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Sorry Kids, Grannies Busy · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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  Hello and welcome to Nick and Kristen in the podcast, yet
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  another episode. I'm Nick.
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  That's Kristen. We are married, a former morning
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  show and are currently looking for a job to be a morning show
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  again. And we have a 7 year old
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  daughter. You're all updated.
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  Speaking of updates, we talked a couple episodes about fixing the
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  bathroom. Kristen was very much like, what
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  are you doing around the house? Absolutely nothing.
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  You might as well replace the floors in our bathroom.
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  We had all the stuff for it. We had all the flooring, we had
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  all the tools, we had the waterproof kit, we had all the
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  things. We made a plan two years ago to
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  do the same, to like replace the floors basically.
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  And so she was like, why don't you do this?
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  So the next day I started working on what I was going to
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  do to the bathroom. I looked at the floors that she
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  had and all the equipment that we had and I was like all right,
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  how am I going to do this? First step, is this going to
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  work in a bathroom? The stuff that she bought.
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  First answer no, this is not 4 bathrooms.
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  So all the stuff that we have, the three boxes of flooring will
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  get destroyed within three years if I use them as.
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  Bathroom floors so. We have to find another plan.
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  Basically it said like tile, like if we're going to do it, we
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  can't do like the snap into place wood flooring.
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  If you've done it and it's worked for you, like let us know
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  because I feel like this was just the one video you watched
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  and then you were like, no, it's that's how it is And like, never
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  mind Kristen, but I feel like if you did some digging, 'cause I
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  don't know why I would have bought these if.
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  Well, 'cause they said water resistant and it's different
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  than waterproof and. They I know, but there's a
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  waterproof kit that I bought. Because I looked into it, what's
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  the waterproof kit consist of? There's like a tarp that goes
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  under the water or the, the, the flooring and I don't know, I
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  never opened it like it's like. It's.
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  Like a whole bathroom waterproof.
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  You're supposed to do that with the tile.
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  The stuff that you got is like a wood flooring kind of Yeah, but
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  it's but it'll warp if it gets wet too long, if if it stays wet
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  or being in a bathroom especially they're like
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  especially in the main bathroom where you shower every day and
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  it steams up the walls and all of this stuff like that
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  eventually will warp the size of it.
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  Yeah. And ruin the floor so tile
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  doesn't warp. And I was like, well, what if I
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  seal all the cracks like with sealant and I like basically put
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  a lacquer on top of that. They're like, Nah, it'll still
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  get under it. Really.
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  What is a what is a beast? I mean, you could probably put
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  lacquer. What's the the stuff that you
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  say is toxic? The resin resin you probably put
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  like a resin on top of you know how they do like the pennies you
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  ever. Seen that you?
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  Can put that on the floor and then in my work but be doing
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  that exactly so we are. I hit a pause on the bathroom so
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  I was like what else can I do? I looked into how to paint the
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  kitchen cabinets and stuff like that.
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  Need money for paint. Yeah.
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  So if we're willing to invest the money in the paint, I can do
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  that. And the Sander because you have
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  to like, sand it. All down.
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  Well, I have a Sander. Oh.
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  OK, that's good. Yeah.
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  I have a Sander and I have a spray painter and all that kind
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  of stuff. Yeah, it's just the the paint,
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  which is ungodly expensive. So.
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  So we will be doing absolutely nothing.
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  Oh, paint is very expensive. Oh, I didn't know that.
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  Yeah. Remember when we did Lily's room
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  on our kiddo? We did 4 different colors on
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  each wall and the pink alone was so expensive that we were like
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  Oh my gosh this was so not working.
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  Like economic, like economically this was not worth.
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  It 15 bucks a pint or something like that if.
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  I remember easily like $300 to paint her four walls or
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  something insane. Like 2 gallons so I don't know.
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  I don't know. I don't know how much you would
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  need. I don't know any of this stuff.
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  So, So what you're saying is you're not going to be doing any
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  home improvements around the house.
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  So what is it that you're going to be doing?
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  I will be cleaning the house. What are you gonna do the rest
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  of the four days? I.
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  Don't know. OK, start working in the.
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  Backyard. Start pulling weeds and stuff.
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  I mean, I've mowed the lawn a couple times more times this
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  year than I did all of last year, so I'm trying to keep the
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  lawn maintained and moist and eventually I guess I can garden
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  if I wanted. I mean, pull the weeds at least.
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  I know, but like this, it's like the worst.
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  I want the worst job you can give me.
