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You Aint Got No Alibi · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: You're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who
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  Speaker 3: What's up y'all with your girl? AJ Holiday? What's uptam
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  Speaker 3: bam here y'all?
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all. I missed y'all so much on so tired.
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  Speaker 1: I'm working so hard on a she work hard for
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  Speaker 1: the money.
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  Speaker 3: You have full of money.
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  Speaker 1: I never listen, y'all make good choices in life. I'm
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  Speaker 1: a blue collar bitch right now, Like I never saw
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  Speaker 1: this for my life. That psyche what was that psychic
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  Speaker 1: came on the show. Why the funk?
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to say, teker K necessity. What was her name?
• 2:04
  Speaker 3: His name? It was something that sounded like that, whatever
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  Speaker 3: his name was, he is not legit. That nigga told
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  Speaker 3: me I was gonna have to work hard. He ain't
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  Speaker 3: telling me no fucking dream. That nigga said, You're gonna
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  Speaker 3: get exactly what you want, but you're gonna have to
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  Speaker 3: work hard. It only took me how many years after
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  Speaker 3: that to figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: He told me I was gonna marry rich and I'm
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  Speaker 1: out here working hard. I'm a fucking maintenance man.
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  Speaker 3: Now shut up.
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  Speaker 1: How was your weekend?
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  Speaker 3: Girl? A girl getting ready for the Black Effect Podcast
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  Speaker 3: festival this weekend? So that's all I was doing, packing
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  Speaker 3: my shit up, ordering last minute shit overnight.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to order something now and just send
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  Speaker 1: it to Atlanta.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's all I've been doing. And just I gotta
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  Speaker 3: figure out what the hell what you're looking at? Damn cat,
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  Speaker 3: I gotta figure out what I'm gonna do with her
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  Speaker 3: ass while I'm out of town. That's the only thing
• 3:04
  Speaker 3: about having these who house your mom's girl? My mama
• 3:09
  Speaker 3: seeing Dasha when she was the size of my hand,
• 3:12
  Speaker 3: and I have never I keep asking my mom, can
• 3:15
  Speaker 3: I bring her over just to like sit on the
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  Speaker 3: back on the back porch, or like just to be
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  Speaker 3: outside and the grass. She won't even let Dasha come
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  Speaker 3: in her grass.
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  Speaker 1: Why she just.
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  Speaker 3: Mistreats her granddaughter, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, come over there? What you gonna do?
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  Speaker 3: Cats get so much hate. I never knew how people
• 3:34
  Speaker 3: discriminated against cats. Until I got one. Even in the stores,
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  Speaker 3: you don't.
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  Speaker 1: Know because they it's sometimes fun, like they'll walk up
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  Speaker 1: on you and be like, scratch your ass up and
• 3:47
  Speaker 1: then yeah, as soon as you go to rub them,
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  Speaker 1: now they scratching you like you came over here to.
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  Speaker 3: Me because they want you to rub them when they
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  Speaker 3: want you to, and you need to stop immediately when
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  Speaker 3: they feel like you need to stop.
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  Speaker 1: And you don't. It's skibbity pop pop.
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  Speaker 3: You ever had a cat like.
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  Speaker 1: Too, I ain't got time.
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  Speaker 3: When Dasha was small, she hit me in my eye
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  Speaker 3: when she when I had first got her, like the
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  Speaker 3: first week, like I threw her low ass off the
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  Speaker 3: bed too. She was very small. But that's the last
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  Speaker 3: time she hit me, like skibbity pops directly in my eyes,
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  Speaker 3: like she looked me dead in my eye and snacked
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  Speaker 3: me in my eye. Cat. I do much else this weekend.
• 4:31
  Speaker 3: I replant all my fucking plants. Yeah, I'm really a
• 4:33
  Speaker 3: plant mom. I feel like it's something about your energy
• 4:36
  Speaker 3: where you can start like because for a long time,
• 4:38
  Speaker 3: it took me a while to to get my plants
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  Speaker 3: to stay alive. I probably can keep a plant for
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  Speaker 3: like a year a couple of them going on for
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  Speaker 3: like two years now. I've been repotting them and giving
• 4:50
  Speaker 3: them plant food and water and researching you.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: Have to have like home, Oh that too, You're going
• 5:02
  Speaker 1: to be at home for a plant to stay alive.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: I'm just not at home enough. I don't even know,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm going through her phase, like i don't know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm about to do with Bella because my mom
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  Speaker 1: is like, Bella gotta get the fuck out of my house,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm just not home enough. So now I was
• 5:18
  Speaker 1: looking at like doggy daycares because then I don't want
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: her to be like just sitting in the house by
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  Speaker 1: herself all day. But then I also don't want her
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  Speaker 1: to live at a daycare.
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  Speaker 3: So I just don't know, y'all. Tammy giving away yet
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  Speaker 3: another dog? What the fuck I'm hearing? My cousin already
• 5:35
  Speaker 3: got Findy whose name is Chewbacca now and he's and
• 5:41
  Speaker 3: she got a second dog. Girl barely can move around
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  Speaker 3: her damn self. Now, just bought another dog. But she
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  Speaker 3: really really really really needed Chewbacca.
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  Speaker 1: So see that dog was for her, that dog, yes,
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  Speaker 1: she was.
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  Speaker 3: He was on her immediately, like when I brought him
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  Speaker 3: in the house. He went straight to her like he
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  Speaker 3: knew her well.
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  Speaker 1: They were a messmate in him because that dog used
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  Speaker 1: to be shitting up my house. Like that dog had
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  Speaker 1: something wrong with his stomach and it was just dookie
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  Speaker 1: and all the time.
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  Speaker 3: Has cancer. He does have cancer.
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  Speaker 1: Did I tell you that?
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  Speaker 3: No, that dog has cancer stomach. I don't know, you know,
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  Speaker 3: And I think maybe she did get him a surgery,
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  Speaker 3: so maybe he's gone. It might have been some stomach shit.
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  Speaker 1: I believe it, that dog's stomach. No, man, I took
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  Speaker 1: him to the bed. I would take him to the
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  Speaker 1: doctor all the time. Maybe like always something going on
• 6:30
  Speaker 1: with his gut. M. I't had time to come home
• 6:34
  Speaker 1: all the time, come home to that shit literally literally.
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  Speaker 1: But let me tell you all about my weekend. I'm
• 6:41
  Speaker 1: in uh pooh Kipsie, New York, if y'all ever heard
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: of it, or you might be from here poushiksty New York,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm doing like housing inspections. This is the hardest
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  Speaker 1: I ever work in my life. Like I'm not built
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  Speaker 1: for this. I'm not for this shit. Like I'm just
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  Speaker 1: ugly the whole time. I'm sweaty, I'm stinky, I'm ugly.
• 7:14
  Speaker 1: Is it. I've been ugly all week.
• 7:17
  Speaker 3: I remember when I was working with my ex and
• 7:20
  Speaker 3: one day we had did two schools. They were getting
• 7:23
  Speaker 3: like new desks and stuff like that. Matter of fact,
• 7:25
  Speaker 3: we did like a whole college, and then we had
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  Speaker 3: to do like one last job six o'clock in the evening.
