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Tim Storey - Celebrity Life Coach | The Science Behind Sudden Success · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  What does miracle mentality mean to you?
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  A miracle mentality to me is having a mentality where you think extra ordinary, uncommon, and not normal.
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  Some people chase success, but others chase meaning.
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  Tim's story is one of the world's most sought after life strategists, spiritual leaders, and inspirational voices.
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  I believe the miracle mentality is innate, think big in small places.
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  In the midst of all the adversity and challenge, they knew that somehow some way that life was not just
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  going to be better, but life could still be magical.
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  Unrelenting disappointment can leave you heart sick, but a sudden good break can turn your life around.
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  No matter how many setbacks you've had, how disappointed you've been, look for the sudden good break.
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  That break is that opportunity.
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  He's counseled world leaders, celebrities, elite athletes, and everyday people, guiding them to unlock
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  purpose, heal wounds, and step into their highest potential. His message isn't just about achievement,
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  it's about transformation and courage when others see fear.
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  The education, conversation, observation is it begins to build your faith that I can do it to.
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  Ego is necessary. God never tries to kill someone's ego. He wants to purify it.
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  Because ego that's not purified is going to get you in a heck of a lot of trouble.
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  So Tim, what does miracle mentality mean to you?
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  I think as you know, a mentality is a mindset, frame of mind, perspective.
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  A miracle mentality to me is having a mentality where you think extra-ordinary,
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  uncommon, and not normal.
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  I think a lot of people have a hard time thinking extra-ordinary, uncommon, not normal.
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  The way that I look at, the way that I look at where people get
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  blocked in life, and I think that you were going to be able to speak to this and tell a couple
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  stories is they look at what their parents accomplished and achieved. They look at what people
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  in their immediate vicinity achieved, and that's their ceiling, and that's their reality.
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  And I want you to tell a very brief sort of origin story where you came from, but you had not the
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  best set of circumstances growing up. So you had the ceiling that a lot of people have.
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  Yes.
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  But you were able to move above and beyond and have this miracle mentality where you thought
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  bigger than what your immediate set of circumstances were. How are you different than most people?
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  So number one, you're correct in the fact of the mentor, the teacher, will constrict a person,
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  sequester a person, and stop them from having a miracle mentality if you're not careful.
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  But I believe that the miracle mentality is innate. I believe that because of the fact that we're
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  made in the image of God, that there is something inside of us that wants to go beyond.
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  So little kids they want to play with, Spider-Man, Iron Man, Superman,
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  they don't want to play with just regular toys. Little girls want a theme party that's unicorn
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  or something that's outlandish. If you take any little kid into a toy store, they're thinking
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  beyond. So I did this research just for this talk that the average Barbie doll is right at about
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  15 to $25, a Barbie. But there is a Barbie house that is high. I'm going to blow you away
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  as $3,000. So what could happen is a child could go into a toy store and you say to the little girl,
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  okay, I'm going to buy you this Barbie that's $15, $25. But she's like, yeah, that's awesome,
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  but I want the house. That's $3,000. And because you have a miracle mentality that's innate,
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  they're thinking that the parents can buy it. No, but then the question becomes, so what happens?
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  If we are born that way and it's innate, then what happens to us as we grow older and then we lose
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  that. So the studies show that what takes place is that we have this expansion in us
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  that we want to do things different, better and more magical. That's within every person.
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  They see things and they're like, ooh, I want to do something a little different,
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  a little better and a little more magical, a little more extraordinary. And it's very common for maybe
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  an aunt or an uncle or a school teacher or maybe sometimes even religion to try to bring the
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  limitations in. So now that young persons are saying, I guess I can't reach for that. So it's the
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  B-realistic. B-realistic. And if they feel like they are now starting to reach and kind of
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  getting their hands slapped, then it's looked at as rebellion when really it was just God's plan
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  for somebody's life to be spectacular. So if people don't know your origin story, I'm just
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  going to read the set of circumstances that you came from. So you grew up with seven people
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  crammed into a two bedroom apartment in Compton. Your father died in the past way when you were
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  10, your sister at 12. But even with this set of circumstances, even with all these things that would
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  have removed the miracle and the aspirational from young Tim, you still found a way. So what
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  was the inflection point? What was the thing that even though you don't listen, this is a tough
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  childhood for anybody, what's the inflection point where you think, okay, things aren't perfect,
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  but I'm going to eventually be the Tim story anyways that I become. Is it a person? Is it an event?
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  Is it what is it? I think that all of us have this in us and that is the ability to
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  what I say think big in small places. So because I have traveled, I've been to 82 countries now,
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  I'll talk to people that were raised in a war torn area and they grew up, grew up like waking
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  up to bombs blowing up around them. And I would say to these people, like what was your mindset?
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  And some of these people that have done extremely well would say in the midst of all the adversity
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  and challenge, they knew that somehow some way that life was not just going to be better,
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  but life could still be magical. And so that's how I felt as a child that when my father died,
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  when a man ran a red light and he died. And my mother, who had a six grade education,
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  worked at Winchell's Donuts job, had to raise her children, it did not look good. If you looked at it
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  just through the census, but I never looked at life through just the census. I have this miracle
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  mentality that I did think somehow some way not only am I going to get out, I'm going to find a
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  way to do something that's kind of fantastic. Do you think that you naturally or intuitively see
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  the positive and what I mean by this is I think that most people start that way, like you did
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  research on this, so they do. But then they see the negative, the negative of life in prints
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  in their mind. When things don't work out, it imprints. And then they say the next time, well,
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  I don't know if I can accomplish that thing. I don't know if I can take the risk because I remember
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  the thing that didn't work out. Yes, but I think the only difference is between somebody who is
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  able to achieve this miracle mentality is they see when things work out. And that's what they
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  remember. And it gives them the audacity to take the risk the next time. Is that something that
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  came naturally to you? Do you agree with that? Is that something that came naturally to you?
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  Or I think it says, though you wrote a book on it, it's it's it's perfect what you're saying.
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  So the framework is this is that there's a there's a biblical scripture of verse. It says,
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  unrelenting disappointment. So disappointment means something did not work. So a relationship did
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  not work. A startup company did not work. You try to get through a health situation quicker
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  and it did not work. Unrelenting disappointment can leave you heart sick. That's a proverb.
