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Romeo In The Morning 4-28-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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Speaker 1: I was going on this, Romeo, what do we get
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into today? A guy said he tried to help his
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wife out because she was having a rough day to
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make dinner and she got mad at him. And another
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guy said, he pays one hundred percent of the bills
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and his wife, uh won't make him dinner. All he
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wants is a hot meal when he gets off work.
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Go see what happens. I got to tell you guys something,
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and I just, man, when are you guys gonna learn?
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A friend of mine, so he got divorced. It's been
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over two years since he's gotten divorced, right, and didn't
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work out. Him and his wife were married for like
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ten years, didn't go It didn't work out. I think
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he cheated first and she cheated second. So it just
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was never, you know, never gonna work out. And he's complaining.
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He's still complaining. Two years after divorce. He's still blaming
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his wife and complaining and saying, well, I wouldn't have cheated.
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She would have done this, and she would have done that.
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And first of all, after two years, get over it. God,
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I mean, divorce happens, and it seems to be very
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it seems to be more and more common nowadays. But
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at a certain point, get over it. You know, it
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didn't work out. I'm sorry, it's it's it's and it's
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kind of rough to say that, right, Well, Roam, you
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never went through a divorce like you know, and there
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was this, There was that, and the trauma and the
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and the pain and the agony and the you know,
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the mental the mentally draining you know how it drains
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you mentally and this and that, Right, I get it.
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But at some point you have to realize that divorces
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failure on both of your parts, not just one. And
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you could you could all say, well, he cheated on
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me or she cheated on him, or whatever the case
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may be. But somehow it got to that point. Okay, Now,
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if you just married a cheater, Okay, I get it.
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You there was never gonna work in the first place
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because he was a cheater when you met or when
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you met her.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 1: I just heard the story the other day from a
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friend of mine. She was telling me a coworker was complaining,
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wasn't complaining, but cheated on her husband. Husband found out
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went out there. Now they're going through a divorce. And
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her explanation as well, that's just who I am. It's
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in my DNA because my mom was a cheater, and
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that's my aunt was a cheater, So we're just cheaters.
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So that's how she justified it to herself. Okay, so
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maybe that's a little bit different. I don't know, but
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it really is failure on both parts involved in the relationship. Okay.
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And you guys can say, well, you guys can look
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at the outcome or how you got there or what
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it is, Well, this is more wrong than that, so
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it's his fault or it's her fault. But the reality
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is it's failure on both your parts, and you guys
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need to get over it. I mean, it's just at
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a two years. I mean, this guy's been divorced for
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two years and he still complained about what she did
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and why it was her fault. I mean you should.
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You guys gotta understand you you're blamed. If you went
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through a divorce, you're partially to blame as well. Okay.
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And I'm not saying what the other party did wasn't important,
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wasn't worse, But I'm saying, is it got there somehow,
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So take some responsibility and move on. I just don't
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know how people can live like that, This guy, just
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how can you live like that? Already four two four
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or seven to seven? Already four two five, four seven
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to seven. Hey, Romeo, you're absolutely right about the divorce.
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I cheated on my wife three years ago. We got divorced,
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and she still blames me for our divorce to this
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day after three years, even though she won't admit that
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the reason I cheated was because of her hold on
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a second, that is not what I said. Okay, don't
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get me wrong. I mean, I'm not saying that one
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is worse than the other. Okay, what I'm saying, I'm
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not saying that her driving you to cheating in your
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mind and you cheating makes you right and her wrong.
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That is not at all what I'm saying. You're still
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wrong more so than she is wrong. Okay, you should
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have not cheated. But my point is she has some
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blame for your relationship that led you to cheating. That
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doesn't mean you were right, Okay, but it's you. Guys
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gotta stop, You gotta get over it, and you gotta
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just my gosh, three years so she's still complaining after
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three years. I mean, how happy? How unhappy are you?
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Accept accountability for your relationship not working and move on.
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You can't live life like that. That just does not
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sound fun at all. I mean, I have a couple
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of friends who are just still they're becoming worse people
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because of their divorce, yet they're still in relationships. I
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just don't know how that could be, how that's possible.
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They're just not happy people to be around. Just I
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don't know. And if you're just gonna blame somebody else
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when and you don't realize that a divorce is a
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failure on both parts, Yeah, you need to figure that out.
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Oh man, I was talking a little bit about divorce
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because I have some people in my life, some friends
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that are a couple of years out of their marriages,
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and they're just still blame their partners. And it's not
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just men, it's women too. Just move on after a
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few years. And what's even crazier is they're still they've
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they've moved on, they've got new girlfriends, and they've got
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new husbands or new wives, and they're still harboring bitterness
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about their ex, their their past marriage. And I guess,
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I guess you should you can still harbor it, I guess,
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But when you publicly tell people about it and complain
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about it. I mean, what does that say about you?
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I mean, you were you have fault in your divorce
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as well. No, it's not one sided. Okay. A marriage
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or a relationship not working out is not one person's fault.
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It's both person's fault, person's people's, it's both of your faults. Okay. Now,
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one the way it ends might be very dramatic, and
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you shouldn't have done it in that way. I mean,
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but if you just come home and say, hey, I
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want a divorce. I'm not happy with this, I'm not
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happy with that, and you're partner says well, I'm not
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going to change or we're not going okay, let's get
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divorced or I don't want to. I mean, it's the
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problem is somebody does something big to get a divorce.
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Somebody does something big, a big dramatic scene, and then
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now you're the bad guy, okay, whether you and usually
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it's cheating. Usually it's cheating already four two, seven to seven.
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But something led to that, and that that's the problem.
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You know, if you want to go cheat because your
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wife's not having sex with you, then just tell your
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wife you want a divorce and move on. You know,
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if you want to cheat because your husband spends more
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time at work or with his buddies than he does
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it with you, then just tell him you want to
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move on. But that's not how it normally works out.
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But there is a problem there, I mean on both parts,
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and I think a lot of you guys need to
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see that. And once you see that, you can move
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on from it, once you take some accountability. Already four
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two Bob for seven to seven in Romeo. Divorce is tough.
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It drained you mentally. My wife and I went through
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a three year divorce because she wanted all this money
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from me, which I didn't think she deserved, and it
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was just a battle and a drain. So I can
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see why people harbor bitterness over their partner, maybe not
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because of the relationship and the way it ended, but
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because the divorce is so draining mentally. Do you ever
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think about that?
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Speaker 3: No?
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Speaker 1: I didn't, but you could be right. You could be
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right already fourteen five, four or seven to seven? Wait,
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now what's going on? Hey, what's up?
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Speaker 4: So that's pretty crazy.
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Speaker 5: My brother got a divorced, okay, and so they moved
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out to Wisconsin because his ex had an opportunity to
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open up a new or where she works at.
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Speaker 4: And run it.
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Speaker 6: She did that, and then after that she had.
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Speaker 5: An opportunity to go to Texas to do the same thing,
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and she cheated on my brothers. She's now with that
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guy that she met. Moved back to Bakersfield, and now
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she's with him, and she's forcing my son or my
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brother's son to call him dad.
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Speaker 1: Wow.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, where go ahead?
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Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, where is your brother at here in Bakersfield?
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Speaker 6: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: And so did your brother go with her or stay
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here while.
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Speaker 7: They moved all the.
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Speaker 5: Way to Wisconsin?
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Speaker 7: They didn't move to Texas, gotcha?
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Speaker 5: So you know, he had to move back to Bakersfield.
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He had to sell the house that they you know, God,
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and all kinds of crazy stuff. It's wild the things
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that she's doing, and like how they moved all the
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way for Bakersfilt to Wisconsin.
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Speaker 7: It's wild.
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Speaker 6: And you know, like, well, I don't know.
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Speaker 4: She has the kids.
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Speaker 5: Calling him dad and all that. How is the kid
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one is twelve and the other one.
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Speaker 1: Do the kids know the difference or are they being brainwashed? Okay?
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Speaker 5: Okay, So yeah, because like custody battle. You know, so
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they have one week with their mother and then the
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next week.
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Speaker 2: With my brother. Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Sure, anytime they come back, they're like running to my
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dad or my brother.
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Speaker 4: No.
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Speaker 1: Unfortunately, unfortunately, your brother is just gonna have to wait
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it out. They'll they'll at certain point, probably in the
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next well I don't think they'll leave each other, but
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probably when they're gonna want to live with him before
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probably by the time their teens don't want to move
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in with your brother.
