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Hypnosis for High Levels of Calm Confidence and Positivity for Job Interviews · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do. You ever get nervous for job
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  interviews? Many people do.
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  It's out of here. And the client session that
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  you're about to listen to had a high level of anxiety for
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  interviews because of previous interviews where they felt very
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  anxious, very on edge. And they didn't do as well in
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  the interviews as they thought. Which meant that that what if
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  thinking then applies to future interviews?
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  What if I mess up? What if I can't answer the
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  questions? What if they don't like me?
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  All of those things create additional anxiety in a future
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  situation. That's known as anticipatory
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  fear. So you can have a loop here
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  because if you are looking for a job, mostly there is a need to
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  be. Interviewed.
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  For it, you're evaluated. But what most people don't
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  realize is that interviews are a two way evaluation.
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  You are evaluating the opportunity just as much as they
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  are evaluating you. Now this particular client knew
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  a lot about their work and when they were in informal reviews or
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  appraisals, they were fine. They were very relaxed.
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  They didn't need to prepare what to being be asked about.
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  They could just talk about what they do and all the value they
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  create naturally. But job interviews felt
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  different, and I see this a lot when I've worked with people
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  where they've got high levels of anxiety.
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  There's a frame that The thing is different to skills and
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  competencies they already have. And there's an evaluation that
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  is a high stakes environment rather than a low stakes
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  environment. So this hypnosis session has
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  elements of regression to resource states, disassociation
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  from certain things, where you get to see yourself doing well,
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  preparing and in the interview, and then a first person
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  perspective of that interview going well.
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  There's quite a bit going on here and it's going to be most
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  useful if you have either an upcoming interview or you're
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  thinking about applying for a job at some point in the future.
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  Then you'll get more value from this session.
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  Some of the references are very much related to the client that
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  I was working with. So if you do like the idea of a
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  bespoke session created entirely for you, there will be a link in
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  the description. You can schedule a free
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  consultation call, we'll have a chat, and it might be that we
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  end up working together and then I create a hypnosis session.
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  Not just send you a recording, but you actually experience it
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  live. I think a lot of people don't
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  realize that these recordings here, it wasn't that I created a
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  recording and sent it to the client.
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  The client was in front of me. So sometimes if you're watching
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  the video version of this, you'll see my eyes scanning the
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  facial expressions of the client that I'm working with because
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  they're in front of me. I'm doing it to them.
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  And that's why it feels like more real hypnosis than just a
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  recording that is just recorded straight into a mixing desk.
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  It was done for a person. So if you feel like that might
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  be interesting for you, there will be a link in the
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  description where you can schedule that free consultation.
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  For now, though, you might get some value from this One South.
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  Find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe in, breathe in a wonderful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation and as you exhale, feel a sense of release,
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  releasing any tension in your body.
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  Most people don't realize that stress, tension and anxiety
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  changes how the body feels. When the body changes, those
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  feelings change also. I want you to get a sense that
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  as you breathe in for deeper and you exhale for longer, you start
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  to awaken that diaphragm. When you breathe out for longer
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  than you breathe in, it's like a switch for the brain.
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  That alpha state, the alert state starts to switch initially
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  to beta and then Theta. You feel really relaxed,
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  sometimes delta. So just imagine positioning your
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  body in such a way that it's conducive to deep, deep
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  relaxation, maybe in a comfortable chair or maybe in a
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  bed. And I want you to feel that
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  you're breathing in for longer and exhaling for longer.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper.
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  Relaxed, that's in. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. And I want you to imagine a
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  moment in your past where you felt the most relaxed.
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  Maybe you're on holiday, lying on a beach or maybe in a spa or
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  maybe somewhere else. I just imagine floating back to
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  that moment where you felt so relaxed that's in eyelids, heavy
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  jaw, loose neck and shoulders relaxing.
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  That's in almost like your whole body is calming down.
