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Liberate yourself from caring about what others think. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so I want to talk to you a
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  little bit about why we care so much about what other people
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  think about us. This is been coming up a lot and
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  not in my personal life, but with my clients and I thought it
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  would be worth it to address it with all of you since it seems
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  to be something that's out there floating in the world right now,
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  worrying about what other people are going to think.
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  And I know this is something that's we are hard-wired since
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  you. If you went to middle school,
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  you actually. Actually understand this sort of
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  such a deep level because anybody who's gone to Middle
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  School, which is all of us, hopefully gets the fact that you
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  worry about what other people think.
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  You don't want to be that kid. That has that any way to stand
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  out? That isn't in a great way and
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  even the ones who are you know, the ones, the popular kids, they
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  still worried about it, they just didn't do it in the same
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  way. It's Middle School is probably
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  the breeding ground of all true. As far as I'm concerned for so
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  many people, because they'll all go back and they'll say, well,
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  when I was in Middle School and I always like note to myself.
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  Gosh, middle school, and my middle school experience was no
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  better. Believe me.
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  I did not enjoy Middle School at all.
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  There's a chunk of time that I could technically say, let's do
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  redo that. It would be middle school for
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  sure, but in any event we digress.
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  I don't want to go down there. Let's go.
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  Back to the fact of you have to let yourself understand.
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  That there's a part of you, that you, it's hardwired into us to
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  have social behaviors and social cues from other people, because
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  they're important, right? You do want other people to as a
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  society as a thriving species, we look to others to shape us.
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  And part of that can be healthy part of it is healthy but not at
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  the detriment of yourself. Again, this comes back to always
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  being self-aware and really looking at You're processing
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  stuff. There's a really awesome quote
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  from loud Sue who says care what other people think and you will
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  always be their prisoner and boy.
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  Isn't that the truth? I mean, go back even to middle
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  school. I mean I can tell you how many
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  times I heard my father say why do you care what they think?
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  But you know it's really easy for someone who's in their 40s
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  to be telling somebody who's 10 11 and 12, not to care what
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  other people think and not knowing where that person is in
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  their little Minds. They're little development.
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  So we all have these issues with this showing up at some point in
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  our life, we become prisoners of other people by giving them the
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  power and allowing what they think to become our reality.
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  So, I'll give you a great example when I was going to
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  shoot when I was going to begin the process of, you know,
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  recording out in the chicken coop, and possibly shooting
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  videos and things out here. I had this whole thing in my
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  head about, well, I wonder what people are going to.
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  Thank as a professional, who's recording from her chicken coop,
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  and I had to go through this process now.
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  Did it take me a long time? No, it didn't take me a long
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  time because I recognize the information.
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  It was trying to give me, and then I use that information and
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  I came to the conclusion, which is why you're listening to me
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  out in my chicken coop, because this is one of my most happy
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  places I love hanging out with my chickens and granted right
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  now, some of them are here, but a lot of them are far away out
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  for you, arranging, having fun, doing whatever.
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  They're doing looking for bugs but it's nonetheless.
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  I'm still happy to be here with the ones that I have and this is
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  one of my I have to look at myself.
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  How do I want to say this? I want to look at myself and
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  say, just because this is not the same as what other people
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  like. It doesn't mean that I can't
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  bring it forward and share it with people and let people know
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  that I like it. It's that originality of saying,
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  you know what people are Title to their opinions and they can
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  keep their opinions, they can share their opinions but I don't
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  have to keep their opinion. I can decide just like I don't
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  have to keep the garbage in the house every night.
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  If I want to take it out, I can take it out.
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  I don't have to hang on to things, I don't have to make
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  everything a collection and curate, it and least off
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  somebody else's opinions about things and I think where we have
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  become so sensitive to what other people think right now in
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  society we don't Want to accept ourselves for who we are and
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  where we are. Because we're worried about what
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  other people are going to think. So a lot of us have retreated
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  and just said, well, I'm going to, I'm going to just go down
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  this other Road and isolate myself or I'm going to not truly
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  share who I am and that's fine if you're doing it for the right
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  reason. But if you're doing it to hide,
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  it's never the right reason and it's important to say.
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  No, I'm going to stand in the truth of who I am.
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  I'm going Accept myself for who I am.
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  I'm going to love myself for who I am and I'm going to give
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  myself the grace and the space to cultivate that person into
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  the greatest version of myself that I can be and not according
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  to what other people think. According to you, you got to
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  liberate yourself from the thoughts that it matters what
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  anyone else thinks, and maybe you have, you know, that close
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  person in your life like, I have a few close people in my life
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  and I will go to them for their opinions on things.
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  Doesn't mean I'll take them, but I trust them and I'll go to
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  them. And I'll say, okay, what are
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  your thoughts on this? And, you know, my husband being
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  one of them and sometimes he'll say to me, you know, I don't
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  know how that would go. Or I'm not sure about that or
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  he'll give me his opinion, doesn't mean I have to take.
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  It just means that I've checked in.
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  I've gotten some information again, but I don't have to hold
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  on to it. I don't To keep up.
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  So the lesson today, all about accepting yourself for who you
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  are, where you are and giving yourself the freedom that
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  they're the just the peace of mind that I don't care what
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  other people think. And I am no longer going to be a
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  prisoner of anyone is just absolutely freeing.
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  So hopefully today, this is going to be helpful to you and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Have a great day guys.
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  Bye.