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Do You Love Someone Diagnosed With Autism? (What To Do) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So what should you do if your loved one is diagnosed with
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  autism? I'm going to go through all this
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  right now, guys. Welcome back to the Aspy world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism and ADHD and make
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  weekly videos all about this stuff.
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  So if you're new around here and you want to learn more, we're
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  going to hit the subscribe button down below by clicking
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  the notification bell. Guys, what is going on?
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  This video is specifically designed to help you understand
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  what do you do if your partner or your friend or even your kid
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  is diagnosed with autism or somebody you look and even as an
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  adult. So we're going to go through
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  some things like some typical protocol, which is the things
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  that you can take on board if you've just found out this one,
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  you know, is diagnosed with autism and how you can support
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  them and and support you. Also, I just want to say that if
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  you are having any mental health issues and you don't want the
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  stress and the struggle of going out to try and find a
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  counsellor, I highly recommend an app called Better Help.
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  This is not sponsored better help is LinkedIn, the
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  description down below, but it's an app on your phone that you
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  can download and you can use that app to connect to a
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  counsellor within 24 to 48 hours and they will connect to you via
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  video or just chat or even audio phone call and you can have a
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  session with them completely from the comfort of your home.
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  Super accessible, super good and you can find specific people who
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  deal with just ADHD or autism or mental health issues totally up
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  to you. So check out better help in the
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  link in description down below and by using the link out as
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  well. So that's kind of cool.
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  OK, so the first thing to do if you are, you know, with on who
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  you love and they are diagnosed with autism, you know, I would
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  say that understand and educate yourself all about autism.
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  You know, watching videos like this, reading magazines, signing
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  up to newsletters with subscribing some blogs about
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  going to the National Artistic Society meet ups or any charity
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  that you know have meet ups or social groups, go to those and
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  learn about the subject of autism.
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  The second thing you should do is be supportive and apathetic
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  towards the individual who has the autos discussion condition
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  because they're going to a lot try to adjust themselves and
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  starting up their diagnosis means that they are like this
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  now and they're trying to become more themselves and they just
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  need your support and understanding.
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  You have to encourage open communication and provide a safe
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  space for the personal spectrum to express themselves.
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  And this is essential because if you can't express yourself and
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  you can't kind of like be yourself around somebody who you
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  love about your condition and then you're kind of not really
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  moving forward, you're kind of being stuck at a standstill.
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  So the more open you can be with somebody, the better.
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  So just try and promote that open communication.
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  Recognizing and respecting the unique strengths and challenges
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  is very crucial to this. Because if you don't understand
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  their challenges and their uniqueness, then they're going
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  to feel kind of like a bit left out or maybe feel quite
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  alienated from a situation and their uniqueness may not be seen
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  as such. You can also seek professional
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  help from therapists and autism specialists that can be really
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  beneficial for or the people who are on the autism spectrum are
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  people who are loved ones of people on the autism spectrum.
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  It doesn't just have to be the autistic person getting therapy.
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  You know the family can benefit from this too if they're finding
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  a struggle. Promoting a dependence and
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  allowing the autistic person to make decisions for themselves is
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  encouraging. It's encouraging because
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  autistic individuals will have issues with executive
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  dysfunction which is organizing, planning, being independent and
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  these things are take a mental health toll on an autistic
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  person when they find struggles in these areas.
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  But above all, being patient and flexible, accommodating the
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  needs that generally contributed to autism to help the well-being
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  of the person you love. He's got to be so awesome and
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  all pay from dividends because the happier the person is then
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  the easier life is and the easier life is the easier Rd.
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  you get. Encouraging social
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  communications and providing opportunities for social
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  interaction is really crucial because autistic people will
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  have issues with social interaction, they'll have issues
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  socialising in general and finding opportunities to
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  socialise may be quite difficult.
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  So encouraging those would be amazing.
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  But the most significant thing is self-care for both an
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  individual and the autism loved one.
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  Both of you need self-care. Self-care means taking a brief
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  when you need it, making sure you're not overdoing it, making
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  sure that your needs are met and their needs are met completely.
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  Because what's going to happen is if you do everything for the
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  other person, then you're going to burn out.
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  And you can't be of support when the person you need to support
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  needs you when you need support yourself.
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  So it's a whole thing. Self-care is important and it's
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  number one guys. If you enjoyed this video, give
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  it a like share this video and I'll see you in the next one
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  guys, peace.