Latest / Hurdle with Emily Abbate / 73. Dee Murthy, CEO and Co-Founder of Young & Reckless and Menlo Club
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- 0:01Speaker 1: Hurdlers.
- 0:02Speaker 2: Emily Avadi here with episode seventy three of Hurdle, a
- 0:06Speaker 2: podcast that talks to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs
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- 0:17Speaker 2: we're at episode seventy three. These numbers are really tripping
- 0:20Speaker 2: me out. Today's episode is with d Murphy. He's the
- 0:23Speaker 2: co founder of Menlo Club and Young and Reckless, both
- 0:26Speaker 2: California based clothing brands, in addition to a slew of
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- 1:48Speaker 2: you train. All right, So, d the guy wears a
- 1:52Speaker 2: lot of hats. He's at the helm of five to
- 1:54Speaker 2: four Group, which is the holding company for a slew
- 1:57Speaker 2: of fashion brands.
- 1:59Speaker 1: He's also a pot podcast.
- 2:00Speaker 2: You can find him over on his show Detour, as
- 2:03Speaker 2: well as one of my personal favorites that I've mentioned
- 2:05Speaker 2: here on the pod war called Group Chat. Group Chat
- 2:08Speaker 2: is thrice weekly, three times a week. It's a news
- 2:12Speaker 2: podcast that he does with his brother Anen and Chris
- 2:14Speaker 2: Drama Peth.
- 2:16Speaker 1: Where nothing is off limits I think literally.
- 2:19Speaker 2: In the show bio it says something like from DUIs
- 2:21Speaker 2: to IPOs in terms of subjects, and I just really
- 2:25Speaker 2: dig their no bis approach. Also, D He's got an
- 2:29Speaker 2: active wear a company called grand A c in the
- 2:31Speaker 2: five to four portfolio. So yeah, the guy isn't busy
- 2:35Speaker 2: at all. I recorded with D when I was in
- 2:37Speaker 2: La selfishly again because like I said, I'm a huge
- 2:40Speaker 2: fan of the shows that he does, and I just
- 2:42Speaker 2: thought that it would be a good time and a
- 2:44Speaker 2: good conversation. In today's episode, De tells me all about
- 2:47Speaker 2: how he got to this position in charge of a
- 2:49Speaker 2: lot of these big brands. We chat about the hard
- 2:52Speaker 2: work and the late nights and the networking and all
- 2:55Speaker 2: of the opportunity cost that comes with doing something that
- 2:58Speaker 2: you really love.
- 3:00Speaker 1: To talk about how when he.
- 3:01Speaker 2: First met his now wife he wasn't, as he says,
- 3:03Speaker 2: super mature or ready to be in the relationship. And
- 3:06Speaker 2: going through that in addition to managing the financial crisis
- 3:11Speaker 2: and building all these businesses, it was really overwhelming for him.
- 3:14Speaker 2: He was flipping through a magazine one day and saw
- 3:18Speaker 2: an advertisement for a triathlon and figured, hey, maybe now
- 3:21Speaker 2: is the time that doing something like this would be
- 3:24Speaker 2: a good call. And so through training for that, it
- 3:27Speaker 2: helped him get on track, get his ducks in a row.
- 3:29Speaker 2: And we talk about what he says is the single
- 3:31Speaker 2: best thing he's done in his career, which is the
- 3:34Speaker 2: run club that goes along with that active where line
- 3:37Speaker 2: grand Ac. We chat about how that's changed him as
- 3:39Speaker 2: a business person, and like I said, it's just a
- 3:42Speaker 2: really good fun Convod is a no holding back sort
- 3:47Speaker 2: of guy. He's the kind of person that tells you
- 3:49Speaker 2: what's on his mind and offers up the advice that
- 3:51Speaker 2: we probably all need to hear. And so I think
- 3:54Speaker 2: you guys are really going to dig it as always,
- 3:56Speaker 2: you know the drill. As you are listening today, tag
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- 4:30Speaker 1: Huh, that was a lot with that. Let's get the hurdling.
- 4:40Speaker 3: Today.
- 4:41Speaker 2: I'm sitting down with d Murphy. D how would you
- 4:43Speaker 2: like me to introduce you?
- 4:45Speaker 3: That's a great question. I don't know.
- 4:47Speaker 1: You do a lot of things.
- 4:49Speaker 3: I would say fashion entrepreneur.
- 4:52Speaker 2: Okay, what are some of the brands you're entrepreneuring behind?
- 5:00Speaker 3: First brand is a brand that we started seventeen years
- 5:02Speaker 3: ago called five four that has morphed into a subscription
- 5:06Speaker 3: service called the Menlo Club. Under that, we have New Republic,
- 5:09Speaker 3: which is a shoe brand, Grand Athletic Club, which is
- 5:12Speaker 3: their active wear brand. And then we'll also co owned
- 5:17Speaker 3: a streetwear brand called Young and Reckless. And we are
- 5:20Speaker 3: currently incubating a half a dozen new brands at all
- 5:23Speaker 3: different price points, all different categories, just to kind of
- 5:27Speaker 3: find our next generation of brands we're going to grow.
- 5:30Speaker 1: It's a lot of stuff, A lot of stuff.
- 5:32Speaker 2: Okay, So background on how I'm sitting here. A girlfriend
- 5:36Speaker 2: of mine a year and a half ago put me
- 5:37Speaker 2: onto short story long I obviously from short story, long
- 5:41Speaker 2: found group Chat. Group Chat is your what? How did
- 5:45Speaker 2: you classify the other day on the.
- 5:46Speaker 3: Show in terms of how we treated?
- 5:50Speaker 1: How do you what you?
- 5:51Speaker 3: What?
- 5:51Speaker 1: Would you just?
- 5:52Speaker 2: It's a news podcast that launches three times a week.
- 5:54Speaker 2: But I feel like you said news for millennials.
- 5:56Speaker 1: Is that what you said?
- 5:57Speaker 3: I think we might have said something like that. The
- 5:59Speaker 3: best way to explain it is it's complex meets Bloomberg
- 6:04Speaker 3: with heavy opinions.
- 6:05Speaker 1: With heavy opinions and some yelling, love arguing.
- 6:10Speaker 2: Yeah, so I listened to group Chat all three times
- 6:12Speaker 2: every week.
- 6:14Speaker 1: You guys came through New York.
- 6:15Speaker 2: I was like, I need to come to this meetup,
- 6:18Speaker 2: even though I felt as though I was going to
- 6:21Speaker 2: be the only woman walking into a group of men,
- 6:23Speaker 2: which was pretty.
- 6:24Speaker 1: Much the case. Yes, and now I'm in LA and
- 6:27Speaker 1: we're sitting here, which is dope.
- 6:28Speaker 2: Also shout out to Phil because he hooked us up
- 6:31Speaker 2: as well. So thanks Phil. If you haven't listened to
- 6:34Speaker 2: the Tartar Project, check out d over there.
- 6:37Speaker 3: Yeah he's awesome.
- 6:38Speaker 2: So d you don't just all of a sudden start
- 6:42Speaker 2: being an entrepreneur for eight thousand fashion Active where brands
- 6:46Speaker 2: at lunch So were you always interested in fashion?
