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Ep 36. Pause, Breathe, Manifest: Reset Your Stress and Amplify Your Magic · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the manifestation station podcast i'm your host holly edwards
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and together we can help create your magic,
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hello we're back that's it we are back for another episode of the manifestation station.
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I hope you enjoyed last week's one.
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I don't know if you listened, but we were talking candle rituals and lovely
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little rituals you can do with candles to bring in your manifestation.
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So if you haven't done that yet, check it out. It's episode number 35.
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But today we are back with a brand new episode and a brand new week.
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Well, it's actually Friday. If you're listening on release day.
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It's actually Friday, but you might not be listening on Friday.
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I don't know what day of the week it is where you are right now,
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but welcome back, your cozy little corner of the internet where we talk about
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everything manifesting energy, mindset.
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Magic, love, and making your life so goddamn good that you just don't recognize
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it anymore because it's going to be bloody amazing.
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So I've just had a lovely, lovely long weekend. So here in the UK,
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we've just had a bank holiday weekend.
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Oh my goodness. Aren't they just the best?
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Shouldn't we be doing like four day weeks all the time?
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There is something about that extra day reset, an extra day of adventure and life.
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And I'm going to start a petition.
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Should we start a petition for four day weeks. It kind of, kind of,
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slightly leads me on to today's topic because today is all about,
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I'm giving you one thing today and if you stick to this and you listen to it
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and you do it and you take this on in your life,
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Your manifestation game is going to go through the roof.
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This is one little thing that you can do, even if you don't believe in manifesting.
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What this one thing, honestly, I believe has the ability to completely change your life.
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So there we go. I've said it here.
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We are changing lives today on this episode.
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It's something that I really think is going to resonate with you.
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And we are diving deep into emotional stress, how it shows up in our everyday lives,
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how emotional stress and not regulating our emotions, how it can quietly block your manifestations.
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This is why I find it so fascinating. This is about getting through life and
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getting through each day with a lot more of a calmer.
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Happier peaceful presence because we're the
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ones in control of our emotions aren't we and the way that we
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react to life things are going to happen to
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us in life but it's the way that we react to them and
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kind of finding ways to reduce our emotional stresses
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and these are going to relieve our manifestation
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blockages so most importantly how we
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can regulate ourselves to feel calmer to feel
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lighter and more magnetic because that
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is the thing isn't it you know me I love a bit of
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magnetism and here's the thing that manifesting
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it it's not just about positive thinking or asking the universe really nicely
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for whatever it is that you want to manifest now I do talk about this a lot
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I've just written a big old chapter in my manifesting book about positive thinking
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and how our thoughts create our reality.
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Now, ultimately, that is the foundation of manifesting and manifesting well.
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It's about having control over our thoughts, but just our thoughts are creating our reality.
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So thinking more positively really helps, but it's not just about that.
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It's underneath the surface we're carrying
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around emotional stress frustrations tension
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and anger and all of that builds up
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in the body and instead of being in a flow which is where our manifestation
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kind of sweet spot lives we're literally blocking the very things that we're
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asking for if we're not regulating our emotions if you're carrying around that
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stress The frustrations, the tensions, the anger,
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we're blocking the things that we're asking for. So I think we should get into it, shall we?
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And as always, I'm going to keep this very real because emotional stress,
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again, is not something that is just,
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you know, sometimes people with manifestation, the law of attraction,
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they think it's a bit woo-woo, a bit airy-fairy, but actually this is very real life.
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Even if you've got someone in your life at the moment and you think,
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I'm not really sure they're going to believe this whole thing about manifesting.
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This is the episode to share because just improving your emotional regulation
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is going to give you a happier, more peaceful life. So why wouldn't we do it?
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This is a real life episode. It's very real life.
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We're talking about maybe if you're stuck in traffic and you get stressed and
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you work up or you spend the next hour muttering under your breath and kind
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of gripping the steering wheel and going, this is so terrible. I'm going to be late.
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And can you really change that situation? This is talking about everyday life,
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everyday things and actions and experiences that happen to us.
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We've all been there. Maybe your boss sends you a passive aggressive email.
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Suddenly your whole nervous system is buzzing with stress.
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This is stuff matters. This is what we're honing in on today.
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This is what is going to change your life guys. So let's just take a quick look.
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Let's take it back to the start and just look at how stress blocks manifestation.
