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A Fiancé Q&A! · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everyone, we're scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: We're back again.
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  Speaker 4: Back.
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  Speaker 5: Would you like to introduce our guests of honor?
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  Speaker 6: We're back with my fiance, Haley Kio.
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  Speaker 5: How fun is it?
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  Speaker 2: It's really cool fun. Yeah. It feels like fresh and new.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, so.
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  Speaker 1: Tune in next week and the same thing, and I
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  Speaker 1: will keep asking it until she's your wife.
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  Speaker 5: So well feels elevated. Yeah, yeah, right, it's.
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  Speaker 2: Just like an upgrade because I will say I'm not felt.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not against being girlfriend or boyfriend for however long
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  Speaker 6: it feels right. But at a certain point when we
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  Speaker 6: say girlfriend and then people are like, oh, how long
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  Speaker 6: have you been together, and it's like, oh, seven years,
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  Speaker 6: it kind of felt like, do I need start saying
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  Speaker 6: partner to make it feel a little more like elevated? Yeah?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, long term, yeah, long term.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want people to think it was just like
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  Speaker 2: this random summer fling.
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  Speaker 6: I was, yeah, right, right, right, So fiance feels really elevated.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So we asked the scrubbers to submit their
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  Speaker 1: questions for the newly engaged missus and missus and Mark
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  Speaker 1: is gonna start asking those now.
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  Speaker 7: I mean, scrubbers always come through and they're very sweet
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  Speaker 7: and they're thrilled for you. They're so excited, and some
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  Speaker 7: of them have said, like, you know, we want every detail.
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  Speaker 7: If it takes ten episodes, that is fine with us.
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  Speaker 7: Just keep it coming. But this was a nice one
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  Speaker 7: from Jen Touton. Jen said, I'd love to know when
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  Speaker 7: the subject of marriage started becoming more of a possibility.
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  Speaker 7: For so long, it seemed like it wasn't a huge priority,
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  Speaker 7: and then I noticed subtle shifts when the subject came up,
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  Speaker 7: and I would love to know their trajectory.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know, it's just been like a slow burn
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  Speaker 5: for us. I feel like, yeah, I.
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  Speaker 6: Think I would say last year, when we officially moved
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  Speaker 6: in together, there was kind of that like, Okay, we're
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  Speaker 6: planning our future now together because because we both had
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  Speaker 6: have had commitment issues in the past. I think when
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  Speaker 6: we officially decided to move in and like merge our
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  Speaker 6: life officially together, it felt more like, Okay, we're we're
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  Speaker 6: in this, you know, we're doing it. And I also
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  Speaker 6: think that just like getting through some things, like where
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  Speaker 6: Haley like would have to leave for work for long
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  Speaker 6: periods of time, and we were able to like navigate
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  Speaker 6: that in a healthy way, which I really had a
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  Speaker 6: hard time with earlier, earlier in our relationship.
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  Speaker 2: It just made it feel like, Okay, we can we
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  Speaker 2: can do this.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I.
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  Speaker 2: Feel like we've been through everything.
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  Speaker 6: That can go.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I feel like there is something to be
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  Speaker 1: said about like, and no shade to anybody that gets
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  Speaker 1: engaged after like six months of dating, Like everybody has
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  Speaker 1: their own story, but there is something to be said
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  Speaker 1: about spending so much time with someone because I do
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  Speaker 1: feel like over time, that's when you like really learn
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  Speaker 1: the ins and outs of like being in a relationship
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  Speaker 1: with somebody.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, what life is going to look like together?
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  Speaker 3: Like you've always been together for a decade.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's more than some people like our marriage
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  Speaker 1: staying married, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, true, Yeah, Yeah, we've we've you know, like we've
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  Speaker 6: worked really hard at our relationship and also it's been
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  Speaker 6: like the easiest thing to work.
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  Speaker 2: Like I've I've always just wanted us to figure it out.
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  Speaker 6: We want to be together, and so when whether it
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  Speaker 6: was like family stuff or work stuff, or just personal stuff.
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  Speaker 6: Like I felt like we always were like there was
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  Speaker 6: never a moment of let's just throw in the towel.
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  Speaker 6: It was how do we figure this out so that
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  Speaker 6: we can be together and it be like a healthy
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  Speaker 6: and beautiful relationship. And we've done that, and I think
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  Speaker 6: that it just kind of started to feel more comfortable talk.
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  Speaker 6: I think marriage to me has always felt like a
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  Speaker 6: daunting experience. Like I think I've always just been like,
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  Speaker 6: why do you need that? You know, I never was
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  Speaker 6: someone who like dreamed about that part of my life,
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  Speaker 6: and so I think my focus was always if that's
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  Speaker 6: what Haley wants, I'm so happy to do that because
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  Speaker 6: I just know I want to be with her forever.
