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The first place you fail in weight loss · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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Music.
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It's a skill I sometimes wish I didn't have, but oftentimes I can pinpoint who
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is going to achieve their weight loss goals within the first few days of someone's
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actual weight loss efforts.
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There are some clear signs of whether that person will thrive or fail,
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and today I am sharing one of the signs and why it is inevitable for failure most of the time.
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Plus, I'm going to give you three must-dos to make sure that you are not one
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of these people and can become successful in your weight loss efforts.
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So let's go. All right, y'all.
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So I'm going to be honest about this. I
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have recorded and deleted and
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started over on this episode about three times now because I am so aware of
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hurt feelings or rejection feelings or shameful feelings or whatever.
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And I just, that is not my intention of this episode by any means. Okay.
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And so I want to preface with that. I want to begin with that.
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I am.
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I feel like this topic was put on my heart to speak to you because it has been
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on my heart for a long time.
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I have been feeling the feelings over this topic for other women for a long, long time now.
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And so I'm just going to do my best. Like I prayed about it before we started.
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You know, I'm just going to do my best to kind of articulate my words.
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And so, you know, again, on this episode, giving me all the grace that I always
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encourage, you know, we give each other and, you know, ourselves.
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And so I just, but I just feel like this topic is a needed topic to be covered, right? I just, I just do.
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I mean, so it begins with weight loss shots.
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Now, I do not, this is not a podcast episode about my opinions about weight
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loss shots. It is not me saying one way or the other about a weight loss shot, okay?
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Because I have expressed multiple times on social media and even here that I
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do believe that for some women, the benefits of a weight loss shot outweigh the risks.
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There are clear risks for these weight loss shots and more risks are coming
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out each day, But there are clear benefits of this weight loss shot,
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specifically for women who are severely overweight and are experiencing other
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health risks or health outcomes because of their weight. Right.
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And so for those women who are like have reduced quality of life and have multiple
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health issues that all could all could be, you know,
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tracked back to their their weight and their unhealthy eating habits,
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the shot might be might be worth the risks. Right.
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And those are not the people I'm talking to today, you know,
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because that is a decision between you and your doctor, and it is not mine or
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anyone else's to judge, right?
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But where I'm coming from is I'm seeing just like this, gosh,
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it's just like this pattern, and it's just becoming more and more and greater
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and greater and greater and greater.
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And it is people, women,
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who are choosing to take the weight loss shot out of a stance of desperation, okay?
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And so the weight loss shot decision is truly like where.
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You know my this topic came from
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for me but I have seen it day in and day out for years and years and years now
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for like other other ways of of people attempting to lose weight like the fad
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diets or taking random pills you find you know from GNC or you know getting
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you know any kind of quick surgery or any,
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you know, there's a, there are a lot of desperation acts that,
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you know, the hope is, is the hope that the result is weight loss, right?
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But it's just, it seems to be more of a thing here lately because the access
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to the shot is just getting easier and easier, right?
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And so, yeah, so I'm talking like, I'm not talking about the ones who really
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like them and their doctor are weighing the pros and cons and their health risks, right?
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I'm talking to the ones who have like 20, 30, you know, 40 pounds to lose.
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And like, even their doctor's skeptical of giving it to them.
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They're like, seeing if they could find some kind of backwards way to get it
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like a compound somewhere or like, you know, that kind of, that kind of.
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Again, it's a level of desperation, right?
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To just get their hands on it because they know it'll, you know, work quickly.
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Or they're hopeful that it will work when everything else seems to not.
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And so I will say that this step alone, making a decision, and I mean any decision,
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not just a decision to get on a weight loss shot.
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There are plenty of people out there who have made a sound, clear,
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fully confident decision about getting on a weight loss shot, right?
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Or other things, right? But I'm talking about any decision that is made out
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of desperation will surely be your first step to failure, okay?
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It may not be immediate failure, but it will be long-term failure.