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  If there's a dial that's high alert at one end and drowsy and
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  sleepy at the other, just dial it down.
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  Not so you drift up to sleep, but it's that everything feels
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  calm, relaxed and slow. And while you imagine being in
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  that place of pure relaxation. And they count downwards from
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  5:00 to 1:00. And I want you to remember a
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  time, the time when you didn't know anyone and yet you made
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  friends quickly and easily. Initially just observing
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  yourself as five goes to four, drifting deeper 3 and then two
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  deeper still, and then one. Imagine being an observer to
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  that version of you, perhaps in a new country, not knowing
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  anyone, and notice how calm, comfortable and confident you
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  were because you made the evaluation.
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  That you would make friends, easily, find work.
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  You weren't daunted, you were excited.
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  You had an assessment that your abilities exceeded the
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  challenge, and that's what made it so easily, because that
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  evaluation created a wonderful self fulfilling prophecy.
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  But imagine if you went to that same place, worried that you
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  might not make any friends, worried that you might not get
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  any work in a country lonely, that could also create a self
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  fulfilling prophecy. But it didn't.
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  In that environment, you were calm, confident and resourceful.
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  You went outside of your comfort zone, going to places you'd
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  never been before, speaking to people that were strangers.
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  And yet you can recall that those strangers became friends,
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  and if they didn't, no big deal. I don't want you to imagine the
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  memory where you were at, your most confident, most calm, most
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  resourceful, and then step into that memory.
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  Feel that any conversation that didn't lead anywhere was no big
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  deal, a shot to nothing. You knew that if you did the
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  right things, felt calm and comfortable, making friends and
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  finding work would be easy. And it was.
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  And I want you to notice how that feels, how you were
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  breathing at the time, feeling calm and confident in a
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  dialogue. The assessments, something along
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  the lines of it's fine, I know how to do this, it will all be
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  all right, and it was. And if your unconscious is
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  making the assessment that how you were back then would be
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  useful for a future situation like a job interview, let me
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  know about nodding your head. And it might be more formal and
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  less social, but it's still conversations with people based
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  on two way evaluations that could lead to new ways of
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  working. If it works out, then great, and
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  if it doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be.
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  That's it. And I want you to imagine
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  somewhere that you remember from back then.
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  But I want you to imagine a table, and on that table is a
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  virtual reality headset from the future, something that didn't
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  exist at that moment in time that will in the future.
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  And I want you to imagine as you put the virtual reality headset
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  on, it loads a game. It's simply called the
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  interview. But I want you to feel that this
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  is going to be fun, challenging, because there is a premise to
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  this game and it isn't to get the job.
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  The premise is to feel calm, comfortable, and enjoy the
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  process. Because the more you enjoy the
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  process, the more likely you are to get an offer.
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  An offer that you can accept but don't have to.
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  All the options, no obligations. Just imagine it says level 1
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  like you're teleported somewhere.
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  Just imagine you're teleported to a place that you're familiar
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  with, maybe a laptop screen, a tablet screen.
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  And then you see a team's call, the Zoom call, the Google
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  meeting. This is a remote interview, your
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  cameras on, their cameras on. And just imagine 2 interviewers,
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  maybe they're dressed in suits and maybe not.
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  And I want you to imagine that this is a job that's take it or
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  leave it. You'd like the offer, but you
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  don't need the offer. And just imagine they ask you
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  some of those standard questions.
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  They tell you they've got your CV, they're asking you about how
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  long you work somewhere, why you left.
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  And just feel that you have all the answers, like they're there
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  on the tip of the tongue and you're not concerned that things
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  have to be in a particular order.
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  I want you to tap into this feeling that it doesn't matter
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  what they ask because you're ready for it.
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  You feel that way. Let me know about nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And I want you to get a sense that they're friendly yet
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  professional. They ask you questions that
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  relate to things you know well. And I want you to notice how you
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  feel. Maybe you feel calm and
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  confident. Maybe there's a tiny bit of
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  anxiety, but just you dial down the anxiety and dial up the
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  confidence. Imagine how it would feel to be
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  on that call, feeling in a flow state.
