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How To Seduce Any Man · Black Girls Are Easy Podcast

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like the man has to be ugly
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Speaker 1: and over 50, you know, for me to finesse. I
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Speaker 1: can get a 22 year old NBA player to do
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Speaker 1: what the fuck I want him to do.
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Speaker 2: This is GL Lambert explains it all.
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Speaker 3: Nasty but classy. Workin' bad me. Spend a couple thousands
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Speaker 3: on my titties and my ass cheeks. Get my teeth done.
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Speaker 3: Cash at me. Sneak dissing on the ground bitch at me.
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Speaker 3: What my bad bitches lookin' for at me? Welcome, welcome, welcome.
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Speaker 2: Now, there are two types of women when it comes
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Speaker 2: to being spoiled. Those that live the life and those
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Speaker 2: that ask, where did she find him at? Basic-a. There
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Speaker 2: is no supermarket filled with tricks and there is no luck.
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Speaker 2: Tons of pretty women are still fucking for free. Tons
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Speaker 2: of sweet women are still fucking for free. The formula
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Speaker 2: that the women who I've known and even coach have
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Speaker 2: is that they don't sit and ask, where did you
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Speaker 2: get them? They go out and find them using seduction.
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Speaker 2: So what is seduction? Luring someone in, making them like you,
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Speaker 2: and leaving such an impression that they want to see
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Speaker 2: you more, talk to you more, and get to unwrap
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Speaker 2: the mystery that is your persona. Think about your own life.
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Speaker 2: Have you ever seduced someone? I'm not talking about attracted
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Speaker 2: someone to you because you were wearing something nice or
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Speaker 2: got them to jump in your DMs because you took
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Speaker 2: a cute little video. Most of the ladies listening accidentally
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Speaker 2: attract men just by being pretty or dressing a certain way.
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Speaker 2: That's not the same as seduction. Seduction has little to
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Speaker 2: do with the eyes and everything to do with the ears.
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Speaker 2: And this is the big problem I run into when
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Speaker 2: women write me about hoe tactics or even write me
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Speaker 2: about not being able to get a guy to commit.
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Speaker 2: What seduces a man who doesn't know you? One, eye contact.
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Speaker 2: When you speak, do you stare into his eyes or
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Speaker 2: are you shy, nervous, and looking away? Trust me, it
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Speaker 2: makes a difference. Two, the subtext of conversation. When you
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Speaker 2: two talk about things, are you emphasizing your words? Are
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Speaker 2: you smirking when he says something funny? Do you touch
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Speaker 2: his shoulder or his knees for emphasis? Three, can you
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Speaker 2: use sex as a weapon without having sex? Men love
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Speaker 2: coded language. Can you make a joke about shoulder rubs,
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Speaker 2: eating your cooking, about the size of his hands, the
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Speaker 2: way his lips look? Basically anything. Most of you can't
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Speaker 2: tease in a joking manner because you don't want to
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Speaker 2: be shot down or you don't trust in your wit. Four,
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Speaker 2: the final one I'll mention is build up. Think about
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Speaker 2: the way you talk to men, the way they pressure
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Speaker 2: you for sex. Are you spartan enough to sidestep sex,
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Speaker 2: not fuck them too fast, and keep them interested? Most
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Speaker 2: of you don't know how to build to sex. You're
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Speaker 2: afraid to tell a man no or you're just so
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Speaker 2: horny your damn self that the moment he kisses you,
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Speaker 2: you're ready to sleep with him. For example, girl A
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Speaker 2: goes on a date, giggles the entire time, asks redundant questions,
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Speaker 2: goes back to his place or his car, gets felt
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Speaker 2: up and either fucks him or engages in oral sex.
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Speaker 2: That's not seduction. Girl B goes on a date, engages
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Speaker 2: the man, sees the questions or topics that excites him
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Speaker 2: and pushes those to the front has a great date,
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Speaker 2: tells him goodnight, but flirts and touches him in a
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Speaker 2: way that shows she's interested even though she's not going
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Speaker 2: to go home with him. Think about men like TV shows.
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Speaker 2: You like the cliffhanger at the end of the episode
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Speaker 2: that keeps you coming back for more. You like that
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Speaker 2: cliffhanger at the end of a movie that sets you
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Speaker 2: up for a sequel. A man is the same way.
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Speaker 2: If you shoot him down, but do it in a
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Speaker 2: way where you say, oh, you're going to get another shot,
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Speaker 2: what happens? He's going to want another shot. The problem
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Speaker 2: is you don't use these techniques to get him open
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Speaker 2: in the first place. Now, going back to our story,
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Speaker 2: girl A is basic as fuck. Girl B will get
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Speaker 2: a phone call the next day, another date, and this
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Speaker 2: man will spend the time between thinking about her. The
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Speaker 2: more she talks to him and opens him up, the
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Speaker 2: less it's about sex and more about actually liking her
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Speaker 2: because now he sees her personality under the lens of
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Speaker 2: up someone who still has sexual power over him. Seduction
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Speaker 2: makes men see beyond sex if done right. If you
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Speaker 2: build your power over him and you don't give him
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Speaker 2: a sniff of your pussy until he's invested time, money,
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Speaker 2: and energy, then you will always win. Let me talk
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Speaker 2: about money real quick. Many of you think just because
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Speaker 2: you're pretty, a man is going to buy you things
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Speaker 2: just because. Yeah, there are just because tricks. They will
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Speaker 2: buy you something before they even go on a date
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Speaker 2: with you because that's how they roll. They're tricks. However,
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Speaker 2: These type of tricks are usually few and far between,
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Speaker 2: and you won't be able to milk them for long
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Speaker 2: as their agenda is to load up in the front
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Speaker 2: with gifts, try to fuck you, and then ghost you
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Speaker 2: if it doesn't work after a few weeks. These aren't
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Speaker 2: the type of men you can milk for months or
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Speaker 2: even years. They're just trying to blitz you with gifts
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Speaker 2: to get the pussy. That's their agenda. Not too long ago,
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Speaker 2: my friend sent me a picture of these items that
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Speaker 2: a young Asian man brought her. He's a very wealthy
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Speaker 2: guy in tech, so spending $ 5, 000 on gifts before a
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Speaker 2: date is nothing. So she dated him, didn't try to seduce,
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Speaker 2: just did what she normally does on dates, just blah, blah, blah.
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Speaker 2: Thought he was going to be an easy mark. Not
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Speaker 2: only did he never buy her another gift after those
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Speaker 2: two dates, he stopped calling her and started dating another
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Speaker 2: girl on IG. And now she has to watch this
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Speaker 2: girl's flashing all kinds of gifts and you know who
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Speaker 2: it's coming from. The point is she fumbled the bag
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Speaker 2: because she thought this trick was going to be easy.
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Speaker 2: When in reality, you have to always put in work.
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Speaker 2: Never fuck for money. But you can make a man
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Speaker 2: think he'll fuck. You can make a man feel appreciated.
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Speaker 2: You can make a man feel like he's your best friend.
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Speaker 2: And that's how you stay in his pockets or stay
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Speaker 2: in his heart. I wrote an entire book about this
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Speaker 2: game that has worked for so many women. But seduction
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Speaker 2: skills must be practiced. Some of you aren't natural talkers
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Speaker 2: and you aren't natural flirters. So you have to work
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Speaker 2: on it. We're living in a city girl's world. But
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Speaker 2: don't let rap music or sugar daddy websites fool you.
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Speaker 2: Marks always have an agenda. And some of them are
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Speaker 2: very smart. The same way they got money is the
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Speaker 2: same way they can get pussy. They're smart at things.
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Speaker 2: Nothing in life is free, so you always have to
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Speaker 2: be a few steps ahead. You have to get practice
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Speaker 2: on how to talk to people and how to do
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Speaker 2: these steps. Practice makes perfect. Confidence in who you are
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Speaker 2: will generate opportunity and practice will make you secure the bag.
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Speaker 2: Don't give me some bullshit about men don't like dark-skinned girls.
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Speaker 2: Only older men want me. Guys only want to spend
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Speaker 2: money if they're already having sex. Blah, blah. Lies upon lies. White, Asian, black,
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Speaker 2: Latina from Atlanta to Toronto. I've seen women destroy these men.
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Speaker 2: I met this shy Indian woman raised in this traditional family.
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Speaker 2: A year later, she's still in the pockets of this
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Speaker 2: billionaire and she rarely has to see the man. How?
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Speaker 2: Because she stopped crying about how she wasn't sexy and
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Speaker 2: went out there and seduced someone for practice that ended
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Speaker 2: up being a fucking jackpot. Think about that. It happens
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Speaker 2: all the time. Now, on this episode, Imani and I
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Speaker 2: are going to break down the mindset of seduction. But
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Speaker 2: none of this works without a belief in yourself that
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Speaker 2: you can attract a high-quality man who will see you
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Speaker 2: as a trophy. No matter if you're trying to hustle
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Speaker 2: your rent to be paid or find a husband as
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Speaker 2: a provider, it's all about mastering that sexual energy buildup.
