Latest / The Uncommons / The Double Standard in Marriage | Ep7
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- speaker-0: By nature, we want to impregnate as many women as possible. speaker-1: You know, I think after this episode you're going to be the most hated man by woman on the internet. speaker-0: I do have a problem with a male masseuse giving you a lymphatic massage. speaker-1: Like is it everybody? Is it all the men out there? Can't get a massage from another man? speaker-0: Yeah, when I had my knee injury I took this testosterone If I saw a hole in the wall I wanted to fuck it It wasn't me, was the testosterone speaker-1: And... ⁓ ⁓ If a man's testosterone levels and his stamina in general is not there and they can't step up and they can't lead and make important decisions then somebody has to do it speaker-0: I know guys that are like giving 15 different shots a day to themselves. speaker-1: That's the reason that now we swing the pendulum to all the way to the other end of feminism and men are no good. Hi, everyone. Welcome to the Uncomments podcast where we challenge the ordinary and explore what it really takes to build a fulfilling life. I'm Parisa. And since my husband hijacked last week's topic, which was very dear to me, and I had a whole flow of talk pics in my head, speaker-0: I'm Pez. speaker-1: all written down, all ready to go. But hey, things changed. We are going to go completely off track and screw my planning and go with another spontaneous topic because the last one was very heavy. And we're going to go with something that's not so heavy. In fact, it made me laugh for so long a few days ago while fumes were coming out of your ears. We have this tradition that once every few months the two of us go get a hotel room. Go get a couples massage, go to dinner, maybe a show afterwards, make it a fun night, then come back the next day. And since the last month or so has been very heavy because of the accident, we decided last minute to go a few days ago and everything was booked. Obviously, there was no couples massage available anywhere that we would normally go. So I called everywhere. I finally found at one spa two masseuses available. to take both of us separately and one of them happened to be a man and my lovely husband speaker-0: Out of here. We're not doing this. speaker-1: me booking a massage with a male therapist because he will never take a massage with a male masseuse. I don't know why, I don't understand it. He would never do that. And I used to, before we got together, I used to always go with a male therapist because their hands are bigger, they're stronger, it just feels good. So when we started- Feels good. Yeah, it feels good. It's like strong and like they can open all the... Problems, you know? speaker-0: I all your problems. speaker-1: I know them. I know them. In a different way. So we go to the spa and I tell them, by the way, I have a man. speaker-0: I have no problems you're getting a massage at a nail. speaker-1: Oh you turned red and then you turned purple and then you turned blue and then you turned green while I was dying laughing I have videotaped you. I should have videotaped you. Do not deny the fact that you speaker-0: Absolutely not true. It is not safe. I have no problems with getting a massage from a male. In fact, you've gotten it all the time. speaker-1: No, that's not true. speaker-0: I have no problem. I do have a problem with a male masseuse giving you a lymphatic massage. speaker-1: Well, I mean that's minor detail. speaker-0: What's the minor detail they're gonna they're gonna put your fingers up here speaker-1: They don't put finger anywhere. Anywhere. Lymphatic massage doesn't include finger in anything. speaker-0: No, the lymphatic massage includes getting the finger right in your lymph node, lymph opening, is right. speaker-1: That's your imagination. That's where your mind goes. speaker-0: I don't like men touching anything close to my wife's pussy. Is that okay? speaker-1: You cannot say that word because we get banned. speaker-0: Okay, I'm sorry, vagina. VJJ. speaker-1: Again, here we go again. Okay, that's what you see. You're distracting the audience from the main point of the conversation. First of all, sir, Dr. Bhatti, I have a question for you. Uh-huh. Why is it that you wouldn't sacrifice yourself and you go with the male therapist, massage therapist? Why is it that you can never get the massage from a male? speaker-0: ⁓ The function of a massage is to go to enjoy yourself, right? Of course. Okay, so I have zero enjoyment, I have minus enjoyment of some fucking dude, some dude with big rough hands massaging me. I just don't like it. It doesn't do anything for me. speaker-1: massage is to open the knots and relax the muscles and don't you think men hands are typically biologically men men are a little stronger speaker-0: Your structure is chauvinist. This is an equal. speaker-1: World world. Yeah. Sorry. Yeah speaker-0: Unfortunately, the kind of women that I've been getting massages from are like almost men. They're big, you know, but they have softer hands and they're women. At least there's some justification for their their Igor looking whatever it is. But I I would have no complaints if it was like some Swedish model giving me a massage, you know. speaker-1: What's the difference? have any