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  Speaker 6: So she wants to do the traditional you know, give
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  Speaker 6: each other rings and have a big celebration and have
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  Speaker 6: a wedding, I'm so happy to do that.
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  Speaker 2: But I think when when we got engaged.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, oh, I really this feels so exciting
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  Speaker 6: and important, you know, so.
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  Speaker 1: I know it's I was actually I didn't I because
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  Speaker 1: I knew how you had felt about like marriage, and like,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you and I are very different, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like I look forward to it like my
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  Speaker 1: whole life, right, I was waiting for that moment, and
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  Speaker 1: like you were always like very chill about it and
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  Speaker 1: like not sure, and I'm like I knew the minute
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  Speaker 1: you got engaged it would like all just come like
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  Speaker 1: flooding into you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's all I mean. I just I'm excited.
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  Speaker 6: I think it's so fun that as women, and not
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  Speaker 6: that men and women can't do this, but like that
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  Speaker 6: we both get to have the moment of getting proposed to.
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  Speaker 5: So I will do that though relationships.
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  Speaker 2: That said, I know.
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  Speaker 6: Other I know straight couples can do it, but like
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  Speaker 6: it's fun that we both get to have it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that's actually a really great thing.
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  Speaker 1: Is I never did that and now I kind of
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  Speaker 1: feel bad.
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  Speaker 2: Just grab his anniversary and.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I can surprise him. Yeah, oh that's a little detail.
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  Speaker 7: You took that to a weird place.
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  Speaker 3: I always do.
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  Speaker 7: Tyler yems. Now we mentioned in the last show that
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  Speaker 7: you know, there's really been no thought given to the
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  Speaker 7: actual weddingven Tyler's worrying how long you would like the
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  Speaker 7: engagement to be, and then they also added, I like
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  Speaker 7: many scrubbers cried when seeing the posts. So thank you
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  Speaker 7: both so much for sharing everything, and congratulations from all
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  Speaker 7: of us.
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  Speaker 5: Emotional. We're just going to rye this engagement out. But
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  Speaker 5: in a couple of years.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, Haley is a big career year next year,
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  Speaker 6: and so I think.
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  Speaker 5: With my film and stuff, yeah, with her movie.
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  Speaker 6: And so I think that it would be like within
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  Speaker 6: the next couple of years. But I don't think we
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  Speaker 6: feel I mean, obviously we do everything on our own time.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't think we feel rushed at all. But
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  Speaker 2: I'm excited to like get to the point where we
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  Speaker 2: start planning it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, take the time to think about it, think about
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  Speaker 5: how we want to do.
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  Speaker 6: It, where we want to do it for us Yeah, yeah, oh.
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  Speaker 1: Say I we didn't mention this before the other podcast,
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  Speaker 1: but like again, I was trying to be respectful of
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  Speaker 1: you being present and in the moment and not asking
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  Speaker 1: like a million questions, but I kept being like, when
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  Speaker 1: are we announcing this?
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  Speaker 5: Like when's this happening?
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  Speaker 1: And I knew we were doing the podcast, whatever day
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  Speaker 1: we were doing the podcast, and you guys hadn't announced it.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like planning on just like coming in
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  Speaker 1: and just doing like a regular old podcast and like
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  Speaker 1: waiting for you to like announce it when you wanted
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  Speaker 1: to announce it again, not me, not being pushy.
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  Speaker 5: So when you announced.
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  Speaker 1: It, I was like very psych It was it was
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  Speaker 1: like this like crazy like rush and then like Haley's
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  Speaker 1: coming on and I was like, oh my gosh, it's
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  Speaker 1: like so exciting, and I was like, I can't wear white.
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  Speaker 1: And it took me so long to find out fit
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  Speaker 1: where I'm not wearing white, and now neither one of
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  Speaker 1: them are wearing white shirt on with another shirt covering it.
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  Speaker 5: Fly.
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  Speaker 8: I really don't have a lot of traditional but I
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  Speaker 8: also don't have a lot of white, so I have.
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  Speaker 5: Something to pass down.
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  Speaker 6: But yeah, I was like, you're fine, you can. White
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  Speaker 6: is still your color, Tanya.
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  Speaker 7: So they should wear mostly white for the next two years,
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  Speaker 7: and that's what it takes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, good, it feels good.
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  Speaker 7: So no rush is the answer to the question year
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  Speaker 7: It could be two even more.
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  Speaker 6: And I also just have to say, like, you know,
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  Speaker 6: we posted and like obviously we know, we know just
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  Speaker 6: based on how people have responded to our relationship that
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  Speaker 6: people are going to be excited. But it always feels
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  Speaker 6: very overwhelming to have like the love and support for
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  Speaker 6: our relationship because we've been together so long and it's
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  Speaker 6: been a journey, and you know, we came out publicly,
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  Speaker 6: we had so much support. But like this part, like
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  Speaker 6: moving into this next chapter and having people respond like
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  Speaker 6: like that.