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  To be heart sick means to be to be ill. The heart is a center of your being.
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  Joy comes from the heart. Peace, faith, goodness. So when somebody is heart sick, this is interesting.
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  You are literally fading in the center. So disappointment causes people to fade in the center
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  of who they are. That's why you could be funny and someone will still not laugh.
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  Something good can happen and they don't even enjoy it because they've been so disappointed.
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  They become heart sick. But then the Bible then says in the same verse, it says, but a sudden good
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  break can turn your life around. So this is where I come in and where I became as open one
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  for you says the original comeback coach is that I teach people, no matter how many setbacks
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  you've had, how disappointed that you've been, look for the sudden good break. That break is
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  that opportunity. How do you recognize that? How do you see that? Not easy. Because what happens
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  is that when you've been disappointed, disappointed, disappointed, you almost start to look for the
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  disappointment. You do 100%. You have that bias for a negative. Right. So let's take two places
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  in the world. One is Seattle, Washington. The other one is Bergen, Norway. Both of these places
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  I've been to a lot because I travel to Scandinavia a lot for different businesses and things.
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  If you go to Bergen, it's such a beautiful place. It's so green, it's gorgeous.
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  It reigns so much that you look for rain. Seattle reigns so much, you start to look for rain.
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  There are people that are watching and listening right now that you have gone through so much
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  disappointment. You are already signing up for disappointment that has not even come. I think
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  that that's the majority of people. Unfortunately, it's I think that there's this air of pessimism
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  around how life has worked out and don't get me wrong. This is what is difficult. People can still
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  be content and things can still be going okay, but you can still default to the negative. Yes.
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  We were just chatting about this, but ultimately when you default to negative, even if things are okay,
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  it's like you are pursuing good, but not great. Like it. Yeah. You are okay with the status quo,
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  because it's comfortable, but it's not exceptional. And I think that it is actually very fair to
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  say that most people live in the status quo in the content with life. Yes. And then you say,
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  well, they will say, well, I don't need more. I don't I don't want to be greedy and I don't want
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  to pursue, but I think that it's not about being greedy. It's about living. It's about when you see
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  the positive. This is something I've noticed in my life, at least. When you see the positive,
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  things come to you and opportunities come to you that you never even would have thought possible.
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  And it's not about being greedy. It's just about opening up your mind to these opportunities.
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  Agree, agree, agree. So I think it's just about being in alignment to the creation of how we were
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  created to be. So it's almost like an iPhone. When a new iPhone comes out, they'll do a lot
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  of promotion on what this new iPhone will do. But studies show that many times people don't even do
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  any of the new things that they can do on it because they're just creatures of habit. So I think that
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  the way God manufactured us is to is to just be brilliant and to create things and to build things
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  and to do things and if we fail to get back up. So I say this. I wrote a book about 20 years ago
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  called utmost living. And I did it with random house. And I say in this book that there's three
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  levels of living almost most and utmost. Almost means not quite. So when you live not quite long
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  enough, as you are saying, you start to become stuck in an almost life. Because again, the relationship
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  almost worked. The startup almost worked. So now you're almost afraid to go for the most. Well,
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  what's the most? The most is the ceiling. So right now we're in your podcast studio. If I was to
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  let go helium balloon, it would go, go, go, go, go. And it would stop at the ceiling. So it depends
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  on how high the ceiling is that you were raised around in that powerful. Very, very. So most,
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  most listeners and those watching your ceilings to dog on low thousand percent. And even when you
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  think, even when you think you're pushing boundaries and you're pushing bear, like when I look at
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  my, I just keep using myself as an example. So I'm doing stuff that my parents never did. Yeah.
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  All right. So my parents, very great careers, very safe careers, working government and
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  moment for university up in Canada. And being entrepreneurial was not in my DNA at all. So I'm
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  already, I'm all, I think this is actually a trap that people get stuck into. They break the ceiling
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  because that's sort of like level one. They break the ceiling of their parents and their and
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  their upbringing. And then they're like, shit, well, I did it. But like, what's next? Agree. Yeah.
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  And then you almost get comfortable at the next plateau. But I think that there's more urgency
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  to escape for a lot of ambitious people, the ceiling that your parents set than the ceiling of
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  the next plateau, which is where I'm at right now. So right now I've broken the plateau of what
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  my parents would have ever have sort of, you know, not to say they ever wanted to do anything that I'm
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  doing. But they never built a business themselves. I did that. Exciting, interesting. Okay. So
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  how do I break through to the next ceiling, the next plateau? So what I would do as a, as a therapist
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  because that's my background. So doctorate in world religion and then study therapy and then
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  became a therapist for now over 30 years. So I call it discovering the hidden you. So within
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  Scott is potential. And some of it is untapped. I guarantee you with everybody. Yes, for sure. Yeah.
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  Definitely for me. So, so, so potential is a possibility, a capability, something that can be
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  drawn from. So let's take for real Williams for a minute because we're both creatives and we
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  can respect what he's done. He's working on music and he's only so good and then he meets his
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  guy named Chad, who's his buddy from school. And then they start to make music together that
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  later on becomes something called the Neptune's. And then they start to meet different people like
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  Teddy Riley, who is also a friend of mine. And they start to create music. And so for all finds,
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  okay, man, I'm pretty good at this producing. And then people start saying, but you could also
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  sing. You should do a solo album. So now he's a producer. Then he's a solo guy. Then he means
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  Hans Zimmer. And he starts scoring big movies. Then he starts getting into fashion and he creates
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  billionaires boys club shirts, shoes hats. Now he's doing all that. And he's ahead of Louis Vuitton
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  men. You know what that is? He had untapped potential. He discovered that potential. And he took
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  it from almost most to utmost. So that's what's happening in your life right now. A thousand percent
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  for people to and you know this for all story. So maybe you know how this worked out for him. But
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  what was the first step in him going on that utmost journey? What I'm trying to figure out is
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  do you just start taking massive action, massive risk, doing shit that scares you,
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  jumping into this project, that project, this joint venture, very tacit or do you figure out
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  your north star? And maybe there's an exercise to figure that out. Then you pursue that aggressive.