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Speaker 5: They don't even want to be there now.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, well I get it, but unfortunately, your brother's gonna
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have to wait this one out until they can make
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that decision exactly.
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Speaker 4: They do not.
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Speaker 5: Want to be with her at all.
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Speaker 1: That's hilarous. Well, I wonder why she won't give them up.
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I wonder what she what her deal is if they
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if she knows. I wonder what that's all about.
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Speaker 6: Mother.
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Speaker 5: She wants to look like she cares. And you know,
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when they are living in Wisconsin, she just abandoned everybody.
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Speaker 1: Oh well she is a cheater. So yeah, she is
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a cheater. So she's already looks bad.
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Speaker 8: Yep, exactly, you guys, just all right, she sent me
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here already four, two, five, four, seven to seven?
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Speaker 1: Yo? What do you got here? It says, hey, yo, Rome.
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As for my divorce, I had continuously spoke to my
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ex wife about stuff I had issues with her. She
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would repair the issues temporarily, maybe a week or two
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tops i'd ended up. I did end up cheating, and
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I should have just left her, but didn't just because
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I had hopes she would change. But never did I
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know that. I know what I did was wrong, but
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she should have been. She shouldn't have been surprised that
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we ended in divorce. She is the one who initiated
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the divorce, and till this day, she still isn't over
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it and weaponizes my kids. To me, it's been four
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years she's been in and out of relationships, and I'm
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just cool by my well being lonely, Which brings me
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to my question for you. She's brought over eight guys
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around my kids, as in, she's moved in and out
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of eight plus guys into her into her apartment. What
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do you think about that? I've only brought one woman
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around my kids, and it was a serious relationship, but
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that ended and haven't brought anyone around my kids. Do
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you think I should be more open or is she
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overdoing That's a very good question. She's probably overdoing it.
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It's probably messing with the kids when she does that.
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I mean, you can't just move men in and out,
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you know you can't. You probably shouldn't just be moving
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multiple men in and out of your house. That probably
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does not bode well for the kids. I'm just guessing.
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I'm sure the kids are a little a little confused,
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depending on how old they are and what age. But yeah,
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so there you go. I like how you said though
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you always blame her, told her she needed to change.
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You ever think that maybe you needed to change as
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well in some manner. So yeah, your story sounds kind
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of like a typical Bakersfield Hallmark story right there. M
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What did you send me here already? Four two, five,
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four or seven to seven? Hey? Rome, can you help
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me understand this? Yesterday I'm at work. My wife calls
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me from her job talking about what a rough day
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she's having, how hard it's been, she's tired, she's frustrated.
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So I take off work a little bit early. You
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know what, I will say this, sometimes there's too much
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and I haven't finished reading this, but I'm sometimes there's
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too much communication. If you were at work and you
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get a call from your spouse telling you how messed
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up their day is, and you're trying to get through
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your day, he's supposed to handle that anyway. So okay,
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I go pick up dinner for us and the kids
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so she doesn't have to do anything. When she gets home,
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she shows up, I got dinner ready. She's mad at me.
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She had pulled out some meat that she was gonna cook.
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So now I'm the bad guy for getting dinner and
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ruining her dinner plans. I was just trying to help
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her out room. Was I wrong? No, know, you're not wrong.
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I mean, why would you be wrong. She's talking about
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what a rough day she's having, how she's frustrated and
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blah blah blah, and so you try to do what
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you can to help. You know, I'm gonna give this
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guy credit, because you know how women always get mad
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when you try to solve their problems for them. He
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could have just as easily tried to solve her rough
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day at work with whatever she was frustrated with at
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her job, but instead he just said, you know what,
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let me go hander dinner for us and the kids
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so that she has one less thing to deal with,
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and then she comes home mad at you. No, you
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didn't do anything wrong. She was just being and jackass.
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I mean, she just took out her rough day on you.
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And I'll be honest with you. If I were you,
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I would never make dinner again. I would never buy
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dinner again. I would never make dinner again. She should
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have kept her mouth shut, put the meat in refrigerator,
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and just enjoyed the fact that you tried to do
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something to less than the stress of her day. Is
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what you should have is what she should have done.
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So No, she was one hundred percent wrong, and I'm
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just telling you I would never help her out again,
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just for the mere fact that she did that to you.
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All right, two for seven to seven send me this.
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I thought it was kind of funny, he said a roam.
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I was hoping you can help me understand. So yesterday
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I'm at work. My wife calls me from her job
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talking about what a rough day she's having, how hard
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it is, she's tired, she's frustrated. So I take a
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I get off work a little bit early to go
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pick up dinner for us and the kids. So she
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doesn't have to do anything. When she gets home, she's mad.
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She's mad at me. She had pulled out some meat
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that she was gonna cook. So now I'm the bad
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guy for getting dinner and ruining her dinner plans. I
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was just trying to help. Rom Was I wrong? No,
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you weren't wrong. Of course you're not wrong. I could
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be wrong for trying to help. I'm like that meat
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can't sit one more day, but you pulled out some
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of me. You can't have it what happened yesterday when
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you can't have it today? I mean, what? Why would
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you be wrong? Already? Four two four or seven to seven? Hey, Romeo,
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tell that guy he has to understand what his wife
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is doing as a mother of two and a wife.
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When I get home, I have dinner plans ready to go.
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So when I pull out food to make when I
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get home for everybody, it is frustrating when nobody wants
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to eat it. Well, he didn't say nobody wanted to
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eat it. He just said he was trying to help
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her out so she didn't have to cook, so he
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provided dinner. What is wrong with you cannot honestly sit
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here and say that this guy was wrong for trying
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to make his wife's day a little easier. He can't
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be that dumb, There's no way in hell. I mean,
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that's just her being the jackass. She had a rough
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day at work, came home, took it out on him.
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That's all. It was thirty four, two, five four or
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seven to seven, all right, this is just too funny, man.
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I mean, the guy says that. This is what the
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guy sent me. He said. He says, his wife called
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him right at work yesterday and she was talking about
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her job. It was she was having a rough day,
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she was frustrated, she was tired. So I guess he
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got off work early, so he was gonna pick up
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dinner for everybody, for the kids and everybody, so she
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didn't have to do dinner. When she gets home, she
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sews up for dinner. She sews up. I got dinner
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ready already. She's mad at me. She pulled out some
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meat that she was gonna cook. So now I'm a
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bad guy for getting dinner and ruining her plans. I
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was just trying to help out Roam. What do you
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think was I wrong for that? No, you weren't. She
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was just me in a jackass. I mean, there's no
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other way to say it already four two five, four
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seven to seven. Hey, Rome, that's why these women in
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Bakersfield can't find a good man, and they're always complaining
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that good men don't exist because when a guy does
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something for him like that, they got to get pissed
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off because it wasn't their way. Well, I don't know
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if that's true, but yeah, I mean, obviously she had
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a bad day at work, so she went and took
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it out on her family on her husband called him
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at worked to complain. Then when he tried to do
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something nice for her to make her day easier, she
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got mad at him. Bro, I hope she's a good woman.
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I don't know what to tell you already. Four two five,
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four seven to seven. Hey Rome, Uh, hey, Roam, it
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is his fault. If his wife had plans for dinner already,
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he should have called her and asked her if it
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was okay for him to do that so it didn't
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mess up what she had going on at home. Um No,
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that's just stupid. That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. Maybe maybe you're right.
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That's why these women in Bakersfield are always complaining they
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can't find a good man because when a good man
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does good stuff for him, they act like jackasses. Maybe
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you're right already four two five, four, seven to seven.
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So check out what happened to this dude, This poor
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guy man. I feel bad for him. I hope his
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wife doesn't treat him like this all the time. He says, Rome,
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Maybe you can help me out, help me understand what this. Yesterday,
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I'm at work, my wife calls me her job, from
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her job, talking about what a rough day she's having,
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how hard it's been, she's tired, she's frustrated. So I
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take off work a little bit early, pick up dinner
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for us and the kids so she doesn't have to
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do anything. When she gets home, she's dinner's ready. She's
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mad at me. She had to, she says, she pulled
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out some meat that was she was gonna cook. So
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now I'm the bad guy. I ruined her dinner plans. Well,
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did you really or is she just trying to be
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a jackass and take out her bad day on you?
