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What was a totally normal rule in your house growing up that you later realized other families DIDN'T have? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: You grow up in a household. The household has rules
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  Speaker 1: that you follow. You go into the world. You go
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  Speaker 1: into first year. You go into varsity. You get a roommate.
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  Speaker 1: You start dating. You move in with somebody. You get married.
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  Speaker 1: And you realize that. This rule that you grew up
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  Speaker 1: thinking that applies to all households actually only applied in
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  Speaker 1: your household.
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  Speaker 2: Like your parents came up with something that was uniquely theirs.
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  Speaker 2: Some kind of a rule that no one else really
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  Speaker 2: was following.
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  Speaker 1: This is what I want to discuss this morning.
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  Speaker 3: 011-8838-947.
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  Speaker 1: What was a totally normal rule in your household when
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  Speaker 1: you were growing up? And then into the world you
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  Speaker 1: go and you realize, hey, no, man.
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  Speaker 4: No one else is doing this.
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  Speaker 1: We're the only ones who do this. I think for
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people, it was putting the bread in
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  Speaker 1: the freezer thing. Oh. I mean, I was first year
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  Speaker 1: when I realized that people put bread in the freezer.
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  Speaker 5: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: Great idea, though. Totally amazing rule. What was the rule?
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  Speaker 1: That bread stays in the freezer.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it doesn't live in the fridge. It doesn't live
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  Speaker 4: in that bread basket.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, if you're not using it.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and then you take it out.
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  Speaker 6: If you buy too much of it. Yeah, I do
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  Speaker 6: that currently, but I didn't have that rule growing up.
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  Speaker 1: Who taught you that now when you say currently?
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  Speaker 6: I just went, I have a.
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  Speaker 1: Lot of bread. I wonder what I can do.
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  Speaker 4: My gran used to do this. She put the bread
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  Speaker 4: in the freezer.
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  Speaker 2: In my mom's house, my mom and dad's house, it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't because we eat it so quickly.
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  Speaker 4: But my gran used to put it in the freezer.
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  Speaker 1: So one of the rules that I didn't grow up with,
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  Speaker 1: and then I found it along the road, you know,
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  Speaker 1: of living with lovers. And then, this actually should be
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  Speaker 1: a song, Living With Lovers.
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  Speaker 3: These are the things I collected along the way.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember my ex's mom had a staunch rule
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  Speaker 1: that you do not leave a knife in the sink.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, why?
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  Speaker 1: Because if somebody breaks in, you've just given them a.
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  Speaker 4: A weapon.
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  Speaker 6: Here I thought it was some superstitious thing, like cutting
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  Speaker 6: your money.
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  Speaker 2: Or like obsessed with cleanliness, like we can't go to
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  Speaker 2: bed if the kitchen isn't clean.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm not judging her. The killer guys must put
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  Speaker 3: in some effort to get me. It's why I don't
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  Speaker 3: play music in the shower. I just feel if you're
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  Speaker 3: coming into my house to get me, babes, I'm not
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  Speaker 3: helping you do it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so that was her rule. You do not ever
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  Speaker 1: leave a knife in the sink or lying around on
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  Speaker 1: the kitchen counter without because if somebody breaks in, you
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  Speaker 1: cannot give them a weapon. They need to scrummage through
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  Speaker 1: your house.
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  Speaker 4: So you can hear them.
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  Speaker 1: To find a weapon. You know, that way, delaying, deterring, deferring.
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  Speaker 4: Is this even a butter knife? Like if you had
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  Speaker 4: a quick.
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  Speaker 1: Anything.
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  Speaker 4: Frankie, anything.
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  Speaker 1: Not even a pair of scissors. I remember she once
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  Speaker 1: lost her marbles because she... You know like you have
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  Speaker 1: those stands on the knife block?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't have a knife block, nothing. It was
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  Speaker 4: in the drawer.
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  Speaker 3: So you want to give them a choice, like a
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  Speaker 3: variety of options. Which one, sir?
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  Speaker 6: Ours were more round like If I think about it now,
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  Speaker 6: more on language. So we weren't allowed to say shut up.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that's a swear word.
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  Speaker 1: It was a swear word.
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  Speaker 6: Shut up was a swear word.
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  Speaker 1: We weren't allowed to call each other stupid.