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And let me tell you why, okay?
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Because a decision made out of desperation results in a long-term failure.
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Well, result of shame, okay? If we make an impulse decision out of desperation.
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Then later down the road, that becomes shame, okay?
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Regardless of what it was, like if you, like y'all, every one of us has made
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a decision out of desperation before, right?
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Like if we needed a little extra money or if we just wanted to feel loved or,
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you know, if we just were a little frustrated and needed to get away or whatever,
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Like we have all felt that level of desperation that makes us make poor decisions, right?
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But it doesn't matter or decisions that we feel were poor for ourselves,
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right? It may have been a good decision for somebody else, but for us, it was a poor decision.
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And the reason we feel that way is because we made it out of desperation instead
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of out of a clear, sound mind, okay?
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We are not called to make life-impacting, literally life-impacting decisions
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out of desperation, right?
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It is written all up in the Bible. We are to have a clear, sound mind,
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get the wisdom from the Lord, search, seek His guidance.
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And so when we are making a decision out of desperation, we are not seeking
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guidance. We are riding on emotion, okay? And yes, we have emotions.
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God gave us emotions, but emotions are not our driver. We cannot use emotions
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as our driver or that will be the end of it,
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you know, that will be the beginning of what is going to evolve and turn into,
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you know, regret and shame. Okay.
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And so I'm going to talk about that a little bit today.
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And again, just from a place of any kind of weight loss decisions. Right.
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And so the first thing that I want to kind of cover is where does this,
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like, where does the decision out of desperation come from?
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Like, where does, Because what makes us say, yes, I'm about to do this,
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you know, even though we know we're a little irrational right now,
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or we know we're a little desperate right now, like where does it come from?
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Like, why do we feel in that moment that it's still a good idea? Okay.
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And so the first place is clearly fear, right? And so specifically to weight
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loss, it's a worry, right? It's a worry that you'll be unhealthy.
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It's a worry that you'll get rejected. Maybe your husband doesn't like the way
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you look. Maybe, you know, maybe your, you know, mom or dad mentioned your weight
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one too many times, you know, and you're fearful they won't love you as much.
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I mean, this is like some deep-rooted stuff, y'all, some therapy kind of stuff.
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Like, this is not just, let me put some sugarcoat this topic.
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Like, these are some things that you have to really dive into.
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You know, when dealing with desperation, right?
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Other, you know, other fears are like just things like getting a diagnosis, right?
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Like you're like, I've got to do something about this weight because I don't
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want to have high blood pressure or diabetes like my mom or my grandparents or whatever.
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Fear that like you're just not going to be able to show up for your family as
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well or that you may not live long enough to see your grandkids.
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Like all these things are real fears that could drive a desperate decision, right?
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Another one is failure. Okay, so a recent failure or a past failure,
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right? And you could just feel like, okay, I've got to do something.
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I'm desperate to make a change because I have to overcome that past failure.
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I have to avoid the fact that I failed in the past.
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So let me just decide to do something now different, you know?
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And so you just pick, you know, some crazy weight loss method or, you know,
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decide you're never going to have sugar again or like, you know,
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who knows what it might be, but you just, you're so against that failure again,
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you know, and so you pick, you know, act in desperation, right?
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Another one is relief. So you want to instantly feel better about a situation, right?
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Like for most of us, this is huge in weight loss because like we didn't gain
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the 30 pounds overnight, but man,
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when we decide we're sick of those 30 pounds y'all don't we like
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think it should just happen instantly right and so we want that we want the
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immediate relief and we want it to happen as soon as possible and so that's
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why any kind of weight loss method that's promising you quick results is automatically
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going to draw your attention y'all we drove by we were in a.
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Crazy part of town this weekend. And we drove by this building that had it painted on there.
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Lose 25 pounds in 10 days. And it was like a shake shop.
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And I'm just like, man, I wonder, number one, like what they got going on in there.
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And like two, how many people that little green building has let down?