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Speaker 2: Enjoy the show, and I'll have a little secret seduction
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Speaker 2: guide soon for all the members to download. So more money.
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Speaker 4: I want your money. I want more money. I want
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Speaker 4: your money.
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Speaker 2: More money.
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Speaker 4: I want your money.
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Speaker 2: I want more money. I want your money.
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Speaker 4: Once upon a time, not long ago, I was a
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Speaker 4: hoe and I'm admitting it. I won't take it back
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Speaker 4: because I did this shit.
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Speaker 5: I was a hoe.
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Speaker 4: And I'm admitting it, I won't take it back Cause
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Speaker 4: I did this shit, I was a ho More money,
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Speaker 4: I want your money I want more money, I want
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Speaker 4: your money More money, I want your money I want
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Speaker 4: more money, I want your money I said if I
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Speaker 4: wanna fuck him, gonna fuck him But if he ain't
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Speaker 4: got a buck, I won't cuff him Spend a hundred
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Speaker 4: on me, it ain't.
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Speaker 1: Nothing When you realize that there's so many people in
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Speaker 1: this world, there's so many men in abundance, there's so
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Speaker 1: many cute guys. You know, whatever your type is, whatever
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Speaker 1: it is that you're trying to look for, there's... Yeah.
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Speaker 1: It's a revolving door. Like, women tend to just get
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Speaker 1: emotionally attached to people so soon, way quicker, like you said,
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Speaker 1: than they should.
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Speaker 2: And....
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Speaker 1: And I don't know what that's about.
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Speaker 2: All right. Keep gaming, Monty. This woman, tons of IG followers,
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Speaker 2: super attractive. Hits me about this NBA guy. Right. Now,
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Speaker 2: this isn't a rookie or a scrub. This dude is
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Speaker 2: a legit legend. More money than most athletes will ever
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Speaker 2: see because of his brand. So, I'm reading screenshot after
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Speaker 2: screenshot of him dogging her out, talking all sexual, just
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Speaker 2: straight ignorant shit.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: You got all these thirst buckets on your IG account.
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Speaker 2: Begging to eat out your ass. All these guys signed
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Speaker 2: up for your OnlyFans because you got a nice body.
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Speaker 2: But behind the scenes, you're getting verbally abused and slutted out.
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Speaker 2: So I keep it real. And I asked her, if
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Speaker 2: this man worked in Chicago as a mechanic, would you
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Speaker 2: let him talk to you this way or treat you
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Speaker 2: this way? No. Her response was, no, I wouldn't even
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Speaker 2: ever date a mechanic.
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Speaker 1: Exactly.
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Speaker 2: She missed the entire point. A huge tactic in getting
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Speaker 2: men with money is to not be so desperate that
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Speaker 2: you lose all respect for yourself. When you act thirsty,
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Speaker 2: these millionaires see you as just another pretty bitch that
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Speaker 2: can slut out for the price of a plane ticket.
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Speaker 1: Right right right man and you know what that's a
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Speaker 1: real like open wound that you just rubbed a whole
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Speaker 1: bunch of salt into because i think a lot of
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Speaker 1: times women included myself included We say like, oh, we
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Speaker 1: want this type of guy. You know, we want, you know,
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Speaker 1: a certain type of respect, you know, a certain type
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Speaker 1: of thing. And don't get me wrong. A lot of
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Speaker 1: women that are these type of women that you described
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Speaker 1: that busted open for only fans or whatever the fuck.
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Speaker 1: A lot of these women in their real exact life,
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Speaker 1: they do get, you know, queen treatment. But the main
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Speaker 1: point is, if you want a high caliber, high value
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Speaker 1: man that is walking red carpets and has these trophy
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Speaker 1: wives and has money and has status, what type of
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Speaker 1: woman do you think this man will like? Do you
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Speaker 1: think he will like a woman that, like you said,
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Speaker 1: you can go on her Instagram page and you can see,
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Speaker 1: you know, everything she has to offer in the privacy
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Speaker 1: of the bedroom? you know, and that's all she's offering?
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Speaker 1: Or do you think she's the one, a woman that
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Speaker 1: is classy and that also upholds the same type of
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Speaker 1: image that he has built, you know, for himself? You know,
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Speaker 1: and I think a lot of women, they're too kind
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Speaker 1: of blindsided and slightly entitled to think that just because
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Speaker 1: they have looks and beauty and a banging body or
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Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, maybe a little charm, that
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Speaker 1: they're qualified to date men, you know, that are in
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Speaker 1: the upper echelon and that alone will get them and
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Speaker 1: keep them there, not knowing, you know, the art of
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Speaker 1: seduction and the fact that men, they have to covet
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Speaker 1: you in more ways than just sexually. You have to
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Speaker 1: hit on so many other different cylinders as well. You can't,
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Speaker 1: you know, just bank on the sex aspect of it.
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Speaker 2: I wrote a whole book about how tricks get down
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Speaker 2: and how you can get sponsored and all this stuff.
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Speaker 2: I know the game and how just based on your
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Speaker 2: looks and not even getting up sex or any of
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Speaker 2: those things, a man who's in lust with you will...
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Speaker 2: go the fucking extra mile to buy you stuff, do
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Speaker 2: things for you just to get close to you or
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Speaker 2: just to get you to like him. Doesn't mean he's
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Speaker 2: actually into you on that level of marriage. And I
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Speaker 2: think what she was going through was the fact that like,
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Speaker 2: I've hit the jackpot, not thinking like, oh, this guy's
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Speaker 2: just asking me for lust. He's not actually looking to
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Speaker 2: prom me for his next serious girlfriend or even a wife. Like, no.
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Speaker 2: You're the one he wants to play with. There's a difference.
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Speaker 2: It's like, don't get confused with lust with actual intent
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Speaker 2: to be with you. Once those looks fade or once
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Speaker 2: you get somebody who can get any girl.
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Speaker 1: To look that way, what else do you bring to
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Speaker 1: the table that's going to make them interested? I think
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Speaker 1: a lot of women, they don't develop that. You know,
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Speaker 1: they don't develop the art of conversation. They don't read.
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Speaker 1: They don't know about, they don't know about current events.
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Speaker 1: They don't know how to listen. You know, they don't
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Speaker 1: know how to behave. in public um you know they
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Speaker 1: don't they're bratty you know i mean they're self-absorbed they're
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Speaker 1: ignorant you know i mean a lot of these girls
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Speaker 1: have no their bums you know in real life you
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Speaker 1: know a lot of these girls are so pretty until
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Speaker 1: they open their mouth that's one of the comments that
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Speaker 1: i always see under like bernice burgo's interviews you know dang,
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Speaker 1: she was so pretty. And then she opened her mouth.
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Speaker 1: And it's just like, oh, you know, people are saying that,
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Speaker 1: but then I'm, you know, you could be sensitive, but
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Speaker 1: at the end of the day, people aren't saying that
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Speaker 1: because they're trying to be mean. They're saying that because
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Speaker 1: their spidey senses just went off. Like, wait a second.
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Speaker 1: And I always wonder like, dang, why is such a
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Speaker 1: beautiful girl that's been around all these, you know, I
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Speaker 1: can only imagine the type of people she has met.
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Speaker 1: You know, I've met a lot of people and I'm
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Speaker 1: not even halfway, you know, to the type of resume
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Speaker 1: she has. And I'm just trying to think like, dang, why,
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Speaker 1: you know, why such a beautiful girl, you know, hasn't ever,
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Speaker 1: you know, the only time she made it in the
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Speaker 1: news was for sleeping with someone else's husband, never, ever
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Speaker 1: a situation of her own. And then, you hear her
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Speaker 1: speak and then you're like, dang, if you watch her interview,
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Speaker 1: it's like, dang, she, she's 40, but her mind is
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Speaker 1: almost like a 17 year old.
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Speaker 5: You know?
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Speaker 2: Hit the fucking nail on the head because there'll be
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Speaker 2: men that want to settle for them and they'll be
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Speaker 2: like regular Joes or scammers who want them to be
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Speaker 2: on their arm because they're still in that little bubble
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Speaker 2: down there. They'll take you in a second, but they
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Speaker 2: don't want those type of men anymore. Like they thought
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Speaker 2: they graduated from those, um, low level dating pool guys.
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Speaker 2: And they realize like, no, you still belong in a
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Speaker 2: dating pool because your mind has never developed. Like what
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Speaker 2: they call it, arrested development. You're still stuck in arrested development.
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Speaker 1: Like you said, the looks and stuff, you know, that's
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Speaker 1: just a shell. That's the outer, you know, guy's gonna, gonna,
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Speaker 1: you know, you know, not to be vulgar, but he's
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Speaker 1: going to bust a couple nuts with you. And then
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Speaker 1: that's going to get kind of old, you know, it's
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Speaker 1: going to be like, all right, well, had that situation
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Speaker 1: like that played out for all of us recently with
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Speaker 1: the girl, Ruby Rose, you know?
