Latest / Moming and Me: The Podcast / Stop Spending Money on Strangers
Transcript
- Najah: Your first three dates should only cost you your time. Hear me out. We spend all this time trying to plan a perfect restaurant. Perfect outfit. The perfect experience. For someone we don't even know. Obviously. Something made her say yes to the date. Most of the time. It was physical attraction. But attraction is only an invitation. The date is supposed to answer whether there's anything beyond what first caught our eye. Do I enjoy your mind? Your personality. Your values. Your company That's what the first few dates are supposed to answer. So why are we trying to impress strangers? Instead of discovering them. can we just go for a walk? Go to a park. Visit a free museum. Sit somewhere and talk. Can we carry a conversation? Can we laugh? Are we curious about each other? Can we enjoy each other's company without an expensive experience carrying the date? And don't confuse investing in the date. With investing in the person. Because the most valuable thing either one of us can spend It isn't money. It's time. money can be earned back. Time cannot. So if we both carve time out of our lives to get to know each other. That's already a valuable investment. Let's respect that. Let's value that. Let's see if our attraction can grow into a connection. before we start investing anything else. save the expensive dates for people who have earned a place in your life. The first few dates aren't about spending money. They're about finding out. If this is someone you want to keep spending your time with.