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You know, lose 20. Yeah, sure. You'd basically starve yourself,
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I'm sure, for 10 days. And I
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bet you do drop 25 pounds, half of it water weight. You know what I mean?
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But in that moment when you're driving by, and if you've been thinking about
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how much weight you've gained all day, wouldn't you consider turning in out
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of, you know, just trying to get that instant relief, right?
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And a way to get that instant relief is to find a way to control the problem, okay?
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And so that's why we will make a desperate, quick decision if it means we can,
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we have found a way to control the problem and calm our fears and give us that relief, right?
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So finding relief in something that we stew or have been stewing about can be
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a really big reason for making a decision out of desperation,
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okay? The next one is stress.
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So if you're constantly stressed, it's hard to make clear and rational decisions,
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right? If you're just constantly got a hundred things going on in your brain,
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how in the world are you going to make up your mind to do anything else when,
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you know, a hundred different things are crossing your brain at once?
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So we tend to just like pick the quickest fix almost to just like mark it off
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our list. Like, yep. Okay.
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Weight loss has been on my list. I'm just going to, you know,
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go to that green shake shop and, and, and have one of those.
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And, and that, you know, I'm attempting my weight loss today because I picked
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up a shake that's promising to lose, you know, help me lose 25 pounds in 10
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days, right? And so it's not a fully thought out.
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Action, per se, but it's, it's, it's,
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you get to check that box that says, yeah, I'm doing something about this,
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you know, and that helps with your stress level of all the things you are in
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your mind, you know, kind of coming up with things you need to do something about, right?
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And then the last one is outside influence. Okay, so we are in a age of scrolling entirely too much,
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like entirely too much y'all and we are constantly thinking
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other people have it together in areas that
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we don't right and then it's like magic the
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algorithm gives us those people you know
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like there it is no coincidence that you've been thinking about losing weight
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and then you know some that some magic you know weight loss program shows up
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on your timeline or on your you know newsfeed or whatever okay and And so we
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sometimes can be very unhealthy.
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Actually, a lot of times we can be very unhealthy with how we handle those things.
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Like we go down a rabbit hole with, you know, this person who's lost weight doing it this way.
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And so then they've convinced you that this is the way that it needs to be done, right?
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Or even just a friend, like a friend who is looking good, feeling better,
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not eating her same old chips and queso like she's always doing.
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When y'all go to the Mexican restaurant?
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Like that can convince you, oh, if she can do it, then this is what I need to be doing, right?
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And so that can be a very sneaky way of desperation decision,
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because you are using someone else's life as your navigation for what to do next, okay?
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And so that like all of these things, right? Those are, we can justify the heck
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out of each and every one of those depending on the situation, right?
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But all of those are emotional responses and they are not from a peaceful place.
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They are not from a place of clarity. They are not from a place of like lots
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of prayer and, you know, a lot of like rational thinking.
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And so a lot of these, you know, those things will lead, all of those things
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will lead us to making a decision out of desperation. And when the decision
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is made out of desperation, you know,
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it will wind up in failure. Okay. And so I want to talk about some tips to just,
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make sure that any decision that you are making, but specifically about weight
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loss, right, that you're doing your best to make sure it doesn't come out of desperation.
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Because some of us, we literally just operate out of desperation.
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Like we are like knee jerk reaction, like, let's, let's market like for some
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of us, we're in that stress category. And we're just like, okay,
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let's mark it off and go, right?
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And so, and y'all, I have been here.
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Like, I am talking to you from someone who has been here, not with weight loss in a really long time.
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Now, back when I was a lot younger, for sure, for sure.
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I mean, especially like, you know, when, gosh, I even, when I was pregnant and
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had both my girls, I felt that level of desperation after I'd had them and was
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like really trying to get the weight off, like faster than it was wanting to come off, right?
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But before that even like with my weight in high school and college I did I
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came at things at a level of desperation but but so that so weight loss for
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me has been a minute but business.