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  Speaker 3: Damn near delivered some cheers to the school. And I
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  Speaker 3: know I was funky, bitch. I mean, my pussy's under
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  Speaker 3: my nose, right, I'm aggravate. I'm ready to go. Girl.
• 7:40
  Speaker 3: When I tell you, I could have murdered that motherfuckering
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  Speaker 3: that building and left his body in there. He was like,
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  Speaker 3: you stink. After you not got me working fucking hard
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  Speaker 3: all day, Ain't no like a grown fucking man. Ain't
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  Speaker 3: no baby, you work so hard today, boy, I cannot
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  Speaker 3: wait to wash you. That is how you tell your
• 8:01
  Speaker 3: girl that she stinks, Right, you don't just be like
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  Speaker 3: you stink. I could not believe, like I know I stink.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, why do I stink? Because I'm out here helping
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  Speaker 1: you mother and mine.
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  Speaker 3: If you're fucking listening, your breath was always fucking stink. Okay,
• 8:19
  Speaker 3: let's be very clear. In the afternoon, why the fuck
• 8:23
  Speaker 3: is your breath stink nigga. He said, We'll be sparing
• 8:28
  Speaker 3: these niggas trying to boost their esteam and may be
• 8:31
  Speaker 3: trying to play with you any instance. Any second they
• 8:35
  Speaker 3: get they're gonna try to play with your asker.
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  Speaker 1: I could not.
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  Speaker 3: When I tell you, I let his ass happen.
• 8:41
  Speaker 1: You should have. He deserved it. That's what else I did, y'all.
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: I got a physical trainer. Yeah, I did so badly
• 8:48
  Speaker 1: that I cried in the car. I was so like,
• 8:55
  Speaker 1: and he said, you did good, like you should see
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: so many people that come in here like, but it's
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: me versus me, right, So I know what I'm capable of,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that I'm just I did seventy five
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  Speaker 1: hard last summer. Bruh.
• 9:11
  Speaker 3: He had me a year older this summer. Like you know, y'all,
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  Speaker 3: our body has changed, you know what I'm saying.
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: But it's just like you realize like how much you're
• 9:20
  Speaker 1: falling off in a year, you know. And I was
• 9:23
  Speaker 1: in there trying to do the motherfucking he had me
• 9:26
  Speaker 1: like bring one leg. I was like laid back on
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  Speaker 1: like a you know, the little shit that you jump
• 9:30
  Speaker 1: up on people. I don't know what it's caused like
• 9:32
  Speaker 1: a bogle squares. I guess it's like a box and
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: he had me laid back, lean back on it and
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: like bring one leg up, one knee, the other knee up,
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  Speaker 1: and then both knees up to my stomach. Baby, Core
• 9:43
  Speaker 1: ain't got no strength. Okay, you're both dying.
• 9:47
  Speaker 3: Then it's only your pocket list, bitch. We hanging off.
• 9:49
  Speaker 3: We're out of there, like, yes, it's over, it's over.
• 9:52
  Speaker 1: Count me out, Like it was so bad and I
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: was just so upset that I cried about it. But
• 9:57
  Speaker 1: go back on Thursday and it's you know, you know
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: who motivates me. Ag I think it's Agba Doll.
• 10:07
  Speaker 3: She was on her own, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 10:10
  Speaker 3: yes she.
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: Needs to be a full figure girl.
• 10:14
  Speaker 3: And now she is like g she was like three
• 10:17
  Speaker 3: hundred pounds. I'm like, weird, but she has a solid body.
• 10:20
  Speaker 3: So even if she was three hundred pounds, she didn't
• 10:23
  Speaker 3: look three hundred pounds. But I can see how she
• 10:26
  Speaker 3: she probably has like heavy mass, you know what I'm saying.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, g I j Now she is so good.
• 10:31
  Speaker 3: Yes she does.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to you girl. So that was my weekend.
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: Let's get in the singing.
• 10:39
  Speaker 3: What you got going on. Oh that damn that singer
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  Speaker 3: David that his name is spelled D four VD.
• 10:49
  Speaker 1: David, right, that's what I've been calling him. Girl.
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  Speaker 3: That man name is David. That man name, his name
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  Speaker 3: is David Anthony Burke. Okay, he has has been officially
• 11:01
  Speaker 3: charged with capital murder of fourteen year old Celeste Are
• 11:09
  Speaker 3: Why did they just have CELESTI R I'm actually reading
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  Speaker 3: this off of Lacounty dot gov. So this is the
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  Speaker 3: official official So just only fourteen. I thought she was sixteen,
• 11:19
  Speaker 3: she was fourteen years He started messing with her when
• 11:21
  Speaker 3: she was twelve, allegedly, right, So this happened on the
• 11:25
  Speaker 3: twenty eight mm hm, they officially filed charges against him,
• 11:29
  Speaker 3: so it says the Los Angeles County District Attorney Nathan J.
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  Speaker 3: Houchman announced that musician David Anthony Burke, known as David
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  Speaker 3: that's D four VD, which charged today with murdering fourteen
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  Speaker 3: year old Celestar, whose body was found decomposed and dismembered
• 11:47
  Speaker 3: in his car that had been impounded in September twenty
• 11:52
  Speaker 3: twenty five. Celeste was just a child. I'm the fourteen
• 11:55
  Speaker 3: years old when David Burke allegedly engaged in repeated lude
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  Speaker 3: and repeated elude sexual relations with her, District Attorney Huchman said,
• 12:04
  Speaker 3: but Burke's actions did not allegedly stop there. When she
• 12:09
  Speaker 3: threatened to expose his criminal conduct and devastate his musical career,
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  Speaker 3: Burke allegedly murdered her, cut up her body, and stuffed
• 12:18
  Speaker 3: her body in two bags that were placed in the
• 12:21
  Speaker 3: front trunk of his car. There the dismembered body sat
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: for over four months decomposing, until it was found at
• 12:29
  Speaker 3: a tow yard on September eighth, twenty twenty five. This
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: horrific and gruesome murder committed by the charge sexual predator
• 12:39
  Speaker 3: is shocking and appalling to celest loved ones. We will
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: get the justice you seek and deserve. That came from
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: the district attorney Houchman. Yeah, this is fucking nuts. So
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: you know, I kind of was trying to get not
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: giving him the benefit of the doubt, right, But how
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  Speaker 3: dumb do you have to be to leave a body
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: is your car park? No, it was just his personal
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: car that was registered to him, you know what I'm saying.
• 13:08
  Speaker 3: So I was like, damn is the label trying to
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: set him up? Like, like, who did that. You know,
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: that's what I was thinking, because why did it take
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  Speaker 3: so long to do that?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Swisch? You don't cut the cut this young girl up?