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  Speaker 6: So you can't... My dad would always say, like, don't
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  Speaker 6: call me stupid. I'm not stupid. We're like, we didn't
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  Speaker 6: say you're stupid. But stupid is a big one. And
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  Speaker 6: I use that with my kids now as well. And
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  Speaker 6: my mother, to this day, we are not allowed to
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  Speaker 6: use the word hate. You can't... You can despise somebody intently,
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  Speaker 6: which is what I eventually came up with.
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  Speaker 1: I hate her.
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  Speaker 6: My mom was like, we don't hate. I despise her mentally, intently,
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  Speaker 6: whatever it is. And I also like hate was hate
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  Speaker 6: is she, it gets under her skin if you say hate.
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  Speaker 5: 011-8838947.
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  Speaker 1: Send us a voice note.
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  Speaker 1: This is going to be interesting because this is literally
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  Speaker 1: us going into your household. What was a rule that
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  Speaker 1: was so staunch and so normal in your household when
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  Speaker 1: you were growing up? And then you went into the
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  Speaker 1: world and realized you guys were the only ones.
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  Speaker 3: It makes no sense. But my mom has a thing
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  Speaker 3: about leaving the key in the door when you go
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  Speaker 3: to bed. Because she's just like, let me tell you
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  Speaker 3: what happens if the criminal, if Mr. Robber comes and
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  Speaker 3: he does whatever and the key falls out, he might
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  Speaker 3: be able to pull it out from the bottom of
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  Speaker 3: the door, unlock and come in. Now, every time I
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  Speaker 3: go to someone's house, any place, I'm like, oh, you're
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  Speaker 3: leaving your key in the door. Just leave it unlocked, darling.
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  Speaker 3: Invite the criminals in to strip your house bare.
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  Speaker 1: Once again, much like you, I can get behind her
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  Speaker 1: because there's many times we have broken into our house
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  Speaker 1: with my childhood like that because you take a wire
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  Speaker 1: hanger and then you push the key out and then
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  Speaker 1: it goes down and then you take it underneath and
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  Speaker 1: then you open.
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  Speaker 3: Depending on how flat your key is, you can actually
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  Speaker 3: get it out from the bottom of the door.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. See now. See now. That's what we're chatting about
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  Speaker 1: this Friday morning. If you just joined us, Johannesburg, what
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  Speaker 1: was a totally normal rule in your house growing up?
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  Speaker 1: And you later realized that Other families didn't do this.
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  Speaker 1: They were just like, no.
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  Speaker 4: No, this is weird. No, no.
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  Speaker 1: Maruti, good morning. You're on radio.
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  Speaker 6: Good morning.
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  Speaker 1: How are you, club? We're good, Maruti. How are you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm blessed. I'm blessed.
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  Speaker 7: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: Wonderful.
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  Speaker 3: Talk to us.
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  Speaker 1: What was the rule in your household that when you
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  Speaker 1: came into the world, you were like, oh, it's only us?
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  Speaker 7: Not in my house, but my next door neighbor, they.
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  Speaker 5: Had two weird rules. As soon as the.
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  Speaker 7: Sun set, they can't buy, they will never go to
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  Speaker 7: the shop and get salt if.
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  Speaker 3: They run out of salt.
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  Speaker 1: You can't buy salt at night?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, they were not supposed to. Salt must not walk
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  Speaker 8: through the door of the house at night. And then two,
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  Speaker 8: we grew up in the rural. We have the tap
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  Speaker 8: from outside. We use packets.
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  Speaker 7: They can't go get the water as soon as the
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  Speaker 7: sun set. If they run out of water, they will
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  Speaker 7: wait for the sun to come up.
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  Speaker 6: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Why?
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  Speaker 7: Reason being, they came from Amakaya to Velkom. Velkom is
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  Speaker 7: a small township. Their reason, witchcraft, warawara and all of that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, superstitions.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like chipping your toenails.
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  Speaker 7: It was the weirdest thing ever.
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  Speaker 1: Buying salt at night is practically and logistically fine, though
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  Speaker 1: cultural folklore and traditions discourage borrowing, lending or giving away
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  Speaker 1: salt after sunset. Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 7: The father would say that as you go to the
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  Speaker 7: shop and get that salt, you will be a begging
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  Speaker 7: spirit coming following you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yes.