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  Speaker 2: Like Tyler, is just a reminder of like how much.
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  Speaker 1: Joy there is, you know, the love always outweighs the
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  Speaker 1: hate always true, so true, always always speaking of when
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  Speaker 1: you announced it, has your phone? Have your phone just
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  Speaker 1: been like going bonkers?
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  Speaker 5: We haven't when we've been here. Oh, even better, you're
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  Speaker 5: gonna have got some texts.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, we've got some texts and calls while we were
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  Speaker 6: getting ready, and yeah, it's been fun.
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  Speaker 2: It's so fun to have like people feel excited.
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  Speaker 6: You know.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I texted you this morning when I found out,
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  Speaker 7: and I was not expecting a reply, but I go
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  Speaker 7: on right away.
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  Speaker 2: I think.
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  Speaker 6: Was something something I've known about myself for so long
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  Speaker 6: is that I don't like a ton of like direct
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  Speaker 6: attention on me. So I get a little overwhelmed in
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  Speaker 6: these types of moments.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm trying to let myself just like.
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  Speaker 6: Accept it and embrace it and you know, not get
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  Speaker 6: overwhelmed by it because I have always felt like I
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  Speaker 6: couldn't fully celebrate myself. I don't know, like I've always
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  Speaker 6: just felt that, like, oh, I just need to like
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  Speaker 6: play it down. But I'm trying to let myself celebrate
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  Speaker 6: and be excited.
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  Speaker 5: Let it. You deserve You deserve that, all of it.
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  Speaker 5: Let it in.
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  Speaker 7: Next question, Rosita Rodriguez Flores. We covered this a bit
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  Speaker 7: in the last year, but this for timeline purposes. How
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  Speaker 7: long ago did Haley purchase the ring? Because it wasn't
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  Speaker 7: that long ago, right.
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  Speaker 5: No, I mean it was this year. Yeah, it was
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  Speaker 5: a couple of months ago.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, quick answering that question, Let's see, Tiffany, did
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  Speaker 7: Beca already plan to propose and have an idea of
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  Speaker 7: when she wanted to do it?
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  Speaker 5: Wait say it again, did.
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  Speaker 7: Beca already have an idea of when she wanted to propose?
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  Speaker 2: If I did, I want to tell anyone interested.
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  Speaker 6: Also, like, the whole thing with Haley is that the
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  Speaker 6: ring is a very I need to find something very
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  Speaker 6: specifically tailored to Haley, and we haven't gone through that process,
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  Speaker 6: so I have to find a way to She was
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  Speaker 6: very sneaky with how she got me to try on rings,
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  Speaker 6: Like I had no.
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  Speaker 2: Idea very in my head. Now, no, no.
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  Speaker 8: I think we just go and pick it out and
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  Speaker 8: design it and then what I want exactly what I want,
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  Speaker 8: and then we'll figure it out.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, she's she's not just any girl. She deserves something
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  Speaker 6: that fits herself much.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever looked at you know, those rings that
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  Speaker 1: are like they're like flipped on their side.
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  Speaker 5: East West, That's what I'm interested in. The East West.
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  Speaker 8: I want an East West. I don't know what. Yeah,
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  Speaker 8: I think I don't so cool? Yeah, yeah, so we'll see.
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  Speaker 6: The cool thing about it East West is that if
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  Speaker 6: you want to get a reset, it can be a
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  Speaker 6: North South.
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  Speaker 3: Nice act better.
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  Speaker 5: You can just stack timeless timeless. Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Next question Mark, Jimmy Lynn wants to be your wedding planner.
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  Speaker 7: She lives in Chattanooga, Tennessee.
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  Speaker 2: We'll be shopping for what.
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  Speaker 7: This is from Hira Siduki. Scribers have great names, by
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  Speaker 7: the way, great names. Are there any muffed halves you
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  Speaker 7: already know you envision for your big day?
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  Speaker 5: Phoebe?
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  Speaker 8: Oh yeah, Phoebe and dress or tugs depending on But
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  Speaker 8: she feels better.