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  Speaker 1: Why did you leave her in your car? It just
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: don't make no sense.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmm. So it says they charged him with one
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  Speaker 3: count of murder, continuous child abuse, continuous continuous sexual abuse
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  Speaker 3: of a child under the age of fourteen, and unlawful
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: mutilation of human remains. So that's what he's being charged with. Finally,
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: I thought he had gotten off at this point, you
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: would think, but murder, you know, murder is actually they
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: say it's like one of the easiest crimes to get
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  Speaker 3: off on. But I mean, they got the body pretty sure,
• 13:55
  Speaker 3: you left plenty of evidence. If they can't find a body,
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: oh yeah, yeah. Sometimes people be chilling for years and
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: they pull up on your ass.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: Well, that's scary, and that's it's scary to think that
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: there's people walking amongst us every day that are capable
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: of doing something like this to a little girl, because
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: that's just a little girl, you know, mm hmm.
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: And he knew what he was doing. And then you
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: you you're I feel like the family needs to be arrested.
• 14:27
  Speaker 3: To where the fuck are your parents? How could they
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: allow you to date this guy?
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  Speaker 1: So?
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: Did he did she? Did he buy her from them?
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: How are the parents involved with this man?
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: Kids be bad? I think they've grown think they know
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: everything by that age.
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: I know I did, right, But I just feel like
• 14:51
  Speaker 3: the kids nowadays, they are a little bit more remedial.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're more remedial, but they also think they've grown her. Yeah,
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: smarter because they understand technology better than their parents, So
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: they think that they're smarter, but they don't have common sense.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, no street smarts. And I did read last year
• 15:11
  Speaker 3: when I when this story had first broke, I read
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: about like his upbringing, his childhood, and I watched some
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: of his videos on YouTube because I was a little
• 15:19
  Speaker 3: bit invested. When I started seeing like everybody else social
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: media talking about it, I went and did, like just
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: so I can just know. And it seems that he
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: was raised different, right, He's like sheltered, super church. There's
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: a lot of things he didn't like. His almost was
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: like his mind is kind of childlike, very intellectual, very smart.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: You know these people, you know this type of person, right?
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: This the psychology of a person like this who was
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: raised by a super religious parent homeschooled, so that means
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: you probably got, you know, lack social skills. Yes, and
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: I can see where this could be one of them
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: situations where what is that that charged, not charged, but
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: that defense affluenza affluent? Is that how you pronounced Yeah,
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: so you're so rich you don't even know that what
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: you're doing is wrong. Basically, it's like that defense, right,
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: I mean maybe, I mean he has the money now,
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: but maybe that will be his defense. You know, I
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: didn't even I didn't know what I was doing. I
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: blacked out. And because I I don't know that this.
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  Speaker 1: Guy, I don't care what his defense is. They about
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  Speaker 1: to put that nigga under the jail.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I agree. Hopefully he can afford some good
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: Hopefully he can afford a good attorney, because I mean,
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I thought maybe he didn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, me too, because I just didn't assume
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: anybody would be dumb enough to leave evidence.
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  Speaker 3: Like that on a busy LA street like somebody's not
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: gonna eventually lock the I mean take this car away.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: Well, since we're talking about saying shit, Usher and Chris
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Brown tickets dropped and the dick inflation is high as hell, y'all.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Like the price of these tickets bruh eight and nine
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: hundred dollars for decent seats in Charlotte. You know, Charlotte
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: don't never bring nobody out like every other city, like
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: you'll have like all these you know, guests, they got
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: who they're gonna bring out. Anthony Hamilton, maybe the baby
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: if he's in town. That's it.
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: I saw Usher and Charlotte years ago. I took my
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: niece and my ticket was like seventy dollars.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Well years, it was a while ago.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: It was like during a period where Usher was in Poppington, Okay,
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: and he performed in Charlotte, and the tickets is not
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: that fucking crazy, Like, I feel like people need to
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: consider that we are in a recession and he's motherfucking
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: artists are fund raising. They also feel the cost rising
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: and they're just trying to squeeze how much ever they
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: can get out of everybody else. If you if you
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: stupid enough, both of them niggas was just on tour
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: for a long ass time, and you.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Probably if you went on the scene together, that's crazy.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: That is fucking nuts. I will not be in attending
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: no one concert I do wish I had attended was
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Cardi B. I love Cardi B.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: I did. I'm not a raunchy girl. I was clutching
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: my pearls the whole time. Like That's how I know
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: I'm Auntie for real, because she.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: Was Oh my, was she playing a guitar with her
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: couchie again?
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I missed that.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: And she did that.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I missed it, but it was a lot of raunchiness.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: But no, I can't afford the ticket to go see Usher,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: and I probably could come up with seven hundred hundred
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: dollars if I wanted to.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: You definitely can't afford it. You shouldn't want to, though,
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: That's that's what I'm saying.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I don't want to afford it. That's why I'm just
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: hoping that somebody gets a sweet and they're like me,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: get a nosebleed ticket and then come to my suite.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: If you love me, holler at me, d m me
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: if y'all, if y'all get a sweet and y'all want
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Big Tampa Bam to come and chill y'all. I love y'all,
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: because but it's gonna be a whole circus out there.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Like Chris Brown is gonna be flying through the sky.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: That's She's gonna be roller skating all over the place
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: with yeah hoses, gonna be on post.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: It's gonna be soul circus burnam Ba, go to Onyx,
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: go to uh, go to the strip club. That's I mean,
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: and had him play some, ask him to play some
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Chris Brown. You got Chris Brown at home right right
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: at the house, right that.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Part, because it's a lie. What else happened?
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: What else we gotten?
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: But let me just say this.
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: Man, would that be dope if they did it like
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: a versus. People have always been trying to compare Chris
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: Brown and Usher, and it's like they are two different artists.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: They're just different. It's no comparison of the two. So
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: I hope it is not going to be some verses.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: Have they even ever even done a song together? I
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: feel like they never did, Like it might have been
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: competition between the two of them, like best dancer, best singer.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: Chris Brown is a beast niggas an artist. He has
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: a big dick like the nigga is like the I
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: just don't gotten no new music like that. Nope, Chris
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: Brown will be writing probably producing beats all type of shit,
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: and a nigga could do a backflipping. He's like six
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: foot three or four dancing his ass off.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: So you're making me want to go bitch, shut up.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: All of that still ain't gonna make me want to
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: go yib please, I wish I might spend that type
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: of money for Chris Brown.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I can.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: I'll go buy me another fucking pots at bitch first tee.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: But let me tell you, if you were ever trying
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: to figure out, like if you're trying to find a woman,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: or you trying to figure out white tuber what type
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: of woman you like, go to that concert. It's gonna
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: be every bitch between twenty two is seventy five, and
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: that motherfucker like it's gonna be young. Like think about it.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: The age range of women that are gonna be out
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: there is crazy, all ready to get sledded out, PERI.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: In Black women, don't let Chris Brown and Usher use
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: y'all okay, the fund their children's futures. Keep you all
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: coins in y'all pocket because we are the number one
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: supporters of all things. We're gonna show up and show
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: out every time. Don't be over there paying them two
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: three thousand dollars of dolls from the backstage picture you
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: gant hump by Chris Brown. Okay, don't don't be let
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: ushers out.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: No, you didn't put no food in my mouth.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: Did you see Cat Williams last stand up? Said the
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: nigga said? Basically, he was like, we live in a
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: world where motherfuckers nobody ushers like health condition and be
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: letting that nigga feed them on stage, dangle the chairs
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: in your mouth? Nigga, did you wash your hands?