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Girl just literally last year said to me Constance like I need you to stop like
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instantly buying into anything that promises you like business growth or business
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clarity or business you know like like better functionality inside the business,
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like better processing inside the business.
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Because I would just like buy webinars or buy courses.
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And then when it came time to actually doing them, I didn't.
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I didn't. And or then I would be like, why did I buy this? Like,
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this isn't even the same kind of membership style that I have.
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Or like, you know, like I would, but it promised me something and I would do
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it out of desperation for just like improvement, right?
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Ease inside the business, right? And so I know about this, right?
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And so it's crazy because in 2024, that really became my prayer.
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And my goal is to just not quickly buy into any change that I was going to make
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inside the business because I had done it for so many years.
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And if you've been around for a while, you know that. Like I changed everything.
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How our signups go multiple times.
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I changed the names of the programs multiple times. And it was simply because
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I just wouldn't get still and like make a definitive decision.
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It was a desperation decision.
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It was just like, I need to pivot. I need to do this. I need to do that. I'm not comfortable.
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I'm not comfortable. I'm not comfortable. I'm not comfortable.
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So what can I do to make myself comfortable? Oh, I know.
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Let's make a change, you know? And so anyway, when we launched the podcast and
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then shortly after I launched the new program, all that was made out of a decision
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that was not from a place of desperation.
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And I can say that that's probably the first time in many years that I had gotten to that place.
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And so anyway, that's just about me a little bit. But so I understand,
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you know, all those things I just mentioned, outside influence,
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Lord have mercy. Everybody was telling me how to do it and what to do, right?
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Stress. I was just constantly stressed that I wasn't getting it right,
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that I needed, that it could be better. I could be doing it right. Right. And then relief.
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I knew I needed to make a change, but I just was ready to have it made,
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you know, and so that I could just go, you know, so I could feel better about
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where we're headed. Failure. Right.
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There have been some failures in this business, and there's also some major fear about failure.
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So all of those those things led to those desperation decisions for me. and for the business.
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And what it has done for me is caused so much wasted time and energy.
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Y'all, I cannot tell you how much I have just like on this laptop that I'm looking
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at right now that is just wasted.
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Like it is wasted time. It is wasted energy. It is wasted money.
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Baby, I've spent so much money that did not come out, you know,
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to amount to anything because it wasn't meant for me.
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It wasn't meant for me, but I didn't take the time to slow down and figure that
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out before I dove off into it.
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Wasted stress, you know, just a lot of waste, right?
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And so, yeah, I would say that it was failure, you know, came at it from desperation
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and it did not flourish, you know?
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And so I've got three tips for you to just kind of make sure.
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And again, I'm still in this with you. I'm still working through this myself
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daily with other things.
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But here are some tips that I feel like are.
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Really imperative for making sure, specifically in your weight loss,
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that you are not approaching any decision from a desperation standpoint. Okay.
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So the first one is to pray about the decision and how to get there.
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Okay. So asking God for the guidance and wisdom from your heart and not your emotions.
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And so what does that mean? That means you cannot make an instant impulse decision.
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That means you cannot get up in the morning and stand in front of the mirror
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naked and decide, I'm going to go, you know, get on whatever because I need
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to lose weight and then be signed up or, you know, have your prescription filled by that afternoon.
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Okay, you cannot do that because you haven't given God time to give you the guidance and wisdom.
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You've only been like making decisions from your emotional state,
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right? And so we want, again, to make decisions from his will.
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We want to feel at peace with him with the decision we are about to walk out.
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And we want to have done it with a clear mind, not with a mind full of negative
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thinking about ourselves or frustration or just like, I've had it.
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We don't want to make a decision from that place. We just want to do it with
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a clear mind. Like, I really think that if I do this, you know,
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I can see myself, you know, sticking to it and I can see all the benefits of it.
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And, you know, I'm aware of what it might cost me financially wise, time wise, whatever.
