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127. Your Inner GPS · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hi team, welcome to a new week. I hope you're having an awesome
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  Monday. Today in this episode, we are
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  going to talk about something that I call your internal
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  guidance system. It's essentially our intuition.
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  It's our internal knowing and the reason that I want to talk
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  about. It today is.
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  Because so many people struggle. With this idea of self trust.
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  They don't trust themselves to make decisions.
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  To take bold risks. To even make a decision about
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  what they want for dinner and. The problem with.
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  A lacking self. Trust is that you?
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  Are not able to really step into your power in your life you're
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  not able to design and be the creator of your.
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  Life because you don't trust yourself to be able to do it.
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  You question every decision you make.
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  You fear a lot of. Things in life you don't have a
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  lot of faith in your own path and.
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  As a result of all of that, people are less happy, they're
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  less fulfilled, they are less satisfied with their.
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  Circumstances. And they also feel this.
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  Inability to see the joy in things, to see possibility in
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  their lives. To see.
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  Challenges as opportunity. And so I want to talk about
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  this. In terms of impact and.
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  Just how to live a more fulfilled, happier, peaceful
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  life. The topic of intuition is always
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  kind of a funny one to talk about, especially in coaching,
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  because when people think about coaching, they often think.
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  About business. Coaching or relationship
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  coaching or, you know, leadership coaching and the idea
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  of intuition can sometimes seem a little bit on the fringe, Like
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  a little. Woo woo.
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  And the reality? Is the people who are the.
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  Highest performing people that I know, the people who are the
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  most seemingly. Successful are.
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  The most tuned in to their intuition.
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  Without a doubt. I see it every single day.
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  I like to think about intuition as being an internal guidance
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  system, and I stole that term from Abraham.
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  Hicks, who talks about law of. Attraction.
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  But essentially it's like our energy.
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  PS And our intuition is our ability to make sense of
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  information like feelings and energy and emotions that are
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  not. Always easy to.
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  Verbalize. They're not always as tangible
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  as things like. Behaviors or.
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  Things that people. Directly say.
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  I mean, think about. When you walk into a room.
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  You can pretty. Quickly.
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  Get a gauge on the temperature of the room you can feel.
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  Are people happy? Is the energy.
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  Off is there. Some sort of conflict going on?
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  Do I need to have my? Guard up or is this a really?
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  Open atmosphere where people are having a lot of fun and I can
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  just be my authentic self. People have a pretty good.
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  Sense of that? Fairly quickly.
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  Within 30 seconds of walking into a space.
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  Why is that? What makes that?
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  Possible. It's all about.
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  Our intuition, our internal guidance system and the fact
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  that people think that this is kind of a fringe.
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  Topic is really funny. Because they rely on it every
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  single day, often times without knowing.
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  About it so. We need to shed some light on
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  what this is and how we can. Effectively use it.
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  Make it. Better get more skilled at.
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  Employing it so that we can use it to our advantage and we can
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  also start to trust in ourselves.
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  A little bit. I think the trend in the last.
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  Couple of decades. Is that we've been outsourcing?
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  All of our. Happiness, all of our
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  satisfaction, all of our information to external sources.
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  I see this specifically. In the medical.
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  Industry we've outsourced. Our health in so many ways.
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  To the fact that people feel, for the most part, a little bit.
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  Powerless in their health now, This trend has been changing,
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  thankfully, but for a long time for a couple.
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  Of decades, people. Were outsourcing their.
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  Health to. Physicians to medical.
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  Experts to Google. And not really taking control,
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  an agency of their own health for themselves.
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  And that's just one area. There are so many circumstances
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  in life where we are outsourcing information, where we are trying
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  to get external validation from other people, from social media,
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  from clicks and likes on our content, from our personal
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  brands. And so many times we see this in
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  relationships. This might be personal
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  relationships. It might be.
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  Work or career? Oriented relationships, but what
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  I'm noticing with. People is that they don't.
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  Trust themselves to be able to handle their own interpersonal
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  communication within their relationships.
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  They feel like they have to outsource it.
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  They. Have to go get an expert opinion
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  about handle, how to handle conflict, how to handle
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  leadership decisions, even how to handle intimacy.
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  And while I'm a huge fan of self growth and self exploration, as
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  you know, that's my whole shtick.
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  I'm in the coaching industry. I love therapy.
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  I see. Value in all of those things, I
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  do think. That.
