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E 271: Why Hustle Culture Breaks Connection , Guest Anthony Spark · Adult Child of Dysfunction

0:47
Well,
0:47
hello
0:47
everybody
0:48
and
0:48
welcome
0:48
back
0:48
to
0:49
another
0:49
episode
0:49
of
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Adult
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Child
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of
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Dysfunction.
0:51
Today
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we
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have
0:52
with
0:52
us
0:52
Anthony
0:53
Spark.
0:53
He
0:54
is
0:54
the
0:54
founder
0:55
of
0:55
Spark
0:55
a
0:55
Change
0:56
Coaching,
0:57
a
0:57
values
0:58
based
0:58
practice
0:59
for
0:59
sustainable
1:00
personal
1:01
and
1:01
business
1:01
growth.
1:02
A
1:02
top
1:03
5%
1:03
leader
1:04
in
1:04
global
1:04
network
1:05
marketing
1:05
for
1:05
20
1:06
plus
1:06
years,
1:07
he's
1:07
a
1:07
life
1:07
and
1:07
business
1:08
coach,
1:08
helping
1:08
clients
1:09
eliminate
1:09
10
1:10
plus
1:10
million
1:10
dollars
1:11
in
1:11
debt,
1:11
grow
1:11
income
1:12
and
1:12
build
1:12
impact
1:13
driven
1:13
lives
1:14
worldwide.
1:15
I
1:16
would
1:16
stop
1:16
right
1:16
there
1:16
and
1:17
say
1:17
welcome
1:17
Anthony,
1:18
but
1:19
I
1:19
like
1:19
what
1:19
you
1:20
wrote
1:20
at
1:20
the
1:20
end,
1:20
so
1:20
this
1:21
is
1:21
what
1:21
I'm
1:21
going
1:21
to
1:21
really
1:21
read
1:22
because
1:22
this
1:22
is
1:22
you.
1:23
He
1:23
said,
1:24
I
1:24
started
1:24
working
1:24
full
1:25
time
1:25
at
1:25
15
1:25
and
1:26
built
1:26
businesses
1:27
early,
1:27
achieving
1:27
what
1:28
most
1:28
people
1:28
would
1:28
call
1:29
success
1:29
by
1:29
my
1:30
mid-20s.
1:31
From
1:31
the
1:31
outside,
1:32
things
1:32
look
1:32
solid.
1:33
Income,
1:33
leadership,
1:34
momentum.
1:35
But
1:35
internally
1:36
he
1:36
learned
1:36
that
1:36
progress
1:37
without
1:37
alignment
1:37
comes
1:38
at
1:38
a
1:38
cost.
1:39
He
1:39
hit
1:39
seasons
1:40
where
1:40
he
1:40
was
1:40
winning
1:40
on
1:40
paper
1:41
while
1:41
slowly
1:42
disconnecting
1:42
from
1:42
himself,
1:43
his
1:43
values
1:44
and
1:44
the
1:44
people
1:44
he
1:44
cared
1:45
about
1:45
most.
1:46
The
1:46
realization
1:47
forced
1:47
him
1:47
to
1:47
slow
1:48
down,
1:48
tell
1:48
the
1:48
truth
1:49
about
1:49
what
1:49
wasn't
1:49
working
1:50
and
1:50
rebuild
1:51
from
1:51
the
1:51
inside
1:51
out.
1:52
He
1:52
learned
1:52
that
1:52
habits
1:53
shape
1:53
identity,
1:54
that
1:54
money
1:54
amplifies
1:55
who
1:55
you
1:56
already
1:56
are,
1:57
and
1:57
that
1:57
integrity
1:57
is
1:58
what
1:58
makes
1:59
success
1:59
sustainable.
2:00
The
2:01
hope
2:01
he
2:01
offers
2:01
is
2:02
simple
2:02
but
2:02
real.
2:03
You
2:03
don't
2:03
need
2:03
to
2:03
start
2:04
over
2:04
or
2:04
become
2:05
someone
2:05
else.
2:06
With
2:06
honest
2:06
reflection,
2:07
support
2:07
and
2:08
consistent
2:08
habits,
2:08
you
2:09
can
2:09
heal
2:09
what's
2:09
misaligned
2:10
and
2:10
build
2:11
a
2:11
life
2:11
that
2:11
feels
2:11
grounded,
2:12
meaningful
2:13
and
2:13
genuinely
2:14
free.
2:15
That's
2:15
the
2:15
Anthony
2:16
Spark
2:16
I
2:16
want
2:16
to
2:16
meet.
2:17
Love
2:17
it.
2:17
Love
2:18
it.
2:18
That's
2:19
the
2:19
real.
2:19
That's
2:19
the
2:20
real
2:20
real.
2:21
That's
2:21
the
2:21
real
2:21
real.
2:22
That's
2:22
the
2:22
one.
2:22
That's
2:23
the
2:23
other
2:23
like,
2:23
oh,
2:23
is
2:23
there
2:24
anything
2:24
else
2:24
I
2:24
should
2:24
know
2:24
about
2:25
you?
2:25
Well,
2:25
yeah,
2:25
that's
2:26
you.
2:26
Yes,
2:27
for
2:27
sure,
2:28
for
2:28
sure,
2:29
yes.
2:29
So
2:29
welcome.
2:30
Thank
2:30
you
2:30
so
2:30
much
2:31
for
2:31
coming
2:31
on.
2:31
Thank
2:31
you
2:32
for
2:32
having
2:32
me.
2:32
It's
2:32
an
2:32
honor
2:33
and
2:33
a
2:33
privilege.
2:33
Hopefully
2:34
a
2:34
lot
2:34
of
2:34
people
2:34
can
2:34
be
2:35
helped
2:35
by
2:35
the
2:35
challenges
2:36
and
2:36
learn
2:36
from
2:37
them
2:37
and
2:37
be
2:38
able
2:38
to
2:38
grow
2:38
and
2:38
I'm
2:39
just
2:39
so
2:39
glad
2:39
to
2:39
be
2:39
here.
2:39
It's
2:40
such
2:40
a
2:40
pleasure.
2:40
Thanks
2:40
for
2:41
having
2:41
me.
2:41
Well,
2:42
I
2:42
appreciate
2:42
it
2:43
and
2:43
I
2:43
think
2:43
that
2:44
we
2:44
all
2:44
have
2:44
challenges.
2:45
Like
2:45
challenges
2:45
are
2:46
not
2:46
new,
2:46
that
2:46
they're
2:47
not
2:47
something
2:47
that
2:48
people
2:48
can
2:48
avoid.
2:49
It's
2:49
just
2:49
part
2:50
of
2:50
life.
2:50
And
2:50
it's
2:50
really
2:51
how
2:51
we
2:51
deal
2:52
with
2:52
them
2:52
and
2:52
how
2:52
we
2:52
let
2:53
them
2:53
get
2:53
us
2:54
down
2:54
or
2:54
keep
2:54
us
2:55
up.
2:55
That
2:55
really
2:57
it's
2:58
what
2:58
makes
2:58
us.
2:59
But
2:59
you
2:59
kind
3:00
of
3:00
learn
3:00
the
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hard
3:00
way
3:01
along
3:01
the
3:02
way
3:02
that
3:02
success
3:03
is
3:03
not
3:03
just
3:03
a
3:03
number
3:04
on
3:04
paper.
3:04
It's
3:05
about
3:05
what's
3:05
truly
3:06
inside.
3:06
So
3:06
talk
3:07
a
3:07
little
3:07
bit
3:07
about
3:07
that.
3:08
Yeah.
3:08
I
3:08
want
3:08
to
3:09
give
3:09
you
3:09
my,
3:09
my
3:09
history.
3:09
I
3:10
think
3:10
That'll
3:10
probably
3:10
be
3:11
the
3:11
best
3:11
starting
3:12
point,
3:12
if
3:12
that's
3:12
good.
3:13
Oh,
3:13
absolutely.
3:14
So
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I
3:15
came
3:16
from
3:16
a
3:16
pretty
3:17
dysfunctional
3:17
family.
3:18
Now
3:19
I
3:19
have.
3:19
My
3:20
mom
3:20
has
3:20
said,
3:20
well,
3:21
you're
3:21
not
3:21
represented.
3:21
My
3:22
mom
3:22
is
3:22
wonderful.
3:23
Just
3:23
to
3:23
be
3:24
clear,
3:24
she
3:24
comes
3:25
from
3:25
a
3:25
very
3:25
dysfunctional
3:25
family,
3:26
but
3:26
she
3:26
did,
3:26
all
3:27
things
3:27
considered,
3:27
quite
3:28
an
3:28
amazing
3:28
job
3:28
actually.04%
3:30
now
3:31
in
3:32
the
3:32
network
3:32
marketing
3:33
industry.
3:33
So
3:33
we.
3:33
Oh,
3:34
amen.
3:34
But
3:35
I
3:35
say
3:35
that
3:35
because
3:36
my
3:36
mom,
3:36
I'm
3:36
the
3:36
eldest
3:37
of
3:37
three.
3:37
I
3:37
have
3:37
a
3:38
sister
3:38
that's
3:38
two
3:38
years
3:38
younger
3:39
and
3:39
have
3:39
a
3:39
brother
3:39
that's
3:39
eight
3:39
years
3:40
younger.
3:40
And
3:40
we're
3:41
all
3:41
extremely
3:42
big
3:42
earners
3:42
with
3:43
healthy
3:43
relationships
3:44
and
3:44
a
3:44
great
3:44
life.
3:45
So
3:45
I
3:45
do
3:45
want
3:46
to
3:46
preface
3:46
that.
3:46
That's
3:47
from
3:47
my
3:47
mom.
3:47
But
3:48
my.
3:48
I
3:48
do
3:49
come
3:49
from
3:49
a
3:49
really
3:49
dysfunctional
3:50
background.
3:50
My
3:50
mom
3:50
was
3:51
a
3:51
single
3:51
mom
3:51
most
3:51
of
3:52
my
3:52
life.
3:52
My
3:52
dad
3:53
ended
3:53
up
3:53
getting
3:54
addicted
3:54
to
3:54
painkillers,
3:54
went
3:55
to
3:55
prison,
3:56
womanizer,
3:56
couldn't
3:56
get
3:57
out
3:57
of
3:57
his
3:57
own
3:57
way.
3:58
And
3:58
his
3:59
mom
3:59
was.
3:59
Got
4:00
married
4:00
at
4:00
15
4:01
or
4:01
had
4:01
him
4:01
at
4:02
15
4:02
out
4:02
of
4:02
wedlock.
4:03
She
4:03
was
4:03
Jewish,
4:04
come
4:04
from
4:04
an
4:04
upper
4:05
middle
4:05
class
4:06
Jewish
4:06
family.
4:07
You
4:07
probably
4:07
know
4:07
them,
4:07
the
4:07
Zuckerbergs.
4:08
I'm
4:08
just
4:08
on
4:09
the
4:09
wrong
4:09
branch
4:09
of
4:09
the
4:09
family
4:10
tree.
4:10
So
4:10
Mark
4:10
Zuckerberg's
4:11
like
4:11
a
4:11
second
4:11
cousin
4:11
I've
4:12
never
4:12
met.
4:12
And
4:13
my
4:13
dad's
4:13
brother
4:13
is
4:14
schizophrenic
4:15
and
4:15
it
4:15
called
4:15
him
4:15
for
4:15
money
4:16
when
4:16
the
4:16
first
4:16
came
4:17
out
4:17
that
4:17
we
4:17
could
4:17
contact
4:17
him.
4:18
So
4:18
that
4:18
door
4:18
closed
4:18
pretty
4:19
quickly.
4:19
But
4:20
I
4:20
had
4:20
a
4:20
crazy
4:20
family
4:21
time
4:21
growing
4:21
up.
4:22
My
4:22
dad
4:22
was
4:22
into
4:23
a
4:23
lot
4:23
of
4:23
different
4:23
things,
4:24
couldn't
4:24
get
4:24
out
4:24
of
4:24
his
4:24
own
4:25
way.
4:25
My
4:25
mom's
4:26
dad
4:26
or
4:27
my
4:27
mom's
4:27
mom,
4:27
she
4:28
was
4:28
misdiagnosed
4:29
with
4:29
bipolar
4:30
or
4:30
schizophrenia
4:31
when
4:31
she
4:31
was
4:32
actually
4:32
bipolar
4:32
one.
4:33
She
4:33
had
4:34
a
4:34
traumatic
4:34
situation.
4:35
She
4:35
was
4:35
raped
4:35
in
4:35
college,
4:36
became
4:36
an
4:36
alcoholic.
4:37
And
4:37
my
4:37
mom
4:37
basically
4:37
had
4:38
the
4:38
house
4:38
from
4:38
the
4:38
time
4:38
she
4:38
was
4:39
8.
4:39
She'd
4:39
come
4:39
home,
4:39
her
4:39
mom
4:39
be
4:40
passed
4:40
out
4:40
on
4:40
the
4:40
floor.
4:41
So
4:41
my,
4:42
my
4:42
grandfather
4:43
kind
4:43
of
4:43
like
4:43
was
4:44
running
4:44
a
4:44
company
4:44
and
4:44
he
4:44
was
4:44
paying
4:45
for
4:45
like
4:45
every
4:45
treatment
4:46
he
4:46
could
4:46
and
4:47
he
4:47
was
4:47
embezzling
4:47
funds
4:48
from
4:48
his
4:48
company
4:48
to
4:48
try
4:49
to
4:49
make
4:49
his
4:49
wife
4:50
better.
4:50
He
4:50
ended
4:50
up
4:50
going
4:50
to
4:50
prison.
4:51
My
4:51
mom
4:51
and
4:52
her
4:52
sister
4:52
had
4:52
to
4:52
live
4:52
in
4:53
crazy
4:53
thing
4:54
where
4:54
they'd
4:54
have
4:54
a
4:54
shotgun
4:55
and
4:55
an
4:55
area
4:56
probably
4:56
similar
4:56
to
4:56
the
4:56
one
4:57
we
4:57
mentioned
4:57
earlier.
4:58
And
4:59
so
4:59
I
4:59
grew
4:59
up
4:59
with
5:00
a
5:00
crazy
5:00
situation.
5:01
You
5:01
know,
5:02
my,
5:02
my
5:02
dad,
5:03
when
5:03
my,
5:03
my.
5:03
My
5:04
grandfather
5:04
did
5:04
pass
5:05
away,
5:05
they
5:05
took
5:05
the
5:06
money
5:06
and
5:06
they
5:06
bought
5:06
a
5:06
deli.
5:07
And
5:08
my
5:08
dad
5:08
hired.
5:08
Hired
5:08
a
5:09
coat.
5:09
He
5:09
was
5:09
sl.
5:10
Stealing
5:10
money
5:10
out
5:10
of
5:10
the
5:10
drawer
5:11
that
5:11
ended
5:11
up,
5:11
you
5:12
know,
5:12
just
5:12
leaving
5:12
his
5:12
Business
5:13
partner
5:13
with
5:13
everything
5:14
or
5:14
holding
5:14
the
5:15
bag
5:15
with
5:15
everything.
5:15
But
5:16
I
5:16
was
5:16
working
5:16
at
5:16
13,
5:17
and
5:17
I
5:17
was
5:17
working
5:18
full
5:18
time
5:18
at
5:18
15,
5:19
and
5:19
I
5:20
wanted
5:20
to
5:20
buy
5:20
stuff
5:20
and
5:21
my
5:21
mom
5:21
needed
5:21
money,
5:21
so
5:22
I
5:22
worked.
5:22
And
5:22
I
5:22
worked
5:23
40
5:23
hours
5:23
a
5:23
week
5:23
in
5:23
ninth
5:24
grade.
5:24
So
5:24
I.
5:25
I'm
5:25
37.
5:25
So
5:26
I
5:26
grew
5:26
up
5:26
in
5:26
a
5:26
lot
5:26
different
5:27
of
5:27
a
5:27
world
5:27
for
5:27
anyone
5:28
that's
5:28
like
5:28
25
5:28
or
5:29
younger,
5:29
you
5:29
know,
5:29
Tammy's
5:30
29,
5:30
so
5:30
we
5:31
grew
5:31
up
5:31
much
5:31
in
5:31
much
5:31
similar
5:32
time
5:32
frame.
5:32
I
5:33
got
5:33
you,
5:33
Tammy.
5:33
Couple
5:34
times,
5:34
you
5:34
got
5:34
it.
5:34
I
5:35
got
5:35
you.
5:35
I
5:35
got
5:35
you.
5:36
But
5:36
I've
5:37
grow.
5:37
I
5:37
grew
5:37
up
5:37
much
5:38
similar.
5:38
If
5:38
you
5:38
take
5:39
people
5:39
that
5:39
were
5:39
born
5:39
in,
5:39
like,
5:40
I
5:40
was
5:40
born
5:40
in
5:40
88.
5:41
I
5:41
grew
5:41
up
5:41
much
5:42
more
5:42
similar
5:42
all
5:42
the
5:42
way,
5:43
really
5:43
back
5:43
to
5:43
even
5:43
60,
5:44
70,
5:45
65,
5:45
than
5:46
just
5:46
people
5:46
a
5:46
few
5:46
years
5:47
younger,
5:48
because
5:48
I
5:48
didn't
5:48
grow
5:48
up
5:48
with
5:48
social
5:49
media.
5:49
There's
5:49
no
5:49
gig
5:49
economy,
5:50
no
5:50
cryptocurrency,
5:51
no
5:51
anything.
5:51
But
5:52
anyway,
5:52
that's
5:52
a
5:52
little
5:53
bit.
5:53
I
5:53
could
5:53
give
5:53
you
5:54
tons
5:54
of
5:54
stories.
5:55
I
5:55
got
5:55
stories
5:55
for
5:56
days,
5:57
I
5:57
bet.
5:58
I
5:58
mean,
5:58
you
5:58
just
5:58
threw
5:59
like
5:59
19
5:59
different
6:00
things.
6:00
We
6:00
could
6:00
talk
6:00
about
6:01
any
6:01
one
6:02
of
6:02
those.
6:02
We
6:02
could
6:02
pick
6:03
when
6:03
you
6:03
talk.
6:03
And
6:03
that's
6:03
just
6:03
the
6:04
tip
6:04
of
6:04
the
6:04
iceberg,
6:04
Tammy.
6:05
I
6:06
can
6:06
say
6:07
that's
6:07
just
6:07
the
6:07
high.
6:07
Who
6:08
am
6:08
I?
6:08
Like,
6:08
what
6:09
happened
6:09
the
6:09
first
6:10
in
6:10
one
6:10
minute,
6:11
I
6:11
can't
6:11
even
6:11
imagine.
6:12
But
6:12
you
6:13
did
6:13
good
6:13
things.
6:13
I
6:14
mean,
6:14
okay,
6:14
so
6:15
I
6:15
get
6:15
it
6:15
because
6:15
I,
6:16
I
6:16
kind
6:16
of
6:16
started
6:17
there.
