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Get Up and Get It Done: Push Through Hard Times · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: We want to believe that there are shortcuts to success.
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  Speaker 1: We want to believe we can take a drug or
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  Speaker 1: we can do something that will make it quick and easy.
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  Speaker 1: But the truth is it takes grit, it takes persistence.
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  Speaker 1: So it's hard to understand what could happen to you
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  Speaker 1: in ten years in a visceral gut way of what
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  Speaker 1: it means to have failed in life. And to me,
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  Speaker 1: failure in life is not having money, it's not realizing
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  Speaker 1: your potential. You're sixty years old and you said I
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  Speaker 1: could have been this and I never did it. That's
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  Speaker 1: like the worst thought I think anybody can have. And
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  Speaker 1: you don't think about it in the moment because your
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  Speaker 1: life is okay. But you've got to wake up and
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  Speaker 1: understand that there's an urgency here and that if you're
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  Speaker 1: not practicing something now, if you're not aware, if you
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  Speaker 1: don't have a path towards something better, rotting on the vine,
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  Speaker 1: and that day of reckoning will come at some point
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  Speaker 1: and it will be painful. You're not going to feel
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  Speaker 1: it suddenly. It'll be slow, but it'll come and it
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  Speaker 1: won't be good.
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  Speaker 2: How do you overcome the suffering of life is be
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  Speaker 2: a better person. That's how you do it. Well, that's hard.
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  Speaker 2: It takes responsibility. And I think you know, if you
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  Speaker 2: said to someone, do you want to have a meaningful life?
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  Speaker 2: Everything you do matters, that's the definition of a meaningful life.
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  Speaker 2: But everything you do matters, you're gonna have to carry
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  Speaker 2: that with you. Or do you want to just forget
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  Speaker 2: about the whole meaning thing? And then you don't have
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  Speaker 2: any responsibility because who the hell cares? And you can
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  Speaker 2: wander through life doing whatever you want, gratifying impulsive desires
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  Speaker 2: for how useful that's going to be, and you're stuck
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  Speaker 2: in meaninglessness, but you don't have any responsibility. Which one
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  Speaker 2: do you want? Well, ask yourself which one are you pursuing?
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  Speaker 2: And you'll find very rapidly that it isn't a majority
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  Speaker 2: of your soul that's pursuing the whole meaning thing, because well,
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  Speaker 2: look what you have to do. To do that, you
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  Speaker 2: have to take on the fact that life is suffering.
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  Speaker 2: You have to put yourself together in the face of that.
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  Speaker 3: Ask yourself, what's blocking you, what's preventing you from acting?
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  Speaker 4: Why don't you have a.
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  Speaker 3: Courage to handle that? Why won't you face that? What
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  Speaker 3: are you running away from?
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  Speaker 4: What kind of avoidance behavior are you engaged in?
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  Speaker 3: Next is what is the worst thing that can happen
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  Speaker 3: when you take action?
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  Speaker 5: Even if you don't see the results right away, keep
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  Speaker 5: showing up until you do see the results, even if
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  Speaker 5: you don't see the results for very very long time.
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  Speaker 5: Just know that if you hold your ground and push
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  Speaker 5: through pain, you will become stronger.
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  Speaker 3: And it's necessary for you to challenge yourself to go
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  Speaker 3: after and get better and leverage to relatlationship that could
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  Speaker 3: help you get to where you want to go.
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  Speaker 4: But it's you.
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  Speaker 3: The major key to your reaching your dream. You're living
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  Speaker 3: up to your greatness, You're making your contribution is you.
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  Speaker 2: It's not okay for you to be a weak loser.
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  Speaker 2: It's not okay. And the reason it's not okay is
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  Speaker 2: because you could be way more than that. And it's
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  Speaker 2: a crime, an ethical crime, for you to allow all
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  Speaker 2: that necessary potential to go to waste. It hurts you,
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  Speaker 2: it hurts your family, It hurts the world, really really
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  Speaker 2: it does. And people think, oh, okay, I get it,
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  Speaker 2: and they do get it because.
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  Speaker 6: They know the people in life that get what they
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  Speaker 6: want are the ones that aren't waiting for an external
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  Speaker 6: force to validate their dreams, to inspire them, to give
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  Speaker 6: them permission. It's the people that realize that success, that happiness,
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  Speaker 6: that control. It comes from the internal force. And what
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  Speaker 6: is the internal force.
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  Speaker 2: It's you.