complaints anyways when a woman get... I have complaints when I get a massage from a man. speaker-0: I don't because I have no issues you getting a massage from a man. I have an issue you getting a lymphatic massage that is close to your private parts. And if I didn't... speaker-1: That was not the case! wasn't a full on lymphatic massage, it was neck and shoulder and face. speaker-0: I don't know what kind of lymphatic, I'm trained in lymphatic drainage, I know where the fingers gotta go. Okay? So I don't like it. I don't like men touching my fucking, I don't like it. I don't like it. don't like ⁓ a man touching you period. Would you like a woman giving me a massage near like my balls? Yeah? speaker-1: Well, you can always get massages from women. Why the double standard? There is a double standard in our household and I want to discuss it right here, right now. Why? speaker-0: I again... speaker-1: I get massages from men. Can I speak? No, if I massages from women you should only get massages from men. speaker-0: Who said that? speaker-1: because that's how it's If you get massages from women then I can only get massages from men too. Not that I have a desire for that. I'm just mentioning why. I want to know the reasoning first of all why you can't get a massage from a man. Like is it everybody is it all the men out there can't get a massage from another man? Yeah. That's not true. speaker-0: Was it? All men that I know that I can hang out with them, they can't. Dude, I just don't like it. speaker-1: You were traumatized because we went to... I dragged you to a Korean spa and they have the best exfoliation. If you guys haven't been, they do have... we have it in Persian Mediterranean bath houses too. We do it at home. Like it is this specific type of exfoliation that only in the Asian continent they do it. And they use this white things. I mean the whole layer of dead skin comes off. And I dragged you to a Korean spa. and you were very traumatized for like a few weeks but you came back a few shades lighter so it speaker-0: Listen, I've gotten massages all over the world. I've gotten Turkish massages from men. But they don't put their hands on you and they massage you. They have this stuff that they wash you. There's cloth and all this stuff. I'm just squeamish with thick fingertips that are like... I don't like it. I just don't like it. Again, I have no problems with you getting a massage. Don't interrupt me. I have... problems, you're getting a massage from a man near your private parts. I didn't even say the word. I said private parts. speaker-1: I told you there was a speaker-0: A robotic massage? You never taught me that. You taught me a lymphatic massage. speaker-1: Because before I tried to say anything, you lost it! speaker-0: a lymphatic massage is when your lymph nodes come, the center, the focal point of where your lymph nodes exit from your lower extremity is right in your groin. And if they're not doing that, they're not doing it right. Okay? speaker-1: No lymphatic massage for you. speaker-0: I don't want a lymphatic massage. mean, it's a really good thing. It drains everything out, you know, but fine. ⁓ I don't need it. I definitely don't want it from a man, right? speaker-1: Please, we only have a lymphatic massage for our neck. speaker-0: This is the end of this f***ing... We're done with it. What else do you want to talk about? speaker-1: about the double standard. speaker-0: there's a double standard? speaker-1: This is not a double snap. Double snap. I mean, in all honesty, I, since we got married for some reason, I think everything shifted in my mind. So I don't have any desire. Every time we've got massages, I go with a woman, female therapist, just because it feels better. I don't like another man touching my body. Why? I just don't like it. speaker-0: What's the double standard? ⁓ if I say I don't like it either from a man is a double standard speaker-1: it because I feel like I don't know the masculine energy somehow. Yeah. Most of them are so there's not much speaker-0: I don't like this. I don't like it masculine energy. I'm rubbing my ass either period dot You keep talking about this thing that makes no sense whatsoever. speaker-1: Why are you so upset? How is this big triggering? speaker-0: Because you're wasting the audience's time with this stupid discussion. speaker-1: It's not really nice to call your wife's topic stupid publicly. speaker-0: Topic number one. I don't know why it doesn't make sense to you that your husband doesn't like other men touching you close to your private parts. Okay, so that's end of that discussion. And the second point is that your husband who's a guy, I'm a dude dude guy, I don't like men touching me when I'm naked or whatever it is. I just don't like it. speaker-1: It doesn't. I mean. Personal preference. speaker-0: So what is, what are we having this whole topic of? mean. I have no problems with that. Get it done all day long. speaker-1: Are you telling the 100 % truth? Are you? Yeah! You have no problem if a male therapist gives me a massage. speaker-0: I am. Don't. speaker-1: I don't believe it. speaker-0: I mean... I don't love it. No, no, no. If there's any untruths, I mean, I don't love the idea. But it's... I mean, it's fine. I don't give a shit. Really, I don't. I don't like anybody giving him a lymphatic massage. You