6:17
As
6:17
far
6:17
as
6:18
the
6:18
working,
6:18
it
6:18
was
6:18
the
6:19
same
6:19
thing
6:19
with
6:19
me.
6:19
My
6:19
mom
6:20
was
6:20
a,
6:20
you
6:20
know,
6:20
a
6:21
drunk,
6:21
my
6:21
dad
6:21
and
6:22
a
6:22
drug
6:22
addict.
6:22
My
6:23
dad
6:23
was
6:23
a
6:23
drunk.
6:23
If
6:24
I
6:24
wanted
6:24
anything,
6:25
I.
6:25
I
6:26
bought
6:26
it
6:26
myself.
6:27
I
6:27
mean,
6:27
literally,
6:27
that's
6:28
what
6:28
it
6:28
was.
6:28
I
6:28
can
6:28
remember
6:29
going
6:29
to.
6:30
Getting
6:30
up
6:30
in
6:30
the
6:30
morning,
6:31
going
6:31
to
6:31
school,
6:31
running
6:32
track,
6:32
doing
6:33
diving,
6:33
and
6:34
then
6:34
going
6:34
to
6:34
friendlies
6:34
and
6:35
waitressing
6:35
from
6:35
the
6:36
time
6:36
I
6:36
was,
6:36
I
6:36
think
6:37
I
6:37
told
6:37
them
6:37
I
6:37
was
6:38
back
6:38
then,
6:38
you
6:38
could
6:38
lie
6:39
about
6:39
your
6:39
age.
6:39
You
6:40
could
6:40
get
6:40
into
6:40
the
6:40
pizzerias
6:41
underage
6:41
when
6:42
you
6:42
were
6:42
12
6:42
and
6:42
tell
6:43
them
6:43
they
6:43
were
6:43
14.
6:44
You
6:44
know,
6:44
you
6:44
could
6:45
do
6:45
all
6:45
that
6:45
stuff
6:45
back
6:45
then.
6:46
So
6:47
same
6:47
thing,
6:47
work
6:48
full
6:48
time.
6:48
I
6:49
actually
6:49
moved
6:49
out
6:50
in
6:50
high
6:50
school
6:51
because
6:51
my
6:51
dad,
6:52
senior
6:52
year,
6:52
thought
6:52
it
6:52
was
6:53
a
6:53
good
6:53
idea
6:53
to
6:53
give
6:53
me
6:53
a
6:53
curfew,
6:54
which
6:54
I've
6:54
never
6:54
had
6:55
one
6:55
or
6:55
one
6:56
boundary
6:56
my
6:56
entire
6:57
life,
6:57
let
6:57
alone
6:57
lots
6:58
of
6:58
boundaries.
6:58
Like,
6:58
that
6:58
was
6:59
crazy.
6:59
So
7:00
I
7:00
totally
7:00
get
7:01
that.
7:01
And
7:02
I
7:02
mean,
7:02
you
7:02
came
7:03
from
7:03
a
7:03
long
7:03
line,
7:04
though,
7:04
of
7:04
successful
7:05
people
7:06
as
7:06
far
7:06
as
7:06
on
7:07
paper.
7:07
Yeah.
7:08
So
7:08
not
7:09
successful.
7:09
No
7:09
one
7:09
in
7:09
my
7:10
family
7:10
is
7:10
actually
7:10
successful.
7:12
No
7:12
one
7:12
is,
7:13
so.
7:13
Which
7:14
actually
7:14
was
7:14
a
7:14
good
7:14
indicator.
7:15
So
7:15
my
7:16
whole
7:16
Dad's
7:16
side
7:17
of
7:17
the
7:17
family,
7:17
they're
7:17
all
7:18
brilliant,
7:18
you
7:19
know,
7:19
like
7:19
150
7:20
IQ.
7:20
But
7:21
because
7:21
of
7:21
the
7:21
emotional
7:22
damage
7:22
and
7:23
very
7:23
often
7:23
the
7:24
lack
7:24
of
7:24
the
7:24
emotional
7:24
regulation,
7:26
undiagnosed
7:26
mental
7:27
illness,
7:27
and
7:28
just
7:28
the
7:28
terrible
7:30
generational
7:31
kind
7:31
of
7:32
in
7:32
things
7:32
that
7:33
they
7:33
inherited,
7:34
they
7:34
are
7:34
very
7:35
under.
7:35
Underperforming.
7:36
Financial.
7:38
My
7:38
mom,
7:38
she's
7:39
a
7:39
nurse.
7:39
She's
7:39
been
7:39
a.
7:40
She
7:40
just
7:40
retired
7:40
as
7:40
a
7:41
hospice
7:41
nurse.
7:41
So
7:42
she
7:42
did
7:42
well.
7:42
She
7:42
put
7:42
herself
7:43
through
7:43
school
7:43
and
7:43
you
7:44
know,
7:44
she
7:44
had
7:44
a.
7:44
You
7:44
know,
7:45
her
7:45
husband
7:45
was
7:45
philandering
7:46
and
7:46
you
7:46
know,
7:47
she.
7:47
So
7:47
she
7:47
held
7:47
it
7:48
down.
7:48
But
7:48
that's
7:48
why
7:48
we
7:48
were,
7:49
we
7:49
weren't
7:49
there
7:49
a
7:49
lot.
7:49
She
7:49
was
7:50
working
7:50
all
7:50
the
7:50
time.
7:50
But
7:51
in
7:51
New
7:51
York
7:51
you
7:52
got
7:52
one
7:52
income
7:53
that's
7:53
not
7:53
enough
7:53
money,
7:54
you
7:54
know,
7:54
so
7:54
we
7:54
were
7:54
always
7:55
struggling
7:55
regardless.
7:56
But
7:56
there's
7:56
really
7:57
nobody
7:57
in
7:58
my
7:58
family
7:58
that's
7:59
really
7:59
successful.
7:59
I
7:59
have
7:59
some
8:00
cousins,
8:00
my
8:00
mom's
8:01
cousins,
8:01
extended.
8:02
But
8:02
very,
8:03
very
8:03
few
8:03
people
8:03
are,
8:04
you
8:04
know,
8:05
successful
8:05
even
8:06
in,
8:06
on
8:06
paper.
8:08
Interesting.
8:08
I
8:09
mean,
8:09
it's,
8:09
it's
8:10
funny.
8:10
And
8:10
we
8:10
were
8:10
just
8:10
the
8:11
opposite.
8:11
Where
8:11
our
8:12
family
8:12
was
8:13
looked
8:13
on
8:13
the
8:13
outsides.
8:14
Perfect.
8:15
My
8:15
mom
8:15
was
8:15
a
8:16
child
8:16
psychiatrist,
8:17
my
8:17
dad
8:17
was
8:17
a
8:17
high
8:17
end
8:18
stockbroker.
8:18
Like,
8:19
we
8:19
lived,
8:20
we
8:20
lived
8:20
in
8:20
a
8:20
beautiful
8:21
home
8:21
and
8:21
everybody
8:22
thought
8:22
everything
8:22
was
8:22
great
8:23
and.
8:24
Yeah.
8:25
And
8:25
it
8:25
was
8:25
just
8:25
funny
8:26
when
8:26
people
8:26
later
8:27
now
8:27
people
8:27
that
8:28
I
8:28
went
8:28
to
8:28
high
8:28
school
8:28
with,
8:29
they'll
8:29
hear
8:29
my
8:29
podcast
8:31
something
8:31
or
8:31
read
8:31
my
8:31
book
8:32
and
8:32
be
8:32
like,
8:32
what
8:33
the.
8:33
We
8:33
had
8:34
no
8:34
idea.
8:36
And
8:36
I'm
8:36
like,
8:36
of
8:36
course
8:36
you
8:37
didn't.
8:37
I
8:37
had
8:37
the
8:38
best
8:38
mask.
8:39
I
8:39
was
8:39
so
8:39
good.
8:39
I
8:39
pulled
8:40
them
8:40
out.
8:40
I
8:40
had
8:40
like
8:40
stacks
8:41
of
8:41
masks.
8:41
Like
8:41
all
8:42
you
8:42
rich
8:42
people
8:42
have
8:42
shoes,
8:43
you
8:43
know?
8:43
Yeah,
8:44
it
8:44
was,
8:45
it
8:45
was
8:45
crazy.
8:46
But
8:48
so
8:48
talk
8:48
about
8:49
how
8:49
when
8:50
you
8:50
get
8:50
what.
8:51
When
8:51
you
8:51
realize
8:52
really
8:52
your
8:52
life
8:52
was
8:53
like,
8:53
okay,
8:53
I'm
8:54
burning
8:54
out
8:54
and
8:55
I'm
8:56
might
8:56
have
8:56
money
8:56
and
8:56
look
8:57
good
8:57
on
8:57
paper,
8:57
but
8:58
I'm
8:58
not
8:58
happy.
8:59
Yep.
8:59
So
8:59
when
8:59
I
9:00
was
9:00
just
9:00
turning
9:00
18,
9:01
I
9:02
was
9:02
on
9:02
the
9:02
track
9:02
to
9:02
go
9:02
to
9:02
med
9:03
school.
9:03
I
9:03
knew
9:03
I
9:03
wanted,
9:04
I
9:04
knew
9:04
I
9:04
want
9:04
to
9:04
make
9:04
a
9:04
lot
9:04
of
9:05
money
9:05
and
9:05
I
9:05
was
9:06
good
9:06
at
9:06
school,
9:06
I
9:06
was
9:06
good
9:06
at
9:06
learning.
9:07
And
9:07
I
9:07
do.
9:07
I
9:07
want
9:07
to
9:08
do
9:08
something
9:08
that
9:08
made
9:08
a
9:08
difference.
9:09
And
9:09
that
9:09
was
9:09
the
9:10
best
9:10
I
9:10
could
9:10
figure.
9:10
Now
9:10
I
9:11
didn't
9:11
want
9:11
to
9:11
be
9:11
a
9:11
doctor.
9:12
I
9:12
just
9:12
want
9:12
to
9:13
make
9:13
a
9:13
lot
9:13
of
9:13
money
9:13
and
9:13
help
9:13
people.
9:13
And
9:14
there
9:14
was
9:14
no
9:14
gig
9:14
economy,
9:15
There
9:15
was
9:15
no
9:15
social
9:15
media,
9:16
so.
9:16
But
9:16
a
9:17
friend
9:17
of
9:17
mine,
9:17
it
9:17
was
9:17
like
9:18
his
9:18
bs
9:18
high
9:18
school
9:18
job,
9:19
I
9:19
don't
9:19
know
9:19
if
9:19
I
9:19
should
9:19
curse
9:20
or
9:20
not,
9:20
but
9:20
his
9:20
bs,
9:21
okay,
9:22
so
9:22
his
9:22
high
9:23
school
9:23
job,
9:23
they'd
9:24
smoke
9:24
pot
9:24
in
9:24
the
9:24
Basement,
9:25
sell
9:25
skis
9:25
and.
9:26
But
9:26
he
9:26
told
9:26
me
9:26
there
9:27
that
9:27
he
9:27
met
9:27
a
9:27
guy
9:28
that
9:28
told
9:28
him
9:28
he
9:28
was
9:28
going
9:29
to
9:29
retire
9:29
at
9:29
28.
9:30
Now,
9:31
I
9:31
never
9:31
heard
9:31
of
9:31
that
9:32
again.
9:32
There's
9:32
no
9:33
point
9:33
of
9:33
reference.
9:34
So
9:34
that
9:34
was
9:34
a
9:34
singular
9:35
moment
9:35
in
9:35
my
9:35
life
9:36
that
9:36
I
9:36
thought
9:37
you
9:37
either
9:37
were
9:38
born
9:38
rich
9:38
or
9:39
you
9:39
worked
9:39
your
9:39
whole
9:39
life.
9:39
You
9:40
can
9:40
make
9:40
a
9:40
lot
9:40
of
9:40
money.
9:41
But
9:41
retiring
9:41
on
9:42
28
9:42
was
9:42
never
9:43
an
9:43
idea
9:43
that
9:43
I
9:44
realized
9:44
was
9:44
even
9:44
a
9:44
possibility.
9:45
So
9:46
I
9:46
said
9:46
to
9:46
my
9:46
friend,
9:47
like,
9:47
I
9:47
would
9:47
do
9:48
anything
9:48
if
9:48
I
9:48
didn't
9:49
have
9:49
to
9:49
work
9:49
a
9:49
regular
9:49
job
9:50
and
9:50
I
9:50
could
9:50
be
9:50
with
9:50
my
9:51
future
9:51
family,
9:51
because
9:51
I
9:51
always
9:52
wanted
9:52
a
9:52
family.
9:52
I
9:52
always
9:52
wanted
9:53
kids.
9:53
I
9:53
said,
9:53
I
9:53
do.
9:53
As
9:54
long
9:54
as
9:54
it's
9:54
legal
9:54
and
9:54
ethical,
9:54
I
9:55
do
9:55
anything
9:55
for
9:55
that.
9:56
And
9:56
honestly,
9:56
as
9:56
long
9:56
as
9:56
it's
9:57
ethical,
9:57
I
9:57
don't
9:57
even
9:57
mind
9:57
if
9:58
it's
9:58
legal.
9:59
So.
9:59
But
10:00
I
10:00
got
10:00
to
10:00
know
10:00
him
10:01
and
10:01
my
10:02
friends
10:02
like,
10:02
well,
10:03
what
10:03
if
10:03
it's
10:03
like
10:03
a
10:03
pyramid
10:04
or
10:04
a
10:04
scam
10:04
or
10:04
he's
10:05
going
10:05
to
10:05
get
10:05
you.
10:05
And
10:05
it
10:05
happened
10:05
to
10:05
be
10:06
in
10:06
the
10:06
network
10:06
marketing
10:06
industry.
10:07
There's
10:07
a
10:07
lot
10:07
of
10:07
talk
10:07
about
10:08
that
10:08
and
10:08
a
10:08
lot
10:08
of
10:08
bad
10:09
actors
10:09
in
10:09
industry.
10:09
A
10:09
lot
10:10
of
10:10
great
10:10
ones,
10:10
too.
10:11
But
10:11
I
10:11
said,
10:11
maybe
10:12
it
10:12
is
10:12
a
10:12
scam,
10:13
but
10:13
two
10:13
things.
10:14
First
10:14
off,
10:15
it
10:15
is
10:15
a
10:15
scam.
10:16
I'm
10:16
17,
10:16
I
10:17
have
10:17
nothing
10:17
to
10:17
get.
10:17
So
10:17
this
10:18
guy's
10:18
like
10:18
the
10:18
worst
10:18
scam
10:19
artist
10:19
ever.
10:19
So
10:19
there's
10:20
no
10:20
risk
10:20
for
10:20
me
10:20
meeting
10:21
this
10:21
guy.
10:21
Second
10:22
of
10:22
all,
10:22
my
10:22
family
10:23
are
10:23
criminals.
10:24
My
10:24
dad
10:25
works
10:25
on
10:25
the
10:25
weekends
10:26
as
10:26
a
10:26
bouncer
10:27
and
10:27
at
10:27
the
10:27
strip
10:28
club
10:28
that
10:28
his
10:29
cousins
10:29
open
10:29
to
10:29
laundry
10:30
their
10:30
drug
10:30
money
10:30
through.
10:31
I'm
10:31
not
10:31
worried
10:31
about
10:32
meeting
10:32
a
10:32
guy
10:32
at
10:32
Starbucks,
10:33
you
10:34
know,
10:35
so
10:35
anyway,
10:36
so
10:36
I
10:37
met
10:37
him
10:37
and
10:37
I
10:37
didn't
10:38
listen
10:38
to
10:38
what
10:38
Reddit
10:38
and
10:38
everybody
10:39
said.
10:39
And
10:39
I'm,
10:39
I'm.
10:40
I
10:40
think
10:40
there's
10:40
a
10:41
difference.
10:41
You
10:41
could
10:41
be
10:42
optimistic,
10:43
which
10:43
is
10:43
great,
10:44
but
10:44
sometimes
10:44
you
10:44
can
10:44
take
10:45
advantage
10:45
of.
10:45
You
10:45
just
10:45
assume
10:46
everybody's
10:46
out,
10:46
everybody's
10:47
good,
10:47
which
10:47
that's
10:48
kind
10:48
of.
10:48
And
10:48
that's
10:48
better
10:49
than
10:49
cynical,
10:49
which
10:50
is
10:50
everybody
10:50
is
10:50
terrible.
10:51
Terrible.
10:51
But
10:52
skeptical
10:52
means
10:52
they
10:53
could
10:53
be
10:53
great,
10:53
they
10:53
could
10:53
not
10:54
be.
10:54
I'm
10:54
going
10:54
to
10:54
get
10:54
the
10:54
data,
10:54
I'm
10:55
going
10:55
to
10:55
get
10:55
the
10:55
facts,
10:55
I'm
10:55
going
10:55
to
10:56
find
10:56
out
10:56
what
10:56
it
10:56
is.
10:57
So.
10:57
And
10:57
that
10:58
was
10:58
kind
10:58
of
10:58
where
10:58
I
10:58
was
10:58
at.
10:58
But
10:59
I
10:59
got
10:59
to
10:59
know
10:59
him,
10:59
and
11:00
he
11:00
had
11:00
a
11:00
great
11:00
family
11:00
and
11:01
he
11:01
had
11:01
a
11:01
great
11:01
life.
11:02
So
11:02
ultimately
11:02
I
11:03
said,
11:03
this
11:03
is
11:03
what
11:03
I
11:03
want.
11:04
And
11:04
I
11:04
had
11:04
to
11:04
go
11:04
through
11:05
getting
11:05
to
11:05
know
11:05
them.
11:05
I
11:05
had
11:06
to
11:06
prove
11:06
myself.
11:06
I
11:06
was
11:06
17,
11:07
my
11:07
hair
11:07
was
11:07
down
11:07
on
11:07
my
11:08
shoulder.
11:08
I
11:08
was
11:08
smoking
11:08
half
11:08
ounce
11:09
of
11:09
pot
11:09
a
11:09
week
11:09
But
11:09
I
11:10
was
11:10
precocious,
11:10
I
11:11
was
11:11
hard
11:11
working
11:11
and
11:12
I
11:12
was,
11:12
I
11:12
was
11:12
a
11:13
worker
11:13
and
11:13
I
11:13
was
11:13
willing
11:13
to
11:14
do
11:14
whatever
11:14
I
11:14
could.
11:14
By
11:14
the
11:14
time
11:14
I
11:14
was
11:14
graduate
11:15
high
11:15
school,
11:15
I
11:15
was
11:15
working
11:15
60,
11:16
70
11:16
hours
11:16
a
11:16
week.
11:16
It's
11:17
taking
11:17
AP
11:17
classes,
11:18
you
11:18
know,
11:18
you
11:18
know
11:18
the
11:18
deal
11:19
similar
11:19
thing.
