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278 - The Secret To Being Magnetic · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole
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  Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are talking about magnetism today.
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  And really we're going to talk about this, I'm calling this
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  the secret to being magnetic.
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  And what I really want to break down for you are two things.
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  Before we start this, if you're interested in being magnetic, we
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  do have a centers series that's going on on the podcast right now.
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  And if you haven't been following along with that, this
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  is a bigger concept episode.
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  If you're looking for deeper dives into the aspects of human design, like the
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  nine centers, we're toward the end of a series that we're doing on the nine
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  centers in the human design body graph.
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  So you can go back.
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  We are this week, I think we hit our seventh center.
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  Uh, every Wednesday we have been releasing these episodes.
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  So go back and listen to those if you want deeper dives into each of the centers.
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  And we actually did a profile line series about two months
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  ago in April, I think it was.
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  So if you're interested in those, go back and listen to those if
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  you want those deeper dives.
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  But this is one of those.
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  Concepts, because we can get a little bit lost in the details sometimes of
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  the specific aspects of human design that we forget, why does it matter?
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  And magnetic is a word that gets thrown around a lot.
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  And I do think that it's gotten a bit garbled, maybe a little muddled,
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  maybe it's been bastardized just a bit, where some people have made it
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  sound like something that it's not, because magnetic doesn't actually
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  mean what most people think it means.
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  It's linked with these other things that actually are not really what we're talking
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  about when we're talking about magnetism.
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  And I want to break that down for you here today.
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  And then the second thing that we're going to break down is there is an
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  energetic game being played in life.
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  This is why life looks easy to some people and not so easy to others.
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  That's why maybe you feel like you've had to work harder than others, maybe.
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  Or maybe you feel like you're one of those people who's had it a bit easier.
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  There is an energetic game being played in this life, in business, in all things,
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  just in the world, in the universe.
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  And the question is, are you playing it?
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  And we're going to unpack both of those things in this episode today.
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  So I hope that you are in for this because we're really going to talk
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  about what it means to be magnetic.
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  What does that actually mean?
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  Why should it matter to you?
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  How can you start to become magnetic, and your own version of that?
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  So if that is a topic that interests you, magnetism, understanding how
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  human design can help you play the energetic game in life, in business,
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  and all other things, then I encourage you to come to our Activate Your
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  Magnetism workshop that I'm doing.
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  It's a totally free workshop.
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  It starts on June 12th.
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  It's one day.
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  It is a very simple one, but really, really impactful.
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  If you've ever come to my workshops, you know that my free stuff, I'm
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  told very often is better than things that people paid for.
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  So please come to that workshop.
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  All you have to do is DM me the word workshop on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial, and we will register you right there or
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  go to nicolelaino.com/workshop, and you can register on the website.
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  Now we also have an added thing to this.
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  I am releasing a new program called Unshakeable Human.
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  I end every episode of this podcast with, in order to have
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  an unshakeable business, you must first become an unshakeable human.
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  I'm really talking about that energetic game.
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  I'm really talking about being a master of your own energy and
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  becoming an unshakeable human through human design is the path to
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  sustainably becoming unshakeable.
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  And unshakeable meaning that you are able to handle literally
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  anything that comes your way.
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  That you understand yourself so deeply and so intuitively that you are able
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  to start using your energy for good.
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  to attract what you want to be magnetic.
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  Now this is a human design podcast and a lot of times people tell me
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  I'm an emotional authority, Nicole, I can't act really fast on these offers.
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  You have this special price and I'm an emotional authority and I
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  need time to wait out my authority before I can make this decision.
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  And I get that cause I'm an emotional authority too.
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  So what we've done with this one is we're letting you know that this
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  workshop is selling into this particular program, this Unshakeable Human
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  Program, and there is a waitlist for it.
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  You join the waitlist now, and you will get 72 hours from the time
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  doors open to exercise the waitlist price, which is 50 percent off
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  the regular price of the program.
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  The program is ridiculous.
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  DM me the word waitlist on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial, and we will register you there for it.
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  You could see the page for the waitlist.