- 6:48Speaker 3: Not at all?
- 6:49Speaker 1: Where are you from? Originally I grew up.
- 6:51Speaker 3: In a suburb of La called Granada Hills. It's the
- 6:54Speaker 3: equivalent of like any American suburb. Just do you play sports,
- 7:00Speaker 3: you go to school, you read pizzas on Friday, like,
- 7:02Speaker 3: it's pretty regular childhood. YEA had no interest in fashion.
- 7:07Speaker 3: Didn't even have interest in fashion in college. Actually was
- 7:09Speaker 3: intimidated by the entire shopping process growing up. Why probably money. Yeah,
- 7:17Speaker 3: Like I had equated looking good to having money. I
- 7:22Speaker 3: just didn't think fast fashion probably when I was growing
- 7:26Speaker 3: up didn't really exist. You know, it started to exist
- 7:29Speaker 3: for women in Forever twenty one in the nineties, but
- 7:32Speaker 3: it didn't exist for men. You had stuff like Banana
- 7:35Speaker 3: and Gap and Express, but they weren't like so inexpensive
- 7:39Speaker 3: that you could buy all your clothes from there. At
- 7:41Speaker 3: least I couldn't, So I reverted to places like Old
- 7:45Speaker 3: Navy or TJ. Max. And that's where like I ended
- 7:48Speaker 3: up getting most of my clothes. So it was more
- 7:50Speaker 3: just out of necessity than I had bought clothes, not
- 7:52Speaker 3: because I was really into the style.
- 7:56Speaker 2: But even though you were shopping at these like lower
- 7:59Speaker 2: price points places. Did you really care about how you looked?
- 8:03Speaker 1: Really?
- 8:04Speaker 3: I look back at my pictures. I was a very
- 8:06Speaker 3: poorly dressed individual. I had bad taste, I had a
- 8:10Speaker 3: lot of bad haircuts. It was a combination of all
- 8:13Speaker 3: that stuff. It's funny that now we dress hundreds of
- 8:18Speaker 3: thousands of men all over the world.
- 8:19Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very different, but obviously you're not the person
- 8:23Speaker 2: that's necessarily like designing what they're putting on their bodies.
- 8:26Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's funny. When I started the business, I
- 8:29Speaker 3: never viewed myself as a creative person, But today one
- 8:33Speaker 3: hundred percent view myself as a creative person. I am
- 8:36Speaker 3: I geek out of clothes like a designer does. I'm
- 8:40Speaker 3: very involved in the creative process now. But when I started,
- 8:43Speaker 3: I didn't know, or I thought I didn't know. I'd
- 8:47Speaker 3: have the confidence to think I knew. But now I've
- 8:49Speaker 3: seen so many seasons of so many brands and our
- 8:53Speaker 3: own brands, what works, what doesn't work. I've now developed
- 8:56Speaker 3: my style and sense of what I think look good,
- 9:00Speaker 3: so I'm able to inject that right.
- 9:02Speaker 1: Okay, so what did you go to college for.
- 9:05Speaker 3: I went to an underground business program at USC and
- 9:10Speaker 3: I actually was in the entrepreneurship program, so I knew
- 9:12Speaker 3: I was going to start a business.
- 9:14Speaker 2: And people say a lot of the time, like when
- 9:17Speaker 2: you're an entrepreneur, like I knew from a young age
- 9:19Speaker 2: that I wanted to like start something, Yeah, Like did
- 9:22Speaker 2: you feel that way?
- 9:22Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I always knew that that was going
- 9:26Speaker 3: to be a path at some point. So when I
- 9:29Speaker 3: went to high school in the late nineties and I
- 9:33Speaker 3: was interested in finance, I actually honestly always wanted to
- 9:36Speaker 3: be an investment banker, Like that was my dream. I
- 9:40Speaker 3: felt that that I would be really really good at
- 9:43Speaker 3: In hindsight, I probably would have gotten way richer if
- 9:46Speaker 3: I'd stayed investment banking. I wouldn't have had as much fun.
- 9:49Speaker 1: But the.
- 9:52Speaker 3: Cliche, it is like the art of putting people together,
- 9:56Speaker 3: the art of the deal was something that I was
- 9:57Speaker 3: fascinated with. And then I started learning about all these
- 10:00Speaker 3: new technology companies in the late nineties like Yahoo and Aol,
- 10:04Speaker 3: and these young entrepreneurs were wild successful. They kind of
- 10:10Speaker 3: didn't have experience, they were green, and I was like,
- 10:12Speaker 3: oh my god, the world's changing. As long as you
- 10:14Speaker 3: have a good idea and execute it, you could you
- 10:17Speaker 3: could actually be that person, and that's when it kind
- 10:20Speaker 3: of drove me on the path of entrepreneurship.
- 10:21Speaker 2: Okay, so you're graduating college and how do you where
- 10:26Speaker 2: are you going?
- 10:27Speaker 3: I had already started my brand five four with my
- 10:29Speaker 3: business partner. Wow, senior year of college.
- 10:31Speaker 1: So how did that even come to happen?
- 10:33Speaker 3: It was a business plan we had to write for
- 10:35Speaker 3: USC We write that business plan. Halfway through this the year,
- 10:40Speaker 3: my partner and I say, let's just do it. Doesn't
- 10:43Speaker 3: look that hard. So we actually went got some T
- 10:45Speaker 3: shirts printed, took them around campus, and sold them to
- 10:48Speaker 3: our friends, and so we started spring of two thousand
- 10:51Speaker 3: and two.
- 10:51Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, so I just started out as T shirts.
- 10:55Speaker 3: T shirts, and while we finished the school year, we
- 10:59Speaker 3: finished up our business. We ended up winning like best
- 11:01Speaker 3: Business Plan, so we were like, oh, we're going to
- 11:04Speaker 3: be successful. We're going to go out and start this business.
- 11:07Speaker 3: Max had our credit cards to sign up for a
- 11:09Speaker 3: trade show that happened in August of two thousand and two,
- 11:12Speaker 3: because that's where all the buyers, where all the retailers were,
- 11:15Speaker 3: so we were like, we have to go. We have
- 11:17Speaker 3: to be there, that's where everyone else is. We go there,
- 11:20Speaker 3: terrible experience struggled, Like you wouldn't believe those four days.
- 11:24Speaker 1: Had you been to a trade show before to see
- 11:26Speaker 1: like what it even would be like.
- 11:27Speaker 3: Yeah, So that February we snuck into Magic with some
- 11:31Speaker 3: friends and we wanted to see for ourselves what it
- 11:35Speaker 3: was like. And we were like, okay, we could do this.
- 11:38Speaker 3: I don't know why we thought we could do it,
- 11:39Speaker 3: because that's when the trade show business was booming and
- 11:42Speaker 3: need these huge brands Calvin, Tommy, Polo, Mega Boots, but
- 11:46Speaker 3: we thought we could compete with those people.
- 11:48Speaker 1: So you go and those four days are hell.
- 11:50Speaker 3: Hell, write two orders, spent the last money we had.
- 11:55Speaker 3: My mom had to come fly and bail us out
- 11:58Speaker 3: of like a bill. We owed, had to go get
- 12:01Speaker 3: lunch for us because we were so broke, Like it was.
