Latest / Reality with The King / DeVon Franklin Chats Ruth & Boaz Movie
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- 0:03Speaker 1: Reality with the King is hosted by me, Carlos King.
- 0:07Speaker 2: I'm an executive producer who have produced some of your
- 0:10Speaker 2: favorite shows from the Real Housewives in Atlanta, New Jersey
- 0:13Speaker 2: and my own creation, The Love and Marriage Franchise and
- 0:17Speaker 2: Bell Collective. Every episode we recap reality television from the
- 0:23Speaker 2: Real Housewives Franchise to The Bachelor or Selling Sunset, in
- 0:27Speaker 2: addition to celebrity guests, whether in the unscripted space or
- 0:31Speaker 2: scripted as well. Hey, rain drops on today's episode Reality
- 0:39Speaker 2: with the King. We're doing our Soulful Sunday special and
- 0:42Speaker 2: my first guest on my new series is somebody who
- 0:46Speaker 2: I have watched for many many years. He not only
- 0:51Speaker 2: is a faith based man, he is a powerhouse executive
- 0:54Speaker 2: in Hollywood, but he's also like a very nice person,
- 0:58Speaker 2: a cool person, and we are here to talk about
- 1:00Speaker 2: his new film, his new projects, in addition to how
- 1:03Speaker 2: faith has manifested into everything he has going on today,
- 1:08Speaker 2: his cup run it over, give it up for the
- 1:12Speaker 2: One the Only Demon Franklin. Thank you man, glad to
- 1:16Speaker 2: be here. We haven't seen each other in a little
- 1:19Speaker 2: wild minute. You look refreshed, you look great. You've been
- 1:24Speaker 2: in the gym a little bit. You know what I'm saying,
- 1:26Speaker 2: You know, I.
- 1:27Speaker 1: Mean how much you bench pressing? Brother?
- 1:28Speaker 3: Like, you know what, I don't even know. I haven't
- 1:31Speaker 3: really tested a while. I mean, my max I think
- 1:33Speaker 3: is like two ninety five. That was like one rep.
- 1:38Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, so you know,
- 1:40Speaker 3: and I don't do that all the time.
- 1:41Speaker 1: You want to hear my max? What's your max? Ninety five?
- 1:46Speaker 1: Come on, Carlo, get your point. You don't trying to.
- 1:49Speaker 1: But that's all I got.
- 1:52Speaker 2: But now listen, I am so grateful to have you
- 1:55Speaker 2: sitting here. You're a busy guy. And one thing that
- 1:58Speaker 2: I don't think a lot of people really do was
- 2:00Speaker 2: the fact that I used to watch your sermons all
- 2:04Speaker 2: the time online and when I moved to Los Angeles
- 2:08Speaker 2: when one church at the time was of course passed
- 2:12Speaker 2: by Terrey Roberts and his lovely wife, you know, pastor
- 2:16Speaker 2: Sarah Jakes Roberts.
- 2:17Speaker 1: You would sometimes be a guest on there.
- 2:21Speaker 2: And you have no idea, sir, how your words, oh brother,
- 2:27Speaker 2: your words of how you applied faith in Hollywood, which
- 2:33Speaker 2: some people may look at as being like oil and
- 2:37Speaker 2: water they mix. And you inspired me so much because
- 2:41Speaker 2: I remember you telling a story about how you got
- 2:45Speaker 2: this job. I believe it was at Sony or it
- 2:48Speaker 2: was at Will Smith's Company and you honor the Sabbath.
- 2:54Speaker 1: Yes, that was it Will Smith's, Will Smith's.
- 2:56Speaker 2: Company Overbrooke Entertainment, and you were so nervous because you
- 3:01Speaker 2: were like, I.
- 3:02Speaker 1: Won't get fired, yah, and I get hired.
- 3:05Speaker 2: Talk to me about that story because the reason why
- 3:06Speaker 2: I want to start there, and we'll get into your
- 3:08Speaker 2: recent projects, is because I want my audience to know
- 3:12Speaker 2: how you never allowed your business ambition to ever take
- 3:21Speaker 2: over your faith.
- 3:24Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, you know.
- 3:25Speaker 3: So for me, you know, it's like I came to Hollywood,
- 3:29Speaker 3: or at least I had the vision to go to
- 3:31Speaker 3: Hollywood and the dream to be in Hollywood when I
- 3:33Speaker 3: was a teenager, and it was just you know, my
- 3:35Speaker 3: father died when I was nine years old of a
- 3:37Speaker 3: heart attack when he was thirty six, and yeah, I know,
- 3:40Speaker 3: me's so young, and it was my mom didn't have
- 3:42Speaker 3: money for therapy, so it was a combination of watching
- 3:45Speaker 3: movies and going to church that really became my therapy.
- 3:48Speaker 1: And that combination was just so powerful to me.
- 3:51Speaker 3: I just was like, Wow, I really want to be
- 3:52Speaker 3: a part of this industry that you know, makes these
- 3:56Speaker 3: movies that can bring hope and can bring you know.
- 3:58Speaker 1: A sense of peace. And so that's what I pursued.
- 4:01Speaker 3: Now, my pursuit was always financed by my belief that
- 4:06Speaker 3: or my curiosity if God was actually in it. Sometimes
- 4:11Speaker 3: we have an idea and we don't know if God's
- 4:12Speaker 3: in it. Maybe it's just our idea and the only
- 4:14Speaker 3: way to find out is to get confirmation. And so
- 4:16Speaker 3: I went to Los Angeles, went to the University of
- 4:19Speaker 3: Southern California, and when I got that first internship interview,
- 4:23Speaker 3: which was for the company that managed Will Smith, they
- 4:27Speaker 3: asked me at the end of the interview, is there
- 4:29Speaker 3: anything else you want us to know? And so I
- 4:30Speaker 3: told him, I said, well, look, you know, I observed
- 4:32Speaker 3: the Sabbath, so of taking this internship would require me
- 4:35Speaker 3: to work on the Sabbath, I won't take it.
- 4:37Speaker 1: Now. At the time, I wasn't even it wasn't even
- 4:40Speaker 1: like a thought to me.