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  Speaker 4: It's you.
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  Speaker 6: It's you being able to realize that no one's going
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  Speaker 6: to do the work for you. It's you realizing that
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  Speaker 6: you're never going to feel ready. In fact, even as
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  Speaker 6: you start working toward the things that you really want
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  Speaker 6: to do, you're definitely not going to feel ready, and
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  Speaker 6: you're going to feel outside your comfort zone.
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  Speaker 3: And that's normal.
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  Speaker 6: When you start to feel like you're stretching yourself and
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  Speaker 6: you're sticking your scrawny neck out there and you're taking
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  Speaker 6: some risks, that's amazing because you're growing.
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  Speaker 4: People who earn large incomes aren't lucky, and they're not
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  Speaker 4: crooked as those without money are so fond of pretending.
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  Speaker 4: Nor are they endowed with more brains or talent necessarily
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  Speaker 4: than their friends and neighbors. Nor are they privy to
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  Speaker 4: occult secrets. And only a very few we're lucky enough
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  Speaker 4: to have had rich fathers or grandfathers. Most of the
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  Speaker 4: people earning the big incomes today started the same way
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  Speaker 4: you and I did, and most other people. The only
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  Speaker 4: difference between the men who earned big incomes and those
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  Speaker 4: who earn small incomes is that those earning big incomes
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  Speaker 4: decided to earn more. There are the people who made
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  Speaker 4: it their business to earn more. You see, people do
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  Speaker 4: what they make up their minds to do. So. Get
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  Speaker 4: rid of the ancient superstition once and for all that
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  Speaker 4: people who earn big money or special people are lucky,
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  Speaker 4: or get the brakes, or had money to begin with,
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  Speaker 4: or use someone, or are smarter or anything else. These
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  Speaker 4: are alibis. They can all be disproved a thousand times.
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  Speaker 4: The reason there are so many of these alibis around
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  Speaker 4: is that men who fail to make the grade financially
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  Speaker 4: are seldom honest enough to just admit that they really
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  Speaker 4: didn't try and keep trying. So in order to justify
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  Speaker 4: their failure in order to remain seated, they dream up
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  Speaker 4: and passed along these old alibis. We're all self made,
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  Speaker 4: but only the successful will admit it.
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  Speaker 7: Now is the time for you to step up, stand out,
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  Speaker 7: and become the person you need to become. Your future
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  Speaker 7: is in your hands, and this is what sets your
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  Speaker 7: life up to be worked the potential that you deserve.
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  Speaker 7: Your power is and always has been, the thing that's
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  Speaker 7: going to take you towards the life that you have earned.
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  Speaker 8: When you look at some of the most successful high performers,
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  Speaker 8: it might be tempting to say that they were born
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  Speaker 8: this way their talented end of story. In fact, talent,
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  Speaker 8: while undeniably making life easier, is but one part of
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  Speaker 8: the equation. I used to be a shy and fearful person. However,
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  Speaker 8: my apparent misfortune turned out to be a source of
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  Speaker 8: strength because it provided a spark to introduce big changes
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  Speaker 8: in my life. By continuously pushing my comfort zone, I
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  Speaker 8: not only overcame social shyness, improved my communication skills, but
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  Speaker 8: also developed high self confidence and overcame other fears in
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  Speaker 8: my life. I might not have been born with the
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  Speaker 8: talent to be a people person. I still prefer solitude
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  Speaker 8: to crowds, but with self discipline and consistent work, I
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  Speaker 8: still achieved astounding results. Next time, before you complain that
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  Speaker 8: you don't have a talent for something or weren't born
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  Speaker 8: this way, remind yourself that self discipline in many situations
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  Speaker 8: can more than make up for a lack of inborn traits.
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  Speaker 8: Life's easy when you live it the hard way, and
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  Speaker 8: hard if you try to live it the easy way.
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  Speaker 8: Self discipline means living your life the hard way, resisting
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  Speaker 8: temptations and instant gratification in order to receive bigger and
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  Speaker 8: better rewards in the future. It's certainly easier to avoid
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  Speaker 8: all kinds of discomfort and indulge yourself whenever you want,
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  Speaker 8: But in the end, all that you get from that
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  Speaker 8: approach is fleeting pleasure now at the expense of your future,
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  Speaker 8: which otherwise could have been much better. Consider a weak
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  Speaker 8: willed person who, when faced with a challenge, immediately opt out.
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  Speaker 8: How likely is this person to achieve anything substantial in life?