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Girl? What are we talking about? Do we have any
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: more sends? Oh? What's this ship?
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: Got?
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Ain't even done? Oh?
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: Sorry? Rapper cash Out sentenced to seventy years in prison
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: after turning down a twenty five year plea deal. I
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: will never understand for the life of me.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Who is your attorney?
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: How No, it's not even about the attorney at this point.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: It's like they punish you for not taking their plea deals. Basically, like, Okay,
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: you want to waste the courts time and want a
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: jury trial and all that shit. Okay, We're gonna make
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: you pay for that shit with your life. Because I
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: would think that if I was gonna get twenty five years.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: That should be it. How does it escalate because I
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: want a trial.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: You could take this twenty five or you can go
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: to trial and face the maximum sentence.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: But it shouldn't be that though. That shouldn't even be
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: a thing because that mean that means my punishment is
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: twenty five years. That should be my max. Essentially, how
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: could you escalate it to seventy years? Because I want
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: to challenge, right, I don't like that. I feel like that's.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Something that's in a way like I should just take
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: this twenty five.
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: That's what they want you to do, right, And if
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: you waste air time and they and they still want
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: to prove you, however guilty, they're not going to prove
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: you not guilty, especially if they already got you on
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: some shit where you face in twenty five years.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: But I mean the ship that he was accused of.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Can you read that off to the people, because.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it says cash all stood, unapologetic and Foulton
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: County courtroom after being sentenced to life in prison plus
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: hold on life plus seventy for Rico racketeering. Are a
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: sex trafficking?
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Rape?
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah? Rape? Sex? Yeah? Sex?
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Can we not say that?
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: I mean we've been already. I mean, yeah, uh huh.
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: Pimping and aggravated sodomy is what he is sentenced that trafficking.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: Sex trafficking will get your ass hemmed up a lot
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: of time, y'all. This is another thing before we get
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: off this topic. One thing, like the court systems know
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: they know something about the afterlife, because why else would
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: y'all give somebody life plus seventy years. That means when
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: that person's when that soul comes back to this realm,
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: they gonna come back with the same transgressions until they
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: finish off that fucking life sentence. Basically, that's the extra
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: seventy years. It's what I'm saying. When they give people
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: consecutive life sentences, what does that even mean? And then
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: you see like like some presidents they pardon dead people.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: Why are you pardoning somebody who's already passed over. It's
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: something about the afterlife that they don't know that we
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: think it's in bullshit. I mean, I know, I'm saying
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: we as a collective, I know why they give people
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: that type of time because it is it goes into
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: your next fucking life. It only makes sense life plus
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: seventy that's fucking wild shame. Twenty five years old? Oh no,
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: he's yeah, it says twenty five year big plea deal.
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: I don't know how old this low boy is anyway. Yeah,
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: that's I guess that's news. That's stupid Internet news. Nigga's
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: going to jail. Same shit.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I mean, wow, life plus seventy. I thought it was
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: just seventy years, but Life plus seventy is crazy. M hm.
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: Anyway, what we talking about today?
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Chat? You're gaslighting me?
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: What y'all? We have entered an era where everyone knows
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: all the fucking therapy language. Okay, So anytime you' getting
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: to argue with somebody, they're saying shit like, you know,
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: you gaslighting me, or don't cross my boundaries, all this bullshit.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: Everybody's a fucking narcissist nowadays. So using you know, these
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: clinical therapy terms or regular ass fucking arguments is the manipulation?
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: All right? Is it that you don't want to take accountability?
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: So now you're trying to like disarm me with this bullshit?
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Let's get into it.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll be right back, all right, y'all. So we
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: are back, and I'm gonna ask this question. Is therapy
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: talk helping us communicate better? Or is it just helping
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: us argue smarter? I mean, I feel like I've always
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: been a smart arguer. Mine is the fucking therapy turns bitch,
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: ia make sense every fucking time because I thought about
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: it a thousand times or but yeah, like everybody, you
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: see it on social media all day long. My mom,
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: you know, the baby boomers, I'm so sick y'all in
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: this therapy and this I trauma bombing trauma. Yeah, she
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: said she can't stand it. But you know, we're talking
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: to talking about a generation of people who have of
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: them can't even talk about the damn childhood with our
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: crying child.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: First of all, my mom is the exact opposite, because
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: she's like she wants to clinically diagnose every fucking thing.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you like hit your toe up against
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: the wall and it hurts and you just like want
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: to chill for at second because you're in pain, there's
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: something in the DSM for that. Let's figure out what
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: it is. Let's let's unpack. Oh that's another one. Let's
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: unpack that.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Girl. Girl, I got a homegirl who's a therapist. Bitch,
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: if you're listening. When I remember one day I was
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: I was like, I wasn't going through something with my people,
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: but I did have like a lot of shit on
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: my mind that I had talked to her about, like
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: maybe the week prior, and I'm driving on the street,
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: just regular la la la la la. She calls me,
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: and maybe like five minutes into the conversation, she was like, so,
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: you know, how do you really feel about such like, girl,
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: I'm having a good fucking day. Ain't nobody actually for
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: therapy randomly at four o'clock in the afternoon, I don't
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: want to talk about that shit, Like are you okay?
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: So I think that people who are a therapists for
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: a living they need to be careful, like when talking
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: to their friends, like I'm not paying you nothing.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: All the therapists that I know personally, and no shade
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: to y'all. I love y'all need therapists period more than
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: anybody else.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: Like true, you are not well, okay, And if you
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: thought you were listening to arguments, I can show you
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: how you aren't well, right, yeah, But I'm like it
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: was something like real like deep too, and I'm like,
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: I don't want to talk about that. We always say
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: on here, how like therapists they rip this thing up,
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: they want you to come talk about all this shit,
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: and then they don't have like you have the tools
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: to help me deal with this shit, like you can't
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: fix everything. And then some some therapists they just want
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: to give you some drugs. Okay, just go lay down, bitch.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: And I would rather that I had a therapist that
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: were like you drugs, yeah, have me unpacked all the
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: greatest trauma of my life and be like, well, that's
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: their time for today. Oh bitch, you just had me
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: talk about the most traumatic ship that happened to me
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: in my childhood, and now you're talking about that's our time.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: I was supposed to go somewhere tonight, and now I said.
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: Because in my eyes is puffy right because I.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: And you gave me nothing. You gave me nothing to
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: do with this.
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: So see, I'm the type that I'll start asking a
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: therapist questions about this shit.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: Listen. That was she was white, and she was like,
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: her white guilt just started, like it almost became her
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: therapy session by the time I was young, because her
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: white guilt just so and I was like, I don't
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: know if I need a white therapist, bitch, I would
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: invoice that whole.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like an invoice. I'm not about to
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: be paying for this session. I just gave you therapy.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: So what is gas lighting?
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: Interesting?
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Uh?