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  I'd rather build the floor. I don't know, there's someone
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  that's going to replace our fence soon maybe.
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  I know. Maybe our neighbors will.
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  Who knows? So we saw I saw this video on
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  TikTok and I thought I'd bring it up so I'll play it for you.
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  It's how grandmothers feel about grandkids and they said she says
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  this is a hot take, but the question is who's responsible
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  for having the grandparent, the grandparents in the kids life?
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  Whose responsibility is it to maintain a relationship between
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  a grandchild and their grandparents?
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  I've just watched such an interesting tick tock with the
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  lovely young creator who had some very strong views and I've
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  got some equally strong views. Think it's always the
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  grandparents responsibility. She thought the same and as a
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  devoted granny, I'll explain why.
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  I think it's the grandparents responsibility to always reach
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  out, to be the one saying well can we help with this?
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  Can we come and visit? Can we take them there?
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  Is there anything you'd like me to do?
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  Do you need some support this week?
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  Do you need some support next week?
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  These are my days off blah blah blah.
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  That's what I do. I'm a devoted granny and feel
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  very strongly about this. And I don't think kids should be
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  the ones your children shouldn't be the ones that need to sort of
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  facilitate that relationship. It's up to the grandparents to
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  do that. And I think if grandparents are
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  coming back with things like, well, it's our time now, it's
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  our time now. No, it's not.
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  It's your time to help your kids because it's really difficult
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  when your children are small. What do you think?
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  Thoughts. I know this is kind of a hot
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  take but I 100% agree and from a therapist standpoint I I agree.
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  Oh, really? OK, so you've covered this in
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  therapy. Yeah, we've covered this like
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  this idea of like going no contact with a parent and this
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  idea that like, oh, the phone works both ways.
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  It's like, no, it actually doesn't.
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  Like I always believe it's the older generation that needs to
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  be helping the younger generation.
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  And I understand that you're like, but you're an adult,
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  you're in your 40s. Like you should be helping, you
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  know, the grandparents, right? And I agree to that to a point.
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  Like there is a point where the sandwich generation, which is
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  the one that has older parents and young younger kids, us like
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  we do help the older, older people because they're not able
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  to do the things that they need to do anymore.
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  But when it comes to facilitating a relationship
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  between a grandparent and a grandchild, like that does have
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  to come from the grandparent. The the parent has too much
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  going on. It's true.
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  Yeah, when you think of yeah, because we've got her
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  day-to-day, basically we've got our day-to-day.
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  We've got things that we're keeping track of.
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  And so it's for us to think about it.
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  Becomes a scheduling nightmare and if you're if you're finding
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  yourself being like, wait a second, like angered by what I
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  say I will say this that like if we cannot agree that life is
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  harder now than it was 60 years ago, then we can't really have
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  this conversation. But if you can acknowledge that
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  it costs more to live now there's more responsibilities on
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  parents. There's more expectations from
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  the schools that we participate in doing these things that
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  sports cost more money that they require us to travel and like do
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  all these things that there's an investment.
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  If we can't agree to that, then yeah, you're going to be like,
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  well, no, the parent the the adult children should be the one
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  helping. But if you can agree that life
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  it is more difficult now, then you can understand why, like the
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  sandwich generation is under so much stress.
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  And even then, if if the grandparents are retired, like
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  they do have more time to think about these things and it may be
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  harder to get in contact with us or like the kid or whatever, but
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  still like the effort is noticed.
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  And yes, and I'm not saying like there needs to be a monetary
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  effort, like I'm not saying that the cause my, my, my.
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  Relationship. We're talking about like my
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  parents live far away. Yeah, and and it's all different
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  when they're. All and I'm not saying that they
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  always have to be the one to come see me.
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  I'm not saying that is it easier for me 100% yes.
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  Like, and, and they are retired and everything like that.
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  Like I have to take time off work and I have to buy, you
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  know, buy three flights as opposed to whatever.
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  But I'm, but that's a different situation because I, I, that's,
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  that's a monetary thing that I think we should be shared.
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  But like, as far as like updates on the kid, it should come from
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  the grandparents to say, Hey, how is she doing?
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  What is she interested in? What is she like nowadays?
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  It's not the parents job to update the grandparent about
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  absolutely everything, especially if they're not
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  showing an interest. Yeah, I think that we just don't
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  have time to keep all that like. I don't have time to be like, by
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  the way, she's into ponies now. I really have time to tell you
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  what. She did like, I can't, you know,
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  but if, but if a grandparent were to text me and say, what
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  kind of stuff is Lily into now, I'd be like, oh, she's into
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  this. But if it comes to me to remind
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  or to to update you on everything, it's just not going
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  to. Happen.