- 4:40Speaker 3: It was just like, this is my conviction and I'm
- 4:44Speaker 3: not going to compromise this for this opportunity. And what
- 4:48Speaker 3: happened inadvertently was one they said, okay, no problem. But
- 4:51Speaker 3: what it also did was it gave me confirmation like, Okay,
- 4:55Speaker 3: I can honor God and still pursue this career and
- 4:59Speaker 3: he will open doors instead of Sometimes we think that
- 5:03Speaker 3: compromise is the key that opens the door. And yes,
- 5:07Speaker 3: compromise can open a door. The question is where you
- 5:09Speaker 3: supposed to walk to that door to begin with. And
- 5:12Speaker 3: when we don't compromise on whatever our belief may be,
- 5:15Speaker 3: whatever our conviction about how who we are and how
- 5:18Speaker 3: we work, when we don't compromise that and the door
- 5:21Speaker 3: still opens, then we know that's a door that is
- 5:25Speaker 3: meant for us to walk through. But if we know
- 5:27Speaker 3: that we had to compromise who we were, compromise our
- 5:29Speaker 3: belief system, compromise our identity to get in the door,
- 5:33Speaker 3: is that really God or is that us? And for
- 5:35Speaker 3: me as it related to Hollywood, you know, not compromising
- 5:39Speaker 3: and being a man of conviction was the key that
- 5:42Speaker 3: unlocked the door. And the interesting thing about Hollywood is
- 5:45Speaker 3: that just staying that path And now, I mean I
- 5:48Speaker 3: got my internship about thirty years ago, so you know,
- 5:51Speaker 3: just staying the path, doors just continue to open. And
- 5:55Speaker 3: you know, as long as I'm adhering to who I
- 5:57Speaker 3: am and my foundation And the other thing I would
- 6:00Speaker 3: say is you can only be tempted by what you want.
- 6:04Speaker 3: So temptation is not in my experience and my point
- 6:08Speaker 3: of view, it's not a general thing, because what may
- 6:11Speaker 3: be tempting to you is not tempting to me.
- 6:13Speaker 1: Right if, right now, you.
- 6:15Speaker 3: Know, one of your producers comes in and brings a
- 6:18Speaker 3: piece of seven up pound cake. If you don't like
- 6:20Speaker 3: pound cake, that's not tempting. But if I'm going to
- 6:23Speaker 3: die and I love pound cake, that's tempting. So for me,
- 6:26Speaker 3: I've never wanted the business or the success of in
- 6:30Speaker 3: entertainment to be at the expense of my soul, at
- 6:33Speaker 3: the expense of my peace. So as a result, that's
- 6:36Speaker 3: never been a temptation for me. Now, my own ambition
- 6:40Speaker 3: at times has been a thing where I've had to
- 6:42Speaker 3: manage it. Where I want to be successful for myself.
- 6:45Speaker 3: I want to be the best version of myself, and sometimes,
- 6:48Speaker 3: you know, we get impatient, and I've gotten impatient at times,
- 6:50Speaker 3: and I've had to calm down. But in terms of
- 6:52Speaker 3: like just wanting the business or entertainment for entertainment's sake,
- 6:57Speaker 3: that's just never been something I've wanted. So as a result,
- 7:00Speaker 3: the industry in and of itself has not presented that
- 7:03Speaker 3: level of temptation.
- 7:05Speaker 2: That's very fascinating to me because listen, when you are
- 7:08Speaker 2: in Hollywood, and.
- 7:10Speaker 1: OK, thank you so much, welcome when you're in Hollywood.
- 7:14Speaker 2: I think the biggest perception that people have, obviously the Vaughn,
- 7:19Speaker 2: is the fact of like you know, life, camera action,
- 7:21Speaker 2: the gliss and the glamor. And they also think of
- 7:23Speaker 2: other things that people may think of sin right where
- 7:27Speaker 2: it's alcoholism, addiction and all those things. Were you ever
- 7:31Speaker 2: in a situation as you were growing up in this business,
- 7:34Speaker 2: because a lot of my listeners are people in the
- 7:36Speaker 2: business that you were faced with your moral compass being compromised?
- 7:42Speaker 1: You know where my moral compass was come from? You
- 7:47Speaker 1: know where that was a question?
- 7:51Speaker 3: Not in the traditional sense, you know what I mean, Like,
- 7:54Speaker 3: I've never been in a situation where fundamentally you know
- 7:58Speaker 3: who I am and what I'm about has been challenged
- 8:02Speaker 3: in that way. You know, there have been situations like so,
- 8:04Speaker 3: for example, when I was an executive for Columbia Pictures,
- 8:08Speaker 3: which is a division of Sony Pictures Entertainment. I was
- 8:10Speaker 3: there for about ten years, worked on everything from Pursuit
- 8:13Speaker 3: of Happiness all the way to Jumping the Broom and
- 8:15Speaker 3: the Karate Kid remake.
- 8:16Speaker 1: And Heaven Is for Real.
- 8:18Speaker 3: And while I was there, you know, there was a
- 8:19Speaker 3: project that they wanted me to work on, and I
- 8:24Speaker 3: was like, well, no, I don't believe in this project.
- 8:26Speaker 1: I don't believe in these portrayals.
- 8:28Speaker 3: If I have an opportunity to give notes and help
- 8:31Speaker 3: improve these portrayals, then great, I'm happy to be a
- 8:35Speaker 3: part of it. But you know, on the excuse me,
- 8:37Speaker 3: on the surface, no, I said, this is not something
- 8:40Speaker 3: that aligns with who I am. It's not something that
- 8:42Speaker 3: I believe in. And I was pretty honest about that,
- 8:45Speaker 3: you know, and they were like, okay, no problem, you know,
- 8:48Speaker 3: and they found some other executives to work on it, because,
- 8:50Speaker 3: you know, you really, from a Hollywood studio standpoint, do
- 8:53Speaker 3: you want people that believe in the material to work
- 8:56Speaker 3: on the material because they know how to push that
- 8:58Speaker 3: material along and ultimately it made. But no, I really
- 9:02Speaker 3: haven't had that kind of you know, moral dilemma that
- 9:07Speaker 3: has been presented to me in my journey. And I
- 9:09Speaker 3: know that might, you know, sound kind of crazy that
- 9:11Speaker 3: that hasn't happened, but it just hasn't. It's just, you know,
- 9:15Speaker 3: I've been following the path, staying on the path, committing
- 9:19Speaker 3: to the process, and this is where the process has
- 9:22Speaker 3: led me. And I think also, what sometimes I think
- 9:25Speaker 3: has happened in my career is being upfront about just like, hey,
- 9:30Speaker 3: this is who i'm, this is who I.