- 12:03Speaker 3: It was a sad scene.
- 12:04Speaker 1: How do you come back from that?
- 12:06Speaker 3: We had graduated college. We told everyone we're going to
- 12:08Speaker 3: start this fashion brand. So it was ego. That's what
- 12:12Speaker 3: came back from it. Like we weren't going to tell
- 12:14Speaker 3: our friends we failed, right, We just said, oh, we
- 12:18Speaker 3: had a slow start, okay, and we just continue to
- 12:21Speaker 3: do it. And then next in six months was the
- 12:24Speaker 3: next show. Also terrible. Six months, the next show also terrible.
- 12:30Speaker 3: We kept going and it wasn't until about two and
- 12:33Speaker 3: a half years later do we even get the first
- 12:35Speaker 3: sense of like, oh my god, this is about to work.
- 12:39Speaker 2: So okay, first of all, talk about a lesson in
- 12:42Speaker 2: that like how many times are it going to fail
- 12:43Speaker 2: before it's like, Okay, I think something good.
- 12:46Speaker 1: Is happening here.
- 12:46Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm interested because is there no other route
- 12:49Speaker 2: to go aside from like the trade show route?
- 12:52Speaker 3: Well, in that era, there wasn't. God, today's world is
- 12:55Speaker 3: completely different. Yeah, he would. I would never tell anyone
- 12:58Speaker 3: to go to a trade show. I would. You would
- 13:00Speaker 3: go direct to the consumer. If you have an engaged audience,
- 13:03Speaker 3: you should be able to sell them product. Whereas in
- 13:08Speaker 3: the previous world there was gatekeepers, and the gatekeepers were
- 13:10Speaker 3: the retailers, and after retailers, there were buyers, and those
- 13:13Speaker 3: people controlled what got on the floor of Macy's or
- 13:17Speaker 3: Bloomingdale's or your local denim shop.
- 13:21Speaker 2: Okay, so after two and a half years, you're like,
- 13:24Speaker 2: this feels like something's happening.
- 13:26Speaker 1: So then what happened?
- 13:27Speaker 3: So the first thing that actually happened was we actually
- 13:30Speaker 3: got our first investor and It was by Fluke, someone
- 13:35Speaker 3: that had gone to my high school ten years before
- 13:38Speaker 3: me and was a retailer and a manufacturer. Took a
- 13:43Speaker 3: liking to my business partner and I and decided to
- 13:46Speaker 3: help us out. For to this day, we don't know why.
- 13:50Speaker 3: He had no reason to help us out.
- 13:51Speaker 1: Well did you even go to him and look for money?
- 13:55Speaker 3: At one point I just told him, hey, man, we're struggling.
- 13:58Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. And he's like, come
- 14:00Speaker 3: meet with me next week. You and your partner talentmar
- 14:03Speaker 3: whole pitch. He's like, look, you guys don't have any
- 14:06Speaker 3: real talent, but I love your tenacity and your aggressiveness
- 14:11Speaker 3: and trying to make this work. I think that's the
- 14:14Speaker 3: most unique thing you guys have. I've met a lot
- 14:16Speaker 3: of people in fashion. You guys have something special. Took
- 14:19Speaker 3: a chance on us. He was launching a new brand
- 14:22Speaker 3: with another manufacturer. The two of them actually financed our business.
- 14:26Speaker 3: To go, make whatever you want, and if you sell it,
- 14:30Speaker 3: you guys can grow. If not, you're out of business.
- 14:32Speaker 2: That's like one of those things you see in a
- 14:34Speaker 2: movie and you like dream that someone will do this
- 14:36Speaker 2: for you.
- 14:36Speaker 1: It's like in New York.
- 14:38Speaker 2: When I just move there, I'm like walking around looking
- 14:40Speaker 2: at all these beautiful apartments and you see like a
- 14:42Speaker 2: Craigslist listing, and you're like, maybe if I email this person,
- 14:45Speaker 2: they'll take pity on me and put me up in
- 14:46Speaker 2: this like.
- 14:47Speaker 1: Eight grand a month spot.
- 14:49Speaker 2: Yeah, just because it happens in the movie, It's totally
- 14:51Speaker 2: gonna happen.
- 14:52Speaker 3: And I would say that what we experienced was movie
- 14:55Speaker 3: like yeah, because the ending was also very dramatic with
- 14:58Speaker 3: that particular partner.
- 15:00Speaker 1: Okay, what happened.
- 15:01Speaker 3: They went broke out and we had like sixty days
- 15:05Speaker 3: to find a new investor, not even sixty thirty days
- 15:07Speaker 3: to find a new investor. That was in two thousand
- 15:09Speaker 3: and seven, so when the world was falling apart, they
- 15:13Speaker 3: were falling apart, and we knew we had to move
- 15:15Speaker 3: fast and find an exit. Luckily, we found who are
- 15:19Speaker 3: still to this day our investors. But it all happened
- 15:23Speaker 3: from us just going out there and building relationships and
- 15:26Speaker 3: connecting with this person that finally said, okay, I'll give
- 15:29Speaker 3: this guy a shot.
- 15:30Speaker 2: What actually right now is happening also in your personal life,
- 15:33Speaker 2: because I know you said there was like a lot
- 15:35Speaker 2: of stuff going on at this point.
- 15:36Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean at that point, we were still financially struggling.
- 15:40Speaker 3: You know, we're in fashion, and you have to live
- 15:43Speaker 3: a certain life in fashion, and when you don't have money,
- 15:45Speaker 3: it's really really difficult to do it, and so anything
- 15:48Speaker 3: from traveling to going out it was really challenging. Well, luckily,
- 15:52Speaker 3: we had friends specifically in La that were in nightlife
- 15:54Speaker 3: that kind of took care of us and allowed us
- 15:57Speaker 3: to build our brand through that scene. But the reality
- 16:00Speaker 3: was we were just struggling financially struggling, you know, just
- 16:05Speaker 3: to kind of keep our head above water, which is
- 16:08Speaker 3: a common thing when you're an entrepreneur, like everything's a struggle.
- 16:11Speaker 3: You just get out of beds to struggle. And we
- 16:13Speaker 3: were just having very little success. And then when the
- 16:17Speaker 3: brand finally started having success and we were able to
- 16:20Speaker 3: take proper salaries and all of a sudden, our confidence
- 16:24Speaker 3: went up and we bought some fancy new toys and
- 16:27Speaker 3: started enjoying life a little bit. And then as soon
- 16:30Speaker 3: as that happened, the recession hit and everything that we
- 16:34Speaker 3: were had kind of worked for and built momentum on
- 16:37Speaker 3: just disappeared overnight and we were back to square one.
- 16:40Speaker 3: The challenge is this time we got a taste of
- 16:42Speaker 3: the good life. Yeah, we had taste of living well
- 16:45Speaker 3: and traveling and having nice things, and then all of
- 16:48Speaker 3: a sudden, pretty much those things are taken away from us.
- 16:52Speaker 3: And that's when life just became very difficult because you're,
- 16:57Speaker 3: you know, at that point, we were twenty nine years old.
