: Stop. I'll poop my pants.
• 37:32
  Speaker 7: He takes another step.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: Uh-oh.
• 37:34
  Speaker 6: And goes to get his hands around me, and I
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: tell him, I can't let you get close.
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: And you give him a little smooch. I do the
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: same to him, and now we're making out. I was
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: drinking water.
• 37:47
  Speaker 6: He goes to get his hands around me, and I
• 37:49
  Speaker 6: do the same to him, and we begin an elaborate tango.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: It's a tango. You got it. Oh, my God. Now
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: we two-step.
• 37:56
  Speaker 10: Then they start the kalimbas. What are those?
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: Calypso.
• 37:59
  Speaker 10: Calypso.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: So I do the same to him, and I'm like,
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: There's no way I'm going into this pool without you.
• 38:06
  Speaker 10: He's in regular dry clothes. My mom is.
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: Like, oh my God, y'all cut it out.
• 38:12
  Speaker 10: Thanks, mom. You saved me.
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: I love Opie.
• 38:16
  Speaker 10: So we both let go and he's like.
• 38:18
  Speaker 6: Please don't ever do that in front of me ever again.
• 38:23
  Speaker 10: And I just chuckled at him.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: I think Opie kind of liked it.
• 38:25
  Speaker 10: Yeah, OP was ready.
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: OP was, yeah.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: Don't ever do that to me again.
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: Do it harder and tighter next time.
• 38:33
  Speaker 10: OP's like, you may be one of the few in
• 38:34
  Speaker 10: the proud, but.
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: I have pride. I have pride in anime on my side.
• 38:40
  Speaker 10: My sister gets back out of the pool, flips me off.
• 38:44
  Speaker 6: And we moved on like nothing happened. Am I crazy
• 38:46
  Speaker 6: that I feel like this guy was being insane?
• 38:48
  Speaker 7: Like we're siblings.
• 38:49
  Speaker 6: Who are you to get involved in us fighting? I
• 38:52
  Speaker 6: get defending her, but it was a joke between siblings.
• 38:55
  Speaker 10: Am I the a-hole?
• 38:56
  Speaker 9: I mean, I guess he's just not used to your relationship.
• 38:58
  Speaker 9: They've been dating, again, retrospectively, six months. He doesn't understand
• 39:02
  Speaker 9: your humor. I mean, I didn't understand your humor when
• 39:04
  Speaker 9: you started doing what you said at the very beginning.
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: That is true. She should have... Like said something prior
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: or not prior.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: Prior.
• 39:13
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: You should have said something before to be like, hey,
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: just so you know, this is our banter. So don't
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: be offended or something. Instead, you sweated like F-slur, F-slur, F-slur.
• 39:24
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 39:24
  Speaker 6: It's like, do you also remember how she slurred me?
• 39:27
  Speaker 6: And I was like, uh here we go you're in
• 39:30
  Speaker 6: the pool he's just like well y'all approved of that
• 39:34
  Speaker 6: i'm on her side i'm her man uh.
• 39:36
  Speaker 9: I genuinely i kind of think it's a green flag
• 39:39
  Speaker 9: like sure i don't think he should have like but
• 39:41
  Speaker 9: he got like defensive over you roughhousing your sister and
• 39:44
  Speaker 9: i say roughhousing lightly it you just push her in
• 39:46
  Speaker 9: the pool or you yeah.
• 39:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah yeah i mean you know it'd be different if
• 39:50
  Speaker 6: you guys you know knew each other and he hadn't
• 39:53
  Speaker 6: just been dating for a month and it's like oh
• 39:55
  Speaker 6: yeah well they didn't know i gotta back her up
• 39:58
  Speaker 6: it's like i but once you go yeah nobody don't
• 40:00
  Speaker 6: touch me it's like okay sorry people are.
• 40:03
  Speaker 9: Saying he's a red flag but i kind of think
• 40:04
  Speaker 9: he's a green flag i mean i you guys gonna
• 40:06
  Speaker 9: agree or disagree with me i the fact that like
• 40:08
  Speaker 9: he got up and was like i don't he's ready
• 40:11
  Speaker 9: to throw if anyone did that to my sister and like.
• 40:14
  Speaker 10: But it's the vibe.
• 40:16
  Speaker 6: It's less about the action and more of like the
• 40:19
  Speaker 6: vibe attached to it. Because if he's like, all right,
• 40:22
  Speaker 6: now you got to go in, dude. It's like, that's
• 40:24
  Speaker 6: one thing. But if he goes, threat assessment.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: This is for brother, not a stranger.
• 40:28
  Speaker 6: Like that's, you can't, you're out of line, dude.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: If he does it like every day, I feel like
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: your sister should be No, it's fine. Like, we're cool.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: Everything's cool. He's like, oh, okay. It was just a joke.
• 40:39
  Speaker 6: I don't know.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: I feel like he.
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: Like, if it was.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: It's siblings doing this to other siblings. And then she'd
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: be like, oh, my God, stop! Ah! And, like, it's
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: not like anyone was truly getting hurt or getting mad. Like,
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: no one's life was in danger. So I feel like
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: he kind of overreacted. But I get, like, maybe he's just,
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: you know, protective, I guess.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: And he was just going to say... And all the
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: boyfriend was going to do is throw OP in the pool.
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah. I mean.
• 41:03
  Speaker 8: Maybe, you know.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: Have you seen that video? Maybe OP, maybe these guys
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: just need a little wrassle. They just needed to get
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: a little wrassling session. I feel like it's just playful.
• 41:10
  Speaker 9: Like, I feel, have you seen videos where, like, the
• 41:12
  Speaker 9: boyfriend throws the girlfriend in the pool, and then, like,
• 41:14
  Speaker 9: the dad throws the boyfriend in the pool kind of thing?
• 41:17
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I think it's, again, I think it's
• 41:20
  Speaker 6: different when it's, like, once the person, you're like, all right,
• 41:23
  Speaker 6: you're going in.
• 41:24
  Speaker 10: It's like, you know, but, like, don't.
• 41:26
  Speaker 7: Don't do me. I don't know you.
• 41:28
  Speaker 10: I don't know her. She could throw me in the pool.
• 41:30
  Speaker 7: You can't. I don't know you. No, I don't know you.
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: I'd throw him in the pool.
• 41:33
  Speaker 7: I'd remove.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: I'd just throw up in the pool.