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We're going to start with the basics here. And, you know, stress and manifesting
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well, they do not work together. They do not fuse together.
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They are acting in, it's almost like they're jarring heads.
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They're just going up against each other. So when we're stressed.
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Our bodies, they go into like fight, flight or freeze.
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So our nervous system thinks that there's you
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know back in the day we think there's a lion chasing us and
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our nervous system reacts to that our cortisol goes
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through the roof so even if you're
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just receiving an email notification or maybe
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someone rolls their eyes at you we can get those
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same feelings those same cortisol spikes that
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fight flight or freeze mode just from
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an email notification and actually I can think
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about this a lot when I'm working and I'll
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get that email from someone that maybe you've sort of
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slightly been dreading or you think it's going
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to deliver some news that you don't want to hear or maybe it's
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from someone that maybe you've clashed with and your heart
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drops you know that feeling or you get a text from someone and
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you go oh my god your heart kind of stops and
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you think oh my god you can feel your nervous system
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doing something going into action and just kind
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of suddenly going right I'm on edge and the hairs on
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your arms go up and you kind of go and you tense and
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you kind of feel a little bit sick these are the moments that we're talking
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about it's actually making me feel a bit funny now because we've all been there
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and I'm sure you're listening now going yes yes yes yes yes I've been there
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so what happens when we're in that state our energy actually closes off we're
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focused on survival and not possibility.
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And do you know what? I always think about this, the bigger.
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Bigger, bigger picture.
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When we get those emails or those, you know, passive aggressive messages or
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a message from someone from our past and it makes us feel a bit funny and we
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go into that fight or flight.
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I always think about this and I try and think, oh my goodness,
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why am I worrying? We are just one little person on this giant earth,
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in this giant Milky Way, in this giant galaxy.
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Does it really matter? But it doesn't always work in the moment, does it?
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And I think it's easy to tell ourselves that. But now that I'm kind of giving
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you this podcast and looking from the outside, you just go, does it matter?
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Kind of. I don't mean this in an insignificant way, but,
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We are so small and tiny and, dare I say it, insignificant in this universe of ours.
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This is where we need to kind of let some stuff go and go, does it really matter?
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But stress literally contracts our energy.
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So it's like saying, universe, I don't have the space for this right now.
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And it's kind of like you go into this fear mode.
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So think of it like trying to order your dream dinner when your body thinks
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that the kitchen is on fire. So it's like you're trying to order something,
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but the kitchen is on fire.
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There's no chef and they're, I don't know, they're fighting the fire.
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And you're thinking, when is my dinner going to arrive? The alarms are going off.
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It's not a good environment to be ordering what it is that you want out of your future.
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It's not a good idea at this point to be ordering your manifestation.
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When the fire is going off in the kitchen, the chef's trying to put out the fire.
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Realistically, are your manifestations going to come to fruition when you're
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ordering in that environment?
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That's what it's like when you're ordering through stress and through frustration
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and through fight or flight.
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And the sneaky thing is that stress, it isn't always big or dramatic life events.
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And I think this is the absolute key to this episode.
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Yes, you may have some very, you know, big, significant things going on in your
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life at the moment that you're thinking, that is so huge, it's taken up so much
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space. and these are circumstantial and things like this are going to happen in your life.
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However, this episode is about tuning in to life's small stresses,
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the traffic jams, someone saying a rude comment to you at work,
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maybe your Wi-Fi going down at home, maybe when you're on your Zoom call,
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we've all been there, haven't we?
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I had that recently, you're on a Zoom call, your Wi-Fi goes off,
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you think it's the worst thing in the world, you start stressing,
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you start panicking, you go into flight or fight.
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So every time we get emotionally hijacked.
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Our body holds onto that stress unless we learn to regulate it and it piles up.
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So your body is holding onto that stress. So just imagine yourself today.
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Let's say it's the morning you're going to work and you get stuck in a really,
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really bad traffic jam. You're going to be late for a really important meeting
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or you're just going to be late for work. It's inconvenienced you.
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You start stressing out in the car.
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You start stressing out. You start kind of rocking.
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You kind of start moving around thinking looking at the
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traffic thinking when is it going to move nothing is going to
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change this no matter what you do whether you're gripping
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the steering wheel or you're kind of waving your hand shouting
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at people that are trying to push into your lane that stress and that emotional
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dysregulation is going to sit with you throughout the day so even once you get
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through that traffic jam you might then get to work and think god it already
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feels stressful you might think i need some extra caffeine I need to go and get some sugar.