- 17:00Speaker 3: We're becoming adults, you know. I think specifically for men,
- 17:04Speaker 3: you don't really become an adult till you're like in
- 17:06Speaker 3: your thirties at least. Yeah, and even then it's a stretch.
- 17:11Speaker 3: I could safely say I didn't feel like a man
- 17:14Speaker 3: till like three four years ago. You know, it's just
- 17:17Speaker 3: thirty eight. It's like in terms of like responsibility and
- 17:21Speaker 3: how I held myself accountable and things like that. Those
- 17:24Speaker 3: are all recent things in my life, and that's probably
- 17:27Speaker 3: me getting married and having a child. But at twenty nine,
- 17:30Speaker 3: I felt like a kid. I was kind of just
- 17:33Speaker 3: bummed out at where I am with my life at
- 17:35Speaker 3: twenty nine. I also think specifically men go through this
- 17:39Speaker 3: phase at that age. I was it's like a thirty
- 17:43Speaker 3: year old crisis. If you talk to and I was
- 17:45Speaker 3: like I started witnessing it happened upon myself. But I
- 17:49Speaker 3: also happened to a lot of my friends where everyone
- 17:52Speaker 3: was kind of in a funk, and even it wasn't
- 17:54Speaker 3: even if it wasn't financial related, people were just in
- 17:57Speaker 3: a funk. And I think it's like this expectation since
- 18:00Speaker 3: we have as people at thirty, we should have been
- 18:03Speaker 3: doing something, because when you were young, you're like, by thirty,
- 18:05Speaker 3: I'm want to do this, and then when you haven't
- 18:08Speaker 3: done any of it, you're just like, WHOA.
- 18:10Speaker 1: What was one thing you wanted to do by thirty
- 18:12Speaker 1: that you hadn't done.
- 18:13Speaker 3: It was probably all financially really, like I thought I
- 18:15Speaker 3: have X dollars at my bank account, or I thought
- 18:18Speaker 3: I would have sold my business, or I would have retired.
- 18:20Speaker 1: I wrote it hired.
- 18:21Speaker 3: I wrote an article that got published when I was
- 18:23Speaker 3: sixteen years old, how I'm going to retire thirty. And
- 18:26Speaker 3: I wrote down this amazing plan got picked up by newspapers.
- 18:29Speaker 1: Everywhere, newspapers everywhere.
- 18:30Speaker 3: Yeah, it was crazy because they were like, why is
- 18:32Speaker 3: this sixteen year old kid telling me how he's going
- 18:34Speaker 3: to retire thirty? So it's kind of obnoxious. Yeah, And
- 18:37Speaker 3: you know, I started reflecting. I was like, I wasn't
- 18:40Speaker 3: even close. And I met retirement from a financial standpoint,
- 18:44Speaker 3: not from like a mind standpoint, and I was like
- 18:48Speaker 3: those things. Unfortunately, you equip most of your goals with
- 18:52Speaker 3: financial at that point in your life, and so you're
- 18:56Speaker 3: just in a funk at that point because you're just like,
- 18:58Speaker 3: I'm not even anywhere year where I thought. In fact,
- 19:01Speaker 3: I owed millions of dollars in debt in our business
- 19:04Speaker 3: at twenty nine.
- 19:05Speaker 1: And this is around the time that you met your wife, right,
- 19:08Speaker 1: your now wife.
- 19:09Speaker 3: Yeah, so we probably met. I was probably twenty nine
- 19:12Speaker 3: years old or twenty eight years old actually, and which
- 19:17Speaker 3: we hit it off immediately between my business struggling financial things,
- 19:23Speaker 3: and also I think at the first time in my life,
- 19:25Speaker 3: I had like also kind of come out of my
- 19:28Speaker 3: shell as a person, so I was more social, I
- 19:33Speaker 3: was out and about, and so I wasn't even mature
- 19:35Speaker 3: enough to handle a relationship. So we end up dating
- 19:40Speaker 3: for a while for a few months, and then I
- 19:45Speaker 3: completely immature in the way I handled the situation. I
- 19:47Speaker 3: was a selfish person. I wasn't, you know, truly like
- 19:52Speaker 3: committed to a relationship because I was selfish. I was
- 19:55Speaker 3: a selfish person at that point. So she obviously sees
- 19:57Speaker 3: and she's like this your child, I'm out.
- 20:00Speaker 1: I'm out.
- 20:01Speaker 3: And it was like a hard cut off from both
- 20:03Speaker 3: of us because for me at that time, relationships were
- 20:06Speaker 3: like I did see the point of things lingering on.
- 20:08Speaker 3: It's like it's only going to make me feel worse.
- 20:11Speaker 3: So it was a hard cut off for both of us.
- 20:13Speaker 3: Don't speak for three four years, and uh, kind of
- 20:18Speaker 3: figuring out my business, but I really also try to
- 20:23Speaker 3: figure out myself. It's like I'd never like thought about
- 20:27Speaker 3: self improvement or why you know all those things that
- 20:30Speaker 3: like I don't know. At that age, I probably made
- 20:33Speaker 3: fun of yeah, and I was like I need to
- 20:35Speaker 3: improve myself? How do I do it? And I had
- 20:37Speaker 3: no idea. It wasn't like today we just go on
- 20:39Speaker 3: Instagram and four hundred people are shouting at you to
- 20:42Speaker 3: improve your life, so literally shouting shouting, I go down
- 20:47Speaker 3: a I was flying back from a New Year's Eve
- 20:50Speaker 3: trip with my best friend. We went to India. Year's Yeah,
- 20:55Speaker 3: I have I have taken very glamorous New Year's Eve trip.
- 20:58Speaker 3: That's that was the thing. When when I was single,
- 21:00Speaker 3: that or even before we got we had a baby.
- 21:03Speaker 3: My wife and I always did so. I would always
- 21:05Speaker 3: leave the country for New Year's Eve when I had
- 21:08Speaker 3: no money or I had I had money, I would
- 21:10Speaker 3: just do it. And we're flying back and I was
- 21:13Speaker 3: reading Esquire and I see the activity that all type
- 21:20Speaker 3: A personalities are doing. I was like, huh, I'm gonna
- 21:23Speaker 3: read this article and it said triathlons. And of course, conveniently,
- 21:26Speaker 3: at the next page you flip it over as an
- 21:27Speaker 3: ad for the Nautica Miami Beach Triathlon that's happening in
- 21:32Speaker 3: twelve weeks.
- 21:33Speaker 1: How strategic, strategic.
- 21:35Speaker 3: And you didn't have Wi Fi on the planes. Then
- 21:39Speaker 3: I rip the magazine, go home, and I signed up
- 21:44Speaker 3: for the triathlon. And I said, I'm going to do
- 21:46Speaker 3: the triathlon twelve weeks. I tell a friend of mine.
- 21:49Speaker 3: He actually ends up doing it with me. You know,
- 21:52Speaker 3: it's swimming, running, biking and things that I really I
- 21:56Speaker 3: was pretty out of shape.
- 21:57Speaker 2: I was going to ask you, like, what was your
- 21:58Speaker 2: experience with those activities Before this point.