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  Speaker 6: I think that what are Something I really noticed at
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  Speaker 6: at y'all's wedding, Tanya was the just the people that
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  Speaker 6: y'all invited was just so perfect in terms of how
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  Speaker 6: everyone interacted with each other and we're celebrating you guys,
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  Speaker 6: and how the whole weekend felt like that. And so
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  Speaker 6: I think our biggest thing is going to be curating
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  Speaker 6: our guest list.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That I think was like the we were really intentional
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  Speaker 1: about our guest list, Like we were obviously like it's
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  Speaker 1: the people that were closest to, but like we were
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  Speaker 1: just very intentional. And I feel like that weekend, it's
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  Speaker 1: a game changer. That weekend, we couldn't tell like who
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  Speaker 1: were there for Robbie, who were there for me? Like
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  Speaker 1: it was everybody was there for everybody, and like everybody
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  Speaker 1: on both sides were hanging out and partying together and
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  Speaker 1: like that was like the best.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and so and I also felt like what we
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  Speaker 6: learned about Haley is that she does not do well in.
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  Speaker 4: Y.
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  Speaker 6: But another thing is the weather will be a very
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  Speaker 6: specific choice I have.
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  Speaker 5: In Los Angeles. I'm very privileged to comfort and.
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  Speaker 8: So we will have to be very specific with the
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  Speaker 8: climate that we choose.
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  Speaker 5: You don't think you're gonna do like a snowy wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Not snowy, but it can't be.
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  Speaker 5: It needs to be neutral weather for me. Let me
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  Speaker 5: tell you Mexico has some U so we'll be auditioning weather. Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: We never thought that until we were in Myerica and
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  Speaker 8: I was like, I can't breathe.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it was hard for me. Weather was my number
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  Speaker 5: one Yeah, yeah, I was your dress and you really
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  Speaker 5: want to feel it.
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  Speaker 7: By the way, and I was wrong and I admit it.
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  Speaker 7: Remember I was like, Tanya, whatever, you can't control the weather.
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  Speaker 7: And by the way, it rained like crazy that weekend
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  Speaker 7: in southern California. Yeah, yeah, because that was pushing for
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  Speaker 7: OHI personally. Could we take a break and.
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  Speaker 5: The questions do you want to tease the question?
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  Speaker 7: Let me tease it this way. We solicited four questions
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  Speaker 7: before we put out the first episode with all of
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  Speaker 7: the details, but some of them figured stuff out anyway.
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  Speaker 7: So I want to reveal some of those really intuitive
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  Speaker 7: listeners coming up.
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  Speaker 3: And we're back.
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  Speaker 5: Mark is going to read the question.
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  Speaker 1: Haley is gonna is taking a bite of a cupcake,
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  Speaker 1: so we're gonna let her enjoy herself.
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  Speaker 6: She was fading, she's not used to this life, this podcast.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you go away, you go into like a tunnel
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  Speaker 5: for like I don't know what. We've been here for
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  Speaker 5: like an hour and a half.
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  Speaker 7: I just want to shout out a couple of listeners
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  Speaker 7: who gave us questions before they heard all the details
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  Speaker 7: were really spot on, like Amalia Goudina, who said, who's
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  Speaker 7: the first person you told? And why was it Tanya?
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's so funny.
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  Speaker 5: How did they know?
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  Speaker 7: How about this one? This is Ashley Hartwig?
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  Speaker 5: Really?
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  Speaker 7: Ashley Hartwig said the ad with ring comes the Airge
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  Speaker 7: a couple of weeks ago. Anything to do with this proposal?
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 7: Yes, Ashley Hartwig, I need the.
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  Speaker 5: Scrubbers to help me better.
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  Speaker 2: Like Swifties, they're pretty good.
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  Speaker 5: They're very in tune.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, all right, let's get to a question, shall we.
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  Speaker 7: Let's see I flagged a couple here, okay, Blair Blair Maples.
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  Speaker 7: Will they try to plan a wedding around Tanya trying
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  Speaker 7: to have a baby?
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  Speaker 8: Ooh, that seems complicated.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, here's the thing.
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  Speaker 6: In an ideal world, my friends are able to come
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  Speaker 6: and enjoy our wedding.
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  Speaker 5: We will all figure it out when the time, will
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  Speaker 5: figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: I can't plan around other people's Like I had to
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  Speaker 1: answer that for you, because they're just you can't.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I have to.
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  Speaker 6: I've mentioned like I would, you know, I know all
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  Speaker 6: my friends are going into the season of like having kids,
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  Speaker 6: and that changes.
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's like if you're pregnant, you can't.
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  Speaker 6: Like like full you just like like you're uncomfortable, you know, so.
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  Speaker 5: A feeling. No, I don't know the feeling. But like
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  Speaker 5: I've already had conversations with Robby about this.
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  Speaker 2: I think by the time the child comes, the future
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  Speaker 2: child but as far as I know, is not with us.