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  I think you can handle this teaching better than most because I think that this is the
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  this is the way to build that's better. That will last longer rather than just jumping off a damn
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  cliff. There's three ways we learn education, conversation and observation.
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  To educate somebody on a specific area like the fact that some people used to be afraid of AI
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  and some people still are, we can go and get educated to where if we just mean you just dove into
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  AI and understanding AI for six months, all of a sudden Scott, me and you could just be having
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  some amazing conversations and now we start to build our faith in that area. So that's through education.
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  We also grow through conversation and that's one reason your podcast is doing so well because
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  you're having conversations with people and now those listening and watching right now,
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  they become warriors into these conversations that they could not do 50 years ago. You agree?
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  1000%. So education, conversation, but here's one of the greatest ways, observation.
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  When we can watch somebody even if it's from afar and you go, oh my god, look at that lady pulled
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  off or look at that man pulled off or look at this kid invented, look at this person created
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  through education, conversation, observation, what it does is it begins to build your faith
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  that I can do it to, that I can do it to. And that's what happened to Tim's story. Coming out of
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  the inner city, lower income, we could not afford much. And then what? Look at my life now,
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  becomes a life coach to the stars had my own office on can and driving Beverly Hills when I was a
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  young guy. I mean, it wasn't by accident. It was education, conversation, observation.
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  Now to play devil's advocate, actually not devil's advocate because that's the wrong word. But
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  I think that we are in an age where if somebody has bought into the idea of learning and
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  upscaling themselves and surrounding them to other people that have done it before,
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  we are almost like over indexing on knowledge accumulation and observation and education.
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  And we don't actually take action. I know people that will listen to this podcast all day,
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  every day, and they never do anything. They'll go read every single book. They'll go listen to
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  you on stage, out of spy or any other places you speak. And they don't do anything. And that's
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  also very frustrating because I want them to consume the content. I want them to listen to the
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  podcast. I want them to go to you on stage. But why do people take step one and don't take step
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  two, which is massive action? Okay. So I think I have the answer. So I remember I was 20 years of age
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  and I was in a I was in a certain country and I was there speaking at only 20 years of age.
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  And these guys were walking up this big cliff and then they're going to jump off this very
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  high cliff into this beautiful ocean. So I'm watching these guys do it. I'm like,
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  every guy I watched did not build my faith. I was like, these dudes,
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  doesn't matter how many jump off doesn't make me want to jump off. Right. So I remember
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  turning to say, I'm going back down the cliff because this is I can't do it like I'm frozen.
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  So as I'm doing this, this white guy who happens to be from California and we're in a whole different
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  country comes rolling up. He goes, are you American? I go, yeah, he goes, have you jumped yet?
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  I go, no, I said, to be honest with you, I'm going down because I'm kind of afraid to jump. He
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  goes, you're afraid to jump because come here. Just come up here and stand with me. And he goes,
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  there's nothing down there. There's no rocks. There's no nothing. It's just exhilaration. He said,
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  so just come a little closer. As I get a little closer and he takes my arm and he jumps with me.
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  His arm with my arm. I never met this dude. My God. And I'm gone. I'm just, I'm just with him,
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  but I'm linked. And as I'm going down, it was not a feeling of being ticked at the guy for
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  making me jump. I felt like this brotherhood of like what the crap. So I come up from the water
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  with joy. And he goes like this. He goes like this. He high-fives me and goes,
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  F and exhilarating, right? How awesome is that? That's amazing. Yes. He did not give me a chance
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  to go back down. We're our own worst enemy. Yes. Yeah. We get in our own heads about it. Yeah,
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  I was beginning to intimidate my own self. Yeah. Yeah. And talk myself out of it. You would have
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  thought by watching more people jump that I would build my faith, but no, it got me more nervous
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  because some guys were jumping awkwardly and then it looked like they were down there too long.
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  But this guy, he had done it so many times and he knew he knew that I had it in me.
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  So I think he read me quickly as like a happy, go lucky guy. He's like, come here happy,
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  go lucky guy. And the next thing I was, we were jumping. So part of the the idea of jumping
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  is guys at your stage of life, okay? Because you're still young, but yet you're still mature.
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  You are called to help people jump. And this is what I do. I help people jump.
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  I help people jump. And then how cool is it when we're underneath and I come up like I
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  had this joy goes effing, exhilarating. I love this because we we psych ourselves out.
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  We psych ourselves out. And I think that that's why social media is a blessing and a curse
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  because we get front row access to all these incredible people and incredible stories.
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  But that doesn't change our identity. So our identity can still be I know all the tactics,
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  I know all the strategies, but am I an entrepreneur? Am I somebody that can be married for 50 years?
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  Am I somebody that can go to the gym religiously, not just for again, not just for January,
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  but for the rest of my life? And that identity shift is difficult for people. But what this guy did
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  when he grabbed your arm and jumped, he changed your identity from somebody who was just watching a
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  jumper to somebody who was actually a jumper itself. So in that, I will call the power of
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  partnership. So I do that in my business life. So I spend time with guys that have jumped many
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  times before. And they've taught me about things that I did not know before are people who understand
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  taxes who know how to scale certain things. So they've taught me how to jump in all these areas
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  where maybe I used to play it safe before. I like to go to people that are more experienced in me
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  I have a belief that most people want to help individuals that are earlier on in their journey.
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  Most entrepreneurs that I know, they love helping people that are a little bit earlier on. But
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  I don't know if they always know how to do it. I don't know if they always know how to be
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  influential, how to become a partner that gets that person to jump. I think they can just speak
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  knowledge and wisdom, but like we just figured out it doesn't always help the person get to where
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  they want to go and take the action. Right. You know how to be influential. You know how to change
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  people's lives. What's something that you do that again, you came from inner city,
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  Compton, you can speak to people that have built billion dollar businesses, people that are making
• 28:55
  60 grand a year, people that are just laid off and have you can speak to all of them. So what's
• 29:01
  the through line and influence if you want to help somebody? Okay, so that is that's a great question.
• 29:08
  So I have become a master of onboarding people into a way of thinking. So what what happens
• 29:17
  many times if somebody goes to work for a company, they're not properly onboarded. This is the
• 29:24
  history of the company. This is who founded the company. This is the white paper, the mission
• 29:32
  statement of the company that was written 45 years ago. So that person can then start to understand
• 29:41
  that company. So recently my mother wanted Chick-fil-A, okay. She's 94. She's want to Chick-fil-A.