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And I'm OK with that. Like you just it's just a piece, right,
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that you know what I'm talking about.
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You have felt a piece in a decision before, but it's something you've got to
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seek. and it's not something that's going to come immediately after you have
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felt like a raging or really loud emotion about the topic.
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Okay, it's just not. You've got to sit in it. You've got to wait for the emotions
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to calm down. You've got to come to the Lord with just.
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An open heart and an open mind and say, like, please, God, tell me what to do, right?
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And the thing about God is he may give you the answer, like,
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later that day, but, girl, he may give you the answer later that year,
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later that, you know, what, later that life.
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Like, I don't know, you know, that's the kind of frustrating part about it, right?
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But firmly believe in not stepping into anything without, like, some sort of peace.
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If you have, a lot of times we can feel indifferent, different, right?
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And that's the, I hate to be at that place. I would much rather feel either
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a peace or feel really unsettled, God, but don't make me feel indifferent,
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you know, because that's the hardest place to be.
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And so for me, it's just like, if I feel unsettled, if I feel urgent,
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if I feel sweaty or like, you know, kind of discombobulated,
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I know that it's not time to make that decision.
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You know, I'm not, I'm not there. I'm not ready for that decision, right?
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So just being open to slowing down and being quiet to hear what he says and
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kind of that knowing of, okay, do I have peace or do I have like, am I unsettled?
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And then what would my next step be based on that, depending on the decision
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that you're making, right?
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The next tip for specifically for, you know, weight loss is creating habits and not rules.
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Okay. And so I think this is another thing that comes out of desperation decision
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is like, we just want to make a decision so that then we say,
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okay, here's step one, step two, step three, right?
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And the thing is, is that step one, step two, step three are often rules to follow, okay?
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And so a lot of like the fad diets or, you know, specifically fad diets come
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with a lot of rules or even just like.
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Like something you have decided, I'm going to do this, like I'm going to cut
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out sugar or I'm going to cut out, you know, carbs or whatever, right? It's rules.
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It's I can't have this. I can't have carbs. I can't have, you know, whatever.
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And so there's just a big difference between creating healthy habits and following
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weight loss rules, right?
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Weight loss rules are not going to last forever. Like they're just not,
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you know? so there's that failure.
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Like that might be when it comes for a lot of people on a fad diet.
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That's when it comes, right, is when you start trying to implement these rules
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and then life decides to still keep life in, right?
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And so it's more about like reframing your mindset around creating healthy habits
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that go along with your life.
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But there's never like a hard yes or a hard no kind of thing.
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And so one thing I encourage you to do here is like ask yourself,
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like when you're looking to who you want to be, right?
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Because we're making a decision because ultimately we want to be a better version of ourselves, right?
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And so just ask yourself, okay, when I'm looking at who I want to be,
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like not who I want to be hardcore like in the next two weeks,
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but like a year from now by this decision that I'm making,
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right, who do I hope that this turns me into?
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Is it someone who never eats cake with her kids like like a year from now it's
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your kid's birthday party and you're like no I don't eat cake and like we're
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not serving cake here and you know like is that it is that who you want to be,
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Because if that's who you want to be, then go ahead and create your rule to
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never have cake, right? Or to never have dessert, right?
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But most of us, specifically us moms, like we know the relationship between
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food and memories and, you know, we don't necessarily want to say no cake ever.
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Most of us would rather just be like confident in our food choices,
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healthy or unhealthy, right?
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Like we want to be that mom at the birthday party who does have the cake,
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but she only eats like half the slice and seems totally content, right?
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And isn't stressing about the fact that she ate the cake.
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You know, we want to be that mom that's just more mindful about whether or not
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she really wants to eat it.
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Like we don't want to be that mom that goes to the birthday party and is just
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always going to eat, you know, the cake, whether we wanted it or not.
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And then we feel regret afterwards, right?
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We want to be that mom that like recognizes her fullness cues and understands portion size.