- 22:01Speaker 3: I was active, you know, I went to the gym,
- 22:03Speaker 3: but it was like a fake gym workout, like I
- 22:06Speaker 3: just equinox just to look be seen there. Yeah, yeah,
- 22:12Speaker 3: it wasn't actually I would do like twenty minute, thirty
- 22:14Speaker 3: minutes on a treadmill, like run slow, whatever, fast forward,
- 22:17Speaker 3: I legit, train hard. Finished the triathlon never felt better
- 22:23Speaker 3: like it was transformational in how my life changed, because
- 22:28Speaker 3: it started a snowball of things in my life. One
- 22:33Speaker 3: I felt really happy about myself because I was in shape.
- 22:37Speaker 3: I felt good. I've also looked a lot better. I
- 22:39Speaker 3: looked just healthier. And then my business also just so
- 22:45Speaker 3: happened to start clicking then too. So some can say
- 22:49Speaker 3: they're separated. I think they're connected, Oh totally, because your
- 22:52Speaker 3: energy also attracts that. Yeah, and we end up launching
- 22:56Speaker 3: Young and Reckless that year, and it takes off and
- 23:01Speaker 3: makes enough money to kind of save the business and
- 23:06Speaker 3: created a ton of momentum for the next ten years.
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- 24:39Speaker 2: I totally think that the self confidence thing and how
- 24:42Speaker 2: you present yourself and everything else, how you show up
- 24:44Speaker 2: for everything else that you do, are completely related. Like
- 24:48Speaker 2: for me when I lost weight in college, after I
- 24:51Speaker 2: lost weight in college. It was like, Okay, well now
- 24:54Speaker 2: I understand that I'm worthy of my own investment. So
- 24:56Speaker 2: now that I believe in that, well let me put
- 24:58Speaker 2: my best foot forward in going for an internship and
- 25:02Speaker 2: getting my first job and like whatever it was that
- 25:04Speaker 2: I wanted to go get because I was like, well,
- 25:06Speaker 2: I was like, I'm doing the best I can with
- 25:07Speaker 2: what I have.
- 25:08Speaker 3: Yeah, you know exactly. And I think that's why, as
- 25:12Speaker 3: you know, full full circle, why we have this one
- 25:15Speaker 3: club that we'll talk more about soon. But it's so
- 25:19Speaker 3: transformational how your health changes your mindset.
- 25:24Speaker 2: Yeah, totally. Okay, so you did the triathlon. Things are
- 25:28Speaker 2: going good, and how do you and Haley reconnect?
- 25:31Speaker 3: We end up? I hear through the grapevine she had
- 25:35Speaker 3: broken up with a boyfriend.
- 25:36Speaker 1: Through the grapevine.
- 25:37Speaker 3: Yeah, and I obviously at that I sent an AOL
- 25:40Speaker 3: instant message Oh yeah wow tbt. Yeah, and I was
- 25:47Speaker 3: like we we always enjoyed like hiking or activities. So
- 25:51Speaker 3: I was like, let's go for a hike.
- 25:53Speaker 1: We go for it was like my dream first date.
- 25:56Speaker 2: I'm like waiting, like spoiler alert, any men, so please
- 26:01Speaker 2: ask me to go on a hike. Yeah, maybe not
- 26:03Speaker 2: like one hundred and ten New York City day. But
- 26:05Speaker 2: I'm just saying, we can take a train to Cold Spring. Yeah,
- 26:08Speaker 2: go on a hike. It's so easy. Like I feel
- 26:10Speaker 2: like whenever a guy tells me that I asked a
- 26:12Speaker 2: girl to go on a hike, I'm like, thank you.
- 26:13Speaker 1: We like someone.
- 26:14Speaker 3: It's actually much less pressure than an actual date.
- 26:19Speaker 1: You're doing something.
- 26:20Speaker 3: Yeah, you're doing something, and it you know, I don't know,
- 26:23Speaker 3: it's a great.
- 26:23Speaker 1: Icebreaker, pro pro hiking.
- 26:25Speaker 3: So we went on a hike, We went for lunch,
- 26:28Speaker 3: We ended up getting lost, so we would get It
- 26:30Speaker 3: was a four hour hike, and after that that was it.
- 26:34Speaker 3: We were together. We dated for a few years, got
- 26:38Speaker 3: married three years ago, and I have a baby that's
- 26:42Speaker 3: about to be too.
- 26:43Speaker 1: Wow. Time flies when you're having fun.
- 26:45Speaker 3: Yeah, And it really just all those things all happen
- 26:49Speaker 3: because I think, you know, I focused on myself first
- 26:52Speaker 3: and got my shit together.
- 26:53Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's pretty admirable that, like your decision at
- 26:57Speaker 2: the time when everything was like going to hell, was
- 26:59Speaker 2: like I'm going to sign up for this triathlon instead
- 27:02Speaker 2: of I'm gonna party completely all the time every single day,
- 27:06Speaker 2: which I'm sure there was like some of that, the
- 27:08Speaker 2: fact that you leaned into this training for something that
- 27:12Speaker 2: you would never even aspire to do off the bat.
- 27:15Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty.
- 27:16Speaker 3: Dope because I felt like whenever I have ruts in
- 27:20Speaker 3: my life, I feel like I have to do a
- 27:21Speaker 3: one eighty and go a different direction. Yeah, because I
- 27:25Speaker 3: don't think it makes sense to Because if status quo
- 27:29Speaker 3: is not working, then it's time to make a change.
- 27:32Speaker 3: And we do that in our business all the time.
- 27:35Speaker 3: We will make the most drastic decisions that will hurt
- 27:38Speaker 3: in the short term, but it's allowed us to run
- 27:42Speaker 3: the same exact business for seventeen years and probably it'll
- 27:45Speaker 3: allow us allowed to do it for thirty years.
- 27:47Speaker 2: So at that time, when you after the triathlon, your
- 27:51Speaker 2: business getting better, you launch young and reckless. Is this
- 27:55Speaker 2: when Grandez comes into the picture?
- 27:57Speaker 3: No, not even so. What comes next is our subscription concept,
- 28:02Speaker 3: which was called at the time five to four Club,
- 28:05Speaker 3: which we had developed because we saw someone doing it
- 28:09Speaker 3: in the women's space. So in twenty twelve we launched
- 28:13Speaker 3: the club and for eighteen months after that we just
- 28:19Speaker 3: kind of learned and tested, like how does this world work?
- 28:22Speaker 3: Because we were always like wholesale, we had never sold
- 28:25Speaker 3: direct to the consumer at scale, so like, what does
- 28:28Speaker 3: it look like when you merchandise and customer service and
- 28:31Speaker 3: develop a website? And in twenty twelve, which is only
- 28:34Speaker 3: seven years ago, but like, there wasn't the tools. There
- 28:37Speaker 3: wasn't as easy as shopify is, where you just sign
- 28:40Speaker 3: up for a website and sell shit. Like, it was
- 28:42Speaker 3: hard to develop the platform that we used to build
- 28:45Speaker 3: the subscription service. So we took eighteen months to really
- 28:49Speaker 3: understand how to do that. But we had launched it, tested,
- 28:51Speaker 3: learned it, had gotten incredible feedback. Finally, in December of thirteen,
- 28:55Speaker 3: we shut it all down and said we're going to
- 28:57Speaker 3: go full force with this thing. And fourteen the club
- 29:01Speaker 3: just exploded, and then exploded even more in fifteen and
- 29:04Speaker 3: when even crazier in sixteen and seventeen, And that's when
- 29:08Speaker 3: we were launching all these new brands, when we were like,
- 29:11Speaker 3: we have this customer base that trusts us, let's give
- 29:14Speaker 3: them what else they need in their closet. So what
- 29:17Speaker 3: do shoes look like? What is the shoe that compliments
- 29:20Speaker 3: what we make? What are the what does this do
- 29:24Speaker 3: person do? In active wear? So that's when we started
- 29:27Speaker 3: developing so that's all happened really in the last two
- 29:29Speaker 3: and a half three years.