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  There is a point where. We need to.
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  Trust in ourselves. We need to be able to learn to
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  listen to our internal guidance system, that intuition, that
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  knowing that little voice inside of us.
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  That says this is. The right thing for me.
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  Or. This is not the right thing for
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  me. I need to figure.
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  Out a way. To change the scenario in
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  coaching, when I first started getting into this industry, one
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  of the first things that I learned.
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  Was this idea that people are whole?
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  And resilient and capable. And I've talked about this on
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  this podcast. Before.
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  To assume that of somebody else. That they are.
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  Whole, capable and resilient is one of the greatest.
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  Gifts that you can give. To somebody.
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  And when you don't do that, you're shortchanging that person
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  in front of you, essentially assuming that they are not
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  whole, that they are broken, or that there is something to fix.
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  The other piece. To this is understanding that.
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  Everybody is equipped with the ability to have self authority.
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  And when I first learned about this in coaching, it was really
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  defined as this ability to understand.
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  That we. Are the captains of our own
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  ships. We are the ones in our life that
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  know. What is exactly?
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  Right for our own path, for our own life.
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  There's nobody else. On this earth, who can make the
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  decisions? For us, because.
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  They don't have to live in our bodies, in our hearts, in our
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  minds and so. Why would we outsource those
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  types of? Decisions when it's.
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  So, so critical. And when nobody.
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  Else could possibly be. Living in our shoes.
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  Why would we? Outsource that information and
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  it all comes back to. This idea.
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  That we've been chipping away at our own self trust for decades
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  and we just don't believe in our ability to know what is right
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  for ourselves anymore. But here's the.
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  Truth. Every single one of us.
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  Is equipped. With an internal guidance system
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  that energy. PS Every single one of us.
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  Has the ability. To lean into.
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  Our self authority. It's that little voice that
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  says. I know what is right for my
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  life. Every single person is equipped
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  with that. We've just gotten out of the
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  habit of listening to it. We've been tuning it out.
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  With various sources of. Information with social media
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  and news and influencers and a lot of noise.
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  A. Lot of societal noise and
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  distraction. We've been tuning it all out and
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  so we're in this place now where we don't understand how to be
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  self accepting and self. Authoritative.
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  We just don't trust it. But Lord, when you can tune back
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  into that and you start to get into the practice of listening
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  to yourself again, that is when you start to become one of the
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  most powerful versions of yourself.
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  You absolutely start. To have a knowing and a deep
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  understanding. For where your path.
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  Is going to lead you even if you can only see 2 feet in front of
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  you. And I see what see this with my
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  clients all the time with coaching clients.
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  With my group. Coaching clients, even with my
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  patients in the clinic, helping them feel empowered and trusting
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  themselves when it comes to their health decisions.
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  It bleeds into every part of our life.
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  This sense. Of self authority.
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  And knowingness, I think when I was younger I used.
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  To believe. That some people were really
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  intuitive and other people were not, and that some people had a
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  gift for intuition. And while you know, that might
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  be true to a certain extent. Everybody has the.
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  Ability to be intuitive. Every person has the.
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  Ability to. Listen to themselves and hear
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  their own inner voice. The question is just.
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  How do you cultivate that? How?
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  Do you enhance it? How do?
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  You get to the place. Where you can start to recognize
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  that voice. Because the reality is.
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  We are living in a very noisy, distracted time with thousands
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  of pieces of information coming at us pretty much from all
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  angles. So what do we do about it?
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  How do? We enhance this inner voice and
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  get to the place where we can be in practice and start to listen
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  to it and make decisions based on it.
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  And there's a couple of simple things that we can.
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  Do the first. Thing that is so incredibly.
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  Helpful to attune. Your inner voice and your
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  intuition is meditation. It's meditation.
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  It's. Breath work.
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  It's. Even alone time and people are
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  often very intimidated by the act of meditation.
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  But here's the simplest way I can put.
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  It all you have to do is sit or lay cross.
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  Legged, You can sit on a chair, you can lay flat on the ground,
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  all you. Have to do is sit or lay quietly
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  for five. To 20 minutes and focus on your
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  breath. And people are always telling
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  me, oh, Steph, my brain's too busy.
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  I can't. Meditate BS.
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  You can, absolutely. Meditate, everybody.
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  'S brain wanders. That's how we're designed.
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  The brain is meant to be that way.
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  You will have distracted thoughts.
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  Hundreds of times during a meditation.