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Because it's like what that met can't sit one more day,
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can't make it today? I mean, what is it bad?
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And who cares? You know? Sometimes I'm just gonna tell
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you this. Sometimes when somebody does something for you, you need
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to just shut up and be appreciative. Okay. Sometimes you
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need to just say thank you and go about your day,
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not good, not be mad because you had something else.
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Obviously your husband did not know that, so all you
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had to do was not say anything, be appreciative, and
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make the make whatever you're gonna do today. Okay. People
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do that all the time. They do it with flowers
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a lot. Hear these, Oh they're flowers, you bought me flowers,
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or they're just gonna die. Or people do stuff your spouse.
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You do stuff for your spouse, and instead of just
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being appreciative, they have to make some snide remark about
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it already four two five four or seven to seven, Yo, Rome,
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I agree with you, Rome, Well appreciate it, Yo, Rome.
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The chick had a rough day at work because her
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work husband didn't bring her coffee and donuts. She's just selfish. Yeah, Bro,
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I would have been uh yeah, poor guy. I feel
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bad for you, Bro, I mean I really do. Your
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wife was just being a jerk, you know. I hope
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she's not always like that. Hopefully this is just I'm hoping,
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because you asked me about it, that this is just
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an odd day, you know, an off day, that this
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is not a regular occurrence, because if it is, bro
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you got to get a new wife. I mean, and
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I would tell you again, don't ever in your life
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make dinner buy dinner for her ever again. I'll ever
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try to help her out again if she's going to
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treat you like that. I was telling me that his
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wife called him at work and apparently, if she's having
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a rough day, she was tired, frustrated, so he thought
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he'd try to help out him a little bit. He
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gets off work a little bit early, goes and picks
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up dinner for the kids and everybody, and apparently when
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she got home she was mad about it. Excuse me,
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she was mad because she had pulled out some meat
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that she was going to cook, which how old is
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your wife, by the way, who pulls out meat every day?
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That's just weird. I don't mean people still did that,
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but okay, So he was just asking me what I
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thought about it. He was just trying to help out
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and be nice, and apparently, you know what I think
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is she had a rough day, and I think that
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she took it out on you, and I think that's terrible.
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Already four two, five, four or seven to seven, h room,
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I think you're right. I think she just had a
23:53
rough day and took it out on her husband. That's
23:57
unfortunate that women act like that. I used to do
24:02
that with my husband when he was just trying to
24:04
help me. It took me a little while, but I
24:06
finally learned just to kind of just to kind of
24:10
understand what he's doing. Well. Is trying to help you wrong?
24:16
That text message kind of made it sound like trying
24:18
to help you was wrong. Can you help in the
24:21
wrong way like that? I guess already? Fourteen five more
24:25
seven to seven. Hey, Romeo, I was just listening to
24:29
you talk about the guy who was trying to help
24:30
out his wife with dinner. You are absolutely right when
24:35
you say you need to just keep your mouth shut
24:39
at times with your wife or with your husband. Sometimes
24:42
they're trying to do something nice for you and you
24:44
just need to accept it, be happy and appreciative and
24:48
let it go. I do a lot of work out
24:50
in the garage and my wife always comes out to
24:53
help me. My wife knows how to take an hour
24:56
job and turn it into a four hour mess. But
24:59
yet I never say a word. I just let her
25:02
help because it makes her feel good and it makes
25:05
her happy. More more spouse, more, oh more, spouses need
25:11
to understand that, Yeah, maybe you're right, Maybe you're right.
25:15
There's a I mean, sometimes you're in the way, sometimes
25:18
you're helping. But I guess if they're trying, then why
25:21
not Morning Mountain's going on?
25:24
Speaker 2: Morning Romeo, Hey on that that lady they got to
25:27
her what her husband about was the dinner?
25:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was dinner.
25:31
Speaker 2: Have you ever seen anybody at word get upset? That's
25:34
tacked to lunch and supervisor surprise. The men said, hey,
25:37
I'm buying you guys, have anybody get up? I've never
25:43
seen somebody I'm not going to eat today. I brought
25:47
lunch from home. Right, you're being a jackass, You're you
25:54
know what I mean?
25:57
Speaker 1: Would you send me here? Hey Romeo, that happened to me?
26:01
Oh about the guy in the dinner, Hey roam that
26:04
what happened was the guy said that his wife called frustrated,
26:06
tired at work about by bringing dinner home for everybody.
26:10
When she got home, dinner was ready and she was
26:12
mad at him. He was a bad guy because she
26:14
had pulled out some meat she was gonna cook. So
26:17
uh yeah, so he was the bad guy. What's this, hey, Rome?
26:21
What happened to me? I remember getting up early one
26:23
Saturday morning to make my kids and wife a nice,
26:26
good breakfast, and I gave all of them their plates
26:31
in their room so it'd be like breakfast in bed.
26:33
Everyone was happy, except for my wife. She told me
26:35
she doesn't need breakfast like that. So never again did
26:39
I make her a plate. If I cook, I give
26:41
the kids food, but I never handed her a plate.
26:45
I left food on the pot or skillet, so if
26:47
she wanted to eat, she can go get her own.
26:51
My kids like it when I cook. They say I
26:54
cook better than their mom. I mean, yeah, at least
27:01
you figured it out. I mean it just and now
27:04
she probably complains you never do anything for her, right,
27:07
I mean the idea that sometimes, I mean sometimes a spouse,
27:14
a partner, you just need to be appreciative when actually
27:17
just a human being, if somebody does something for you,
27:20
just be appreciative that they thought of you, or just
27:23
be appreciative that they were trying to help you. Stop
27:26
being a jackass. You know you don't have to say.
27:29
If somebody buys you a gift and you don't like it,
27:32
you don't have to say you don't like it, just
27:33
say thank you. You don't have to use it, you
27:36
don't have to Just that's it.
27:38
Speaker 2: You know.
27:38
Speaker 1: The stupidity behind the idea that you need to make
27:42
some snide remark or some comment every time shouldn't get
27:47
you punched in the face, to be perfectly honest with you,
27:50
because it's just absolutely ridiculous. I mean, somebody's trying to
27:55
do something for you. You know. It's funny, though, is
28:03
this guy was talking about breakfast, making breakfast for his
28:05
wife and she says she don't do it like that
28:07
or eat it like that in bed or whatever. I bet,
28:12
I bet she does all kinds of stuff behind his back,
28:15
not like a a cheating way, just you know, all right, Wow,
28:24
it amazes me, you people, It just amazes me already
28:28
four two, five, four or seven seven. It's okay to
28:32
just say thank you. It is okay to do that,
28:36
just so you know. Yeah, this text message, poor guy.
28:38
I feel bad for him, but I did think of
28:40
a solution, says ro Maybe you can help me understand this. Yesterday,
28:44
I'm at work. My wife calls calls me from her job,
28:47
talking about what a rough day she's having, how hard
28:50
it's been, she's tired, she's frustrated. So I take off
28:52
work a little bit earlier. I go pick up dinner
28:54
for us and the kids. She doesn't have to so
28:57
she doesn't have to do anything when she gets home.
28:59
She shows up for dinner. She shows at home, dinner's ready.
29:02
She's mad at me. She pulled out some meat that
29:05
she was gonna cook, So I'm the bad guy for
29:08
getting dinner and ruining her dinner plans. What do you
29:11
think Rome? Was I wrong? No, you were wrong. But
29:16
I'm gonna tell you what you do tonight. This is
29:18
what you do. Okay. You know that meat that she
29:21
pulled out that she didn't get to cook last night,
29:26
Let her cook it tonight and you take the kids
29:29
out to dinner. Leave her at home. She can eat
29:32
her she can eat the dinner that she had planned
29:35
to cook last night, and you take the kids out
29:39
to dinner tonight. Leave her ass at home, because she's
29:45
just being the jackass at that point. That's all she
29:47
was doing, was just taking out her bad day and
29:49
her frustrations on you and yeah, leave her at home
29:54
with her dinner tonight. And when she said, hey, rome
29:56
I swear your freaking life. I love your advice. Okay, well,
30:05
thank you. You know, it's kind of funny that you
30:10
said that, by the way, because somebody just asked me
30:13
that the other day. I was having a conversation with
30:15
someone and they were like, hey, Romeo, I remember that.