• 29:50
  So I was going through the Chick-fil-A drive-through and I see these happy kids. It was very crowded,
• 29:56
  Southern California, sunny day. So as this one super young happy kid, I said, when you got
• 30:04
  onboarded to Chick-fil-A, what was the process in you learning? He said, oh, well they take you through
• 30:12
  these videos and then they take you through the history and they teach you about the founders.
• 30:20
  He's telling me all these things. So then I started to do more research on this.
• 30:24
  So they really helped the young people understand what Chick-fil-A is all about. So when they start
• 30:33
  to work for Chick-fil-A, they feel like they're part of it. We have to do the same thing for people
• 30:40
  in life. Give them the backstory. Give them what it took to be Scott Clary. Give them what it
• 30:49
  took to go from Canada to America. Give them the setback to the comeback. Don't you love this?
• 30:57
  I do. I do. So it's so ingrained in you that now you're caught up with the cause. So most people
• 31:05
  are not caught up with the cause. I am. I would say that most companies have zero employees that are
• 31:11
  caught up with the cause. You're right. I agree. That's why you can go into some really nice stores
• 31:18
  and you'll say, can you tell me where the men's department is? And it's a nice store and they'll go
• 31:24
  like this. Yeah. Where's that? Instead of saying, because they're not doing anything, he's just
• 31:32
  talking to another employee that happened to me two weeks ago. Why couldn't he just say,
• 31:38
  hey, you know, you look like a sharp guy. Follow me. Because where the men's section was was a
• 31:47
  little bit hidden, but he could have walked me right. 100% to it. Listen, this is a very useful
• 31:52
  tool and I don't think people understand how important it is to get people to buy into the cause.
• 31:57
  I don't think people pay it any attention at all. I'm thinking about my own content and how
• 32:04
  my content really started to take off when I started to get my audience to buy into the cause,
• 32:10
  meaning I start talking about things that are going on in my life. So it's the same thing if you
• 32:15
  want to create compelling content and you want to and you want people to become fans and not
• 32:19
  just fans, but like just like live and breathe and love what you do. It's the same thing if you're
• 32:23
  hiring people to same thing for mentoring somebody. It's like they have to understand your journey.
• 32:28
  They have to understand all the stuff you went through and all the good and the bad that you are
• 32:33
  before they can trust and truly listen to you. Yes. I agree. And that's part of the missing
• 32:41
  element of life in the time that we're living in is that storytelling has always been part of
• 32:51
  history. I do a lot with indigenous people. In fact, with the Cronation, I've been adopted
• 32:59
  in the Cronation in Montana for like 26 years of work that I've done there, been given a name,
• 33:06
  been given land, everything. But in the Cronation, part of it is storytelling of the ancestors that
• 33:14
  have come before and the battles that they fought and why you were now living on this land
• 33:22
  because somebody paid the price. The artist storytelling is really missing in this world too,
• 33:30
  where you're at Thanksgiving and you want to hear your grandmother seem like she's almost over
• 33:36
  talking. And because we a lot of young people more want to be on their phone or like hurry up,
• 33:44
  let's get this Thanksgiving over. But what you could maybe really hear and listen and learn from
• 33:50
  your grandmother or your grandfather and these amazing stories. So I am one that I have really
• 33:58
  grown and been built of amazing stories. I can tell because every time you answer a question,
• 34:05
  you have a great story that just it just brings it home. It gives it gives it a gives the answer
• 34:11
  life. Like I remember all of your answers because you tell a story around it. Can I give you an
• 34:16
  example? Please. When I started to come into Beverly Hills as a therapist in a life coach,
• 34:22
  I was only in my 20s. So I'll be sitting with guys like Charlton Heston, Jack Lemmon, Walter
• 34:30
  Mathau. These guys were my friends. And one night I'm out to dinner with the Tony Curtis.
• 34:38
  And so I said, what was Marilyn Monroe like? Because he did a movie called Some Like It Hot
• 34:45
  with Marilyn Monroe. And he said, because of your background of going to seminary, I'm not going
• 34:53
  to give you all the stories. But he goes, but I will give you one good one. And Tony Curtis was
• 35:01
  such a great storyteller. We're in Spagoza, Beverly Hills. I'm in my late 20s. He had me like
• 35:08
  this and Palm moves hands. And I thought, oh my gosh, through that one story that he told
• 35:16
  on Marilyn Monroe, he took me right in the moment of her life, their connection, that movie.
• 35:25
  But the power of storytelling can really get within the fabric of our system to where we don't
• 35:35
  forget something. There's such power in it. It's such a good leadership tool. I mean, I don't think that
• 35:43
  I don't think you can truly max out your life, meaning if you want to have the best possible
• 35:53
  relationships with your kids, with your spouse, if you want to have the best possible career or
• 35:57
  business that you've built, if you want, even the, even the other parts of your life, spirituality,
• 36:06
  health, wellness, you have to tell yourself a story about why this is important to you. Because if
• 36:15
  you forget your own story, you're not going to remember the importance of the thing. You have to
• 36:20
  tell yourself a story about why is it important to be faithful to your spouse? Why is it important
• 36:27
  to sacrifice a lot for your children? Why is it important that you're building this company?
• 36:34
  Again, year three, it's not going the way you wanted to. You're not making the money you wanted
• 36:39
  to. Maybe you should just go get a job again. What's the story? And I think people don't understand
• 36:46
  the power of stories in helping them achieve the most in their own life. I really like that.
• 36:52
  I just thought of this right now. I think that people, that is so powerful. I read a lot and I
• 36:57
  listen a lot. That's a brilliant idea. Because what happens when you continue to remember your own
• 37:08
  story and your life in your own story as it is unfolding, it helps you to stay in alignment
• 37:17
  to your authenticity of who Scott really is from Toronto, Canada. Does that make sense?
• 37:24
  A thousand percent. When you start to think about your grandparents and your parents and the
• 37:30
  price they paid and your your buddies from elementary school and junior high school and your first
• 37:37
  love, all those things have brought us to this moment today in your studio to where you are now.