- 9:31Speaker 1: Am, this is what I'm about.
- 9:34Speaker 3: I think it keeps things out, you know, and it
- 9:36Speaker 3: also then allows things in that align with that. And
- 9:41Speaker 3: so I think there's something about me just being very
- 9:44Speaker 3: clear from the beginning that you know, I don't know
- 9:48Speaker 3: any people just know that, and so as a result,
- 9:50Speaker 3: certain things aren't even broad you know, certain certain opportunities
- 9:54Speaker 3: or experiences aren't.
- 9:55Speaker 1: Even presented, you know.
- 9:58Speaker 3: But yeah, sometimes I look back, say, wow, that's interesting
- 10:01Speaker 3: that I know I haven't experienced what you may traditionally
- 10:04Speaker 3: think a quote unquote mortal moral dilemma would be.
- 10:08Speaker 2: No, I can relate to you when it comes to that,
- 10:09Speaker 2: and I agree with you, because when you show up authentically,
- 10:12Speaker 2: you know, there's this saying that if you're not invited
- 10:15Speaker 2: to the party, it is because you're not meant to
- 10:18Speaker 2: be there, because they know you don't get down like that.
- 10:20Speaker 1: There it is right, So I agree with you.
- 10:22Speaker 2: I think it was the fact that you and listen,
- 10:25Speaker 2: I don't want people to really negate the power of
- 10:28Speaker 2: your self that you have as somebody who said, if
- 10:33Speaker 2: I'm not able to honor the Sabbath, I can't take
- 10:35Speaker 2: this job, you know, because some people say, well, they
- 10:38Speaker 2: got to know that I do that, you know, sort
- 10:41Speaker 2: of like hide it. But it was the fact that
- 10:43Speaker 2: you allowed your authenticity to be shown first and foremost.
- 10:46Speaker 2: And I think that's the reason why God, amongst other reasons,
- 10:50Speaker 2: has blessed you so fruthfully in your purpose, in your mission.
- 10:54Speaker 2: One of the movies you've done recently, I want to
- 10:57Speaker 2: say it was last year, was on Hulu with Evil
- 10:59Speaker 2: Long or Blame It Not Devn Franklin, And if you
- 11:05Speaker 2: guys haven't watched Flame Hot, it's an amazing story about
- 11:09Speaker 2: this man who pretty much started Cheetos, you know, Cheetos,
- 11:16Speaker 2: And it's an amazing story on faith, is an amazing
- 11:20Speaker 2: story on what I always believe, Devon is God gives
- 11:25Speaker 2: you the vision and sometimes the vision no one else
- 11:28Speaker 2: can see. And the reason why I have studied a
- 11:31Speaker 2: lot of your sermons over the years is because I
- 11:35Speaker 2: always felt that outside of you, and you know pastor
- 11:39Speaker 2: Terrain Silver Jakes, I always felt that there wasn't somebody
- 11:42Speaker 2: who understood what it's like to be a faith based
- 11:44Speaker 2: man in this business because sometimes you're put into situations
- 11:48Speaker 2: where people want you to behave a certain way or
- 11:51Speaker 2: act out a certain way, and most importantly may not
- 11:55Speaker 2: just understand your desires. Because tell this day, my father
- 11:57Speaker 2: has no idea what is that I do. He's like,
- 12:00Speaker 2: I see my son on TV and I'm happy he's.
- 12:02Speaker 1: Living right, right, right right.
- 12:05Speaker 2: But your practices has always felt that you were informing
- 12:11Speaker 2: generations of utilizing your faith for what that mission may be.
- 12:16Speaker 2: And that's why I flame my Hosts to Me is
- 12:18Speaker 2: one of the best, one of the best films you've
- 12:20Speaker 2: ever done.
- 12:21Speaker 1: Thank you talk to me about advice.
- 12:25Speaker 2: That you would give people who do want to whether
- 12:28Speaker 2: it's in Hollywood or it can be any place in
- 12:31Speaker 2: the world when it comes to the fact that they
- 12:34Speaker 2: sometimes feel like.
- 12:37Speaker 1: Did God forget about me?
- 12:40Speaker 2: No one understands me, No one gets my vision, no
- 12:44Speaker 2: one understands my mission.
- 12:46Speaker 1: Is it meant for me to pivot to something else?
- 12:50Speaker 2: Or is it meant for me to be steadfast and
- 12:53Speaker 2: to make sure that I continue to develop the relationship
- 12:57Speaker 2: with God so that I'm hearing his voice versus the
- 13:01Speaker 2: noise of the background.
- 13:03Speaker 3: M hmm. Yeah, okay, So let's unpack it. So when
- 13:07Speaker 3: you think about like okay, having a dream of desire,
- 13:11Speaker 3: working towards it, but not seeing the fulfillment of it.
- 13:15Speaker 3: So what happens is God gives us, I believe, an
- 13:19Speaker 3: idea of what we're supposed to do, glimpses. We may
- 13:24Speaker 3: not see the whole picture, but we see glimpses. Okay,
- 13:26Speaker 3: this is I see, you know, for me, I see
- 13:28Speaker 3: myself working in this business. So God gives the vision,
- 13:31Speaker 3: and then what happens is the temptation and many of
- 13:35Speaker 3: us fall pray to it. I know I have at
- 13:37Speaker 3: times is believing that we have to make the vision happen,
- 13:42Speaker 3: and that we own the timetable for the vision happening.