- 29:30Speaker 1: Wow, that's crazy.
- 29:32Speaker 2: Where does the name and also let's tell the hurdlers
- 29:35Speaker 2: what grand Ac is. Where's the name come from?
- 29:38Speaker 3: Grand Athletic Club is the active where a brand that
- 29:42Speaker 3: we launched. And Grand is where our first office was.
- 29:47Speaker 3: So our first office it was in downtown La Will
- 29:50Speaker 3: Shore and Grand and it was my mom's travel agency
- 29:55Speaker 3: and she's she sold. She was an Indian focused travel agency.
- 30:00Speaker 3: That's where we're launching a fashion brand. It's not easy.
- 30:03Speaker 3: So Grande's Grand is the street we were on. And
- 30:07Speaker 3: I was a member of an gym in downtown called
- 30:10Speaker 3: the La Athletic Club. So Grand Athletic Club is where
- 30:14Speaker 3: we kind of are humble beginnings.
- 30:16Speaker 1: Yeah, and probably easy to get a trademark like that.
- 30:18Speaker 3: Exactly smart.
- 30:20Speaker 2: And when you're trying to fill the holes in his closet,
- 30:24Speaker 2: are you thinking a lot of pieces? Are you thinking
- 30:29Speaker 2: like a few skews? Like how where's your head's head
- 30:31Speaker 2: at with that?
- 30:32Speaker 3: So the I'll tell you where we started. We started
- 30:36Speaker 3: with a very large selection of product, which was athleisure, active, casual, performance,
- 30:44Speaker 3: and we've now gone one eighty drastic and said, we
- 30:50Speaker 3: need to focus on making the best items that this
- 30:54Speaker 3: person cannot live without. And that has ended up in
- 31:00Speaker 3: because of my personal passion of running the perfect running short,
- 31:04Speaker 3: because I was like, I can't sit there and build
- 31:08Speaker 3: this brand and we haven't nailed an item or a
- 31:11Speaker 3: product yet. And after three years we've taken this really
- 31:17Speaker 3: drastic approach of like, let's focus on the most essential
- 31:21Speaker 3: items for a guy. And I feel like running is
- 31:26Speaker 3: the one activity that all people can participate in because
- 31:29Speaker 3: there's no financial barrier. And even though not everyone runs,
- 31:34Speaker 3: the idea of being active is the kind of foundation
- 31:37Speaker 3: of it. But to me, for guys at least, it
- 31:40Speaker 3: starts with a great pair of shorts that they can
- 31:42Speaker 3: feel comfortable in and can enhance their movements, and then
- 31:48Speaker 3: start there, build that up and then scale from there.
- 31:52Speaker 3: So now it's come full circle down to a pair
- 31:54Speaker 3: of shorts.
- 31:55Speaker 1: Just one pair of shorts.
- 31:56Speaker 3: Yeah, we still sell a full collection, but you are
- 32:00Speaker 3: relaunching it around one short and then we'll launch the
- 32:04Speaker 3: perfect socks, then the perfect T shirt and slowly build
- 32:07Speaker 3: it back up.
- 32:08Speaker 1: Are you getting a lot of feed so through this
- 32:10Speaker 1: you've started a run club?
- 32:11Speaker 3: Correct?
- 32:12Speaker 1: What's the deal with the run club.
- 32:13Speaker 3: So about two years ago, this British guy, Luke came
- 32:17Speaker 3: to my office unrelated to running, was asking us about
- 32:21Speaker 3: what we're doing on partnerships for five to four ended
- 32:24Speaker 3: up saying, hey, I see you have an active ward brand.
- 32:27Speaker 3: Have you ever thought about doing a run club? And
- 32:29Speaker 3: I'm like, I personally love running. I run by myself today.
- 32:33Speaker 3: I would love to be a part of a run club.
- 32:35Speaker 3: I just don't have time to run it. If you
- 32:37Speaker 3: will coordinate it, I'm happy to show up wherever the
- 32:39Speaker 3: run club is right every weekend. We end up starting
- 32:43Speaker 3: the run club the week my wife is supposed to
- 32:46Speaker 3: go into labor with our first child, and I was like, man,
- 32:49Speaker 3: this is a rough time, but whatever. So I show
- 32:52Speaker 3: up to the first run club. I think ten people
- 32:54Speaker 3: show up and I was like, wow, ten people just
- 32:57Speaker 3: off Instagram showed up to come running. We start this club,
- 33:02Speaker 3: and you know, some days we have ten, some days
- 33:05Speaker 3: we have three, then we have ten, then we have fifteen,
- 33:09Speaker 3: and then all of a sudden, people are going to
- 33:11Speaker 3: lunch together and people are becoming friends, and there's birthday parties,
- 33:15Speaker 3: and I go to the birthday parts like everyone's from
- 33:17Speaker 3: the club and fast forward a year goes by really
- 33:24Speaker 3: tight relationships. It's like, to me, the next generation of
- 33:29Speaker 3: It's what I would have loved to have a twenty
- 33:31Speaker 3: three twenty four. So it's all these really young young people.
- 33:35Speaker 3: And then there's like the older set, which I'm part of,
- 33:39Speaker 3: which are kind of like mentoring these people. Nothing in particular,
- 33:43Speaker 3: but just feels like life. It could be people. We
- 33:46Speaker 3: talk about relationships stuff, we're talking about business, we're talking
- 33:48Speaker 3: about opportunities, how to deal with cion situations. And now
- 33:53Speaker 3: to me, it's become like this incredible community that is
- 33:59Speaker 3: actually creating things. The first business is launched the other
- 34:02Speaker 3: run Club. Two guys met because of running and launched
- 34:05Speaker 3: a CBD electrolyte brand drink drink brand. There are partnerships.
- 34:11Speaker 3: I've hired several people from the Run Club for full
- 34:14Speaker 3: time jobs. When I travel now, I always post where
- 34:19Speaker 3: we're meeting and we get a random group of people,
- 34:23Speaker 3: and to me, I think, when it's all said and done,
- 34:27Speaker 3: this will be the greatest thing I'll ever do. Yes,
- 34:30Speaker 3: that's dope, because it's it just feels special, like when
- 34:35Speaker 3: you go out and run, and like the people I'm
- 34:37Speaker 3: meeting and the communities we're creating, and it's like all
- 34:41Speaker 3: over the country. We were just in Chicago last weekend,
- 34:44Speaker 3: hot to shit. I didn't think anyone would even come.
- 34:46Speaker 3: Twelve thirteen people showed up. We all went to breakfast,
- 34:49Speaker 3: and it breaks down, you know, the problem in today's world.