• 41:37
  Speaker 10: But yeah.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: No, everyone's out of the pool. Either way, this is
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: like not that. I'd just ruin the party. But it does.
• 41:44
  Speaker 10: Maybe point to an underlying.
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: Vibe that is like, nah, come on. There's a little
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: edit here. Seeing a lot of, well, she might've been
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: more upset than you realized comments.
• 41:54
  Speaker 6: And I just want to be so crystal clear. that
• 41:58
  Speaker 6: we are very close, and she absolutely would tell me
• 42:01
  Speaker 6: if I had actually bothered her. I tried to preempt
• 42:04
  Speaker 6: this by clarifying in the post that if either of
• 42:07
  Speaker 6: us were upset.
• 42:08
  Speaker 10: We would tell the other.
• 42:09
  Speaker 6: You guys are just going to have to trust that
• 42:12
  Speaker 6: I'm right about this. I promise she wasn't mad about
• 42:15
  Speaker 6: being thrown in the pool. I'm not bullying her. That's
• 42:17
  Speaker 6: not what this is about. She's definitely not mad at me.
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: She never was.
• 42:21
  Speaker 6: There was never any tension or offense between any of
• 42:24
  Speaker 6: us at any point. And that is the end of
• 42:25
  Speaker 6: the story. God, I love the internet being like, oh, no,
• 42:28
  Speaker 6: I know your dynamic. You're probably actually.
• 42:35
  Speaker 10: You don't even know, man.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: This is a person who has not left their house
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: for several months. They haven't been thrown in the pool yet.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: If you threw me.
• 42:44
  Speaker 10: In the pool like that, well, you're not my sister.
• 42:47
  Speaker 7: Are you?
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: I just like how throwing in the pool is just
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: the most serious thing. Like, I'm going to throw you
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: in a pool of lava. People threw me in the
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: pool all the time.
• 42:56
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: But I was just a small kid.
• 42:57
  Speaker 10: It's a classic move.
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: Genuinely, I loved being thrown in the pool.
• 43:01
  Speaker 10: It's a pool.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: It's fun.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 43:05
  Speaker 6: My sister-in-law accused me of theft and my husband stayed silent.
• 43:12
  Speaker 10: That was the husband right there. My husband, 31.
• 43:15
  Speaker 6: Male, and I, 27 female, have been working on setting
• 43:18
  Speaker 6: boundaries and keeping his family with my family.
• 43:20
  Speaker 10: This past year.
• 43:21
  Speaker 6: Fortunately for us, we aren't close to our families distance-wise.
• 43:26
  Speaker 6: Both of our families can be emotionally exhausting. Mine can
• 43:30
  Speaker 6: have a crisis every other day while his has issues,
• 43:33
  Speaker 6: but the issues are pretty easy to fix.
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: But if it's not their way, it's the highway. Yeah,
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: this past week.
• 43:39
  Speaker 6: While we were playing video games, his family group chat
• 43:42
  Speaker 6: was going crazy with notifications going off like pregnancy contractions.
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: That is a way to describe it.
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: Tell me you're pregnant without telling me you're pregnant. Right?
• 43:53
  Speaker 10: Am I right?
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: You're right.
• 43:55
  Speaker 10: My husband is a chill guy.
• 43:57
  Speaker 6: He doesn't usually read his family's message bubbles if they're
• 44:00
  Speaker 6: longer than his thumb. But something about this chat had
• 44:03
  Speaker 6: him doing a double take. I was on the other
• 44:06
  Speaker 6: side of the bed and asked, what's up?
• 44:08
  Speaker 7: You okay?
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: He just turned his phone off and said it wasn't
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: something he's worried about.
• 44:13
  Speaker 6: Now, I'm not a curious person, but something about this
• 44:16
  Speaker 6: interaction made me ask him.
• 44:18
  Speaker 8: Are you sure?
• 44:19
  Speaker 10: He flashed his.
• 44:19
  Speaker 6: Phone at me and said it was his family group
• 44:21
  Speaker 6: chat and it probably isn't a big deal.
• 44:23
  Speaker 10: Okay, cool.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: Until I saw his little sister's message.
• 44:26
  Speaker 6: 29 female. Now she's the baby of the family and
• 44:30
  Speaker 6: she's the only girl. Let's just say she's been spoiled
• 44:34
  Speaker 6: since birth. The message read it's $ 700. Ask your wives
• 44:38
  Speaker 6: and girlfriends if they took it. And by the way,
• 44:41
  Speaker 6: this comes from in Intelligent TA. And if you want
• 44:45
  Speaker 6: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 44:46
  Speaker 6: okstorytime subreddit.
• 44:48
  Speaker 10: I'm Dakota.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah.
• 44:49
  Speaker 6: And we're going to read this story and we're going
• 44:52
  Speaker 6: to give our thoughts.
• 44:53
  Speaker 10: And you get to give yours in the comments.
• 44:55
  Speaker 6: You can tell us anything. What do you think about
• 44:57
  Speaker 6: the story? What did you have for breakfast today? What
• 45:00
  Speaker 6: do you think about my hairline?
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: And what do you want to have for breakfast tomorrow?
• 45:04
  Speaker 6: And OP says, I looked at my husband and said,
• 45:07
  Speaker 6: took what? He says, oh, her Ozempic is missing, probably
• 45:10
  Speaker 6: misplaced or something. Cue the side eye to the imaginary
• 45:15
  Speaker 6: third wall crab.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: Oh, really?
• 45:19
  Speaker 6: So why isn't she asking us directly about it? My
• 45:22
  Speaker 6: husband just says, I don't know. She'll find it and
• 45:24
  Speaker 6: leaves the room. I messaged my friend Miracle, 33 female,
• 45:29
  Speaker 6: about the situation. Since she's married to one of the
• 45:32
  Speaker 6: older brothers. She says, yes, I told my husband, 33 male,
• 45:35
  Speaker 6: to stand up for us. And not even a second later,
• 45:38
  Speaker 6: she sends a screenshot of her husband's point of view
• 45:40
  Speaker 6: in the group chat. Little sister says, daddy and I
• 45:43
  Speaker 6: are searching everywhere. We have no idea why someone would
• 45:46
  Speaker 6: have taken it. Little sister, never mind, he found it.
• 45:49
  Speaker 6: During the 4th of July weekend, someone must have moved
• 45:52
  Speaker 6: it from the fridge. Now it's unusable. Miracle's husband says,
• 45:57
  Speaker 6: glad you found it. None of our women would steal
• 46:00
  Speaker 6: from you. We wouldn't bring home thieves to the family.