- 13:45Speaker 3: And so when we're trying to make it happen, and
- 13:48Speaker 3: when we feel like, Okay, well I've been doing this
- 13:50Speaker 3: for five years and it hasn't turned over yet, or
- 13:53Speaker 3: I've been doing this for ten years, well God looks
- 13:56Speaker 3: at eternity and he's like, well, what's time Your ten
- 13:59Speaker 3: years is just a blip on the radar, and I'm God,
- 14:03Speaker 3: so I know when it's meant for you to unleash
- 14:06Speaker 3: or become who I created you to be in the earth.
- 14:09Speaker 3: So part of the steadfastness is taking the ownership off
- 14:13Speaker 3: of the manifestation and and and the timeline for such.
- 14:18Speaker 3: So you look at even like you know, let's go
- 14:20Speaker 3: to the Bible. You look at David. He was annoyed
- 14:22Speaker 3: to king to be the next king. He didn't go
- 14:24Speaker 3: sit on the throne. He went right back to tending
- 14:27Speaker 3: the sheep. There was that in the Bible. There was
- 14:30Speaker 3: there was no record. There was no conversation after that.
- 14:32Speaker 3: And after he was a noiady to be next to
- 14:34Speaker 3: be the next king, there was no conversation. But he
- 14:36Speaker 3: never said well when am I going to be king?
- 14:38Speaker 3: That wasn't even the focus. His focus was how can
- 14:40Speaker 3: I be of service? And him his desire to be
- 14:44Speaker 3: of service put him on a path that ushered in
- 14:48Speaker 3: him ultimately ultimately being the next king. Why is that important?
- 14:53Speaker 3: Because so often we put so much energy and effort
- 14:56Speaker 3: into forcing this dream to come to fruition that we
- 15:01Speaker 3: don't have control over. I started working in Holley when
- 15:04Speaker 3: I was eighteen. I knew at eighteen years old that
- 15:05Speaker 3: I wanted to have my own production company. It took
- 15:08Speaker 3: eighteen years before I was able to open my company.
- 15:11Speaker 3: Eighteen years of showing up, being you know, teachable, learning
- 15:16Speaker 3: the business, building my character, building my integrity. So by
- 15:20Speaker 3: the time that I, you know, it was, it was manifest.
- 15:22Speaker 3: By the time the dream happened, I was able to
- 15:25Speaker 3: handle it. So I share all that to say, if
- 15:26Speaker 3: somebody is in a season of impatience, I would say,
- 15:30Speaker 3: don't do that to yourself. When do you know to pivot?
- 15:34Speaker 3: You may never need to pivot. Do what you need
- 15:36Speaker 3: to do to keep the lights on, pay the bills.
- 15:39Speaker 3: But if you have a dream, keep pursuing it, keep
- 15:41Speaker 3: working at it. Why not and guess what what if
- 15:45Speaker 3: it never happens, If you've made the commitment to be
- 15:48Speaker 3: of service and to have a great life, you will
- 15:50Speaker 3: have a great life. And maybe you say, okay, well
- 15:53Speaker 3: that's a dream that you know. I had fun working
- 15:55Speaker 3: on it, but it never turned out to be what
- 15:57Speaker 3: I thought it was going to be. And that's okay,
- 15:59Speaker 3: because here's what I did with my life. And so
- 16:01Speaker 3: for me, it's really about that perspective. You know, at
- 16:04Speaker 3: times when things were not moving at the pace I wanted,
- 16:07Speaker 3: I had to find other things to really give me
- 16:11Speaker 3: outlets for creativity. So when I was working, you know,
- 16:14Speaker 3: as an executive, you know, it's like, Okay, that executive
- 16:16Speaker 3: path isn't necessarily.
- 16:18Speaker 1: A fast path.
- 16:19Speaker 3: It's you know, it's a steadfast, fast path where you
- 16:23Speaker 3: just have to take your time and you know, you
- 16:25Speaker 3: have to wait your turn and all of these things.
- 16:27Speaker 3: And so for me, what I didn't want to do
- 16:30Speaker 3: is I didn't want to put all of my joy
- 16:33Speaker 3: in my happiness in the Hollywood basket. I believe that
- 16:37Speaker 3: God was going to deliver the company at some point,
- 16:40Speaker 3: but at the time when I was an executive, I
- 16:42Speaker 3: didn't know when.
- 16:43Speaker 1: But I also knew that if I put all my.
- 16:44Speaker 3: Happiness in this job and in this industry, I'm not
- 16:48Speaker 3: going to be very happy because then my happiness is
- 16:50Speaker 3: going to be subject to what happens and what doesn't happen.
- 16:53Speaker 3: And then that means I'm not actually the keeper of
- 16:55Speaker 3: my happiness. I'm actually outsourcing my happiness to circumstances and
- 16:58Speaker 3: situations and people that what about on Monday they loved me,
- 17:02Speaker 3: but Tuesday they hate me. If my happiness is contingent
- 17:05Speaker 3: on them, then I'm never really going to be happy.
- 17:07Speaker 3: So what I started to do was to find while
- 17:10Speaker 3: I'm still working, still doing the job, still learning how
- 17:13Speaker 3: to tell great stories, I started to do other things.
- 17:17Speaker 3: One of those things was preaching. I was like, Okay,
- 17:18Speaker 3: preaching is a good outlet for me. It's a good outlet.
- 17:21Speaker 3: I can express myself, I can express my creativity. I
- 17:23Speaker 3: can help people, you know, it was great. Okay, writing books, okay, great,
- 17:27Speaker 3: I can write books. I can you know, help, I
- 17:29Speaker 3: can give advice. Those were things that God allowed me
- 17:33Speaker 3: to have the opportunity to do while I stayed committed
- 17:36Speaker 3: to what I believed he was going to do. So
- 17:38Speaker 3: I would encourage anyone that is, you know, struggling or
- 17:41Speaker 3: wondering should I pivot?
- 17:43Speaker 1: Should I not?
- 17:44Speaker 3: I would say, the dream was never meant to depress you.
- 17:50Speaker 3: That's not the design.
