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Quick Lift: Play Big, Laugh Loud & Swing Anyway · Loud & Lifted

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  Welcome to Loud and Lifted. I'm your host, Betsy
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  Hamm. And today's quick lift is a bite -sized
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  burst of bold you didn't know you needed in under
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  10 minutes. This week, we're highlighting moments
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  from our conversation with Jamie Mowery, a marketing
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  executive and founder of She Said Golf, who empowers
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  women to find their voice, own their message,
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  stop playing small, and to have some fun. This
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  one's for the women who feel stuck, silenced,
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  or stretched thin. You don't need more hustle.
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  You need a mindset shift. maybe a golf club,
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  and some friends. Jamie's episode was about way
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  more than golf. It was about community, connection,
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  and the importance of having fun. Let's tee off
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  to our key takeaways and action items. Up first,
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  confidence is built sometimes slowly. If you've
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  listened to previous episodes, you know confidence
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  seems to be a reoccurring theme and that's for
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  good reason. Confidence is so important and it's
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  something that many women tend to struggle with.
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  However, it's something we can actually continue
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  to work on. And Jamie's point was is that confidence
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  is built through practice and through reps and
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  sometimes it is slow. I think generally I'm a
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  fairly confident person, but you put me on a
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  golf course, I am not confident. I don't want
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  other people to see me golfing. I want to be
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  far away from everybody. I get super nervous.
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  I stress out about it. I feel awful when I shank
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  the ball and it's crazy. But the reason why I
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  don't have confidence on the course. not just
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  because I suck, it's because I don't put in the
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  practice and the effort. I'm trying, this is
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  my year where I'm going to put a little bit more
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  effort into that practice and going to the driving
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  range and taking lessons. But that same mentality
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  and thought process is relevant to our professional
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  careers. We've talked before about sometimes
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  it's hard to speak up or to be comfortable to
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  raise your hand or volunteer for something. But
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  slowly, if you take baby steps, it becomes easier
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  and you'll start to build that confidence. There
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  is a great quote from Kobe Bryant and it says,
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  confidence comes from preparation. And that's
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  so true. And think about the amazing career he
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  had. He had to prep. He had to build his confidence
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  slowly over time. So takeaway here, nobody crushes
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  it on the first try. Whether you're pitching
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  a bold idea or learning how to hit a golf ball,
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  confidence is earned by doing the thing again
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  and again. Also, confidence follows action. So
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  action item for this one, show up for the reps,
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  swap, I'm not good at this for I'm still learning
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  or I'm still practicing or I'm still growing.
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  Don't have the negative self -talk and remember
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  that progress over perfection every single time.
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  Takeaway number two, forget the boys club, build
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  your own. First of all, I think we need to stop
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  using the word club. Club is exclusive, right?
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  And as women, we want to be inclusive. So we've
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  discussed the fact that the boys club still exists.
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  Always will exist great good for them and it
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  can feel very exclusive So we need to continue
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  to focus on building a community not a club.
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  We don't need a girls club. We need a well women's
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  community. Jamie talked about on the golf course
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  how it was very exclusive and there really weren't
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  a lot of women around and that's literally still
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  true today anytime you pick pretty much any golf
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  course but who cares it doesn't matter. So they
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  started to focus on the positive of building
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  their own community and their own circles and
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  that's the takeaway here and that again isn't
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  just on the golf course this is anywhere in life
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  because by the way if you haven't looked around
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  there's not many times where women aren't in
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  the minority whether it's in settings that are
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  sports like. You know, you go to the gym, you're
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  probably one of the few women or minority. I
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  did realize this morning that the one place that
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  I feel like women are not in the minority is
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  a yoga class. So if you need to be in that group
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  where there is a lot more females than there
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  are men. take a yoga class, definitely recommend
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  that. But again, the same thing from a social
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  situation can be applied professionally as you
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  continue to grow in your role. And as you take
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  on more of a leadership position, a lot of times
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  you're going to find yourself to be one of the
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  fewer women in the room. And that's okay. It
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  doesn't matter. That's when you continue to make
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  those connections and build those circles to
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  forget about the boys club and just continue
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  to focus on building your own community. Part
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  of the reason why people are obsessed with She
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  Said Golf is the community feel of it. And it's
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  the way it makes them feel when they are a part
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  of these events. Golf, I feel like is maybe second
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  or third on the list. Yes, that's the reason
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  why these groups started to form and why this
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  community was built. But it's the way that women
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  feel when they are at a She Said Golf event.
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  They feel supported. It's inclusive. Oh, it's
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  also fun. There's cheerleaders cheering for you
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  and you feel that sense of belonging. So yes,
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  the boys club still exists, but let's continue
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  to focus on building our community. Action item
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  for the week, invite someone in, whether it's
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  a meeting, a golf round, or a happy hour. Start
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  making a community where women feel like they
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  belong. Number three, probably my favorite, is
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  have some damn fun. Many of us are in a constant
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  state of getting shit done or trying to improve
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  and it's Overwhelming and it's exhausting. We're
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  so worried about our families our friends our
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  jobs But the reality is we have to put ourselves
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  first and at the top of the list It's true and
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  that counts for the relaxing and the unwinding
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  but also to have some freaking fun I think I'm
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  pretty good at this one. I have to give myself
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  credit. I'm very intentional about scheduling
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  fun I'm always looking ahead to the next weekend
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  or the next time and it can be little things
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  like scheduling drinks or dinner with your girlfriends
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  sometimes it's bigger I have my high school girlfriends
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  that we go away at least once a year on a girls
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  weekend trip which I love so much and of course
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  fun doesn't mean just with your friends but a
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  lot of times that's definitely a break but also
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  planning things intentionally with your partner
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  or your spouse and even your kids for me it's
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  planning trips or getaways and whether it's just
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  for the day to go somewhere maybe it's to a baseball
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  game but of course then there's always the nice
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  long anticipated vacations so I like to have
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  things on the calendar that I look forward to
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  and I definitely love to have fun always have
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  been in the mindset of work hard but also play
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  hard and fun isn't just fluff it's fuel it reduces
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  stress it boosts creativity it makes life way
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  more enjoyable and joy by the way is also a leadership
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  trait to action item Join the walking group,
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  take the yoga class, say yes to happy hour, hit
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  the golf course, plan a trip, schedule fun on
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  purpose. You have to be intentional. Treat it
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  like it matters because it does confidence that
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  comes from reps community. That's our secret
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  weapon and fun. That's the fuel, not the reward.
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  So show up messy, take up space, build your life
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  with boldness and belly laughs. You're not behind.
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  You're just getting warmed up because the only
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  thing standing between where you are and where
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  you want to be is just to get started. If you
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  haven't listened to Jamie's episode, please do
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  so. And if you found this episode to be right
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  on par for you, please like it and share it with
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  Until next time, keep swinging and have some
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  fun.