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I need to get through the day. It puts you on the worst foot in the morning, doesn't it?
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And that's what we're dealing with. These are very real life situations,
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real life examples. And actually, we have the power to deal with,
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to control how we deal with these situations. So let's have a look at a couple of examples.
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We're going to look at maybe someone cutting you up in traffic or maybe someone
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pulling out on you in a junction.
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We're talking about road rage, right? So you're just driving along and maybe
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you're going to work and you've got everything.
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You're having a lovely little drive. Someone cuts you up or they pull into your
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lane and maybe get on your horn. You start giving them a toot.
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It can be so easy, can't it?
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Just to go, you want to let them know you're annoyed. You want to let them know
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that what they've done is not okay.
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Does this really help you in the long run? This is what you have to feel because
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actually what happens by tooting your horn, by waving your arms,
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calling the names outside the window,
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or you know, kind of speeding up to them.
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None of this helps you, your emotions, your energy for the day.
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So the only thing really you're upsetting is your energy throughout the rest of the day.
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And this can affect your manifestation, the frequency that you're trying to jump on.
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When you manifest and you manifest well, you jump on a high frequency.
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When you're on a high frequency, you feel good about life.
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You're releasing high vibrations. When you are angry and you're doing,
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you know, you're giving road rage or you're in that mode of stress,
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the only person that you're damaging is yourself.
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The only person whose day you're ruining is your own.
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This is about protecting your energy, but dealing with your energy differently.
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Imagine for example we just waved them on and we smiled to ourselves thinking hmm.
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That was an interesting manoeuvre. That was interesting, wasn't it?
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And then we got about our day. We put a good song on the radio.
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We carried on listening to the Manifestation podcast.
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Whatever you're listening to, whatever you're doing, how about you don't let it infiltrate you?
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You don't let that stress or that anger or that disrespect of that person dictate
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the rest of your day. How about that?
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How about at work? Maybe say you're feeling pretty good and then you open up
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your inbox and bam, there you go.
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Maybe you've got a passive aggressive email from your boss.
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Suddenly your chest feels tight, your jaw clenches, you kind of tense up.
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Maybe you say something out loud like, oh, for God's sake, here we go again. You roll your eyes.
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This is also bringing in more stress into your day.
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Or maybe something like in a relationship, maybe your partner forgets to text you back.
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Maybe like rationally, do you know what? If you really think
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about it and consider it you know that they're busy but emotionally
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you start to spiral you're like do they even care do
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they even respect me not even to text me back on time did I do something wrong
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that stress response kicks in and now your energy's cloudy and you're not running
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on that good frequency so here's the point in all of these situations the thing
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itself the thing itself that you're getting stressed over.
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If you really think about it, it's actually quite small, isn't it?
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These are just everyday things, but you have the power to regulate your emotions.
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Our emotional response, it either keeps us stuck or it helps us to move on.
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So the key is, it doesn't mean not never getting stressed because we are human and it's life.
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Life happens and it depends what day kind of day you're
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catching us on but the key is not letting
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that stress set you up for the
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rest of the day it's not letting that stress kind of
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camp in our bodies set up camp going here I'm here to stay because that is going
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to block your flow so what can we do what can we do well let's look at some
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examples of ways that we can kind of help regulate our stresses because a lot
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of how we react to these everyday stresses at the moment is
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a lot of how you react is kind of just subconscious. We're just used to waving our arms.
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Oh, you've cut me up. Beep. We get on our horn.
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Whatever we do, we let that infiltrate. So it's about tapping into our subconscious
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and kind of going, do you know what?
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I am going to protect my energy and I am going to decide the kind of day I'm going to have.
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So maybe you can give yourself a test. We'll talk about this later.
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You can give yourself a test for the day later on today.
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But at the moment let's look at tools and ways to reduce your emotional stresses,
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this is the juicy part this is the bit where you're really going to go oh my goodness,
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I could have been doing this all along and you're just going to be a little
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like peaceful butterfly from now on how do we actually regulate emotional stress
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so that it doesn't block our manifestations let's look into that I'm going to
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give you a mix of simple everyday tools here and maybe some deeper practices as well.