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  If you go to nicolelaino.com/embody-waitlist.
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  Go to the page and look at what we have in this offer.
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  You will want to be on this wait list.
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  You get all the information there.
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  We tell you all about it on the page.
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  So you have time if you're an emotional authority to think this through, to feel
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  into it is really what you're doing.
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  And then when doors open, you can make that decision, whether you
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  want to be part of it with us.
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  We're trying to do this in a way that feels like everybody gets to
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  benefit from these special prices.
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  So if you want that, go to nicolelaino.com/embody-waitlist
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  or DM me embody waitlist on Instagram and we will register you
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  there for the waitlist as well.
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  You do need to be registered for the waitlist in order
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  to get the waitlist price.
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  The workshop only will not get you the VIP pricing.
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  Just so you know, there are two different things to register
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  for, workshop and waitlist.
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  You can decide which one or both that you want to be a part of.
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  So let's talk about the secret to being magnetic.
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  I talked about this common misconception when we started the episode.
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  To me, there's a lot of talk, a lot of imagery that magnetism means that
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  you are super sexy, that magnetism equals money, magnetism equals
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  sexy or sexual, that it has to be this luxurious, over the top thing.
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  And I certainly know from people who come into my world, there is
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  a disconnect because they're just like, that doesn't feel like me.
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  But we're attracted to the result that they're getting, right?
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  They say that they're making millions.
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  So we want to be a part of that because we want to make millions too.
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  But usually you don't even want that.
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  You want to feel like your needs are being met.
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  I want the money so I don't have to worry about money anymore.
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  I don't necessarily want to step off of a private jet.
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  I don't need all of that.
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  Although it might be fun.
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  So we get confused with magnetism, meaning these external results.
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  No, the external results are a byproduct of your magnetism.
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  And those results may look different for you.
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  I don't know what you want to attract.
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  And that is part of a bigger conversation about what are you tuning into and
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  what are you trying to attract.
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  But magnetism does stem from you being truly authentic to who you are.
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  That you are being so grounded and so clean in your own energy that you start
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  pulling in exactly what is right for you.
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  Exactly the right people, the right opportunities, the right wisdom.
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  You start being interested in the right things.
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  This is how you get into the flow of life.
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  You find your own brand of magnetic, not somebody else's, which may
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  look a certain way on Instagram, in their emails and the things that
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  they're choosing to share with you.
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  You might see it that way, but don't get confused.
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  What somebody else says they have is not necessarily how you will become magnetic.
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  It's not the same thing.
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  And human design can help demystify this process of how
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  we actually become magnetic.
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  Because when we start looking at those external results, we think
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  that the way to become magnetic is to be like those people.
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  So we sign up for their courses, we sign up for their programs, or coaching
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  with them, or something that they're doing, and then we try to be like them.
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  And it doesn't work for us the same way.
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  And the reason for that is that what we are doing is we're trying
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  to build our house on their land.
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  We're trying to put up our own business standing on a
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  foundation that's not our own.
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  And then that leads to a business, a life that doesn't really feel right to us.
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  And like I said at the beginning, magnetism is the
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  mechanics of your energetics.
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  So rather than looking at the external results that somebody got, the process
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  of doing, what did they do to get there?
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  Instead of looking at those things and trying to hack their process or pay them
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  to give you their process, recognize that there are energetic mechanics to
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  you being in alignment with yourself.
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  Being in alignment really just means authentic for you.
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  Now you have people like Gabby Bernstein who will tell you feeling good is the
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  secret and that's absolutely true.
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  It's particularly true if you're a generator like she is.
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  That is the path for her.
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  And what she does is she gets you trying to figure out what feels good to you.
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  So she is having you check in intuitively with yourself, tuning into your intuition.
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  Absolutely.
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  Whereas some people are giving you more steps of what you can do in this 3D world.
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  Take these steps, post these things, write this way, do it this way.
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  This is how I did it.
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  Follow my 10 steps and you'll make a million dollars too.
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  But that's not an authentic path for you.
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  Gabby is much closer to how you get this.
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  And her way works.
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  Intuition absolutely works.
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  Everybody has their different paths with this.
