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Energy Healing Tips for Stress Management Through COVID 19 with Dr Stephanie Stanfield · Authentic Living

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Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we have as conversations about
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things that really matter in our lives.
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And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
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Everyone.
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It's Roxanne Durgesh of authentic living with Roxanne.
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Thanks so much for tuning in again this week with us.
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Today, I have a a new colleague, Doctor Stephanie Stanfield, Doctor.
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Steph is a colleague we've met.
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We have some mutual, acquaintances that we've worked with around, or concerns that we deal
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with in IT with our business, in this virtual world.
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So let me tell you a little bit about doctor Stefan why it's so timely that having her on at
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the time, in the world, of the pandemic is is so key.
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She's a stress management mentor.
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She has degrees and post graduate qualifications, to support women to live a life
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of thriving.
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She community.
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It's health and well-being from all aspect and something that we are vitally need even more
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so.
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That's the world's that we talk about, but even more so today, her motto is be healthy, be
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wealthy.
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She encourages, she loves to engage people with different activities and exercises to encourage
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them to balance themselves and create a space of peace every day, something that I know is
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fleeting at best, with what the state we're in.
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She's involved in the creation of create your daily daily inspiration on Oracle Deck card,
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which would, I would love to hear more about that.
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And it's a fun workshop and people leave with their creation of an inspiring deck to you so
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they create their own.
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That's amazing.
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Mhmm.
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And She's a coach, countless people, establishing a stroke of thriving and healing
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from health conditions, such as sleep issues, which I know a lot of people are complaining
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about lately, even more so.
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Headaches, absolutely, and then immune related issues, as well as relationship shoes.
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So doctor Steph, so let's let's talk about, you know, you were talking about she was talking
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about some of the some of the founding forefathers of the energy medicine that I have
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been studying for years, Doctor.
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Blue, Lipton is one of them, and she's actually work closely with them.
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So tell me what got you on this path of, helping.
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And then in turn, how did you divert into energy medicine.
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It's fascinating Roxanne, and thank you so much for having me on your show.
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First of all, I really wanna show gratitude because that's one of the key healing skills
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that people can practice all the time and get great benefits from it.
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I actually, have worked at a hospital, non clinical, and taught CPR for 16 years.
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So I was very well based in conventional medicine and thought that they could help me.
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I have a 15 year had a 15 year history of migraines and allergies.
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And my nervous system was deteriorating so rapidly that I was told that I'd probably be
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dead or in a bubble by the time I was 55.
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I'm 66 now.
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I'm a grandma.
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I have so many wonderful things in my life, and I was blessed with taking a course of mind body
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spirit integration that I now use as a basis for my coaching platform And I learned about
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energy medicine and integration, and I studied with people that I consider the best of the
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best.
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Doctor.
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Norm Shealy was actually my advisor in my PhD program for energy medicine and my doctorate of
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Theology, which is a th HD.
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And it's so great because Norm was a neurosurgeon.
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So I could come to him with kind of conventional speak, and he could interpret how
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that turned into energy medicine.
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He, collaborates with a woman named Carolyn Mace.
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Yes.
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Who
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is very famous.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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And through him, I was exposed to Bruce Lipton and Brayden and some of the people that are so
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wonderful in their leading edge research.
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Bruce of course has written biology of belief.
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He's a cellular biologist.
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So during this COVID 19 crisis of health, I turned to him and listened to him I have
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developed several programs that I can deliver online, so no one needs to get near.
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We can maintain computer distancing, not even social distancing.
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Based on some of my own issues, like sleep, acne, migraines and all of those.
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So I I've been in the trenches where people are with the hopeless and helpless, and I help
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people get their hope back, get their health back, and learn how to manage the sympathetic
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and parasympathetic nervous system.
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So, Doctor Deh, Doctor Steff, from the basics, let's say somebody has never heard about
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energy.
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You and I, we we would probably be able to use all this lingo because of what we do on our
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background.