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So, like, do you want to be the mom that never has cake ever again?
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Or do you want to be the mom that gets like a small slice and really enjoys
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it and doesn't beat herself up about it and recognizes when she's full,
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you know? And so, who do you want to be?
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And then make that decision now, right?
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Like, you don't cut out cake for the first few weeks to become the person,
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the second mom I described, right?
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You have to start making those strides to become her now, okay?
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Same like with exercise, okay? Does she force herself to get to the gym out
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of like punishment for an hour, even if it like stresses her out and puts her
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behind on everything else in her life? Is that who you wanna be?
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Someone who hates going to the gym, but forces herself to go to the gym and
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stays stressed about it?
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Or do you wanna be that person that loves to exercise and she wants to get her exercise in, okay?
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And then what does that exercise look like? Does it have to look like what the internet says?
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Or could it be? I have a PFM Plus client who she dances. She goes to a dance class, y'all.
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She is my age and she goes to a dance class every Thursday night and it is so
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much fun and she is getting her exercise in still, right?
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So getting movement in or being someone who exercises can look very different.
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Do you want to be the gym bros that are up in the gym when you walk in there?
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Is that what you want to be?
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Or do you just want to be somebody that enjoys moving her body?
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You know, and so how does that look? And then how can you make that happen now? Right?
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To become the true person that you desire, you have to start there and you have
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to start small and consistent, okay?
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And then, of course, add on as you get used to that change, right?
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And so it may, you know, it's going to evolve as you go, but the root is still the same.
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The foundation of who you want to be is still the same, okay? And those are habits.
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Those are not rules, okay?
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Getting to your dance class on Thursday and having a small piece of cake and
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understanding fullness triggers and being aware of portion size is not the same
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thing as I'm going to go to the gym,
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even if it wrecks everybody's schedule and ruins my mood.
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I'm going to never eat cake, even though it's my three-year-old's birthday party
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and she's begging me to have a bite of her frozen Elsa cake.
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Like there's a difference between habits and rules.
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And I believe that one of the greatest things you can do is begin to look at
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your weight loss strategies from a place of habits instead of a place of rules.
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And it will free you up so much more to again, follow through with this decision
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about your weight loss in a healthy way so that it doesn't lead to failure, okay?
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And then the last one is to flip your thinking, right?
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So a lot of women approach weight loss as like, oh God, if I hear this,
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y'all, if I hear it one more time, it's like, I've got to do something about myself.
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None of my pants fit. You know, I can't stop eating.
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Like I hear it all the time. Okay. And so while you may not think that's like a terrible thing,
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it is like, it is coming from an internal belief that they need to now punish
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themselves for their bad behavior around their weight loss, right?
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Like, you think I've got to do something about myself because I'm so ridiculous
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in the fact that I have not, you know, that I'm gaining weight or that I have
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not lost weight or whatever.
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And so coming from that place, coming from like a punishment mindset is amazing.
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One way that can really hinder you in your weight loss.
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And I've talked about this here multiple times, but, you know,
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just short, shortly, it's because like, we are going to get off track.
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We are going to overeat. We are going to, you know, miss our workout or whatever.
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Like we are going to do something in our attempts to lose weight that may be
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viewed as like a failure or may be viewed as, you know, we messed up, right?
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And so if we are always coming at it from a punishment, if we've like,
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if you started this journey from a punishment mindset, you are just going to
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be that it's just going to be that much more of a struggle to get back into it, right?
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You are going to know how to talk to yourself in the worst ways and shame yourself
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in the worst ways when you have already been like trying to lose weight from
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a stance of really from shame in general, like from punishment, right?
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And so flipping your thinking, okay, instead of things like I didn't do it right,
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I was bad, I don't need to eat this, I shouldn't have had that, okay?
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Flip it to I'm enjoying this, I can do this, I'm worth it, I'm not going to
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be perfect, I am a process of progress, okay?
