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Season 2 - Episode 52 - What allows you to be 'controlled' by others? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today, I want to talk to you about triggers and it's kind of
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  an offshoot of yesterday's podcast where we were talking
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  about words and what they mean to us, triggers are a very
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  important part of personal development self-development
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  because they're like little landmines.
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  They just think of them like little land mines that are all
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  over us and we carry these wherever we go.
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  And it's almost like we look for reasons to be offended and then
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  something pops off and before. You know what?
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  You're, you know, responding in a way that you didn't even
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  realize it was going to happen and it just fired off little
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  landmines, if you will, and they were, we refer to them as
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  triggers. I love, you know, dr.
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  Wayne Dyer, and I've mentioned this before on another podcast,
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  where one of my favorite phrases that he ever used was it's not
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  their fault for pushing your buttons.
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  It's your fault for having the buttons, they push.
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  And the first time I heard that I was so pissed off because it's
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  so True. And I had Bunches of triggers.
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  I had a full-blown panel with red and yellow flashing lights
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  at that time in my life. And I was always looking to
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  blame someone else for the fact that those lights were being lit
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  up. And I was having triggers
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  pushed, and the truth is, it was my fault for having all the
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  buttons If I'm not offended oil, if you will, if I cannot be
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  offended, then nobody has control over me.
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  And this is what the weird thing is about triggers.
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  You are allowing yourself to be controlled.
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  When you have triggers, you are allowing yourself to be
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  controlled by somebody else. Gandhi said, I refuse to allow
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  others to walk through my mind with their dirty feet, what he
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  meant by that was you come into contact with someone who gives
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  you feedback or gives you information that's contrary to
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  your liking or your information and all of a sudden worlds,
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  kailash, and you become Offended or upset, angry saddened,
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  whatever. The word might be whatever the
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  emotion might be, and that person has just walked through
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  your mind with their dirty feet. You know, we've all been in the
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  situation where we've gotten into an argument with somebody
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  or we've had a disagreement with somebody and we walk away from
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  that and it ruminates with us for days and days and days.
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  And we think about I should have said this.
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  I should have said this, I could have done this blah blah blah
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  blah blah. And Go into such a state of
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  despair over it often because we wish we could undo the situation
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  and go back and fix it, and sound better, and say something
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  better or not allow our face to get red.
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  Because so many of us when we get upset, our face will get
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  red, and our voice will crack. Because the emotion is so built
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  up. Well, those are all triggers
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  that have been stepped on. And then the worst part is, once
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  those triggers go off, they keep going off for days on end.
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  So the Person who basically through that hand grenade at
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  you, and blew you up walked away and they're not even thinking
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  about you anymore. And yet here you are walking
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  around, pushing your own buttons, having all your
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  triggers go off again and they're not even thinking about
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  you, but you've suffered days days, you have suffered because
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  your triggers went off, and they were able to keep just worming
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  their way through your mind. Really, that's what it comes
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  down to pushing your buttons. Wormholes throughout your brain.
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  And the sad part is, we have absolute control over this and
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  we can choose to turn that off, but we have to be conscious of
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  it to do it. We must be conscious of it to
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  fix it and we have to make the choice to say, I no longer allow
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  this person to have the right to come into my brain and do damage
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  because that's what they're doing.
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  They're doing damage and only because you allowed them on one.
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  If you've read the my butt, Bus book.
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  You know that particular book who's driving your bus, I talked
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  about the fact that you can change the drivers but I joke
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  around when I ever go out and speak about it, I'll say, well
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  here's the story, you know, don't put let someone come on
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  the bus, just don't you can pull the bus up to the curb but don't
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  let someone get on your bus just like Gandhi.
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  Don't let them walk through your mind with their dirty feet.
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  Just don't let them on your bus. I'll choose to let them speak,
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  whatever they want. Say whatever they want.
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  But you don't have to have the Action.
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  That's long-term, you don't have to have that piece of yourself,
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  given up to them. And sometimes we feel like we
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  have to fight back. We say, I have to defend myself.
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  Well, do we really? Because these people hold no
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  ability over you, these people, hold no ability over you other
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  than the one you give them. So you really have to consider
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  the fact that there are options to walk away from it.
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  They might not be options. You want to take, they might not
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  be options that you want to entertain but you do have
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  options. Most of us that are hearing this
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  have options and we get to make the decisions about what things
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  mean to us. That is the power of Free Will.
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  That's what we've been given by God and this universe we have we
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  have the power of free. We will.
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  So I'm going to challenge you today to start thinking about
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  this piece and looking at your triggers and starting the
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  process of eliminating them is by exposing them and
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  understanding when they go off so that you can stop them from
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  going off. So if you have to make a list of
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  them what are the things that irritate you?
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  What are the things that are your buttons?
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  However, you like to do it, start the process of identifying
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  those triggers and then make better choices in the moment
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  because that's how you break it down moment-to-moment choices.
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  I look forward to seeing you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a great day. Bye.
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  I look forward to seeing you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a great day. Bye.