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So explain to someone the basics of energy and how flow is impacted, when you're positive when
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you're negative, like, the state that the world is in definitely we're we are in flux.
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We are in fear, and chaos.
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So explain the basics so people can get a sense of what energy medicine is and how energy
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distributes throughout our our our body.
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Energy medicine is no is based on a lot of ancient Chinese medicine or Japanese medicine.
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I'm a reiki master.
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What energy medicine is is the understanding that we are as well organized energetically and
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anatomically as we are physiologically.
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So in conventional medicine, we look at the blood circulatory system, and we look at the
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nervous system, and we because we dissected people, and we could figure out where nerves
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went, and all of that.
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In energy medicine, it has the same type of system.
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Instead of organs, you have chakras, which are small, energy data systems in your body that
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correlate, actually a lot of people don't realize this, with major nerve plexus in your
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body.
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Did you know that?
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No.
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I, you know, I don't know.
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I know a bit about the chakras.
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From some basic information, Doctor Steph, but don't know it at the level.
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So I'm I'm very curious about it.
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So every place that you have a nerve plexus in your body, even the palms of your hand and your
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feet, where nerves come together, and then they separate out.
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You have a chakra.
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You actually have chakras in your palms of your hands and other places where there are nerve
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plexes.
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Most people are familiar with the 7 major chakras.
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And chakras actually just means spinning vortex or spinning wheel.
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So you have a chakra at the base of your torso.
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You have a chakra at your sacral plexus, and it's right below your belly button in the
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center of your body.
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You have a chakra at your solar plexus, and we it's a solar plexus.
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We call it our solar plexus.
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Which means just an intersection of nerves.
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You have a shock right your heart plexus.
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You have a shock right your throat.
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You have a chakra at your brow, and you have a chakra of your cram.
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And so these energy centers relate to different organs in the body similarly to where the
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nerves that intervene in those places go as well.
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And just as those nerves and organs have a function, your chakras have a function.
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In this time of high fear, Fear is in the base chakra that that bottom part in in the very,
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bottom of your torso.
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And the emotion associated with that chakra is fear.
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And so it's when you get into a fear state, it kind of collapses the chakras so that they
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don't function normally.
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They need to be open.
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They need to be flowing.
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They need to be taking information in and sending information out and when you are in a
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fear state, those chakras close down to protect And so fear is protection, fear is
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constriction, fear is survival, A normal state is thriving, not surviving, and your chakras
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are open and flowing and information and energy moves easily among them.
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So a lot of people have been talking and I have I know I have been experiencing it, you know,
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with all of us like the US and Canada and and globally are social distancing.
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And, you know, when we get out there, I I'm not going out other than to do the basics of being
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asked, doing my part, and as I'm sure you're doing too.
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Mhmm.
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But
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when you go out, you know, I get this you know, visceral feeling that comes over me.
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And when I say visceral, I say, look, it's like a body reaction where I'm like, why I'm not
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feeling so good?
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Like, it it's it's almost like, you know, what am I not well physically?
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You know, and then I'm and I come back home and I think, well, what?
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I wasn't all out that long.
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So I'm thinking it's energy because I'm absorbing the energy of what I'm experiencing
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when I'm out there.
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Does that make sense from an energy medicine perspective?
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Absolutely.
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And we speak energy very fluently.
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And instantaneously and simultaneously.
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So when we step out and you get that visceral, that closing down, That's the nervous system,
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and you're feeling that, but we also do it energetically.
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So you have 2 branches of your nervous system, like your central nervous system is your brain
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and your spinal cord, the peripheral system of the nerves coming out of your spinal cord.
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And then the autonomic nervous system is sympathetic activity and parasympathetic
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activity.
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Sympathetic activity is designed for fight flight or freeze.
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And it's a visceral reaction just like you're describing.
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Just cock.
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Where the saber tooth tiger is there, the threat is there.
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Right.
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And your body responds viscerally, but your energy system also responds.