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  Speaker 6: Yet, correct, correct, I think that he or she will
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  Speaker 6: be of an age where you will feel comfortable evening
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  Speaker 6: about the time we have a wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And like I already told Robby, Like I'm like
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  Speaker 1: I already had all these Tanya has already booked her flight.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, like I already childcare arranged already.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've talked to you about this because I'm like,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: we're starting after our honeymoon was like when we're like
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: actually starting, which is also a whole nother like trip
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: of like going from that shift in your mind of
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: like not having sex when it's like a risky time
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: to like having sex is just such a weird thing mentally,
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: But I've already had. We've been having these conversations because
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: right after you guys got engage, I was like having
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: all these thoughts and I was like, I just want
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: to Like I was like, to be there. I want
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: to be, like I want to be at everything with you,
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: Like I want to be in every dress thing. I
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: want to be, Like I just want to be as
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: involved as as do you want me to respectfully whatever
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: you want.
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: You don't want me at all the dress shopping.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: It's like I don't have to be involved in everything.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Don't worry, okay, but like whatever you want.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: But I was explaining to Robbie though, like I want
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: to make sure that I'm there for like every single thing.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I really want to hear about your honeymoon. Are we
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: able to like, yeah, we.
• 17:30
  Speaker 5: Can do that some other time.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: I want to hear No, it's fresh. Oh well, he
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: was fading.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: We can't keep her here for a bunch longer.
• 17:37
  Speaker 6: She'll be okay, okay, No, I just want to know,
• 17:44
  Speaker 6: Like it seemed like it was so special because I
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: know you were like you're you're you were kind of going,
• 17:49
  Speaker 6: what's different to honeymoon? Like it's been months since the wedding,
• 17:53
  Speaker 6: like how is it going to feel different?
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: But it felt like it did feel different.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: It was so different from any trip we've ever taken.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: And I think because like what's so funny is when
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: we first left, I was like doing the Monica Geller,
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: like we're on our honeymoon, Like.
• 18:05
  Speaker 5: Can we come into this? Can we get an upgrade?
• 18:07
  Speaker 5: Can we come into your lounge? No? No? No, Like
• 18:11
  Speaker 5: it was all like no. I was like damn, Like yeah,
• 18:14
  Speaker 5: nobody's you know.
• 18:15
  Speaker 7: That happened to me too. I try to work it
• 18:17
  Speaker 7: as much as I could.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: But what's crazy is at our first hotel we were sharing,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: we basically have like a it was like a pool,
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: and there was like two rooms next to us, and
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: we check in and I was like, is there any
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: way be an upgrade? Like happy to pay to have
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: like an ocean view or you know, it's our honeymoon,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: so sorry, no space. There's like a ten year old
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: kid to the right of us. We're sharing a pool
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: with like this little girl laying out and I was like, Okay,
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: it's fine, this is grades our honeymoon whatever. Like I
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: was just like not letting anything like whatever. Those people
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: check out the next morning, and not a single person
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: checks into either room our entire stay. So because it's
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: not about I don't care about the size of our room.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: We had the pool, a private pool for just us.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: The whole is amazing cool.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it ended.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Up being like epic, But that wasn't even it. Like
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: the first part of our honeymoon was like very white lotus.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: We like made friends with everybody at our hotel. We
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: saw them at every beach club. People were sending us
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: like cakes. Like Robbie got into like there was like
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: a girl woman there celebrating her sixtieth birthday with her
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: four daughters, and so of course I went over.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: I was like, are you guys about to rep party?
• 19:25
  Speaker 5: Like no, it's our mom's sixty.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Talking to the girls about like la the mom like
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: newly divorced.
• 19:33
  Speaker 5: Her and Robbie like have this like moment where they're
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: like she's like crying. I'm like, what are you talking
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: this way about? Like sending us like cakes.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: We met this other couple they like sent us caviard
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: or table we like it was. We just ended up
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: making friends with like everybody at our hotel, like exchanging instagrams.
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: Like it was like so cute and so fun.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: And then the second part when we were in Willow
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: was like very private and romantic and like they triple
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: upgraded us, which I've never even heard in my life,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: which was like then they came out and they're like,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: we're doing to.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Triple upgrade you. I was like, I don't even.
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: Know what that means. It was great.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: We had like a palace, which we didn't even need again,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: like yeah, don't you just need like a nice bedroom
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: in a full length mirror and a nice bathroom.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: But yeah, it was.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: Like just so spectacular and like never have felt more
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: like connected, Like there was so much like sexual energy
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: to that was like so nice.
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: It was very rated PG I wouldn't say R.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: But then he posted a book to balance it out.
• 20:42
  Speaker 6: I was like funny, yeah.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: Well but there was.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: It was like very like there was just like a
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: lot of like sexual.
• 20:54
  Speaker 5: Energy the whole trip. It was like amazing.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: And then we watched our wedding video and we wrote
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: letters to ourselves for like our one year and our
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: five year wedding anniversary.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: So it was really really special, very intentional.