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: So I can give you my definition while I google
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: the actual definition of gaslighting. But to me, like somebody,
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: when I say, oh, this person and is gaslighting me,
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: somebody is saying something to you that is totally They
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: know it's not true. You know it's not fucking true, right,
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: but they're saying it in a matter of fact way,
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: and they're very adamant. While it's just it's some bullshit,
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: it's really some shit they making up, like or you know,
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: somebody who's trying to tell you you said or did
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: some shit you know you didn't say or did. Is
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: that right?
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: So what I think when I think of guess like,
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: I think it's someone who like pokes, pokes pokes and
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: tries to get you all excited while they stay calm,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: so you all like in a rage and they're like,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: why are you so angry?
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: You know that that that too, girl, that right there
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: will get you hit.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Ye're like, don't do that because you know why the
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: fuck I'm mad right now, all this shit and now.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: They fuck you. They say some real crazy shit to you,
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: get you in a hundred and then try to tell
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: you the severity. Oh, it's not that serious, not that serious,
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: calm down, like, do you need somep do you need therapy?
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: Yes, bitch.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: Gas Lighting is a form of persistent emotional manipulation and
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: abuse where a person makes someone question their own reality, memory,
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: or perceptions to gain control. It causes victims to feel confused, anxious,
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: and isolated, often resulting in them doubting their own sanity.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: Common signs include lying, denying events, trivializing feelings, and shifting blame. Yes,
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: so I you know, I don't. I didn't know the folk.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: That is what to me?
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: What gas lightness?
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: Like?
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: I hate I hate when we start talking about stuff
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: that's going to bring up, like relationship shit. But I
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: just don't think that people call people narcissists. But I
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: don't think that most people have actually experienced an actual narcissist.
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. Everybody has narcissistic traits. I myself,
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: I prefer the definition of narcissists versus humble. I don't
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: like that definition of humble like why the fuck I
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: got to put my self worth below someone else's And
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: you know, but narcissists have an inflated yeah self worth. Right,
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: But when I start, I did.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: An exam, like am I a narcissist? Right with ch
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: at GPT, and they were like, the fact that you're
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: asking is the sign that you're probably not, because narcissists
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: typically don't give a fuck, right, you know, they don't
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: even care if they are. They're not gonna really take
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: the quiz.
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: Right. What I find myself doing when dealing with a
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: narcissist is that I take notes and I put sticky notes,
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: like figurative sticky notes on people. I will literally write
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: down your words verbatim, right, I will collect And it's
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: not for the other person, right, it's so I know
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: that I'm not losing my fucking mind and that I
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: am dealing with somebody who is in well, right, because
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: that's what actual narcissists. They will have you questioning your
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: own your own reality. And because my mind is fucking
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: hell of fortified, Like I have a I have a
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: memory like an elephant, and the way I like puzzleshit
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: piece of shit together like it probably have pissed somebody off.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: I feel like that's what I was dealing with in
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: that relationship, because I am not an easy target for
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: a narcissists. I'm just not like it's gonna be an uphill,
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: fucking battle and you're gonna be broken by the time
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: I'm done with your ass, Like I'm gonna cry a lot,
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: And because I have like grace and empathy, and I
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: just I know this person could be better. Like I
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: know people like that, you just have to not fuck
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: with them no more. You just have to cut all
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: contact because they will have they will leave you confused
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: until they go get another host.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: I know someone who is dealing with a clinical narcissist,
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: and some of the behaviors are in sane like I'm
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: talking about next level. Like I couldn't imagine being in
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: a relationship with a person who was like it's like
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: great sea saws of highs and lows.
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: I hate you.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: I love you so much. I can't live without you.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I want to kill myself. I hate you.
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: Why are you here?
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: Like being in a relationship with a person like that,
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine it. I couldn't imagine it.
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: I guess at some point you got to look at yourself, right,
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: why are you dealing with that?
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: Why are you putting up with it? And you know what,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: And that was a question I had, like everybody crazy,
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: everybody crazy in different ways, right, in different ways, because
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: why are you allowing this person to treat you this way?
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: Less I'm unpacked that you know another unpacked.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: I think that's the part that people miss. And I
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: noticed this conversation is supposed to be about arguments within
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: the world of therapy now, but I think that's the
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: part that people miss, right, the introspective work where they
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: look at themselves to see why they allowed certain things. Why,
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: that's really where you should started. It never has it
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: never has anything to do with the other, with the narcissists.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: It has all to do with you at the end
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: of the day, right, So why were you allowing this
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: person to fuck with you in this way? And the
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: six love language chaos. Some people are addicted to chaos
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: because love is very boring. It's not supposed to have
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: like your nervous system shocked all day long, up and down,
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: chasing the good times. Because that's what people do in
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: these relationships. They they have you knowing that it could
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: be good, right, So they put you through all this
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: bad shit because and now you're just sitting there waiting
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: for it to be good again so you can get
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: that next high. That's the next high, and then they
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: bring you back down and they bring you up. It's
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: like a fucking roller coaster. Anytime I feel confused, nowadays,
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: I'm getting the fuck up out of there because I'm
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: not a confused person. So if anybody's trying to intentionally
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: confuse me, I can't deal with it.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: I just I don't like I'll be in love with
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: a nigga and then like five minutes later, I'd be like,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I don't even like him anymore, and it's okay, are
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: you a Germanic? It's so crazy because at one point
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: I wasn't like that. I'd be sick with things, and
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: now at this big age, it'd be like, well, you
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: know what, you were just another stepping stone to what
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: God really has for me, and then I'll be okay
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: with it.
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Because I think the older you get, your realize
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: like people aren't supposed to be experiences. You aren't supposed
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: to own somebody, even your husband, your wife, your boyfriend,
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: your girlfriend, your baby, daddy, big mom, like, you don't
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: own these people, right, So when you realize that and
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: you just experience people for the time they were meant
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: to be in your life, you will be better.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Because I remember like snotting and crying and Lady being
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: for days sat over a nigger, and the last thing
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: that I thought I was like so in love with
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: I probably I listened to like I watched a Tyler
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Perry movie. I probably like shit three tears, And then
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: that same night I was in the club like that
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: and haven't like Ah was and I felt good. I
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: didn't feel sad, and I didn't cry no more about him,
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: and I didn't even miss him after that. And I'm
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: just laughing at myself because I remember when it would
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: take time for me to move forward. And I don't
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: know if that's healthy or not.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: I think it's very healthy. I just I mean, I
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: haven't cried over a man in a long time, and
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: the person I'm with now gives me no reason to
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: fuck cry. But I just remember, like now, what I
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: know is is that I know that somebody who really
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: cares for you, who loves you, they're not gonna even
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: put you in any situations where you need to share
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: the terror about anything, so that crying in a Honda
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: versus a Maybok and all that bullshit like walk you
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: with somebody who making you cry right anyway, because everybody
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: knows you can make your partner happy, you can make
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: them sad. So you're intentionally inflicting pain on your significant
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: other and somebody you say you love, you don't love
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: that person, this motherfucker you are trying to you're trying
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: to break this person.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: But you know what, I don't know if I agree
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: with that, because I do be feeling like sometimes you
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: love them, but you're just a broken person in a
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: relationship and don't know how to treat that your partner good,
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: you know, because you don't know how to treat you good. Yeah,
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: And it's like some shit issues that you're dealing with
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: within yourself is why you're harming others. And it ain't
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: because you don't love them, It's just because you don't
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: know how to be the best version of yourself here
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: because you're healing from your own shit.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: Well, this can be a forty old man spewing out
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: what you just said so you can excuse his badass
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: behavior seeing them same thing I don't know how to
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: I don't love money, so that's why I all know
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: how to love you, but I want you to stay
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: with me though well, well I figure it out at
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: forty No.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: No, I agree, but it'd be like that sometime though, right.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So I just I can imagine in this day
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: and time, like the arguments women are having because I
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: don't think it's the men that are saying shit like
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: you're a narcissist. It's oftentime the women. And I'm here
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: to tell y'all it is not just men that are narcissists.