- 17:52Speaker 1: Of the dream. The dream was never meant It.
- 17:55Speaker 3: Was never meant to depress you. If anything, the dream
- 17:57Speaker 3: was meant to excite you. That God gave us that
- 18:00Speaker 3: should be a source of excitement.
- 18:02Speaker 2: Oh wow, And that's when you can identify you on
- 18:05Speaker 2: the right path exactly because it's like, oh, this is exciting.
- 18:09Speaker 3: I mean not be exactly where I want to be,
- 18:11Speaker 3: but I'm learning, I'm making progress. This is exciting. Every
- 18:14Speaker 3: time I think about it, I get excited. To me,
- 18:16Speaker 3: when we think of the dream and we get depressed,
- 18:19Speaker 3: it's because we're putting too much on the dream we
- 18:23Speaker 3: are in. We're imposing our will on that dream. Let
- 18:26Speaker 3: that dream be what it is, a source of vision,
- 18:29Speaker 3: a source of excitement, a source of direction.
- 18:31Speaker 1: And enjoy the.
- 18:32Speaker 3: Process because ultimately the process is the result. Meaning you
- 18:38Speaker 3: can get to a result, but if you didn't enjoy
- 18:40Speaker 3: the process, you're not going to enjoy the result. You
- 18:43Speaker 3: have a you know, dynamic production company, and you know
- 18:47Speaker 3: your you know, dynamic talent, and have the podcast and
- 18:49Speaker 3: all of the things. But leading up to that, if
- 18:53Speaker 3: you didn't find peace, enjoy in the process, you get
- 18:56Speaker 3: to this moment and then this moment you can't enjoy
- 19:00Speaker 3: any of it because you and you weren't practicing that.
- 19:03Speaker 3: And if you think the destination is going to be
- 19:07Speaker 3: the source of fulfillment, then what happens is when you
- 19:10Speaker 3: get to that destination and it doesn't fulfill you the
- 19:12Speaker 3: way you thought it would, you then you don't know
- 19:15Speaker 3: what to do because you're like, I've struggled, I've given
- 19:18Speaker 3: all my life for this, and I thought this was
- 19:20Speaker 3: going to produce this feeling and I got this and
- 19:22Speaker 3: it didn't. Why Because the feeling, the practice of that
- 19:27Speaker 3: good feeling is something that we got to work on
- 19:30Speaker 3: right now. Doesn't matter how much money you got into
- 19:32Speaker 3: bank account, it doesn't matter what kind of job you got.
- 19:34Speaker 3: All of us have happiness, love and enjoy within us
- 19:37Speaker 3: right now. How do I know? Because right now, if
- 19:39Speaker 3: somebody listening, and let's say someone came to somebody watching
- 19:43Speaker 3: this as they're watching it and say, hey, here's a
- 19:45Speaker 3: check for a million dollars, what's going to happen?
- 19:47Speaker 1: That person is probably gonna be very happy? Well, where'd the.
- 19:49Speaker 3: Happiness come from? What is in the Was it in
- 19:52Speaker 3: the check or was it in our response? If it's
- 19:57Speaker 3: within our response, that means it's already within us. So
- 20:00Speaker 3: then we are the ones that determine when we produce
- 20:03Speaker 3: happiness and when we produce joy, and when we produce fulfillment.
- 20:07Speaker 3: So my belief is work on producing that right now,
- 20:11Speaker 3: because the more you find your joy in whatever you're doing,
- 20:15Speaker 3: the more joyful the process and the more joyful the result.
- 20:19Speaker 3: So anyway, it's a long ends zero question. I mean,
- 20:21Speaker 3: Listen's sen I need a collection plate because.
- 20:25Speaker 1: I mean give me the cash apt to tie my temple.
- 20:29Speaker 2: You know, you do talk about service, and that's the
- 20:31Speaker 2: reason why I'm so happy for you. You have a
- 20:33Speaker 2: multi year deal with Tyler Perry. Yes, some who's a
- 20:36Speaker 2: friend of mine as well. And one thing I know
- 20:39Speaker 2: about mister Perry because he said to me, you call
- 20:43Speaker 2: me mister Perry, and I'll tell you to call me Tyler. So,
- 20:45Speaker 2: mister Perry, I'm waiting for you to give me. I
- 20:48Speaker 2: call you by your first name, so I won't tell you.
- 20:50Speaker 2: Give me the permission what you're able to call him Tyler.
- 20:54Speaker 2: You are of service to not only the industry. What
- 20:57Speaker 2: I love about the partnership to me is the fact
- 20:59Speaker 2: that it shows that two powerhouses can work together on
- 21:03Speaker 2: the common goal of producing movies and television. You have
- 21:08Speaker 2: a new film that is coming out tomorrow called Ruth
- 21:12Speaker 2: and Boas And what in case there's somebody who has
- 21:15Speaker 2: not read their Bible, explain to us the story of
- 21:19Speaker 2: them and what we can expect from this film.
- 21:23Speaker 3: Well, I'll start with the expectation this film is going
- 21:25Speaker 3: to be your new favorite love story. It is so good.
- 21:28Speaker 3: Felicia Rashad is in it. She plays the kind of
- 21:30Speaker 3: matriarchal character called Naomi. Ruth is played by Sorea and
- 21:35Speaker 3: Boas is played by Tyler Lepley. And when you see
- 21:38Speaker 3: these two on screen, it is nothing but pure magic.
- 21:41Speaker 3: And the story is really about Ruth. You know Ruth
- 21:44Speaker 3: if you go back to the scripture, you know she's
- 21:46Speaker 3: a woman who's lost her mate and she goes on
- 21:51Speaker 3: a journey back to the.
- 21:52Speaker 1: Homeland of Naomi.