30:17
You know. They were talking about listening to the show
30:19
and they heard me say something to some woman or
30:21
some dude or something like, how can you say that
30:23
to people? And well, I mean, and it's not it's
30:28
not difficult. My advice is not groundbreaking. My advice is
30:33
what every single one of you were thinking. It's just
30:38
women can say whatever they want to a man. A
30:40
woman could go home right now and tell her husband
30:43
he's fat, and he has to accept that, okay with
30:48
no she has no accountability to that. If a man
30:52
goes home and tells his wife she's fat, oh my god,
30:56
all hell is gonna break loose. He's a horrible individual.
30:58
It just it's the hypocrisy of men and women. So
31:04
the reason I say that is I can tell you
31:07
I can say something too. When somebody texts me, or said,
31:12
the guy knows his wife's crazy for doing that, but
31:16
he can't tell her that. I can tell her that, though,
31:19
because I'm not trying to sleep with her. That's really
31:22
That's how simple this show has been My whole life.
31:25
My whole show is I'm not trying to sleep with you,
31:29
So if you're acting like a jackass, I can tell
31:33
you you're being a jackass. And she was being a jackass.
31:37
Now he can't tell her that because well, he's the
31:41
bad guy. But let's be honest. Just as much as
31:45
you want to blame men for their faults, you women
31:49
have faults too. Why do you think so many guys
31:54
text me about what their wives are doing or what
31:57
their girlfriends are doing, they can't tell him they're wrong.
32:04
And I hate to burst your bubble, ladies, but you
32:08
are wrong also. And I know you don't think you
32:12
are because your husband doesn't tell you. But he's still
32:15
trying to have sex with you, so he's not going
32:18
to tell you. That's why I have to tell you.
32:22
He wants to tell you, but he can't, so he
32:26
calls me and then I tell you. I mean, he
32:30
hopes you listen, and the reality is you listen and
32:33
then you just get mad at me. But he feels
32:35
better about his life. It's a pretty simple process. But
32:41
I hate to you know when you a lot of
32:45
you women out there are very are very entitled because
32:48
your husband has never put you in check when you've
32:50
done something stupid. So you think you're never wrong. Well
32:54
you're wrong more than you think. All Right, let's see here,
32:59
Hey Romeo, I make one hundred percent of the household income.
33:04
I'll ask my stay at home wife to do. Oh
33:09
all I ask my stay at home wife to do
33:11
is have dinner ready when I come home. She always
33:13
gets upset while cooking and purposely starts dinner twenty to
33:17
thirty minutes after I get home. The catch is my
33:21
son eats a different dinner before I get home. What
33:26
are your thoughts on this situation?
33:36
Speaker 9: Wow?
33:37
Speaker 1: Let me go two ways with this one, and I'm
33:39
gonna go I'm gonna kind of go both sides of it. Okay,
33:43
is are you telling her telling somebody to do something
33:51
is wrong? You know you can't tell another adult what
33:55
to do. Okay, but you're saying you're asking, so if
34:01
it's a legitimate I'm just you know, you stay at home.
34:04
I just asked her to have dinner ready. Um, I
34:10
think she's being a jackass, and I think she's doing
34:12
it on purpose for whatever insecurities that she has. There
34:21
are a thousand women listening to this radio show right
34:24
now that would love to be in that position that
34:27
all they have to do is cook dinner, is have
34:30
dinner ready. That's their main responsibility, stay at home all
34:33
day and have dinner ready. I mean, your wife seems
34:37
to be doing I mean, I don't know what the
34:40
power dynamic is in your relationship, considering you make all
34:43
the money. She's a stay at home wife, But I
34:46
mean do you give her money? Does she need to
34:47
ask you for money? How does that work? Also, if
34:51
you're just well you just said, all I ask is
34:53
that she has dinner ready when you come home. I mean,
34:55
that's not too much to ask for a stay at
34:58
home wife, you know. So yeah, I think that I
35:04
think she's doing it on purpose, just to try to
35:07
prove a point to make herself feel better. But like
35:13
I said, man, there's thousand women listening right now that
35:16
would sign up for that today. All I gotta do
35:19
is make dinner for a man that's going to go
35:21
to work every day, and I don't you know, I mean,
35:24
you got a lot of different types of women out there.
35:26
There are women that like to go to work every day,
35:28
that like to make their own money. There are women
35:30
that like to raise kids and stay at home and
35:34
you know, make dinner. You know, it's it's much easier
35:41
to to find a woman that wants what you want
35:47
than it is to try to convert one, you know
35:50
what I'm saying. So it's kind of bs, But I
36:01
don't know. Here's the man. It's just relationships are so difficult,
36:06
and the problem is the only women that are gonna
36:11
stay loyal to a man are staying loyal to the
36:16
man with money they don't want to They're staying loyal
36:18
to their lifestyle. They're not staying loyal to the man.
36:20
They're staying loyal to their lifestyle. So they will do
36:23
what they have to do to not lose their lifestyle. Okay,
36:28
But all the other regular relationships where both of you working,
36:33
both of you, you know, there's so many other options
36:35
out there that there's no reason to be loyal to that.
36:38
There's no reason to be respectful of your there's no
36:41
reason to be respectful of your marriage because she can
36:46
find that again. She can find that tomorrow, you know,
36:49
with the Internet and social media and with all these
36:52
other things. Probably guys hitting on her right now, but
36:54
I mean, you can find all that tomorrow. Fear might
36:58
keep you in a relationship because you're afraid of being alone.
37:01
But I don't, I don't. I don't see the society
37:06
going that way, you know. So she can do whatever
37:09
she wants to you, even though because you you bring
37:13
home all the income, because well, one, if she divorces,
37:16
you shall take half your income. Second, if she, you know,
37:21
decides she doesn't have to do anything because well why
37:25
should she. She can take half your income, or she
37:27
can just go find another version of you somewhere else,
37:31
getting on a dating site. So the only women that
37:35
are loyal, and they're not loyal to men, They're loyal
37:38
to their lifestyle. It's just we live in a different world, man.
37:43
It doesn't exist anymore. This whole idea of people being
37:47
together forever doesn't exist anymore, you know, unfortunately. But hey,
37:54
it's a good sign for you too though, you know. So, Yeah,
37:59
that's my thought on that's the situation. This guy send me.
38:01
This is what this guy send me okay, and I
38:03
want you guys to keep it into perspective. Hey, roam,
38:06
I make one hundred percent of the household income. All
38:08
I ask my stay at home wife to do is
38:10
have dinner ready when I come home. She always gets
38:12
upset while cooking and purposely starts dinner twenty to thirty
38:15
minutes after I get home. The catches. My son eats
38:18
a different dinner before I get home. What are your
38:21
thoughts on that? I think. I just want to tell
38:24
you guys something okay, and I want you guys to
38:28
be honest. You don't have to put up with it.
38:33
You guys, do not have to put up with a
38:36
woman who you don't get your wants and needs met from.
38:42
Everybody has the conversation, honey, if she sits with her girlfriends,
38:48
girlfriends will convince their other friends that you don't need
38:52
that man. You don't need to put up with that man.
38:54
You don't need this, You don't need that. You should
38:57
never do that. Well, guys, that go the same way
39:00
for you. If you're not happy in your marriage and
39:04
you only ask a couple of things out of your wife,
39:08
then leave. Don't be so scared. I mean finding a
39:13
new woman in this world is simple. It's really that easy.
39:17
It's not complicated. Unless you are a one hundred percent
39:21
narcissistic jackass, you can still find a woman to go
39:26
out with you. Okay, it's not that complicated. But if
39:31
women can tell each other, you don't need to deal
39:33
with his bs. Guys, you don't need to deal with
39:36
her bs. There is another woman. If truly, if this
39:40
guy all he asks of his wife is to make dinner,
39:44
let me show you. Hey, good morning Rome. Let him
39:47
know I won't mind having dinner ready while I stay
39:50
at home for him. I can make different cultural cuisines.
39:56
But that's real. That is real. Some women don't want
40:04
to go to work, and making dinner for them is easy.
40:07
That's all I got to do is make dinner. I
40:10
don't know already four two five, four seven seven, But
40:13
you guys need to understand, and you do not need
40:15
to put up with it. Gornian Hot, what's going on?
40:19
Speaker 4: Well, you know, darn well, that's not the only thing
40:22
he asked her to do. I'm pretty sure that he
40:26
wants the house clean, the dishes clean, the kids, taking
40:29
care of the laundry clean.