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  Yeah, I agree. I wonder what's the rest of you?
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  And you, the help that you give them is so needed and it's so
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  appreciated that honestly, it's your time to be with your
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  grandchildren and to help in every way you can.
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  And I feel quite strongly about that.
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  It's an interesting thing too. I don't mean to cut you off, but
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  like I'm hearing from millennials, our generation that
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  they are getting 00 help from. Grandparents, I saw that
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  somewhere online that yeah, I don't know why, because I know
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  that our parents got a lot of help, you know, from
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  grandparents. And so it's weird that that
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  we're not. Yeah, like I don't think my
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  parents got a lot of help from their parents.
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  I don't think so. But I also think my parents are
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  very different. My parents are very involved.
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  They they come down here, they they're always asking how they
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  can do to help and everything like that.
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  But I'm talking about like a lot of my clients and a lot of the
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  discourse that I see like online and amongst my friends, it's
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  just their parents have completely disengaged.
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  And it's very much, it's my time.
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  I worked super hard. I don't.
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  I shouldn't have to to be expected to help.
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  I shouldn't be expected to do anything.
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  I shouldn't be the 1:00 calling. I should be the 1 completely
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  checking out and everyone should be catering to me.
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  This is my time and, and it's really sad for a lot of my
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  generation or our generation because we do need help.
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  And like there are times where it's just like, Oh my gosh, it
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  would be so wonderful to have an extra set of hands.
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  And when they are at reaching out, the parent or the
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  grandparent in this situation is making them feel bad.
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  Like, oh God, you can't handle that.
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  Like, why are you asking me? And it's just again, I'm not
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  talking about me, but I'm. Just saying it's a cultural
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  thing. It's very.
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  Interesting. Yeah, a lot of different
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  cultures feel differently about the elderly people in their
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  culture. You know, like, so some are
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  meant to are put on icebergs and sent away.
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  No, it's true. It's different.
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  It's really interesting. Yeah, Speaking of getting old
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  and sitting around and doing nothing, I felt like I aged 20
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  years today as I was waiting for my car's oil to be changed.
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  I have spent more time in waiting rooms at car places that
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  I have anywhere else in my entire life.
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  Like I feel like I was in hell today.
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  I it took five hours for them to change the oil on my car and I
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  had an appointment and I was ready to go and I showed up on
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  time and like there was no reason this should have taken 5
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  hours. Like why, my big beef whiz, why
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  did you let me make an appointment for that time?
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  Because I kept hearing, oh, we're understaffed and we're
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  overbooked. It's like, so why are you
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  understaffed and overbooked knowing that this is going to be
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  a problem? This is not, this can't be the
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  first day that it's been packed like this.
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  Like they, they're the place that I went to is rebuilding
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  their entire facility like it's under full construction.
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  This is a very very popular dealership here in our town.
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  Very big name making lots of money.
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  Why do you not have enough people to handle the amount of
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  cars coming in to get serviced? Appointments.
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  Or hire. More people.
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  I just don't understand why you let me if you know how many
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  people are going to be there, why did you let me book an
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  appointment, right? Like there should be so many
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  appointments for so many people. You know what I mean?
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  You just bring in all the cars and hope for.
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  The best yeah you can save were sold out today or whatever.
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  It is exactly so they had a couple days that were marked
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  off. I was like cool, but I had like
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  it was weird that I got the next day because I went Monday and
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  like I was like the next day I got the appointment for when I
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  wanted it. So it's just like all.
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  Right, well the first comment under this video is going to be
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  why can't you just learn to do it yourself now at this?
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  Point. I could have googled it and
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  figured. It out myself but you said to me
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  because I checked in with you I was like hey, how's everything
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  going You're like I'm still stuck here and I'm like I can't
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  believe it like I've seen like 4 clients like what are you
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  talking about you're still there and like and then you said to me
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  I'm never coming back here again and that's the deal with some of
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  these companies that get really really big like don't skimp on
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  the customer service because when Nick says like he's never
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  going back like he will never go back like once you lose us we're
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  gone and there's a lot of places you could get oil changed into
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  town you could learn to do it yourself I could.
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  Like never. But I need like the tires
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  rotated and oil changed and the filters changed.
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  I mean, I could learn all that stuff, I.