• 46:03
  Speaker 11: Okay.
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 46:05
  Speaker 10: Okay. Ozempic ruining families.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: Since I don't know when that started.
• 46:12
  Speaker 5: Now.
• 46:12
  Speaker 3: Was a bit salty about my husband not saying anything sooner.
• 46:15
  Speaker 6: He's always been the type to be quiet about things
• 46:17
  Speaker 6: because of drama, but I quickly got over it and
• 46:20
  Speaker 6: realized I wasn't actually upset with him, but his.
• 46:23
  Speaker 10: Sister, for accusing just the women in the family.
• 46:26
  Speaker 6: She has four brothers, the eldest one who lives far
• 46:29
  Speaker 6: away and wasn't there during the 4th of July. And
• 46:31
  Speaker 6: three others with their significant others. Like I get, maybe
• 46:35
  Speaker 6: she was panicking and just said that, but from my perspective,
• 46:37
  Speaker 6: she was actually just accusing us. Later, after the last
• 46:41
  Speaker 6: chat from Miracle's husband, everything kind of cooled down.
• 46:44
  Speaker 10: My mother-in-law at some point.
• 46:45
  Speaker 6: Suggested whoever took the Ozampic out of the refrigerator should
• 46:48
  Speaker 6: pay the little sister back.
• 46:50
  Speaker 10: Hey, how do we know that wasn't the little sister?
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or like anyone who lives in that house.
• 46:55
  Speaker 6: Now that a few days have passed and multiple discussions
• 46:57
  Speaker 6: were had between me and my husband, I told him.
• 47:00
  Speaker 6: I said I was not comfortable with being around his
• 47:02
  Speaker 6: sister or at least talking to her until she apologized.
• 47:06
  Speaker 6: He said she never apologizes and that it's just something
• 47:10
  Speaker 6: I've got to let go.
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: Hmm.
• 47:12
  Speaker 6: But per our conversations in couples therapy, which we go
• 47:15
  Speaker 6: to every week, I should be able to hold this
• 47:17
  Speaker 6: boundary with my husband's support. In turn, he said he'll
• 47:20
  Speaker 6: talk to her about it and kept it pushing. I mean,
• 47:24
  Speaker 6: we're at the end of this story, basically. I think
• 47:27
  Speaker 6: there's one foolproof way to narrow down your suspects of
• 47:30
  Speaker 6: who took your Ozempic.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: And that is?
• 47:33
  Speaker 10: You gotta go in descending order.
• 47:34
  Speaker 11: Hmm.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 48:00
  Speaker 6: It just sounds like she ruined her Ozempic and now
• 48:03
  Speaker 6: she's trying to be like, oh, I don't want to
• 48:04
  Speaker 6: have to.
• 48:05
  Speaker 7: Pay $ 700 for that.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: Somebody took it out.
• 48:08
  Speaker 10: Someone stole it.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Also, is it actually $ 700? That's crazy.
• 48:13
  Speaker 10: I don't know. I guess if you do it without like,
• 48:15
  Speaker 10: I don't know.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: I have no idea.
• 48:18
  Speaker 6: Fast forward to today and I had asked if he
• 48:21
  Speaker 6: talked to his sister yet since we would be going
• 48:23
  Speaker 6: down to see a concert and she was texting him
• 48:25
  Speaker 6: to come see her in her new house. To my surprise,
• 48:28
  Speaker 6: he blew up in my face saying he is not
• 48:31
  Speaker 6: going to do anything and that he gets anxious.
• 48:33
  Speaker 10: Even trying to talk to her now.
• 48:35
  Speaker 6: Ouch. I said, I didn't know that. And I told him,
• 48:38
  Speaker 6: that's okay then. If we happen to see her, I'm
• 48:40
  Speaker 6: not going to interact with her or talk to her.
• 48:42
  Speaker 6: If she asks you about it, you can tell her
• 48:44
  Speaker 6: to ask me directly and I'll explain to her how
• 48:46
  Speaker 6: I feel.
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: He said, that's not fair and walked away.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: How's that not fair? Just be like, oh, you could
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: talk to her about it because you obviously have a
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: problem with her, you know? If that's fair, then you're
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: like not in the middle of it and he can
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: put it off on you, you know? Everyone's just like
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: voiding each other.
• 49:01
  Speaker 3: It's weird. Yeah, I don't know.
• 49:03
  Speaker 10: It's like, Come on, man.
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: Like, talk about the issue.
• 49:06
  Speaker 6: It feels like you're a little scared.
• 49:09
  Speaker 10: Like, oh, I don't want to have to talk to
• 49:11
  Speaker 10: my sister. She's going to be annoying.
• 49:13
  Speaker 6: It's like, dude, just like, whatever.
• 49:18
  Speaker 10: Tell your sister. It's like, yo, it was really messed up.
• 49:20
  Speaker 6: Up that you immediately accused all of our significant others
• 49:22
  Speaker 6: of stealing from you when literally all you had to
• 49:25
  Speaker 6: do was look on the counter like it's crazy you're
• 49:28
  Speaker 6: a weird vibe for.
• 49:29
  Speaker 7: That that's all you need to say dude.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: And she can come back with any and all evidence,
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: which she'll probably have none.
• 49:36
  Speaker 6: Yeah, so am I the animal for holding a boundary
• 49:38
  Speaker 6: with my sister-in-law after she accused me and a few
• 49:40
  Speaker 6: others of stealing? No.
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: Not at all.
• 49:42
  Speaker 10: Not until she apologizes to you.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 49:44
  Speaker 10: It's that simple.
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: Do not slander my name for your enjoyment.
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: Do not slander my mander.
• 49:50
  Speaker 10: I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure what
• 49:52
  Speaker 10: that was.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: I planned an entire trip for my boyfriend's sister, and.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: She did nothing!
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: I mean, uh, that doesn't sound fair.