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  But you're listening to this show, so I think that you are interested in
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  the human design path because you've realized that sometimes it can be very
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  difficult to tune out the outside world.
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  What we've always been told, what we've always felt, the challenges
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  that we've been grappling with, which can seem like forever, it can be hard
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  to tune all of that out and figure out what is authentically me now?
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  How do I even find that?
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  And human design gives you a few things.
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  Human design starts to tune you into your gifts.
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  It starts to tell you what you are here to be all the time, that's honest
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  for you, that's authentic for you.
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  This is what you're meant to put out in the world.
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  And it tells you what you are here to not put out in the world all the time.
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  Meaning where are you meant to lean back?
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  Where are you meant to be an evaluator of things as opposed to
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  being the contributor all the time?
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  So it gives you this framework to start understanding your gifts, to
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  start understanding your natural shadows, how they will come
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  up, and how to navigate those.
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  But then it gives you this wonderful, very simple yet I won't say that
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  it's easy process of following your strategy and authority and
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  understanding how your energy works and how you start to pull things to you.
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  It gives you a step by step to energy mechanics.
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  To the energetic game.
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  I asked you at the beginning, there's an energetic game.
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  Are you playing it?
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  Human design, above all other tools, and I've used tons, I have more
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  than dipped my toe in the waters.
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  I have been swimming in the pool for a long time.
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  And there was nothing that helped me coach myself through the
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  energetic game like human design.
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  That was what I was so drawn to.
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  There's so much truth in this.
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  But I also get how I see myself get pulled out of alignment to know what
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  that is, to be able to coach myself through that moment because I know
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  what I'm supposed to do in that moment.
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  I know what it looks like for me.
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  And it helps me to build that muscle memory of saying, I
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  know how I am supposed to feel.
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  I know what feeling good feels like.
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  I know what alignment feels like.
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  I know what authenticity feels like.
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  Now what comes from that is you get this beautiful permission to be authentically
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  you, and only you know what that is.
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  So I'm going to throw this in here.
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  This is something that has been on my heart for a while, and this might be a
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  little spicy as far as what I'm saying here, and it might ruffle some feathers.
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  This might trigger some of you.
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  But it needs to be said.
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  I find it ironic that so many people come to me and they want me to tell
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  them what is authentic for them.
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  I find it really ironic.
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  And I'm not mad about it, however, I get asked so much, and I have been there too.
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  I wanted somebody to tell me who I was for a long time.
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  Because I was so unsure and I was so deep into my conditioning that
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  it didn't feel safe to really be me And quite frankly, I didn't really
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  trust that who I was, was worthy.
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  There was so much there.
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  And now your reasoning, if you're listening to this and that feels
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  true to you, that you're like, yeah, I kind of do want somebody to give
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  me a reading and tell me who I am.
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  I get that.
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  And if you fall into that category, it may look a little bit different
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  to you as far as why you feel that way than it did for me.
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  But the truth is that If I tell you what's authentic for you,
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  it's not authentic for you.
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  That is a journey.
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  No one could tell me either, no matter how badly I wanted them to.
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  Tell me why I'm special.
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  Tell me how I'm special.
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  I can't do that.
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  I can help you find it yourself.
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  Cause that's where magnetism starts.
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  It starts from this amazing acceptance of ourselves, because I want you to
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  understand that conditioning, that feeling of not enough, that feeling of I should
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  be more, that feeling of I shouldn't be too much of this, all of that holding
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  back or pushing out of force, all of that creates an energetic frequency of ick.
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  To the universe and to the people around you.
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  And it is what keeps you from being magnetic.
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  All the work that you're doing on magnetism, if underneath you are still
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  fighting with yourself, internally questioning yourself, that will
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  inhibit the flow of energy in you.
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  It will mess with your frequency, so to speak.
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  It's going to mess with everything that you do.
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  It's going to make life harder.
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  It's going to make it feel hard when you go to do something.
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  It's going to feel like when you do something, you don't get the
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  results that you think you should for the amount of work you put in.
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  You're working harder than you need to.
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  And the reason is you are not playing the energetic game.