11:20
So
11:20
I
11:21
started
11:21
in
11:21
business
11:21
and
11:22
I
11:22
got
11:22
into
11:22
network
11:22
marketing
11:23
and
11:24
I
11:24
expected
11:24
to
11:25
exceed
11:25
succeed
11:25
immediately,
11:26
which
11:26
was
11:26
absolutely
11:27
not
11:27
the
11:27
case.
11:28
But
11:28
I
11:28
did.
11:28
I
11:29
focused
11:29
and
11:29
channeled
11:30
all
11:30
of
11:30
my
11:30
energy
11:31
into
11:32
fixing
11:32
the
11:32
financial
11:33
problem
11:33
and
11:34
to
11:34
ultimately
11:34
getting
11:35
out
11:35
of
11:35
having
11:35
a
11:35
job.
11:36
I
11:36
got
11:37
together
11:37
with
11:37
my
11:37
wife
11:37
at
11:38
20,
11:38
we
11:39
started
11:39
dating
11:39
and
11:40
then
11:40
like
11:40
four
11:40
months
11:41
in
11:41
I'm
11:41
like,
11:41
your
11:41
parents
11:42
also
11:42
give
11:42
you
11:42
a
11:42
curfew?
11:43
Like
11:43
just
11:43
move
11:43
in
11:43
with
11:44
me.
11:44
So
11:44
we
11:44
like
11:45
took
11:45
their
11:45
luggage
11:45
and
11:46
just
11:46
moved
11:46
her
11:46
out.
11:46
She
11:47
dropped
11:47
out
11:47
of
11:47
nursing
11:48
school.
11:48
You
11:48
know,
11:48
that's
11:49
a,
11:49
probably
11:50
wasn't
11:50
the
11:50
best
11:50
idea.
11:51
We
11:51
combined
11:51
our
11:51
bank
11:52
accounts
11:52
but
11:52
we
11:52
would
11:53
have
11:53
got
11:53
married
11:53
immediately
11:54
but
11:54
we
11:54
had
11:54
to
11:54
save
11:54
up
11:54
the
11:55
money.
11:55
No
11:55
one
11:55
had
11:55
money.
11:55
So
11:55
he
11:56
got
11:56
married
11:56
a
11:56
few
11:56
years
11:56
later.
11:56
But
11:57
that
11:57
whole
11:58
time,
11:58
so
11:58
I'm
11:58
in
11:58
a
11:58
relationship
11:59
and
12:00
I'm
12:00
building
12:00
my
12:00
business.
12:01
By
12:01
the
12:01
time
12:01
I
12:01
was
12:01
25,
12:02
I
12:02
was
12:02
able
12:02
to
12:02
leave
12:02
my
12:02
full
12:03
time
12:03
job
12:03
and
12:04
my
12:04
wife
12:04
left
12:04
her
12:04
job
12:05
at
12:05
29.
12:05
But
12:05
in
12:06
those
12:07
probably
12:08
late
12:08
20s,
12:09
25.
12:09
I
12:09
have
12:09
a
12:10
personal
12:10
theory
12:10
that
12:11
I've
12:11
experienced
12:11
that
12:12
you
12:12
can
12:12
come
12:12
from
12:13
a
12:13
super
12:13
traumatic
12:13
background
12:14
and
12:14
you
12:14
can
12:14
have
12:15
all
12:15
this
12:15
baggage
12:15
and
12:15
you
12:15
can
12:15
do
12:16
with
12:16
all
12:16
that
12:16
stuff
12:17
and
12:17
you
12:17
can
12:17
hold
12:17
it
12:18
together
12:18
and
12:18
it
12:18
doesn't
12:19
really
12:19
catch
12:19
up
12:19
to
12:19
you
12:19
typically
12:20
till
12:20
about
12:20
your
12:20
mid-20s.
12:21
But
12:22
that's
12:22
where
12:22
stuff
12:22
starts
12:23
to
12:23
break,
12:24
where
12:24
it's
12:24
the
12:24
I'm
12:25
never
12:25
going
12:25
to
12:25
be
12:25
like
12:25
my
12:25
dad,
12:26
I'm
12:26
never
12:26
going
12:27
to
12:27
do
12:27
those
12:27
things.
12:28
And
12:28
now
12:28
you
12:28
have
12:28
to
12:29
deal
12:29
with
12:29
the
12:29
double
12:30
edged
12:30
sword
12:30
that
12:30
you're
12:31
doing
12:31
these
12:31
things
12:32
and
12:32
the
12:32
judgment
12:33
of
12:33
yourself
12:33
that
12:33
you
12:33
said
12:33
you'd
12:34
never
12:34
ever
12:35
do
12:35
those
12:35
types
12:35
of
12:35
things.
12:36
So
12:37
we're
12:37
making
12:37
money
12:38
and
12:38
we're
12:38
succeeding
12:39
and
12:39
we're
12:39
growing
12:39
up
12:40
levels,
12:40
our
12:40
income's
12:41
improving,
12:41
but
12:42
my
12:42
marriage
12:42
is
12:42
dying
12:43
on
12:43
the
12:43
vine
12:43
now.
12:43
I
12:43
don't
12:44
know
12:44
how
12:44
to
12:44
have
12:44
a
12:44
successful
12:45
marriage.
12:45
I
12:45
had
12:46
some
12:46
good
12:46
examples
12:46
in
12:47
my
12:47
life,
12:47
you
12:47
know,
12:48
from
12:48
the
12:48
network
12:48
marketing
12:49
end,
12:49
but
12:49
I
12:50
didn't
12:50
have
12:50
it
12:50
modeled
12:50
for
12:51
me.
12:51
I
12:51
didn't
12:51
know
12:51
what
12:51
it
12:52
was
12:52
even
12:52
supposed
12:52
to
12:52
be.
12:53
So
12:53
I
12:54
like
12:54
to
12:54
talk
12:54
about
12:54
it.
12:55
It's
12:55
like
12:55
trying
12:55
to
12:55
put
12:55
a
12:55
puzzle
12:56
together
12:56
upside
12:56
down.
12:56
Like
12:57
if
12:57
you
12:57
don't
12:57
even
12:57
know
12:57
what
12:57
the
12:58
puzzle
12:58
is,
12:58
it's
12:58
hard
12:58
enough
12:58
to
12:59
put
12:59
the
12:59
puzzle
12:59
together,
12:59
but
13:00
if
13:00
you
13:00
don't
13:00
even
13:00
have
13:00
a
13:00
Point
13:01
of
13:01
reference.
13:01
It's
13:01
almost
13:02
impossible.
13:03
So
13:03
at
13:03
that
13:03
point
13:04
I
13:05
got
13:05
to
13:05
a
13:05
point
13:05
where
13:06
I
13:07
was
13:07
talking
13:07
to
13:08
some
13:08
different
13:08
people
13:09
and
13:09
you
13:09
know,
13:10
and
13:10
I
13:10
was
13:10
always
13:10
networking.
13:11
That
13:11
was
13:11
my
13:11
business.
13:12
And
13:12
it
13:12
was
13:13
a
13:13
girl
13:13
I
13:13
started
13:13
talking
13:14
to
13:14
and
13:14
I'm
13:14
like,
13:14
you
13:15
know
13:15
what?
13:16
I
13:17
might,
13:18
in
13:18
the
13:18
right
13:19
circumstance
13:20
and
13:20
the
13:21
right
13:21
moment
13:22
of
13:22
weakness,
13:24
not
13:24
be
13:24
faithful.
13:25
So
13:25
I
13:25
wasn't
13:26
unfaithful,
13:26
but
13:27
I
13:27
said,
13:27
there's
13:28
a
13:28
potentiality.
13:29
I
13:29
said,
13:29
I'm
13:29
never
13:29
going
13:30
to
13:30
do
13:30
that.
13:30
I'm
13:30
never
13:30
going
13:31
to
13:31
do
13:31
that.
13:31
So
13:32
I
13:32
said,
13:32
I
13:32
just
13:32
have
13:33
to
13:33
get
13:33
divorced.
13:33
My
13:33
wife
13:34
had
13:34
a
13:34
lot
13:34
of
13:34
codependent
13:35
tendencies,
13:35
which
13:36
I'm
13:36
sure
13:36
you've
13:36
read
13:36
lots
13:36
of
13:37
stuff
13:37
on
13:37
codependency,
13:37
having
13:38
alcoholic
13:39
parents.
13:40
So
13:40
she
13:40
was
13:41
trying
13:41
to
13:41
make
13:41
me
13:41
happy.
13:42
And
13:42
I
13:42
had
13:42
a
13:42
lot
13:42
of
13:42
codependent
13:43
people
13:43
in
13:43
my
13:43
life
13:44
and
13:44
I
13:44
was
13:44
counter
13:45
dependent.
13:45
You
13:46
know,
13:46
that
13:46
was
13:46
my
13:46
trauma
13:47
response.
13:47
Ultra
13:48
like,
13:48
don't,
13:48
don't
13:49
with
13:49
me.
13:50
Don't
13:50
get
13:50
in
13:50
my.
13:51
I'm.
13:51
I'll
13:52
take
13:52
care
13:52
of
13:52
me.
13:52
You
13:53
know,
13:53
I've
13:53
always
13:53
had
13:53
to
13:54
take
13:54
care
13:54
of
13:54
me,
13:54
you
13:55
know,
13:55
so
13:55
ultimately
13:56
I
13:56
basically.
13:56
My
13:57
wife
13:57
went
13:57
on
13:57
a
13:57
trip
13:58
and
13:58
she
13:58
came
13:58
home
13:58
and
13:58
I
13:58
just
13:59
said,
13:59
you
13:59
know,
13:59
no
13:59
warning.
13:59
I
14:00
just
14:00
said,
14:00
we
14:00
need
14:00
to
14:00
get
14:00
divorced.
14:01
And
14:01
it
14:02
was
14:02
extremely
14:02
traumatic.
14:03
And
14:03
the
14:04
reality
14:04
in
14:04
doing
14:05
that
14:05
and
14:05
kind
14:05
of.
14:05
I'll
14:06
make
14:06
sure
14:06
I
14:06
wrap
14:06
this
14:06
question
14:07
as
14:07
I
14:07
tell
14:07
these
14:07
stories,
14:08
but
14:10
we
14:10
did
14:10
get
14:11
divorced.
14:13
Who
14:13
we.
14:13
That
14:14
relationship
14:14
we
14:15
had,
14:16
we
14:16
don't
14:16
have,
14:17
but
14:17
we
14:17
got
14:17
remarried
14:18
to
14:18
the
14:18
same,
14:18
the
14:18
same
14:19
person,
14:19
just
14:19
a
14:19
different
14:20
version.
14:21
And
14:21
one
14:21
of
14:21
the
14:21
things
14:22
that
14:22
one
14:22
of
14:22
my
14:22
marriage
14:22
counselors
14:23
had
14:23
said
14:23
in
14:23
that
14:23
time,
14:23
they
14:24
like,
14:24
you're
14:24
cheating
14:24
on
14:24
your
14:24
wife.
14:25
And
14:25
this
14:25
was
14:25
kind
14:25
of
14:25
leading
14:25
up
14:26
to
14:26
that.
14:26
And
14:26
I
14:26
said,
14:26
listen,
14:27
I
14:27
do
14:27
a
14:27
lot
14:27
of
14:28
up,
14:28
but
14:28
I
14:28
do
14:28
not
14:28
cheat
14:29
on
14:29
my
14:29
wife
14:29
ever.
14:30
Right?
14:30
Yep.
14:30
He
14:31
said,
14:31
well,
14:31
your
14:31
business
14:31
is
14:32
your
14:32
mistress.
14:32
All
14:32
you
14:33
do
14:33
is
14:33
you
14:33
give
14:33
all
14:33
your
14:33
time,
14:34
all
14:34
your
14:34
energy,
14:34
and
14:35
everything
14:35
goes
14:35
to
14:35
your
14:35
business
14:36
and
14:36
you
14:36
leave
14:36
the
14:36
leftovers,
14:37
which
14:37
is
14:37
basically
14:37
nothing
14:38
for
14:38
your
14:38
wife.
14:39
And
14:40
that
14:40
was
14:40
a
14:40
reality
14:41
check.
14:42
So
14:42
that
14:42
was
14:42
where
14:43
I
14:43
had
14:43
to
14:43
start
14:44
to
14:44
really
14:44
reorient
14:45
myself
14:46
because
14:46
I
14:46
knew
14:46
instinctively,
14:48
I
14:48
knew
14:48
inside
14:49
that
14:50
this
14:50
isn't
14:51
going
14:51
to
14:51
work.
14:51
I'm
14:52
either
14:52
going
14:52
to
14:52
do
14:53
this
14:53
business
14:53
the
14:54
way
14:54
I'm
14:54
doing
14:54
it
14:55
to
14:55
no
14:55
one's
14:56
fault
14:56
but
14:56
my
14:56
own,
14:57
or
14:58
I'm
14:58
going
14:58
to
14:59
stay
14:59
married
14:59
because
14:59
I
15:00
can't
15:00
do
15:00
this
15:00
like
15:01
this
15:01
and
15:01
be
15:01
married.
15:02
It's
15:02
not
15:02
good
15:03
for
15:03
my
15:03
wife.
15:03
I
15:03
can't
15:04
have
15:04
a
15:04
marriage.
15:04
So
15:05
it
15:05
basically
15:05
became
15:06
what
15:06
felt
15:06
like
15:06
a
15:07
choice
15:07
between
15:08
my
15:08
vocational
15:08
success
15:09
and
15:09
my
15:10
Marriage.
15:11
And
15:12
one
15:12
of
15:12
the
15:12
only
15:13
things
15:13
that
15:13
I
15:13
have
15:13
a
15:14
regret
15:14
and
15:14
I'm
15:14
shameful
15:15
about
15:15
is
15:15
I
15:16
almost
15:16
chose
15:17
vocational.
15:17
I
15:18
was
15:18
close,
15:18
I
15:19
thank
15:19
God
15:19
I
15:19
didn't.
15:19
I
15:20
got
15:20
four
15:20
beautiful
15:20
kids.
15:21
I
15:21
wouldn't
15:21
trade
15:22
my
15:22
wife
15:22
and
15:22
my
15:22
marriage
15:23
and
15:23
my
15:23
family
15:23
for
15:24
any
15:24
amount
15:24
of
15:24
money
15:24
or
15:25
vocational
15:25
success.
15:26
But
15:26
as
15:26
a
15:26
young
15:26
idiot
15:27
that
15:27
my
15:27
cognitive
15:28
abilities
15:29
were
15:29
still
15:29
finally
15:30
developing
15:30
and
15:30
coming
15:30
from
15:30
the
15:31
trauma,
15:31
I
15:31
almost
15:31
chose
15:32
that.
15:32
But
15:33
we
15:33
had
15:33
to
15:33
really
15:33
start
15:34
working
15:34
on
15:35
who
15:35
are
15:35
we
15:36
and
15:36
what's
15:36
our
15:36
relationship
15:37
and
15:37
what's
15:37
our
15:38
priorities
15:38
and
15:39
not
15:39
putting
15:39
business
15:40
ahead
15:40
of
15:41
everything
15:41
else.
15:42
And
15:42
I
15:42
switched,
15:43
especially
15:43
as
15:43
we
15:43
started
15:44
to
15:44
have
15:44
kids.
15:44
But
15:45
it
15:45
became
15:45
my
15:46
family's
15:46
primary
15:47
and
15:47
here's
15:47
my
15:47
working
15:48
hours
15:48
and
15:49
whatever
15:49
doesn't
15:49
get
15:49
done
15:49
in
15:49
the
15:50
I
15:50
can
15:50
increase
15:50
efficiency,
15:51
I
15:51
can
15:52
do
15:52
better,
15:52
but
15:53
I'm
15:53
not
15:53
chasing
15:53
this
15:54
never
15:54
ending,
15:55
you
15:55
know,
15:55
increase
15:56
and
15:56
fans
15:57
and
15:57
performance
15:58
and
15:58
billion
15:58
dollar
15:59
valuation.
16:00
We
16:00
make
16:00
more
16:00
than
16:00
enough
16:01
money.
16:01
It's
16:02
nice
16:02
to
16:02
have
16:02
more,
16:02
but
16:02
we're
16:03
going
16:03
to
16:03
keep
16:03
family
16:03
first.
16:04
That's
16:04
a
16:04
little
16:04
bit
16:04
kind
16:05
of
16:05
on
16:05
the
16:05
marriage
16:05
and
16:05
where
16:05
it
16:06
really
16:06
started
16:06
to
16:06
break.
16:07
Talk
16:07
about
16:07
identity,
16:08
authenticity
16:08
and
16:08
that
16:09
kind
16:09
of
16:09
stuff.
16:09
But
16:09
I
16:09
think
16:09
that's
16:10
a
16:10
good
16:10
starting
16:10
point
16:11
for
16:11
the
16:11
question.
16:12
Yeah,
16:12
no,
16:13
absolutely.
16:13
And
16:14
all
16:14
of
16:14
that
16:14
is
16:14
nor
16:15
and
16:15
amazing
16:16
that
16:16
you
16:17
chose,
16:18
honestly,
16:19
amazing.
16:20
I
16:20
mean,
16:20
I'm
16:20
so
16:20
glad
16:21
I
16:21
don't
16:21
even
16:21
know
16:21
you
16:21
and
16:22
I'm
16:22
so
16:22
glad.
16:22
Like
16:22
I'm
16:23
so
16:23
happy
16:23
for
16:23
you.
16:24
But
16:24
that's
16:24
not
16:24
normally
16:25
the
16:25
way
16:25
it
16:25
goes.
16:25
Normally
16:26
there's
16:26
so
16:26
many,
16:27
like
16:27
you
16:27
said,
16:27
these
16:27
abandonment
16:28
and
16:28
attachment
16:30
styles
16:31
and
16:31
it
16:31
just
16:31
would
16:31
be
16:31
easier
16:32
being
16:32
that
16:32
person
16:33
that
16:33
you
16:33
are.
16:33
Like
16:33
you
16:34
said,
16:34
the
16:34
I
16:34
can
16:34
take
16:35
care
16:35
of
16:35
myself.
16:35
I've
16:35
always
16:36
had
16:36
to.
16:36
I
16:36
don't
16:37
need
16:37
anybody
16:37
else.
16:38
Yeah,
16:39
that
16:40
would
16:40
be
16:40
typically
16:41
the
16:41
way
16:41
I
16:41
would
16:42
think
16:42
most
16:42
people
16:42
would
16:42
lean.
16:43
Yeah,
16:44
it's
16:44
important
16:44
my
16:45
wife
16:45
hears
16:45
that
16:45
I
16:45
give
16:46
proper
16:46
credit
16:47
here.
16:47
So
16:47
three
16:48
things.