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So you can just pick one or a few and think whichever one works for you and resonates with you.
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So number one, we can do the pause and breathe reset.
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When something stressful happens to you, think back to that traffic,
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the email, a rude comment, someone rolling their eyes, just pause.
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So before we let our subconscious and our autopilot jump into our anger and
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waving our arms up and down.
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Pause. Take a moment and just pause before you react.
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Before reacting, take three deep breaths.
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This is kind of acting like a circuit breaker in our emotional regulation.
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We are just pausing before we decide to react.
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We're going to pause and take three deep breaths.
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Inhale for four seconds, hold for four seconds and exhale for six seconds.
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This literally tells your nervous system we're safe, calm down,
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chill out, we've got this.
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So it just resets before you even try
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to react and then I bet anything before
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if you do nothing else I bet you that if you just do this technique you'll probably
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find what's the point in reacting I've had my moment the moment's passed that
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person's driven off fine I'll get on with it so next time someone cuts you off
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just instead of chasing them down with your rage.
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Just do your breaths and I guarantee you you will feel instantly different.
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Instantly different. Number two, the next tool you can use is to name it to
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tame it. This is science-backed here.
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So science shows that when we label our emotions, the intensity drops.
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Isn't that interesting?
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So for example, if you feel stressed, literally say to yourself,
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I'm feeling frustrated or I'm feeling anxious. By naming it, you create a distance.
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You're no longer in it, you're observing it. So you are stepping out of that
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state, the cloudiness of the stress, the whirlwind.
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I always imagine yourself in a stress tornado.
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Now you are stepping out of it and saying, I feel frustrated.
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And your brain, the logic of it, the science kind of goes, yeah, you know what?
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Yeah, you're feeling frustrated. That's okay. You're feeling frustrated.
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Kind of just makes it a lot more logical. So for example, that email lands into your inbox.
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You kind of just say, okay, I am irritated by that email. That's irritation.
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That's not who I am. It's just making me feel irritated. And then you just breathe.
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It sounds so simple, doesn't it? Even me saying it out loud on this podcast,
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I'm like, that's really simple. I feel frustrated.
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You kind of go, yeah, of course you feel frustrated. That's fine.
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That's okay. And then we breathe and we move on.
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Number three is the 90 second rule. Currently, emotions last around 90 seconds in the body.
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Now, I didn't know this before I researched this episode.
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Now, I do already do a lot of the other tools here. I do stop and breathe.
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I do some of the other ones that are coming up. I try and regulate my emotions a lot more.
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I used to get frustrated in the car and, you know, people cutting you up.
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And I was very busy for work when I'm filming.
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I work in film and TV as well. When I'm filming and you're trying to get somewhere
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and people cut you up, you can be like, oh, wave your arms up. down.
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But actually, I've realized that I choose peace and I respect my own peace more.
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So sometimes I just go, do you know what?
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Is it really a big deal? So I do a lot of these anyway. But this is something I didn't know.
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So emotions, they last around 90 seconds in the body.
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So unless we keep feeding them with thoughts.
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So if we keep going, oh, but that person, how dare they?
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They cut me up in traffic how dare they they almost made me crash I can't believe
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they've pulled out on me I had right of way what were they thinking.
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Now, that will be fueling those thoughts. We are feeding the thoughts.
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However, 90 seconds, if we don't react and feed them, feed those emotions with
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those thoughts, if you let yourself fully feel it without adding anything to
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the story, it just passes.
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So just feel, you know, 90 seconds of I feel frustrated.
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I feel angry. I feel anxious. Try even setting a timer if you have to.
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Count to 90 seconds if you have to let yourself
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feel that emotion for 90 seconds without
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giving it any extra thoughts and fueling it
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just give yourself 90 seconds to feel angry to
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feel annoyed to feel stressed then you breathe release and you let it go now
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I was going to do five tools here but I've just thought of something else that
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I do and I do it a lot another thing that I do is I do a huge exhale.
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When I'm stressed or something's happening where I feel like I am spiraling
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or I am feeling frustrated or angry, I stop.
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But what I do is I release all of that negative emotion.
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And the way I do that is by breathing, exhaling out, like a huge release,
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like, come on but I also move
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my body move my arms as if I'm kind of throwing
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out the negative energy I physically
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remove it from myself so what I do I pause and I do a huge exhale first so I'm
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going to do it with you now and if you are feeling this then kind of I move
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my arms up I lift my arms up in the air and then I throw them out when I exhale so I do this I go Bye.