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  Speaker 8: If their primary value is to feel comfortable? How is
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  Speaker 8: this person going to manage crisis that they must face.
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  Speaker 8: Even a relatively insignificant problem can become an insurmountable obstacle
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  Speaker 8: for a person who's been living a sheltered life and
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  Speaker 8: always avoided what's difficult or disagreeable. Now, contrast that with
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  Speaker 8: a person who voluntarily makes his or her life harder.
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  Speaker 8: They seek out and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow.
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  Speaker 8: Each self imposed affliction strengthens them so that fewer and
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  Speaker 8: fewer difficulties in life overwhelm them day by day. They
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  Speaker 8: immunize themselves against problems precisely because they seek them out.
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  Speaker 8: When life deals them an unexpected blow, they're ready to
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  Speaker 8: handle it because thanks to living their lives the hard way,
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  Speaker 8: they're always ready for hardships. Your choices are made in
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  Speaker 8: a moment, but their consequences will transcend a lifetime. Humans
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  Speaker 8: have the capacity to act against their urges in exchange
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  Speaker 8: for a better future. Unfortunately, many people live by the
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  Speaker 8: principle of if it feels good, do it, and if
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  Speaker 8: it doesn't, don't do it. Caving into your temptations whenever
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  Speaker 8: you feel them emerge is like relinquishing your humanity in
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  Speaker 8: a way. As an intelligent human being, you have an
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  Speaker 8: ability and I dare say, an obligation to make decisions
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  Speaker 8: that are based on rational thinking, not on your instincts alone.
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  Speaker 8: Strive to be a better human and embrace your humanity
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  Speaker 8: by exercising your will power muscle instead of succumbing to
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  Speaker 8: your most primal and least helpful for your long term
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  Speaker 8: goals part of the brain. Your most primal instincts may
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  Speaker 8: provide temporary comfort, but seldom are good for the long term,
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  Speaker 8: except when there is a direct threat to your survival.
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  Speaker 4: If you study a subject every day for one hour
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  Speaker 4: a day, five days a week and five years, you
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  Speaker 4: will become an expert in that area. Some things simply
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  Speaker 4: have to be done every day. You know the old
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  Speaker 4: saying an apple a day keeps the doctor away. Well,
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  Speaker 4: eating seven apples all at once isn't going to give
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  Speaker 4: you the same benefit. If you want to improve, intentional
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  Speaker 4: growth needs to be a habit. A habit is something
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  Speaker 4: I do continually, not once in a while. Motivation may
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  Speaker 4: get you going, but the positive habits you develop and
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  Speaker 4: practice consistently are what keep you improving. As I have
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  Speaker 4: work to improve on a day by day basis, two
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  Speaker 4: words have helped me to stay on track. The first
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  Speaker 4: is intention morning. As I start my day, I intend
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  Speaker 4: to learn something that day. This develops a mindset in
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  Speaker 4: me to look for things that will help me improve.
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  Speaker 4: The other word is contemplation. Time alone is an essential
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  Speaker 4: for self improvement. When I spend time thinking about my challenges, experiences,
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  Speaker 4: and observations, it allows me to gain perspective. I can
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  Speaker 4: evaluate any losses and I can learn from them. Contemplation
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  Speaker 4: time by myself also gives me time to do positive
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  Speaker 4: self talk. Motivational humorist Or Walker stated, the most important
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  Speaker 4: words you will ever utter are those words we say
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  Speaker 4: to ourselves about ourselves when we are by ourselves. During
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  Speaker 4: these conversations, we can beat ourselves up and make ourselves
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  Speaker 4: feel really small, or we can learn and build ourselves
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  Speaker 4: up so that we become better. If you want to
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  Speaker 4: spend some time each day try to improve yourself, you
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  Speaker 4: might want to begin by asking yourself three questions at
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  Speaker 4: the end of the day. As I do. They are
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  Speaker 4: what did I learn today? What spoke both to my
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  Speaker 4: heart and my head? How did I grow to day
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  Speaker 4: or touched my heart and affected my actions? What will
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  Speaker 4: I do differently? Unless I can state specifically what I
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  Speaker 4: plan to do differently, I won't learn anything. One of
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  Speaker 4: the things I don't do is compare myself to others
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  Speaker 4: during that time. There's a reason for that. My desires
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  Speaker 4: do not become superior to anybody else. I only want
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  Speaker 4: to be superior to my former self. Intention and contemplation
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  Speaker 4: assist me in doing that make improvement. Intentional improvement is
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  Speaker 4: within the reach of any one, no matter how experienced
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  Speaker 4: or green educated. Or ignorant, rich or poor to start
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  Speaker 4: improving to day, do these three things decide you are
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  Speaker 4: worth improving. To improve yourself, you must believe you can improve.