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: Some of us were raised by narcissistic parents. You know
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Women, men, everybody can be like this.
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: It is not just men. And I usually online I'm
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: always seeing a woman calling a man a narcissist, and
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: I'm always seeing the men and saying, y'all always calling
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: somebody a fucking narcissist. So listen, So let's give a
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: little bit of stats. So the rise of therapy talk
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: and this is why it matters, right, So, ninety five
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: percent of people say they hear therapy related terms regularly
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: in everyday conversation, but most people don't actually understand the
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: clinical meaning of those terms. Every day talking therapy, not
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: every day trained in it. Basically, so people just people
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: are just spewing things out because of these little buzzwords
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: they hear on TikTok. TikTok is a crazy place. I'm
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: always confused when I go over there. I think all
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: of these platforms have a personality. I think TikTok is schizophrenic.
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: It's too fucking much like I think you can clinically
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: dyke know somebody's plans platforms. So social media is driving
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: this hard. So over fifty percent of viral mental health
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: content on TikTok contains misinformation.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: It says.
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: Some studies show eighty percent plus of mental health advice
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: on TikTok is misleading. I guess I gotta get some
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: examples of that. Most people are learning healing language from unliceed,
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: unlicensed influencers, not therapists. I think sometimes the best therapists
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: are people who actually been through the thing. Also, they
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: could talk to you about some shit that they've experienced.
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: Because I know, for me, when I was in a
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: relationship with a fucking narcissism, No he wasn't clinically diagnosed,
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: But when you run into one day will change your life,
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: and you can you can see a narcissist from mill
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: away once you experience one. But I found myself listening
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: to dark psychology books on audible like daily in the
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: car drive so I can counter his bullshit.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: So I can. Let me ask you this, Why did
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: you stay with narcissists as long as you did?
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: It's just like, you know, knowing somebody has like what
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: I think. Men oftentimes tell you all these things right
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: when they feel comfortable with you, they want to be
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: with you whatever. They tell you everything about themselves. So
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: it's a lie that they say they can't be vulnerable
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: with women, right, So your man is vulnerable with you,
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: telling your childhood trauma shit, all these things right, So
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: now that when they misbehave their thing is almost like
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: you're supposed to use those things.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: I've been through this to justify their behavior towards you
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: so a lot for a long time. I'm like, I
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: understand why he's doing these things. I understand why he
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: is this way. It really was because of my understanding
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: of a fucking human that I stayed longer than I
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: should have.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: It was your empathy, that's it.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: And grace. That's it.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: Niggas have played on my empathy. And then I had
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: to look up one day like, damn, I'm listening to
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: all these reasons why he mistreating me because he being
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: good to other people, Like my grandma is seeking. I
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: had to beat it for my grandma. Were like, oh,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: I had to go do this for my kids. Oh,
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: my mama don't have nobody. And I'm like, oh, he's
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: such a good man. It's mama don't have nobody. He's
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: being there for his mama, bitch, He's not being there
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: for you, right, hey, wake up and spell a coffee.
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: You have a lot of times gives me sons of bitches. Girl,
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: The mama beat a damn problem. The mama beat a
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: problem jah half the time. Man with a lot of
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: these guys anyway. So that's what I'm saying, Like women
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: can be the problem. Mm h, I agree, Okay, you
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: can be the girlfriend with the problem in the relationship.
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: You could be the mama with the problem. So it
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: says in one study of therapy related TikTok content, only
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: thirty six point seven percent of narcissism contact content was accurate,
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: meaning sixty three point three percent was wrong or misleading. See,
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: I gotta I gotta look at what they actually like.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: I need examples of these staff. It says only about
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: one to two percent of people actually have narcissistic personality disorder. Meanwhile,
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: online everybody's ex is a narcissist. And that's what I
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: was saying, right. It says trauma clinically equals life threatening
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: or deeply distressing distressing events, not bad dates or arguments.
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: I feel like you can get the PTSD from anything.
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: I got PTSD from a few things that shape the
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: way I behave today.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: Y'all.
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: I almost went to prison. I know I've probably talked
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: about it, but there's a fucking helicopter that is always
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: flying around my fucking house. I heard every night, and
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: it just reminds me of that time ten years ago
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: where I kept hearing helicopters flying around our fucking house
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: and finally the door was kicked in. Finally those people
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: pulled up on us. But I had been hearing those
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: helicopters for fucking days, and now I'm really I'm really
• 46:12
  Speaker 3: shell shocked about it. Like it's part of one of
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: the reasons why I broke up with my ex is
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: the fucking helicopters, because in my mind they was looking
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: for him when they probably like he wasn't even doing anything.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: That was local news getting.
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: Why does it sound like they're on the roof though
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: it be sounded so close the blades, it sounded like
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: they hovering above. Where are looking?
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: People came to your house? That came a helicopter?
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: No what I'm saying. Days leading up to the raid,
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: cause let.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: Me find out you no brown You was dating no
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: brown girl?
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: You would think it was l Chopper and they had
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: that nigga down as Cuban in the in the UH,
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: in the fans, in the system and bop.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: But no.
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: Days leading up to the raid, I kept hearing helicopters,
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: so subconsciously I knew something was about to fucking happen.
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: Literally the day before this should happened, I was out
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: looking for a place to move and leave him mm hmm,
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: And that should happen five o'clock that fucking morning. So
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: I knew I needed to get the fuck going through,
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: and I kept hearing these fucking helicopters. So now like,
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: why why am I hearing these helicopters? I have PTSD
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: for that shit, for my last relationship. I have major PTSD.
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: May I don't try some motherfucking thing nobody says, like,
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: imagine being with somebody who calls you randomly and say
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: shit like this a Tammy nigga? You know a nigga
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: named Tony?
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, you know?
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: You know a girl named Ashley, my co host. You
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: know a girl name Tasha.
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: What is happening? I know, yeah, Tasha, this is a
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: common name.
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: Well, this girl named Ashley told this bitch named Tasha
• 48:05
  Speaker 3: that you fuck with a nigga name Tony.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: Who are these people? No?