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So that's fight flight or freeze.
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Sympathetic, and it's a fear based with all of the emotions.
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So when people say I'm worried about they're shifting over to sympathetic activity.
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In that activity, you don't take in nutrients.
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You don't eliminate toxins.
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You just close down, like kind of I don't know if in Canada you have what's called
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rolypolybugs, but they're this little tiny bug that has the shell.
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And when you touch them, they turn into a little circle.
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That's what your body does.
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It closes itself down to survive.
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So your only options there are fight, flight, or freeze.
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And your thinking and your movements reflect that activity.
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Mhmm.
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Parasympathetic.
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Most people call it rest and digest, but it's so much more.
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It's thriving.
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Your blood flows to all aspects of who you are, not to your arms and legs so that you can fight
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or flight, but to all in the prefrontal cortex instead of the back part of the brain that's
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called the reptilian brainstem.
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Your body temperature actually changes, and you kind of warm up as your blood vessels expand.
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You get blood flow to your fingers and your arms.
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And your energy system opens up and you start feeling connected to things.
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Not connected, connected.
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And the fee the emotion associated with parasympathetic is love in all of its wonderful
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aspects.
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So let's let's think about the world right now and the average person that's going through
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what we're all going through.
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Right?
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And even if you're conscious like you and I are and you do certain things, there's still that
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energy regardless you know, by the news, by by the post that you see on social media, by your
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kids wanted to go outside, but you can't really go out and play with their friends or the your
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teenagers that are like, oh my goodness.
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Like, I I don't know what to do.
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I'm stuck in this house with you.
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Lots of things.
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Right?
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So we're we're it's it's swirling.
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So people are talking about a lot of physiological things that are happening symptom
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wise.
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So let's talk a little bit about that because I think that's important because that's where
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everybody's at you know, the other morning at 3 o'clock, and I'm a I'm a phenomenal sleeper out
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of nowhere.
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I I was up And I could not unplug to go back to sleep.
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So I thought, oh, I'm gonna lay here.
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I mean, and then I I I said, okay.
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You know, the only way I'm gonna get back to to sleep is I went out.
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I I got my headset, and I put on a meditation and eventually after after about 45 minutes, I
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doze back off.
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And a lot of people are talking about things like that.
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So let's talk about some of the symptoms when we're in that panic fear state that the body
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starts to develop that you've worked with over the years.
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And I'm sure in your coaching you're seeing a lot more of now.
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Well, let's talk a little bit about what I call the 5 self healing skills.
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Belly breathing, drinking enough water, you'll probably see me drink, water.
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Awareness, present moment living, and exactly what you were talking about, quiet.
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Meditation coming into the sense of self.
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So belly breathing is so phenomenal for shifting you out of the activity of the
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sympathetic nervous system into the activity of the parasympathetic.
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It is a natural switch.
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We everybody breathes.
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Right.
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But some people don't breathe properly.
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They'll just they'll just stab.
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So let's talk about that because, Oftentimes people are, you know, their breath is going
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across versus up and down.
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So the average person, I mean, may maybe most people are doing it well, but I think it's an
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important thing to discuss because, you know, you know, we often say, you know, put your hand
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on, you know, on your chest and put it on your belly.
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Make sure that when you're you're breathing in, your lower tummy goes, gets out, but most
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people are like, what do you mean?
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What do you mean?
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You're telling me I'm breathing wrong.
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I know they say I breathe all the time.
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It works.
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Yeah.
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That's not the kind of thing you think about.
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Oh, yeah.
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You gotta think about it.
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So can you explain some maybe some steps are little tips on how we know if we're doing it
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right.
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Yes.
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If I ask someone to take a deep breath and they go, and they lift their chest and shoulders.
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They're using the wrong muscles.
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And then people when I used to do massage therapy, they'd say, I carry my stress here.
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I'd say, no, you're not carrying your stress here.
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You are breathing using the wrong muscles.
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These are not your breathing muscles.