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  Speaker 1: And salt is linked to prosperity and fortune. And if
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  Speaker 1: you're buying it at night, you are messing with your
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  Speaker 1: prosperity and fortune.
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  Speaker 3: To add to that, Frankie gave me a judgy look
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  Speaker 3: when I said we didn't clip our toenails at night.
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  Speaker 3: And I've looked it up even... Apparently, it's also considered
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  Speaker 3: a widespread taboo or superstition across several Asian and cultural traditions.
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  Speaker 3: Because in Japan, it's believed that it could lead to
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  Speaker 3: premature death.
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  Speaker 6: What?
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  Speaker 3: Or prevent you from being present at your parents' deathbed.
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  Speaker 4: Clipping toenails at night?
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  Speaker 3: I still don't.
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  Speaker 1: You're not supposed to clip your toenails in bed as well, Nick.
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  Speaker 3: I've lived to 34 because I never clip my toenails
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  Speaker 3: at night.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry, technically. And I know some people who believe you're
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  Speaker 1: not supposed to clip your toenails in the house.
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  Speaker 2: This is the thing for me. I always clip my
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  Speaker 2: nails and toenails outside. But apparently that's also not a thing.
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  Speaker 2: And you probably throw them in the bin. You're supposed
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  Speaker 2: to flush them for safety.
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  Speaker 1: I'm learning that your nails are linked to so much
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  Speaker 1: of what can happen to you.
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  Speaker 3: When I sit at this hallway, I'm tempted to say,
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  Speaker 3: please give me all 10 to take home. 011-8838-947.
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  Speaker 1: Send us a voice note.
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  Speaker 5: 084-00-00947.
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  Speaker 1: Even if you are a child and you guys have
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  Speaker 1: a rule and you know that you guys have this
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  Speaker 1: rule but your friends at school don't have the same
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  Speaker 1: rule as you. That is what we want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: What rule only existed in your house?
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  Speaker 3: Other houses.
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  Speaker 1: Free reign and it's almost it's tough as well because
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  Speaker 1: now if you go for a sleep over at that
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  Speaker 1: house or you go visit at that house and something
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  Speaker 1: that's not allowed at your house is allowed there they
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  Speaker 1: cliptoon us on that I'm like well RIP cutie 0-8-4-0-0-0-9-4-7.
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  Speaker 1: Send us a voice note. What rules were totally normal
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  Speaker 1: in your life? And then you realize that it's only
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  Speaker 1: your household. It's only your mom who's losing hair over
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  Speaker 1: this thing.
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  Speaker 3: My thing or our thing when we were growing up
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  Speaker 3: was that thing that you can't eat standing up. You
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  Speaker 3: need to bend down even if you're leaning on something.
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  Speaker 6: A rule in my house was always you were never
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  Speaker 6: allowed to put the lights on.
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  Speaker 3: You had to put the lamp on.
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  Speaker 6: So if ever there was a light, it was like
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  Speaker 6: we thought that the.
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  Speaker 3: Police were going to come.
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  Speaker 4: So what must you eat with? I ate with a
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  Speaker 4: spoon yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: Well, your ancestors have been chased away. Off they go.
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  Speaker 1: Can I tell you, the whole don't eat standing up thing,
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  Speaker 1: I promise you, it creates my husband's... Behind.
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  Speaker 4: Behind.
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  Speaker 1: Because I do that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, you eat standing up? Like at the kitchen counter?
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  Speaker 4: You've plated the food. I do the same.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: Also irritates people in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Can I tell you, he... He just doesn't get it.
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  Speaker 1: He says, oh, do you want to sit down? And
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  Speaker 1: I'm just like, no, I'm going to be quick. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's a type of thing. Or I'll eat on the
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  Speaker 1: way to the table.
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  Speaker 4: So by the time you get to the table, your
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  Speaker 4: plate's half empty.
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  Speaker 1: He looks at me, he's like, you waggled animal. Mohau,
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  Speaker 1: you and Rudaput. Good morning, my angel.
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  Speaker 9: Morning, Anil and the club.
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  Speaker 1: How are you, Mohau?
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  Speaker 9: Good things are new.
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  Speaker 1: We are great. Tell us about the rule that is,
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  Speaker 1: it's a huge rule in your household, but when you
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  Speaker 1: go with your friends, it's not a rule in their houses.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah, so my mom says I have to get good
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  Speaker 9: marks to get a phone. But my friends, when I
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  Speaker 9: got to grade four, they all just had phones.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm. So what do you want to do with the phone, Mohao?