16:49
First,
16:49
I
16:49
helped
16:49
to
16:49
plant
16:50
a
16:50
church
16:50
and
16:51
I
16:51
had
16:51
a
16:51
pastor
16:51
and
16:52
a
16:52
friend
16:52
of
16:52
mine
16:52
who's
16:52
become
16:52
one
16:53
of
16:53
the
16:53
most
16:53
successful
16:53
churches.
16:54
And
16:54
I'm,
16:55
you
16:56
know,
16:56
I'm
16:56
not
16:57
the
16:57
cleanest,
16:58
especially
16:58
with
16:58
my
16:58
language,
16:59
but
16:59
he
17:00
said,
17:00
give
17:01
it
17:01
30
17:01
days.
17:02
One
17:02
of
17:02
my
17:02
business
17:02
partners,
17:03
Tony,
17:03
he
17:03
also
17:04
said
17:04
that
17:04
because
17:04
I
17:04
said
17:04
I'm
17:05
not
17:05
doing
17:05
this.
17:05
That's
17:05
it.
17:05
When
17:06
I,
17:06
I
17:06
make
17:06
decisions
17:07
slow
17:07
and
17:07
I
17:08
think
17:08
about
17:08
them
17:08
a
17:08
lot.
17:09
So
17:09
usually
17:09
when
17:09
I
17:10
make
17:10
a
17:10
decision,
17:11
that's
17:11
it,
17:11
that's
17:11
the
17:12
decision.
17:12
But
17:12
I
17:13
gave
17:13
that
17:13
space.
17:14
And
17:14
then
17:15
lastly,
17:15
my
17:15
wife
17:15
said,
17:16
I'm
17:16
not
17:16
leaving,
17:17
I'm
17:17
not
17:17
doing
17:17
it.
17:18
And
17:18
she's
17:18
like,
17:19
nope,
17:19
not
17:20
doing
17:20
it,
17:20
not
17:21
getting
17:21
divorced.
17:21
And
17:22
she
17:22
Ended
17:22
up
17:22
getting
17:22
a
17:23
tattoo.
17:23
It's
17:23
like
17:24
an
17:24
apostle.
17:24
It's
17:24
like
17:24
the
17:25
dot
17:25
in
17:25
the
17:25
apostrophe
17:26
and
17:26
a
17:26
cross
17:27
and
17:27
it's.
17:27
But
17:27
God.
17:28
So
17:29
she
17:29
refused.
17:30
So
17:31
my
17:31
marriage
17:31
and
17:31
my
17:32
life
17:32
is
17:32
because
17:33
of
17:33
my
17:33
wife's
17:34
willingness
17:34
to
17:35
take
17:35
that
17:35
kind
17:36
of
17:36
unbelievable
17:37
trauma
17:38
and
17:39
say,
17:39
no,
17:39
I'm
17:39
not.
17:40
I'm
17:40
not
17:40
leaving.
17:40
We're
17:40
not
17:41
doing
17:41
that.
17:41
Kudos
17:42
to
17:42
her.
17:42
Yeah,
17:43
she's
17:43
tough.
17:43
She's
17:44
tough
17:44
as
17:44
nails.
17:45
A
17:45
lot
17:45
of
17:45
people,
17:45
she's
17:45
quiet.
17:46
She's
17:46
like,
17:46
you
17:46
know,
17:47
not
17:47
going
17:47
to
17:47
be
17:47
the
17:47
life
17:47
of
17:48
the
17:48
party.
17:48
They.
17:48
She's
17:49
always
17:49
underestimated.
17:50
She's
17:51
tough
17:51
as
17:51
nails.
17:52
I
17:52
was
17:52
gonna
17:52
say
17:52
she's
17:53
probably
17:53
one
17:53
of
17:53
those
17:53
real.
17:53
Yeah.
17:54
Always
17:54
cute
17:55
and
17:55
sweet
17:55
and
17:55
everything
17:55
else.
17:56
Until
17:56
you
17:56
mess
17:56
with
17:56
her
17:57
family.
17:57
Oh,
17:57
yeah,
17:58
absolutely.
17:59
That's
17:59
literally.
18:00
And
18:00
you
18:00
said
18:00
she
18:00
came
18:00
from.
18:01
Did
18:01
she
18:01
come
18:01
from
18:01
that
18:02
background?
18:02
She
18:03
came
18:03
from
18:03
a
18:03
good
18:03
family.
18:04
They
18:04
had
18:04
their
18:05
own
18:05
stuff,
18:05
but
18:05
their
18:05
parents
18:06
actually
18:06
live
18:06
here.
18:07
We
18:07
moved
18:07
them
18:07
into
18:07
this
18:08
place.
18:08
So
18:08
they've
18:08
been
18:08
married
18:09
for,
18:09
like,
18:09
30,
18:09
40
18:10
years,
18:10
got
18:10
three
18:10
kids.
18:11
And,
18:11
you
18:11
know,
18:12
they
18:12
obviously
18:12
everyone's
18:13
stuff,
18:13
but
18:13
they.
18:13
She
18:14
comes
18:14
from
18:14
a
18:14
solid
18:15
family.
18:15
A
18:16
solid
18:16
family.
18:16
So
18:16
that's
18:16
good.
18:17
Well,
18:17
that's
18:17
really
18:17
cool.
18:18
Yeah.
18:18
So
18:19
what.
18:19
So
18:20
you
18:20
fixed
18:20
all
18:21
that?
18:21
Everything's
18:21
going
18:22
good.
18:22
What
18:23
do
18:23
you
18:23
think
18:23
is
18:23
what's
18:24
causing
18:24
people
18:24
right
18:24
now?
18:25
Like,
18:25
what
18:25
do
18:25
you
18:25
think
18:25
is
18:26
the
18:26
biggest
18:26
thing
18:26
right
18:26
now
18:27
in
18:27
business
18:27
that's
18:27
causing
18:28
them
18:28
to
18:28
just
18:28
burn
18:29
out
18:29
and.
18:29
Yeah.
18:30
Burn
18:30
bridges.
18:31
I
18:31
mean,
18:31
that's
18:31
what
18:31
people
18:32
are
18:32
doing
18:32
right
18:32
now.
18:33
Hustle
18:33
culture
18:34
comparison
18:35
and
18:36
a
18:36
lack
18:36
of.
18:37
A
18:37
clarity
18:37
of
18:37
their
18:37
syntax
18:38
of
18:38
values.
18:39
So
18:40
hustle
18:40
culture.
18:41
You
18:41
know,
18:41
it's
18:42
this
18:42
debate
18:42
that
18:42
I've
18:42
been
18:43
talking
18:43
a
18:43
lot
18:43
about
18:43
between
18:44
the
18:45
best.
18:45
The
18:45
best
18:45
basketball
18:46
player
18:46
being
18:46
Michael
18:47
Jordan
18:47
or
18:47
LeBron
18:48
James.
18:48
So
18:49
you
18:49
got
18:49
the
18:49
Michael
18:49
Jordan
18:50
version,
18:50
right?
18:50
And
18:51
then
18:51
you
18:51
got
18:51
the
18:51
LeBron
18:51
James
18:52
version.
18:52
Michael
18:52
Jordan
18:53
has
18:53
more
18:53
championships.
18:53
And
18:53
I
18:53
know
18:54
nothing
18:54
about
18:54
basketball.
18:54
I
18:55
like
18:55
teams.
18:55
I
18:55
like
18:55
psychology.
18:56
I
18:56
like
18:56
studying
18:56
that.
18:57
So
18:57
anyone
18:57
that
18:57
says
18:57
it
18:58
gives
18:58
me
18:58
any
18:58
bad.
18:58
I
18:58
have
18:58
no
18:59
idea.
18:59
But
19:00
we
19:00
take
19:01
Michael
19:01
Jordan,
19:01
right?
19:02
Inarguably,
19:03
one
19:03
of
19:03
the
19:04
best
19:04
basketball
19:04
players
19:05
of
19:05
all
19:05
time.
19:05
You
19:05
can't
19:06
argue
19:06
that.
19:06
Gambling
19:07
addiction,
19:08
clearly
19:08
miserable
19:09
anger
19:10
issues,
19:10
no
19:10
relationship
19:11
with
19:11
his
19:11
kids.
19:12
Divorced
19:13
billionaire
19:14
teammates
19:15
hate
19:15
him.
19:15
Stories
19:16
of
19:16
him
19:16
spitting
19:16
on
19:16
cinnamon
19:17
rolls
19:17
so
19:17
his
19:17
security
19:18
guards
19:18
can't
19:18
eat
19:18
them.
19:19
Going
19:19
to
19:19
a
19:19
friend's
19:19
house
19:20
and
19:20
cutting.
19:21
Taking
19:21
a
19:22
kitchen
19:22
knife
19:22
and
19:22
cutting
19:22
all
19:23
those
19:23
pumas
19:23
in
19:23
half
19:23
and
19:23
said,
19:24
you
19:24
can't
19:24
have
19:24
pumas.
19:24
You
19:24
can
19:24
only
19:25
have
19:25
Nike.
19:25
I
19:25
support
19:25
Nike.
19:26
And
19:26
all
19:27
sorts
19:27
of
19:27
kind
19:27
of
19:27
stuff
19:27
along
19:28
those
19:28
lines,
19:28
Right?
19:29
Then
19:29
you
19:29
take
19:29
LeBron
19:31
signed
19:31
at
19:31
18.
19:32
Superstar
19:33
talent
19:34
straight
19:34
from
19:34
being
19:34
an
19:35
18
19:35
year
19:35
old
19:35
to
19:36
going
19:36
into
19:36
the
19:36
NBA.
19:37
One
19:37
of
19:37
the
19:37
longest
19:38
tenured
19:38
careers.
19:39
Married
19:39
his
19:40
high
19:40
school
19:40
sweetheart,
19:41
great
19:41
relationship
19:41
with
19:42
his
19:42
kids,
19:42
owns
19:43
lots
19:43
of
19:43
companies.
19:44
Less
19:45
inarguably
19:46
one
19:46
of
19:46
the
19:46
best
19:46
players.
19:47
People
19:48
fail
19:49
to
19:49
recognize
19:50
that
19:50
they
19:50
are
19:51
listening,
19:51
I
19:51
believe,
19:52
to
19:52
a
19:52
lot
19:52
of
19:53
people
19:53
that
19:54
have
19:54
created
19:54
a
19:54
lot
19:54
of
19:54
vocational
19:55
success,
19:56
they've
19:56
created
19:56
a
19:56
lot
19:56
of
19:57
income,
19:57
they've
19:57
had
19:58
fans,
19:58
they're
19:58
famous.
19:59
But
20:00
whoever
20:00
you
20:00
listen
20:01
to,
20:01
you're
20:01
going
20:01
to
20:01
replicate
20:02
their
20:02
values
20:02
in
20:02
their
20:03
life.
20:04
So
20:04
if
20:04
you
20:04
don't
20:04
have
20:04
a
20:05
clear
20:05
syntax
20:05
of
20:05
values.
20:06
So
20:06
yes,
20:07
I
20:07
want
20:07
to
20:07
make
20:08
money
20:08
and
20:08
yes,
20:08
I
20:08
want
20:09
to
20:09
succeed
20:09
and
20:09
be
20:09
creative
20:10
primarily,
20:11
and
20:11
yes,
20:11
I
20:11
want
20:11
to
20:12
be
20:12
able
20:12
to
20:12
have
20:12
luxuries,
20:13
but
20:13
never
20:13
in
20:14
a
20:14
million
20:14
years,
20:14
I
20:14
am
20:14
ultra
20:15
clear
20:15
that
20:16
when
20:16
Friday
20:16
Family
20:16
Night
20:17
comes,
20:17
you
20:17
want
20:17
to
20:18
pay
20:18
me
20:18
$100,000.
20:19
We're
20:19
doing
20:19
Friday
20:20
Family
20:20
Night.
20:20
You
20:21
know,
20:21
I'm
20:21
already
20:21
taking
20:21
time
20:22
away
20:22
from
20:22
my
20:22
kids,
20:23
my
20:23
four
20:23
kids,
20:23
my
20:24
wife,
20:24
my
20:24
personal
20:25
integrity,
20:26
my
20:26
authenticity,
20:27
people
20:28
not
20:28
liking
20:28
what
20:28
I
20:28
say
20:29
and
20:29
what
20:29
I
20:29
do.
20:29
And
20:30
I'm
20:30
not
20:30
saying
20:30
that
20:31
my
20:31
values
20:31
are
20:31
right.
20:31
A
20:32
lot
20:32
of
20:32
times
20:32
people
20:32
will
20:32
confuse
20:33
because
20:33
I'm
20:33
very
20:33
opinionated,
20:34
I'm
20:34
very
20:34
strong
20:34
about
20:34
what
20:35
I
20:35
say.
20:35
I'm
20:36
not
20:36
saying
20:36
that
20:36
you
20:36
need
20:37
to
20:37
live
20:37
that
20:37
way.
20:38
I'm
20:38
not
20:38
saying
20:38
I
20:38
don't
20:39
understand
20:39
that
20:39
there's
20:39
political
20:39
fallout
20:40
and
20:40
there's
20:41
opportunities
20:41
that
20:41
are
20:41
lost
20:42
if
20:42
you're
20:42
going
20:42
to
20:42
walk
20:42
your
20:42
own
20:43
path.
20:43
But
20:43
for
20:44
me,
20:44
that's
20:44
more
20:44
important.
20:45
So
20:45
I
20:46
think
20:46
it's
20:46
hustle
20:46
culture
20:47
and
20:47
then
20:47
comparison.
20:49
You
20:49
know,
20:49
when
20:49
you
20:49
compare
20:50
one
20:50
element
20:50
of
20:51
someone's
20:51
life
20:51
and
20:52
you
20:52
disregard
20:53
everything.
20:53
Like
20:53
you
20:53
look
20:53
at
20:53
the
20:54
child
20:54
psychologist
20:54
and
20:55
the
20:55
stockbroker
20:55
and
20:55
they're
20:55
like,
20:56
I'd
20:56
like
20:56
that
20:56
life,
20:57
you
20:57
don't
20:57
know.
20:58
So
20:59
I
20:59
think
20:59
it's
20:59
really
21:00
important
21:01
that
21:01
people
21:01
take
21:02
the
21:02
time
21:02
to
21:02
take
21:03
to
21:03
play
21:03
it
21:03
out.
21:04
Like
21:04
go
21:04
30
21:04
years
21:05
out
21:05
in
21:05
the
21:05
future.
21:06
What
21:06
am
21:06
I
21:06
going
21:07
to
21:07
actually
21:07
regret
21:07
missing?
21:08
What
21:08
am
21:08
I
21:08
actually
21:09
going
21:09
to
21:09
want
21:09
to
21:09
have?
21:10
Because
21:10
if
21:11
I
21:11
have
21:11
a
21:11
billion
21:11
dollar
21:12
company,
21:12
but
21:12
I
21:12
don't
21:13
have
21:13
relationships
21:13
with
21:13
my
21:14
kids
21:14
and
21:14
I'm
21:14
on
21:14
my
21:14
third
21:15
marriage
21:15
and
21:15
I'm
21:16
six
21:16
years
21:16
old
21:16
dating
21:16
a
21:16
20
21:17
year
21:17
old,
21:17
for
21:17
me,
21:18
that
21:18
is
21:19
the,
21:19
that's
21:19
the
21:20
definition
21:20
of
21:20
a
21:20
nightmare.
21:21
For
21:21
me.
21:21
I'm
21:22
not
21:22
judging
21:22
anybody,
21:23
I'm
21:23
not
21:23
here
21:23
to
21:23
say
21:23
what
21:24
anyone
21:24
else
21:24
does,
21:25
but
21:25
I
21:26
want
21:26
to
21:26
have
21:26
four
21:26
adult
21:26
children
21:27
that
21:27
want
21:27
to
21:27
choose
21:28
to
21:28
live
21:28
near
21:28
us
21:28
and
21:28
want
21:29
to
21:29
have
21:29
their
21:29
families
21:29
together
21:30
and
21:30
be
21:30
at
21:30
Christmas
21:31
dinner,
21:32
right?
21:32
And
21:32
if
21:32
I'm,
21:33
I
21:33
take
21:33
my
21:33
kids
21:34
to
21:34
karate
21:34
and
21:34
I
21:34
drive
21:35
my
21:35
kids
21:35
to
21:35
school
21:35
every
21:35
day
21:35
and
21:36
we
21:36
pick
21:36
them
21:36
up
21:36
most
21:36
days.
21:37
And
21:37
yeah,
21:38
I
21:38
could
21:38
have
21:38
more
21:38
vocational
21:39
success
21:40
and
21:40
I
21:40
could
21:40
be
21:41
making
21:41
a
21:41
very
21:41
bigger
21:42
income
21:43
if
21:43
I
21:43
just
21:43
reallocated
21:44
that
21:44
time
21:45
to
21:45
income
21:45
producing
21:46
activities.
21:47
I
21:47
don't
21:47
fucking
21:47
want
21:48
to.
21:48
That's
21:48
a
21:48
bad
21:49
trade.
21:50
Right,
21:51
Right.
21:52
So
21:52
I
21:52
think
21:52
that's
21:53
a
21:53
big
21:53
part
21:53
of
21:53
it.
21:53
Comparison.
21:54
And
21:54
then
21:54
what
21:55
was
21:55
the
21:55
last
21:55
one?
21:55
Or
21:56
did
21:56
you
21:56
already
21:56
have
21:56
a
21:56
clear
21:57
syntax
21:57
of
21:58
values?
21:59
You
21:59
need
21:59
to
21:59
know
21:59
what's
22:00
more
22:00
important
22:00
than
22:00
the
22:01
other.
22:01
It's
22:02
not
22:02
how
22:02
I
22:02
have
22:02
values.
22:03
We
22:03
all
22:03
got
22:03
values.
22:04
What's
22:04
the
22:04
syntax?
22:05
When
22:05
push
22:06
comes
22:06
to
22:06
shove,
22:06
what's
22:07
the
22:07
thing
22:07
you're
22:07
going
22:07
to
22:07
choose?
22:08
Because
22:08
what's
22:08
your
22:08
order?
22:10
Yeah,
22:10
what
22:10
is
22:10
your
22:10
priority?
22:11
Because
22:12
you
22:12
can
22:12
have
22:12
values
22:13
and
22:13
you
22:13
can
22:13
let
22:13
them
22:13
go
22:14
all
22:14
the
22:14
time.
22:14
I
22:15
mean,
22:15
it's,
22:15
I,
22:16
I
22:16
tell
22:16
people,
22:16
especially
22:17
when
22:17
they're
22:17
so
22:17
confused
22:18
about
22:18
that,
22:18
and
22:18
some
22:18
people
22:18
don't
22:19
even
22:19
know
22:19
what
22:19
their
22:19
values
22:20
are.