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: So, a little context. I, 25 female, got really close
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: with my boyfriend's little sister, 21 female, this year. We
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: have very similar personalities and interests, and we have a
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: lot of fun together. I was a little reluctant with
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: our relationship since it might be forced, like how you
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: have to be polite with the family-in-law, but we talked
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: about it and I felt reassured. Somehow we decided to
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: organize a trip together. She is a student and I
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: graduated from my master's thesis last year. I did all
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: of the trip organization. I would book tickets, think about
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: routes and accommodations, things to see, places to visit. I
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: prepared sandwiches for the trip, long train trip, I booked
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: the hostels. I would ask her what she wants to
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: eat for the trip and she would answer me the
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: next day with, oh, sorry, forgot to tell you. Honestly,
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: I was a bit annoyed, but it didn't bother me
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: that much because I knew she was younger and she
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: is in a different situation than me. She obviously has
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: less money, et cetera, et cetera. So I was fine
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: taking the lead. By the way, this comes from SmartNinjaLef.
• 51:05
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 51:11
  Speaker 10: I'm Dakota.
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: And we are here to give some good advice goofily,
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: but we don't have all your answers. We're only going
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: to tell you what we would do, but let us
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: know what you would do down in the comments. As
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: Opie says, the days went on and my emotions just worsened.
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: She would finish the water during the trip without sharing
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: the end with me. We had four hours before we
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: could refill and barely act sorry. She would ask me
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: about transportation. Where's the bus stop? When do we arrive? Etc.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: Now we are staying at my family's place. They are
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: a much older couple, 28 to 30 years old. And
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: it's even worse. I feel like she's not thinking about
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: me and I'm constantly taking her into account. I walked
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: slowly today because of my period. She would walk far away,
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: annoyed that we are going slow. She told me she
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: got a towel for when we went swimming, and now
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: she's asking for mine. Asking for water, I'm always the
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: one to take a water bottle. And tonight, she got
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: to sleep before me. She took the one-person quilt that
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: I thought we would share and put it on her.
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: She didn't close the electric shutter, though. She did it yesterday.
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: I woke her up so she could tell me how
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: to do it, She says she doesn't know and goes
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: straight back to sleep while I try every button to
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: shut the shutters. I'm so dang tired. Or I feel
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: like a sacrificial mother. resenting her kid for not doing
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: enough she is a sweet person very kind with a
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: bubbly and sunny personality i have fun with her and
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: i felt like i never met someone i click with
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: so much but i didn't know how to handle the
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: maturity problem i want to tell her but it is
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: so difficult since i don't want to ruin the mood
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: for the rest of the trip six days left but
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: i am in so much tension i become mad at
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: her for nothing i feel annoyed at her for nothing
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: now and i feel like she notices it but I
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: am incapable of talking about my feelings, and everything piles up.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: So I'm just going to go ahead and say it. Uh, yeah,
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: kind of got to talk to her.
• 53:00
  Speaker 10: At least a little.
• 53:01
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 53:02
  Speaker 10: Or it won't change.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're just going to keep resenting her, and it's
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: going to get way worse. She's going to breathe wrong,
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: and you're going to be like, I just can't stand her,
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: you know?
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: And then the moment you do talk to her, it's
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: just going to come out of you like... Yeah.
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: And then there's no way to stop it. So I
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: think before it gets to that point, let's be proactive, OP.
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: And let's sit her down and be like, hey, I
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: feel like there's been some tension between us. Can we
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: kind of figure this out? And just say, you know,
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: this is how I've been feeling. How have you been
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: feeling type of thing? Maybe she doesn't notice it. Maybe she,
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: you know, feels like it's your responsibility to take care
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: of her or something. But like there is an answer
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: behind all this. You just need it. You need to
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: hear it from her rather than trying to make assumptions
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: and trying to baby her. You're not her mom, you know?
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: You're doing a nice thing for her and she's just not,
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: she's not taking it with gratitude. So call her out
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: on it. It doesn't have to be mean. It's just,
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: you can just sit there and be like, I feel
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: like you're kind of taking advantage of me, but I
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: don't know. Is that how you feel type of thing?
• 54:04
  Speaker 10: You know, it doesn't have to.
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: Be like, well, I've been doing everything and you've just
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: been like sitting there doing nothing, taking everything from me, me, me, me.
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: I don't have any water and you took my towel
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: and all this stuff. And it's like, let's take a
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: step back and let's talk about it in a calm manner.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 54:19
  Speaker 10: Nice and calm.
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: There's an edit here. A lot of people got stuck
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: on the much older part while talking about a 30
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: year old person. I think my choice of words was inappropriate.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: English isn't my first language. Update. Today she asked once
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: again for lots of things. Asked me if she needed
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: to dress up.
• 54:39
  Speaker 3: LOL.
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: If she should bring a fork or not, et cetera,
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: et cetera. I acted clueless and told her I didn't know.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: I focused on my own needs. I told her to
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: bring her own bottle of water, and she was absolutely understanding.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: I asked her to take part in the planning, and
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: she did with great joy. I feel like she's slowly
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: getting it, and I feel so relieved. Thank you, everyone,
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: for the advice. It really worked. What was the advice?
• 55:01
  Speaker 3: Literally, it sounds like the advice was just actually bring
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: this up.
• 55:05
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 55:05
  Speaker 6: It does sound like the entire time Opie's just like,
• 55:08
  Speaker 6: shouldn't she just know.
• 55:09
  Speaker 10: Already that she needs to do this stuff? Like, shouldn't
• 55:11
  Speaker 10: she know?
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: I mean, yes, she should. But also, some people, when
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: you plan this whole thing, like, For example, Sophia just
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: planned this whole like, you know, 4th of July trip
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: that we had to Tahoe. And I asked her if
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: she needed any help.
• 55:24
  Speaker 10: And she was like, yes.
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, I didn't realize. Because she was,
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: you know, she was always texting, always like planning things,
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: being like, okay, we're going to do this. We're going
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: to do that. All this stuff. And like we had plans.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: But then she was like, if someone else could do it.
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: But she never said that. You know, so all of
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: us were just like, oh, she's planning it. You know,
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: that's what she wants to do.
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: Whatever.
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: She was like, no, I don't like to do this.
• 55:44
  Speaker 10: And we were like, oh.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: You know I and that was just to me I
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: don't even think she told anyone else that so I
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: was like oh my god yeah I'll like I'll do
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: the kayaking or whatever I'll sign up for some stuff
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: or you know look things up and get prices and
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: everything you can chill you know she already booked the
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: house and you know made all these plans and whatever
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: and you know I was like I didn't realize how
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: stressful that was let me help you And so sometimes
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: no one's going to know unless you literally say it
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: out loud to that person.
• 56:11
  Speaker 10: Sometimes we all just need a little help sometimes.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: That's all right.