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  I, I, I mean, I want to keep my warranty.
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  I'm just saying like, like, you know, like the Starbucks CEO
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  came out and was like offering this like now premium, the
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  premium Starbucks thing. And it's like $9 coffees now.
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  And he's like, well, it's a premium product.
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  And it's like, but it's not a premium an experience.
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  And like when you go in, it's just some person making you a
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  coffee. Like it's no different than
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  Dutch Bros or BlackRock or whatever it is that we have.
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  Out here like don't lose your. Your place No, no, no.
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  Like these brands need to to realize that like you are
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  $1,000,000 companies and you are losing people because you're not
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  super serving your clients. Yeah, I officially after that I,
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  I just came home and I like, I'm not giving anybody money that
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  doesn't deserve my money anymore because I was starving.
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  I, I had like a bagel this morning at 8:00 and I didn't
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  leave there till 2:30. And as I was going home, like,
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  man, I just want to swing by a Taco Bell or McDonald's and grab
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  some food. I was like, you know what, screw
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  McDonald's like and screw Taco Bell.
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  Like every time I go, you're going to charge me 20 bucks for
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  two tacos and it's going to be crappy.
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  And then the same with McDonald's.
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  Like I'm going to go there and get a Big Mac.
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  It's going to be $35. It's going to like have all the
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  lettuce on it and no cheese or something.
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  It's going to be cold. It's a whole different world.
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  Done giving money to companies that don't care anymore if
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  you're if you're actively making your product crappy.
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  Like I'm no longer invested. And it's and it's so funny
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  because like the whole shrinkflation thing is so real.
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  Like we've noticed the last time we went to Taco Bell that like
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  the price on it was just insane. The price of McDonald's is like
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  $40.00 for three people to eat there now.
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  And I'm like, I could go sit down somewhere like I don't want
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  to be eating McDonald's. This is AI have.
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  To do. This because it's right next to
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  my kids karate or whatever it is.
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  And like we, I was making popcorn and I, I poured like we
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  have these popcorn corn buckets and normally the popcorn's at
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  the top for both of us. And I poured it up to the top
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  for yours and I poured the rest into the bag for me and it
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  filled it halfway and I was like, whoa, wait a second.
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  Like and I looked to see if it was a different brand.
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  It's not the same brand, but we sure as heck paid the same price
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  or more. Yeah, it's everyone's.
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  I got to start growing my own corn, but at.
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  Least the popcorn was good, you know what I mean?
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  Like I don't really mind the shrink flation.
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  If the product is. Still good, the product still
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  good. Like I'd rather you give me a
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  little bit less for like chips and popcorn or some of that.
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  If you can continue to give me a quality product, like if
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  McDonald's food was good when I got it and like hot and perfect,
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  but it was just a little smaller, I'd be fine.
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  But you're still charging me. You're charging me too much.
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  You're taking too long to give it to me.
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  It's a horrible experience being there and the food sucks after
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  when I eat it. So I was like, why would I come
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  here? And same to you, Taco Bell.
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  I. We're looking at you, Taco Bell.
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  Like I'm really morally mostly disappointed in Taco Bell.
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  Like. Taco Bell, You were supposed to
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  be the the the savior. Yeah, you were supposed to be
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  the one that saves us all. You were the two.
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  AMI just need a cheesy girl to eat a crunch and I only have
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  $2.00 on me and I'm going to get a Baja blast with it.
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  Exactly. And I'm like slightly buzzed,
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  like I need something to eat. And you were the one that always
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  picked us up when we were down, and now it's like you're shoving
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  salt in the wound. I truly lived Moss then and now
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  I live Moss. No Moss.
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  I no longer yo hero Taco Bell. Exactly.
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  I no longer so I don't. We're not going to make a
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  difference. But I know you're on board.
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  I know everyone's noticed this. It all sucks.
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  And then we went to in and Out for dinner. 30 bucks for all
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  three of us to eat full meals and the food was it.
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  Was very quality. Exactly how it is every time I
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  go. And they kept giving Lily a
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  bunch of stickers. Every time somebody came by,
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  they're like, hey, you want some more stickers?
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  And she was like. And they pay their employees
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  like, it's not that hard, guys, right?
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  And I'm getting sick. I know, Nick.
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  Is very. Sick right now, so.
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  If he sounds a little down in the dumps, it's not because he's
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  well. He is a bit depressed, but he's
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  also sick. It's all, it's all spiralling
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  down, but thanks for listening and watching and we'll talk to
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  you tomorrow.