22:20
Yeah,
22:20
I
22:21
mean,
22:21
literally,
22:21
that's
22:21
the
22:21
first
22:22
part.
22:22
They're
22:22
just
22:22
stuck
22:23
in
22:23
this
22:23
grind.
22:23
And
22:23
a
22:24
lot
22:24
of
22:24
times
22:24
it
22:24
starts
22:24
in
22:25
that
22:25
childhood
22:25
and
22:25
they
22:25
go
22:26
right
22:26
into
22:26
this
22:26
job
22:26
and
22:27
they
22:27
climb
22:27
the
22:27
corporate
22:28
ladder
22:29
and
22:29
then
22:29
all
22:29
of
22:29
a
22:29
sudden
22:30
they
22:30
lose
22:30
their
22:30
job
22:30
and
22:31
they
22:31
don't
22:31
know
22:31
who
22:32
they
22:32
are,
22:32
what
22:32
they
22:33
stand
22:33
for,
22:33
what
22:33
they
22:34
want,
22:34
how
22:34
to
22:34
have
22:34
a
22:35
relationship.
22:35
Like
22:35
they
22:35
don't
22:36
know
22:36
any
22:36
of
22:36
that
22:36
stuff,
22:37
but
22:37
it's
22:37
like
22:38
you
22:38
have
22:38
to,
22:38
when
22:38
you
22:39
figure
22:39
that
22:39
out,
22:40
you
22:40
have
22:40
to
22:40
be
22:40
strong
22:41
enough,
22:41
I
22:41
feel
22:41
like,
22:41
to
22:41
set
22:42
those
22:42
non
22:42
negotiables,
22:43
like
22:43
you
22:43
said,
22:44
Friday
22:44
night,
22:44
family
22:45
night,
22:45
it's
22:45
not
22:45
negotiable.
22:46
Right.
22:47
And
22:47
that's
22:48
hard
22:48
to
22:48
do
22:48
when
22:49
you've
22:49
sacrificed
22:50
boundaries
22:50
and
22:51
not
22:51
learned
22:51
about
22:52
them.
22:52
And
22:52
that's
22:53
really
22:53
hard
22:53
to
22:53
do
22:53
for
22:54
yourself.
22:55
Do
22:55
you
22:55
have
22:55
any
22:55
tips
22:56
and
22:56
tricks
22:56
on
22:57
people
22:57
that
22:57
are
22:57
just
22:57
starting
22:58
out
22:58
on
22:58
that?
22:58
Sure.
22:59
Well,
22:59
there's
23:00
a
23:00
lot
23:00
of
23:00
great
23:00
books
23:00
on
23:01
the,
23:01
on
23:01
the
23:01
note
23:01
of
23:02
those
23:02
masks.
23:02
I
23:03
think
23:03
the
23:03
book's
23:03
over
23:03
there
23:04
somewhere,
23:04
but
23:04
it's
23:04
called
23:04
the
23:05
Midlife
23:05
Passage.
23:06
It's
23:06
Jungian
23:07
psychology.
23:08
I
23:08
think
23:08
it'd
23:08
be
23:09
a
23:09
super
23:09
valuable
23:10
read
23:10
for
23:10
anybody
23:11
that's
23:11
in
23:12
maybe
23:12
late
23:12
20s,
23:13
but
23:14
predominantly
23:14
late
23:15
30s,
23:15
40s,
23:16
where
23:16
they
23:17
talk
23:17
about,
23:17
they
23:17
call
23:17
it
23:18
the
23:18
midlife
23:18
crisis,
23:18
but
23:19
very
23:19
often
23:19
it's
23:20
like
23:20
a
23:20
second
23:20
adulthood.
23:21
And
23:21
most
23:22
people
23:22
never
23:23
psychologically
23:24
make
23:24
that
23:25
switch
23:25
where
23:25
you're
23:25
living
23:26
for
23:26
what
23:26
other
23:26
people
23:27
said,
23:27
you're
23:27
living
23:27
for
23:27
the
23:28
family
23:28
values,
23:28
you're
23:28
living
23:28
with
23:29
these
23:29
different
23:29
things
23:29
that
23:29
people
23:29
give
23:30
you,
23:30
but
23:30
you're
23:30
not
23:31
stepping
23:31
into
23:31
your
23:31
own
23:32
authentic
23:32
version
23:32
of
23:33
yourself.
23:33
And
23:34
a
23:34
lot
23:34
of
23:34
people
23:34
never
23:35
fail
23:35
to
23:35
recognize
23:36
if
23:36
you
23:36
don't
23:36
leave
23:36
the
23:36
shore
23:37
and
23:37
face
23:37
the
23:38
pirates
23:38
and
23:38
the
23:38
storms
23:39
that
23:39
could
23:39
destroy
23:40
you,
23:40
you're
23:40
never
23:41
going
23:41
to
23:41
get
23:41
to
23:41
where
23:41
you
23:41
want
23:42
to
23:42
go.
23:43
So
23:43
I
23:43
think
23:43
that's
23:43
important.
23:44
And
23:44
talking
23:45
on
23:45
boundaries,
23:45
obviously,
23:46
Dr.
23:46
Henry
23:46
Cloud
23:47
boundaries
23:48
is
23:48
a
23:48
great
23:48
read,
23:49
but
23:49
there
23:49
are
23:50
people
23:50
that
23:50
are
23:51
averse
23:51
to
23:51
conflict
23:52
and
23:52
there
23:52
are
23:52
people
23:53
are
23:53
more
23:54
comfortable
23:54
with
23:55
conflict.
23:56
Of
23:56
course,
23:56
if
23:56
you're
23:57
more
23:57
adverse
23:57
to
23:58
conflict,
23:58
setting
23:59
boundaries
23:59
is
23:59
going
23:59
to
23:59
be
23:59
a
24:00
tougher
24:00
thing
24:01
because
24:01
telling
24:01
somebody
24:02
something
24:02
that
24:03
they
24:03
don't
24:03
like,
24:03
especially
24:04
if
24:04
you
24:04
have
24:04
people
24:04
pleasing
24:05
tendencies,
24:05
if
24:06
you're
24:06
not
24:06
used
24:06
to
24:06
standing
24:07
your
24:07
ground,
24:07
if
24:08
you
24:08
have
24:08
codependent
24:08
tendencies,
24:10
there's
24:10
some
24:10
deeper
24:10
things
24:11
that
24:11
need
24:11
to
24:11
be
24:11
worked
24:11
on
24:12
for
24:12
you
24:12
to
24:13
be
24:13
able
24:13
to
24:13
effectively
24:14
do
24:14
that
24:14
and
24:14
to
24:14
just
24:14
be
24:14
like,
24:15
yeah,
24:15
put
24:15
a
24:15
boundary
24:15
up,
24:16
I
24:16
think
24:16
is
24:16
a
24:16
little
24:16
bit
24:16
reductive.
24:18
But
24:19
in
24:19
general,
24:20
if,
24:20
did
24:21
I,
24:21
did
24:21
I
24:21
move
24:21
my
24:22
mic?
24:22
Yeah,
24:22
we're
24:22
good.
24:24
In
24:24
general,
24:25
we
24:26
need
24:26
to
24:26
be
24:26
clear
24:27
and
24:27
we
24:27
got
24:27
to
24:27
understand
24:28
that
24:28
we
24:28
can't,
24:29
no
24:29
one
24:29
can
24:29
manage
24:29
unclear
24:30
expectations.
24:31
You
24:31
can't
24:31
not
24:32
tell
24:32
somebody
24:33
what
24:33
you
24:33
need
24:33
or
24:33
what
24:34
you're
24:34
willing
24:34
to
24:34
do
24:35
or
24:36
you're
24:36
not
24:36
willing
24:36
to
24:36
do
24:37
and
24:37
expect
24:38
them
24:38
to
24:38
read
24:38
your
24:38
mind.
24:39
And
24:39
a
24:39
lot
24:40
of
24:40
times
24:40
people
24:40
expect
24:41
people
24:41
to
24:41
just
24:42
know,
24:42
as
24:43
if
24:43
it's
24:43
like
24:43
this
24:43
secret
24:44
trick
24:44
that
24:44
they
24:44
don't
24:44
care
24:45
about
24:45
you,
24:45
they
24:45
don't
24:45
love
24:45
you
24:45
unless
24:46
they
24:46
can
24:46
figure
24:46
it
24:46
out.
24:47
It's
24:47
not
24:47
a
24:47
fair
24:48
point
24:48
of
24:49
view.
24:49
So
24:50
I
24:50
know
24:50
I
24:50
need
24:51
certain
24:51
things,
24:51
my
24:52
wife
24:52
needs
24:53
certain
24:53
things.
24:54
And
24:54
it's
24:54
not
24:54
a
24:54
discussion
24:55
of,
24:55
well,
24:56
you
24:56
shouldn't
24:56
be
24:56
like
24:57
that.
24:57
A
24:57
lot
24:57
of
24:57
people
24:57
are
24:57
like,
24:57
well,
24:58
I
24:58
shouldn't
24:58
be
24:58
like
24:58
this.
24:58
Well,
24:58
you
24:59
are.
24:59
So
25:00
let's,
25:00
rather
25:01
than
25:01
try
25:01
to
25:01
be
25:02
someone
25:02
we're
25:02
not
25:02
and
25:03
argue
25:03
against
25:04
reality,
25:04
which
25:05
is
25:05
a
25:05
losing
25:05
battle,
25:06
right?
25:07
Just
25:07
accept
25:08
who
25:08
we
25:08
are
25:08
and
25:08
be
25:08
honest
25:09
about
25:09
it
25:09
and
25:10
work
25:10
within
25:10
the
25:10
confines
25:11
of
25:11
what
25:11
we
25:11
need
25:11
and
25:12
what
25:12
it
25:12
looks
25:13
like.
25:13
And
25:13
there
25:14
are
25:14
some
25:14
people
25:15
that
25:15
you
25:16
can't
25:16
keep
25:16
in
25:16
your
25:16
life,
25:17
you
25:18
know,
25:18
like.
25:18
And
25:19
maybe
25:19
it
25:19
changes.
25:20
But
25:20
it
25:21
got
25:21
to
25:21
a
25:21
point
25:21
with
25:21
my
25:22
dad,
25:22
not
25:22
for
25:23
the
25:23
stuff
25:23
he
25:23
did,
25:24
he
25:24
thinks
25:24
it's
25:24
that
25:25
I
25:25
don't
25:25
forgive
25:25
him
25:25
for
25:25
the
25:25
stuff
25:26
he
25:26
did,
25:26
it's
25:26
the
25:27
stuff
25:27
he's.
25:27
He'll
25:28
currently
25:28
do.
25:29
And
25:29
at
25:29
some
25:30
point
25:30
I
25:30
had
25:30
to
25:30
say,
25:31
just
25:31
because
25:31
this
25:31
is
25:32
my
25:32
dad
25:32
and
25:32
I've
25:32
gone
25:33
way
25:33
above
25:34
board
25:34
regardless
25:34
of
25:35
what
25:35
he
25:35
thinks.
25:35
I've
25:35
gone
25:36
so
25:36
much
25:36
further
25:37
than
25:37
what's
25:37
necessary
25:38
in
25:38
what
25:38
I
25:38
believe
25:39
is
25:39
appropriate.
25:40
I
25:40
can't
25:40
subject
25:41
my
25:41
family
25:41
and
25:41
my
25:42
wife
25:42
to
25:42
this
25:42
kind
25:43
of
25:43
treatment.
25:43
And
25:44
sometimes
25:44
there
25:44
does
25:45
come
25:45
a
25:45
Time.
25:45
And
25:45
it
25:45
can
25:45
be
25:45
really
25:46
hard.
25:46
It
25:46
could
25:46
be
25:46
long
25:46
standing
25:47
relationships,
25:47
could
25:47
be
25:47
family,
25:48
where
25:49
it's.
25:49
I'm
25:50
not
25:50
even
25:50
doing
25:50
an
25:50
indictment.
25:51
It's
25:51
not
25:51
even
25:51
indictment.
25:52
Like
25:52
we
25:52
don't
25:52
need
25:52
to
25:53
start
25:53
throwing
25:53
our
25:53
labels
25:54
that
25:54
this
25:54
person's
25:54
narcissistic
25:55
or
25:55
this
25:55
or
25:56
that.
25:56
I
25:56
think
25:56
that's
25:56
an
25:56
unnecessary
25:57
discussion.
25:57
They
25:58
are,
25:58
they
25:58
are.
25:58
And
25:58
it's
25:58
not
25:58
our
25:58
thing.
25:59
But
25:59
certain
25:59
people
26:00
you
26:00
can't
26:01
have
26:01
in
26:01
your
26:01
life
26:02
for
26:02
your
26:02
best
26:02
interest
26:03
or
26:03
both
26:04
best
26:04
interests
26:04
sometime.
26:05
But
26:05
it's
26:06
hard.
26:06
And
26:06
being
26:07
willing
26:07
to
26:08
walk
26:08
that
26:08
line
26:09
and
26:09
have
26:09
personal
26:10
integrity
26:10
and
26:11
have
26:11
those
26:11
kinds
26:11
of
26:12
conversations,
26:12
especially
26:13
when
26:13
they.
26:13
There
26:13
is,
26:14
there's
26:14
political
26:14
fallout
26:15
or
26:15
there's
26:15
vocational
26:15
fallout
26:16
or
26:16
there's
26:16
familial
26:17
fallout
26:17
or
26:18
whatever
26:18
it
26:18
is.
26:19
A
26:19
lot
26:19
of
26:20
people
26:20
look
26:20
at
26:20
the
26:20
short
26:21
term,
26:21
acute
26:21
pain
26:22
of
26:22
that
26:22
conversation
26:23
and
26:23
they
26:23
disregard
26:24
the
26:24
chronic
26:25
erosion
26:26
of
26:26
how
26:26
much
26:26
greater
26:27
it
26:27
is
26:27
over
26:27
time.
26:28
And
26:28
if
26:29
we
26:29
over
26:29
index
26:30
the
26:30
acute,
26:31
then
26:31
we're
26:31
never,
26:32
we're
26:32
gonna,
26:32
we're
26:33
gonna
26:33
have
26:33
a
26:33
much
26:33
bigger
26:34
problem
26:34
that
26:34
we're
26:35
dealing
26:35
with.
26:35
And
26:35
at
26:35
some
26:36
point
26:36
you
26:36
do
26:36
lose
26:36
yourself.
26:37
You
26:38
know,
26:38
if
26:38
you
26:38
don't
26:38
stand
26:38
your
26:39
ground,
26:39
if
26:39
you
26:40
don't
26:40
do
26:40
what
26:40
you
26:40
believe
26:40
in,
26:41
even
26:41
if
26:41
it
26:41
costs
26:42
you,
26:43
you
26:43
lose
26:43
yourself.
26:44
And
26:44
if
26:44
you
26:44
don't
26:44
look
26:44
someone
26:45
in
26:45
the
26:45
mirror
26:45
that
26:45
you
26:46
love
26:46
and
26:46
respect
26:47
you,
26:47
the
26:48
whole
26:48
game
26:48
is
26:48
over,
26:49
in
26:49
my
26:49
opinion.
26:50
Yep,
26:51
absolutely.
26:52
And
26:52
then
26:52
you're
26:52
just
26:52
putting
26:53
out
26:53
the,
26:53
the
26:53
most
26:54
defensive,
26:55
ugly
26:55
version
26:56
of
26:56
yourself
26:56
into
26:57
the
26:57
world
26:57
and
26:57
then
26:58
that's
26:58
what
26:58
you're
26:58
getting
26:58
back.
26:59
I
26:59
mean.
26:59
Correct.
27:00
Literally.
27:01
I
27:01
mean,
27:01
what
27:01
you
27:02
put
27:02
out,
27:02
you
27:02
get
27:02
back.
27:02
And
27:03
yeah,
27:03
if
27:03
you
27:04
can't
27:04
look
27:04
in,
27:04
if
27:04
you
27:04
look
27:05
in
27:05
the
27:05
mirror
27:05
and
27:05
there
27:06
are
27:06
people.
27:06
I
27:06
remember
27:06
a
27:07
time
27:07
when
27:07
I
27:07
looked
27:07
in
27:07
the
27:07
mirror
27:08
and
27:08
I
27:08
felt
27:09
disgust.
27:09
Yeah.
27:10
You
27:10
know,
27:11
and
27:11
guilt
27:11
and
27:11
shame
27:12
and
27:12
all
27:12
that
27:12
stuff.
27:13
And
27:13
it's
27:13
just
27:14
so
27:14
unnecessary.
27:15
And.
27:15
Yeah,
27:16
you
27:16
can
27:16
get,
27:16
you
27:16
can
27:17
deal
27:17
with
27:17
that
27:18
though.
27:18
So.
27:18
I
27:19
know
27:19
you
27:19
mentioned.
27:20
I
27:20
don't
27:20
remember
27:21
whether
27:21
we
27:21
were
27:21
talking
27:21
or
27:22
you
27:22
put
27:22
it
27:22
in
27:22
your
27:22
questions
27:23
about
27:23
talking
27:24
and
27:24
walking
27:24
that
27:25
line
27:25
between
27:25
the
27:26
productivity
27:26
and
27:27
the
27:27
shame
27:28
and
27:28
the
27:28
guilt
27:28
and
27:29
how
27:29
you
27:29
manage
27:30
that.
27:31
Yeah.
27:31
So
27:32
I
27:32
had
27:33
to
27:33
reorient
27:34
everything,
27:34
you
27:34
know,
27:35
And
27:35
a
27:35
lot
27:35
of
27:35
times
27:36
we
27:36
get
27:36
stuck
27:36
in
27:36
dichotomies.
27:37
Like
27:37
I
27:37
can
27:38
either
27:38
have
27:38
a
27:38
good
27:38
marriage
27:38
or
27:39
I
27:39
could
27:39
be
27:39
successful.
27:40
It's
27:40
a,
27:40
it's
27:41
not
27:41
a
27:41
dichotomy.
27:42
You
27:42
can
27:42
do
27:42
both.
27:42
It's
27:43
not
27:43
mutually
27:43
exclusive,
27:44
but
27:44
it
27:44
does
27:44
require
27:45
a
27:45
lot
27:45
of
27:45
intentionality
27:46
and
27:46
it
27:47
probably
27:47
requires
27:47
a
27:47
lot
27:48
more
27:48
counseling,
27:48
coaching
27:49
and
27:49
work
27:49
than
27:49
most
27:49
people
27:50
are
27:50
willing
27:50
to
27:50
put
27:50
in
27:51
to
27:51
become,
27:52
to
27:52
have
27:52
honest
27:53
self
27:53
Awareness
27:54
to
27:54
have
27:55
a
27:55
real
27:55
emotional
27:56
quotient
27:57
that
27:57
you
27:58
can
27:58
and
27:58
have
27:58
emotional
27:59
capacity
28:00
to
28:00
be
28:00
able
28:00
to
28:00
also
28:01
perform
28:01
at
28:02
a
28:02
high
28:02
level
28:03
is
28:03
a
28:03
different
28:04
level
28:04
of
28:04
a
28:04
game
28:05
than
28:05
just
28:06
working
28:06
a
28:07
regular
28:07
job
28:07
as
28:07
a
28:08
teacher
28:08
and
28:08
being
28:08
home
28:09
with
28:09
your
28:09
family
28:10
or
28:10
just
28:10
making
28:11
a
28:11
lot
28:11
of
28:11
money
28:11
and
28:12
disregarding
28:12
everything
28:12
else
28:13
around
28:13
it.