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 56:18
  Speaker 11: My friend forgot to tell us about her own ceremony
• 56:22
  Speaker 11: and blamed us for leaving.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: You were supposed to know.
• 56:25
  Speaker 11: You're supposed to read my mind. I, 25 female, was
• 56:29
  Speaker 11: a bridesmaid for a friend's wedding.
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: The groom, Roy.
• 56:33
  Speaker 11: is a close friend of my partner's, and I got
• 56:36
  Speaker 11: to know the bride, Flora, through him. We had some
• 56:40
  Speaker 11: shared interests, and our partners are good friends, so we
• 56:43
  Speaker 11: ended up spending a fair share of amount of time together.
• 56:47
  Speaker 11: Some background, Roy and Flora got engaged pretty early in
• 56:50
  Speaker 11: their relationship, and she was quickly folded into our mutual
• 56:54
  Speaker 11: friend group. I noticed some red flags early on, but
• 56:57
  Speaker 11: I'll keep it vague. She was raised in a very
• 56:59
  Speaker 11: insular environment. and it shows how she navigates social situations.
• 57:04
  Speaker 10: She doesn't have.
• 57:04
  Speaker 11: Many close friends of her own, and she often leaned
• 57:07
  Speaker 11: on me and other people she met through Roy for support,
• 57:10
  Speaker 11: even when she had friends who lived closer or had
• 57:13
  Speaker 11: more relevant experience. In the months leading up to the wedding,
• 57:17
  Speaker 11: Flora came to me constantly for advice. We were the
• 57:20
  Speaker 11: same age, and I've never been married, so I was
• 57:22
  Speaker 11: an unlikely confidant. She vented about Roy, shared overly personal
• 57:27
  Speaker 11: details about their fights, and ask for guidance on things
• 57:31
  Speaker 11: I had no expertise in. I'd repeatedly told her to
• 57:35
  Speaker 11: communicate directly with him, but she kept coming back. I
• 57:38
  Speaker 11: was even cutting my lunch breaks to talk to her
• 57:41
  Speaker 11: down from anxiety spirals. By the way, this comes from PopularPineapple7.
• 57:46
  Speaker 11: And if you want to speak on your own stories,
• 57:48
  Speaker 11: go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Riley.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: I'm Danny DeVito.
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: Oh man, I love your work. I'm Keon.
• 57:55
  Speaker 10: And we're here.
• 57:57
  Speaker 11: To read stories goofily. If you have anything you'd like
• 57:59
  Speaker 11: to add, please add it down below. As Opie says,
• 58:03
  Speaker 11: the wedding itself was spread over multiple days and it
• 58:06
  Speaker 11: was a mess. Traditions were never explained to the bridesmaids,
• 58:10
  Speaker 11: despite us asking repeatedly over the course of a year.
• 58:14
  Speaker 11: Flora grew more dismissive and demanding as the days approached.
• 58:18
  Speaker 11: None of us pushed back and partly due to the stress,
• 58:20
  Speaker 11: but also because she's known to be overly sensitive and
• 58:23
  Speaker 11: tends to blow things out of proportion. The night before
• 58:26
  Speaker 11: the event, Laura sent a message to all the bridesmaids
• 58:30
  Speaker 11: about a walk-in we were expected to do. Her exact
• 58:34
  Speaker 11: words were, I have a migraine, so I'm not repeating
• 58:38
  Speaker 11: or explaining this again. If you missed this message, then
• 58:40
  Speaker 11: good night. I finally snapped and called her out in
• 58:43
  Speaker 11: the group chat, pointing out that not everyone in the
• 58:46
  Speaker 11: bridal party knew what she was talking about and that
• 58:49
  Speaker 11: it was irresponsible to leave us to figure it out.
• 58:53
  Speaker 11: These were her traditions and and she had a multicultural
• 58:56
  Speaker 11: lineup of bridesmaids who needed clear guidance. I wasn't the
• 58:59
  Speaker 11: only frustrated one. By that point, nearly everyone in the
• 59:03
  Speaker 11: bridal party and our wider friend group, except for Flora
• 59:07
  Speaker 11: and Roy, knew I was at my limit. As the
• 59:09
  Speaker 11: wedding day went on, it became clear that most of
• 59:12
  Speaker 11: us bridesmaids were just there to fill numbers. The majority
• 59:15
  Speaker 11: of the people who Floral met through Roy, partners of
• 59:20
  Speaker 11: Roy's groomsmen, or acquaintances of less than a month. One
• 59:24
  Speaker 11: day in particular was a breaking point. Flora forgot to
• 59:28
  Speaker 11: tell nearly all of us about a serenity, so only
• 59:31
  Speaker 11: two bridesmaids showed up, both of whom coincidentally were not
• 59:35
  Speaker 11: from her culture. Her family was openly unwelcoming to us
• 59:40
  Speaker 11: the entire day. We barely saw Flora, got hassled by
• 59:44
  Speaker 11: her relatives, and ended up leaving early because we clearly
• 59:47
  Speaker 11: weren't wanted there. Later, Flora was upset with us for leaving.
• 59:52
  Speaker 11: Because we were supposedly supposed to help her with something,
• 59:55
  Speaker 11: but she never told us what it was.
• 59:57
  Speaker 9: This is the type of person that's like, I told
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 9: you this in my head, and you didn't hear me.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 11: We even had to learn the dress code from a
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 11: venue worker the day before since Flora wouldn't give us
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 11: straight answers.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: When we asked. That's the theme of this wedding, Riley.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 3: It's a guessing game.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 11: God. Wild goose chase. After the wedding, while they were
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 11: on their honeymoon, Flora messaged me, said, hey, I have
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 11: a package, and since your boyfriend has the spare key,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 11: can you grab it and drop it in our unit?
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 11: At the time, there was a citywide emergency happening. She
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 11: knew about it because her group chat was blowing up
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 11: and she was actively responding in it. On top of that,
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 11: I was homesick with a cold and I live across town.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 11: When I explained I couldn't do it, she replied, oof, okay.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 11: Whenever stuff gets better, then I left her on read.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 11: You're just a little pawns.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: It's just, yeah, why... And the fact that she, I
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: think she's playing you guys, you know, she's so sensitive,
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: but it's like when you call her out, she's like,
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, what guys? And then like makes you
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: feel bad. And it's like, okay, like, come on. Let's,
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: let's actually have a grownup conversation now. I mean, we're
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: in our twenties. We can do that.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 11: So where we are at now, I'm not going to
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 11: leave our mutual friend group because of her and I
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 11: can be cordial in group settings, but I've stopped inviting
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 11: her to our own gatherings because and I'm not going
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 11: out of my way for her anymore. So am I
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 11: the only one for quietly pulling back and keeping her
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 11: at arm's length? Edit, because I forgot to add these details.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 11: She asked me and another bridesmaid to make decorations, just
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 11: some handmade fake flowers. We spent time putting them together,
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 11: but during every single day of the wedding events, I
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 11: didn't see these flowers we made. She never used them.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: Again, this.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 7: That's so effed up.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 3: No, I'm telling you, this girl is just like, you
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: gotta think what I want. You know me. I'm not
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: going to tell you what I want, but you know
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 3: what I want.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: It's just so exhausting.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 6: Right?