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah I love it.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it looked amazing.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: It was the best. My only complaint was I wish
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: would have been gone longer.
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: Me too, Me too? One week international.
• 21:17
  Speaker 8: It's not is if you can afford it, it's like
• 21:20
  Speaker 8: you need to go longer. We'd be on the plane
• 21:23
  Speaker 8: and people would be like, you're flying to MYERCA from
• 21:25
  Speaker 8: Los Angeles and you're only going to be there for
• 21:27
  Speaker 8: a week. And I felt like I was like, do
• 21:29
  Speaker 8: we need to extend our trip?
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Everyone?
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: So, especially after like getting engaged, you were like in
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: this like you were in like a paradise, yeah, and
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: in your own bubble, right yeah.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: And you kind of just want to like live in that.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: And we had.
• 21:42
  Speaker 6: It was such a long trip, but it was actually
• 21:44
  Speaker 6: really getting home and getting to Phoebe and like knowing that's.
• 21:48
  Speaker 8: Where we're started building our paradise at home, which is
• 21:51
  Speaker 8: like important to put energy into.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of construction happening.
• 21:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, like every everything can't last forever. It's true,
• 21:59
  Speaker 5: you know what I mean, It's got to end.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: You gotta go home.
• 22:01
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what I kept telling myself.
• 22:03
  Speaker 6: I told her because she said she's like I don't
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: want to go, and I go, this is this is
• 22:07
  Speaker 6: why we're able to like go to these places and
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: appreciate it because we don't stay for too long.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I could do like a couple more days
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: silver lining here.
• 22:17
  Speaker 7: But in both your cases you have to go back
• 22:19
  Speaker 7: to reality. But in both situations you return into reality
• 22:22
  Speaker 7: that is more beautiful than the reality you left.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: What he kept saying, they don't cry, this is the
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: start of our lives, the end of our honeymoon.
• 22:32
  Speaker 8: I'm like, well, it's like that, what's that classic saying?
• 22:35
  Speaker 8: That's like building your paradise at home. So yeah, always
• 22:38
  Speaker 8: trying to get away, and it's like it's something that
• 22:40
  Speaker 8: you're proud of and that you want to be at.
• 22:42
  Speaker 5: You know you want to and it's true.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: I feel like we all have those lives that we've
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: made for ourselves at home that we don't need to
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: get away.
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's nice. It sure is nice. Nice to
• 22:56
  Speaker 5: get a nice crisp tank.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: We took time.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, I've never taken a helicopter in my life.
• 23:03
  Speaker 6: Scary, it's beautiful, but it is getting on is a
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: I felt scared and scared.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Pilot looked like a teenager. I was like, this guy's
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: flying our helicopter.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: It was one of his test runs to pilot.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: Pete from the back like his little brother.
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: Yes, but twelve.
• 23:22
  Speaker 7: I was like, okay, good, everything from fight Lessons is
• 23:26
  Speaker 7: still fresh in his brain.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah.
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah, Buddy got us there and it was good.
• 23:30
  Speaker 7: Blair Maples also is requesting a live podcast as a
• 23:34
  Speaker 7: bachelorette party, which I think is a great idea. I
• 23:36
  Speaker 7: don't make those decisions, but a lot of scrubbers have
• 23:38
  Speaker 7: mentioned doing a live show to celebrate this.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: We have time to plan for that.
• 23:43
  Speaker 7: Indeed. Uh here's another intuitive listener, Katie Hall. Did Tanya
• 23:49
  Speaker 7: stop asking about it so much because she knew it
• 23:51
  Speaker 7: was coming? No, Robbie, she stopped asking so much. So
• 23:56
  Speaker 7: pretty goody good observation. Here was a dookie is back.
• 24:00
  Speaker 7: Remember her Invisible String is the Agars song? What Taylor
• 24:04
  Speaker 7: Swift song would Becca and Haley used to describe their
• 24:08
  Speaker 7: relationship and their engagement.
• 24:10
  Speaker 5: You gotta shake this one?
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, maybe daylight?
• 24:16
  Speaker 6: Oh you know, it's like I used to I used
• 24:19
  Speaker 6: to believe love would be black and white, but it's.
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: Golden, beautiful. I have chills.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: I love you are in love.
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: It's my time to show Welcome to the podcast.
• 24:46
  Speaker 7: Let's take a break and we'll do one more because
• 24:48
  Speaker 7: I got I have one is a really beautiful comment,
• 24:50
  Speaker 7: and one is a very insightful question.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: Great insightful, and we're back question.
• 25:14
  Speaker 7: Mark question mark good one. Kelly Summers. I thought this
• 25:17
  Speaker 7: is a really beautiful question. If Becca could go back
• 25:20
  Speaker 7: and tell her younger self about this proposal, what would
• 25:23
  Speaker 7: she say? And then she gave six heart eye emojis,
• 25:27
  Speaker 7: Well six what age? First of all, what age are
• 25:33
  Speaker 7: you envisioning talking to you?