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
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Speaker 1: I was like, damn girl. Like it was so embarrassing.
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Speaker 1: Cause like, damn, that's like such a, like a rookie.
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Speaker 1: Like she literally looked like the most, like the basic
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Speaker 1: girls that I see in Miami, you know?
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Speaker 2: And when it gets all her branding, it was like, oh,
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Speaker 2: I do this and this and that. And it's like,
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Speaker 2: you got exposed. Exposed.
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Speaker 1: For the mentality. Your mentality, sweetheart. But listen to their raps.
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Speaker 1: Listen to their rap songs. And it's like, it's a
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Speaker 1: whole different person. Because it's like, that's who you would
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Speaker 1: genuinely probably like to be, you know, in your imagination.
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Speaker 2: But.
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Speaker 1: In real life, you're not any of those things. Just
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Speaker 1: like you're with your whole Sparta thing. You talk a
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Speaker 1: lot about just the mentality and you could be the
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Speaker 1: baddest bitch, you know, in your head and on Instagram.
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Speaker 1: And maybe like you said, with a simp or a
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Speaker 1: low level scammer or whatever, you could feel like the
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Speaker 1: baddest bitch. But how do you act when you're sitting,
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Speaker 1: you know, across the table from Drake or from the,
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Speaker 1: you know, the CEO of Sony?
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Speaker 2: They have nothing to talk about. They can do nothing
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Speaker 2: but like, And I observed this shit. It's like they giggle,
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Speaker 2: they laugh, they answer, they respond to a question with
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Speaker 2: the same question. Oh, what do you think about this
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Speaker 2: and that? I don't know. What do you think about that?
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Speaker 2: It's like that's not conversation skills. Like you missed the
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Speaker 2: whole step on how to engage a person's mind. It's
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Speaker 2: like sex is only going to be maybe two hours
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Speaker 2: out that 24 hours of the day. So what else
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Speaker 2: would that person want you for? If not just like,
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Speaker 2: all right, if this is all you can bring, I'll
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Speaker 2: see you at 4 a.m. and make sure you still woke.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. And I learned that the most, the girls
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Speaker 1: that are winning with guys, they're not the most beautiful.
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Speaker 1: They don't have these bodies, you know, that even I
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Speaker 1: myself have. They don't even have that. You know what
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Speaker 1: I mean? They don't have nothing. You know, like nothing
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Speaker 1: about them physically stands out. But I bet you, If
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Speaker 1: you were at a dinner table with this girl, I
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Speaker 1: promise you these girls would shine like stars.
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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah.
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Speaker 1: You know, it's not because those things you don't see
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Speaker 1: through just a camera lens. It's an energy. It's felt.
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Speaker 1: It's a confidence. It's a grace. It's a style. It's
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Speaker 1: a finesse. You know, they know how to speak to people.
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Speaker 1: They know how to make people feel, feel like. There's
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Speaker 1: some body, you know, all of those things are social skills.
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Speaker 2: I've been guilty of being hypnotized a few times. Like
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Speaker 2: I'll go out to like dinners or like wrap parties
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Speaker 2: or whoever and like and I'll meet someone's wife or
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Speaker 2: girlfriend or just some regular woman that's at the party
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Speaker 2: who has some kind of position. And you'll have a
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Speaker 2: conversation with someone and you like you fall in love
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Speaker 2: with their personality right away because they know how to
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Speaker 2: bring you in. And they'll ask questions pointed towards you.
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Speaker 2: They'll make sure you're included in the conversation. It's like,
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Speaker 2: it's not a game. It's just how they are. They
17:42
Speaker 2: develop these crazy social skills in order to climb the
17:44
Speaker 2: ladders they want to climb, be it romantically or corporately.
17:48
Speaker 2: But they're always on. And it shows. It's like, think
17:52
Speaker 2: about men. Like, we can fall in lust. But in
17:55
Speaker 2: order to fall in love, we need a personality. We
17:57
Speaker 2: need to say, this one's different. She's cool. She gets
18:01
Speaker 2: it on a different level than like, oh, yeah. I
18:03
Speaker 2: would throw a doll at you if this is a
18:04
Speaker 2: strip club. You don't need that type of energy. I mean,
18:07
Speaker 2: it works to your benefit if you can meld the
18:10
Speaker 2: two together. But for the most part, personality will always
18:13
Speaker 2: trump the physical bullshit. And if you're a student of history,
18:17
Speaker 2: so I know you probably read about the whole Cleopatra
18:21
Speaker 2: and other women of the time, like their fathers would
18:23
Speaker 2: put them in schools to learn how to speak and
18:27
Speaker 2: do speeches and, um, all these different topics to learn
18:30
Speaker 2: about the talk to these dignitaries. So like, of course,
18:33
Speaker 2: when she meets Caesar, he's smitten, not because she was
18:35
Speaker 2: a beauty. She really wasn't. It's because she knew how
18:38
Speaker 2: to fucking talk the talk and make this man, make
18:41
Speaker 2: him in, um, um, Mark Anthony fall in love. So yeah, it's, uh,
18:46
Speaker 2: it's all about that personality and knowing how to be
18:49
Speaker 2: a student in the game as well. Like you said,
18:51
Speaker 2: hitting that ball back and forth, like knowing how to
18:52
Speaker 2: play that tennis game.
18:54
Speaker 1: Right. Because one thing about being a woman, and especially
18:57
Speaker 1: being a beautiful woman, and I'm guilty of this myself,
19:02
Speaker 1: you know.
19:02
Speaker 2: Of being a beautiful woman?
19:04
Speaker 1: Yes.
19:06
Speaker 4: Yes.
19:07
Speaker 1: You know, when you grow up pretty, when you grow
19:10
Speaker 1: up always, you were always pretty. You didn't have to
19:12
Speaker 1: try hard for people to like you. You didn't have
19:14
Speaker 1: to try hard for attention. People just gravitated towards you
19:17
Speaker 1: just because of how you look, you know. Sometimes you
19:21
Speaker 1: don't develop that genuine interest in other people. You know,
19:27
Speaker 1: you're just always concerned about what's coming towards you, what's
19:30
Speaker 1: coming towards you. And it just makes you self-centered, you know,
19:33
Speaker 1: and that's something that I'm trying to work myself, myself
19:37
Speaker 1: out of because when you become an adult, you learn
19:40
Speaker 1: that that's not going to serve you all the time.
19:44
Speaker 1: You know, that's not going to serve you when you're
19:46
Speaker 1: trying to, like you said, work a room or influence somebody.
19:50
Speaker 2: Else.
19:50
Speaker 1: You have to start to focus on how you're making
19:53
Speaker 1: other people feel. A big part of that is living
19:55
Speaker 1: in the moment when you're speaking to someone, you know,
19:58
Speaker 1: when you're engaging with someone, actually paying attention to what
20:02
Speaker 1: they're saying, their tonality, what made them chuckle, what made
20:06
Speaker 1: them smile.
20:08
Speaker 2: People give you roadmaps to like their interests. It's like
20:10
Speaker 2: when someone says, oh, I don't know what the talk about.
20:13
Speaker 2: I don't know what the text is got, but I
20:14
Speaker 2: was like, you got to push people. You got to
20:17
Speaker 2: throw everything out there. Throw feelers out. That laugh will come.
20:21
Speaker 2: That light in their eye will sparkle. And you're like, okay,
20:24
Speaker 2: I just hit the fork in the road. Let me
20:26
Speaker 2: go left if he's into that. Or let me go
20:28
Speaker 2: right now. And that's the way you got to be,
20:30
Speaker 2: especially when it comes to business. And like a lot
20:32
Speaker 2: of those relationships, everything is, it's all about, Making someone
20:37
Speaker 2: feel like you're listening.
20:39
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's not even making them feel like you're listening.
20:41
Speaker 1: It's actually listening, you know? Sometimes when something loses our interest,
20:46
Speaker 1: we politely zone out and we hit them with.
20:49
Speaker 2: The, mm-hmm, yeah.
20:51
Speaker 1: Oh, damn, that's crazy, you know? But that's okay sometimes.
20:56
Speaker 1: But when you're actively, you know, trying to connect with
20:59
Speaker 1: a man, connect with, you know, a business person, an interviewer, whatever,
21:05
Speaker 1: all those things, they come in, they come into a
21:07
Speaker 1: huge play, the eye contact, you know, the mirroring, the
21:11
Speaker 1: matching their tone, they're matching their energy levels. Um, they're
21:16
Speaker 1: excited about a conversation. Okay. Keep going, keep going in
21:19
Speaker 1: with that conversation. They're uncomfortable with this conversation. Okay. Let's get,
21:22
Speaker 1: let's get off of this conversation. Like all those little
21:24
Speaker 1: social cues that charming people and charismatic people, they naturally
21:30
Speaker 1: know how to do that because they feel energy and they,
21:33
Speaker 1: they adapt to energy fast.