should be happy that your husband is like... like, you know, I'm a guy. I'm not some like fufudu. ⁓ that's so good. Go get it done. I don't care. I do care. speaker-1: It's not a thing that happened in real life like we're not getting a massage right now speaker-0: Funny. It's just the concept is like, why are we talking about this? Why don't we talk about something important? speaker-1: You have a double standard. You do. This is double standard. You are extremely upset right now. You're pretending that you're not. With the idea, just talking about getting a massage from a guy. Like normal massage. speaker-0: I'm telling you I Because some man is massaging you when you're naked. speaker-1: I'm a woman massaging you when you're naked speaker-0: Men have different intentions than women do. Who said that? I said that. speaker-1: Uh-huh. Did that? You are so sexy! What are you- I don't- speaker-0: What about women? I'm a scumbag. Right? I used to be the biggest fucking scumbag in the world. You know? So I know what men think and what men do. If I was giving some hot girl like you a massage, I'll be turned on. speaker-1: But that's their work, that's their job. They do it day in, day out. speaker-0: I think most of the women that get massaged by these guys are not like you. I mean you're a good looking hot sexy woman. speaker-1: One, two, ⁓ Thank you. Yeah. For the compliment. speaker-0: Yeah, so if 90 % of the women... speaker-1: This is speaker-0: 95 % 95 % of women that these guys see, they don't look like you. They don't have an ass like you. They don't have tits like you. Right? So 95 % of the time, they might not get aroused. But if they were going to get aroused, probably be more than the 5 % we should be part of. Okay? If I was a masseuse and I was giving massages to a bunch of old ladies that are skin hanging off their bodies and speaker-1: Okay. speaker-0: fat and shit like that, right? I would do my job. But if an half Asian blonde lady would come there, that's like 110 pounds, five eights, you know, with the nice ass sticking out, would gladly massage that. I wouldn't massage her now with no pain. speaker-1: ⁓ my god speaker-0: I'm being honest. I I told the audience I'm going to be raw and truthful. speaker-1: So the problem is the man. speaker-0: For sure. But in general, I have a theory. speaker-1: Go ahead, please. Go ahead. I want to scientifically backed theory speaker-0: I'm saying this 100%. So I believe that the number one reason for divorces, cheating, all that stuff happens is directly proportional to your testosterone levels. When I injured my knee, I started to think that now my testosterone is naturally very high. speaker-1: Think everybody can tell. speaker-0: not really but it was I was always been that's why they gave me a 1250 because I knew I couldn't get my pecker in my pants I just knew it and I was gonna ruin a family because of it and then I get my 50s my numbers came down to a normal level but but even then you know it's like you know you have it's testosterone you take the testosterone away all the cheating is gonna go away speaker-1: I don't think that's true. A lot of cheating is emotional. Nobody doesn't get their needs met in a relationship or love affair. Or there are statistics. A lot of women cheat. That's not test of the heart. speaker-0: Why not? ⁓ Yeah, Well, that's why I think there's a difference between men and women. Even women think most women cheat because of emotional needs. I think most men cheat majority is because of their test. just were. our job as the male species is to preserve the species, the human race and their men, right? And it's ⁓ biologically designed that way. That's why every time you spread your seed, that's right, is no different than plants. At the end of the day, all species try to preserve themselves in the human race, males. speaker-1: The human race. speaker-0: Every time we ejaculate, we have millions of sperms that come out. speaker-1: Yeah but they can't go into different directions, they all go in one direction speaker-0: Yeah, they'll all run. They'll all run as fast as they can to get that one egg because the woman is going to have. speaker-1: One egg. speaker-0: And women's job is to nurture and to hold and, you know, it's just, so we're just made differently. speaker-1: With that I agree, we are made differently. speaker-0: and testosterone levels have direct correlation to the sperm production and all that kind of stuff, right? So by nature, we want to impregnate as many women as possible. That's just... my God. That's just... speaker-1: ⁓ And it justifies what speaker-0: That's just the biology of human beings. speaker-1: That men want to impregnate as... speaker-0: You know how a dog lifts up their leg male dogs and marks their spots? it's a dog. A dog would never see another dog and they would do the same exact thing. They would lift their leg up and mark their territory. Human men, if we never see any other human males and there is no issues of society and all that kind of stuff. And you leave a male with like a hundred women, that male would want to fuck all the hundred women. If they're hot. Or if they're attracted to them or whatever it is, right? But it's just their nature. Women's nature isn't like that. That's why they have, they're selective, they have one egg. We have millions of sperms