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: Like, what am I supposed to do in this situation?
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: I'm sitting here waiting to hear what you want, and
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: then you don't tell me anything.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 10: Guys, do you not know what OP is?
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 3: What?
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 11: An energy battery.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: The energy vampire.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 11: And you know who's the energy vampire?
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 9: Who?
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 6: Say it.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: Flora.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: Flora.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: Flora.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: Hey.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 8: It's Flora.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 11: Early on, Flora asked us to buy specific traditional dresses
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 11: because that's what she wanted for the bridesmaids. I spent
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 11: $ 380 on mine, non-refundable, only for her to change her
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 11: mind after it arrived in the mail?
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: I hate you, I hate you, I hate you, I
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 2: hate you, I hate you.
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 10: $ 380 on a dress that I can only wear for
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 10: your thing?
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 3: You know, I would just respond to her. I'm like, hey,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: since we're playing guessing games a lot, guess what I'm
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 3: thinking right now?
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking I'm done.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 6: Yes!
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would hate that. I would just be like,
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: am I supposed to do something or am I not
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: supposed to do something? You can't just have me on
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 2: standby and then when I actually do something, it's like,
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: that's actually wrong.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 10: You know what's messed up?
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right?
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 10: You know what's messed up?
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 11: Is that OP can only wear that dress if she
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 11: finds a friend of that culture. Who's getting married and
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 11: be these best friends with them.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: Their dresses are very extravagant. Very pretty.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 11: Very pretty.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 3: We just can't wear it out there.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 9: I'm like, okay, either you refund me the $ 380 I
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 9: just spent on my dress. So that's a net zero
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 9: for me. Or just walk away.
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 10: Oh, this is what she said.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 11: All we got was an apology and a quick message
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 11: to the group chat saying, for those of you who
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 11: already bought it, sorry. No offer to compensate anyone. I'm
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 11: not from that culture, so I have zero reason to
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 11: ever want to wear it again. To make matters worse,
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 11: the new bridesmaid's dress had to be made from scratch.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 6: From scratch?
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 11: Do we get a kid or do we have to
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 11: find our fabric on our own?
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 3: Go forage in the forest?
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: You have to buy silkworms and then have them mend
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: your fabric. That's crazy.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 3: Why are we still in this wedding?
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: I know, I'd be done.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 9: This was before. I know, this is before. Why am
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 9: I still in this? I'd go, great, great, I'm out.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 9: And for that, sharks, I'm out.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: For that reason.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 11: Laura just handed us the fabric and left us to
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 11: our own tailors. I got my fabric three weeks before
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 11: the wedding, so I ended up having to make the
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 11: dress by hand myself because my schedule didn't allow time
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 11: to find a tailor.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: Why are you doing that? Why are you doing that? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 11: Let's just say I had about eight breakdowns trying to
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 11: get it done in time. Here's the thing that really
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 11: gets me. I had to turn to an external friend,
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 11: someone completely outside of the wedding, not part of the
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 11: bridal party, not even in our friend group, just to
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 11: get any clarity on the traditions and what was expected
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 11: of me. She's from the same culture as Flora, so
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 11: she could explain the general customs, but even she had
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 11: to keep reminding me that every family does things so differently.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: Exactly. That's what I'm saying.
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 3: This is so dumb.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: It's like you can guess. You can make an educated guess,
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: but also, since no one's actually outright saying it, I
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: guess I'm just wrong and I should just, you know,
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: sit here and be mad at myself. Right.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 3: At this point, Opie, you you aren't forced to do this.
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 11: Why did you stick with it? Is she really your
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 11: good friend? I mean, this girl would come to Opie
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 11: during her lunch breaks and have like panic attacks.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 3: And she had to like, I wonder why.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 11: And she had to like talk her down all the time.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 3: She was just using her. She was using her this
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 3: whole time. And now look who's getting the panic attacks.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 11: So even with her help, I was still mostly guessing.
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 11: Laura couldn't even be bothered to give me basics. And
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 11: I was left piecing things together from someone who.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 10: Wasn't even involved.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: That's it.
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 10: That's it.
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 11: The girl was the most was doing the very least
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 11: in return.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: No, I would be done with that immediately. If you're
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: not going to give me answers, like, I mean, I've
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 2: have been into weddings and they were still so very organized.
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 2: Like my sister-in-laws and my best friends who I was
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 2: the maid of honor in. Like, I don't know what,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: like it could, I stayed on top of it. I
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: don't know. You just, you just do what you got
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 2: to do. You communicate with people. Like, I don't understand.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 10: No, absolutely.
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: How could you leave people in the dark like that
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: to just be like, By the way, like, you know,
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: you guys are going to have to figure it out
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 2: because my hand hurts. But just be there tomorrow.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 11: And even in scenarios where her head wasn't hurting, she
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 11: was still not even giving any information.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: I mean, any excuse she had. And then also the
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: thing like, oh, during an emergency... You know, could you
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 2: go over and bring a package into my house? That's
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: across town. Probably like, you know, 30 minutes away.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 11: It's your responsibility to get that information across. And guess what?
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 10: This is what I would do.
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 11: If I only wanted to say something once, I would
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 11: say it very clearly, record it, then take it to
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 11: someone and make notes about it. Or take it, do
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 11: some AI thing and have it make notes for me.
