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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just -The Path of Independent Holiness 6.9.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  On page 516, today's trait of kidusha of a person becoming a
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  holy person, it is it's not something that can happen in the
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  day. It's not something that a person
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  could just jump 10 steps and say I want to become an individual
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  of kidusha, which we explained is an elevated person has
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  elements like him. Allah is not so connected to
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  this physical world in a sense not so dependent on the physical
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  world is able to live without certain elements and he's able
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  to function in a very independent mindset.
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  He says it only happens after one prepared himself.
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  You know, that's more but meaning he prepared himself with
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  all the steps that he gave in the beginning of the book, which
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  were persons that here he's careful.
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  He's that he's he's he's a alacrity.
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  He's he's somewheres potash separates himself from things
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  that are not necessary, not not from extra luxuries.
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  He's a person who has your mood. He's has seen all those stages
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  of a person. Hi, you got your mind, you got
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  the head. It's not even born at all.
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  It's very much outside. And even after all of that, he
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  told us one attempts to become Kadosh says to himself, I'm not
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  going to limit myself from things.
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  I just want to be elevated in a sense.
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  I'm not so dependent on anything physical in this world.
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  And I say dependent does not mean you can avoid eating or
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  drinking and sleeping in the basics.
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  It just means that you turn these things into holier and
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  elevated items he deserved. You have all the preparation and
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  you have this attempt, then Hashem helps you in your bear
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  the dabek fedonka vava and make sure to connect to Hashem with
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  strong strength to have off love Hashem vows in my Iran the great
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  fear bascalat kadu la toys brach.
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  I'm based on an understanding of what Hashem is vote similar Muto
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  and realizing the elevated state of God and wanting to cling to
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  that. By separating yourself from the
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  basics in this world from the exorcism throat.
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  You have freed a small millionaire homemade Mato souls,
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  but surely be able to peel himself away from down here's
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  very physical way. O behold the tab the whole to
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  the tab and solely it'll be by every move that he makes and
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  every every function of his life.
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  You have an livable he'll guide his heart, direct his mind, El
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  matsfuner hit by hit tabu tukuto hamit hamiti he'll be able to
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  attain himself and connect himself to the clear but hidden
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  path of me connected to Hashem alone.
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  I chiere I love ruach me my room until the person will reach a
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  state that will have upon him a spirit from on high.
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  We had a skiing abboree Paraka chamora shimo rest of Shakina on
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  this person. I love Kimoshi as God does for
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  all his great people. Vazier kemala, Hashema, masha
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  and then the person will have malaq level status of all
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  mahasab and all his actions. I feel Ashif Alim even the
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  mandina actions like Ashmeen and the physical ones, Keiko Barnot
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  Vavadot and every action that he makes will be a similar to
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  serving us some. Again, this is the highest level
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  imaginable. It's way beyond a regular
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  presence frame of mind. It's the level of Kudu Shah of
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  one becoming holy. And he's telling us I'm talking
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  about levels that are Angel like levels.
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  And I'm telling you it's a very interesting thing that one on
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  this very earth that we live on can climb there.
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  It's not true. For someone to believe I'm
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  physical, I'm mundane, I live with material and therefore I
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  remain material. It's not correct.
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  I have the degree to climb, climb all the way up to Kedusha
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  to the level that I can have this shakina on me.
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  The way he says it, I sham A Reg shakina on him and he says
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  you'll be like a malach in the hard way.
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  So is this. Is this like you'd say people
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  used to fast like twice a week and things like that?
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  Like this is the time period when he's.
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  Writing it or people did fast even after his time period, but
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  he's telling you would I even change one iota of your life.
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  You have to become less connected to this world.
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  You can't say I always need steak and I always need a
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  perfect breakfast and I always need the perfect weather and
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  also expect to have this. It's not possible that much, no,
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  but it's not literally dependent, David, on your point,
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  which is I am a person who's, you know, holding back from
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  physical in a lot of ways to attain this level.
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  That is not the key to this point.
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  The key to this point is on a person who developed and
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  absorbed in my life a very clear understanding of Hashem in this
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  world and a very clear track, a following God in this world and
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  a very clear willingness and interest to be connected to that
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  Hashem. And if you're in that mood and
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  that mindset, and by the way, it's more about the mindset than
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  it is that refraining, the refraining is cut you part of
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  the way, but the refraining in and itself is just pretty sure
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  it's just separating. This is absorbing and attaining
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  way higher heights. And the only way you get there
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  is through the whole process. And the process includes
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  partially refraining, but more importantly, it it includes an
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  understanding of Hashem, of Irad of Hashem, awe of God, an
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  interest of being like God and interesting and following God's
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  way. And what ends up happening is
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  all those things lead you toward a mindset.