• 37:47
  But it also keeps Scott in alignment as this story continues to unfold.
• 37:53
  So why do you think people lose their own stories? What happens? Is it
• 37:59
  social media, pressure from what they think they should accomplish, pressure from their friends,
• 38:04
  their peers, the news, the world, whatever. What caused you to lose your own story? What causes someone?
• 38:11
  Very raw, real example. Thank God this is not my life. But say you were married for 30 years
• 38:17
  and you cheat on your spouse. That wasn't the story. That wasn't your story when you proposed,
• 38:22
  when you got married, when you fell in love. What happened? What's the reason why we lose our own
• 38:28
  stories? I think one of the reasons is that we have guests that come into our story that probably
• 38:38
  should have never even been in the story. And now the world and technology enables a lot of
• 38:43
  this. Yeah. So you've now cast the wrong people. Yeah. Very much. Watch how brilliant this is,
• 38:49
  right? So the guy that did oceans 11, 12, 13 is a guy that I know, Steven Soderbergh.
• 38:58
  I know most of the cast from those movies for years. So there was only so many cast members.
• 39:08
  If they had like seven or eight cast members, it made these movies phenomenal. Because the way they
• 39:16
  had the way they cast the movie. But if you had 22 cast members in oceans 11, it wouldn't have
• 39:23
  wouldn't have been the same. Okay. Because then George Clooney would not have the same screen time
• 39:30
  or our Brad Pitt or Scott Constance. I've known him since he was 14 years of age.
• 39:35
  They would not have had the same screen time. Now watch this. I don't think everyone's supposed to
• 39:41
  be part of my dog on movie. I don't want to meet everybody. This is a true story about me. Watch
• 39:48
  someone will say to me, Tim, oh my god, listen to this. There's going to be this party. And so
• 39:54
  and so is going to show up and I go, seems awesome. And they go, why don't you want to go and I go,
• 40:00
  I don't really have a need to meet him. This is a true story. I have been like this far away
• 40:10
  from certain people that are like big movie stars or big at what they do or big sport stars.
• 40:18
  And had the right to go there because maybe there's only like 15 people at the party. And they
• 40:24
  were that close and never felt the need to walk across. Now I love meeting people,
• 40:31
  but not everybody is supposed to be a cast in your story. We need to kick some cast members out.
• 40:37
  I think that's wise, but but it's very hard. You know, it seems like you know how to filter
• 40:46
  people in your life so that you stay authentic to the Tim story story. So how do you do the,
• 40:53
  how do you know if someone's good for you or bad for you? You can't see the million possible
• 40:58
  opportunities from every single person that you interact with in your life. And I think that this is
• 41:05
  two things can be true at the same time. That's a very important idea for me because
• 41:10
  the first idea is in life, you should expose yourself to ideas and counterpoints and people because
• 41:17
  you never know what's going to happen, right? My life has changed since a couple hundred people
• 41:21
  of sat where you're sitting and it's completely changed everything that I thought could ever
• 41:25
  happen to me. Yes. In the best way possible. But at the same time, there's other people that
• 41:31
  will come into my life that have caused friction, caused stress, lost me money, whatever. And yeah,
• 41:36
  you can have a pretty good barometer for who's good and who's bad or who is well intentioned or
• 41:41
  who's malicious, but it's almost impossible to be a hundred percent. I agree. So what's your
• 41:47
  what's your advice as somebody navigate? Because I'm a teacher. So I'm going to give two
• 41:53
  ease, education and experience, education on what fits us again, back to your core principles,
• 42:03
  because you're a very core principled guy. I think that the people that we bring in our inner
• 42:08
  circle, they have to have similar motives. And so both of us have brought people in our lives that
• 42:16
  did not have similar motives. And we we usually paid for it because their motives were not correct.
• 42:22
  Does that make sense? Very much so. Okay. So I think the education of like what kind of person
• 42:29
  am I looking for? What kind of principles do they have? And then the experience in the experience
• 42:34
  side, I do think that that comes through trial and error at times. Because I would rather error
• 42:43
  on the side of being loving and trusting and give somebody a chance. And then if they if they burn
• 42:51
  me, then I go, okay, that didn't feel good, but I learned a lesson. So maybe I move a little slower.
• 43:01
  So because in in my world, there's a lot of asks, like I would say today, just today alone,
• 43:10
  I've probably been asked for at least 20 favors. I have no doubt. Yeah. Just today alone.
• 43:16
  Because I'm in I'm in the world of knowing people. So someone's always asking me to get them to
• 43:22
  somebody. And a lot of times the motives are, I'm going to just say that's their their motives are
• 43:29
  whack. And for you that are watching or listening, I know that sounds almost harsh from a guy who's
• 43:36
  not harsh, but no, their motives are whack because they're not even ready to meet that person to have
• 43:44
  the experience that they want so badly. Does that make sense? So I'm almost doing them a favor by
• 43:49
  not introducing them. So I think education and experience, but the the the why's are I yet,
• 43:57
  because it's not just age, it's it's wisdom in the time frame, the why's are I yet, I let
• 44:05
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• 46:02
  So you believe, and I know you speak about it, rig radical empathy, radical empathy for people.
• 46:08
  And you are you're also a religious person. And you come from studying religion, practicing
• 46:13
  religion. So for somebody who is a radically empathetic person, meaning in a non-religious sense,
• 46:21
  they could just be like a nice person, a people pleaser, whatever it is. How do you couple
• 46:26
  those two ideas? How do you be radically empathetic? But as you get wiser, you have a stronger
• 46:31
  filtering mechanism. Yes. So I think I think the best teaching on this that I've seen in the
• 46:37
  last 20 years is the book Boundaries. And so, you know, someone can love their mother and honor
• 46:46
  their mother, but not let the mother metal in their marriage. So it's sometimes it's a conversation
• 46:53
  with your own mother and say, Mom, I love you, but I really can't have you talk against my wife
• 47:01
  that way. That's just not working for me. That's Boundaries. That's tough for people. Of course,
• 47:08
  of course it is. So I think that the key is to always be fair, because I'm a teacher, so I'm
• 47:16
  going to rhyme here, fair, firm, okay, and friendly. But people are afraid to be firm, not me.