40:31
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you may be right. I don't know. I
40:34
don't know, I don't know.
40:38
Speaker 4: And I do have one particular friend who fiance is,
40:43
who's the father of her early child. It's on my
40:45
damn nerves with the stuff that he asks for her,
40:48
Like he wants the house deep clean, and dinner deed
40:51
and grocery done, and the kids taking care of But
40:54
if you have a little boy who's very active, it's
40:57
hard to do all those things when you're at home
40:59
with your kids alone. Taking care of the households a
41:02
whole job in itself.
41:05
Speaker 1: Well, all agree with you about the kid throwing a
41:09
wrinkle in it. But being as everybody was single at
41:14
one point living in their homes who took care of
41:17
their homes. Uh huh, that's all I'm saying. I had
41:24
a house and was single, and I took care of
41:26
all of it. So yeah, that's me.
41:28
Speaker 4: Like I take care of my house. I'm a single parent,
41:31
and I take care of my kid in the house
41:32
and my job everything else. But it's like for a
41:35
man to say, like all of that's the only thing
41:37
I asked of her. No, he's just showing faith for
41:40
the radio. That's not the only thing he asked for her.
41:42
Speaker 7: Okay, and he's.
41:43
Speaker 4: And it's no.
41:44
Speaker 6: It's not a lot to ask, But if.
41:46
Speaker 4: Their kid is on a separate diet that he needs
41:48
to have a special meal, then she should make his
41:51
meal when she's making her usbands. That way, he just
41:53
pop it in the oven when he gets home.
41:55
Speaker 1: Okay, A fair enough. You're calling him by I mean,
42:01
I don't know he just you're right. Maybe he's saving
42:04
face for the for the radio. I don't know what
42:08
this guy says. It's kind of a funny thing. He says, Hey, Rome,
42:11
I make one hundred percent of my household. I make
42:12
one hundred percent of the household income. All I ask
42:15
my stay at home wife to do is have dinner
42:17
ready when I come home. She always gets upset while
42:20
cooking and purposely starts dinner twenty to thirty minutes after
42:23
I get home. The catches. My son eats a different
42:26
dinner before I get home. What are your thoughts on
42:29
the situation? Well, I think that she's doing it on
42:31
purpose despite you, for some reason. Would you sit here, Hey, Rome,
42:37
she doesn't love him. You might be right, I mean,
42:43
she might not love you. But the thing about it is,
42:45
you guys got to understand you don't. You don't have
42:47
to put up with it. I mean, you don't. I know, you, guys,
42:51
I don't know why men feel they have to put
42:54
up with something they don't want and then when somebody
42:58
does say I don't want this and they leave, they're
43:02
the bad guy. You know you. Women are not all
43:05
angels and perfect. Okay, you have problems and flaws and
43:13
I don't know, man, you guys got to start recognizing
43:15
that rolling out a rome. Relationships don't last anymore Rome
43:20
because everyone has their own idea of unconditional love. Unconditional
43:26
love is one of the worst justifications for a relationship.
43:32
I don't believe in that. We'll talk about it in
43:36
a minute. Good morning. How what's going on for me?
43:39
Speaker 2: I think these women these days are just lazy.
43:41
Speaker 1: Me on. I don't think they're lazy. I think they're entitled,
43:45
and I think they're I think, well, I think a
43:50
lot of people are entitled feel entitled today, so when
43:53
they come to their relationships, they feel that they're owed
43:56
more than their giving. And yeah that most.
44:01
Speaker 9: Of them don't even know how to cook them.
44:03
Speaker 2: Well, it's lady, they stop trying.
44:05
Speaker 1: It's not about cooking. It's just about the fact that
44:09
you if you and I were in a relationship, David,
44:12
I felt like you owed me more than I'm actually
44:14
giving you back in return. That's where the problem really lies.
44:18
I think it's people feel they deserve more than they
44:22
actually do.
44:23
Speaker 9: I miss the old days in teen twenty the what
44:28
I missed the old days, back back in the days
44:30
when they had to listen, when they have to about
44:32
down to us.
44:33
Speaker 1: Oh, now they want.
44:34
Speaker 2: To argue, and they feel entitled, like you said.
44:37
Speaker 1: But I do what I think, it's not at all
44:44
what I'm saying. But when you start to feel entitled
44:48
to something that you don't deserve, that's what the problem.
44:53
That's where the problem comes in relationships today. Okay, I mean,
44:58
have you ever met he probably I'm going to give
45:02
you an example of this. Have you've ever met an
45:04
older woman who got up and made breakfast for her
45:07
husband for thirty years while he worked, and then the
45:10
minute he retires, she's like, I'm not doing that anymore,
45:14
or she picks it, she decides when she's not gonna
45:17
do that anymore. So now he's on his own, Like
45:21
stay at home wives do that. This idea of entitlement
45:26
that we live in right now, with well the internet
45:30
and everything else that makes you feel like you need
45:32
to give to get. I don't care what you say.
45:37
You're not entitled to anything. You need to get what
45:42
you give. If you give somebody respect, they need to
45:45
give you respect back. It's that simple. So back to
45:51
the unconditional love thing. You know, unconditional love is a
45:55
justification for you to put up with things you shouldn't
45:59
or you don't have to. Well, if you love me,
46:03
you do this. Well, if you love me, you wouldn't
46:05
ask me to do that. We could find a way
46:07
where we both get what we want. But all of
46:10
these people today feel entitled to something. I'm owed something
46:16
from you even though I'm giving you nothing. Is that
46:21
a way for a marriage to work? So a guy
46:25
was saying he makes one hundred percent of his income
46:28
and all he asks of his wife is to make
46:30
dinner when he comes home, to have dinner ready when
46:32
he gets home, she says, he says, she doesn't do it,
46:35
she gets mad. Twenty to thirty minutes later, she'll start
46:38
it or do it. And what do I think? I
46:41
think that she's doing it out of spite for whatever reason.
46:43
But also in turn, you're accepting it and staying there
46:46
for it. I mean, when does she with your son?
46:53
I mean, I don't know. I just you guys have
46:55
to start understanding that you don't have to accept what
46:58
these women do in the same way that women don't
47:01
have to accept what you do. And at least their
47:04
friends will tell them. I'm telling you as a friend
47:06
for all you guys, if you're not excited or happy
47:09
with what's going on in your marriage, then you can
47:13
just as easy walk out of it. There's nothing wrong
47:16
with that if you're not. And some things are some
47:21
things you'll accept, but some things you want. If you're
47:24
going to work ten hours a day and all you
47:26
want is a dinner all you want, and then that's
47:29
truly all you want is dinner, then there's thousands of
47:34
women in Bakersfield that are willing to do that, thousands
47:38
that would love to stay at home, not have to
47:40
go to the grind every day and take care of
47:45
you at dinner time. It's that simple already, four two, five, four,
47:50
seven to seven, Hey, roam, she must not be a
47:53
Mexican stay at home mom at a young age. Day
47:56
install you make sure your husband has a warm plate
48:00
as soon as you see his car pull up that driveway,
48:04
even when you guys are mad at each other. But
48:07
what's the option? I mean, isn't that for those people
48:12
that want to live in what we would call a
48:15
traditional marriage, an old school marriage. What are you going
48:21
to do all that? You want him to go to
48:22
work all day and then come home and make dinner.
48:27
What are you doing? What are you contributing to that relationship?
48:32
You know? I don't know, I mean, I don't know.
48:36
The problem is things have got so convoluted with relationships
48:42
over the last thirty years, with the Internet, with social media,
48:45
with dating apps, with this idea of entitlement, and it's
48:49
just not that's going down the wrong path.
48:53
Speaker 6: Now.
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying one person needs to go to work
48:55
and one person needs to stay home. That's not at
48:57
all what I'm saying. I'm just saying that I think
49:01
most people in there, I'll feel like they are owed
49:05
more than their spouse. He owes me, she owes me
49:10
for what I do? Well, okay, what does she do?
49:15
What does he do? Already? Four two, five, four or
49:17
seven to seven. So a guy was telling me he
49:22
need one hundred percent of the income right, all he
49:25
asked his wife is for dinner when he gets home.
49:28
It's what he has said. Okay, you can believe him
49:30
or not. He says, it doesn't happen, she'll be mad
49:35
about it. Cook twenty to thirty minutes later. And what
49:38
do you think already? Four? Two, five, four, seven to seven?