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  And the key over here is mindset more than action, lead you
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  toward a mindset. That is, I am fully In Sync with
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  Hashem's way. I'm being like Hashem in a
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  sense. I'm trying to follow Hashem.
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  I'm trying to act the way He wants me to act again.
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  But I can't just say that. And I can't just think that I
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  have to live there. And the way I live there is that
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  my mind became gear toward the Hashem for her mind.
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  And that required stages. It required steps.
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  It doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't just happen by
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  withholding or by lurching for jumping forward to want to be
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  like Hashem. It happens through training to
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  development, to understanding of God and an interest in being
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  like Him and following Him. Then you're able to attain the
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  level where you can translate every single thing that goes on
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  to your life in your life toward Hashem.
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  Like we said the other day, is it easy for someone to really
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  say, I'm eating fashion and I'm sleeping fashion like Darren
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  Bomb tells you to do, Or I'm working for Hashem, taking care
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  of my family, fashem, taking care of myself for Hashem I am.
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  Every word that I say is some way or another geared toward
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  God. Is it easy for someone to say
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  that? No, but it does happen with this
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  overall training process, which is an understanding of how much
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  God is in this world and a wiring of how much I am
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  following him. And then the realization that I
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  want to have Kyusha, which means I want to elevate my life.
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  I do not like the idea of being a very mundane person.
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  I don't like. I'll give you a classic example
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  which came to my mind last night.
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  All right, of course we're all following the games, right?
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  We all care who wins. You know what games are talking
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  about the championship game, the NBA championships.
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  OK, fine. So the following game.
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  So what came to mind as the following is that Robert
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  Scheinberg, Robert was well known and when he lived in New
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  York, when he would grow up as a kid, he was a Yankee fan, all
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  right. And he once said the following
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  comment, you know, he went on to learn and he went from America
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  toward went to Europe. He learned in Europe and he came
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  back, got married here, built the family here and then moved
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  to Israel, built the Uju Shiva in Israel on and on.
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  Rabbi that she is well known to be an unbelievable but to me,
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  which means he left all day and all night and he wrote books and
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  forget it. And he lived to 100 and
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  something. And he would say people would
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  ask me was Yankee fan. He was well known.
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  He was once a Yankee fan and he would say I would bother him
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  didn't bother him that he's still a Yankee fan.
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  What bothered him was if he still cared, which means if it's
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  still either reacted yes, very excited when they won or worse
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  very upset when they lost that bothered.
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  I mean he didn't have a comment per SE as to whether, and I was
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  a fan. He more to comment on that mood.
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  So last night personally, all right at 11 something a night
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  when we found out that they lost right lost a game in the
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  championship like that's not a big deal.
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  Oh, that's part of the process. You lose a game in a series and
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  Knicks lost one game, right? So in my heart, I had the, I had
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  that thought lean to myself. Do I like sports?
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  Yes. Do I follow?
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  Yes. Am I excited when they win?
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  Yes. But the mood, you know that
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  negative mood that's that sits with you the whole night?
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  That mood. I really feel like we should one
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  day grow up. And if I'm almost 40 years old,
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  I really feel like I should be growing up.
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  I shouldn't carry that mood anymore.
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  Should I enjoy a win? Yes.
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  But I think I should go to function once they lose.
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  I got to get to a point where that mood that sits with you,
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  not like that Columbia mood that people have.
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  I got to get past that. Not much I get past where you're
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  trying to get yourself around it, huh?
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  I, I think I'm almost there, but it's still over there.
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  A lot of people, I think a lot of people last night were not
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  passed. That's it.
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  That's one game in middle of a series which they very, very
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  confidently have in their hands. Anything had happened, but they
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  really have it in their hands, under their strength and all
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  that. And Even so and moves to this.
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  So what am I telling you? I'm telling you that a person
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  has to be able to get to a point and trying to get to a point
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  when the elevation were they able to translate and have full
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  control of their life to a point.
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  Not that they can control the outcome at all.
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  You can't control a day, a minute, an hour of your life.
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  Nothing. But you could control yourself
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  and not control. Huh.
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  The rats controlled it. He can't.
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  He can't control very good. You see that?
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  That's how I remember. I was thinking about this.