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The small muscles in between your ribs are not your breathing muscles.
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So if I asked you to lift like a 10 pound weight with your little finger, this finger
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would get very tired very quickly because it's not designed to do that.
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Right.
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Your diaphragm is your muscle that sits under your rib cage, and it's a big muscle, and it's
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your breathing muscle.
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So when you belly breathe, the diaphragm should contract down and push down as you draw the air
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all the way into your lungs completely and totally into your lungs.
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The lower third of your lungs actually has the highest concentration of capillaries for
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oxygenating your body.
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Right?
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And if you don't draw the air down in there and change it out regularly, like every 2 minutes
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or 3 minutes, that air doesn't have any oxygen left in it.
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So you're actually stressing your body out with the air trying to give your body oxygen and
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there's no oxygen there.
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So you need to breathe deeply and get that residual volume out of your lungs and breathe
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in fresh oxygenated air and then out and in.
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The only way you can do that is to use your diaphragm.
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And when you do use your diaphragm, it actually massages your abdomen so you stay regular.
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So let's think of this.
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If fear sits in the bottom chakra, you start getting constipated.
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Okay?
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You don't go to the bathroom.
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And fear, again, I relate this symbolically to the buying of toilet paper.
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Okay?
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Oh, interesting.
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I
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have to have my toilet paper.
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I have to have my toilet paper because it sits in that first chakra that regulates some of the
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elimination that body does.
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So a lot of people fear bot toilet paper.
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It's normal.
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And, and when you understand the energetics that sit behind that, people were fear driven,
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not driven with there is enough for everyone.
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Okay?
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So your belly breathing and you're moving and you're massaging and your digestion works
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because when you're stressed, you get headaches.
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Mhmm.
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You pour sleep.
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Your body's functioning, including your immune system.
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A stressed immune system is a sick immune system.
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So you can actually get sick, fearing yourself into the symptoms of what's out there.
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Is that fascinating?
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Yes.
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It is.
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It is.
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Because if you think about it and we've talked about the impact of we, you know, we seen
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what's happened, but we've been talking about the health implications of what COVID 19 will
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do for us.
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And they think that that will be an astronomical number economically on us because
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that it's gonna be to the, the poor health of people that are experiencing just what we're
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talking about.
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Right.
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Right.
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So, immune disorders, autoimmune disorders like lupus, res, RA, arthritis.
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All of these things where the immune system of the body has not been nourished and supported
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enough that it recognizes the foreign invaders and can respond appropriately So any autoimmune
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disorder, sleeplessness, headaches, indigestion, acid reflux.
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Do you know where acid reflux?
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Okay.
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That's actually high sympathetic activity because the, trachea for your stomach goes
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through your diaphragm.
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If you're not moving your diaphragm it constricts the trachea, then your acid builds
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up, and you get ulcers and acid reflux, whereas if you're using your diaphragm to breathe, and
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it moves the trachea can function normally as it reflux goes away.
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So some of the basic symptoms that people probably are experiencing right now is
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sleeplessness.
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Headaches, you said probably, GI or, intestinal kind of discomfort like, what I talked about
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when I went out and I was like, and I've never had
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At this room.
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Yeah.
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That digestive stuff.
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And I was like, what is it?
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Like, you know, so what other things might people be experiencing symptom wise would you
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think?
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Just again, what you suggested, and Again, if we step back into the 5 self healing skills, if
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you're belly breathing, if you're drinking enough water, which is one half ounce per pound
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of body weight.
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I I was talking to a friend who threw her electrolytes totally out of balance because she
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was drinking so much water.
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And she kept saying, I don't know why I'm so low energy.
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I'm drinking all this water.
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Well, 1 half ounce per pound of body weight.
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So if you weigh a £100.
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It's 50 ounces.
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That's that way it's individualized to you.
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Right.
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And you're eliminating weight appropriately and maintaining hormonal insulin, electrolyte
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balances.