• 25:36
  Speaker 6: To be honest, I'm envisioning like young ishbeca like twenty one.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: At that age pre Bachelor, pre Bachelor.
• 25:46
  Speaker 6: And the thing is is that it's so interesting because
• 25:49
  Speaker 6: I really would to change a single thing because sometimes
• 25:51
  Speaker 6: I think about how crazy it is that Haley and
• 25:54
  Speaker 6: I met. You know, you think about like how anyone,
• 25:57
  Speaker 6: I mean you think about how you met your person
• 25:59
  Speaker 6: and how all every choice that you just made like
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: that person. And I think about how Brittany, who's our
• 26:06
  Speaker 6: mutual friend who invited me to her party, I wouldn't
• 26:09
  Speaker 6: have met had I not gone on The Bachelor and
• 26:11
  Speaker 6: got invited to an iHeart event where she was one
• 26:14
  Speaker 6: of the handlers and became friends with her. You know,
• 26:16
  Speaker 6: it's just like all these things, and so I would
• 26:19
  Speaker 6: just tell her that life is going to be even
• 26:23
  Speaker 6: more beautiful and joyful and fulfilling than you could ever imagine.
• 26:43
  Speaker 8: It's just like it's just like we had a moment
• 26:47
  Speaker 8: when we were out there.
• 26:48
  Speaker 5: You were like, I cannot believe you said something like
• 26:52
  Speaker 5: that if you.
• 26:53
  Speaker 8: Were to tell me I was gonna be sitting here
• 26:55
  Speaker 8: with engage with a half Asian woman.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: But I just was like, it is crazy.
• 27:07
  Speaker 6: Like I think about the person I was and like
• 27:09
  Speaker 6: and and how much like not to like be like,
• 27:13
  Speaker 6: oh I'm so brave, but think about like how many
• 27:16
  Speaker 6: it's like like things I had to unlearn to accept
• 27:22
  Speaker 6: myself and accept our love, you know, to be able
• 27:26
  Speaker 6: to share it and to even be ready and like
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: so excited to say yes to her. Like I think
• 27:32
  Speaker 6: about all the things that I had to do and
• 27:35
  Speaker 6: to the relationships that were challenged, you know, and how
• 27:43
  Speaker 6: I just knew. I I remember thinking, like going through
• 27:47
  Speaker 6: these hard moments, like I know that she's my end goal,
• 27:51
  Speaker 6: Like I know that everything that is hard is worth
• 27:54
  Speaker 6: it because it's her right. And so I think I
• 27:57
  Speaker 6: would just tell young Beca, like you have.
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: No idea what's coming, don't go to the farm in Iowa,
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: and unexpectingly she is right around the corner.
• 28:15
  Speaker 8: And I'm so impressed with Becca because she a lot
• 28:17
  Speaker 8: of people aren't open to like she when we met.
• 28:21
  Speaker 8: That was because I've you know, been through a lot
• 28:24
  Speaker 8: of different experiences, but like with Becca was different because
• 28:26
  Speaker 8: she was open, Like she was just open to being
• 28:30
  Speaker 8: open for something new and like not denying it.
• 28:35
  Speaker 5: Like when we met, it was just like instant and.
• 28:37
  Speaker 8: She just like, we'll figure it out later, but like
• 28:40
  Speaker 8: this is this is right.
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: And I'm not going to question that. And like that.
• 28:44
  Speaker 8: I think that that takes a lot of bravery and
• 28:46
  Speaker 8: courage for you know, her journey of going on the
• 28:49
  Speaker 8: Bachelor twice and thinking that her life was going to
• 28:52
  Speaker 8: be a certain way, for her to be courageous enough
• 28:56
  Speaker 8: to go, oh my gosh, is my life actually supposed
• 28:59
  Speaker 8: to be this, and like wanting to chase that and
• 29:02
  Speaker 8: like and go for that, and like she said, challenge
• 29:06
  Speaker 8: so many things like growing up in Louisiana, and they challenged.
• 29:09
  Speaker 5: So many things that she grew up thinking.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's just so crazy because like
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: you say, like courageous and like for me looking like
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: looking in like it was. I just felt like it
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: was never there was never a doubt, you know what
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, Like it was just like so in you
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: and like you knew like there was this like even
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: though there was chaos, there was like this calm and
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: this piece inside you and that decision and like that
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: is so telling, you know what I mean, Like that
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: that calm and that piece, like that you found your home,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: you know, and like I feel like that was very
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: evident from like the minute honestly, like after your first kiss.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: As crazy as that sounds, like it was very much there.