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  I remember in 1997 when my favorite hockey team lost to the
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  New York team, and they lost in the second or third round.
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  I can't remember. Was it the conference
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  championship or was it semi? I remember and they lost.
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  And the other team, the New York team, cheated.
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  All right, OK, The Rangers cheated, in my opinion.
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  And they were in the crease the whole time.
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  And I remember and they knocked over the goalie and it got me so
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  upset. And I remember as a kid crying,
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  I would sit there and cry. I was crying after the Devils
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  lost the conference championship to the Rangers, or I used to,
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  what's it called a championship? Because the other guy, the big
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  time New York guy that everyone loved, was in the crease the
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  whole time. And I remember it got me so
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  upset. I sat there by the dining room
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  table and I cried like a baby. Admit it, I don't think I have
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  that mood today, but still that that feeling probably isn't
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  there even a job and that someone is realizing that you
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  got to get past that. You got to become kadosh, which
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  means you cannot have even one part of your life that is linked
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  toward any feelings that are related to this world.
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  You got to get past that point. And if you still have that,
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  you're very much emotionally connected to anything physical
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  in this world. You're not there yet.
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  And the medal of kid to shop, it's my example.
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  It's not a perfect example, but it's an oral example.
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  And you can use a much more real scenario, which would be if,
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  let's say something doesn't work out with the food to eat by a
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  restaurant or the place that you stay or the weather that you're
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  dealing with, or the comments someone makes in any of those
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  examples. If that throws you for a loop.
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  We're not on the level of kadusha.
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  We need to be and we want to be a point at a point where every
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  single element of our life is elevated, is told Hashem and is
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  being like Hashem. That's what we want to get to.
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  And then we have shahina literally resting us and we'll
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  see not no materialism, no dependency.
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  That's always the point. I remember once there was
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  someone who you know the machnom pick out of what it says.
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  What's the date of hatura pot or mayim or something to should eat
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  eat bread with salt. I just have water and someone
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  went to rob my insteps around. But that means I can't.
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  I want to learn. I can't have a nice house.
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  How about I can't? I can't enjoy a nice food.
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  And everybody told them. You're misunderstanding the
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  understanding of the machine. It's not that you can't have a
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  nice house. It's not that you can't have
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  good food. It's rather that you can't be
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  dependent on a nice house or shouldn't be dependent.
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  That means that if you end up living in a good house, you're
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  great. But if it turns out for one day
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  or whatever it is that the house is not perfect in a certain
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  area, you're OK. You can enjoy a nice house,
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  enjoy a nice meal, but you can't get furious if the meal doesn't
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  taste awesome. You can't be Burning Man if this
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  place that you stay, you looked on the pictures and look like
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  it's going to be a great place. Then you look on the picture and
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  it turns out you come to reality and the place is not as great as
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  you thought. It's got mold.
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  Exactly. I understand, but if someone's
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  very dependent, they can't get past that.
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  That's the point. If he realizes such shames doing
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  that, but that only gets there. Besides, with the beat the horn
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  element, he only gets to that point that he can handle it and
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  they can just move right on. Exactly only based on all these
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  stages, let's see how he gets there in the car 517 in the car.
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  The way to attain this media who I did it all about Prisha is too
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  much separation. As you mentioned the Ayuna
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  Adsun, a clear analyzation, intense study with the depth of
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  understanding Hashem, Bria, the Muto and recognizing God's
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  greatness. Praise.
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  You know how to connect your mind as you're going through
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  this world and dealing with earthly matters.
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  The same way the Quran has a clear mindset of service of
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  Hashem as he works in the Bethany Dash.
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  You and I, we live in this world, we work in this world,
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  but we're thinking about God's way and wanted to be on God's
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  road, OK? Without trying to work down the
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  track of Hashem, it's impossible to reach this level.
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  Otherwise you remain exactly like the other guys.
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  Who is supposed to do a big level?
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  A big degree that helps us reach this level is separating
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  yourself, which means and your mind.
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  Being an independent person. I think personally that every
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  person has to function alone. Every person has to be able to
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  think on their own. Don't be dependent on other
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  people's opinions, don't be dependent on other people's
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  comments, don't be dependent on other people's cavort and all of
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  that. You have to have an independent
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  friend of mine and if you don't think it depends, I don't care
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  how great you are, you're limited.
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  Every person has to be able to think independent.
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  That means independent of everybody you have.
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  I'll give you an example like this.