- 21:54Speaker 3: And Naomi originally is like, no, I don't want you
- 21:57Speaker 3: to come with me, but Ruth says, no, I'm supposed
- 21:59Speaker 3: to help you. And so she goes back to her
- 22:01Speaker 3: homeland and Ruth has to find a way to provide
- 22:04Speaker 3: for her in Naomi, and so she goes out to
- 22:06Speaker 3: get a job and she finds herself working in the
- 22:09Speaker 3: field that is owned by Boaz and because of her
- 22:12Speaker 3: work ethic, he takes notice of her and then he
- 22:15Speaker 3: starts to get to know her. And the thing about
- 22:17Speaker 3: Ruth in our film is that she comes from a
- 22:19Speaker 3: very difficult background. You know, she was put in the
- 22:22Speaker 3: foster system. Her mom abandoned her when she was a
- 22:24Speaker 3: young child. She was in the foster system. She was
- 22:27Speaker 3: bounced around a lot. She you know, had a voice,
- 22:30Speaker 3: and so she found herself on the Atlanta music scene.
- 22:33Speaker 3: But there was something in her spirit that did not resonate,
- 22:35Speaker 3: and she felt like every time she led someone in
- 22:39Speaker 3: to her heart, there was always a tragedy or something
- 22:43Speaker 3: difficult that happened. So when she meets Boaz in our film,
- 22:47Speaker 3: she's just there to work. She's working in his vineyard.
- 22:50Speaker 3: She's just there to work and go on about her business.
- 22:52Speaker 3: But he sees a light in her and he wants
- 22:55Speaker 3: to get to know who she is. But initially she's
- 22:58Speaker 3: very resistant because she doesn't know she can trust it.
- 23:01Speaker 3: There's something about him that just seems too good. And
- 23:04Speaker 3: over the course of the film you start to see
- 23:07Speaker 3: her let down her walls and him also find a
- 23:11Speaker 3: safe space in her. And then there's a you know,
- 23:14Speaker 3: there's some dynamic where her past comes to haunt her
- 23:18Speaker 3: and her and Boaz had to figure out how they're
- 23:20Speaker 3: going to deal with it.
- 23:21Speaker 1: But this is a story that is rooted in the word.
- 23:25Speaker 3: The Book of Ruth, you know, is one of the
- 23:27Speaker 3: most you know, famous books in the Bible, and this
- 23:29Speaker 3: story has stood the test of time. Because what I
- 23:32Speaker 3: find so beautiful about the story, which is why I
- 23:34Speaker 3: wanted to make this movie. There's a lot of people,
- 23:37Speaker 3: you know, are out here looking for love. And when
- 23:41Speaker 3: I looked at the story, I said, Oh, this is fascinating.
- 23:43Speaker 3: Whenever we talk about Ruth or Boaz, you know, in
- 23:46Speaker 3: the church, it's like, oh, go find your Boaz, like
- 23:48Speaker 3: that is like every black church in the country, you know.
- 23:51Speaker 3: But the thing about this is Ruth nor Boaz went
- 23:56Speaker 3: looking for love.
- 23:58Speaker 1: That's not what happened.
- 24:00Speaker 3: Ruth made a commitment to Naomi to be of service,
- 24:04Speaker 3: and as she fulfilled that commitment, the reward was her
- 24:09Speaker 3: being blessed with love. Boas wasn't looking for love. He
- 24:13Speaker 3: was there trying to be a good steward over the
- 24:15Speaker 3: blessing that God had given him in the form of
- 24:17Speaker 3: the fields and the things that he owned, and right
- 24:20Speaker 3: there he didn't have.
- 24:21Speaker 1: To go looking. God brought her to him.
- 24:25Speaker 3: So when you see this movie, you see two people
- 24:28Speaker 3: that the only thing they have to do is to
- 24:31Speaker 3: be open to love.
- 24:32Speaker 1: They don't have to look for love.
- 24:34Speaker 3: And I wanted to do a movie with this kind
- 24:36Speaker 3: of message because I see so many people that are
- 24:39Speaker 3: depressed and frustrating and angry and just wondering, you know,
- 24:43Speaker 3: when's my turn and why not me? And what I
- 24:46Speaker 3: realize is that when you're looking for something, you enhance
- 24:49Speaker 3: the absence of it instead of living in the presence
- 24:52Speaker 3: of it. Okay, you don't have to have a looking spirit,
- 24:54Speaker 3: have a receiving spirit, be ready to receive love however
- 24:57Speaker 3: it chooses to arise. However, what I would encourage someone
- 25:01Speaker 3: to not do, and you'll see this in the film, is,
- 25:03Speaker 3: you know, don't stop living your life. You know, don't
- 25:05Speaker 3: stop find out what is the greater good for you
- 25:08Speaker 3: and commit to that, commit to being of service, commit
- 25:11Speaker 3: to finding the value in your life. Enrich your life
- 25:14Speaker 3: right now through commitment and service. And I believe that
- 25:19Speaker 3: when we do that, when love does show up, we
- 25:22Speaker 3: actually actually have more to give and we don't overburden
- 25:26Speaker 3: the relationship by trying to get that person we're in
- 25:29Speaker 3: relationship with to do something for ourselves that we don't do.
- 25:33Speaker 3: So if I'm looking for love and I find you know,
- 25:36Speaker 3: my wife Maria, if I find her, let's say before like,
- 25:39Speaker 3: you know, what I get I find her, and I'm
- 25:41Speaker 3: not practicing loving myself, I'm not practicing contentment. Then what
- 25:44Speaker 3: I'm gonna do is I'm a demand that she does
- 25:46Speaker 3: all the things that I need her to do for
- 25:48Speaker 3: me to feel happy. Why because I'm the one that
- 25:51Speaker 3: hasn't done the work to know what happiness even looks like.
- 25:54Speaker 3: So a lot of times we're out here trying to
- 25:55Speaker 3: find someone and then we find that person and we
- 25:58Speaker 3: don't actually even know what it is. We think it's
- 26:00Speaker 3: their job to make us happy. No, happiness is inside job.
- 26:04Speaker 3: And so when you see this film, both of them
- 26:07Speaker 3: have to take ownership of that happiness and that love,
- 26:11Speaker 3: and then when they come together, they have something to share.
- 26:13Speaker 3: And that, to me is when people see this film.
- 26:16Speaker 3: What I'm excited about is that it shows it in
- 26:18Speaker 3: such a beautiful, tender, loving way, in a way that
- 26:22Speaker 3: I haven't seen in a love story in our culture
- 26:25Speaker 3: in a very long time.