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  All you have to do is come back to your breath.
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  You sit, you focus on your breath.
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  You will inevitably get distracted and have other.
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  Thoughts. That's OK, All you have to do is
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  come back to your breath. And then you're back in the act
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  of meditation, and you do that for 5 to 20 minutes.
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  The practice. Of that over time.
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  Helps you quiet. The brain quiet, the nervous
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  system, and yes, actually, in fact.
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  You will start to. Listen and hear that inner
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  voice. It's like little thoughts.
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  It's little intuitive. Hits.
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  The best way I can describe it is when everything else gets
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  quiet. You can actually.
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  Hear you. And so meditation, breath work,
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  alone time, that's one. Of the best ways to cultivate
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  this. Voice and start to be able.
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  To trust it a little. Bit more.
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  The other way to do this is to practice deep work.
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  And you've heard. Me talk about deep work before.
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  It's simply being in a non distracted space.
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  For 30. To 90 minutes and working on
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  projects that are meaningful. To you without.
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  Checking your phone, checking your e-mail, stopping every 5
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  seconds to do something different.
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  It's focused on distracted work, on something that is meaningful.
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  To you. It's also time to be creative.
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  You could consider it white space where you're just.
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  Having unplanned space where you can just think and be creative
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  and lay and look at the sky, for God's sakes.
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  I don't know. This type of practice helps you
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  start to. Recognize listen to.
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  And actually hear that inner. Voice within you.
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  It sounds abstract, trust me, it's not.
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  And really, I think at the end of the day, it's all about
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  removing all of the distractions that are constantly bombarding
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  us all the time. Finally, that takes me to my
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  Third Point if you want to start to.
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  Cultivate more self trust. If you want to start to be able
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  to recognize this voice within you a.
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  Little bit better you have to cut out.
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  Some of the noise, and that means cutting out some of the
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  screen time, the phone, the TV, Netflix constantly entertaining.
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  Yourself with easy quick. Distractions that give you that
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  dopamine hit it's. Great for short.
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  Term stuff and it's entertaining.
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  That's for sure. But guys, this is.
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  Thousands of pieces of information that are coming into
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  our brain. The brain can only handle so
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  much, and so when we're constantly bombarding it with
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  social media scrolling. Do I like?
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  This Do I want to read this? Do I not like this?
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  I'm going to judge this. I'm going to be critical.
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  Of this, all of those. Thoughts are decisions, and when
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  your brain is making that many decisions in a short amount of
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  time, it's no wonder you don't have the bandwidth to even be
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  able to hear your own self. And so one of the.
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  Best ways to be able. To cultivate this inner voice
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  and start to hear your own intuition.
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  Is to get quiet, cut out the. Scrolling and the screens.
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  Get outside, look at the sky, look at the trees.
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  Get quiet. And see if you can.
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  Start to practice. Giving yourself.
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  A little bit of space. Because I promise when you do
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  that inner voice and that intuition starts to.
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  Rise to the surface. And you will be able to
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  recognize it for what it. Is.
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  The guiding light. To what?
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  You really want and what a fulfilled, meaningful, peaceful.
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  Life will look like for you. Now when it comes to this.
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  Topic of self trust. There's so many other ways that
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  you can build trust within yourself.
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  But for this episode specifically, what?
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  I want to focus on. Is self trust as it?
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  Relates to your own intuition and your own internal guidance
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  system. Know that you have all the
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  tools. That you need know that you.
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  Are a very powerful. Knowing wise person, you came to
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  this earth. As a perfect.
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  Being and all. That other?
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  Stuff telling you that you don't know what is good.
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  For you or what is right for you?
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  I think a lot of that is just BS.
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  And so my challenge to you this. Week.
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  Is to do some of these things, Meditate, do some deep.
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  Work or be creative? And cut out some of the
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  scrolling and the entertaining. Ourselves so that.
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  You can create some space for your own inner voice to come up.
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  Listen to it and see if you can. Start to trust.
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  In the. Fact that it's.
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  Coming up for a reason, and it's probably speaking the exact
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  truth that you've been needing to hear.
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  So I hope this helps. I hope that you have a chance
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  this week to dig into your own intuition and start to listen.
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  Thank you for being here and as always team, thank you for being
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  ready to impact. Thanks for listening to Impact.
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  Ready, I hope. Today's episode inspired you to
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  own your impact and recognize that you.
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  Are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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