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  OK, so someone told me this yesterday, one of the rabbis of
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  the yeshiva where I learned the original rabbis, he's a rabbi
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  that went through, came from Europe, He went through Chennai,
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  China. He's famous for being a gay
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  count on and a very big learn of Torah.
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  So now I'll tell you the story of his.
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  It seems so out-of-the-box. It only can happen if you're
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  independent thinker, a great person.
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  And that is it turns out he's stayed in the Baltimore County.
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  He stayed in the Baltimore County in the summertime 1950s
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  or so. And has he his family, a lot of
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  his family passed away in the Holocaust.
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  He lived alone. He never he never got married.
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  All right, and. And he was one of the builders
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  of the yeshiva what I learned, but he had a life.
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  He had a whole life. He had a whole story and fine,
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  someone noticed that when he stayed in the Mong colony or
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  Rabbi noticed actually he was young guy at the time.
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  This is I see next door to our our bungalow that lives their
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  old Russian couple, old Russian couple had no children and that
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  couple happened to be was very sad couple.
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  He would see every single day. He would sit by the window and
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  they just look outside every single day and like a little bit
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  of a sad scene. They weren't part of anything.
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  They weren't connected to anybody and they would sit
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  alone, sit outside of the window, just stare outside
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  waiting for something. And then this young man noticed
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  that rabbi who was a single man started to notice.
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  They started to skip the night learning in the Batmaton rash.
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  He knows that this person was by this Russian couple, and you
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  would see in the window that he's by the Russian couple
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  sitting with the woman, the Russian woman, and writing notes
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  and writing notes, writing notes every single night.
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  So the son, the young boy asked his grandparents.
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  He says, what's going? Why is the rabbi sitting by the
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  Russian couple every single day? What is he doing?
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  Who's writing notes? What could he be learning from
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  them? He said he's learning Russian.
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  Father told him Shmuel was the name of his name and they used
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  to call him Shmuel Kharkova because he came from a city
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  called Kharkova from Russia. He said he's learning Russian
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  from the Russian woman and he's writing notes on Russian.
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  He said one second the sunset to his father.
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  What are you talking about? He doesn't know Russian.
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  He learning Russian from that woman.
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  He grew up in Russia. He doesn't know Russian.
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  What's going on with you? The father said he sure does
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  know Russia, but he realized that those people are alone.
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  And he realized that these people have nothing to live for.
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  They seem so sad. So he went over to the woman and
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  asked her, can you teach me Russian?
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  I'm going to learn it from you. And he paid it for he paid her
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  for it. So he went out of his way to pay
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  a woman to teach him Russian when she herself, I'm sorry,
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  when he himself knows the language already.
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  He sketched her to ask her to teach him that language.
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  And he's paying her for her so she could deliver her service.
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  And he's skipping out on his learning for that, right?
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  And probably everyone's wondering, what is this guy
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  doing? He's skipping from the Batman
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  dash to do something strange like sit with the Russian
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  couple. And he said all this to make a
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  couple feel good, right? So why did the story yesterday?
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  I just told the story yesterday and the reason I love the story
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  is because it's the most independent minded thought a
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  person can come up with. He's a learner, Learners learn
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  for a living. They don't do other things like
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  that, right? He's giving a Russian couple,
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  that's a random couple. He can't put some random idea he
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  came up with a trick to make them feel good.
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  He's paying her for it out of his pocket.
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  He himself, by the way, he dealt with a very difficult, very
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  difficult life, right for all day his parents, family went
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  through and all that. And yet at the same time you
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  came up with this hop, you cannot come up with that idea
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  unless you're an independent thinker.
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  And you cannot develop in life unless you're an independent
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  thinker. And I happen to think in this
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  community, we're blessed with so much around us, so much around
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  us. The one challenge that we can
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  face is an inability to be an independent thinker because they
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  say this and they say that and they're doing this and I have to
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  be like them and what are they going to say?
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  And I have to copy them and look at their party and look at their
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  house and look at their car and look what they're going to say
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  if I send my kids to that camp or if I do this, and if I do
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  that or if I have a different routine and it's all about that.
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  You know what that all takes away the inability to be
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  independent and the inability to grow to your fullest heights.
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  And my humble of being one of the biggest things and the
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  biggest Achilles heel any person who's a member of this community
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  has is the need to be part of the system.
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  You got to be part of the system.
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  It can't be out to lunch. Do you got to have the owner
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  friend of mine? A story shows, I'm telling you
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  right here, the way a person can develop the levels of Kedusha is
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  some degree of solitary thinking that helps them on their way,
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  right? What's up to this?