21:35
Speaker 2: And you know what I get a lot? Cause you know,
21:37
Speaker 2: I'm all about the vetting and I think that's so
21:39
Speaker 2: important to read people's energy and know where to take
21:42
Speaker 2: a conversation and, in order to make them at ease,
21:45
Speaker 2: but also to learn more about them, especially in a
21:47
Speaker 2: dating scenario, if you're a date vetting. And what I
21:50
Speaker 2: hear a lot, there's the women that say, oh my God,
21:53
Speaker 2: I've never dated like this where I'm actually like, you know,
21:55
Speaker 2: on the ball and making sure I hit these points
21:57
Speaker 2: that you laid out in your book. Then there's other
21:59
Speaker 2: people's like, that's so hard. I just feel awkward asking
22:03
Speaker 2: those questions or I'm like, awkward having a conversation. Like,
22:07
Speaker 2: I don't understand how you can feel awkward having a
22:10
Speaker 2: conversation that tells me when you date, You just sit
22:13
Speaker 2: there and you just blowing the wind. You're probably tuning in,
22:17
Speaker 2: tuning out, laughing, waiting for them to say something. And
22:21
Speaker 2: then you go home like, oh, that was a good date.
22:23
Speaker 2: Why the fuck was it a good date? Because you
22:25
Speaker 2: sat there and you ate food and he seemed to
22:27
Speaker 2: like you enough to want to kiss you at the
22:28
Speaker 2: end of the night and kept trying to touch you.
22:31
Speaker 2: That's not a fucking good date. You learned nothing. You
22:33
Speaker 2: didn't expose this person's personality on a real level. You
22:36
Speaker 2: didn't get them to bond with you the way you think.
22:39
Speaker 2: So it's like, you got to know how to vet.
22:41
Speaker 2: You got to know how to charm. You got to,
22:43
Speaker 2: even if you weren't privy to these things when you
22:46
Speaker 2: were younger or growing up, the fact that you now
22:49
Speaker 2: know means you should be trying to put it into effect.
22:51
Speaker 1: Right, you should be trying to practice with it. Even
22:52
Speaker 1: if it means going on dates with guys you don't
22:53
Speaker 1: necessarily like or... Whatever. You need to get yourself out
22:57
Speaker 1: there because you got to break yourself out of that shyness,
22:59
Speaker 1: out of that insecurity, out of that, out of that,
23:02
Speaker 1: I don't know how to talk to men. I don't
23:04
Speaker 1: know what to say. You know, I have friends like that.
23:06
Speaker 1: They get around new people. They don't know how to,
23:08
Speaker 1: they don't know how to start conversation. They're not intellectual.
23:11
Speaker 1: They don't, they're not conversationalists. You know, me, you know,
23:16
Speaker 1: I can start a conversation with anybody about anything and
23:19
Speaker 1: any social situation. But some people, they don't know how
23:23
Speaker 1: to do that. But, they should work on it because
23:26
Speaker 1: that's a weakness and that's going to limit you in
23:29
Speaker 1: the end. It's going to limit you.
23:31
Speaker 2: Have a practice person. Especially if you're a woman, it's
23:36
Speaker 2: not hard to grab any old schmuck and say, hey,
23:40
Speaker 2: How you doing? Just start a general conversation with somebody
23:43
Speaker 2: and he's going to probably, especially somebody you're not intimidated,
23:45
Speaker 2: who doesn't look all that hot in your opinion. It's
23:48
Speaker 2: not hard to get those types of people to jump
23:51
Speaker 2: on your clit and want to take you out or
23:53
Speaker 2: want to do whatever. And then at that point, if
23:55
Speaker 2: you have confidence talking to somebody who you're not attracted to,
23:58
Speaker 2: and that's how you get over this fear of like
23:59
Speaker 2: talking to new people, use that. Even, um, the whole
24:03
Speaker 2: online dating shit, somebody like, well, I don't, it's so
24:05
Speaker 2: weird talking to strangers. I'm like, look, don't use it
24:08
Speaker 2: to find somebody you really, really like. Find a practice dummy,
24:12
Speaker 2: practice your swag, practice your flirt game on them. Go
24:16
Speaker 2: off on these people who you don't fear. That way,
24:18
Speaker 2: when you run up against somebody who is kind of intimidating,
24:20
Speaker 2: you can push past that and just remind yourself, he's
24:23
Speaker 2: no different than that last guy who I dated, who
24:26
Speaker 2: I didn't like. The only difference is I'm giving him
24:29
Speaker 2: power because of how he looks or what he has.
24:32
Speaker 2: He has no real power. It's all just a projection
24:35
Speaker 2: of your own thoughts.
24:35
Speaker 1: Yeah, because a lot of women, I'm so glad you
24:37
Speaker 1: ended it with that same word. It's all a projection
24:39
Speaker 1: of your own thoughts because I was literally thinking the
24:41
Speaker 1: whole time, like, some women, they psych themselves out. When
24:46
Speaker 1: they get in front of certain people, you know, maybe
24:48
Speaker 1: a certain celebrity or a certain guy with a certain caliber,
24:51
Speaker 1: they completely start getting in their heads. Oh, this, oh, that, oh,
24:57
Speaker 1: you know, and all these weird thoughts. And it's like,
24:59
Speaker 1: people can feel that, you know, people can feel your thoughts.
25:02
Speaker 1: Your thoughts are energy is vibration and it's very much readable.
25:07
Speaker 1: So you got to learn to relax, you know, and
25:10
Speaker 1: I learned like one of my things, one of my
25:11
Speaker 1: things that I've noticed about myself that has definitely sabotaged
25:14
Speaker 1: me personally, and I'll just be vulnerable about it. It's
25:16
Speaker 1: just like sometimes when I get around guys that fall
25:20
Speaker 1: into that category that I just told you, high echelon, celebrity,
25:23
Speaker 1: whatever it can be, sometimes I find myself drinking too much. Oh,
25:27
Speaker 1: this will make me loosen up or whatever.
25:29
Speaker 2: Yeah, numb yourself. Yeah, well, numb my nerves.
25:31
Speaker 1: You know, calm my nerves so I can just be
25:33
Speaker 1: more free, more fun. And that has always been like
25:37
Speaker 1: my Achilles heel, you know? They're ordering, you know, the
25:40
Speaker 1: bottles of wine. They know what they're doing with women.
25:43
Speaker 2: The inhibitions slip away.
25:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, and all your resistance just slips away. But if
25:47
Speaker 1: you're really trying to date and try to get to
25:49
Speaker 1: know someone, true dreams, you know, don't go out with
25:52
Speaker 1: them to a club too early, you know, after knowing
25:55
Speaker 1: them or whatever. Maybe if you know you can't just
25:57
Speaker 1: have a glass of champagne or one cocktail, you know,
26:00
Speaker 1: things like self-control, self-discipline, because as a lady, as a woman,
26:04
Speaker 1: anything that happens to us, we allow it. You know,
26:05
Speaker 1: we set the tone, we set the atmosphere, you know, we,
26:09
Speaker 1: we somehow laid, you know, open the door for it.
26:13
Speaker 1: Being too open or sleeping with men too soon or
26:15
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, you have to realize, well,
26:17
Speaker 1: why did I do that? What happened to make that
26:19
Speaker 1: happen like that? You know, and a lot of it
26:21
Speaker 1: has to do, come back to, you know, too much drinking,
26:23
Speaker 1: you know, too much drinking or, You know, things like that,
26:27
Speaker 1: like we have to.
26:28
Speaker 2: I'm so glad you brought that up because I get
26:31
Speaker 2: so many emails where it always ends. Let's go out
26:35
Speaker 2: to the next bar to get more drinks or let's
26:37
Speaker 2: go to the club. And I'm thinking in my head,
26:40
Speaker 2: it's like. Why would you allow yourself to be put
26:44
Speaker 2: like you already vowed has got to the point where
26:45
Speaker 2: you like them, so you're both filled with lust and
26:48
Speaker 2: you're both vibing off each other. If you keep introducing
26:51
Speaker 2: more and more alcohol, what's going to happen? And of course,
26:53
Speaker 2: by the end of the email, the conundrum is we
26:57
Speaker 2: had sex that night. I think I screwed up because
27:00
Speaker 2: now he's not giving me the same response that he
27:02
Speaker 2: was trying to take me out. Come on. Checkmate. You
27:05
Speaker 2: know what happened.
27:06
Speaker 1: Checkmate. Check fucking mate. And you know what book that
27:11
Speaker 1: I've been, audio book that I've been reading, listening to
27:13
Speaker 1: a lot is The Art of Seduction. And I'll be
27:16
Speaker 1: honest with you. I read the book a long time
27:18
Speaker 1: ago when I was dating this basketball player and I
27:21
Speaker 1: was totally freaked out. I'm just like, oh my God,
27:24
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. And I read the
27:26
Speaker 1: book and it totally did nothing for me. Like I
27:29
Speaker 1: completely did not grasp the message. You know, it was
27:35
Speaker 1: too complicated for me at that time. The title of
27:39
Speaker 1: the book and the premise of the book is a
27:41
Speaker 1: little bit off-putting. It's not going to tell you how
27:45
Speaker 1: to do a goddamn thing. You know, it's not, it's
27:49
Speaker 1: not one, it's not a straightforward book like that.