- 26:26Speaker 2: Well, I definitely believe in God's timing, and that's why
- 26:29Speaker 2: I want you all to watch Ruth and boas that's
- 26:31Speaker 2: on Netflix. One thing I will say is in regards
- 26:35Speaker 2: of God's timing, you do speak about Maria, your wife,
- 26:38Speaker 2: and first of all, I havn't senior since you got married,
- 26:40Speaker 2: So congratulations, Thank the Internet with the photos. My audience
- 26:47Speaker 2: is largely women from all walks of life. Who what
- 26:51Speaker 2: you said about this love story Ruth and Boas is
- 26:54Speaker 2: about loving yourself first before you can really go out
- 26:57Speaker 2: there looking for love. We all know about a seer
- 27:00Speaker 2: a prayer she found Russ. Okay, I want to know
- 27:03Speaker 2: what is the Divonne Franklin prayer? Because for you, you were
- 27:08Speaker 2: able to find you know, love this time around. And
- 27:11Speaker 2: when you speak of Ma Maria and all the things
- 27:13Speaker 2: that she provides in your life, your face lights up.
- 27:16Speaker 2: So for those who may have gone through, you know,
- 27:19Speaker 2: a divorce or breakup of anything, what advice or.
- 27:22Speaker 1: Prayer I should say? Yeah?
- 27:24Speaker 2: Should we tell ourselves in terms of being in a
- 27:28Speaker 2: place to receive that. Oftentimes what people do, unfortunately divine,
- 27:35Speaker 2: is they rush into something or they're desperate to get it.
- 27:38Speaker 2: And when I look at you, you you were a
- 27:41Speaker 2: man who was able to take his time in and
- 27:43Speaker 2: was able to you know, find love.
- 27:45Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you know there's a scripture that says created
- 27:48Speaker 3: me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within.
- 27:53Speaker 1: And when you're going.
- 27:55Speaker 3: Through something or you've been through something you just have
- 27:58Speaker 3: to pause and acknowledge is what you went through. You know,
- 28:01Speaker 3: right now, if you walk out on the street and
- 28:03Speaker 3: we're in New York and a car hits you, and
- 28:07Speaker 3: you get up from the scene of that that accident,
- 28:10Speaker 3: and you know your leg is bloody, and you know
- 28:12Speaker 3: maybe you even have a broken bone, and you start
- 28:14Speaker 3: trying to walk down the street as if nothing's wrong,
- 28:17Speaker 3: people gonna look at you like you're crazy. We saw
- 28:20Speaker 3: you got hit. Well, I don't want to I don't
- 28:23Speaker 3: want anybody to know. No, we all saw it. It's
- 28:25Speaker 3: okay you you can acknowledge that you're hurt, because when
- 28:30Speaker 3: you acknowledge that you're hurt, you can then actually get healing.
- 28:34Speaker 3: But if you are walking like nothing's wrong and then
- 28:37Speaker 3: you're just trying to rush down the street, what's going
- 28:38Speaker 3: to happen. Your injury is gonna get worse. So when
- 28:42Speaker 3: it comes to relationships, when it comes to heartbreak, we
- 28:46Speaker 3: first just have to say it happened, and it hurt,
- 28:51Speaker 3: and and and sit in that pain, sit in it
- 28:55Speaker 3: for a moment, and say, wow, that really Because what
- 28:59Speaker 3: we want to do is to rush. Something happens and
- 29:02Speaker 3: we don't want we don't want to feel it, we
- 29:03Speaker 3: don't want nobody know we felt it. But then we
- 29:05Speaker 3: don't actually get the benefit it could provide if we
- 29:09Speaker 3: allowed it to teach us something. So sitting in that pain,
- 29:13Speaker 3: you know when I say, creating me a clean heart
- 29:15Speaker 3: and renew a right spirit within, Lord, help me understand
- 29:20Speaker 3: what I can take from this pain. What does this
- 29:22Speaker 3: pain want to teach me? So then the other part
- 29:25Speaker 3: of this was sitting in it. Part of the prayer
- 29:29Speaker 3: was that, okay, Lord, give me the ability to learn
- 29:33Speaker 3: what I need to know from this. And then the
- 29:35Speaker 3: other part is, okay, Lord, the prayer is the same
- 29:40Speaker 3: grace in space that you give all of us. Lord,
- 29:44Speaker 3: Please give me the strength to give that to myself.
- 29:49Speaker 3: When I say grace in space, I mean hey, grace
- 29:53Speaker 3: to say, Hey, I'm hurt and I need the grace
- 29:56Speaker 3: from God to help me figure out how to move
- 29:58Speaker 3: forward and the space for myself to heal so that
- 30:02Speaker 3: I'm not you know, saying Okay, well, I've got to
- 30:05Speaker 3: go back out here and I've got to present this
- 30:07Speaker 3: image and I've got to do this, and I've got
- 30:08Speaker 3: to do that because people are expecting this and da
- 30:10Speaker 3: dah da da dah. And I have this image and
- 30:12Speaker 3: I need to hold the image. And so uh uh no,
- 30:14Speaker 3: that's a very's that's very tight. That's a very suffocating
- 30:17Speaker 3: place to live versus space. Like, hey, you know what, Hey,
- 30:20Speaker 3: people are going to think what they want to think.
- 30:22Speaker 3: I'm not worried about their thoughts. I'm not trying to
- 30:24Speaker 3: manipulate or manufacture anyone's opinion about me. I'm going through
- 30:27Speaker 3: a process where I've got a heal from what I
- 30:30Speaker 3: just went through. And in that process of healing, and
- 30:35Speaker 3: and part of healing is introspection and and and looking within,
- 30:39Speaker 3: you know.
- 30:39Speaker 1: I mean, I have therapists.