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  And if there's any tinges of anxiety, you can just have a sip
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  of a drink or a long outward breath and it calms you down,
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  recalibrates you. And then imagine the interview
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  getting to the end. They'll tell you they get back
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  to you in a few days. And I want you to get a sense
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  that you want detached from the outcome.
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  You will make evaluations based on the process.
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  You either win or you learn. Either it went the way that you
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  want, well, there are things that you could do differently
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  that may help the next time. That's right, feel that it went
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  well and then see the screen change to level 2.
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  Find yourself back there in front of that screen, but this
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  time it's for a role that you really want.
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  You don't have to get it, you just want it.
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  Imagine there's three interviewers, all dressed very
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  formally. They've got more serious facial
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  expressions. They're offering more complex
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  questions and going into more detail about your experiences.
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  And yet this feels like a walk in the park because your
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  experience exceeds the demands of these questions.
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  For you, this isn't an interview.
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  It's a conversation about your experience and what you have to
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  offer. Nothing here is challenging.
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  I want you to get a sense that at any point in time, you could
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  do something to make you feel more confident.
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  Whenever you clench your fist, you can feel strong, feel
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  confident. And you could do that without
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  the people interviewing you even knowing what you're doing, they
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  can't see it. If you feel that you're a bit
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  too nervous, you could just you wiggle your toes and you feel
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  more relaxed and calm. You could take a glass of water
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  and that's a reset or a long outward breath out.
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  Feels like a release valve. Any pent up tension or nerves
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  just leave your body in that outward breath, feeling more and
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  more relaxed. Notice how in this one you are
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  also asking questions, seeing if the role matches what you want,
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  Even tough questions. Nothing phases you and it's fine
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  to say. I'm not sure.
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  Let me think about that and then follow that with something that
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  you're proud of. You're very capable in.
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  It gets to the end of the interview and you see some clues
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  that it went well. Smiles head, nods.
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  And then imagine something on the screen saying you've passed
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  level 2, Level 3 starting. And just imagine that Level 3,
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  you're arriving at a building. You go to reception, they ask
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  who you're there to see, and maybe you wait in the reception
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  or a waiting room and maybe there's other people and maybe
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  there isn't. I want you to get a sense that
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  this is an in person interview with two interviewers.
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  They're friendly, but with formal, structured questions,
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  and I want you to get the feeling that you prefer it this
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  way. You prefer having a conversation
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  with a real person face to face rather than through a screen.
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  Maybe you have a cup of tea, a coffee, a water, and whenever
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  you take a sip, I want you to feel that is resetting,
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  recalibrating. Whenever you take a long breath
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  out, you're releasing any nerves, any feeling of worry or
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  stress. I want you to get a sense.
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  Then you can wiggle your toes and nobody would know what
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  you're doing. If you can't clench your fist,
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  you can just pinch a finger and a thumb together and you will
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  immediately feel more resourceful, feel more
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  comfortable, feel like this is just a conversation that could
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  lead to an offer. If it does, great.
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  And if it doesn't, no big deal because you either win or you
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  learn. It either goes how you want it
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  to go, or you get invaluable experience that helps the next
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  time. Because I want you to.
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  Imagine if you were playing this game in reality, two or three
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  interviews every day. I wonder how many days until
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  interviews don't bother you at all.
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  Sometimes in a movie they have a montage scene where time
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  collapses, where months are revealed in minutes before level
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  2 starts and then Level 3 and just before level 4.
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  I want you to imagine there's always a montage.
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  Imagine day after day, interview after interview, getting better
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  and better each time, calmer each time, or confident each
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  time. Questions that you were asked
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  before, you now know how to answer them better until you see
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  yourself with an expression. This is a game you know how to
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  play well. This is now fun for you.