49:41
Good morning? How what's going on?
49:42
Speaker 4: Good morning, Romeo? How are you doing today?
49:44
Speaker 1: I am doing absolutely fantastic sport.
49:49
Speaker 3: I am a stay at home like I stay home.
49:52
Speaker 6: We got married.
49:53
Speaker 3: You've got married almost twenty five years since you got married.
49:56
Speaker 6: I have not worked.
49:58
Speaker 4: I stay home crazy.
50:00
Speaker 3: He comes home to a clean house Monday through Friday and.
50:05
Speaker 7: The laundry done, dinner done every time.
50:08
Speaker 3: Every time he comes home, dinner is done. So before
50:13
a couple of maybe two times ago, we started eating
50:15
in the living room, and.
50:16
Speaker 2: Then I realized we don't talk.
50:18
Speaker 3: We're shitting down because it's just day me him.
50:21
Speaker 7: We're shitting down watching.
50:22
Speaker 3: Movies at eating, but we're not conversating. I said, okay,
50:25
we gotta sucking this, so now we sit up the
50:28
table now.
50:29
Speaker 6: But he just talked about work, and I'm like, oh
50:31
my god, I want to go back in the living.
50:33
Speaker 3: Room and not come on, I'm interested, but truly I
50:37
can give. Yeah, we still sit there and we still conversate.
50:43
But I realized, he doesn't ask you about my day.
50:45
I asked ny to ask them everything, and then he
50:49
doesn't say anything. Tide of, I said, and let me
50:51
tell you about my day, and then our air. He goes, Oh,
50:54
I learned I better ask you about your day.
50:56
Speaker 4: I said, yes, because I'll give.
50:57
Speaker 7: You a home run down.
50:58
Speaker 3: But yeah, if there a whole night, why make dinners
51:02
that are very TV You don't have to make up
51:06
months at hours. I'm now, I'm gonna go home and
51:09
put on a pot of beans. I'm making potastic chili,
51:13
right forgive it sounds easy, simple, It doesn't.
51:18
Speaker 1: That sounds wrong or tough?
51:20
Speaker 3: Ye, if they're going to just take care, do your
51:26
portion and and then everything chilly filly. But I don't
51:31
cook on the weekend, two weekends on my day's office.
51:34
Speaker 1: I mean, and what's wrong with that? There's absolutely nothing
51:37
wrong with that? Yeah, absolutely, I yeah, all right, perfect,
51:43
thanks for coming. I appreciate it. And you see us
51:49
you said that there's nothing wrong with that. I don't
51:52
go to work on the weekend, So why should I
51:53
Why should I cook on the weekends? That's for us
51:55
to figure something else out. But that's what I mean though,
51:59
like people feel entitled to It's like a guy will say,
52:03
you know, all I want is her to make dinner? Okay?
52:07
Is that because she should want to do that because
52:10
she's a stay at home wife? Are you forcing her
52:12
to do that because you feel like you work and
52:15
you're entitled to a hot meal coming home made by
52:18
this woman. The perspective of it is what you know
52:23
changes how it plays out in your marriage. So I'm
52:29
just saying, you guys all feel entitled to something and
52:33
you're not really doing anything to deserve that, you know,
52:37
just going to work every day to pay the bills.
52:40
And I know I'm kind of switching it up on
52:42
the guys right now, but just going to work every
52:45
day to pay the bills does not entitle you to
52:49
everything or anything, Okay, it doesn't. It doesn't mean you
52:55
just get to come home and sit on the couch
52:57
and do whatever you want while she runs around does everything.
53:01
But on the flip side of that, why are you
53:05
marrying a woman who doesn't want to, as that woman said,
53:08
contribute in her own way? Towards your marriage, towards your
53:12
household already four two, five, four or seven to seven,
53:17
because now she feels entitled. Well, I don't have to
53:19
do all this. I don't have to work, so I
53:20
don't have to do anything. He makes all the money,
53:22
he'll be fine. Okay. That's an entitlement also that women
53:27
start to feel when they stay at home. I made
53:29
dinner for this man for twenty years. I don't need
53:32
to make it anymore. Why a guy text that says
53:35
he makes one hundred percent of the income and all
53:39
he wants is dinner when he gets home and she
53:41
won't do it, or she does it twenty to thirty
53:43
minutes late and complains about it. Okay, good morning hot.
53:47
Oh and she's stayed home. Good morning, stayed home wife,
53:49
Good morning hot. What's going on?
53:51
Speaker 9: Hey, Romeo, I got something to add on that lady
53:54
that cold earlier talking about.
53:57
Speaker 2: You know, that's not all he asked of her to
53:59
do and have to tell us she was single.
54:01
Speaker 6: We knew she was.
54:04
Speaker 2: Man. I I've been with my wife seventeen years.
54:07
Speaker 4: We both work full time job.
54:08
Speaker 2: She's a teacher. I work for the state, and it's
54:11
give and take.
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Speaker 6: Man, she does things that.
54:14
Speaker 2: That I asked her. I do things for her that
54:17
she asks of me. It ain't that hard.
54:20
Speaker 1: It's not that hard. You're absolutely right, it's not that hard.
54:23
But well to day that all feel entitled, and it
54:27
just makes it your relationship go to hell. If you
54:30
feel like you're owed something from your spouse right now,
54:33
then you got a real problem.
54:36
Speaker 9: Now, I'm lucky enough that I could say, I'm I
54:39
don't feel old and uh, and I don't believe my
54:41
wife so she feels old either, you know, seventeen.
54:45
Speaker 1: Years and you better, you better, you better text her
54:48
and ask her, ask her that before you speak for her.
54:51
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm a caller as soon as we get off
54:53
the ninety four point one.
54:55
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, you don't owe your spouse anything for
55:05
a bunch of different reasons. One, you chose that person.
55:10
Two you know you can't just one day go I've
55:15
done enough in this relationship, because it's a relationship and
55:19
it's always changing, it's always evolving. It should be. But
55:24
if you're gonna sit here and say you owe me
55:26
now because of X, Y and Z, or you owe
55:28
me now because of this, your relationship's over. Man, and
55:33
the entitlement is real. It's like a virus, this entitlement thing.
55:38
You know, you owe me this? No, I don't I
55:43
owe you that. No, you don't. We're grown adults who
55:48
can make our own decisions and live our own lives.
55:50
We don't have to be together. Problem is a lot
55:53
of you guys don't see that. All right, I four
55:57
two five four or seven to seven? Hey, roam. He
56:00
shouldn't have to say all I want, all I want.
56:03
It should come natural when your partner is the family provider.
56:07
What does she want her man to come home and clean?
56:09
Still excuses when that kid takes a nap, Stay off
56:13
your phone and start cleaning. Well, that's the other thing.
56:18
These phones have absolutely destroyed your relationship. And they are
56:24
And how many of you know forty and fifty year
56:27
old women that have phones and act like sixteen and
56:31
seventeen year old girls. It's embarrassing. You know. Guys do
56:39
it too, though. Those guys get on you guys get
56:41
on your phones and all of a sudden, you you know,
56:44
and and well, what do you want to do? You
56:49
don't have to deal with it. You can leave, hey, Rome,
56:54
to be fair, my wife does. Oh this is the guy.
56:57
To be fair, my wife does clean and do laundry.
57:00
The few times I have tried to help with laundry
57:02
and cleaning, I get screamed at for doing it wrong.
57:06
So I no longer volunteer to do it. I appreciate
57:08
your thoughts on the sensitive topic. Romeo. Well, okay, maybe
57:16
can she cook? Huh? Maybe that's why. Maybe you didn't
57:22
ask her to do laundry. So maybe that's why she
57:24
has no problem with it because you didn't ask her,
57:26
tell her or whatever you however you put it. But
57:28
you asked her for dinner.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
57:31
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I don't know already four two five,
57:34
four or seven to seven not what's going on?
57:38
Speaker 2: Yeah?
57:38
Speaker 1: What I mean?
57:40
Speaker 9: Okay calling out of her U we're talking about on
57:42
the radio longd about Uh you did the same thing. Yeah,
57:49
about twenty five years he was working and she wasn't
57:52
and now went to retired.
57:54
Speaker 2: There's the engel he now.
57:59
Speaker 1: Well that happens. They're still together.