28:13
It's
28:14
a
28:14
much
28:14
more
28:14
nuanced
28:15
equation.
28:16
So
28:16
a
28:16
few
28:17
things
28:17
I
28:17
had
28:17
to
28:17
do,
28:17
like
28:18
I
28:18
said
28:18
earlier,
28:18
was
28:18
first,
28:19
I
28:19
had
28:19
to
28:19
prioritize
28:20
my
28:20
wife,
28:20
my
28:21
relationship,
28:21
my
28:22
kids
28:22
and
28:22
my
28:22
mental
28:23
health
28:24
above
28:25
everything
28:25
else
28:26
that
28:26
was
28:26
first.
28:27
And
28:27
I
28:27
had
28:27
to
28:28
organize
28:28
my
28:28
schedule,
28:29
my
28:29
priorities
28:29
accordingly.
28:30
Which
28:30
was
28:31
a
28:31
Friday
28:31
family
28:32
night,
28:32
it's
28:32
dinners
28:33
at
28:33
home.
28:33
Once
28:33
the
28:33
kids
28:34
get
28:34
home.
28:34
It's
28:35
certain
28:35
times
28:35
I'm
28:36
not
28:36
going
28:36
to
28:36
do
28:36
meetings,
28:37
I'm
28:37
not.
28:37
Because
28:37
what
28:37
will
28:38
happen
28:38
is
28:38
if
28:38
you
28:38
don't
28:39
have
28:39
those
28:39
boundaries,
28:40
especially
28:40
if
28:40
you're
28:41
a
28:41
business
28:41
person,
28:41
you're
28:41
an
28:42
entrepreneur,
28:42
you're
28:42
creative,
28:43
you
28:43
like
28:43
to
28:43
be
28:43
busy,
28:44
you
28:44
just
28:44
fill
28:45
everything
28:45
up.
28:46
And
28:46
the
28:47
thing
28:47
that
28:47
a
28:47
lot
28:47
of
28:47
people
28:47
that
28:48
are
28:48
performers
28:48
realize,
28:49
and
28:49
it's
28:49
women
28:49
too,
28:50
but
28:50
particularly
28:50
men
28:51
I
28:51
find
28:51
in
28:51
this
28:51
particular
28:52
category
28:52
more
28:53
often,
28:53
although
28:53
it
28:53
could
28:53
always
28:53
be
28:54
be
28:54
everything,
28:54
regardless
28:55
of
28:55
gender,
28:56
is
28:56
if
28:57
you,
28:57
if
28:57
you
28:57
feel
28:58
everything
28:59
but
28:59
you
29:00
have
29:00
no
29:00
emotional
29:01
energy
29:01
left,
29:02
it's
29:02
effectively
29:02
you're
29:03
not
29:03
there
29:03
at
29:03
all.
29:04
You
29:04
have
29:04
to
29:04
have
29:05
margin.
29:05
You
29:06
can't
29:06
just
29:06
say,
29:06
well,
29:06
this
29:07
is
29:07
the
29:07
maximum
29:07
am
29:07
I
29:07
going
29:08
to
29:08
do
29:08
while
29:08
I
29:09
have
29:09
my
29:09
family?
29:09
Because
29:09
you're
29:10
not
29:10
going
29:10
to
29:10
make
29:10
it.
29:10
There's
29:10
no
29:11
margin.
29:11
You
29:11
don't
29:11
have
29:12
anything
29:12
left
29:12
in
29:12
the
29:12
tank.
29:13
If
29:13
you're
29:13
too
29:13
tired
29:13
to
29:14
play
29:14
with
29:14
the
29:14
kids,
29:14
you
29:14
can't
29:15
even
29:15
listen
29:15
to
29:15
the
29:16
conversation.
29:17
It
29:17
doesn't
29:17
matter
29:18
that
29:18
you're
29:18
there.
29:18
So
29:20
that
29:20
was
29:20
first
29:21
based
29:21
on
29:21
that
29:22
I
29:22
had
29:22
to
29:23
work
29:23
within
29:23
the
29:23
constraints
29:24
and
29:24
a
29:25
lot
29:25
of
29:25
people
29:25
hate
29:25
constraints,
29:27
but
29:27
that's
29:27
very
29:27
often
29:28
you
29:28
need
29:28
the
29:28
edges
29:28
for
29:29
creativity
29:29
and
29:30
efficiency
29:30
to
29:30
be
29:31
able
29:31
to
29:31
grow.
29:31
So
29:32
I
29:32
had
29:32
to
29:32
say,
29:32
okay,
29:33
how
29:33
can
29:33
I
29:34
get
29:34
this
29:34
hundred
29:34
hours
29:35
of
29:35
work
29:35
done
29:36
in
29:36
20?
29:37
It's
29:37
a
29:37
different
29:37
question.
29:38
It's
29:38
not
29:38
like
29:38
I'm
29:38
just
29:38
going
29:39
to
29:39
do
29:39
whatever
29:39
it
29:39
takes
29:39
and
29:39
I'll
29:40
just
29:40
work
29:40
as
29:40
much
29:40
as
29:40
that's
29:41
inefficient.
29:42
I
29:42
have
29:42
X
29:42
amount
29:43
of
29:43
time,
29:44
how
29:44
systems
29:45
I
29:45
need
29:45
to
29:45
build
29:46
skills,
29:46
I
29:46
need
29:47
to
29:47
acquire
29:48
efficiency,
29:48
I
29:49
need
29:49
to
29:49
what
29:49
are
29:49
the
29:49
things
29:50
or
29:50
the
29:50
low
29:50
performing
29:51
tasks
29:51
that
29:51
I
29:51
can
29:51
let
29:51
go
29:52
of
29:52
that
29:52
really
29:52
aren't
29:52
going
29:52
to
29:52
make
29:53
a
29:53
big
29:53
difference
29:53
from
29:54
being,
29:54
having
29:54
over
29:54
control,
29:55
becoming
29:55
the
29:55
bottleneck
29:56
of
29:56
your
29:56
company,
29:57
whether
29:57
it's
29:57
a
29:57
career,
29:58
it's
29:58
a
29:58
business,
29:58
whatever
29:58
it
29:59
is.
29:59
I
29:59
also
30:00
had
30:00
to
30:00
be
30:00
Start
30:00
to
30:01
be
30:01
willing
30:01
to
30:01
be
30:02
counterculture
30:03
for
30:04
myself.
30:05
So
30:05
I
30:05
grew
30:06
in
30:06
the
30:06
industry
30:07
that
30:07
I'm
30:07
in.
30:08
And
30:08
again,
30:08
it's
30:09
very
30:09
important.
30:09
A
30:09
lot
30:09
of
30:10
people
30:10
confuse
30:10
me
30:10
with
30:11
saying
30:11
it's
30:11
right
30:11
or
30:11
wrong.
30:11
It's,
30:12
it's.
30:12
It's
30:12
what's
30:12
right
30:13
for
30:13
me.
30:13
It's
30:13
not
30:14
right
30:14
or
30:14
wrong.
30:14
It's
30:15
just
30:15
different
30:15
people
30:16
have
30:16
different
30:16
things.
30:17
So
30:17
it
30:18
was
30:18
certain
30:18
dress,
30:19
it
30:19
was
30:19
certain
30:19
language,
30:20
it
30:20
was
30:20
certain
30:20
belief
30:21
system.
30:21
It
30:21
was,
30:21
you
30:21
have
30:21
to
30:22
do
30:22
everything
30:22
in
30:22
this
30:23
way.
30:23
Which
30:23
I
30:23
did.
30:24
And
30:24
I
30:24
succeeded
30:25
on
30:26
the
30:26
outside.
30:27
But
30:27
eventually
30:28
my
30:28
mental
30:28
health
30:28
got
30:29
to
30:29
a
30:29
point
30:29
where
30:30
I'm
30:30
not
30:30
living
30:31
the
30:31
way.
30:31
And
30:32
sometimes
30:32
it
30:32
could
30:32
be
30:33
silly,
30:33
like,
30:33
like
30:34
why
30:34
you
30:34
have.
30:34
Why
30:35
do
30:35
you
30:35
have
30:35
to
30:35
have
30:35
long
30:35
hair
30:35
and
30:35
a
30:36
hat?
30:36
I
30:36
don't
30:36
have
30:36
to.
30:36
And
30:37
if
30:37
I
30:37
had
30:37
to
30:37
cut
30:38
it
30:38
off
30:38
and
30:38
not
30:38
wear
30:38
a
30:38
hat,
30:39
I
30:39
would.
30:40
But
30:40
I
30:40
want
30:40
to
30:41
be
30:41
able
30:41
to
30:41
express
30:42
and
30:42
be
30:42
who
30:42
I
30:43
am.
30:43
And
30:44
that
30:44
was
30:44
the
30:44
reason
30:44
I
30:44
became
30:45
successful,
30:46
was
30:46
to
30:46
be
30:46
able
30:46
to
30:47
do
30:47
the
30:47
things
30:47
and
30:47
work
30:47
with
30:47
the
30:48
people
30:48
I
30:48
wanted
30:48
to
30:48
work
30:48
with
30:49
and
30:49
act
30:49
in
30:49
the
30:49
way
30:50
that
30:50
I
30:50
wanted
30:50
to
30:50
be.
30:51
So
30:51
especially
30:52
in
30:52
that
30:52
industry,
30:53
I
30:53
mean,
30:53
that
30:53
is
30:53
a
30:54
person,
30:54
person
30:55
to
30:55
person
30:55
industry.
30:56
There's
30:56
no
30:57
hiding
30:57
behind
30:57
anything
30:58
in
30:58
that
30:58
industry.
30:59
Right.
30:59
And
31:00
you're
31:00
building
31:00
your
31:01
business
31:01
on
31:01
rapport
31:02
and
31:02
you.
31:03
Right.
31:04
And
31:04
I
31:04
can
31:05
play
31:05
the
31:05
part,
31:05
but
31:06
there's
31:06
a
31:06
cost.
31:07
You
31:07
carry
31:07
out.
31:08
You
31:08
carry
31:08
an
31:08
avatar,
31:09
you
31:09
carry
31:10
that.
31:10
One
31:10
of
31:10
the
31:10
trauma
31:10
responses
31:11
that
31:11
I
31:11
did
31:12
learn,
31:13
which
31:13
served
31:13
me
31:14
and
31:14
almost
31:14
destroyed
31:15
me,
31:15
was
31:15
we
31:15
moved
31:16
a
31:16
lot.
31:16
We
31:17
were
31:17
financially
31:17
unstable,
31:18
so
31:18
we
31:18
moved
31:18
a
31:18
lot.
31:19
And
31:19
I
31:19
found
31:20
that
31:20
after
31:20
moving
31:21
my
31:21
second
31:21
time
31:22
between
31:22
middle
31:23
school,
31:23
high
31:23
school,
31:24
whatever,
31:24
I
31:24
think
31:25
we
31:25
moved
31:25
twice
31:26
in
31:26
elementary
31:26
school
31:26
and
31:27
then
31:27
I
31:27
moved
31:27
for
31:27
middle
31:27
school.
31:28
So
31:28
I
31:28
moved
31:28
three
31:28
times
31:29
in
31:29
my
31:29
grade
31:29
school
31:30
years.
31:30
I
31:31
said,
31:31
okay,
31:32
I'm
31:32
Anthony
31:33
here,
31:34
but
31:35
when
31:35
I
31:35
move,
31:36
none
31:37
of
31:37
that
31:37
carries.
31:38
I
31:38
could
31:38
be
31:39
extrovert,
31:39
I
31:39
could
31:39
be
31:39
introvert,
31:39
I
31:40
could
31:40
be
31:40
funny,
31:40
I
31:40
could
31:40
be
31:40
serious,
31:41
I
31:41
could
31:41
be
31:41
smart,
31:41
I
31:41
could
31:42
be
31:42
goofy.
31:43
I
31:43
actually
31:43
get
31:44
to
31:44
just,
31:44
in
31:45
this
31:45
new
31:45
environment,
31:46
can
31:46
be
31:46
anybody.
31:48
So
31:48
that
31:49
served
31:49
me
31:49
really
31:49
well
31:50
in
31:51
performance.
31:52
It
31:53
really,
31:53
really
31:54
fucked
31:54
up
31:54
my
31:54
mental
31:55
health
31:55
when
31:56
I
31:56
have
31:56
this
31:56
chameleon
31:57
attitude
31:57
where
31:58
I
31:58
give
31:58
the
31:58
humor
31:59
that
31:59
you
31:59
like
31:59
and
31:59
I
31:59
did
32:00
the
32:00
jokes
32:00
that
32:00
you
32:00
like
32:00
and
32:01
I
32:01
act
32:01
the
32:01
way
32:01
that
32:01
you
32:01
like.
32:02
And
32:02
it
32:02
wasn't
32:03
that
32:03
I
32:03
was
32:03
trying
32:03
to.
32:03
I
32:03
was
32:03
just
32:04
conforming
32:05
to
32:05
whatever
32:05
was
32:05
given
32:06
to
32:06
me.
32:07
So
32:07
I
32:07
was
32:07
given
32:07
a
32:08
per.
32:08
And
32:08
this
32:09
again,
32:09
this
32:09
isn't
32:09
an
32:09
indictment
32:10
on
32:10
network
32:10
marketing
32:11
or
32:11
them.
32:11
It
32:11
was
32:11
me
32:12
that
32:12
they
32:12
said,
32:13
here's
32:13
what
32:13
we
32:13
do,
32:13
here's
32:13
what
32:13
we
32:14
believe,
32:14
said
32:14
all
32:14
Right.
32:14
Who
32:14
do
32:14
you
32:14
vote
32:15
for?
32:15
Okay.
32:15
What
32:15
God
32:16
do
32:16
you
32:16
pray
32:16
for?
32:16
How
32:17
do
32:17
you
32:17
dress?
32:17
How
32:18
do
32:18
you
32:18
talk?
32:19
I'll
32:19
do.
32:19
You
32:20
got
32:20
it.
32:20
I'll
32:20
be
32:20
your
32:20
best
32:21
foot
32:21
soldier.
32:21
You
32:21
got.
32:22
But
32:22
I
32:23
wasn't
32:23
being
32:23
myself,
32:24
right?
32:24
So
32:25
it
32:25
served
32:25
me
32:25
in
32:25
one
32:25
regard,
32:26
but
32:27
eventually
32:27
it
32:27
became,
32:28
I
32:28
can't.
32:28
I
32:29
can't
32:29
carry
32:29
that
32:29
avatar.
32:30
That's
32:30
not
32:30
who
32:30
I
32:30
am.
32:31
That's
32:31
not
32:31
what
32:32
I
32:32
believe
32:32
in
32:32
that
32:33
way,
32:33
you
32:34
know,
32:34
And
32:34
a
32:34
lot
32:34
of
32:34
the
32:34
things
32:34
were
32:35
overlapping,
32:35
but
32:36
it's
32:36
just.
32:36
I
32:36
have
32:36
a
32:36
little
32:36
bit
32:36
of
32:37
a
32:37
different
32:37
perspective.
32:38
So
32:38
having
32:39
the
32:39
courage
32:39
to
32:40
be
32:40
yourself
32:40
is
32:41
something
32:41
that
32:41
most
32:42
people
32:42
never
32:42
find.
32:43
How
32:43
big
32:43
of
32:43
a
32:43
blessing
32:44
it
32:44
is
32:44
because
32:44
they
32:45
never
32:45
execute
32:46
it,
32:46
because
32:47
not
32:47
everyone's
32:47
gonna
32:48
like
32:48
it.
32:48
Especially
32:48
if
32:49
you
32:49
spend
32:49
10,
32:49
20
32:50
years
32:50
building
32:50
an
32:50
avatar
32:51
and
32:51
then
32:52
you
32:52
actually
32:52
show
32:52
up
32:53
the
32:53
way
32:53
you
32:53
are,
32:53
like,
32:53
oh,
32:54
what's
32:54
wrong
32:54
with
32:54
you?
32:55
Nothing's
32:56
wrong
32:56
with
32:56
me.
32:56
Now.
32:56
There
32:57
was
32:57
something
32:57
wrong
32:58
before.
32:58
I'm
32:58
sorry.
32:58
I've
32:59
been
32:59
showing
32:59
up
32:59
with
32:59
a
32:59
phony
33:00
Persona
33:00
for
33:00
10
33:01
years.
33:02
But
33:02
it.
33:03
It
33:03
changes
33:04
relationship
33:04
dynamics,
33:05
it
33:05
changes
33:05
vocational.
33:06
It
33:06
changes
33:07
things.
33:08
But
33:08
I
33:08
think
33:08
that
33:08
the
33:09
price
33:09
is.
33:09
Is.
33:10
Is
33:11
well
33:11
worth
33:11
it
33:12
when
33:12
you
33:12
actually
33:13
stand
33:13
and
33:13
live
33:13
in
33:14
that
33:14
well,
33:15
because.
33:15
Once
33:15
you
33:15
do,
33:16
you'll
33:16
never
33:16
go
33:17
back
33:17
like
33:17
you
33:18
will
33:18
then.
33:18
You.
33:19
There
33:19
are.
33:19
There
33:19
are
33:20
a
33:20
lot
33:20
of
33:20
non
33:20
negotiables
33:21
once
33:21
you've
33:21
walked
33:22
a
33:22
couple
33:22
months
33:22
or
33:22
a
33:23
couple
33:23
years
33:23
being
33:24
you
33:25
and
33:25
not
33:25
letting
33:25
anybody
33:26
tell
33:26
you
33:26
who
33:26
you
33:27
are
33:27
or
33:27
have
33:28
these.
33:29
These
33:29
ideas.
33:30
I
33:30
remember
33:30
the
33:30
first
33:30
time
33:30
I
33:30
went
33:31
to
33:31
a
33:31
therapist,
33:31
and
33:31
she's
33:32
like,
33:32
well,
33:32
who
33:32
is
33:32
Tammy?
33:32
And
33:33
it's
33:33
exactly
33:33
when
33:34
you
33:34
said
33:34
the
33:34
chameleon,
33:35
you
33:35
know,
33:35
facade.
33:36
I
33:36
said,
33:37
I'm
33:37
whatever
33:37
you
33:38
need
33:38
me
33:38
to
33:38
be.