- 34:52Speaker 3: We all think the other person's so different and we
- 34:55Speaker 3: have nothing in common with them. And then you go
- 34:58Speaker 3: and you travel the country and you meet all these people.
- 35:01Speaker 3: And that's something that I've done and it's helped me
- 35:04Speaker 3: better my business because ultimately everyone's exactly the same. It's
- 35:08Speaker 3: just how you communicate to them. And I'm meeting all
- 35:11Speaker 3: these different walks of life, different backgrounds, and I live
- 35:15Speaker 3: in my little bubble and that's how I choose to
- 35:17Speaker 3: live my life. But I'm fully aware of everything that's
- 35:20Speaker 3: going on in our country. And that's because of the
- 35:24Speaker 3: run Club. It's because I'm running with people from all
- 35:26Speaker 3: different backgrounds. We have like twenty year olds that sometimes
- 35:29Speaker 3: have to sleep in their truck, and then there's people
- 35:32Speaker 3: that you know, the wealthiest people on earth, that all
- 35:36Speaker 3: these different walks of life are running together.
- 35:39Speaker 2: Well, that's what I think is so special, especially when
- 35:41Speaker 2: you go to watch a marathon, It's like what other
- 35:46Speaker 2: event ever do? All of these people come out to
- 35:49Speaker 2: cheer on each other, and it doesn't matter what you
- 35:52Speaker 2: look like, what your religion is, what your parents look like,
- 35:55Speaker 2: or what your sexual preference is. Everyone's just there to
- 35:58Speaker 2: be happy because running requires there's no language, and it
- 36:01Speaker 2: doesn't matter how fast or how slow or whatever.
- 36:03Speaker 1: Like, You're all just there to do something that you love.
- 36:06Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so powerful and the club I think for
- 36:08Speaker 3: me is just become like how I'm going to build
- 36:12Speaker 3: the community because one thing I do like about it
- 36:15Speaker 3: is it is a filter. Like if you're not willing
- 36:18Speaker 3: to take the time to come run, then it's hard.
- 36:22Speaker 3: How can I give you my time if you can't.
- 36:25Speaker 3: If you're not willing to at least take that leap
- 36:28Speaker 3: and you want something from me or want something from
- 36:30Speaker 3: the community, you should be participating it.
- 36:32Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 36:33Speaker 3: I'm not asking for money. I give my time. That
- 36:36Speaker 3: is what I give the most of to everyone is
- 36:38Speaker 3: my time. You can't give the time on a Saturday
- 36:40Speaker 3: morning thirty forty five minutes to come run, walk, whatever,
- 36:44Speaker 3: because it's not about running. That's the last thing it's
- 36:47Speaker 3: actually about. But everyone thinks it's about running, so they
- 36:49Speaker 3: get intimidated and never come, and then they take that
- 36:52Speaker 3: leap one day and they're addicted.
- 36:54Speaker 2: I also think it's because you went through a time
- 36:57Speaker 2: where you were willing to do a lot of suns
- 37:00Speaker 2: off improvement. So someone that's not even willing to show
- 37:03Speaker 2: up to run, whether it's you know, like a five
- 37:05Speaker 2: k or a ten k or whatever it is, it's
- 37:08Speaker 2: like you see in them that maybe they're not ready
- 37:10Speaker 2: to put in the work, and those aren't the kind
- 37:11Speaker 2: of people that you want to mess with.
- 37:12Speaker 3: Exactly if you you want to be an entrepreneur, and
- 37:15Speaker 3: you want to if you want to be an entrepreneur,
- 37:18Speaker 3: you need to be able to talk to anyone, deal
- 37:21Speaker 3: with anything, and you need to be able to run
- 37:25Speaker 3: because you know, why, what if one day someone comes
- 37:27Speaker 3: to you and says, hey, i'd love to hear about
- 37:31Speaker 3: your business. Let's go for a run or biking or
- 37:34Speaker 3: sailing or whatever. Are you willing to do anything? It's
- 37:37Speaker 3: not about running. It's just like, are you what are
- 37:39Speaker 3: you willing to do to improve your business or to
- 37:43Speaker 3: take a chance on life. It's like, I'm willing to
- 37:46Speaker 3: do anything, and I've always proven that I'm willing to
- 37:48Speaker 3: do anything. So if you know, if you think I
- 37:51Speaker 3: can be an impact on you in some way, but
- 37:53Speaker 3: you won't come run, then you're an idiot. Simple idiot.
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- 39:25Speaker 1: Let's get back to it.
- 39:32Speaker 2: So, I know you said at first that you didn't
- 39:33Speaker 2: really want to be involved in like all the logistics.
- 39:35Speaker 1: But when you travel, have you taken that more upon yourself?
- 39:38Speaker 3: Yeah? Because I don't. I'd never Now when I do travel,
- 39:42Speaker 3: people will dming like, hey, are you doing a run?
- 39:44Speaker 3: When you're in Paris? Are you doing? And even if
- 39:47Speaker 3: it's like one person, I'm like, yeah, I'll run, Let's
- 39:49Speaker 3: go for it. Yeah, because it's it's so fascinating the
- 39:53Speaker 3: people I've met. And I think it's a similar to
- 39:57Speaker 3: why you meet people for a drink, and specifically alcohol.
- 40:01Speaker 3: It's because once you have a drink, all of a sudden,
- 40:06Speaker 3: you're that liquid courage comes right and now you're able
- 40:09Speaker 3: to talk free or and whatever. Same thing with a run.
- 40:12Speaker 3: In the mornings at the run, everyone's pretty quiet, not
- 40:15Speaker 3: very friendly. Everyone's just like, all right, let's get this
- 40:17Speaker 3: damn thing going. At the end, everyone's bouncing off the
- 40:20Speaker 3: wall because they just did a run. Your doorphins are pumping,
- 40:24Speaker 3: and you are always it's so social. Like yesterday last
- 40:27Speaker 3: night we did a run. I was in a shitty mood.
- 40:29Speaker 3: I was like, all right, let's get this thing going. Start,
- 40:32Speaker 3: and then afterwards we're all talking, hanging out and everyone's
- 40:35Speaker 3: mood has changed. So it's like, I think the running
- 40:38Speaker 3: or exercising a post exercise kind of creates an environment
- 40:42Speaker 3: to communicate better.
- 40:44Speaker 2: They actually just opened a bar in New York that's
- 40:47Speaker 2: like focused on running. Like they have lockers and stuff
- 40:51Speaker 2: for people to stash their stuff so you can like go, run,
- 40:53Speaker 2: come back and drink.
- 40:54Speaker 3: Oh wow, yeah that's amazing. That sounds that's my whole life.
- 40:59Speaker 2: I mean, geez, they need to open one here. Maybe
- 41:03Speaker 2: that's your next seas.
- 41:05Speaker 3: That's amazing.
- 41:06Speaker 2: Okay, so you launched this athletic brand and it seems
- 41:09Speaker 2: to be doing well and it's good.
- 41:11Speaker 3: Yeah, it's look, it's we're also able to scale things
- 41:16Speaker 3: back and take a very long term perspective on a business.
- 41:19Speaker 3: We started too fast, grew it too fast, didn't make sense.