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Hmm and sometimes I make a noise when
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I exhale like I literally go oh I release
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the negativity and then I take a deep breath in and I do it quite slowly so
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it's almost like I imagine that in that exhale I'm releasing all of that negative
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stressful frustrating energy so I'm blowing it out I'm getting it out of my
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body and then when I breathe in,
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I kind of calm my thoughts and I imagine that I'm breathing in really light,
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pure, clean energy and then I release again slowly and it literally,
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I cannot tell you, it literally resets your nervous system.
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So give that one a try, it throws out the negative energy and then it breathes
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in everything good and it's reset the nervous system.
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It's a really, really valuable tool when you're trying to emotionally regulate.
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The next one, number four, that was a sneaky one. So really that was four,
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but the real one four is movement as medicine.
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So stress is stored in the body.
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So shaking it out, dancing in the kitchen, going for a quick walk, it shifts the energy.
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It's a little bit like what I just gave you with my little bonus tool there
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where I actually move my arms and I kind of like flick out the energy.
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This is another way of doing that. Stress literally stores in your body.
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So by moving, shaking, dancing, going for a quick walk, it shifts your energy.
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And I can't tell you how many times just a little kind of dance break.
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If you're working from home, you're feeling stressed.
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Sometimes I put music on, I jump, I bounce around, I move, I shake my hand. I think there's...
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A ritual as well that is it
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somatic movement I think that's a
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way of releasing stress from your body as well I don't know too much about
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that but I guarantee you it works sometimes if
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I've had a zoom meeting it's quite stressful I kind of come off and I move I
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move and if I'm going around and thinking about the meeting in my head I kind
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of move and I bounce around with it and think okay when I'm moving I feel the
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stress dissipate from my body it's almost like imagine.
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Stress, this is the way I do it, I imagine stress is hanging on to your cells in your body.
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When you start moving, start dancing, start walking, it's almost like,
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imagine the little stress cells hanging on to all of the cells in your body.
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When you start moving, it's like, they're like, oh no, I can't hang on anymore.
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They start breaking up, go into the kind of bloodstream.
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I'm just making this up as I go, but this is how I imagine my little stress cells.
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They kind of release into the bloodstream and they dissipate to nothing.
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And your energy, your blood flow gets moving. The stress is no longer hanging
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on and being stored in your body.
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So think of movement as medicine. If you're stressed, move.
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I say this all the time. If you're feeling stuck, anxious, frustrated.
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Stressed, low vibrational feelings, go for a walk, go for a walk, go for a run.
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Even five minutes will do you the world of good. Number five,
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micro moments of calm so you don't
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need a two-hour spa day although oh
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doesn't that just sound lovely this is about kind of small micro moments and
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sprinkling calm throughout of your day so for example you could give yourself
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a two-minute meditation if you're stressed at work take yourself off the cafeteria
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take yourself off to the bathroom if you have to and just give yourself a two-minute meditation.
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Put on some music or just sit in quiet.
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Breathe. Regulate your breathing and just spend a moment visualizing a moment
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of mindfulness or just think of nothing.
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Just step away and just give yourself a two-minute meditation.
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Maybe you can get yourself a cup of tea. This can be a mindful moment and do
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me a favor just don't go on your phone.
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So think of it as a mindful moment, have a cup of tea and I guarantee you it
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will help regulate your emotions.
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Even closing your eyes for 30 seconds between tasks resets your nervous system.
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How easy is that?
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Just close your eyes for a moment. If the stress is getting on top of you,
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close your eyes for 30 seconds.
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You're not scrolling, you're not thinking, you're not trying to rewrite the
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email, you have just stopped and closed your eyes for 30 seconds.
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These tiny little resets will stop the stress from building up into a mountain.
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All of these tools are ways to kind of reset your nervous system.
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Number six is to reframe the story.
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Reframe the story. Now, this is what I do all of the time.
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And I'm not going to lie, sometimes this stresses my partner out when I do this.
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But I think it's just because I've become really good at regulating my emotions.
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So a lot of stress comes from,
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Not from what happens to us, actually, but the story we tell about it.
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So again, let's go back to the someone cutting you up in traffic.