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  Speaker 5: Oh.
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  Speaker 9: Want to be able to Like talk to my friends
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  Speaker 9: And like be able to relate And the stuff online
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  Speaker 9: With them Uh.
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  Speaker 1: Huh So which app Do you hear that They're on
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  Speaker 1: And you also want to be on it? What's the
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  Speaker 1: first thing You download If you got your phone? WhatsApp
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  Speaker 1: Okay So that you can talk To your friends all
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  Speaker 1: the time.
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  Speaker 2: Yes Do you Mohao, I want to ask, what grades
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  Speaker 2: are we talking here? Like, what does your mom expect
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  Speaker 2: for you to get a phone?
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  Speaker 9: Oh, she expects 80s and 90s.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know why, Mohao? She wants a 90 from
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  Speaker 1: you before you get a phone. No. Because when you
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  Speaker 1: get the phone, your marks are going to drop without
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  Speaker 1: a doubt by 30%. So you need to be able
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  Speaker 1: to land on 60 so that we're fine. Because if
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  Speaker 1: you're at 60 now and you get a phone, then
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  Speaker 1: you're going to get 30%. And do you want 30%, Mohao?
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  Speaker 9: No, I don't want 30%.
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  Speaker 1: So let's get it to 90. Is it 90 for
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  Speaker 1: all your subjects or 90 for one subject?
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  Speaker 9: All.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Mohao, I just want to say, you are missing out
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  Speaker 4: on nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely nothing.
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  Speaker 4: You are missing out on nothing on that phone.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me, the longer you wait to get your phone,
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  Speaker 1: the better it is for everyone.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 9: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: You see, the only phone you need is to call us,
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  Speaker 1: Auntie Anel in the club.
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  Speaker 4: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Anything else, don't worry about it. And now since you
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  Speaker 1: don't have WhatsApp, look at this. You've got a moment
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  Speaker 1: to say hello to your friends on the radio. Say
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  Speaker 1: hello to your friends.
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  Speaker 9: This is a big WhatsApp group. This is a big
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  Speaker 9: group of friends. Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: What school are you guys in?
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  Speaker 9: We're at St.
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  Speaker 1: David's. Oh, hello to all of you in St. David's.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning. Love you. Bye.
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  Speaker 5: Bye.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't get him the phone. I just took my
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  Speaker 1: son's phone away. Justin, you're in Randberg.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, how's it?
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  Speaker 1: We're good. Justin, how are you?
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  Speaker 5: Good, good.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: So what rule did you have in your household when
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  Speaker 1: you were growing up and then you realized you are
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  Speaker 1: the only family enforcing this law?
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  Speaker 5: So my grandmother had this crazy thing. She would take
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  Speaker 5: you with her at night before everyone goes to bed.
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  Speaker 5: And she would go to the distribution board with all
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  Speaker 5: the circuit breakers. <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL> <HAL>
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  Speaker 5: To make sure that all the necessary things that need.
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  Speaker 4: To be off are turned off.
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  Speaker 1: Like what? Like plugs?
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  Speaker 5: Yes. Plugs, stove, geyser, whatever. And then only lights, I think,
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  Speaker 5: would stay on.
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  Speaker 1: And then in the morning, on, on, on, on, on.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I think she was doing that when we
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  Speaker 5: were still sleeping.
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  Speaker 4: I just remember the one before bed.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 4: But yeah, I stopped doing that.
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  Speaker 2: Justin, this is very strange. I can understand her thinking.
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  Speaker 2: Is she saving electricity? Is that what the story is?
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  Speaker 2: I think it was more a risk for her, a
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  Speaker 2: fire or something.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then you now have your own house and is
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  Speaker 1: it off, off, off, off, off?
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  Speaker 3: Off, off, off, off, off?
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  Speaker 4: I don't even look at it.
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  Speaker 5: I just, the only thing I might turn.
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  Speaker 4: Off is the geyser. Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: When you remember, right?
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 5: When something happened or they're busy in the street with
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  Speaker 5: electricity or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Although in these modern times, Justin, at night, you never know,
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  Speaker 2: someone could come steal your electricity.
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  Speaker 4: It could happen.