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 11: And then that's how I would do it. Be like, hey,
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 11: here's everything. But you have to say it at least once.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 10: This is wild.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 11: Do you know, do you guys know anyone that doesn't
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 11: like giving context? Except for me.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 2: Except for me. I ask pretty extensive questions. So like
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: if I don't understand something, I ask a lot. And
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: I used to feel really bad for asking questions like
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: as a child. And I would just be like, if
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: I don't get it, I don't get it. And then
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: I would get it wrong. And then I'm like, I'm
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: only hurting myself. So yeah.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: So it took me a while to like be comfortable
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 2: asking questions. But like, why wouldn't you? If I don't
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 2: understand it, I should ask questions. And no one should
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: get mad at that because that just means that you're
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: not explaining it correctly. or you're not explaining it in
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: a way that I understand, you know.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 2: Same thing with directing.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 1: go to the next one. Hey, it's Angie, your favorite
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: fake redhead host here, and we're.
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: Going to get back to the stories, but here's a
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: three-minute ad break from our sponsors. My best friend cheated
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 2: right before her engagement and asked me to be her bridesmaid.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 8: That's drama.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: I'm 26 female, having a pretty big issue regarding one
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: of my best friends, 25 female. and her infidelity. Plus
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: the added fact that I am supposed to be a
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: bridesmaid in her upcoming wedding. Some backstory, I have been
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: friends with Marie for about six years now. When we met,
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 2: she was dating my oldest friend, John, 28 male, and
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: they were together for around two years. Towards the end
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 2: of her relationship with John, she rekindled a friendship with Joseph.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: a man who she has been involved with off and
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: on for the last 10 or 12 years. Around the
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: end of that year, Joseph broke off their non-relationship, no
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: labels and all that, because he began seeing another woman,
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: one he has now been with for the last three
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: years or so. Marie met Paul and began dating him
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: on New Year's Day the following year. They have been
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: together now a little over three years and got engaged
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 2: last March Their wedding is set for next April. By
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 2: the way, this comes from throwawayalotofnumbers. And if you want
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Savannah.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 11: I'm Riley.
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: And we're here to get some good advice, but we
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: don't have all your answers. We're only going to tell
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: you what we would do, but let us know what
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 2: you would do in the comments. As OP says, throughout
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: her relationship with Paul, Marie has remained in contact with Joseph.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 2: She has received either texts or emails from him and
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: responded in kind. Some of these have been strictly friendly,
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: some of them have been more flirtatious. She confessed to
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: me that she indeed had spicy sleep with Joseph just
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: before she and Paul were engaged, but that it didn't
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: count because they hadn't made their promise to marry each
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: other yet. Since becoming engaged, she has continued to speak
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 2: with him in some form quite regularly and has run
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: into Joseph several times. She has claimed that Joseph was
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: her soulmate and that they were always going to be
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: drawn together like magnets or something. While I understand the
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: feeling of being on the same wavelength as other people,
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: I do not believe that someone should agree to marry
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: another person if there is a third party still involved.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: To compound this issue, Marie has lied to me about
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: her current involvement with Joseph. Claiming that before this past Saturday,
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: she had not spoken to him in four months, among
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: other things. My sister, who is also close friends with Marie,
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: told me that Marie ran into Joseph about two weeks ago.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: This morning, my sister sent me a screenshot of a
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 2: fake Facebook profile that is almost certainly Joseph's, as the
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 2: only mutual friend of ours is Marie. And we all
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 2: live in the same small town where pretty much everyone
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 2: is connected. If this is indeed Joseph's secondary profile, my
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: sister has discovered Marie's new way of keeping in contact
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: with Joseph, as Paul rarely uses social media. On top
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: of all this, I am to be a bridesmaid in
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: the wedding, as is my sister. While I have only
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: put down $ 100 for our bachelorette party long weekend in Florida,
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 2: I am expecting to shell out about $ 1, 500 more in
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 2: order to pay for the rest of our trip, the dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gifts,
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 2: hotel room, and everything else throughout this next year and
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 2: some months. I am not comfortable continuing to act as
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: a bridesmaid knowing that Marie is still in contact with Joseph.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: Marie is one of my best friends. She is always
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: there to listen, although she can be very self-centered, particularly
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: when it comes to discussing her wedding, as if it
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: is the most important event to ever happen. I don't drive,
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: and she has common clutch. giving me several rides back
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 2: and forth to crucial obligations I would not have been
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: able to make otherwise. When I was in the hospital
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: right after this past New Year's, she and my sister,
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: who had been having a sleepover, shot to the ER
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: in the next town over to be with me. I
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 2: would do the same for her, and I have. Paul
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 2: isn't perfect, but he is a really great guy. Very rarely,
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: he can be stoic and unemotional. such as when his
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: father passed away, but usually he's happy, hardworking, has a
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 2: decent full-time job, does nearly all the cooking and cleaning,
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 2: and is more than happy to treat her like a
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: princess and give her pretty much whatever she wants, particularly
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: in regard to their engagement and wedding. I'm not perfect either,
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 2: and my thoughts of perhaps sitting Marie down to dinner
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: with my sister and me to explain that we are
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 2: not comfortable shelling out a collective $ 3, 000 if she is
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: still involved with, for lack of a better word, her ex-boyfriend,
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 2: come down to the fact that she will either deny
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: her involvement with Joseph despite the evidence mounted against her,
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 2: or tell my sister and me that we are not
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 2: her real friends, a phrase she has tossed around before
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 2: because of other instances where she didn't get her way,
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 2: or call me self-righteous or some similar thing and say
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: that if the situation was reversed and I was cheating
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: on my boyfriend Daniel with an old flame, that she
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 2: would support me?
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 3: It's so backwards.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 2: Why would, why would?
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 3: What are they teaching in this town?
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 2: I just know, like, you don't support any. If you're
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 2: a real friend, you call your friends out. You don't
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 2: support them when they make bad decisions. If my friend
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 2: is going to burn down someone's house because they wronged them,
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to be like, yeah, that's a good idea.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 2: You're not going to get arrested or anything.
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 11: To be honest, I would be dropping out of this
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 11: so I wouldn't have to pay all this crap.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah.
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 11: $ 1, 500, I'm like, oh, I can save myself $ 1, 500 if
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 11: I just.
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 3: Tell Paul. There's already going to be a divorce coming anyway,
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 3: or there's going to be no wedding if I tell Paul.
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 11: I'm saving her money. I'm saving both of us money.
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know. I just think this whole thing
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 2: is just so messy. She needs to take a step back.
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 2: Does she actually want to marry Paul? Like, that's the thing.
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 11: I don't think so.
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 2: We don't know.
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 11: I think she just likes whatever she's in and wants
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 11: to be with Joseph, but he can't commit.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah. Why are we letting this happen still?