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You can be like, they are so rude. How dare they? How do they treat me like
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this? Do they not know the rules?
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Or this is what I do all the time. Or maybe you might go, maybe they're having a really bad day.
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Maybe they're rushing to see someone in hospital. I hope they're okay.
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Imagine just reframing that story for a moment and just saying,
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wow, maybe they're having a really bad day and they are desperate to get somewhere.
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They haven't even seen me.
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Maybe I could make their day a little bit better by not waving my arms and honking on my horn.
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Tell yourself a story that keeps you from getting angry.
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Now, what's funny about this? I do this all the time. I
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do this all the time and my partner will be driving
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and maybe someone cuts him up and I'll be like
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look before he gets angry or he goes
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to get angry I go maybe they're having a really bad day
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maybe they're maybe they've just lost someone close
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to them maybe they're rushing to the hospital and he used to kind of like it
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but sometimes he looks at me and rolls his eyes and goes maybe they're just
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an idiot Holly and I kind of laugh but you know if by telling yourself this
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story it makes your day better and makes you more magnetic to your manifestations
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and your goals. Does it matter?
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But also, I'll tell you a time, there was a story, and I've just put this in
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my manifesting book, actually. There was a story a few years back,
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And my father, he had lost his partner.
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She unfortunately passed away.
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And it was just a terrible, terrible time and a terrible time for him.
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And my sisters and I, we rushed over there to be with him at home.
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And, you know, as you can imagine, his whole life was turned upside down.
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And we were sitting with him and he had no shopping in the fridge.
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We said, look, we're going to go to the supermarket.
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We're going to fill up his fridge. So my sister and I, we got in the car and
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we drove to the supermarket.
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We were at his in his area
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at his supermarket had no idea how to get into
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the car park took a turning and I realized I
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had driven into the exit so I
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was driving the wrong way into the supermarket now during this
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time all I was thinking about was my poor dad how
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to get him through this really horrible time in his life I just
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wanted to cry for him and I felt really stressed
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I felt really upset and I just wanted to burst into tears and
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then I had driven in this exit right all of
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a sudden I realized oh my goodness I've driven in the wrong way now
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it wasn't dangerous there was loads of room I was driving really slowly but
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I always remember this guy in a car an oncoming
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car so he was driving the correct way out of this exit and I remember him stopping
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and calling me every name under the sun waving his arms up and I'd even put
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my hand up to say I'm really sorry I totally owned up I'm really sorry and he
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was going you this you that And I remember thinking,
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I want to burst into tears.
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It actually makes me genuinely, I'm getting emotional thinking about it.
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And all I wanted to do was wind my window down and say.
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I just wish you could understand what a
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terrible terrible day I'm having and honestly
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it makes me so choked up now thinking about it and
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I just thought if he knew what a
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terrible day I just had and a terrible day our
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family was going through I wondered if he might have
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reacted differently just for a moment maybe not maybe he'd
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still call me an idiot for driving up the wrong way but I
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just thought in that moment it really helps me
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to reframe situations in my day and
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even if you want to relate it to your boss
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sending you difficult emails or ones
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where you feel like they're on your back maybe just think maybe they're
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having a really bad day maybe their boss has
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had a real bad go at them maybe they've had an argument with their partner maybe
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they're getting divorced maybe they're whatever is going on
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maybe just think for a moment do you know what maybe it's
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not personal and create a story in your
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head as another reason why that person isn't rude
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and do you know what it's just a story that
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keeps you from anger and every other kind of emotion that dysregulates you and
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actually create a story that releases you from those holds of stresses I think
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that's a really good way I actually think it's the best way to deal with emotional dysregulation.
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Number seven is to journal the release. So at the end of the day,
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write down what stressed you out.
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Literally have a brain dump, put all of those stresses, those pains of the day
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onto paper, and then either rip it up or just close the journal.
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This is like a symbolic release.
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Otherwise, we carry on those stresses and those emotions and those frustrations onto the following day.
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You don't want to do that. So have a big old brain dump, put it onto paper, release it and let it go.
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Number eight, number eight is to use gratitude as an antidote.
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Oh, I mean, I could talk about gratitude for hours and hours and hours,
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but gratitude is so powerful.
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I'm never going to stop talking about gratitude. I always say at the very least,
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if you do nothing else, then just give gratitude.