and they're like, ⁓ don't give me shit, just give it to everybody, know, whatever. You see women is like, I got one egg and I'm going to get the best sperm possible. speaker-1: You know, I think after this episode, you're going to be the most hated man by woman on the Internet. Okay. I'm pretty sure. Don't piss me off because no one else is going to go with you. This is it. You're done. speaker-0: Fine. I'm just telling the truth. speaker-1: hence because of the testosterone speaker-0: Is men's nature? yeah. ⁓ speaker-1: I shouldn't get a male masseuse because they have higher levels of testosterone. speaker-0: I don't know if they have high level testosterone, but I'm just saying in general, males outlook towards women are different for the most part than females outlook towards men or the male species. Now, you make us cavemen, ⁓ give us a bat, nobody speaks the language, we're running around butt naked, and if I have more strength than the other guy that's got the woman, I'll beat him on the head and take the woman. All day long, that's exactly what had happened. And it's happened throughout, I don't care, decades, centuries, millennia, it's all been the same. speaker-1: So what's the solution? speaker-0: me finish with the problem. Then the society comes along and says, wait a minute, you can't do that. This is not right. And so the society is like, you can't cheat. You get to put your pecker in only one vagina and you're gonna be there and that's what you're gonna do all the time. But here's this testosterone that makes you really want to do all this other stuff but you can't. You just can't, right? So there's a lot of cheating because it's our nature not to do that. Now, for me, I believe that I love you. It's not that I don't get attracted to other women, but I love and respect you and I made a commitment to you. So that's why a lot of the religious things and it's like praying and focusing every day and let me pray five times a day. so I don't put my dick in any other. speaker-1: The ones that pray five times a day, can have poor wives and they want mistresses. speaker-0: Yeah, that's I mean, there's some religions that have figured it out. Listen, give it to them and then you'll have a husband that is going to be there. He's going to come home every day. Right. speaker-1: I got a little something. No, if the husband has four wives they don't come. speaker-0: Well, least they come over every fourth night or something like that. Unless you're way harder than the other wives, then they're probably gonna be here more often. Or whatever, if you cook better, whatever it might be. But as opposed to somebody always roaming around trying to figure things out. I had missions in Haiti. speaker-1: ⁓ my god. Uh-huh. Good question. speaker-0: They're Christian, but so we took intakes of the people that are coming in. I would say 90 plus percent of the women had no male companion and they've been either impregnated and the guy's gone or they've been married and the guy's gone. Now that may be within the socioeconomic group that we were seeing, but speaker-1: If you were having a medical clinic. speaker-0: Medical admissions, but 90 % or 95%, 99 % of the place is poor, right? And they don't have the societal grip on them. And there's not a lot of money, there's not a lot of consequences. And if you impregnate somebody and you leave, what are they gonna do to you? They take your money, you have no money. So when you become more primitive, I think it becomes more visible. speaker-1: Yeah, but that's the reason that now we swing the pendulum to all the way to the other end of feminism and men are no good and we are better than them and all that stuff because of all that pressure that was on women historically with all that testosterone driven behavior that you're describing. then things go completely the other way. And now now what? speaker-0: Well, I honestly think the pendulum is now swinging back. People are realizing that, I mean, I don't want to get into a political discussion, but people are realizing men and women are different. You just can't say we're not different. I love women, not for sex purposes. Adjusting women are amazing. I had companies, I remember one of my biggest companies that I sold 15 to. 16 years ago, ⁓ 92-3 % of my team was women. Healthcare industry, you know, but still they can multitask, they're just like smart and they're passionate, amazing, right? But if I ever had a position that required that deep focus, profundus aspect of the decision making, they were men. Because that's what they do better. They're just better at it. They're not as broad as women are. I'm not a chauvinist. I love women. speaker-1: That's overgeneralizing. There's differences. Within female species, there are different characters, different personalities, capabilities. for men. So that's kind of overgeneralizing. speaker-0: Of course, but men, as everybody knows this, can't multitask. They just can't do it. Like you got eyes in the back of your head, you know. I'm like, how the fuck did you hear that? Like how did you, just like, and you know, run circles around me. But when it needs to come with solid decision making and just things, like, this is what we're gonna do, so we gotta, this is how we're gonna do it. It's like, you know, I do better than that, than you. speaker-1: Yeah, but that's you and I, just our personalities, you know, but then there might be some women in another relationship, another household that are better at making decisions than men are. There is masculine and feminine in both spars. 