27:51
Speaker 2: It's a book.
27:52
Speaker 1: It's a, it's almost a psychology book. Like it's almost
27:55
Speaker 1: like it's a dark psychology book basically. Um, so now
27:59
Speaker 1: that I'm a little bit older and I'm a little
28:01
Speaker 1: bit more, you know, conscious, I would say, um, I've almost,
28:06
Speaker 1: I've been listening to it with new ears and it basically,
28:10
Speaker 1: it says like the chase, you know, the art of
28:13
Speaker 1: seduction is all about the chase. For the man, it's
28:16
Speaker 1: all about that chase. when you give a man the
28:20
Speaker 1: sex and trust me, I've struggled with this because I'm
28:23
Speaker 1: a very liberal person and I'm a, I'm, I'm the
28:25
Speaker 1: type of person that I feel like I do what
28:27
Speaker 1: I want. And if I'm ready to have sex, if
28:29
Speaker 1: I want to have sex with a guy, I'm going
28:31
Speaker 1: to do it because I want to do it. You know,
28:32
Speaker 1: like I always had that mindset where I didn't understand.
28:36
Speaker 1: I never understood the power of the pussy. I will
28:38
Speaker 1: admit that. I'm like, I never, coming up in my
28:41
Speaker 1: early twenties and stuff, I never understood how the power
28:45
Speaker 1: of a vagina was. Like it, it never dawned on
28:49
Speaker 1: me like what it could really like do, you know,
28:52
Speaker 1: I never see, cause I never seen it in power.
28:55
Speaker 1: I never had girls around me that I saw getting,
28:57
Speaker 1: getting anything, you know, based off of what we're talking about.
29:01
Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, because there's women in their 40s who still
29:05
Speaker 2: don't understand the power of the pussy. They're like, oh,
29:06
Speaker 2: men don't give you anything. That's just all make-believe. It
29:09
Speaker 2: doesn't happen for me. It's like, trust me, lady, it
29:11
Speaker 2: can happen for anyone if you played the damn game. Yeah,
29:14
Speaker 2: it's like, come on. I think men typically understand the
29:17
Speaker 2: power of the pussy a lot earlier than women. Of course,
29:20
Speaker 2: we're the ones chasing it. So we've realized, it's like,
29:23
Speaker 2: what wouldn't you do to get her over there? You
29:27
Speaker 2: don't know her. You never even heard her voice. Just...
29:30
Speaker 2: I would do anything. It's like, you see the thirst,
29:33
Speaker 2: the thirst in a man's head when he sees you.
29:37
Speaker 2: It's like the things he would type to you are
29:40
Speaker 2: subtle compared to things he's thinking about. Oh man, I
29:43
Speaker 2: would da da da da da. And then once that
29:45
Speaker 2: keeps escalating, like you say, it's all about the chase.
29:48
Speaker 2: It's all about the chase. They keep getting there to
29:50
Speaker 2: give me attention, give me attention, give me attention. It's like,
29:53
Speaker 2: And if you know how to play that game, that
29:54
Speaker 2: cat and mouse game, it's like you can have so
29:57
Speaker 2: much leverage over the male mind if you just play
29:59
Speaker 2: the game and don't give it up. Exactly.
30:01
Speaker 1: It's just a lot of girls, they're being seduced instead
30:04
Speaker 1: of being the seducers.
30:07
Speaker 2: Sure.
30:07
Speaker 1: And that glitz and glamour and the idea of what
30:12
Speaker 1: this guy could possibly do for you starts trumping the
30:15
Speaker 1: reality of what he has done for you, which is
30:18
Speaker 1: most likely... not a damn thing.
30:20
Speaker 2: You know?
30:21
Speaker 1: But smart women, the sooner that women grasp that whole concept,
30:25
Speaker 1: the quicker that they'll get power over their lives, power
30:28
Speaker 1: over their dating lives, and power over themselves, and they'll
30:32
Speaker 1: start reaping some of the benefits of being a woman.
30:35
Speaker 1: Because contrary to popular belief, being a woman completely, you know,
30:40
Speaker 1: no offense, but being a woman completely trumps being a man,
30:43
Speaker 1: you know?
30:44
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're preaching to the choir over here.
30:46
Speaker 1: Men worship women. You know, men bow down to the pussy.
30:51
Speaker 1: You know, they do anything to get into that. They kill.
30:54
Speaker 1: Wars have been had historically over vagina all the time.
30:59
Speaker 1: You know, so at the end of the day, women
31:02
Speaker 1: have completely lost touch with that ideology, that goddess, you know,
31:09
Speaker 1: supreme stature, you know, style and grace that comes with
31:15
Speaker 1: being a beautiful, well-put-together woman. beautiful smelling, feminine, sexy, empowered woman.
31:21
Speaker 1: No one's saying hide your sexuality or don't be a
31:24
Speaker 1: sexual being. Yes, be that, but direct that energy into
31:29
Speaker 1: getting what you want, which is whether that's a relationship,
31:31
Speaker 1: whether that's a sugar daddy, whether that's a trip, whether
31:34
Speaker 1: that's your tuition paid off, a new car, a new house,
31:37
Speaker 1: a business. Girl, you could bottle that sexual energy and
31:40
Speaker 1: direct it towards anything you want in this world. Napoleon
31:44
Speaker 1: Hill wrote a whole chapter called Sexual Transmutation that talks
31:47
Speaker 1: about just that. And it was so powerful of a
31:51
Speaker 1: chapter that they actually took it out of the book.
31:54
Speaker 1: And that is like the secret to a lot of
31:56
Speaker 1: people's success is the chase of the promise of the
32:00
Speaker 1: illusion of sex. The same way they use people with
32:04
Speaker 1: Christianity with the chase and the power and the illusion
32:07
Speaker 1: of heaven. Okay, heaven is between your legs if you
32:11
Speaker 1: knew how to leverage it that way.
32:13
Speaker 2: When I talk about this whole like pussy power and
32:15
Speaker 2: stuff like that, I get so much pushback because they
32:19
Speaker 2: don't want to know what I think it is. It's
32:20
Speaker 2: guilt because they, they've been exploited for so long and
32:24
Speaker 2: they've been walked over and they gave up so much
32:26
Speaker 2: free pussy. And when I say, look, at the end
32:29
Speaker 2: of the day, all pussy expires, all us dissipates. You
32:34
Speaker 2: got to get what you want to jump. And because
32:36
Speaker 2: they've never done that, it's a scary thing to try
32:39
Speaker 2: to put into play late in your life. Like a
32:42
Speaker 2: woman who's, 19, 20 can say, okay, I hear what
32:45
Speaker 2: you're saying and not even be as smart as an
32:47
Speaker 2: older woman, but do it because they're just following the rules.
32:50
Speaker 2: Whereas the older person, they have so much baggage, like
32:53
Speaker 2: so much sex scars and this and that, like, oh,
32:54
Speaker 2: it never happens. I mess with these bums. Like, no,
32:57
Speaker 2: it can fucking happen if you put it into effect
33:00
Speaker 2: now and it's not waiting to the next guy. Oh,
33:02
Speaker 2: he's not the type of guy that's going to trick. Oh,
33:04
Speaker 2: he's not there. All the type of fucking guys is
33:06
Speaker 2: going to trip. If you know how to fucking work
33:08
Speaker 2: it the right way. It's just, you gotta, you gotta
33:10
Speaker 2: set a line in the sand and say, this is
33:13
Speaker 2: where I won't cross until I get X, Y, and Z.
33:17
Speaker 2: And there's no breaking your defenses because, Oh, I just,
33:21
Speaker 2: I got a little tipsy or, Oh, he was saying
33:23
Speaker 2: the right things. And it's like, Stop letting these guys
33:26
Speaker 2: peel you back with fucking card tricks. It's like, that's
33:29
Speaker 2: all they're doing. They're trying to, like you said, as men,
33:31
Speaker 2: we're trying to seduce you out of those panties. So
33:34
Speaker 2: you got to realize like, all right, game recognizes game.
33:37
Speaker 2: I know what you want, but this is what I want.
33:39
Speaker 1: And now we can go back and forth and negotiate.
33:42
Speaker 1: And some people negotiate very plainly and some people have
33:46
Speaker 1: a more subtle negotiation, but it's all a negotiation. You know,
33:52
Speaker 1: and some women are negotiating very low. You know, like
33:55
Speaker 1: your pussy is kind of like a business, you know?
33:57
Speaker 1: So I'll ask you a lot of comments. People say,
34:00
Speaker 1: you know, poor pussy management. And I love that comment
34:03
Speaker 1: because people need to understand, yes, you manage your pussy.
34:07
Speaker 1: You're the manager here. Is your pussy a soup kitchen?