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm with Angela. Why cheat? Be with the one
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 2: you want. Like, if you want Joseph, just go be
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 2: with him.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 2: Like, why make this whole thing so messy for what?
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 2: Update six months later. As it turns out, my sister,
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 2: my boyfriend Daniel, and I, not the only ones who
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 2: knew or suspected.
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 3: She was cheating. Okay, yeah. Like I said, this is
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 3: a small town. It's gonna come out sooner or later.
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 2: It's true. Paul's best friend, Tony, had his own suspicions
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 2: around the same time and somehow got proof that Marie
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 2: was texting her ex-boyfriend at all hours of the day
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 2: and night for weeks and weeks, even after I had
• 1:14:50
  Speaker 2: had a conversation with her about how she needed to
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 2: stop or come clean or whatever she needed to do
• 1:14:55
  Speaker 2: to start an honest marriage with Paul. Tony and some
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 2: of their other friends confronted Paul. Marie denied everything and
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 2: in turn accused Paul of cheating on her with my sister.
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 5: What?
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 3: Dude, she sucks. She sucks.
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 2: Get away from her. They worked together. Oh, so him
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 2: and her sister worked together. I just about lost it.
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 2: I quickly calmed down. And when my sister said Paul
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 2: wanted to know everything we knew. I sent her screenshots
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 2: of the conversation we had in which Maria admitted to
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 2: sleeping with Joseph just before they got engaged and apologizing.
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 2: During work hours in the aftermath of being told over
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 2: the first two days, apparently he stayed strong and determined
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 2: to leave her. But once he got home, I guess
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: he folded like a house of cards and she manipulated
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 2: him into staying.
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 10: That checks out.
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 3: This is so sad. I think everyone sucks here. Everyone
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 3: sucks here.
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 2: Honestly.
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 2: Even with the phone records, even with the screenshots of
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 2: her conversation. According to various other friends, Marie keeps changing
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 2: her story. Well, obviously, because she gets, you know, she's
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 2: getting caught, and then she's like, actually, I didn't do that.
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 2: I did this.
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 3: Why don't we just bring Joseph into this, huh?
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 8: Yeah, right.
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 11: Where's Joseph at? That's what cheaters do. They lie. They
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 11: cheat from the truth.
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 2: They cheat from everything in their life. First saying that
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 2: she never did anything with Joseph, then that he only
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 2: kissed her on the forehead, then that he only kissed
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 2: her on the lips, then that it went further than that.
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 2: Bits and pieces of the truth here and there, and
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 2: my guess is that it's never going to come out.
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: She also accused me of only waiting until the right
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 2: time to drop a bomb, and trying to ruin her life,
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 2: and being jealous, and wanting her and her fiancé to
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 2: be as miserable as we are. High school drama. I
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 2: decided I didn't have time for it and sent her
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 2: a note saying that because of her lies, ridiculous behavior,
• 1:16:51
  Speaker 2: and outrageous accusations against my sister, I had no interest
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 2: in being in her wedding or in continuing a friendship
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 2: with her. And period. That's how it should be. That's
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 2: a sentence. Now she's coming after you. She's going to
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 2: blame your sister for her relationship or all the things
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 2: that she's done. She's been cheating this whole freaking time.
• 1:17:09
  Speaker 2: Now she's going to blame your sister? Who are you?
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 6: Right.
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 2: And you still want me to be a part of
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 2: your wedding?
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 9: Bye.
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 11: It's ridiculous.
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 10: It's crazy.
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 2: I mean, do you think they're going to get married
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 2: now or what? Like, are they tying the knot or
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 2: are they tying the sack?
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 11: If Paul does not understand what's going on and gets
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 11: his head out of her butt or whatever, wherever it is,
• 1:17:30
  Speaker 11: he never will. And he'll probably stay with her forever.
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 11: Keon's seen this before. Keon's seen things like this before.
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 2: You've seen this before?
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 3: I've seen Stranger Things.
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree with Audrey. I don't think Paul has
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 2: enough self-respect to leave her.
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 9: Even when the truth's in his face and everyone tells
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 9: you you should break up with her and she's cheating
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 9: on you, he.
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 3: Goes, nah.
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 11: He wants to get married and have a family. It
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 11: won't hit him until years down the road. Then he'll
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 11: start getting resentment.
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah. There's going to come a time where she's going
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 2: to manipulate him into not knowing. It's either you stand
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: up for yourself or you don't. And there's going to
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 2: get a point where he's just going to be done
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 2: with it. But by that time, he's going to lose
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 2: everyone around him because they've lost all respect for him.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 2: And so now he has no one to lean on
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 2: except her. And so it's, you know, you have to
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 2: reevaluate your entire life after that. Is that what you want, Paul?
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 11: Honestly, dude.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 8: Honestly.
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 2: She has banned Paul from speaking to my sister at work,
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 2: even though they work in a small office. And it's
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 2: extremely unprofessional that he's acquiescing to her demands. I'm sure
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 2: she is spreading more lies and gossip about everyone who
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 2: attempted to inform Paul of her infidelities. Ultimately, he's made
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 2: his choice and I can do nothing more. All I
• 1:18:39
  Speaker 2: ever wanted was for her to be happy with Paul,
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 2: but she made the choice to cheat on her fiance
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 2: and lie to everyone around her.
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 11: The blind one says, all fun and games until their
• 1:18:49
  Speaker 11: kids start looking like Joseph instead of Paul.
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know what you really want.
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 11: Oh my gosh, Brando says, I worked in the town
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 11: where Riley's dad's barbershop is. If this happened there, they'd 1000%
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 11: get married and pretend like everything's okay.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 6: Really?
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 10: It's all about the show. It's all about the facade.
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 11: Go to church on Sunday. Make a good face. Say
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 11: hi to everybody. But they are so twisted backwards and
• 1:19:14
  Speaker 11: they gossip so much. Gossip is, oh, it is such
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 11: a brutal epidemic in that town.
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 8: It's horrible.
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 2: It's horrible. Yeah, I feel like that's how it is
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 2: for like small towns and especially like people who are
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 2: retired and don't really know what to do. And so
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 2: they're like, let's just talk about everything going on. Spread
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 2: some rumors. Why not? Just gossip a little bit.
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 10: Live your own life.
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 11: Get out of the town. I'd tell that to my friend.
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 11: He keeps trying to get with the town baddies.
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 7: And I'm like, bro, get out.
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 11: Get out and explore life.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.