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So it just flips your mindset instead of constantly obsessing over what we are
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doing wrong, you know, you begin to focus daily on the things that we're doing
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right so that when the mess up comes, we're going to be doing right.
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It's like it comes with a lighter, a lighter load. Like it's not so blunt.
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It doesn't hurt so bad. It doesn't feel so heavy, right? Because we have spoken
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these positive things about ourselves.
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And so it's not just like, oh, I messed up again. It's just like,
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whoop, that was just a blip.
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But this is what else I've done positive today.
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You know what I mean? So we are constantly in our program working on spinning our thinking that way.
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And it's not always easy, you know, especially with hormones and hard days and
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stuff. But just kind of keeping that at the forefront of your mind when you can.
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And remembering that like your body is not a problem to be solved.
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Okay, like it is not something we should be, you know, punishing ourselves now
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over because we didn't do as good of a job as we should have before,
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right? It's not a problem to be solved.
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It's not to be fixed. It's our most prized possession.
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Okay, we should be caring for our body and loving our body in the same way that
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we care for and love our children, our home, our husbands, anything else that
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we consider that we cherish, right?
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And so you cannot love your body while punishing it. Like you just can't,
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okay? Mentally or physically.
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You cannot cherish a body that you're constantly thinking negative about and trying to fix, right?
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And so just keeping that in mind as you go throughout your weight loss attempts.
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Like, are you trying to fix something that you view as broken?
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Or are you trying to better care for something that you value,
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you know, that that has done so much for you, you know, and you're just trying
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to show the love to it, because it has done hard work for you, right?
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And so just remembering, like, success never should equal suffering.
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Like, and that's something so that is so funny, like the world has made us think
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that, like, to become the CEO, you have to neglect your family and,
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you know, never make the Sunday night dinners and be working on the weekends
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and never have an hour off.
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And like, you know, I don't want to be the CEO if that's what that means, y'all.
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Success does not equal suffering, okay?
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Because no one is, I mean, maybe in like the, you know, Fortune 500 kind of
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company world, like, I don't know.
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But for weight loss specific, success does not equal suffering. Okay.
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We want to come alongside ourselves, right? We want to be like encouragers.
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We want to enjoy the journey because no one is standing at the end of your weight
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loss journey, giving out a medal for who tortured themselves the best, right?
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And that's why so many people get to the end, right? They torture themselves.
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They struggle. They suffer.
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To say they did it, to say they lost the weight that, you know,
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so then they get to their goal weight and what do they do?
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They regain it all right back because, because that sucks.
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That's not like that. It was not an enjoyable thing. So then they think,
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okay, I need, I deserve, you know, I've, I've reached this goal.
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Now I deserve to, you know, reap this, all these benefits.
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I deserve to enjoy myself again. And so then they eat themselves silly,
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you know what I mean they go back to their old ways and so
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just remembering that like the best part
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of the journey should be in the journey so if
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you're making the journey miserable then something is wrong because it's like
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it takes time right to truly embody who we want to become and if you stay so
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focused on the finish line that
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you aren't like even in tune with with how miserable you are right now.
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You know you're going to torture yourself until either you give
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up along the way or you get to the finish line and you're like
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okay now let me go back to like actually enjoying my life you
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know and that's when the weight regain happens so I know this one was a little
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heavier today and again I'm asking for all the grace y'all because I really
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I do not mean to mean to offend anybody but I also do mean to like like call
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it down you know what I mean because I think I think personally,
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Satan is using desperation to ruin us as women.
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Like we are desperate to be better mothers, better wives, better,
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you know, better employees, you know, better looking, better whatever.
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And so we are making irrational, like sometimes scary, sometimes very regretful
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decisions out of this desperation.
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And so I think, you know, it is on us to seek the Lord first in and then really
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just take our time to make sure we've got the clarity about any decision that we make.
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So with that, I hope you guys have a wonderful day. And as always,
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y'all remember to say grace.
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