34:11
Speaker 1: Or is your pussy, you.
34:12
Speaker 2: Know, Hermes? Pussy is a luxury brand. It never goes
34:16
Speaker 2: on sale.
34:17
Speaker 1: It could be.
34:18
Speaker 2: It's like, stop putting your pussy on sale just because
34:20
Speaker 2: a motherfucker tall and got a beard. It goes on
34:24
Speaker 2: sale for no one. Anyone comes through that door pays
34:27
Speaker 2: the retail price.
34:28
Speaker 1: Period. You have to seek out mentorship. You have to
34:32
Speaker 1: seek out either books like yours or there's so many
34:36
Speaker 1: women on YouTube. One of my favorites is Shira Seven... One,
34:40
Speaker 1: she speaks about these types of topics all the time.
34:44
Speaker 3: Yeah.
34:44
Speaker 2: And a lot of people need that type of shit
34:45
Speaker 2: because you don't have a lot of like a lot
34:49
Speaker 2: of people were raised by mothers who didn't understand this
34:52
Speaker 2: this whole process either. Like their mother gave up free
34:56
Speaker 2: pussy her whole life. And now it's like life at home.
34:59
Speaker 2: She's telling you. oh, don't do this or men like
35:02
Speaker 2: this when you do this or counterproductive ways to get
35:05
Speaker 2: a man because.
35:06
Speaker 1: Or she literally isn't telling you anything, you know, like
35:09
Speaker 1: my mom, you know, my mom never told me a
35:11
Speaker 1: goddamn thing, you know, and that's just how it is.
35:13
Speaker 1: Sometimes us women or whatever, we have to learn through
35:16
Speaker 1: trial and error. Some of us, you know, have to
35:17
Speaker 1: learn the hard way. And some of us had that
35:20
Speaker 1: auntie or had that big sister who had the boys
35:23
Speaker 1: doing for her since she was 17, you know, and
35:26
Speaker 1: she'll put you onto the game. You don't really see it.
35:28
Speaker 1: You're not really believing it. You don't understand it. Listen
35:31
Speaker 1: to those girls. Soak in the mentality and take what
35:34
Speaker 1: registers and release what doesn't. Some of the shit she says,
35:37
Speaker 1: I don't agree with. I don't feel like the man
35:39
Speaker 1: has to be ugly and over 50 for me to finesse.
35:43
Speaker 1: I can get a 22-year-old NBA player to do what
35:46
Speaker 1: the fuck I want him to do. You know what
35:47
Speaker 1: I mean?
35:48
Speaker 2: For those people listening, I want you to really understand
35:51
Speaker 2: that You already have the tools to do these things.
35:55
Speaker 2: So if you aren't doing them or you are afraid
35:57
Speaker 2: to do them, you have yourself to blame. You can't
35:59
Speaker 2: keep complaining like, oh, guys, don't do this. Like Imani
36:03
Speaker 2: just told you. I don't give a fuck who it is.
36:05
Speaker 2: I can get a 20 year old NBA player like
36:07
Speaker 2: that confidence is real. Like she can do that tonight
36:11
Speaker 2: if she wanted to. Why can't you do that? Because
36:14
Speaker 2: you don't have that same level of confidence or you
36:15
Speaker 2: don't you don't believe in your ability as a woman
36:19
Speaker 2: to go out there and finesse and get things just
36:21
Speaker 2: because you're a woman.
36:22
Speaker 1: Yeah.
36:23
Speaker 2: There's no reason you should be struggling to pay a
36:27
Speaker 2: bill to do this. Yet these guys get to come
36:29
Speaker 2: over and have you whenever they want to have you. Yeah.
36:31
Speaker 2: That's just that's just fucking silly. So all that pick
36:33
Speaker 2: me shit out your brain.
36:34
Speaker 1: Yeah.
36:35
Speaker 2: Get rid of all these nice girl qualities that they
36:38
Speaker 2: try to instill in you.
36:39
Speaker 5: Yeah.
36:40
Speaker 2: You have to take care of yourself in this world.
36:42
Speaker 5: Yep.
36:43
Speaker 2: You were born to be a woman. So therefore you
36:47
Speaker 2: were born into power. You were bestowed with fucking superpowers.
36:52
Speaker 2: If you choose not to use them and choose to
36:54
Speaker 2: be used, then you only have yourself to blame.
36:57
Speaker 1: Yep, exactly. And just to, you know, piggyback off of
37:00
Speaker 1: what he said, it's not even, it's not about not
37:03
Speaker 1: being yourself. I don't want anyone to feel like They
37:05
Speaker 1: have to be someone other than who they are. It's
37:08
Speaker 1: more so about being your best self, being your better self.
37:13
Speaker 1: If you're the type of woman where you want to,
37:15
Speaker 1: I don't know any woman like this, but that you
37:17
Speaker 1: want to be single, you want to do everything for yourself,
37:21
Speaker 1: then this conversation really kind of isn't really for you.
37:24
Speaker 1: These are for the women that want to be able
37:27
Speaker 1: to kick back and enjoy being a woman. And the
37:32
Speaker 1: biggest question for today is what color am I going
37:34
Speaker 1: to paint my nails? If that's the type of woman
37:39
Speaker 1: that you, the lifestyle that you would like to be,
37:41
Speaker 1: just focus on being your best self. Like we talked
37:43
Speaker 1: about earlier, learning how to be a conversationalist, looking the part,
37:48
Speaker 1: learning how to pick up on social cues and play
37:51
Speaker 1: the game back and forth with the man. You don't
37:54
Speaker 1: have to be able to do this with every single man,
37:56
Speaker 1: but pick a good man, vet a good quality man,
37:58
Speaker 1: whatever that means to you, and then get honest, step
38:02
Speaker 1: up your game and don't give up the prize quickly
38:06
Speaker 1: or for a little.
38:07
Speaker 2: Wait for a condo.
38:09
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. No one, there's no right or wrong way
38:14
Speaker 1: to take this information. It's whatever your personal goals are.
38:18
Speaker 1: But the main point is, you know, use that sexual
38:21
Speaker 1: energy because as, as women and as humans, we have
38:24
Speaker 1: sexual energy and that's a powerful energy and it moves.
38:26
Speaker 2: You know, it was a dope part of the Napoleon
38:28
Speaker 2: Hill book when he was talking about the sex transmutation.
38:31
Speaker 2: It was, he was talking about his secretary. And I
38:33
Speaker 2: don't know, I think it was somebody else's secretary. And
38:37
Speaker 2: he keeps her around because it energizes him throughout the
38:40
Speaker 2: day to do the best job he can do. Men
38:43
Speaker 2: use women's sexual energy like a vampire to power themselves up.
38:47
Speaker 1: Yeah.
38:48
Speaker 2: It's like they've been the inspiration for so many novels
38:51
Speaker 2: and so many movies and so many great works of art.
38:54
Speaker 2: Realize that you are a powerful being. It's like men
38:57
Speaker 2: know this. Why don't you know it about yourself?
38:59
Speaker 5: Right.
39:00
Speaker 1: If you actually let that sexual energy build up and
39:03
Speaker 1: you get a man to want you and crave you,
39:05
Speaker 1: you know, still tease him, still make him feel, you know,
39:08
Speaker 1: like he is going to get this. But in the meantime,
39:11
Speaker 1: have him investing in you, investing in you time and money,
39:16
Speaker 1: not just the money, not just the time. It needs
39:18
Speaker 1: to be a beautiful combination, you know, trifecta of his time,
39:23
Speaker 1: his money, and his sexual energy.
39:26
Speaker 2: If you.
39:28
Speaker 1: Keep a man's time, money, and sexual energy coming towards you,
39:31
Speaker 1: it's only a matter of time before that man is
39:34
Speaker 1: your man.
39:35
Speaker 2: That's the quote of the night.
39:36
Speaker 1: If you can keep that coming towards you in a
39:39
Speaker 1: positive way, when you guys are spending time together, you're
39:42
Speaker 1: doing fun things. When he's spending his money on you,
39:45
Speaker 1: he feels appreciated. You know how to say the words,
39:48
Speaker 1: thank you. You know how to smile? Okay, great. You
39:51
Speaker 1: don't have to reward a man with sex every time
39:53
Speaker 1: he does something nice for you. That's where a lot
39:55
Speaker 1: of women get it messed up and they're conditioned to
39:57
Speaker 1: think that every time a man does something for you,
39:59
Speaker 1: you got to repay him in sex. No, you don't. Please,
40:03
Speaker 1: please do not. Keep letting that build. Keep letting it
40:07
Speaker 1: build because you want to separate yourself from the other
40:11
Speaker 1: baddie that he might be texting or also dating simultaneously
40:16
Speaker 1: as he's dating you. be the one that he keeps
40:20
Speaker 1: coming towards without giving up the cookie, you know? Because
40:24
Speaker 1: after a while, somebody is going to break or something's
40:28
Speaker 1: going to happen where these other girls fall off. And
40:30
Speaker 1: then you're going to be the one that he's thinking about,
40:34
Speaker 1: you know, nonstop. When you get inside a man's head,
40:37
Speaker 1: inside his psyche, you know, that's when you have him,
40:40
Speaker 1: you know, when he can't stop positive.