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Gratitude shifts your nervous system.
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So after a stressful moment just list
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three things you're grateful for so just stop and
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just go into kind of a gratitude motion and just
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think list three things that you are grateful for
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this is not toxic positivity it is
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balance so you go okay do you know what that moment that was really frustrating
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that really sucked but do you know what here are three things that are still
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good and it just kind of shifts the pendulum onto one of a higher vibrational frequency.
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It shifts from frustration to peace and gratitude cannot be underestimated.
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So just stop and shift your nervous system with gratitude.
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So there's our tools guys. Use any of those today.
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Anything stresses you out this week, you know, this year, your life.
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Let's put some of those tools into good use and just start leading a more peaceful life.
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The more of those tools we can get into our everyday life, the more peaceful
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and calm you're going to be.
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But also you are raising your manifestation game. You are literally removing
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blocks from your manifestations.
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And here is the magic link. When we calm our emotional stress, our energy opens up.
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So instead of being in flight or fight mode. We're in trust and we're in flow.
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And that is when the universe can meet us and kind of help bring our manifestations to fruition.
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Think of it like a radio station and tuning into a radio.
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Stress is static. So you know when you hear all of that white noise,
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that is where your stress lives.
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But calm and peace is like a clear signal.
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When you practice regulating your emotions, you're
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not just improving your well-being well that's a
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start you are improving your well-being but not only that
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you are literally becoming magnetic you are
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tuning into the correct radio station
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you will then notice synchronicities show up more you'll feel more guided instead
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of frazzled and that dream life that you've been trying to manifest it is going
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to land easier with you and And it's not going to be clouded in this tornado of emotional stress.
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Can you see that clarity becomes your way forward?
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Clarity gives you this clear road, this road that kind of journeys us to our
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manifestation end goal.
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Here is your challenge for this week. Just kind of really tune in to any stressful moments.
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Think about the things that are showing up in our day-to-day life.
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So maybe give yourself a day, whether that's today or tomorrow,
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and just tune in to what is making you stressed.
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And do these things really matter
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when it's little old you in this giant universe? Do they really matter?
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Can I reframe it? Can I stop and pause and change the narrative?
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So just catch one stressful moment per day and practice one of the tools.
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So for example, let's think today if you hit traffic, just stop,
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pause and try your three deep breaths.
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Maybe you get that annoying email from your boss that really feels stressful or passive aggressive.
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Let's think about it. We stop and we name it. I
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am feeling anxious and we reframe it
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maybe my boss has had a really bad day maybe they're
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having relation problem maybe they're having relationship problems at home how
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about you're having a spiral of anxiety why don't you move and kind of get those
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stresses out of your body dance it out for two minutes put on your favorite
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song dance it out for two minutes in the kitchen and let that anxiety disappear.
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Then I want you to just notice how different your day feels.
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So notice how your energy shifts and watch how the universe responds.
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So this is a little task for you. So you're catching one of the stressful moments
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in your day and you're going to use one of the tools to help practice changing the energy.
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Then you're going to notice and note down how different your day feels and notice
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how the universe, well, firstly, notice how your energy shifts and then watch
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how the universe responds.
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So are you getting signs and synchronicities? Are you having a few more lucky moments in your day?
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Because when you regulate your emotions, you're not just calmer,
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but you are clearer, you are lighter, you are on the correct radio station and
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you become way more magnetic. Has that changed your life?
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Because if it hasn't, once you start doing these things, I guarantee you,
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you are going to watch amazing shifts happen in your day-to-day life.
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Well, that is it for today's episodes. I hope we are feeling calmer.
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I hope we are feeling lighter.
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If this episode has resonated with you, let's share it and reduce some stress.
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Maybe if you have a stressed friend, a stressed relative, a stressed partner,
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they will thank you later.
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Maybe send this episode to them. And if you haven't yet, please make sure you're
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following on my Instagram at the Holly Edwards and at the dark manifestation station.
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Let me know if any of these work for you. And keep
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watching because I'm always releasing free content on
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my Instagram because I just want you guys to be manifesting
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and thriving and just get rid
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of that stress throw it in the bin we do not want it here so
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take a deep breath with me right now
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let's calm our nervous systems are you ready let's inhale and we are exhaling
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there we go you have got this guys so until next time stay calm stay magnetic
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and keep on manifesting you've got this.
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Music.