33:38
Whatever
33:39
you
33:39
want.
33:39
What
33:39
are
33:40
you
33:40
looking
33:40
for?
33:40
I
33:41
can
33:41
be
33:41
happy.
33:41
I
33:42
can
33:42
be
33:42
serious.
33:42
I
33:42
could
33:43
be
33:43
professional.
33:43
I
33:44
could
33:44
be
33:44
a
33:44
hussy.
33:44
I
33:45
can
33:45
be
33:45
anything
33:45
you
33:46
want
33:46
me
33:46
to
33:46
be,
33:47
right?
33:47
And
33:47
at
33:48
that
33:48
point
33:48
in
33:48
my
33:48
life,
33:49
it
33:49
was
33:50
so
33:50
that
33:50
I
33:50
don't
33:51
rock
33:51
any
33:51
boats,
33:52
right?
33:53
But
33:53
once
33:53
you.
33:54
I
33:54
remember
33:54
the
33:54
first.
33:55
First
33:55
time
33:55
somebody
33:55
said
33:56
to
33:56
me,
33:56
well,
33:56
isn't
33:56
that
33:57
gonna.
33:57
Isn't
33:57
that
33:57
gonna
33:57
piss
33:58
them
33:58
off?
33:58
Like,
33:59
they're
33:59
not
33:59
gonna
33:59
like
34:00
you?
34:00
And
34:00
I
34:00
remember
34:01
specifically
34:02
saying.
34:02
And
34:02
it
34:02
felt
34:03
so
34:03
good.
34:04
What
34:04
other
34:04
people
34:04
think
34:05
of
34:05
me
34:05
is
34:05
none
34:05
of
34:05
my
34:05
business.
34:06
I
34:07
don't
34:07
care.
34:07
I
34:07
don't
34:08
care.
34:08
Not
34:09
everybody's
34:09
gonna
34:09
like
34:09
me.
34:10
If
34:10
you
34:10
don't
34:10
have
34:10
any
34:11
haters,
34:11
and
34:11
especially
34:12
for
34:12
those
34:12
people
34:13
that
34:13
are
34:13
in
34:13
the
34:13
business
34:13
world
34:14
and
34:14
you're
34:15
out
34:15
there,
34:15
if
34:15
you
34:16
don't
34:16
have
34:16
people
34:17
that
34:17
don't
34:17
like
34:18
you
34:18
or
34:18
don't
34:19
like
34:19
the
34:19
way
34:19
you
34:19
do
34:19
things
34:20
or
34:20
don't
34:20
have
34:20
something
34:21
to
34:21
say
34:21
about
34:21
that
34:22
you're
34:22
not
34:22
doing
34:23
your
34:23
job.
34:23
Like,
34:23
you
34:23
haven't
34:24
made
34:24
a
34:24
big
34:24
enough
34:25
impact.
34:25
Correct?
34:26
Correct.
34:27
Yeah.
34:27
I
34:28
was
34:28
doing
34:28
it
34:28
for
34:28
performance.
34:29
You
34:29
know,
34:29
I
34:29
was
34:29
doing
34:29
it
34:30
for
34:30
vocational
34:30
opportunities.
34:31
I
34:31
was
34:31
doing
34:32
it
34:32
for
34:32
anything
34:33
that
34:33
I
34:33
could
34:33
do
34:33
that
34:33
would
34:34
move
34:34
me
34:34
forward,
34:35
because
34:35
I
34:35
didn't
34:36
want
34:36
to
34:36
be
34:36
poor.
34:36
I
34:36
felt
34:37
financially.
34:37
I
34:37
was
34:37
financially
34:38
unstable,
34:39
so
34:39
I
34:39
was
34:39
doing
34:40
it
34:40
based
34:40
on
34:40
the
34:40
performance,
34:41
you
34:41
know?
34:42
But
34:42
the
34:42
reality
34:42
is
34:43
that
34:43
it's
34:43
nice
34:43
if
34:43
people
34:43
like
34:44
what
34:44
you're
34:44
doing,
34:44
and
34:45
it's
34:45
nice
34:45
if
34:45
they
34:45
like
34:45
you.
34:46
It's
34:46
just
34:47
not
34:47
worth
34:47
it
34:48
if
34:48
you
34:48
don't
34:49
like
34:49
you.
34:49
That's
34:49
the
34:49
thing
34:50
that
34:50
I
34:50
think
34:50
a
34:50
lot
34:50
of
34:50
people,
34:51
they
34:51
miss.
34:52
So
34:52
I
34:52
don't
34:52
think
34:53
anybody
34:53
walks
34:53
through
34:53
is
34:53
like,
34:53
I
34:54
love
34:54
all
34:54
these
34:54
people
34:54
hating
34:55
me.
34:55
No,
34:55
but
34:56
loving
34:56
yourself's
34:57
more
34:57
important.
34:57
And
34:58
that's
34:58
the
34:58
thing
34:58
that
34:58
people
34:58
miss.
35:00
Right?
35:00
But
35:00
people.
35:01
But
35:01
knowing
35:01
that
35:01
someone
35:02
doesn't
35:02
like
35:02
you,
35:02
I'm
35:03
like,
35:03
that's
35:03
okay.
35:04
I
35:04
don't
35:04
like
35:04
everybody
35:05
I
35:05
meet.
35:05
I'm
35:06
cordial
35:06
and
35:06
I'm
35:06
friendly
35:07
and
35:07
I'm
35:07
respectful
35:08
to
35:08
everybody
35:08
I
35:08
meet,
35:09
but
35:09
I
35:09
don't
35:09
like
35:09
everybody
35:10
I
35:10
meet.
35:10
Right.
35:11
I
35:11
mean,
35:11
we
35:12
all
35:12
have
35:12
this
35:12
little
35:12
energy
35:13
field.
35:13
I
35:13
can
35:13
walk
35:13
into
35:14
a
35:14
room
35:14
and
35:14
be
35:14
like,
35:14
yes,
35:15
yes,
35:15
yes,
35:15
no.
35:16
Yeah.
35:17
Of
35:17
the
35:17
people
35:18
whose
35:18
energy
35:19
I'm
35:19
feeling,
35:19
even.
35:20
So,
35:21
what
35:21
would
35:21
your
35:21
advice
35:22
be
35:22
to
35:22
people?
35:23
Because
35:23
there's
35:23
a
35:23
lot
35:23
of
35:23
people
35:23
out
35:24
there
35:24
that
35:24
are
35:24
like,
35:24
oh,
35:25
I
35:25
just
35:25
want
35:25
to
35:25
be
35:25
me.
35:26
I
35:26
know
35:26
I
35:26
can
35:27
do
35:27
this.
35:27
I
35:27
know
35:28
I
35:28
can
35:28
be
35:28
successful.
35:29
I
35:29
just
35:29
know
35:30
it.
35:31
But
35:31
I.
35:32
I
35:32
just.
35:32
I
35:32
don't
35:33
know
35:33
what
35:33
to
35:33
do
35:33
next.
35:34
Yeah,
35:34
those
35:34
people
35:35
that
35:35
are
35:35
just
35:35
feeling
35:35
that
35:36
stuck.
35:37
Right.
35:37
I
35:38
think
35:38
that
35:38
there's
35:38
four
35:38
things
35:39
that
35:39
we
35:39
need,
35:40
and
35:40
this
35:40
is
35:41
like,
35:41
core
35:41
of
35:41
a
35:41
$10,000
35:42
Tony
35:43
Robbins
35:43
seminar.
35:44
So
35:44
free,
35:44
free
35:45
podcast,
35:45
good
35:46
value,
35:48
four
35:48
things.
35:49
First
35:49
off,
35:49
I
35:49
think
35:50
that
35:50
you
35:50
need
35:50
to
35:50
find
35:50
good
35:51
guidance,
35:51
mentorship,
35:52
counseling.
35:53
Overall,
35:53
if
35:54
you're
35:54
talking
35:54
in
35:54
a
35:54
business
35:54
sense,
35:55
you
35:55
need
35:55
a
35:55
coach
35:55
or
35:55
a
35:56
mentor
35:56
because
35:56
it's
35:56
going
35:56
to
35:56
help
35:57
you
35:57
save
35:57
the
35:57
time.
35:57
You're
35:58
talking
35:58
in
35:58
an
35:59
emotional
35:59
sense.
35:59
You
35:59
need
36:00
a
36:00
counselor
36:00
that
36:00
you
36:00
can
36:00
find
36:01
rapport
36:01
with.
36:01
And
36:01
I
36:01
think
36:01
that
36:01
there's
36:02
two
36:02
things
36:02
that
36:02
you
36:02
need
36:02
to
36:03
look
36:03
for,
36:03
particularly
36:03
around
36:04
coaching,
36:04
but
36:04
I
36:04
think
36:05
it
36:05
also
36:05
is
36:05
important
36:05
in
36:06
counseling.
36:07
First
36:07
off,
36:07
they
36:07
have
36:07
to
36:08
have
36:08
the
36:08
success
36:08
that
36:09
you're
36:09
looking
36:09
to
36:09
espouse.
36:10
You
36:10
can't
36:10
teach
36:10
someone
36:11
to
36:11
be
36:11
an
36:11
Olympic
36:11
loser
36:12
unless
36:12
you're
36:12
an
36:13
Olympic
36:13
loser.
36:13
No
36:13
matter
36:13
how
36:13
much
36:13
you
36:14
like
36:14
them.
36:14
You
36:14
have
36:14
to
36:15
have
36:15
the
36:15
skills,
36:15
they
36:15
have
36:15
to
36:15
have
36:15
the
36:16
performance
36:16
that
36:16
They've
36:16
done.
36:17
But
36:17
the
36:17
big
36:18
one
36:18
that
36:18
people
36:18
disregard,
36:19
I
36:19
said
36:19
earlier,
36:19
is
36:19
they
36:19
have
36:20
to
36:20
share
36:20
similar
36:20
values.
36:22
So
36:22
if
36:22
you
36:22
want
36:22
to
36:23
play
36:23
basketball,
36:23
Michael
36:24
Jordan
36:24
can
36:24
teach
36:24
you.
36:25
But
36:25
you
36:25
got
36:25
to
36:25
be
36:25
okay
36:26
with
36:26
Michael
36:26
Jordan's
36:26
life
36:27
because
36:27
it's
36:27
going
36:27
to
36:27
get
36:27
replicated
36:28
in
36:28
the
36:28
way
36:28
that
36:28
he
36:28
trains.
36:29
So
36:30
you
36:30
got
36:30
to
36:30
look
36:30
at
36:30
their
36:30
values
36:31
and
36:31
what
36:31
their
36:31
life
36:32
looks
36:32
like.
36:32
So
36:32
if
36:32
you
36:32
want
36:33
to
36:33
be
36:33
really
36:33
successful
36:34
in
36:34
business
36:34
and
36:35
you
36:35
care
36:35
about
36:35
marriage,
36:36
I'd
36:36
be
36:37
really
36:37
cautious
36:37
to
36:37
work
36:37
with
36:38
someone
36:38
that's
36:38
divorced
36:38
two
36:39
or
36:39
three
36:39
times.
36:40
You
36:40
know,
36:40
I'm
36:40
not
36:40
saying
36:40
that
36:40
they're
36:41
bad
36:41
or
36:41
judgment.
36:41
Just
36:42
it's
36:42
something
36:42
to
36:43
keep
36:43
in
36:43
mind.
36:44
Second
36:45
is
36:46
you
36:46
need
36:46
to
36:46
have
36:47
good
36:47
resources.
36:48
You
36:48
know,
36:49
I
36:49
mean,
36:49
Aldous
36:49
Huxley
36:50
talked
36:50
about
36:50
having
36:51
too
36:51
much
36:51
information,
36:51
not
36:52
knowing
36:52
what's
36:52
true.
36:52
Orwellian
36:53
version
36:53
of
36:53
dystopian
36:54
future
36:54
is
36:55
control.
36:55
We
36:55
got
36:55
both,
36:56
unfortunately.
36:57
But
36:57
you
36:57
need
36:57
to
36:58
know
36:58
what
36:58
information
36:58
to
36:59
look
36:59
at.
36:59
What
36:59
are
36:59
you
36:59
listening
36:59
to?
37:00
What
37:00
are
37:00
you
37:00
reading?
37:01
What
37:01
are
37:01
the,
37:01
what
37:01
are
37:01
the
37:02
podcasts?
37:02
What
37:02
are
37:02
the
37:02
things
37:02
you're
37:03
going
37:03
to.
37:03
Because
37:03
you
37:03
got
37:03
to
37:03
educate
37:04
yourself.
37:04
If
37:04
you're
37:05
going
37:05
to
37:05
get
37:05
out
37:05
of
37:05
a
37:05
spot
37:05
because
37:06
you
37:06
got
37:06
to
37:06
equip
37:06
yourself
37:06
with
37:07
skills,
37:08
you
37:08
need
37:09
a
37:09
community
37:09
of
37:09
people
37:09
that
37:09
are
37:09
going
37:10
to
37:10
affirm
37:10
you.
37:11
Most
37:11
people
37:11
are
37:11
no
37:12
people.
37:12
You
37:12
got
37:12
to
37:12
be
37:12
with
37:13
people
37:13
with
37:13
big
37:13
dreams,
37:14
big
37:14
goals,
37:14
moving
37:14
forward,
37:15
they're
37:15
healing.
37:16
And
37:16
it
37:16
could
37:16
be
37:16
anything
37:17
from
37:17
aa,
37:17
if
37:17
you're
37:18
getting,
37:18
you
37:18
know,
37:18
getting
37:19
sober,
37:19
to
37:20
having
37:20
a
37:20
business
37:20
group
37:20
of
37:21
people
37:21
that
37:21
are
37:21
building
37:21
businesses.
37:22
But
37:22
you
37:22
have
37:22
to
37:22
have
37:23
some
37:23
type
37:23
of
37:23
community
37:24
that
37:24
there's
37:24
some
37:25
safety
37:25
and
37:25
some
37:26
shared
37:26
values
37:26
of
37:27
aspiration
37:27
to
37:27
accomplish
37:28
something,
37:28
especially
37:29
people
37:29
at
37:29
different
37:29
levels
37:30
that
37:30
are
37:30
going
37:30
to
37:30
give
37:30
you
37:30
that
37:30
psychological
37:31
need
37:31
to
37:32
connect
37:32
with
37:32
somebody.
37:33
And
37:33
then
37:33
fourth,
37:34
you
37:34
got
37:34
to
37:34
apply
37:34
this
37:35
stuff
37:35
to
37:35
a
37:35
vehicle
37:36
that
37:36
has
37:36
the
37:36
ability
37:37
to
37:37
get
37:37
you
37:38
to
37:38
where
37:38
you
37:38
want
37:38
to
37:38
go.
37:39
So
37:40
if
37:40
you
37:40
say,
37:40
all
37:40
right,
37:40
I'm
37:41
going
37:41
to
37:41
do
37:41
all
37:41
that
37:41
stuff
37:41
and
37:41
I
37:41
want
37:42
to
37:42
be
37:42
a
37:42
corporate
37:42
lawyer,
37:43
no
37:43
issue.
37:44
But
37:44
again,
37:44
if
37:45
family
37:45
values
37:45
are
37:45
important,
37:46
partner
37:46
of
37:46
a
37:47
law
37:47
firm,
37:47
it's
37:47
going
37:47
to
37:47
be
37:47
really
37:48
tough
37:48
to
37:49
probably
37:49
espouse
37:49
those
37:50
family
37:50
values.
37:50
There's
37:50
nothing,
37:51
no,
37:51
again,
37:51
no
37:51
indictment
37:52
on
37:52
being
37:52
a
37:52
lawyer,
37:53
but
37:53
you
37:53
just
37:53
got
37:53
to
37:53
be
37:54
okay
37:54
with
37:54
the
37:54
vehicle,
37:55
the
37:55
business,
37:55
the
37:56
vocation
37:56
you
37:56
choose.
37:57
You
37:57
want
37:57
to
37:57
be
37:57
a
37:58
school
37:58
teacher,
37:58
no
37:58
problem.
37:59
Super
37:59
noble,
38:00
should
38:00
get
38:00
paid
38:00
more
38:00
money,
38:01
but
38:01
they
38:01
don't.
38:02
So
38:02
you
38:02
got
38:02
to
38:02
be
38:02
okay
38:02
with
38:03
the
38:03
income
38:03
if
38:04
that's
38:04
the
38:04
place
38:04
you're
38:04
going
38:04
to
38:04
go,
38:05
or
38:05
find
38:05
other
38:05
ways
38:05
to
38:06
create
38:06
income
38:06
outside
38:06
of
38:07
on,
38:07
so,
38:08
but
38:08
I,
38:08
I,
38:08
that's
38:09
why
38:09
I
38:09
Started
38:09
to
38:09
spark
38:09
a
38:10
change
38:10
coaching,
38:10
you
38:10
know,
38:11
because
38:11
being
38:11
20
38:11
years
38:11
in
38:12
network
38:12
marketing
38:12
and
38:12
coaching
38:13
people
38:13
and
38:13
doing
38:13
all
38:13
that
38:13
stuff,
38:14
that's
38:14
my
38:15
passion.
38:15
It's
38:15
helping
38:15
people.
38:16
And
38:16
it's
38:16
like
38:16
a
38:16
hybrid.
38:17
You
38:17
know,
38:17
I
38:17
do
38:18
a
38:18
lot
38:18
of
38:18
AI
38:18
integration,
38:19
I
38:19
do
38:19
a
38:19
lot
38:19
of
38:19
coaching,
38:20
I
38:20
do
38:20
a
38:20
lot
38:20
of
38:20
psychological
38:21
stuff,
38:21
and
38:22
sometimes
38:22
a
38:22
little
38:22
bit
38:22
more
38:23
counseling.
38:23
Not
38:23
that
38:23
I'm
38:23
a
38:24
counselor,
38:24
but
38:24
it's
38:25
accountability,
38:25
it's
38:25
support,
38:26
it's.
38:26
It's
38:26
building
38:27
successful
38:27
companies.
38:28
Because
38:28
I
38:29
think
38:29
a
38:29
holistic
38:30
approach
38:31
is
38:31
the
38:31
most
38:31
effective
38:32
way
38:32
to
38:33
find
38:33
someone
38:33
that
38:33
you
38:34
can
38:34
really
38:34
work
38:34
with,
38:34
that
38:34
you
38:35
can
38:35
connect
38:35
with,
38:35
that
38:35
can
38:36
become
38:36
a
38:36
confidant
38:36
there
38:37
to
38:37
have
38:37
the
38:37
success
38:38
that
38:38
you.
38:39
They
38:39
have
38:39
the
38:39
family
38:40
values
38:40
that
38:40
you
38:40
want
38:41
to
38:41
espouse,
38:41
if
38:41
that's
38:42
important
38:42
to
38:42
you.