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  Well, you are, but you don't know you are.
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  You're not using energy mechanics to your advantage.
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  You're ignoring them.
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  And you're using them to your disadvantage when you ignore them.
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  So that needs to be said.
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  That human design allows you to have a process for going through
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  that path of self discovery.
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  True self discovery, not surface level, but really understanding yourself.
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  I know what makes me tick.
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  I know what constricts me.
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  I know what expands me.
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  I know how to get into flow.
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  There is so much power in this.
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  And if you are constantly thinking about what you need to do, if
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  you're constantly worried, confused, forcing, anxious, frustrated, angry,
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  bitter, disappointed, stuck, then your energy is working against you.
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  And all of the magnetism work that you're doing, you're probably not
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  doing it, you're thinking about it.
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  You're trying to figure it out from a mental place.
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  And that's not the energetic game.
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  And that's what human design frees you from, is the mind game that will
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  keep you stuck playing a disadvantaged hand in the energetic game.
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  Human design will open you up to your own brand of magnetism, to your
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  true authenticity, and if you've been searching for that for a long time,
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  if you've been trying to dig in and really connect with who you are on a
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  soul level, what you have to offer in this world, how to make things easier
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  for you, your family, in your business.
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  If you have been searching for that, seeking that, and trying to make it
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  happen, then human design, the way that I teach it, if you haven't had
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  success with other frameworks with human design, with other coaches.
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  I do encourage you to at least jump into the free masterclass with me because
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  inside the Unshakeable Human Program that we are going to be starting in
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  July, that Unshakeable Human Program is about actually utilizing this.
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  Tuning in, really experimenting with your design, not just learning about it.
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  Although there will be plenty of learning for all of my one lines who
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  want to digest a bunch of information and devour it and know all the things.
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  We've got plenty for you in that department and you get to keep the
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  course after it for a lifetime, even after the six weeks that we
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  are together live is over, but the information is only part of it.
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  The rest of it is the experimentation with it.
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  The integration work that's gonna help you actually connect with
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  your design and not just understand it on an intellectual level.
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  Which will keep you stuck.
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  Which will keep you in a cycle of maybe paying people and not seeing results.
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  And I don't want that for you.
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  And if you've been interested in my Business by Design mentorship, I know so
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  many of you have reached out and said, I just don't feel like I'm there yet.
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  This program that we are launching is the one designed to help you get there.
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  It is the first step in the pillar.
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  We teach it in Business by Design, but I'm carving it out and giving it
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  to you here in this really, really powerful, accelerated program.
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  If you're not sure, join us in the workshop.
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  Sign up for the waitlist so you get the discounted price.
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  When doors open, you have 72 hours to make that choice.
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  But join us in the free workshop, which is activate your magnetism, all about how
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  to double your revenue while working less.
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  And Join us in that by DMing me the word workshop on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial or go to nicolelaino.com/workshop
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  and to join the waitlist, DM me embody waitlist on Instagram.
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  Again, same handle, or go to nicolelaino.com/embody-waitlist and we
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  will take you to the waitlist page there.
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  And you can read all about the program as well.
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  We have all the details for the unshakeable human
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  program on that waitlist page.
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  So that you get your questions answered and you can start
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  feeling into that right away.
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  Particularly for my emotional authorities.
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  Alright?
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  I hope that this episode inspired you.
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  I hope that you enjoyed it.
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  I hope that you are fired up about activating your own magnetism.
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  Because it is in you.
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  It is possible for you.
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  It is something that you were born with.
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  It is your birthright.
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  It's time you claim it.
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  So I hope that this inspired you to do that, to go and claim your birthright,
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  that is your authenticity and your innate magnetism that comes with
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  being truly authentically who you are.
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  Everyone deserves to be themselves.
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  Fully and completely.
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  And you get rewarded by life.
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  All right.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everyone.
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  We'll see you next time.
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  us the love on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever you're listening to
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  the show and leave us a review.
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  design journey, join our free Facebook community, Human Design for Entrepreneurs.
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  design reading with me, or access our free human design resources.
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  We'll see you there.