40:42
Speaker 2: And trust me, men never forget. If you're on his
40:46
Speaker 2: radar once... and he's never had you, you will always
40:49
Speaker 2: be on his radar. Always. Years later. Years later.
40:53
Speaker 1: Always nice to be, you know, the taste that he's
40:56
Speaker 1: never had. Don't fumble by, you know, number one, trying
41:00
Speaker 1: to push it too fast. You know, that's another thing
41:02
Speaker 1: women do.
41:03
Speaker 2: Oh, true. The rush to get as quick as possible.
41:07
Speaker 1: Don't rush it. It's like you're killing the game. It's
41:11
Speaker 1: like a game. It's almost like having sex. Do you
41:14
Speaker 1: want a quickie with this man or do you want
41:17
Speaker 1: a slow, tantric, sexual build that lasts lifetimes? All of
41:25
Speaker 1: that is all in the beginning when you set the tone.
41:28
Speaker 1: Like you said, you set the tone. It's your world.
41:32
Speaker 2: And patience. You have to be patient. It's not like,
41:35
Speaker 2: why won't he just buy me something because I look
41:37
Speaker 2: the way I look? That's not going to happen. You
41:40
Speaker 2: have to cultivate that relationship. Put yourself in a man's shoes. Yes,
41:46
Speaker 2: you're attractive. Yes, whatever. But why would he go out
41:49
Speaker 2: of his way when there's five others just like you
41:53
Speaker 2: on your same level that are giving them more attention?
41:56
Speaker 2: You have to cultivate your power and your seduction skills
42:01
Speaker 2: Ingrane yourself in his mind by taking your time and
42:05
Speaker 2: getting to know him, sparking that conversation, engaging. And like
42:10
Speaker 2: you said, you can feel that energy. It's like, oh,
42:12
Speaker 2: he's really into me. There's never going to be a
42:15
Speaker 2: case of like, I'm not sure if this guy likes
42:17
Speaker 2: me or not. There are clear, simple ways to test
42:20
Speaker 2: a guy's interest very easily just going on one date
42:23
Speaker 2: or just how he responds to you. And if you
42:26
Speaker 2: try to push it too fast, like, oh, he took
42:28
Speaker 2: me out to this nice dinner. Let me go hit
42:30
Speaker 2: him up for a watch the next week. It's like
42:32
Speaker 2: you just fumbled the whole bag.
42:34
Speaker 1: Fumbled the whole bag.
42:35
Speaker 2: You just showed all your true colors.
42:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just showed your whole cards. And how would
42:40
Speaker 1: you feel? You know, like he said, put yourself in
42:43
Speaker 1: that man's brain and that man's head. Look at yourself
42:46
Speaker 1: from his eyes. You make yourself... look like a gold digger,
42:49
Speaker 1: you know? And there's nothing, you know, there's nothing wrong
42:51
Speaker 1: with being a gold digger, but there is something wrong
42:54
Speaker 1: with acting like a gold digger.
42:56
Speaker 2: Exactly. It all has to build on his initial connection
42:59
Speaker 2: with you.
43:00
Speaker 1: Right.
43:00
Speaker 2: If he doesn't know you and you're just with your
43:02
Speaker 2: hand out and you're like, oh, let's go into the
43:04
Speaker 2: mall real quick. Oh, you're going to buy me... And
43:06
Speaker 2: I've heard these stories like a woman tries to lead
43:08
Speaker 2: a man to a mall or a store too quickly.
43:10
Speaker 2: And then I've heard the opposite where a woman doesn't
43:13
Speaker 2: even want to go shopping with this man to go
43:15
Speaker 2: pick up whatever the fuck he's buying. And he's like, oh, baby,
43:17
Speaker 2: I'll buy you one like this, too. And the woman's like, oh, no,
43:20
Speaker 2: I'm good. And then she ends up getting even more
43:22
Speaker 2: because he's like, well, she's must not really be with
43:24
Speaker 2: me for the money. And it fucks a man's mind up.
43:27
Speaker 2: He's like, well, she doesn't want this. What else can
43:30
Speaker 2: I give? I need to give her more and more
43:31
Speaker 2: and more and more and more. And it's such a
43:34
Speaker 2: reverse psychology game that a lot of people aren't hip to.
43:37
Speaker 1: You know, you spoke, your whole tactic spoke a lot about,
43:41
Speaker 1: about that, you know, like, oh, you know, I remember
43:44
Speaker 1: a part on there where it's like, and I remember
43:46
Speaker 1: when I was reading, I was like, oh my God,
43:47
Speaker 1: this is so, it's so bold, you know, but the
43:49
Speaker 1: whole like, oh, you know, I forgot my earrings, you know,
43:52
Speaker 1: would you, um, you know, would you mind picking up
43:54
Speaker 1: a pair for me? Or I remember you used like
43:56
Speaker 1: the headphones.
43:57
Speaker 2: Oh, the headphone test, yeah.
43:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, and all those things. Because you could tell when
44:00
Speaker 1: you have a provider mail and when you don't. Because
44:03
Speaker 1: if the guy has money, that does not mean that
44:06
Speaker 1: he's going to spend it on you.
44:09
Speaker 2: Of course not. Some of the guys with the most
44:11
Speaker 2: money are the stingiest, whereas some guys don't have much,
44:15
Speaker 2: but they'll spend a lot because they're living above their
44:18
Speaker 2: means regardless. But in terms of romantic relationships, I thought
44:23
Speaker 2: the headphone test was perfect because it gives them a
44:26
Speaker 2: chance to say, I can buy you the low end
44:29
Speaker 2: or the high end or in the middle. And so
44:31
Speaker 2: it's like the easiest, clearest way. And I told people like,
44:34
Speaker 2: you don't really have to use the headphone. You can
44:36
Speaker 2: use anything that's on that level. It could be a dress.
44:38
Speaker 2: It could be a flower bouquet. It's like something where
44:41
Speaker 2: a man has to choose himself. Because like you said,
44:44
Speaker 2: it has to be his own idea of like, oh,
44:46
Speaker 2: she needs this one. Not something that she already picked
44:49
Speaker 2: out for me. Yeah. It really tests his intentions.
44:52
Speaker 1: I'm texting a guy right now. He, a guy used
44:54
Speaker 1: to be- Uh-oh. Yes. A guy used to date back
44:58
Speaker 1: in the past and he's trying to get back in
45:00
Speaker 1: my good graces. And he's like, you know, please, please,
45:03
Speaker 1: you know, can I take you to dinner? I really,
45:06
Speaker 1: you know, want to, you know, show you a good time. Like, yeah,
45:08
Speaker 1: you can take me to dinner. But I also, you know,
45:09
Speaker 1: would like a gift as well. And he's like, oh,
45:12
Speaker 1: what type of gift? I was like, oh, you know,
45:14
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be too forward. Like, OK, well, this,
45:16
Speaker 1: you know, this is the link. You know, I'm just
45:19
Speaker 1: a nice pair of heels. You have great taste, you know,
45:22
Speaker 1: stroke his ego a little bit. And he's like, okay, great.
45:25
Speaker 5: You know?
45:26
Speaker 1: And then I made sure I sent him my, you know,
45:28
Speaker 1: my European, you know, um, shoe size. So he knows
45:34
Speaker 1: Jordans or whatever. He might even try to think about,
45:38
Speaker 1: you know.
45:39
Speaker 2: 38 and a half. Yep.
45:41
Speaker 1: Exactly. How do you know that? And, and that's it.
45:45
Speaker 1: And that's the test, you know, and, and let's see how, how,
45:49
Speaker 1: how much he really wants to get back in my
45:51
Speaker 1: good graces. Cause I better, but you better believe with
45:53
Speaker 1: when a man has to go out of his way,
45:56
Speaker 1: think about what to get you, pick it out, order it,
46:00
Speaker 1: you know, use his, spend his money. Those, those are
46:03
Speaker 1: the ways that men show how much they're into you
46:07
Speaker 1: with action, you know, with action and with spending their
46:09
Speaker 1: hard earned tangible money.
46:12
Speaker 2: In the beginning, in the middle. And even after you
46:15
Speaker 2: think the game is over in the finish line of marriage, keep,
46:18
Speaker 2: checking for that trifecta because like, you're right. A lot
46:21
Speaker 2: of loveless marriages that end or should end because you're
46:25
Speaker 2: not getting one of those three.
46:26
Speaker 5: Yeah.
46:27
Speaker 2: A lot of early relationships shouldn't even start because you're
46:29
Speaker 2: not getting a few of those things. Always be in
46:33
Speaker 2: the habit of checking, like, what is he bringing towards me?