- 30:41Speaker 3: And life coaches and you know, journal and wrote, I mean,
- 30:45Speaker 3: and prayed and studied the world. I did so many
- 30:48Speaker 3: things and continue to do these things as it relates
- 30:50Speaker 3: to my healing journey. Yet as I did these things,
- 30:53Speaker 3: you know, the prayer was God truly creating me a
- 30:59Speaker 3: clean heart, a new heart, like renew a right spirit
- 31:03Speaker 3: within me, you know, Like I don't want my heart
- 31:06Speaker 3: to be hardened. I want my heart to stay open.
- 31:11Speaker 3: I want to learn from this. I want to become better.
- 31:15Speaker 3: I want to become a better individual, a better you know,
- 31:18Speaker 3: human being, more loving, more understanding, more compassionate. And as
- 31:23Speaker 3: I prayed that prayer and as I align my actions
- 31:27Speaker 3: with it, what began to happen is the prayers started
- 31:31Speaker 3: to get answered. Right, And so meeting Maria wasn't the
- 31:36Speaker 3: answer to the prayer. It was it was an extension
- 31:40Speaker 3: of what God was already doing. So I had started
- 31:43Speaker 3: the prayer, you know, years ago, as I was trying
- 31:46Speaker 3: to put the pieces of my life back together, and
- 31:49Speaker 3: then God would continuously give me answers like, Okay, here's
- 31:53Speaker 3: how you're going to feel stronger today.
- 31:55Speaker 1: Here's what's going to happen.
- 31:56Speaker 3: And then when Maria shows up, going back to what
- 31:59Speaker 3: we even talked about earlier, because I had already been
- 32:01Speaker 3: practicing that joy, that love, that healing, that commitment to
- 32:05Speaker 3: the process, that space and that grace, Maria shows up
- 32:08Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh, okay, this is time because it
- 32:13Speaker 3: was consistent with the process that started years before I
- 32:17Speaker 3: even ever knew she existed. And so for me, you know,
- 32:21Speaker 3: when you talk about, you know, the prayer, the prayer
- 32:24Speaker 3: is really about the work, you know, and the work
- 32:28Speaker 3: is not a burden. It's not a burden, but it
- 32:31Speaker 3: does require effort. It does require a lot of effort,
- 32:35Speaker 3: you know, because one of the things we don't like
- 32:37Speaker 3: to do. We like to take selfies, but we don't
- 32:39Speaker 3: like to look at each other look at ourselves. We
- 32:41Speaker 3: like to take a selfie, but we really don't like
- 32:43Speaker 3: to look at ourselves. And when I say look at ourselves,
- 32:46Speaker 3: I'm talking about we don't like to look in the
- 32:48Speaker 3: emotional mirror and identify what's going on. It's very easy
- 32:55Speaker 3: for us to point the finger and say, well, it's
- 32:56Speaker 3: their fault, or if my boss had been this way,
- 32:59Speaker 3: or my mama I have been that. We love to
- 33:00Speaker 3: point the finger, but pointing the finger points it away
- 33:05Speaker 3: from what we actually have control of, which is us
- 33:09Speaker 3: coming through what I went through. The only person I
- 33:11Speaker 3: could change was me. So I instead of pointing the
- 33:14Speaker 3: finger and saying, well, you know, this person didn't do that,
- 33:16Speaker 3: and that person didn't do this. Okay, that may be true,
- 33:19Speaker 3: but Devin, what you're gonna do, and allowing myself to
- 33:24Speaker 3: look at myself and identify, here's what I did wrong,
- 33:28Speaker 3: Here's what I could have done better. Here are some
- 33:30Speaker 3: areas and opportunities for growth without judgment. Instead of judgment,
- 33:35Speaker 3: myself how could you be so stupid? No, no, no,
- 33:38Speaker 3: We all around this journey called life. We do the
- 33:41Speaker 3: best we can, but what we know when we know it,
- 33:44Speaker 3: and sometimes we're gonna look back and say, oh, well
- 33:46Speaker 3: I didn't know what I know now, so I did
- 33:47Speaker 3: the best I could at that moment. So why judge myself?
- 33:50Speaker 3: Why judge yourself? We all go through experiences and have
- 33:54Speaker 3: mistakes and things that we wish we would have done different,
- 33:57Speaker 3: but then we didn't and we get.
- 33:58Speaker 1: A chance to learn from it.
- 33:59Speaker 3: So you know, that was in so many different words,
- 34:03Speaker 3: that was the prayer, you know, creating me a clean
- 34:06Speaker 3: heart and renew a right spirit within me. And I
- 34:11Speaker 3: feel grateful that he has done that and continues to
- 34:15Speaker 3: do it.
- 34:17Speaker 1: I mean, I can't even thank you enough for that.
- 34:21Speaker 2: I mean, the words of wisdom and listen, like I said,
- 34:24Speaker 2: I know my audience and your words that you have
- 34:29Speaker 2: blessed us with is going to change their lives because
- 34:33Speaker 2: the articulation of not only the wisdom, but the spirituality
- 34:38Speaker 2: that was felt in this room, you know, from God
- 34:41Speaker 2: through you to me and subsequently to them has really
- 34:46Speaker 2: manifested a breakthrough. So I can't thank you, and it
- 34:48Speaker 2: really has. It really has, and I can't thank you
- 34:50Speaker 2: enough or for being here. I know you're a busy guy,
- 34:53Speaker 2: So rain Dross, make sure to go on your Netflix,
- 34:56Speaker 2: don't go on your auntie's app, don't log in through
- 35:00Speaker 2: her app. We need to make sure this is number
- 35:03Speaker 2: one okay on Netflix, So spend the twelve ninety nine
- 35:09Speaker 2: if you may, and make sure you all check out
- 35:12Speaker 2: Ruth and Boaz that is out on Friday.
- 35:16Speaker 1: Thank you so much to offer. You're welcome. Thank you,
- 35:18Speaker 1: my brother truly appreciate you.
- 35:23Speaker 2: Reality with the King is executive produced by me Carlos King,
- 35:28Speaker 2: produced by Lizzie Nimitz, and a partnership.
- 35:31Speaker 1: With the Lack Effect Network.
- 35:34Speaker 2: You can also find us on my YouTube channel at
- 35:36Speaker 2: the Carlos King Underscore