58:06
Speaker 9: Oh yeah, yeah, but uh it's like I don't know,
58:09
it's uh, it's all you every day though. It's like, hey,
58:12
so now they're live like that.
58:13
Speaker 1: Now there's two old people being miserable with each other
58:16
every day.
58:19
Speaker 2: Because you like she, uh, she did everything all the
58:22
time conformed, and that he works, but I don't work now,
58:24
and then it's like, oh I don't do nothing now?
58:28
Speaker 1: Wow? Well okay, all right. I mean sounds like a
58:34
miserable existence, especially towards the end of your life. I mean,
58:38
that's the one thing you guys, And I say this
58:39
all the time, and I know a lot of you
58:41
guys are gonna think it's very uh morbid, But you're
58:45
gonna die. Why live your life miserable? Why you want?
58:52
You see some of these people who figure it out
58:55
and then they're the bad person. Oh they left, We
58:58
broke up at sixty, we got divorced. It's oh my god,
59:01
how can you do that? Because I didn't want to
59:02
live the next thirty years of my life miserable? Why
59:06
would you want to do that? It's just stupid? Alrighty
59:11
four two four or seven to seven? Hey, roam. The
59:14
new age of women don't want a traditional marriage. They
59:17
like an idea, they like the idea of it, but
59:21
they're heavily influenced by social media and these false realities. Yeah,
59:25
that's fine, but there's nothing wrong with that. The problem is,
59:31
if that's if that's what the new age of women is,
59:33
and I'm just going to give you that one. Okay,
59:37
don't go out with those women. They're not all like that.
59:41
You guys have a big, big, false sense of reality
59:45
when it comes to the internet. But you guys are
59:49
all out there dating on the internet and then wondering
59:51
why you get this new age woman who's entitled to
59:54
everything and you're supposed to get why is your why
59:57
explain to me this, Okay, why is it you owe
1:00:06
her everything when you just started going out with her
1:00:11
or you just started a relationship with her. Why do
1:00:14
you guys accept that? I mean, I know why you
1:00:16
accept it, but why do you guys accept it? You
1:00:20
don't have to date them. That's the one thing I
1:00:23
think everybody is missing right now. I don't have to
1:00:27
date you. I don't have to marry you. I also
1:00:32
can't marry you or date you. I can also leave you.
1:00:39
But you guys don't seem to understand those are all options.
1:00:42
Nobody's for seeing you to be with somebody. And as
1:00:48
much as you think this person that you want them
1:00:52
to do something for you that they don't want to do.
1:00:56
Guess what there's a million other women out there that
1:00:59
want to do that for you. That's where the problem lies.
1:01:05
So whether you're just afraid that you may not find
1:01:09
that person, which you will find them. They're out there.
1:01:13
They may not be on social media, but they might
1:01:15
be it. I don't know. Pick your bar and restaurant
1:01:18
where people go. That's the problem, and that's your problem,
1:01:26
all right. I fororts you fat for seven to seven.
1:01:30
So to blame women like you said this new age women.
1:01:34
To blame women is wrong because you don't have to
1:01:38
go out with those women, and there's less of those
1:01:43
women than there are women in the real world. All right,
1:01:48
imports you seven to seven? Hey, what's up?
1:01:56
Speaker 6: How you're talking about the women?
1:01:59
Speaker 7: Couldie a man?
1:02:00
Speaker 6: WI work?
1:02:01
Speaker 1: Right? Well? Yeah, that's how to die text of the.
1:02:05
Speaker 7: Okay. So I've been with my husband as we were fifteen,
1:02:07
we are now forty. Okay, We've gone everything possible.
1:02:12
Speaker 6: I've worked at home.
1:02:13
Speaker 7: I mean I've stayed at home the majority of it.
1:02:17
Speaker 6: He didn't have to ask me to do anything.
1:02:19
Speaker 7: It was just something that I already was. You know,
1:02:22
I'm supposed to do as his wife. And now I'm
1:02:26
going back to work. He worked and it's just a
1:02:30
team effort. I still come home from work, picking up
1:02:33
the kids, good dinner, and while I'm cooking, he's helping
1:02:37
our kids with homework. It's the work. It's a work
1:02:41
for our relationship. It's yeah, sixteen work and we're forty.
1:02:47
So we've been with each other most of our life.
1:02:49
Speaker 1: Let me ask you this question. Let me ask you
1:02:52
this question. When you work and when you didn't work,
1:02:55
did he have to do as much as home at home?
1:02:58
In your mind?
1:03:01
Speaker 7: Absolutely not? Because we have boys. Okay, we already had
1:03:04
two boys.
1:03:05
Speaker 6: Boys came in, took out trash, help, so you know,
1:03:15
I relied garden.
1:03:17
Speaker 7: I relied on my kids to help out like they
1:03:20
had tours.
1:03:21
Speaker 6: We had a routine. And talk about.
1:03:27
Speaker 1: Apparently you didn't do as much at home either, because
1:03:29
you hit the I did.
1:03:31
Speaker 6: I did. I you know I had.
1:03:34
Speaker 7: I had a luxury of both. I have, you know,
1:03:37
able to stay.
1:03:37
Speaker 10: Home with my kids, help out in sporativities all we
1:03:41
could stay there. And now that I'm in the work,
1:03:45
going to work, picking up, dropping off, I'd rather be at.
1:03:49
Speaker 7: Work because it's so much work to stay at home.
1:03:52
It is so much work, because you know, I we
1:03:55
were young, we had a family of three. Well, we're
1:03:58
a family of five by the time we were twenty four.
1:04:02
Speaker 6: Well, so okay, you know, like we had I didn't
1:04:06
have my moather and all.
1:04:07
Speaker 7: I didn't have my mom to come in house.
1:04:10
Speaker 10: It relied all slowly on me and my kids were
1:04:12
back to back. So yes, I do have boys that
1:04:16
helped out, but for the majority of the part, it
1:04:19
was teamwork. Like I didn't expect him to come home
1:04:22
and do all kinds of crazy stuff around the house
1:04:25
when I knew Hardy had a backbreaking job he was
1:04:28
in construction.
1:04:30
Speaker 1: I appreciate the phone call, you know, thank you.
1:04:33
Speaker 7: I just feel now people our relationships, they don't want.
1:04:37
Speaker 2: To put in the work.
1:04:39
Speaker 7: It's a lot of work.
1:04:40
Speaker 8: You know.
1:04:40
Speaker 7: Me and him again have been together since we were fifteen.
1:04:44
We dealt with a lot of stuff and it's work
1:04:47
and a lot of relationships.
1:04:48
Speaker 6: Now don't want to do that.
1:04:50
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Well, thanks for god. I appreciate it.
1:04:53
Speaker 6: Thank you, bye.
1:04:55
Speaker 1: And I think she's right, but I think to frame
1:04:59
it twenty twenty six is she called it work and
1:05:04
that's really what it was. It was work. Okay, Now
1:05:08
she's right, but you feel entitled. You people feel like
1:05:13
you don't have to put in the work anymore. You
1:05:16
feel like you don't even have to get Generations today right,
1:05:20
I'll say millennials to today. They don't feel like they
1:05:25
have to put in any work to reap the rewards. Okay,
1:05:30
remember when that was what you learned, work hard, you
1:05:33
get rewarded, right, Kids today don't feel that way. Young
1:05:38
couples today don't feel that way. They don't feel like
1:05:40
they have to work to reap the rewards of work.
1:05:46
They just feel entitled to the rewards.
1:05:48
Speaker 2: What was old?
1:05:48
Speaker 1: What was that old statement? You were? You were born
1:05:52
on third thought, you hit a triple. That's where you
1:05:57
are today with relationships. And unfortunately, though some of you
1:06:04
old school cats I mean obviously not her, but some
1:06:08
of you older people are starting to feel like, well,
1:06:10
wait a second, I was wrong. I think that's what
1:06:14
the problem is now with these forty you know, millennials
1:06:16
or forty year olds. But you get to these fifty
1:06:18
year olds, these sixty year olds who are getting divorced
1:06:21
or who are miserable in their marriages because now they
1:06:24
feel entitled. Okay, well I did all the work and
1:06:30
now I got this new generation of cell phone social
1:06:35
media telling me that I'm entitled to all this. You're
1:06:39
still not. You're still not. That's why you are. But
1:06:46
on the flip side of that, being single at sixty
1:06:50
is not bad. There are a lot people are staying,
1:06:53
People are looking better longer, people are staying, are more
1:06:57
physically fit, longer, forties, their fifties. Dating the dating game
1:07:03
for forty or a forty to sixty year old or
1:07:06
a fifty and sixty year old is pretty good right now.