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Then you come to awareness In my sleep studies and in my sleep classes, I actually tell people
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your sleep experience begins from the moment you wake up.
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What are you telling yourself?
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If you wake up in the morning and go, I woke up at 3.
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I hope I don't wake up 3 tomorrow night.
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I hope I don't
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wake up.
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I hope I don't.
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You're programming your nervous system to wake up at 3.
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Right?
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And you know what I said to this morning?
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It's funny.
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You said that doc.
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I said, what a this is what I said to myself this morning.
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I'm a word of a like, what a great sleep.
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I wanna have those kind of nights more.
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This morning, I said that because I had an awesome sleep last night.
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Yes.
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So you actually start programming your nervous system for your sleep experience as soon as you
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wake up.
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Oh, I hope I sleep better tonight.
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Well, no.
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You may not, but how do you become aware of that?
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So your thoughts are part of that awareness of healing skills when you become aware of what
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you're thinking and programming into your nervous system.
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Oh, I hope I don't get sick.
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What your nervous system actually hears is nouns and verbs.
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So what it hears is get sick.
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So you wanna become aware of how you're programming your nervous system.
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So I say, I have a great immune system.
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My immune system is so healthy.
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I love my immune system.
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It is keeping me safe.
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It is those are what I like to program in.
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One of the things that you need to do though is become aware of what you're actually thinking
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So that means you get into the present moment.
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And you stop projecting into the future, oh, what is my night's sleep gonna be like tonight?
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And you stop bringing the past in, oh, I slept crappy last night.
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I'll probably sleep that way again tonight.
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So present moment, is kinda like a 10 second interval of being fully present like we are
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right now.
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And a belly breath usually takes about 10 seconds because I breathe into the count of 4.
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And out to the count of 6.
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Now I'm in the present with you.
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Right.
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So let's take a breath together and have the audience just take a breath with us.
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See how they feel really quickly before they take the breath.
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Just kinda do check-in and then breathe into the count of 4.
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123 for using the diaphragm and out to the count of 6.
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1, 2, 3.
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456.
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Now tell me how you're feeling, please.
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I could feel my head getting a little bit lighter there.
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Yeah.
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And is that that's because I'm I'm there's more oxygen flowing up to my brain, isn't it?
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Yes.
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And to the right parts of the brain, instead of feeding the fear that sits in that reptilian
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brainstem, You're actually getting blood flow to all the parts in the endocrine system
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hypocampus, the hip the hip thalamus, hypothalamus, and all of those.
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You almost made up a new word there between the.
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That would be fine.
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But let's let's go back to what people are saying.
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You you know, we are so conscious of what, of course, a psychotherapist and, you know,
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stress, experts about what we're telling ourselves.
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In this time, we know what p what are people saying to themselves?
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I'm so worried.
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I I I what's gonna happen, who's gonna die?
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You know, we're not we're not kind of and and some of the That being said, this is real.
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And then I for anybody listening, my all means my goodness.
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We look at the numbers.
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We look at flattening the curve.
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We look at all the things we've had to do in it.
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We will get through this, but it's kind of if you let that free flow of thoughts about what
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could happen or what has happened that puts you into that complete state of fear all the time.
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All the time.
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And that complete state of fear will actually interior rate, your nervous system, your
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internal organs, people that have, current issues like diabetes and things like that.
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They'll find their insulin fluctuates greater than it ever has before because we are
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preparing to fight flight or freeze.
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And right now, we're in a time of self isolation.
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Which means that we are not doing our normal activities that nourish us.
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We're not getting our hugs from our friends.
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We're not being in the presence of the people that we love.
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We're not.
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And a lot of us who have not worked for a while, I actually had to go into quarantine
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March 5th because I was exposed to someone who had the virus.
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So I had been out of circulation for 30 2 33 days now.
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Wow.
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But I practice my 4 self healing skills, and I have a lot of techniques that I do with myself.
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And I am using this time for personal growth.
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Mhmm.