• 47:28
  I will tell you, okay, that's beautiful, but just only come in that far. Boundaries are so
• 47:35
  important. Before we recorded, we were chatting about the type of content that I get pushed back on.
• 47:40
  Oh, yeah. And I spoke about a few types of content about accountability and personal
• 47:44
  responsibility to get pushed back. But another type of content that I get pushed back on
• 47:50
  is that not everybody has the right to be in every part of your life. And then the first comment
• 47:56
  is, well, if for example, if you're building a business and you're doing things that your
• 48:01
  parents have never done before, but they want to give their opinion on it or they want to say,
• 48:06
  well, are you sure you want to do this? Like, you still have to love them, but you can't let
• 48:13
  that perspective based on their lived experience so good impact you. And I think the people have a
• 48:19
  very hard time. It's easy to do this with somebody who burned you or scammed you or was an asshole to
• 48:25
  it's very hard to do this with your mother, your father, your brother, your wife, your kid. Like,
• 48:31
  there's some people that they mean well, but their experience and their wisdom comes from their
• 48:38
  own lived belief, which is not going to benefit you at all. Yes. How do you, how do you mention
• 48:46
  to sort of just go a level deeper because I think people have a big problem with it's very
• 48:50
  difficult for people. How do you manage those relationships? Okay, so I'm going to go real
• 48:57
  powerful on this. I want you to really think this through. They cannot stab you on the back side,
• 49:06
  like if somebody stabs you in the back, unless you have let them on the inside. It's the inside
• 49:15
  of people that do the most damage to us. It's the person that was your partner that you thought
• 49:21
  you could trust. It's a person who was supposed to be handling your money and they mishandled your
• 49:27
  money. We see this all the time, right? It's it's the the man that you date and you've given four
• 49:34
  years of your life to him or the woman or the in a marriage or siblings. Okay. So you have to really
• 49:43
  be careful who you let in your inside because those are the people that can cause either the most
• 49:55
  strength or the most damage and really think this through. It it goes all the way back to biblical
• 50:06
  days. Cain and Abel, it was jealousy. Jonathan and David, it was goodness. So they helped each other
• 50:17
  out. Joseph and his brothers, his brothers wanted to kill him. So there was damage. So in the Bible,
• 50:24
  you see good relationships, lifting someone up, the wrong toxic relationships, damaging and almost
• 50:34
  destroying people. There are so many people watching right now, we're having a moment. You're
• 50:40
  watching, you're listening to us and you are damn damaged because you let the wrong people on the
• 50:48
  inside and they stabbed you on the backside. So what do you then need to do? You need to recognize
• 50:55
  it. Number one, you need to recognize it. And you need to learn to forgive yourself for letting
• 51:03
  that person are those persons in either singular or plural. And then you need to find a way
• 51:11
  to just release that person from your life, from your soul. And now try to get even. But just say
• 51:20
  that was a life experience that hurt like hell. But I release that life experience. And that will
• 51:28
  give you the freedom to move on in more clarity and also in more freedom. Because I think that a
• 51:38
  lot of people are carrying a lot of weight from the wounds of the past. What are the traits of the
• 51:43
  high performers? But also what do high performers have the most trouble with? I think one of the traits
• 51:50
  of the high performer is they have a revelation of something. A revelation of being a really good
• 52:00
  filmmaker, like a Martin Scorsese. Is this the secret sauce of that person? Or 100%. I think to have a
• 52:09
  revelation of something that you're going to do in life is a secret sauce to either it's Martin
• 52:18
  Scorsese or let's say a great designer like Ralph Lauren. Even if you just watch a documentary,
• 52:27
  if you've never met these people, you'll see that there was an aha moment as Oprah says. There was
• 52:33
  a revelation like if we dug deep into you, there was a time in your life when you were in Canada
• 52:40
  and you said to yourself, talk on it. I think I'm going to do something big in life. You may not
• 52:46
  have ever said it to anybody. You thought it. You thought it. It was a revelation. It was an aha
• 52:52
  moment. So I think that the common denominator that I see from the greatest artist to the greatest
• 53:00
  musicians to the greatest entrepreneurs is there was a aha moment revelation where they said,
• 53:11
  this is wild. But I think I think something big is going to happen in my life. But then they went
• 53:18
  after it and then they went after it and then they went after it. They took the steps. What's the
• 53:24
  thing they have the most trouble with? Well, the steps, the steps were quick before the trouble.
• 53:30
  The steps. The steps are you have to sit and learn. So Scott had to sit and learn and then you
• 53:38
  stand in what you learned and then you walk in what you've been learning and then you start to run
• 53:46
  in what you're learning. This is you and your podcast. Now you're running. That's a position of
• 53:51
  passion. And then some of us get the sore and you're like, holy crap. How dope was that? That's
• 54:01
  though. I love it. Yes. But it starts with the revelation. It starts with the revelation. You
• 54:06
  have to sit. Yeah. Revelation, education, watch. Then you stand in it. Then you walk it out. That's
• 54:13
  the daily walk. That's the persistence. That's the routine. That's the discipline that both of us
• 54:21
  have, right? And then you find yourself running with passion and you stay in that passion because it
• 54:26
  feels good. And then life picks you up and you start to soar. But it takes you to face
• 54:33
  places and spaces that you never even thought that you could get to. I still want to understand
• 54:38
  what they have trouble with because that's an interesting concept and everybody asks what they're
• 54:43
  good at but not what they're bad at. But one more thought on this idea, when you have that revelation,
• 54:50
  is that when you are subconsciously saying this is my identity or is identity formed after you
• 54:55
  take action? I think that I think the identity of a person of a human being as I work with people
• 55:03
  for all these decades is something that is not usually like, aha, this is who I am,
• 55:11
  and this is my purpose, this is my meaning, this is what's going to make me significant.
• 55:17
  I think it's more discovered. You start to discover your identity, okay? But you asked me
• 55:26
  earlier about the challenge to what we do. I call it the opposition to the mission.
• 55:34
  The opposition to the mission will always come from people that do not have a revelation.
• 55:40
  So if they don't have a revelation, they're wondering why Scott has a revelation. Like, Scott,
• 55:45
  why are you guys moving from Canada to America? Changing your whole life, going through all the visa
• 55:53
  process, the ridiculous cost of moving everything to all of it, switching the career, all of it.