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: Get these people on three Way right now, or I'm
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: packing up all my shit and leaving. Literally. That is
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: how he conjured up a whole, a whole crazy ass
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: like ordeal to fuck with me on a random Tuesday,
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: bitch on a random Tuesday. And so when these things
• 48:29
  Speaker 3: would happen, I would have to look at what I
• 48:32
  Speaker 3: had planned for that day. Me and Tammy were supposed
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: to get together record that evening, right so anything, anytime
• 48:40
  Speaker 3: I was doing something for myself, that thing and him
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: would show up. People with real it's the fucking monic,
• 48:50
  Speaker 3: is what it is. It is something riding them that
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: they just they just get uneasy all of a sudden.
• 48:56
  Speaker 3: It's fucking weird and bitch, I'm a fucking gorilla?
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: Was that like you had to be bitch helicopter?
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: Look, that was two different That was two different niggas
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: that I was telling you my PTSD, Like why I
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: have PTSD nowadays? But yeah, so I don't agree with that.
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: Trauma says trauma equals life threatening are deeply distressing events
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: like that is sometimes in relationships, you can have some
• 49:25
  Speaker 3: very very distressing events that happen. So it says, why
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: is it actually a problem that you know, people throw
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: around these terms during arguments, right, I guess I don't
• 49:38
  Speaker 3: know to win the argument. I don't know, So it says,
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: Experts say, misuse of therapy terms can damage communication, create
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: distancing relationships, and it can be used to manipulatively. It
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: can be used manipulatively in arguments.
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: Also, Yeah, because telling someone they're a narcissist because they
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: just want you to wash your dishes out the saint.
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: Right, it's crazy, you know, Like, and then everybody has
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: meant everybody got mental health issues now too, right? You know,
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: I think I think it's all because of social media.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: Really ninety eight percent of it is because of social media,
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: which is why they have all those class sashing and lawsuits.
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: You'll hear on the radio and stuff if you have
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: a child that tried to harm himself after using Instagram,
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: like that, shit is real right now because things things
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: are happening. You have AI coming in right right. So
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: it says one in every five US adults, that's about
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: twenty three point four percent experiences mental illness, but only
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: about fifty two percent actually receive treatment. So it's a
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: bunch of people out here undiagnosed, right while y'all here
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: meeting niggas on tender. He's he got tism, A little
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: touched little tism, you know.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: That's what I was calling my old boo and his
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: friends the Tism team.
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: So and when do you think about that?
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: He's still laugh no shape to anybody with autism. We
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: don't want to offend because I know y'all be mad,
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: But it wasn't meant to be harmful. Okay.
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: I seen this this video on Instagram. You fine, It
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: was a couple getting married, and I guess I don't
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: know who the couple is, Like I I'm assuming people
• 51:31
  Speaker 3: like they're popular, possibly on social media. But they were
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: talking about like how his reaction was to her. You know,
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: they come tapping on the bride, taps the room on
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: the shoulder. You saw that.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, we're gonna wear the other dress.
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he was just regular. His name is Noah Lyles
• 51:47
  Speaker 3: faces criticism over his Track Stars.
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: There was the Track Stars gold medalist, Olympic medalist.
• 51:58
  Speaker 3: Okay, so apparently he he's autistic a little So I
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: mean that and once I read that in the comments,
• 52:04
  Speaker 3: I'm like, that makes sense. His reaction is like they
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: just be different, you know what I'm saying. They socially
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: awkward oftentimes, but I mean, I didn't she knows who
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: she's marrying, right. People are so mean on the internet.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: Man. People are just mean period, But on the Internet
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: it's next level because they can sit at their computer
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: and say hateful shit that they would never say to
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: your face.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: But he did turn around and say, like, where's the
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: other dress?
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: I thought you were the mermaid dress. He was saying,
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: where's the mermaid dress?
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: You look cute. He was like, everybody looks so beautiful.
• 52:41
  Speaker 3: A lot of people came to see us. That's what
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: he was saying like, so people in the comments were like, oh,
• 52:46
  Speaker 3: he didn't compliment her, tell her how good she looks?
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: Right, y'all.
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: Ever you ever been with somebody who never complimented you?
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: Oh I have?
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Niggas like to humble me, like you get enough compliments.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Why I gotta compliment you too?
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: Because your compliment is only one that actually matters. Nigga,
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: you want me to go get these compliments from these
• 53:06
  Speaker 3: other niggas because I could.
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: Right, I'm getting it from all of y'all. But I'm
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: just hoping that you would be the best.
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: Power me up, nigga. If you don't power your woman up,
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: please believe me, the Internet would power your bitch up.
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: And you will be mad when you see them niggas
• 53:25
  Speaker 3: in the comments with them fucking eyes right.
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: Eyes dms trying to your chick out right.
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: So, I guess there's another thing like in arguments with
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: like you were saying earlier, man telling a woman you're
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: too emotional in an argument that that to me is
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: like gaslighting for sure. You know, men could say you
• 53:53
  Speaker 3: know everything I do she calls toxic. Everything I do
• 53:56
  Speaker 3: is toxic. Can't do nothing fucking right. I feel like
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: my ex probably thought that he couldn't do anything right.
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: And it was only because and I'm talking about the X,
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: the most recent X, it was only because I was
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: to the point to where he couldn't. You said he couldn't, Yes, yeah, couldn't.
• 54:15
  Speaker 3: Couldn't That nigga would have had a change into a
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: whole not a nigga for me to be satisfied. That's
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: how much to my wits end I was at. And
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: you know, and I recognized that, and I would ask
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: him like, you know, like really, like you can't possibly
• 54:33
  Speaker 3: be happy in this because I know I'm not. I'm
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: not being as loving as I know I am and
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: can't be. I'm just not. It's only because like it's
• 54:42
  Speaker 3: it's gone, you know what I'm saying, Like you have
• 54:46
  Speaker 3: caused me so much trauma to where I'm like numb
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: to you, Like I don't even want even if you
• 54:52
  Speaker 3: were to change into a whole nothing person today, it's
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: too late. It is for the next person. You changing
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: is not for me. It is for the next person.
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: That's why you seem you're the same. You might it
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: might be someone who love you exactly as you are.
• 55:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that'd be you know, Yeah, that part I feel
• 55:11
  Speaker 3: like for I want women. I want men to realize
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: that I don't think the women that just allow you
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  Speaker 3: to be she don't love you, you know what I'm saying,
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: not saying like I'm saying like when you're fucking up
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: in life. You know what I'm saying, When you're doing
• 55:27
  Speaker 3: stupid shit and she just goes with it, that person
• 55:29
  Speaker 3: does not love you. Like this is maybe this is
• 55:33
  Speaker 3: a love language of black women. Like we we push
• 55:36
  Speaker 3: men in a different way when we see greatness in
• 55:39
  Speaker 3: you and you just being a fucking duck.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: When I see like men dying for like from because
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: men be doing stupid shit to get killed. You always see,
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: this is why women live longer. But when men die
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: from like food, you know, like like no, like diabetic
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: or diabetes and stuff for that, and they got a wife.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll be feeling like, did she really love him?
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: Because why she didn't feed him?
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: See talk to a woman who's going through that. I'm
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: giving my mom a number so you can call her
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: so she can cut your gass out. Because imagine, like.
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: Right now example all right, not diabetes, but like no, that's.