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For expansion of my mind, I'm reading great books.
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I am listening to people like Bruce Lipton and Greg Braden.
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I am listening to Carolyn Mace.
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I do daily breaks for prayer and connection with source on whatever level, people like
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that.
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The divine god, whatever.
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And I just I'm not really sure what other people are feeling because I know that I'm
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using this time to benefit me.
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When when the governor comes on and says wear masks and I say, okay.
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Got my mask.
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I'll go out with it, but I'm not really going out in fear like you are.
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And yet, It's all around.
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It's all around.
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Everyone is experiencing a certain level of fear.
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So this is my opportunity to shine my light.
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Mhmm.
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Give us some give us some quick tips that people can do.
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That when they're going out just to ensure, like, I know you talked a little bit about the
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water, of course.
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My water.
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Drink your water.
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Your belly breath.
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Balance my chakras.
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I which is very simple to do.
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Your chakras actually are the colors of the rainbow, red, orange, yellow, blue ended to go
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in violet.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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So I just imagine the rainbow just coming up.
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Red is your base.
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Orange is your sacral.
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Yellow is your, solar plexus.
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Green is your heart, blue is your throat, indigo is your brow, and violet is your crown.
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So I just imagine that all of those are getting the light and the energy and the flow that they
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need.
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Mhmm.
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Mhmm.
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And I imagine my arc field getting very large and having some very healthy boundaries
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energetically so that when I go out, I breathe in the fresh air.
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And I imagine that I am bringing light to people who need it, and it's not my light.
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It's it's, present moment light.
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It's connection to source light.
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And waving at my friends when I see them in the suit market.
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I live in a small town, so I always see people I know.
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And just waving at them, talking with people, talking in positive ways because your brain
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your brain will actually habituate negative thoughts.
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You know this.
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Yes.
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But it can habituate positive thoughts.
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And your mind doesn't care if you're thinking a negative thought or a positive thought.
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So we come into another one of my favorite favorite healing phrases.
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Change a word, change your life.
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Mhmm.
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I hear people say, I'm so worried about, and I ask them, would you please just please change
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one word and they say what?
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Say, I'm worried about to, I wonder about.
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Worried will produce energy flows, hormones, molecules of emotion, electrical, magnetical,
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dynamic things.
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And wonder we'll produce the, the same type of substances, but of a higher vibration So you're
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probably very familiar with this.
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If you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.
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Okay?
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So if you think you can't, electrically, chemically, magnetically, emotionally,
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harmonally, you produce a state of being of can'tness.
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So you will produce the hormones, the stress hormones, corticosteroids, all of those things,
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the molecules of emotion of fear, worry, anxiety, grief, shame, that support that.
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You will also bring in memories of all of your failures so that that then becomes true for
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you.
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If you say I can, electrically, magnetically, chemically, harmonally, endocrine wise
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production of feel good, like endorphins and cephalins, dopamine, and serotonin.
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And then memories all come magnetically to support all of your successes, and you remember
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when you can.
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Your choice.
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Your mind doesn't care.
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It'll think excuse me.
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It'll think whichever.
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But which is more healthy.
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So the awareness piece is, I think, is the gift that we need to give ourselves that much more
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right now Yes.
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And which is what I, obviously, you know, I do that often.
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I know if I'm tired like it would that day that I went out I I was tired that day too.
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I could tell.
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So, of course, my, you know, my my unconscious is probably lower, so I'm absorbing a little
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bit more.
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So
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I think it's it's all these little things that you can do.
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Right?
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Some basic things.
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Right?
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We're talking.
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And, you know, like you said, to out and look out at your backyard and hear the birds and
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feel the sunlight because we're getting a little bit better weather, like you are
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probably in Colorado too.
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Those types of things are are those are the basic, basic things that doesn't take a lot,
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but it's like, I can or I can't.
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And, you know, the brain, like you said, the brain plays along whichever way you say, which
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way you gotta play this?
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Yeah.