• 55:57
  Yes, like Scott, you had this plan, you're doing great in your business, you have your this and
• 56:06
  your that and retirement and then you could retire at this age and now you're stepping into the deep
• 56:14
  because that person does does not have a revelation. So game recognizes game. That's why Snoop Dogg
• 56:23
  can be friends with Martha Stewart. 100%. They're from two different worlds. Snoop Dogg from Long Beach
• 56:31
  is a rapper and Martha Stewart's from the East Coast, whole different type of lifestyle,
• 56:36
  but game recognizes game and that's the beauty of it all, man. I can walk into a conference sometime
• 56:44
  and you see somebody from like 15 feet away and go, man, we just stare at each other. It's like,
• 56:52
  I mean, I have ever met him. We may not even speak the same language, but game recognizes game.
• 57:00
  You asked me a really good question when I was on your show and I'm going to steal this question
• 57:03
  because I think that I think that this really highlights whatever you think is wrong with the
• 57:09
  world right now. So you speak to tens of thousands of people on a stage. What's your biggest stage?
• 57:15
  You've ever been on 85,000 insane. Good job. Amazing. I haven't I haven't done that yet.
• 57:21
  Already 40, 50, 60,000 a lot of times. Yeah. These are wild numbers. Yeah. You've coached,
• 57:27
  worked with, I don't even know a lot of people over your career. Yes. What frustrates you the most?
• 57:33
  What pisses you off when you look at the person that you want to speak to, you want to connect with,
• 57:41
  you want to change their life? What's frustrating you about them? I think one of the biggest things
• 57:45
  that frustrates me is people who refuse to develop a gift that was given to them. So that a gift
• 57:56
  was given, but either you're too lazy or too self entitled to develop the gift. So there's one
• 58:10
  really attractive person. I won't say if it's male or female came to Beverly Hills and they
• 58:16
  asked me to connect them to an agent or a manager and they knew some of the big ones that I knew.
• 58:23
  And I said, are you taking acting classes? And they said, no. I said, well, how come?
• 58:30
  Because I'm, I'm good already. Because everywhere I go, people just stare at me. And I thought
• 58:38
  that's interesting. I said, but if I coach you and tell you that you should take acting classes so
• 58:43
  you can cultivate your craft to get better, would you do it? And they told me to my face, no.
• 58:50
  I know, I visualized, I'm going to be a star and I'm going to get an Academy Award. Okay.
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  That was a long time ago. They're not a star and they have not got an Academy Award. So they were
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  unwilling to develop the gift that irritates the hell out of me. You, you quote a lot of
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  biblical verses. What does the Bible say about ego? I think that ego is necessary and watch
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  how powerful this is. God never tries to kill someone's ego. He wants to purify it. Interesting.
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  Because sometimes it's the ego that says no cancer. I'm not, I'm not dying. I got three kids.
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  So he doesn't want to kill it, but he doesn't want to purify it. Because ego that's not purified
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  is going to get you in a heck of a lot of trouble. And so I want you as a younger guy than me
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  to have like strength and fortitude and faith in yourself and believe you could tell me anything,
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  you could tell me like Tim in five years, I see myself running this empire. That's not going to
• 1:00:15
  scare me. Good, good, do it. That's your cause. But while you're going, just
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  keep your ego pure. And how do you do that? You do that by staying in alignment to your creator.
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  As you draw near to him, he draws near to you. Okay. And as you draw near to God,
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  his character is just come on you. So I don't get off on myself. I'm sitting in your podcast studio
• 1:00:48
  with no shoes on. I know. I've told you to put the shoes on, but you won't do it, but no.
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  Right. And you feel my vibe. Like someone asked me, I did a seminar yesterday. There was really
• 1:01:01
  like a really great situation, AI people, people that do well, a lot of money, like Tim's story,
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  like what's your next project that go right now? I'm just in Arizona. I saw that on your stories.
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  And I'm really not even joking. Like I'm serious. Like right now, like what a privilege should be
• 1:01:20
  going at it with you. I'm in the moment. I'm fully present, fully feeling fully alive.
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  I've brought on a couple of religious leaders onto this show. And we always try and figure out
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  I feel like society has become much more secular. And I think that there's a lot of wisdom
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  in religion. And it doesn't matter which one you subscribe to. There's a lot of religion
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  that I think people are losing by becoming more secular.
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  And I get concerned that people, this is actually a Patrick Bed David line that I love. He says,
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  if you don't have God, you replace God with another God, which could be a variety of negative
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  influence. Besides that one particular idea, what are some, even if you aren't religious,
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  what are some biblical principles that you see to be absolutely valid and true that we are losing
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  sight of because we are becoming more secular as a society that we really cannot lose?
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  So number one, I love Patrick Bed David. We've been friends I think 25 years.
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  I will say that I don't blame people for not being religious because I think some of the people
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  that advertise religion, some of the leaders of religion, we see so much
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  ego that's out of control. And I feel like a lot of religion feels like an MLM,
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  like a multi-level marketing scaling thing. Unless of a thing to improve your life.
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  100%. So I think that there needs to be a shifting in the way a lot of religion is done
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  where because Jesus said I came not to be served like to be the man, but I came to serve.
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  So I think the greatest act of a human is his servanthood. So when you look at Mother Teresa,
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  she had a job, her job, but she was a teacher. But she heard the cries of the orphans.
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  And she decided to listen to the cries of the orphans because they were crying because they
• 1:03:34
  didn't have food. It wasn't just that they didn't have a place to stay, but they were hungry.
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  I think people in the society are so busy just trying to get what's theirs. They don't hear the
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  cries of the hurting. So that's where I'm at with society. I think that people are so hungry
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  to get theirs that you're not paying attention to your, your mother is crying in her soul
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  because she's maybe aging or something's going on in her life or your father is feeling
• 1:04:10
  displaced or misplaced because he retired or you're seen people in CVS and you just walk by them
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  saying hello or you're on a walk and you don't just wave your hand. And maybe that person that
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  you walk by, maybe you're the only interaction that human being will have for the whole day.
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  And so I think that one of the things that we need to do that is a very spiritual thing.