100%. There men that are more feminine. Their feminine energy is higher than average men. There are women that their masculine energy is higher than average men. Now, I think a lot of that has happened with society conditioning and all that or some of it is nature but then because of all this stuff that you are explaining and the primitive situation in Haiti and all that stuff women had to become more masculine and stuff stand up for themselves and when we do put on our masculine hat sometimes we are a lot more capable than men and then men have to adapt and become more feminine so it's just like it. speaker-0: 100%. I don't want to over generalize, but this is what I've learned. I've seen my parents fight for years and years and years. My mom, she wasn't masculine, but she had some masculine attributes and she was righteous in her ways and her thoughts and they would collide with each other. There are women that are very masculine and there's men. The man is feminine and that might absolutely work great with those people. But in general, when you get a masculine male and a feminine female, it's gonna work out. speaker-1: So what about the testosterone level that you said is a problem? What do you do with it? speaker-0: What about it? It is a problem. I think as you age, you learn how to contain. Your testosterone levels naturally will go down. speaker-1: What about young couples that have high testosterone? They haven't aged yet for the testosterone levels to go down. speaker-0: I think the divorce rate's higher. And I'm not saying it's all because of testosterone, but I just think majority of the men cheat for physical reasons. And I'm sure there's some for emotional reasons as well, but the majority is physical. And I think women cheating is more emotional. I just believe that because that's just the nature of a man. ⁓ speaker-1: This is just my personal opinion, personal thought process. But I feel like most of people would cheat because cheating provides a level of excitement that they might not have in their life. So making it purely physical testosterone driven is one thing that I don't know. think we have by society, we've been trained to, men have been trained to kind of calm down and and go into one relationship and stay monogamous as long as they can. But then when relationships are not fulfilling, when somebody's life individually is not fulfilling, like they don't have enough excitement in their life, they don't have enough stimulation, they're not going after what they want, they're not living a passionate, happy, courageous life, you know, then they need something to bring that aliveness out of them. That's one thing. And the other thing is if somebody is not fulfilled in their marriage, let's say they have all the excitement and happiness in their work, but they just don't have it in their marriage, then, you know, I honestly feel like if somebody has the ability to power through their limitations and bring something out of them that has a significant level of life in it, whether at work or at home, they can figure it out in other aspects of their life too. They just have the ability to do that. So if they're very good, I'm not talking about financial success only, but I'm talking about fulfillment at work, then they probably have the ability to figure that out in their personal life too. But also if the personal fulfillment is not there in their relationship, there is a good chance it's not really real fulfillment in other aspects of their life either. But let's say they have fulfillment there and just not in their relationship. Well, and if they can't for some reason figure it out or they just don't have the belief system that would allow them to go figure it out, they're going to go somewhere else or they get out of one relationship to another, to another. And then a lot of people are like that. But then there are also people that get together when they're very young and stay together for many, many, many, many years. Doesn't mean fully fulfilled, but they stay together. and the testosterone doesn't make him escape the relationship. So is the problem testosterone or not? Maybe a contributing factor. speaker-0: I think it is. Yeah, for sure. There's never only one thing. But if the playing level is equal across the board, two people have the same amount of fulfillment outside of relationship, inside the relationship, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And one of them has a very high testosterone. I believe that if there's going to be any kind of cheating, it's going to be the testosterone guy, not the other guy. is again over generalizing but I've been through it. I mean when I had my knee injury, I took this testosterone. speaker-1: And... speaker-0: I was... I was... If I saw a hole in the wall I wanted to fuck it. speaker-1: Oh my god. The truth. And you blame that on testosterone and your knee injury? While I was taking care of you and making sure you're okay after surgery and driving you around and doing all that stuff you wanted to do all that stuff? speaker-0: Yeah? It wasn't me, it was a test-tube show. Excuse me. speaker-1: Need another knee surgery now. Without testis. speaker-0: Nowadays it's different like hormonal replacement or hormonal optimization is part of everybody's life. I'm not on it anymore. I'm 59, right? And I want to check my levels. I might want to get on it at one point if my levels are low, right? Just because you're optimized, you're thinking clearly, you're doing better, you put on more muscle as long as it's maintained and it's within a normal realm. Now there's a whole new society that is coming out now that are doing all this growth hormones and testosterone and peptides and just like I know guys that are like giving 15 different shots a day to themselves and call them regenerative. Now some of it is justified. You know I think I believe we're gonna live. I'm planning on living to 126 years. speaker-1: regenerative. Not if you take testosterone again. I'm gonna kill you myself. speaker-0: Well, I might need a younger wife anyway. 22 years is not enough. But it's happening, right? It's how we go about it. It's how we go about this longevity business, right? There's this group of men and women, but mostly men, that are doing all this stuff and you can almost see it their face. have this, the labial folds are thick and they're red and. speaker-1: That's like a more extreme version. speaker-0: extreme vision and they're bulging out. I think that's gonna age you faster, it's gonna kill you sooner. But all of those, there's a level of aggressiveness that is happening that I see throughout our society that is coming from that. speaker-1: And you're talking from your patients and your observation. speaker-0: Yeah, yeah, just in general, the people I interact with or patients that we have or just all around. speaker-1: Do you think as people do a lot more synthetic hormonal therapy, does that block their natural release of hormone? So we're going to add synthetic stuff and it's going to decrease the natural level. What's point of it? Do you have to stay on it forever? speaker-0: Of course. That's right. Now, if you need it, if your markers for your testosterone levels, for example, your free and total testosterone like 200 or 250, that's low. have patients, I see people that are, their units are 200 to 300, which is very low, right? For somebody in their 40s. I I was at 900 milligrams until like, you know, my mid 40s, like now normal for my age 60 would be like 350 or something. don't know what it is. I'm around 600, which is normal. I would like to keep it on 600 forever. If it declining, I would add it, right? But I measure my levels. Then when you go above a certain level, you're actually over utilizing your body, right? speaker-1: So what if it starts declining? Okay, so we talked about ⁓ your theory of testosterone being high damaging relationships, family marriages. What about testosterone being super low now? With the trend that you're talking about, if as a whole testosterone levels are dropping for some reason, or this whole regenerative medicine and neuroscience of... speaker-0: they're going people are using exogenous speaker-1: Yeah, but in a natural level. If it's gradually dropping and patients that you see now have lowered testosterone level compared to maybe 20 years ago. speaker-0: ⁓ huh. That also ends up in cheating, but the wives, because the guys not, they're not, they're not getting, know, sex. speaker-1: I was gonna say that. But it translated to a lot of other stuff too. If a man's testosterone levels and the stamina in general is not there and they can't step up and they can't lead and make important decisions and make right decisions relatively and all that, then somebody has to do it. So that created a natural need for the woman to step up and take a more leading role. speaker-0: I don't know, I'm not an expert in that. But I know that when people, when people's levels start declining or lower, they're not as aggressive, they're not as assertive, it's harder for them to make decisions, their brain function, their fogginess increases and stuff like that. speaker-1: Well, I'm saying it because I've seen it in you. speaker-0: Bye bye. speaker-1: that when you got your knee surgery, you started ⁓ taking synthetic testosterone for a little bit. And just because the doctor told you, you cannot ski again. So Paige had a ski accident and because he didn't listen to me, basically, he goes up and he injures himself and had to do a knee surgery because everything was torn. And the doctor who did the knee surgery, which is your friend, he said you are not going to get back on skis for another few years and you said you I'm going to be back on skis the next year and you did but you took some testosterone so you can build muscles and get stronger. So after that your levels went up which I was not aware that you were thinking about the hole in the wall but thank you for clarifying that which was very obvious in your actions not the hole in the wall but in actions of ⁓ aggressiveness and you didn't your tolerance was much lower like I I couldn't it was like stepping on eggshell around you speaker-0: I was an asshole. I was an asshole, yeah, no question. But my numbers were like crazy high. speaker-1: and then you added the testosterone on top. speaker-0: Well, mean with testosterone was like 11, 1200. It's crazy. Lost a whole bunch of my hair. speaker-1: Yeah. So you