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How do you wanna do this?
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I'm happy to do whichever you'd like.
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Right.
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Right.
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Here, you can get really, really down, and you can't do anything.
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Here, you can get really, really happy, joyful, whatever, which is that inspiration card deck
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that I love to do, because it's mine.
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It's just got a print on one side that says creative inspirations in a real pretty design,
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and then I have put different words, and I draw a word of the day.
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Another thing that people can do that are just very simple exercises Roxanne, but they are so
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helpful is every day I write down a word that has a high vibration, like joy or bliss or
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gratitude.
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And in at Christmas time, you get those little gift bags.
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Right?
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Yes.
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So I write a word of the day, and I put it in that little gift bag for a year, so I have 365
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of them in my gift bag.
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The next year, guess what I do?
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I draw out a word of the day.
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And look at it.
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And look at it and reflect on it.
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Okay.
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So when I go outside, I know that there's gonna be a tidal wave of fear because that the
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environment that's being created right now by well meaning people, well meaning people, and
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keeping us safe.
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With the intention of keeping us safe, but they are using fear, and you can't be in fear and
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safe at the same time.
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You can't be in fear and love at the same time.
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So my choice is to be in love.
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Joy.
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Bliss.
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But I know when I step out, It's gonna come crashing down like a tidal wave.
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So I prepare myself.
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I have little things.
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I have little gratitude rocks in my car.
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I have little, little things like a little angel.
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Mhmm.
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And I remind myself.
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Hey.
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And I keep this by my desk so that when I start into, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't, I
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pick it up, and I go, Oh, I can.
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I can.
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I can.
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I can.
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To remind yourself, so these constant reminders are saying to the brain, even though I might be
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feeling this at one second, I can think of different thoughts.
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And, you know, with unconscious thoughts, you we know we have so many unconscious thoughts.
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So much of what we do is unconscious.
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It's that awareness and, you know, that you you you alluded to at the beginning of what being
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grateful.
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Like, you know, little things that I do is I have a book next to my bed and I write 5
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things, at least five things down that I'm grateful for, at night before I go to bed.
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And the first thing when I get up in the morning, I do the same.
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Yes.
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Right?
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So all these little things become I always call it.
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It's it's almost like the emotional, endurance that you develop within the brain, and you're
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saying to your brain, just in case you're not sure, I'm gonna remind you That's it's okay.
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It's gonna be fine.
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We will get through this.
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But, unfortunately, to your point, that the energetic energy of the world is more based on
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fear right now, and we really have to to, you know, replace that as much as we can with with
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all the great emotions, love, joy, gratitude, to gratefulness, all those things, you know,
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other things that keep us, you know, like you said, energetic and inflow so that all the
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messages in your body keeps saying, oh, this is good.
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I'm fine.
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Everything's gonna work out.
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We will get through this.
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We've been through massive things before.
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We will get through this again.
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But we do it's like a tidal wave.
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Right?
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Every time you get up, you're gonna get knocked down, but you have to say, okay.
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What do I need to bring today?
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To make sure I could surf this wave instead of getting knocked over.
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Right.
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And I do little things like I know that happiness is one of the great laughter,
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happiness, joy is the greatest medicine that there is.
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So sometimes I will have people like take a Kleenex and they have to laugh the whole time
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it drops to the ground.
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And look, we're laughing.
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One minute of laughter can boost your immune system for 6 to 8 hours, and some people even
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said 24.
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So before I go outside, I'm gonna laugh.
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What?
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What?
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Something funny or pull out something that's make you just giggle on bear bearably.
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And, again, you're inoculating yourself again, the negativity of the the panic in the world,
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which is which is which is pervasive.
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It's there.
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And we can pretend, you know, and I people say, mom, I'm happy, happy, happy, and I go, It's
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not that I'm telling you not to feel and just say acknowledge what you feel, but to figure
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out what you're gonna do to step out of it as much as you can.
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Or acknowledge what you think.
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Again.