• 29:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 29:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah, we were watching The Queer Ultimatum and it's that show. Yeah,
• 29:59
  Speaker 6: it's the Ultimat on Netflix, you know, the ultimatum.
• 30:05
  Speaker 5: Get married or like yeah.
• 30:06
  Speaker 6: Like someone in the relationship is ready to get married
• 30:08
  Speaker 6: and that the bridge is not. And our friend Taylor
• 30:12
  Speaker 6: was with us watching and so two of the girls
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: said I love you after spending like three weeks together,
• 30:18
  Speaker 6: and She's like, oh my god, this is so dumb,
• 30:21
  Speaker 6: and they're like, yeah, that was us.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: It happens quick, It happens quick.
• 30:28
  Speaker 5: So crazy.
• 30:29
  Speaker 7: Yeah, all right, one more quick one, Carla Lopez, did
• 30:32
  Speaker 7: you know Haley at Tanya's wedding that you would be
• 30:35
  Speaker 7: proposing soon. Yeah, yeah, there you go.
• 30:38
  Speaker 5: Yeah sure did one was your wedding March? Oh yeah,
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: oh yeah, that's crazy.
• 30:47
  Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean last year was like when you knew
• 30:50
  Speaker 8: here we go like I'm gonna have to figure this out.
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: But it's also like how do you do it?
• 30:55
  Speaker 8: Like how do you There's no rule, there's not you
• 30:57
  Speaker 8: can't just like how do you do that?
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: How does one get a ring?
• 31:03
  Speaker 5: How does one surprise or how does like get a.
• 31:07
  Speaker 8: Like I was the most intimidated by the photographer part
• 31:10
  Speaker 8: because I'm like, I'm going to New yorka like I
• 31:11
  Speaker 8: don't know anyone in Marriorica, Like how how is that
• 31:13
  Speaker 8: gonna happen? So it just felt like the universe everything
• 31:17
  Speaker 8: was meant to be because y K was there.
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: He like, he's such an amazing friend. He didn't even question.
• 31:23
  Speaker 8: He's like I'm there, like I need to be there
• 31:26
  Speaker 8: to capture this moment.
• 31:27
  Speaker 5: And as you've seen, the photos are.
• 31:29
  Speaker 8: Just like insane cinematic, like crazy.
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: So I'm so grateful for him.
• 31:34
  Speaker 7: I love the rock with the tissue. That's such a
• 31:36
  Speaker 7: great Yeah.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I hope at some point you post the photo with
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: like your stick figure drawings.
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: So yeah, I know I'm.
• 31:43
  Speaker 8: Going to post the evolution of my twice stick for
• 31:46
  Speaker 8: your drawing. Yeah, the plan's like the whole storyboard of it.
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: Okay, good because it's just too good.
• 31:52
  Speaker 5: It's like full type A.
• 31:55
  Speaker 7: Let's wrap it up with this one him channing Baylor,
• 31:58
  Speaker 7: She says, Mark, can you just tell tell her how
• 32:00
  Speaker 7: excited we are for them. Beca helped me feel safe
• 32:03
  Speaker 7: coming out to my friends and family. Also, we need
• 32:06
  Speaker 7: another live show tour. Twenty twenty was too long ago.
• 32:10
  Speaker 6: Well, we just ago too out before global pandemic.
• 32:17
  Speaker 5: Yeah, we have a wedding to plan now.
• 32:21
  Speaker 6: No, we always talk about wanting to do another live show.
• 32:24
  Speaker 6: So fun It was so funny because Haley was in
• 32:26
  Speaker 6: the audience for them, but for the ninety five p Yeah,
• 32:30
  Speaker 6: oh thank you.
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: That's such pe That's so sweet, thank you, so sweet.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you guys, thank you. I'm excited
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: just to see the outpouring of love. You're going to
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: just like feel so many things in this next phase.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: And I just want you to know that like I'm
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: here and for whatever you need, And I want to
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: make this the most special time of your lives, and
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I'm just really really happy for you both, but especially Becay.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Like I was like worried about you at one point
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: because I was like before you met Haley, obviously, and
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: I was like, is she ever gonna like find love
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: or like feel love and like the way that you
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: feel about Haley and with Haley, And it's like everything
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: you ever want for your best friend. And like, I'm
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: just so so happy for you.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: We love you so much.
• 33:29
  Speaker 5: Should we do another one last cheers?
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Wrap it up? Let Haley go have some.
• 33:36
  Speaker 5: I'm thinking about what I'm gonna do with.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: One last time.
• 33:40
  Speaker 5: For our newly engaged couple. Thank you so much for
• 33:47
  Speaker 5: having me. This was so special to get to share
• 33:49
  Speaker 5: it with all of you