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  And that is to listen to the cries of people who are not in a place that we might be in.
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  Maybe you're feeling so blessed. Maybe your life is so amazing. So congratulations,
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  but there's a lot of people that are crying out for help.
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  Beautifully said. Yeah, we are more connected than ever before, but we're more isolated and more
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  self-serving than ever before too. Yes, yes. And I think that that is spirituality of connection,
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  connection and not just hearing people's cries, but also celebrating with people's success.
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  So I am that guy, you know, I'm glad that all my buddies are doing so well. And some of these guys,
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  I mean, I thought I had great houses. Some of these guys houses are just ridiculous how big their
• 1:05:36
  houses are and all the stuff they have. I have not one time ever been jealous of one of my friends
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  for what they have. I'm really like, congratulations, like you worked hard to get there.
• 1:05:49
  I don't want to make an assumption, but I feel as though I think that it is a behavior trained by
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  social media that we do not congratulate somebody who does better than us, but we look at them with
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  resentment. Even though I don't even think that that success, especially if it's displayed on
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  social media is even true and authentic success, but I feel like we look at people that are doing
• 1:06:13
  better than us with resentment. And I feel like that can actually impact and impede our own success
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  and our own happiness, which it does. You have an opinion on that. Why that may be the case,
• 1:06:23
  why you operate so differently than many other people who would look at somebody who is rich and
• 1:06:30
  successful and say, well, I wish I had that. They don't deserve that. They exploited somebody. Like,
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  how do you reframe? This is a big question. It's a very deep, heavy question. No, I can go there.
• 1:06:40
  How do you reframe your relationship with other people with the world so that you can just sort of,
• 1:06:48
  I don't even know how to say without sounding stupid, just like vibrate at a higher level.
• 1:06:51
  Yeah. But I think you said that well. So I think it's it's it's almost like
• 1:07:00
  the proper diet, new nutrition that comes into one's body that you really have to pay attention
• 1:07:09
  to what you are bringing into yourself. And I call it the eye gate in the ear gate. So I constantly
• 1:07:17
  watch what I'm watching. And I watch what I listen to. So I don't just scroll scroll scroll
• 1:07:25
  because I'm getting too many images that are not going to be good for even me. And I really watch
• 1:07:32
  what I hear even if somebody's gossiping about somebody or saying something very negative. So you
• 1:07:38
  have your your eye gate in your ear gate. So you have to learn to guard your eye gate what you see
• 1:07:44
  in your ear gate, what you listen to. Because what happens is it begins to come into you.
• 1:07:51
  And you start to believe that and then act that that out. But if I am reading the right things
• 1:08:03
  about servanthood, gratitude, right? Being authentic, walking in love,
• 1:08:13
  leading with love, which is my new movement called lead with love. If I am reading those things
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  and hearing those things, all of a sudden I'm acting out that way. I think the being aware of it
• 1:08:25
  is the first step because yes, agree. We are the the result of you know, billion and trillion
• 1:08:33
  dollar social media mechanisms that are designed by very smart people to just get a reaction out of
• 1:08:40
  us all the time and to make us angry because that keeps our attention. And I think that when you
• 1:08:45
  realize that you are the product of social media and you are the product of news and you are the
• 1:08:50
  product of people that that make money off of you hating other people, then you can start to
• 1:08:56
  start to heal your relationship. I'll give you one story as we wind down is that I came into L.A.
• 1:09:03
  airport and I saw a comedian that I had recognized and we were a baggage claim and
• 1:09:14
  nice looking guy, white guy, comedian. And I went up to him, I said,
• 1:09:21
  hi, my name is Tim Story and we have a mutual friend and I named a friend and I'll never forget
• 1:09:28
  that he just kind of just went like this and he goes, that's great, that's great.
• 1:09:35
  And then I tried to talk him a little more. I said, are you here to do a show and he goes,
• 1:09:40
  yeah, yeah. So I walked away and I thought to myself, I think he's going through something because
• 1:09:52
  that was really odd. I think the average person who doesn't work with people would have really got
• 1:09:59
  ticked off and put off, right? But I went to the other side to get my bag and just thought, I think
• 1:10:08
  he's going through something. So I'm not trying to bump people out at the end of the podcast but I will
• 1:10:13
  say this. He took his life two months later, two months later, like 60 days later he died
• 1:10:23
  and is a popular comedian. He died two months later. So who knows what dog on head space he was in?
• 1:10:34
  That's deep, right? That's deep. So you never know what someone else knows. You never know. That's
• 1:10:39
  why we got to lead with love. We got to lead with empathy. You have to do your best to look past
• 1:10:49
  people's false flaws and failures because you never know the pain that they might be in.
• 1:10:55
  Where can people connect with you? Where do you want to send them? Social, your podcasts?
• 1:10:59
  Yeah, I think the best place to go, this is like TimStory.com, STOREY. That's like all things
• 1:11:10
  TimStory. The podcast is called the Miracle Mentality and I like the kind of guests that we're
• 1:11:17
  getting talking about mindset and talking about so many other things in life. And then I'm excited
• 1:11:24
  about something that we do called lead with love where I do these mini masterminds around the
• 1:11:31
  world. And we bring in like 50 people at one time and I work on the eight areas of their life.
• 1:11:37
  But all that is talked about in TimStory.com. I love it. There's so many similarities between
• 1:11:43
  our belief system and the content we put out and I just appreciate you for everything you do.
• 1:11:47
  I really appreciate for coming on. The last thing I always leave the audience with, you don't
• 1:11:52
  have to go deep because you've given us so much value. But just one last thought if you could
• 1:11:55
  take all the wisdom that you've learned over your life, over all the people you've worked with
• 1:11:59
  and you tell your 20 year old self one thing, one lesson. You can think of it a couple of ways.
• 1:12:04
  Yeah. Less you tell your 20 year old self one lesson that you only want to be remembered by.
• 1:12:08
  What is the most important lesson? What I would tell my 20 year old self is you're going to be okay
• 1:12:14
  because when you are 20, you're constantly wondering about things. So sometimes you're wondering
• 1:12:24
  and you're wondering and you're wondering you're wondering and I would say to my 20 year old self,
• 1:12:30
  hey little Timmy from Compton, you're going to be okay.