• 56:20
  Speaker 3: A great example though, because women you literally stressing yourself
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: out trying to keep somebody alive who clearly doesn't give
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: a damn if they die. They want to live, right,
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: but they are doing absolutely nothing to live, and it's
• 56:34
  Speaker 3: damning your responsibility to keep them breathing. You watching every
• 56:37
  Speaker 3: wicked moment and what they eating and what they're doing.
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: You monitoring the shit that they supposed to be doing
• 56:41
  Speaker 3: for themselves. That is not your wife's job to keep
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: you alive. We do it. I do believe the women
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: are responsible for the nutrition of the family. But you
• 56:52
  Speaker 3: are a grown man, and this is your life at
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: the end of the day. And when people get to
• 56:56
  Speaker 3: a certain age, like my mom is seventy something years old,
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: she got to choose herself at this point.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, So I don't want your mom to
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: cuss me out, so.
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: So then here's another one that's gonna trigger some people.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: What about people with really fat kids.
• 57:16
  Speaker 3: I don't like it. I don't like it. I know
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: some big people who have allowed their children to get
• 57:22
  Speaker 3: big as them. You know how fucking stressful that was
• 57:26
  Speaker 3: for you, having to make the conscious decision, Like I
• 57:29
  Speaker 3: grew up eating McDonald's and berging and bullshit because my
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: mom was at work all day long. So when you
• 57:33
  Speaker 3: get to a certain age, you have to change, you
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, because you were raised off all
• 57:39
  Speaker 3: this bullshit and you have to consciously like, I don't
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: want that for my life. So why would you put
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: your kid through that? Because you have control over what
• 57:48
  Speaker 3: your kid is eating.
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's abuse.
• 57:51
  Speaker 3: I think it's a form of abuse, honestly, just.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: Letting them eat all the sugary shit and all that
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: stuff and they can't run, and they don't never go
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: outside and do nothing, and just setting them up for
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: a life of you know, a harder life for sure.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I know a lot about it like that. Yeah, but yeah,
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: me too. I'll just be looking at through kids like
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: light bits. You know.
• 58:21
  Speaker 3: My mama she would be wanting to cuss me out
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: because I always I would say stuff like that to her,
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: like the women is responsible for the nutrition in the family,
• 58:29
  Speaker 3: and she would say stuff like, well, I had to work,
• 58:31
  Speaker 3: you know. So we were raised by McDonald's and Burger
• 58:34
  Speaker 3: King and our family restaurant, eating fried food every day,
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: left over pork chopped sandwiches and chicken sandwiches and shit
• 58:41
  Speaker 3: like that. And we've always we were bigger than my mom.
• 58:46
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. My mom had three girls
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: and all of us were bigger than her. My mom
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: would exercise at night, but never like and I guess
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: you know black people, they always do as I say,
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: not as I do. But really people do what you
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: do what you say? Yeah, you do what you see.
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: Then you also all have to take it up another
• 59:09
  Speaker 3: level and explain to younger, you know, young people, why
• 59:12
  Speaker 3: it is that I'm doing this thing. What's the importance
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: of working out? But you know, our parents just didn't
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: have to wherewithal to even even break shit down to
• 59:20
  Speaker 3: us in that way, you know, so we just did
• 59:24
  Speaker 3: you learn anything from your mama?
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: From mama?
• 59:30
  Speaker 3: Really no, I swould to God, but I've been on
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: my own. You might get like low pieces of low
• 59:38
  Speaker 3: low something here and there. You know, like my mom
• 59:41
  Speaker 3: is smart too, you know, like having the conmence like
• 59:43
  Speaker 3: she's very smart.
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: But I learned shit like like you probably did. You
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: probably just can't you recognized.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: I had to ask her one day if she ever
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: taught me anything. I taught you how to cook? I
• 59:55
  Speaker 3: know you really didn't. I just was interested and I
• 59:57
  Speaker 3: would be around while you were cooking. That's how I
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: picked it up. You didn't tell me like.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: She never said this much.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 3: No, hell no, we just know how to cook, like
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: just you just know how. And let me let me
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: not just say, my mama, you had to witness and learn. Honestly,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: I swear, do black people measure stuff or do we just.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: Bothered like some cool I used to like when my
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: grandma used to be trying to teach me how to
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: bake cakes, and she was like, you just gotta feel it,
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: like this is cut, it's brail on there.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 3: A touch, not any misering cup right, And I'm sorry, mom,
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: Like I don't want to put this just on mothers.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: I see that a lot online And because daddy's where
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: the fuck y'all at? Why mama trying to do everything
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 3: y'all really the goddamn problem. Let's be clear anyway, I
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 3: don't know. Hopefully I don't have to argue with people
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 3: that much more in the future. I haven't argued in
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: a why and it feels great, you know, like I
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 3: have almost gotten into arguments recently, but I just chose
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 3: not to. I just like, man, you know what, this
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 3: ship really isn't worth my fucking breath. Like, I get
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: so angry. I get so fucking mad when I'm when
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: I'm arguing, But I still I'm always conscious of what
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: I think. Some people get so mad to what they
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: don't even know what the fuck they saying or doing
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 3: in the midst of the argument. But I just try
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: to avoid them because I just i'd want to fight.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: Well, you got, like.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 3: Carisa said, when they said Chrissa had ugly girl syndrome,
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 3: she was like, I got, I'll beat your ass syndrome.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: Can you fight? Should be the only thing Chrissa be
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: saying to bitches on Instagram and ship when they talk
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 3: crazy to her. Can you fight? That's all I would
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: be commenting back, can you fight?
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 3: She going to jail. She put her hands on somebody.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: Because weapons she is. That's why it's only bitches on
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: the internet. There's nobody in her set face. You know,
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not saying that to that woman.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 3: I did see a video one time where one of
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: her homegirls seemed like she was trying Carissa a little bit,
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: and I just think she know Chrissa wouldn't do her in,
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 3: do her dirty, but she was to me kind of
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: disrespecting her. A little bit like a little like a
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: little uhtail, like a little colttail hanger type person. Yeah,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 3: like sneak dissing, saying little shit.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: Saying a little sneak ship but smiling at you at
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: the same time.
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 3: Bitch, Right, oh wait, we got a game. We won't
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 3: play it?
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: Or no?
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: Are we out of here?
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know, bitch, I feel like we already played it.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: Bitch, we didn't even talk about the topic. Maybe you'll
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 3: try again later, you know, you know Ashley, you know,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: he don't had to know how to answer none of
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 3: the questions.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: Like I was like, Tony who I know?
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 3: A bunch of Tony's like, who are you talking about? What?
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 3: That nigga told us? Bitch that what? All right? Man?
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: Get all these people on three way and he couldn't
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: He acts like he couldn't do three way on his
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 3: cell phone. I just immediately I hung up on that
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: nigga and I call his baby mom. I say, hey, man,
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 3: I'm about to drop your boy over there. I want
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 3: to drop your son off. I'm going I'm out of
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 3: here straight like that. That was the mistake, y'all. If
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: y'all leaving the nigga just leave. Do not make an announcement.
• 1:03:43
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