went that high and then you stopped it. You gradually went down. And then when you stopped it, I remember that you were way softer than normal, which I'm not used to. And then everything was like, whatever you say, my love, and whatever you want to do. I'm like, what? Now I have to make decisions? you know, so it was for me, it was shocking because I was not used to it. I would gladly do it, but then it was an adjustment because I had to be more assertive and more masculine than usual. So it was a little bit of a shift. If that would continue like that, I would be like, I would get used to being the leader and making decisions and doing all that stuff. I don't mean that woman won't make decisions. That's not what I'm implying, but then I think naturally started going up again. speaker-0: What happened next? speaker-1: But it was a dip. I don't know your numbers, but I know for sure feeling wise, like you were so soft and loving. Yeah, very soft. Right. speaker-0: My Nama is super soft now. So I guess I should engage my testosterone levels by you. What am I doing now? speaker-1: Yeah, I can tell you. Give me numbers. speaker-0: When I was up here was like 1100. When I was down there, it was probably like 300 ish, 400 ish. Yeah. Because my body wasn't producing any and it started coming back up again. speaker-1: Honest. 300 think it should be around like 4500-50000. Is it? We'll measure and give it a share. speaker-0: way too long. Bobby, I swear we're programming right now. Yeah, we'll do it this week. speaker-1: But that's, I feel like you're not like the soft, fuzzy, fuzzy that you were, but you're not like, rrrr, wanted to kill the world either. Thank God that was rough. speaker-0: So you know clearly... That's exactly right. ⁓ speaker-1: why I can't get a massage from a male. Makes sense. Thank you so much. speaker-0: Yeah, well there's like like clean up food like I told you Just like listen to me like don't get a fucking massage from a lymphatic massage Not any I'm okay with any massage Lymphatic massage I'm not okay with would you like it? speaker-1: What again? No, I don't. Thank you. What are you going to say? Would I like one? speaker-0: I was getting massages every week from this like super sexy beautiful speaker-1: But the guy that I got massage from wasn't super super speaker-0: No, I'm just asking. Why you justifying? I'm asking a simple question. Can you wait for the question to finish? No. Have a normal conversation. Wait for the question to finish. then wait for one. speaker-1: Fine. my god, let's do that. No, of course I can't. I never wait for questions to I can't. Can you? Can you wait for questions to finish? No. You have trained your speaker-0: I do all the time. Ask the audience. I'm sitting here quiet, you do all the stuff. I'm Parisian. Page. You know? So, how would you feel that every Friday afternoon I would go get a massage from a 24 year old speaker-1: No! Why the age matters? speaker-0: Okay, 26 year old. Super sexy hot. I dunno, Russian model. speaker-1: It's all it's just a massage. Why do you have to sexualize a normal massage? speaker-0: Can you answer? speaker-1: I think your testosterone might be around 700. speaker-0: Can you ask this question with the answer? Another question? How would you feel? Would you be uncomfortable a little bit? speaker-1: No. No, I would be totally comfortable because you would be my ex-husband at that point. ⁓ okay. I see. You know what? We're done here. Why does that have to do with... speaker-0: It's the same thing with a lymphatic massage and a regular massage. speaker-1: But we didn't talk about the age of the male therapist or their appearance or the sexiness level. speaker-0: If you have an 85 year old trying to give you lymphatic massage, I'll be totally cool with it. speaker-1: 24 to 85? How about 30? I don't want a 30. How about a 45? speaker-0: I mean yeah. Fuck you. All right. I think punching your wife. speaker-1: I thought this broadcast is going to bring us a lot closer. It's like completely going the other way. I'm really hoping we can fill 10 episodes before one of us is not here with us anymore. Thank you for listening to partially nonsense episode and partially a little makes sense. The other partial not. ⁓ If you have any feedback, please. You do not have to. speaker-0: Absolutely not. speaker-1: Be so aggressive towards my husband, he doesn't mean it. You know, not all of it. You do mean all of You do mean all of it. speaker-0: Please, please don't think my wife is incoherent. Makes absolutely no sense and doesn't get why her husband doesn't like somebody grabbing her legs right by her vjj. speaker-1: I think you should get a massage from the therapist that gave you massage last time because he was great and the fingertips were rough. I'm going to give you that. it leveled like he would grab my neck right by my skull. Skull. Skull right up here with two fingers and do neck. What do call it? The traction for my whole spine. It was so good. speaker-0: Go. speaker-1: I think you should do it next time. Just try it. speaker-0: I mean if they're just doing the neck and the lymphatic on the neck and all that I guess I could do it I just don't like laying naked with my ass hanging out with some dude which is the likelihood of him being gay is like 85 % I just don't like it speaker-1: Ciao, see you next time.