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  Speaker 4: Author Denis Whitley has wonderful definition for personal development. He
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  Speaker 4: says that it is the conviction that there is value
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  Speaker 4: in your dreams. Personal development, he says, is the belief
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  Speaker 4: that you are worth the effort, time, and energy needed
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  Speaker 4: to develop yourself. It gives you permission to invest in
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  Speaker 4: yourself so you can develop your own potential. You can
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  Speaker 4: invest in yourself. You don't need anyone's dreams but your own,
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  Speaker 4: and you don't need to become anyone other than yourself
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  Speaker 4: at your best. The great philosopher Thomas Carlyle once wrote,
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  Speaker 4: let each become all that he was created capable of being.
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  Speaker 4: I can't think of a better definition of success. Life
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  Speaker 4: challenges us every day to develop our capabilities to the fullest.
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  Speaker 4: We're successful when we reach for the highest that's within us,
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  Speaker 4: when we give the best we have. Life doesn't require
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  Speaker 4: us to always come out on top. It asks only
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  Speaker 4: that we do our best to improve at whatever level
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  Speaker 4: of experience we are currently on. Take an area to improve,
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  Speaker 4: you will have plenty of time to improve other areas
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  Speaker 4: of your life. Focus on the one now that makes
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  Speaker 4: the most of your strengths and is closest to your
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  Speaker 4: sense of purpose. I'm suggest testing you to spend an
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  Speaker 4: hour a day improving in that area. Then take it
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  Speaker 4: slow but steady. We always overestimate what we can get
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  Speaker 4: done in a day or a week, but we underestimate
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  Speaker 4: what we can get done in a year. Just imagine
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  Speaker 4: what you will be able to get done in five years.
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  Speaker 4: Find opportunities to improve in the wake of your losses.
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  Speaker 4: Focused strategic improvement is important to success, but so is
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  Speaker 4: learning from our losses as they come. However, let me
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  Speaker 4: say this, some lessons in life cannot wait. You must
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  Speaker 4: make the most of them when they occur. If you
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  Speaker 4: don't examine what went wrong while the details are fresh,
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  Speaker 4: you may lose the ability to learn the lesson. Besides,
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  Speaker 4: if you neglect to learn the lesson immediately, you may
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  Speaker 4: experience the loss again. Business professor George Knox said, when
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  Speaker 4: you cease to be better, you cease to be good.
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  Speaker 4: When you stop growing, you cease to be useful. A
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  Speaker 4: weed in the garden of prosperity. We are what we
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  Speaker 4: are today because we we were what we were yesterday,
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  Speaker 4: and our thoughts today determine our actions tomorrow. Those who
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  Speaker 4: learn from their losses give themselves that permission. As your friend,
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  Speaker 4: I give it to you also. Knowledge may come from study,
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  Speaker 4: but wisdom comes from learning and improving in the wake
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  Speaker 4: of your mistakes. I always try to remember that I
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  Speaker 4: am a work in progress. When I maintain that perspective,
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  Speaker 4: I realize that I don't have to be perfect. I
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  Speaker 4: don't have to have it all together. I don't need
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  Speaker 4: to try to have all the answers, and I don't
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  Speaker 4: need to learn everything in a day. But I make
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  Speaker 4: a mistake, it's not because I'm a failure or worthless.
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  Speaker 4: I just didn't do something right because I still haven't
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  Speaker 4: improved enough in some part of the process, and that
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  Speaker 4: motivates me to keep growing and improving. If I don't
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  Speaker 4: know something, it's an opportunity to try to improve in
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  Speaker 4: a new area. I'm in it for the long haul.
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  Speaker 4: I try to be like industrialist Ian McGregor, who said
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  Speaker 4: I work on the same principle as people who train horses.
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  Speaker 4: You start with low fences, easily achieved goals, and work up.
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  Speaker 4: When I got started My fences were embarrassingly low, but
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  Speaker 4: in time I was able to raise them. Today i'm
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  Speaker 4: still raising them little by little. That's the only way
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  Speaker 4: I know how to keep improving, and I always want
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  Speaker 4: to keep doing that, because improvement is the focus of learning.