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  You enjoy it. This is well within your
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  capabilities. Step into that version of you
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  and field and it's like you've done two or three interviews
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  every day for months until nothing can phase you.
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  Doesn't matter if there's an expression of disinterest,
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  doesn't matter if you don't have an answer to a question.
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  Nothing phases you, and when you feel that you've activated that
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  version of you, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And then it says on that VR
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  headset Level 4 commencing, I want you to think of the most
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  challenging interview possible. And yet you're unfazed.
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  Unflappable. You want it, but not so badly
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  that it makes you nervous. Imagine turning up to an in
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  person interview and lots and lots of other people are there
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  waiting to apply for exactly the same job.
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  I want you to imagine that you're taking into a serious
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  boardroom. 3 interviewers, all with stone cold faces.
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  Very formal, serious questions, tricky questions.
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  Sometimes they're abrupt. They stop you before you've had
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  a chance to finish. They challenge your answers.
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  They're cynical, sceptical. And yet you feel fine.
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  This is like training at altitude.
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  If you can feel calm and confident in an interview like
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  this, a standard normal interview feels like nothing.
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  It feels easy. Sometimes people run around with
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  ankle weights so that when they take them off, they feel light
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  when they run. This is the purpose of this
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  level, not to expect serious difficult interview, but just a
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  no. That if you can feel confident,
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  calm even when seeing facial expressions of disinterest or
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  disapproval, and yet you still carry on, then it means that no
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  interview can bother you. Imagine getting a question that
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  you simply don't know how to answer, and imagine responding.
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  I don't have an answer for that, but I do know I'm a hard worker,
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  I'm experienced, I won't need training.
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  I can hit the ground running and see that they are impressed with
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  the answer. Because sometimes difficult
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  questions aren't there to elicit difficult answers.
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  They just want to see how you cope with pressure and feel that
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  you understand the game. Now it's a game of two way
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  evaluations. They're evaluating you and
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  you're evaluating them. And even if you get an offer,
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  you don't have to accept it. And I want you to imagine doing
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  this for a year until nothing in an interview can phase you at
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  all. I want you to think of something
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  from your past that the first time you did it, you were
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  nervous, maybe like driving on a motorway, and you did it few
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  times until it was just normal and natural.
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  And just apply that way of thinking to interviews and
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  imagine you've done it every day for a year until it feels
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  benign, natural, and effortless. And when you get to that level,
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  see on the screen, level 4 completed, you are ready and you
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  are ready. Your life has made you ready.
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  Your experiences have prepared you.
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  You have all of the resources necessary to have a conversation
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  about a situation where you can help them and they can help you.
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  And if neither of you can help each other, then it's just an
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  interview that doesn't go anywhere.
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  When you're ready to start thinking about it as
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  conversations about things you know a lot about, notice how
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  much easier it feels. You've got so many ways to feel
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  comfortable, and I want you to get a sense that whatever
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  happens, you either win or you learn.
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  I want you to imagine taking the VR headset off, putting it down
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  and floating back to that version of you relaxed in that
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  place where you've felt really relaxed.
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  I want you to feel that you have awakened and trained the neural
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  pathways that now know how to link calm, confidence, and even
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  enjoyment into this thing that some people call interviews.
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  But you think more of professional conversations and
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  you're good at conversations, so interviews are now easy as you
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  accept that thought fielded. Each and every time it gets
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  easier and easier and easier. Very soon I'm going to count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00. If you're listening to this in
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  the daytime or a time when you want to awaken, when I count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00, you will awaken feeling alert, calm, and
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  confident. But if you're listening to this
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  in bed, head on a pillow, ready to drift off into a dreamlike
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  sleep, then when I count from one to 10, each number will just
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  take you deeper and deeper brain wave shifting so that you can
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  drift off into a wonderful, relaxing, rejuvenating sleep.
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  Starting to count 123, 456, 789 and 10.
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  Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode
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