1:07:12
So we got all kinds of problems with relationships and
1:07:15
until you guys understand what I'm telling you, you're not
1:07:20
going to be happy. If you're not happy right now?
1:07:23
What did you send me here? Yo, rome preach to them.
1:07:27
We need to start calling you professor doctor Romeo. You
1:07:31
need to to write a book on all this stuff.
1:07:34
You always hitting the nail right on the head when
1:07:37
it comes down to life's problems. Well, I know, I
1:07:41
appreciate you saying that. I appreciate you saying that, Hey,
1:07:45
rome what if you both work, should a man still
1:07:48
help clean and help with the kids. Of course he should.
1:07:51
I mean, if you're both working, then you both should
1:07:54
you be doing things around the house, you know. Yeah,
1:07:57
of course, no, that's not that. I'm not even saying
1:08:01
that if you don't work that you should be doing
1:08:04
everything around the house. That's not what I don't think
1:08:07
that's what I'm saying. But there's probably some fun. Here's
1:08:11
the thing, and I'm gonna tell you this right now,
1:08:14
and I'm gonna be completely honest with you. If you
1:08:18
are a man that goes to work and you have
1:08:22
a stay at home wife, or you know, a wife
1:08:24
and mother, or you just have a whatever, stay at
1:08:28
home woman, right and she does not want to cook
1:08:31
for you, she's the wrong woman. She should want to
1:08:36
do it for you. You shouldn't have to tell her,
1:08:39
you shouldn't have to ask her. She should want to
1:08:42
do it for you because it's loving, you know, because
1:08:48
she should love you and care about you and want
1:08:50
to understand. Hey, he's out working ten hours a day.
1:08:54
Maybe I want to do this for him, Okay, And
1:09:01
just like you should want to do things for her,
1:09:03
you know, all right? Four seven to seven? What was
1:09:11
the question here?
1:09:15
Speaker 8: Oh?
1:09:16
Speaker 1: I didn't Sorry, I didn't get to your question yet,
1:09:18
but let me get to it. I'll get to a
1:09:21
next something about fifty to fifty. All right, what was
1:09:23
this fifty to fifty thing you told me about? Hey, Rome,
1:09:26
what about this Rome? Me and my husband go fifty
1:09:28
to fifty on all the bills. He expects me to
1:09:31
still come home Monday through Friday and have a home
1:09:34
cooked meal even after I work. After I work to
1:09:37
pay bills. I'm tired too, but he still feels entitled,
1:09:40
even though I'm pulling the same amount of effort to
1:09:43
have these bills paid. Now, I don't mind cooking dinner,
1:09:47
but I shouldn't have to do it every single day,
1:09:49
as well as clean and keep up with the house
1:09:52
to make sure everything is good. Oh you said, dang,
1:09:56
I didn't hear your responsorble Oh, I just got to
1:09:58
your question right now. No, you're You're right, But then again,
1:10:02
this is coming from a guy. I don't believe any
1:10:03
any woman should have to pay bills. I don't believe
1:10:07
I think a man should should take care of all
1:10:09
the bills, all the all the living expenses, house utilities,
1:10:14
things like living expenses. Okay, and if she works, she
1:10:19
can spend her money on whatever the hell she wants
1:10:21
to spend her money on. That's what I think. But
1:10:25
if you're gonna go fifty to fifty, then yeah, then
1:10:28
it's I If that's how you've determined your relationship to be,
1:10:32
then your husband needs to do just as much at
1:10:35
home because you've chose to go fifty to fifty on
1:10:37
the bills and you got to go fifty to fifty
1:10:39
at home too. Okay, But the problem is, I don't know.
1:10:44
You should want to do stuff. You know. That's you guys,
1:10:48
A lot of you guys. This entitlement is so ridiculous,
1:10:53
the entitlement. It's just so sad that you feel like
1:10:56
you're entitled to something. Okay, I just work ten hours
1:10:59
a day, I mean titled to come home to a
1:11:02
hot meal because my wife doesn't work. Okay, what if
1:11:07
she wants to go out to dinner? I mean it
1:11:10
just there are things that happen that you you want
1:11:17
her to be that Like, if you just got you
1:11:19
work ten hours a day, right, you don't really want
1:11:23
to go out to dinner after that. She should want
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to cook a meal for you and her, I mean
1:11:29
you and him whatever. She should want to cook a meal.
1:11:33
She shouldn't feel obligated or have to, but she should
1:11:37
want to. That's the problem. It's this idea of entitlement
1:11:42
that all of you have. Let's see here, hey, roam.
1:11:46
The sad part is even wait, what did you send
1:11:50
me here?
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Speaker 2: Oh?
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Speaker 1: The sad part is even if he wants to leave her,
1:11:55
he's screwed in the end. He just said that he's
1:11:58
the sole income she's gonna get child supports And you
1:12:01
guys got to get that out of your head too.
1:12:02
I knew that was gonna come up. You got be
1:12:05
a man. And that's why I'm speaking directly to man
1:12:07
when I say this. You choose to stay, you choose
1:12:11
to be involved in that relationship, so you get what
1:12:13
you get.
1:12:15
Speaker 2: Be a man.
1:12:15
Speaker 1: Figure it out. What's worth more your happiness or paying
1:12:22
child support? That's the stupidity. You're a man. You should
1:12:26
always be able to go make more money. So to me,
1:12:32
that's a cop out. And I know I get it.
1:12:37
You're gonna argue with me, but I just your happiness
1:12:41
has gotta be worth more already four two seven seven,
1:12:48
Hey Rome, Do you believe that the grass is greener
1:12:53
on the other side?
1:12:55
Speaker 8: Oh?
1:12:55
Speaker 1: You mean when it pertains the relationships?
1:12:58
Speaker 7: I do.
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Speaker 1: I believe that it can be if you're in a
1:13:02
bad relationship right now, or you're in a relationship where
1:13:06
we live. She use this guy an example, he says,
1:13:09
and I'm just going based on solely what he says.
1:13:11
He brings in one hundred percent of the income. All
1:13:14
he wants is his wife to cook dinner for him,
1:13:17
have a hot meal when he gets home. She won't
1:13:19
do it, she complains, she'll start at twenty to thirty
1:13:22
minutes after she gets he gets home. He did say,
1:13:27
she does laundry and cleans, so, but he wants a
1:13:32
hot meal. So for him, yes, the grass is greener.
1:13:36
There's absolutely a woman out there, in fact, they've texted
1:13:41
that would totally make him dinner every night when he
1:13:45
gets home from work, to be a stay at home wife.
1:13:49
So for him, yes, the grass can be greener. The
1:13:51
problem is, you guys, go out and look for something
1:13:56
that is exactly what you are in right now. That's
1:13:59
that's for that. That saying the grass isn't always greener
1:14:03
or isn't greener is because you leave something to go
1:14:10
to the exact same relationship. You'll leave one relationship to
1:14:13
go to the exact same relationship, and then you go, well,
1:14:18
the grass wasn't greener. Well, it can be if you
1:14:22
if you change what you want, if you change your
1:14:26
thought process on how you want to get what you want,
1:14:29
or you know, don't go get the same type of
1:14:31
person that made you miserble to begin with. That's why,
1:14:35
that's why these stupid sayings, when you guys bring them
1:14:37
up to me, they're just so dumb. Yes, the grass
1:14:41
can and always there can. You can find somebody better
1:14:45
than the person you're with. Do you want to? I
1:14:48
don't know.
1:14:50
Speaker 8: Not.
1:14:50
Speaker 1: If it's good, your relationships going good right now and
1:14:53
it's great, why would you want to try to find
1:14:55
somebody better everything's good right now or everything is good
1:14:59
you're a happy, good relationship. But yes, if you're in
1:15:03
a relationship that's not great for whatever reasons, yes you
1:15:07
can go find somebody better. Absolutely, you can be in
1:15:11
the happiest relationship that you've ever been in and still
1:15:14
go find somebody better. But why would you.
1:15:18
Speaker 8: So?
1:15:18
Speaker 1: Yes, the grass is greener throbo in the
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Speaker 2: Morning, every morning morning ninety four point one