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I'm worried.
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Change a word.
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I wonder.
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Right.
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What could you say instead?
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What could you say instead and replace it with something that's more positive versus, again,
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the brain and the body goes through protection, which sometimes can be negative.
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So then you changed shift the thought to be able to put it into more positives.
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Okay.
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I wanna make sure we get it to water, awareness, Belly breathing.
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What did I miss?
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What's the
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Present moment living.
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Present moment living.
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So that's using all your senses to bring you back to the present.
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So whether it's a sight sound, a taste, a touch, a smell.
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Yeah, anything in that, I always say to people, do something.
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You have the senses.
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And then just check-in as much as possible.
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And I'm I know I do a lot of sensory grounding with individuals, and that's what you mean.
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Is it, or is there some other way that you would would explain that?
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That's very grounding.
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That's very good.
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Uh-huh.
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And what and the last one is?
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And now that I'm gonna be breathing water awareness present moment living, and actually,
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again, just using all of those tools together to create new health and happiness habits.
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A lot of people don't realize that the word health comes from a word, an Anglo Saxon word
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hail, which means wholeness.
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So bringing in all parts of you, the best of you.
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So how this comes from the root word that Home.
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That means madness.
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Hail.
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Hale.
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Doctor Steph, I think you and I could probably talk a whole lot more, and I'm so grateful for
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the time you've given us now for people that are like, okay.
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I love what this, you know, lady's saying.
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They wanna get ahold of you.
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They wanna maybe do some of your online courses or even coach with you.
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Where can people get a hold of you and tell them what your website is?
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Obviously, all this will be in the show notes, but I'd like you to to share it with them
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anyway.
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And, actually, thank you for bringing that up.
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My website is www.making shifts happen.
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My my older sister teases me all the time and changes my name.
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And she goes, because you can make a lot of stuff happen.
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So, making shifts happen.
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And right now, I have a program that I'm offering to anyone for free.
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It's called calm moms.
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It's from stress to calm for moms.
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And it is for free.
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It's, like, normally a $147, but if you go to making shifts happen.com, forward slash courses
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forward slash calm moms, you can register and take that program for free.
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And I'm doing kinda like our state is doing.
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I offered it free for a short period of time, excuse me, but because our in home confinement
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has been extended.
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I'm extending the program.
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That's amazing.
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Thank you for doing it, for my listeners.
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I'm sure people you will get people that will sign up, for all those, Not that dads aren't
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going through it too, but, I'm sure maybe dads can also
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go on.
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I tell people anyone who is facing the stress of this confinement right now needs to take
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this program.
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Male, female, teenager, adult, elderly, anyone because, I'm a teacher, so there's a lot of
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education in there, but it's helpful for anyone Roxanne.
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Awesome.
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Well, thank you so much for that gift and, the gift of your time today.
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You have you have, taught.
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I could see what a great teacher you would you you are and have been, with how simple you've
41:49
broken broken down some really, really advanced concepts that I know we we learn and use all
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the time.
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I think for every new one listening, I'm sure they're minimally, they're gonna walk away with
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belly breathing.
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And if you're gonna if you remember one thing from from that our time today, it's just to
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remember use the, you know, your diaphragm accordingly and try to do that as often as you
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can, throughout the day because that's when you oxygenate auctioninates your body and you're
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having all the little messengers in your body talk to themselves that says, I'm okay.
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Yes.
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I'm gonna survive this.
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I'm gonna be alright.
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And you're you're you're inoculating yourself now for all the times that we'll be able to the
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the based on the duration, the more that you do this, as we isolate until we kind of flatten
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our curves, this is the gift that you can give self.
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So again, thank you so much for your time for anyone listening.
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I'm Roxanne Derhodge.
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I'm, a mental health and wellness specialist.
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And, I also have a course online, on relationships as you're at home and having to
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read 8 more.
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And you can go to my website at Roxanne.
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And, there's a course on how to enhance and improve your relationships every day.
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