46:38
Speaker 2: And like, yeah, all those voices in your head is
46:41
Speaker 2: telling you, like, you shouldn't be this way. they're brainwashing
46:46
Speaker 2: remnants of your past that made you want to play
46:48
Speaker 2: in this little box and be subservient. You need to
46:50
Speaker 2: look out for you. What does he bring into your
46:52
Speaker 2: fucking life? That trifecta needs to be checked off like
46:56
Speaker 2: a box. Boom, boom, boom. What's he doing?
47:00
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. And the thing about it is what women
47:03
Speaker 1: need to stop doing is thinking that they can change
47:06
Speaker 1: a guy, it's either he's willing to give you his
47:09
Speaker 1: time or he's not. It's either he's willing to spend
47:12
Speaker 1: his money on you or he's not. It's either he
47:14
Speaker 1: is sexually attracted to you or he's not. That doesn't mean, oh,
47:17
Speaker 1: I need to go get my titties done. If you
47:21
Speaker 1: want to get titties, get titties, but get it because
47:24
Speaker 1: you would be happier with bigger titties or smaller titties
47:27
Speaker 1: or perky, whatever. Whatever changes you make, make sure you're
47:30
Speaker 1: doing it for you. Don't ever try to, don't pick
47:33
Speaker 1: the man and then You try to force yourself into
47:36
Speaker 1: his mold.
47:37
Speaker 2: Every man's going to want something different and you're going
47:39
Speaker 2: to keep jumping from this to that. Like what? You
47:41
Speaker 2: can get your titties taken out because this guy's like, oh,
47:42
Speaker 2: I like a more athletic build. I don't like all that.
47:45
Speaker 2: It's like, come on.
47:45
Speaker 1: When you're dating a man and vetting him, the purpose
47:48
Speaker 1: is not to get him to like you. If you're
47:53
Speaker 1: going into the date with that mindset, I need to
47:56
Speaker 1: say the right thing. Again, like me or what is
47:58
Speaker 1: he like? Let me be that. Then you just cancel
48:01
Speaker 1: the date right now. Like, don't even go on the date.
48:03
Speaker 2: Don't try to impress a man. It's like, he's already impressed.
48:06
Speaker 2: The fact that he's trying to take you out tells
48:08
Speaker 2: you he's impressed. So when you switch to like, oh,
48:11
Speaker 2: let me not say that. Like you said, it's all
48:13
Speaker 2: about living in your best self, being your best self,
48:15
Speaker 2: always say your true self. When you got to start saying,
48:18
Speaker 2: how can I fit into this conversation in a way
48:21
Speaker 2: I think he's going to think I'm cool, you're already
48:23
Speaker 2: not being yourself anymore. You're putting on a facade and
48:27
Speaker 2: he may fall in love with that facade, but like
48:29
Speaker 2: once he falls to that facade and he realizes that's
48:31
Speaker 2: not who you are about a third or fourth date
48:32
Speaker 2: or after he had sex with you, what's going to happen?
48:35
Speaker 2: He's going to drop you for somebody who actually acts
48:38
Speaker 2: that way and is that way.
48:40
Speaker 1: Thank you. I think a lot of women miss that part.
48:42
Speaker 1: The reason why we date, the reason why we join
48:45
Speaker 1: up and we union up is to enjoy life together.
48:50
Speaker 1: It's so funny, GL, because I literally, you know, I
48:53
Speaker 1: always admired, not admired, but everyone respects, you know, Will
48:57
Speaker 1: and Jada. You know, everyone knows they've been together for
49:00
Speaker 1: a long time. You know, Will admired her and went
49:04
Speaker 1: after her. And then it's so ironic to see that
49:08
Speaker 1: Jada made this like to me, groundbreaking announcement that she
49:12
Speaker 1: feels like ever since they've been quarantined, she doesn't she
49:15
Speaker 1: doesn't know who Will is anymore.
49:18
Speaker 2: I saw that. That's crazy. And to me, it's not
49:21
Speaker 2: it's not surprising.
49:21
Speaker 1: It's not surprising. It's very interesting to me because you
49:24
Speaker 1: have to understand Will and people have been saying that
49:27
Speaker 1: they have an open relationship and polygamous or whatever the
49:29
Speaker 1: case may be. They step out on each other, whatever
49:31
Speaker 1: the case may be. But as you can see, that's
49:34
Speaker 1: a partnership, you know? Their relationship has evolved past, you know,
49:39
Speaker 1: that sexual lure, you know, that the honeymoon phase has
49:45
Speaker 1: worn off a long time ago. And then all you're
49:48
Speaker 1: stuck with is the person, you know? After all that
49:52
Speaker 1: sex energy, because they will get old, after y'all spent
49:55
Speaker 1: countless hours together, after y'all blew through a couple bags together,
50:00
Speaker 1: the trifecta has been filled time and time over again.
50:03
Speaker 1: Now you're just stuck with the person. So you have
50:05
Speaker 1: to make sure that you like this person. Don't just
50:09
Speaker 1: be liking the time, the money, and the sex energy.
50:12
Speaker 1: You're still a person, too, and you have feelings, and
50:15
Speaker 1: you do need to make sure that you two are compatible.
50:18
Speaker 2: Yeah. And it's not enough just to say, oh, we're
50:22
Speaker 2: compatible enough or is good enough. Because I can imagine
50:26
Speaker 2: in that early Jada and Will relationship, it's like, oh,
50:29
Speaker 2: he's not typically what I go for, but we're both actors. Oh,
50:33
Speaker 2: we're both in the music. It's like maybe they had
50:36
Speaker 2: a couple... maybe three things they really connected on. But
50:40
Speaker 2: when it came to the real shit, like, or who
50:42
Speaker 2: I am, like, the way Tupac is is not at
50:44
Speaker 2: all how Will Smith is.
50:46
Speaker 1: At all.
50:46
Speaker 2: Different passions. So, like, Will's not probably a political rebel
50:50
Speaker 2: rouser the way Jada Pinkett is. He probably was good
50:53
Speaker 2: enough on certain levels, and he was nice enough, so
50:56
Speaker 2: it's like, why not give him a shot? And he
50:58
Speaker 2: was charming enough to, you know, continuously win her over. But,
51:01
Speaker 2: you know, like you said, at the end of the day,
51:03
Speaker 2: she probably looked up and said, wow, it's like, We've
51:06
Speaker 2: probably grown even further apart because he's doing movies for
51:10
Speaker 2: like six months out of the year. I'm doing my
51:12
Speaker 2: TV shows for six months out of the year. So
51:14
Speaker 2: we probably only connect for three months out of the
51:15
Speaker 2: year to do family shit.
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Speaker 1: A very small amount of time. And a lot of
51:19
Speaker 1: it's probably based around the kids. Their kids are very problematic. Shoot.
51:23
Speaker 1: After this quarantine, I'm sure Jada got hurt calling up
51:25
Speaker 1: one of her side pieces as we speak. Compatibility is
51:29
Speaker 1: a major, major factor. And the fact that they're compatible
51:32
Speaker 1: about being polygamous, that might work.
51:35
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. If they didn't introduce certain things to their marriage,
51:38
Speaker 2: it probably would have been ended. But I guess like
51:40
Speaker 2: they want to keep it together. So like, OK, what
51:42
Speaker 2: what can we do to keep this going? Because it
51:45
Speaker 2: probably should have ended 10 years ago.
51:48
Speaker 1: Yeah, most likely. Exactly. The trifecta is just it's like
51:53
Speaker 1: the the the minimum. It's not going to be the
51:56
Speaker 1: glue to keep something together. If you are looking for
51:58
Speaker 1: marriage or for long term, it's important to be yourself
52:02
Speaker 1: so that you can actually align with someone that appreciates
52:04
Speaker 1: the person.
52:05
Speaker 2: That you are. Rewind this, save it. And Imani, I'm
52:10
Speaker 2: giving you your Spartan black belt.
52:12
Speaker 1: Thank you.
52:13
Speaker 5: Fuck being good, I'm a bad bitch. I'm sick of
52:18
Speaker 5: motherfuckers trying to tell me how to live. Black holes
52:21
Speaker 5: hate under my pictures on the gram. Bitch, you better
52:23
Speaker 5: hope I never run across your man. In the mall
52:26
Speaker 5: with him, I'ma have a ball with him. Somebody call Rihanna,
52:29
Speaker 5: I'ma buy some drawers with him. He fucking with his
52:31
Speaker 5: day because he in the wild with me. Put them
52:33
Speaker 5: legs on his head, now he love tall women. You'll
52:36
Speaker 5: never catch me calling these niggas daddy. I ain't lying
52:39
Speaker 5: by my nut just to make a nigga happy. Nigga
52:41
Speaker 5: play style when a nigga can't fit a magnum. It
52:44
Speaker 5: never happened if the dick wasn't snapping.
52:46
Speaker 2: I'm a hot girl. I do hot shit.
52:49
Speaker 3: Finish and cum on my outfit.
52:51
Speaker 1: I don't take quick cause I ain't thirsty.