38:42
And
38:43
that's
38:43
why
38:43
I
38:43
started
38:43
that.
38:44
I
38:44
love
38:44
it.
38:45
Oh,
38:45
Oh,
38:45
I
38:45
love
38:46
it.
38:46
I
38:46
mean,
38:46
you
38:46
have
38:46
a
38:46
lot
38:46
of
38:47
good
38:47
information.
38:47
And
38:47
obviously
38:48
I'm
38:48
like
38:48
writing
38:48
down
38:49
the
38:49
books
38:49
you've
38:49
read.
38:49
Just
38:50
my
38:50
book
38:50
list.
38:51
But
38:51
I
38:51
know
38:52
I'm
38:52
like,
38:52
my
38:52
book
38:53
list
38:53
is.
38:53
Yeah,
38:54
I
38:55
pull.
38:55
I'm
38:55
always
38:55
like,
38:55
oh,
38:56
read
38:56
this,
38:56
read
38:56
this.
38:56
I'm.
38:57
One
38:57
of
38:57
my
38:57
clients
38:57
said
38:58
to
38:58
me
38:58
today,
38:58
she's
38:58
like,
38:58
how
38:58
many
38:59
books
38:59
have
38:59
you
38:59
read?
39:00
Like,
39:00
every
39:00
time
39:00
I
39:01
bring
39:01
something
39:01
up,
39:01
oh,
39:02
read
39:02
this,
39:02
read
39:02
this.
39:02
Well,
39:03
because
39:03
that's
39:03
where
39:04
I
39:04
get
39:04
my
39:04
information.
39:05
Like,
39:05
when
39:06
you
39:06
stop
39:06
learning,
39:07
you
39:07
stop
39:07
growing,
39:07
you
39:08
stop
39:08
having
39:08
a
39:08
purpose.
39:09
Like,
39:09
let's
39:09
go,
39:09
like,
39:10
educate
39:10
yourself
39:11
so
39:11
you
39:11
can.
39:12
So
39:12
you
39:12
can
39:12
hold
39:13
your.
39:13
Hold
39:14
yourself
39:14
strong
39:15
out
39:15
there.
39:16
You
39:16
know,
39:17
it's
39:17
great.
39:18
But
39:18
I
39:18
love
39:18
what
39:18
you
39:19
do.
39:19
I
39:19
absolutely
39:19
love
39:20
it.
39:21
Tell
39:21
people.
39:21
This
39:22
has
39:22
been
39:22
super
39:22
fun.
39:23
I
39:23
could
39:23
go
39:23
on
39:23
all
39:23
day,
39:24
but
39:24
tell
39:24
people
39:24
how
39:25
to
39:25
work
39:25
with
39:25
you.
39:25
Everything's
39:26
going
39:26
to
39:26
be
39:26
in
39:26
the
39:27
show
39:27
notes,
39:27
but
39:27
give
39:28
them
39:28
the
39:28
basic
39:29
place
39:29
to
39:29
go.
39:30
Yeah.
39:30
So
39:30
if
39:30
you
39:30
go
39:30
to
39:30
sparkachangecoaching.com
39:32
Best
39:33
way
39:33
to
39:33
start.
39:33
Get
39:33
my
39:33
newsletter.
39:34
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39:34
my
39:34
free
39:34
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39:35
I
39:35
give
39:35
you
39:35
a
39:35
PDF
39:35
on
39:36
my
39:36
book
39:36
for
39:36
free.
39:36
You
39:36
sign
39:37
up
39:37
up.
39:37
But
39:37
you
39:37
can
39:38
start
39:38
learning
39:38
what
39:38
it
39:38
is.
39:38
If
39:39
you're
39:39
like,
39:39
hey,
39:39
I
39:39
want
39:39
to
39:39
talk,
39:40
you
39:40
could
39:41
text
39:41
me
39:41
my
39:41
personal
39:42
cell
39:42
phone
39:42
number.
39:42
I've
39:42
given
39:43
out
39:43
everywhere
39:43
for
39:44
20
39:44
years.
39:44
If
39:44
you
39:44
got
39:45
the
39:45
guts,
39:45
you
39:45
want
39:45
to
39:45
text
39:46
me,
39:46
which
39:46
most
39:46
people
39:47
won't,
39:47
but
39:47
that's
39:47
631-327-2241.
39:50
It's
39:50
my
39:50
personal
39:50
number.
39:51
It's
39:51
my
39:51
real
39:51
one.
39:51
But
39:52
the
39:52
traditional
39:52
proper
39:53
way,
39:53
probably
39:53
for
39:54
people
39:54
that
39:54
are
39:54
more
39:54
comfortable.
39:54
Sign
39:55
up
39:55
for
39:55
the
39:55
newsletter
39:55
if
39:56
you
39:56
want
39:56
to
39:56
book
39:56
a
39:56
call.
39:57
But
39:57
if
39:57
you
39:57
got
39:58
a
39:58
question,
39:59
if
39:59
I
39:59
can
39:59
help,
39:59
you
40:00
know,
40:00
I
40:00
mean,
40:00
the
40:00
coaching
40:01
stuff
40:01
it's
40:01
nice
40:01
to
40:02
make
40:02
more
40:02
money
40:02
and
40:03
that's
40:03
all
40:03
great,
40:03
but
40:04
it's
40:04
really
40:04
a
40:04
labor
40:05
of
40:05
love.
40:05
And
40:05
if
40:05
I
40:05
can
40:05
answer
40:06
a
40:06
question
40:06
or
40:06
I
40:06
can
40:06
get
40:07
you
40:07
unstuck
40:07
from
40:07
something,
40:08
or
40:08
if
40:08
I
40:08
could
40:09
add
40:09
value
40:09
in
40:10
any
40:10
way
40:10
for
40:10
something,
40:11
it's
40:11
a
40:11
privilege.
40:12
No
40:12
one's
40:12
too
40:12
busy
40:13
to
40:13
answer
40:13
somebody
40:13
that's
40:14
got
40:14
the
40:14
guts
40:14
to
40:14
reach
40:14
out.
40:15
But
40:15
you
40:15
could
40:16
book
40:16
a
40:16
call.
40:16
Go
40:17
on
40:17
this
40:17
newsletter.
40:18
Spark
40:18
a
40:18
change
40:18
Coaching
40:19
Instagram.
40:19
I
40:20
got
40:20
my
40:20
amazing
40:20
virtual
40:21
assistant,
40:21
Nemuela,
40:22
who's
40:22
absolutely
40:23
amazing
40:23
that
40:23
does
40:23
all
40:24
that
40:24
stuff.
40:24
And
40:24
we'd
40:25
love
40:25
to
40:25
connect
40:25
with
40:25
you.
40:25
I'd
40:26
love
40:26
to
40:26
help.
40:27
Sounds
40:27
absolutely
40:28
great.
40:28
And
40:28
that's,
40:28
that's
40:29
so
40:29
true
40:29
and
40:30
so
40:30
human,
40:30
you
40:30
know,
40:31
And
40:31
I
40:31
love
40:31
that
40:31
about
40:31
that.
40:32
You
40:32
like?
40:32
I
40:32
feel
40:33
like
40:33
if
40:33
we
40:33
texted
40:33
you,
40:33
we
40:34
would
40:34
actually
40:34
get
40:34
a
40:34
person
40:34
back.
40:35
You
40:35
would,
40:35
you
40:35
would
40:36
got
40:36
Manuela
40:37
saying,
40:37
hold
40:37
on,
40:37
let
40:37
me
40:37
get
40:38
him
40:38
on
40:38
the
40:38
line.
40:38
You
40:38
know,
40:38
whatever
40:39
it
40:39
is,
40:39
that's.
40:39
I
40:40
think
40:40
that's
40:40
huge
40:40
now
40:41
in
40:41
this
40:41
world
40:41
of,
40:42
especially
40:42
in
40:43
the.
40:43
I
40:43
mean,
40:43
I'm.
40:44
I
40:44
come
40:44
from
40:44
a
40:44
trauma
40:45
world.
40:45
Everybody
40:45
I
40:46
deal
40:46
with
40:46
has
40:46
gone
40:46
through
40:47
stuff
40:47
where
40:47
they
40:47
don't
40:48
feel
40:48
seen,
40:48
heard,
40:49
validated,
40:49
loved,
40:49
and
40:50
they
40:50
are
40:50
afraid
40:51
to
40:51
reach
40:51
out
40:51
and
40:52
then
40:53
to
40:53
reach
40:53
out
40:53
and
40:54
then
40:54
not
40:54
have
40:54
a
40:54
human
40:55
connection.
40:56
Yes,
40:56
it'd
40:57
be
40:57
like
40:57
a
40:57
big
40:57
slap
40:58
in
40:58
there,
40:59
slap
40:59
in
40:59
the
40:59
face.
41:00
I
41:00
can't
41:00
stand
41:00
that.
41:01
But
41:02
I
41:02
will
41:02
put
41:02
all
41:02
that
41:03
in
41:03
the
41:03
show
41:03
notes.
41:03
But
41:04
before
41:04
you
41:04
leave,
41:04
you're
41:04
not
41:05
quite
41:05
off
41:05
the
41:05
hook
41:05
yet.
41:06
I
41:06
want
41:06
you
41:06
to
41:06
give
41:06
the
41:07
listeners
41:08
some
41:09
Anthony
41:10
Spark
41:10
words
41:11
of
41:11
wisdom.
41:12
Last
41:13
big
41:13
picture
41:14
idea.
41:15
I.
41:15
I
41:15
mentioned
41:16
it
41:16
and
41:16
I
41:16
think
41:16
it's
41:16
worth
41:17
summing
41:17
up
41:17
if
41:17
we're
41:17
going
41:17
to
41:18
do
41:18
a
41:18
closing
41:18
thing.
41:19
You
41:19
can
41:19
quit
41:19
what
41:20
you're
41:20
doing,
41:21
you
41:21
can
41:21
end
41:21
the
41:22
relationship,
41:23
you
41:23
can
41:23
change.
41:23
You
41:24
can
41:24
quit
41:24
the
41:24
life
41:24
you
41:24
have
41:25
and
41:25
start
41:25
in
41:26
the
41:26
same
41:26
life,
41:26
start
41:27
the
41:27
same
41:27
vocation,
41:28
start
41:28
with
41:28
the
41:28
same
41:28
person
41:29
again.
41:29
It
41:30
doesn't
41:30
have
41:30
to
41:30
be
41:31
that
41:31
you
41:32
need
41:32
to
41:32
get
41:32
divorced
41:33
and
41:33
it's
41:33
too
41:33
far
41:33
gone
41:34
if
41:34
you
41:34
got
41:34
two
41:34
parties
41:34
or
41:35
willing
41:35
to
41:35
work
41:35
on
41:35
it.
41:35
It
41:36
doesn't
41:36
need
41:36
to
41:36
be
41:36
that,
41:37
you
41:37
know,
41:37
things
41:37
have
41:37
gone
41:38
to
41:38
in
41:38
your
41:39
career
41:39
that
41:39
you
41:39
have
41:39
to
41:40
quit.
41:40
Although
41:40
changing
41:41
is
41:41
not
41:41
a
41:41
problem,
41:41
it
41:41
doesn't
41:42
mean
41:42
that
41:42
the
41:43
life
41:43
you've
41:43
built
41:43
and
41:44
you've
41:44
done
41:44
and
41:44
you.
41:44
You
41:45
absolutely
41:45
never
41:45
can
41:46
fix.
41:46
It's
41:46
unredeemable.
41:47
We
41:48
can
41:48
decide
41:48
to
41:49
restart
41:49
with
41:50
a
41:50
new
41:50
perspective,
41:51
a
41:51
new
41:51
orientation.
41:52
It's
41:53
not
41:53
going
41:53
to
41:53
be
41:53
easy.
41:54
Takes
41:54
a
41:54
lot
41:54
of
41:55
work.
41:55
Most
41:55
people
41:55
don't
41:56
have
41:56
the
41:56
courage
41:56
to
41:56
do
41:56
it.
41:57
But
41:57
running
41:58
from
41:58
person
41:58
to
41:58
person,
41:59
from
41:59
job
41:59
to
41:59
job,
42:00
from
42:00
place
42:00
to
42:00
place,
42:01
from
42:01
life
42:01
to
42:01
life,
42:02
from
42:02
mask
42:02
to
42:02
mask,
42:03
is
42:04
never
42:04
going
42:04
to
42:04
be
42:05
nearly
42:05
as
42:06
rewarding.
42:06
It's
42:07
never
42:07
going
42:07
to
42:07
be
42:07
nearly
42:08
as
42:08
joyful
42:09
and
42:09
nearly
42:09
as
42:10
fulfilling
42:10
as
42:11
having
42:11
the
42:11
guts
42:11
to
42:12
buckle
42:12
down
42:12
and
42:13
to
42:13
figure
42:13
out
42:13
what
42:13
we
42:13
need
42:14
to
42:14
do
42:14
to
42:14
fix
42:14
it
42:15
to
42:15
make
42:15
it
42:15
better.
42:16
Amen.
42:17
Thank
42:17
you
42:18
so
42:18
much.
42:18
That
42:18
was
42:18
so
42:18
well
42:19
said,
42:20
Henry
42:20
Ford.
42:20
If
42:20
you
42:20
always
42:21
do
42:21
what
42:21
you've
42:21
always
42:21
got
42:22
done,
42:22
you're
42:22
going
42:22
to
42:23
always
42:23
get
42:23
what
42:23
you
42:23
always
42:23
got.
42:24
You
42:24
know,
42:24
I
42:24
mean,
42:24
it
42:25
just.
42:25
It
42:25
is.
42:26
You
42:26
got
42:26
to
42:26
make
42:26
changes.
42:27
And
42:27
yes,
42:27
you're
42:27
right.
42:27
Is
42:28
not
42:28
you.
42:28
Not
42:28
easy,
42:29
guys.
42:29
It's
42:29
not
42:30
easy,
42:30
but
42:30
it's
42:31
so
42:31
worth
42:31
it.
42:31
So
42:32
I
42:32
tell
42:32
my
42:32
clients
42:33
every
42:33
day,
42:33
close
42:33
your
42:34
eyes.
42:34
When
42:34
your
42:34
stomach.
42:35
When
42:35
you
42:35
feel
42:35
that
42:35
pit
42:35
in
42:36
your
42:36
stomach
42:36
or
42:36
you
42:36
feel
42:37
that
42:37
physiological
42:38
ick
42:39
somewhere,
42:39
close
42:40
your
42:40
eyes
42:40
and
42:40
say,
42:41
what
42:41
do
42:41
I
42:41
need
42:42
right
42:42
now
42:42
to
42:42
make
42:43
it
42:43
better?
42:43
Just
42:44
a
42:44
little
42:44
better,
42:44
or
42:45
what
42:45
do
42:45
I
42:45
need
42:45
right
42:46
now
42:46
to
42:46
do
42:47
to
42:47
start
42:47
walking
42:48
in
42:48
the
42:48
right
42:48
direction?
42:49
Amen.
42:50
And,
42:50
you
42:51
know,
42:51
it's
42:51
inside
42:52
of
42:52
you.
42:52
You
42:52
know,
42:53
everything
42:53
you
42:53
need
42:53
to
42:54
know.
42:54
We're
42:55
people
42:55
like,
42:56
you
42:56
know,
42:56
people
42:56
like
42:57
myself
42:57
and
42:57
Anthony
42:58
and
42:58
Tony
42:58
Robbins,
42:59
we're
42:59
just.
43:00
We're
43:00
just
43:01
messengers.
43:02
That's
43:02
all
43:03
we
43:03
are.
43:03
But
43:03
everything
43:03
you
43:03
need,
43:04
you
43:04
got
43:04
inside.
43:05
Yeah.
43:05
So
43:06
no
43:06
doubt.
43:06
Thank
43:06
you.
43:07
Yes.
43:07
Thank
43:08
you
43:08
so
43:08
much.
43:08
And
43:08
you
43:08
all
43:09
have
43:09
one
43:09
more
43:09
thing.
43:10
Tammy,
43:10
because
43:11
you
43:11
don't
43:12
get
43:12
enough
43:13
positive
43:13
feedback.
43:14
I
43:14
am
43:14
sure,
43:14
like
43:15
most
43:15
people
43:15
I
43:15
talk
43:15
to,
43:16
and
43:16
there
43:16
are
43:16
thousands
43:17
of
43:17
people
43:18
that
43:18
quietly
43:19
listen
43:19
to
43:19
Tammy's
43:20
podcast
43:20
and
43:20
get
43:21
tremendous
43:21
value.
43:22
Like,
43:22
I'm
43:22
so
43:22
glad.
43:23
Changed
43:23
my
43:23
life,
43:23
made
43:24
my
43:24
day.
43:24
Please
43:25
reach
43:25
out
43:25
to
43:25
Tammy
43:26
and
43:26
let
43:27
her
43:27
know
43:27
if
43:27
something's
43:28
impacted
43:28
you,
43:28
an
43:29
episode,
43:29
something
43:30
she's
43:30
done
43:30
has
43:30
helped
43:31
you,
43:31
because
43:31
getting
43:32
a
43:32
few
43:32
messages
43:33
can
43:33
help
43:33
you
43:33
go
43:33
a
43:34
few
43:34
more
43:34
months,
43:34
because
43:34
this
43:35
is.
43:35
You're
43:35
in
43:35
a.
43:35
You're
43:36
in
43:36
a
43:36
room
43:36
by
43:36
yourself
43:36
on
43:37
Zoom,
43:37
and
43:37
all
43:38
these
43:38
people
43:38
are
43:38
listening,
43:39
but
43:39
you
43:39
don't
43:39
have
43:39
a
43:39
crowd
43:40
of
43:40
people
43:40
cheering,
43:40
knowing
43:41
that
43:41
it's
43:41
making
43:41
a
43:42
difference.
43:42
So
43:43
please,
43:43
if
43:43
this
43:43
is
43:43
valuable,
43:44
reach
43:44
out
43:44
to
43:44
Tammy.
43:45
Amen.
43:46
Thank
43:46
you
43:46
so
43:46
much.
43:46
I
43:47
appreciate
43:47
that.
43:48
And
43:48
it
43:48
goes
43:48
right
43:49
back
43:49
at
43:49
you
43:49
guys.
43:50
Same
43:50
thing
43:50
for
43:50
Anthony.
43:51
Like,
43:51
let's.
43:51
It's.
43:52
We're
43:52
all
43:52
in
43:52
this
43:52
together.
43:53
That's
43:53
it.
43:53
We're
43:53
all
43:53
in
43:54
this
43:54
together.
43:54
And
43:55
you
43:55
all
43:55
have
43:56
a
43:56
very
43:56
blessed
43:57
week.
43:57
And
43:57
we
43:57
will
43:57
see
43:57
you
43:58
back.
43:58
Take
43:58
care.
43:59
Peace
43:59
out.