- 41:23Speaker 3: We scaled it all the way back and now we're
- 41:25Speaker 3: rebuilding it the right way. It's it's those are the
- 41:28Speaker 3: drastic changes we're willing to make. We still believe in
- 41:31Speaker 3: the brand. There's other projects we've shelved and said, hey,
- 41:33Speaker 3: this doesn't make sense. We don't it's not worth pursuing anymore.
- 41:36Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 41:36Speaker 2: So, now that you're finding so much passion in this
- 41:40Speaker 2: aspect of your business, do you feel like you're shifting
- 41:42Speaker 2: your attention away a little bit from other things or
- 41:45Speaker 2: how do you distribute that?
- 41:47Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean I think emotionally I wish it was
- 41:52Speaker 3: a bigger part of my life, but reality is it
- 41:55Speaker 3: unfortunately doesn't pay the bills, So the subscription business is
- 41:59Speaker 3: what pays the bills. Five four is what pays the bills.
- 42:02Speaker 3: So you know, in the office, my energy is spent
- 42:05Speaker 3: focusing on those things. But externally, running is probably the
- 42:10Speaker 3: thing I'm most excited about, and the club and the community.
- 42:14Speaker 3: But it's all interchangeable. When I go hang out with
- 42:18Speaker 3: club members outside of running, guess what they're wearing. They're
- 42:23Speaker 3: wearing five four, They're wearing New Republic. So it's all
- 42:25Speaker 3: it's working Yeah, the community is spreading and it's slowly growing,
- 42:30Speaker 3: so the efforts aren't going unnoticed. It just takes time.
- 42:34Speaker 2: I have to point out also following you a little
- 42:36Speaker 2: bit and knowing that you're learning more about like run
- 42:39Speaker 2: culture and different sneakers and are you wearing a fitbit
- 42:42Speaker 2: right now?
- 42:42Speaker 3: No? I took it off today, take it off today,
- 42:45Speaker 3: I know.
- 42:45Speaker 1: But you're like experimenting with different things.
- 42:46Speaker 2: What's been like your favorite thing that you've experimented with
- 42:49Speaker 2: over the past couple of years of running.
- 42:52Speaker 3: I think it's stuff like I mean, I've tried every
- 42:55Speaker 3: shoe brand. Yeah, and I've landed on Hokahs.
- 42:58Speaker 1: You ran the marathon, right, marathon?
- 43:00Speaker 3: Yes?
- 43:01Speaker 1: Did you run them in Hokahs? I did?
- 43:02Speaker 3: And I was training in a six and ten weeks
- 43:06Speaker 3: before the marathon, someone from Hokah showed up to the
- 43:10Speaker 3: run club and gave me a pair of shoes and said, hey,
- 43:12Speaker 3: we'd love you to try these. Okay. So I went
- 43:14Speaker 3: for a long run in them and I felt great,
- 43:17Speaker 3: and I was like, Wow, that's interesting. And I think
- 43:21Speaker 3: things like that because now physical preservation as I get
- 43:25Speaker 3: older is so much important. Yeah, and so I've tried
- 43:29Speaker 3: I tried I do cry out now, like that's something
- 43:32Speaker 3: I'm actually going to do today because things like that
- 43:36Speaker 3: recovery and maintaining my Like I want to be able
- 43:40Speaker 3: to run till I'm one hundred.
- 43:42Speaker 1: You've got to get a theragun.
- 43:43Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, theraguns. I just can't do it to myself
- 43:46Speaker 3: because it hurts. It's like, stop.
- 43:48Speaker 1: You're very lucky that you have a wife to help you.
- 43:52Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 43:52Speaker 2: I've had doctor Jason on the podcast, like a good
- 43:55Speaker 2: friend of mine. Yeah, but I swear every Saturday after
- 43:58Speaker 2: my long run, I'm like, thank you God for this product.
- 44:02Speaker 1: It's amazing.
- 44:03Speaker 3: Yeah, there's so many great things out there. We've done.
- 44:06Speaker 3: We've done yoga sessions in the room we're in right
- 44:09Speaker 3: now with a specific person a stretcher for runners, and yeah,
- 44:13Speaker 3: you know you just when you're hurting, you try everything.
- 44:15Speaker 1: Yeah, you do. And also, I mean back to your
- 44:17Speaker 1: sneaker notes.
- 44:18Speaker 2: So the research shows actually that like it doesn't matter
- 44:22Speaker 2: how your foot hits the ground, like what your running
- 44:24Speaker 2: gate is or anything like that. All the biggest thing
- 44:27Speaker 2: that matters most in preventing injury is that you feel
- 44:29Speaker 2: comfortable and the sneakers you're running in. So if like
- 44:32Speaker 2: that one run you went out in those hookahs and
- 44:35Speaker 2: it was like a great run. You were like, wow,
- 44:37Speaker 2: I feel great then, like mentally like you're golden, you know.
- 44:40Speaker 2: But that could have happened in an A six or
- 44:43Speaker 2: a Nike or you know.
- 44:45Speaker 1: Well whatever. It's just it's totally personal preference.
- 44:48Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, for sure, super interesting.
- 44:50Speaker 1: Well you ever run another marathon?
- 44:52Speaker 3: Not anytime soon.
- 44:54Speaker 1: Yeah, it's too much of a time commitment, huge opportunity cost.
- 44:58Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. So for me. Give me that I have
- 45:01Speaker 3: a family now and how much time it took away
- 45:03Speaker 3: from them during the training process, and it's you're also exhausted,
- 45:07Speaker 3: you know, go run fifteen miles and then hang out
- 45:09Speaker 3: with your kid is like impossible. And so I think
- 45:13Speaker 3: I do one again later in life if I had
- 45:16Speaker 3: the time. I'll definitely do half marathons all the time. Yeah,
- 45:20Speaker 3: to me, like I can just go run in a
- 45:23Speaker 3: half marathon. Yeah, so not a big stretch for me,
- 45:26Speaker 3: and I think it'll be more fun and the recovery
- 45:28Speaker 3: is not that needed, and it's just it's fun to do.
- 45:31Speaker 3: I love going to a race and doing it, but
- 45:33Speaker 3: I don't I didn't enjoy by the time I ran
- 45:36Speaker 3: the marathon. I hated running, and I told myself if
- 45:39Speaker 3: I hated running, then I would never do the marathon again.
- 45:42Speaker 3: And I felt that, like I was like, I'm sick
- 45:45Speaker 3: of running.
- 45:45Speaker 2: I think a lot of people get burnt out, especially
- 45:47Speaker 2: like when you're about to conquer that kind of distance
- 45:49Speaker 2: and you've been doing it so much.
- 45:51Speaker 3: Yeah, it became a job and that's not what it's
- 45:55Speaker 3: to me. Running to me is like alcohol, Like I
- 45:58Speaker 3: like to have a drink and I like to have run.
- 46:00Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe not at the same time.
- 46:02Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe.
- 46:04Speaker 1: Okay, So then what's on the radar for like, what's
- 46:06Speaker 1: to come aside from this run short? For you?
- 46:08Speaker 2: Like, what are you excited about right now? It wouldn't
- 46:11Speaker 2: be anything.
- 46:11Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the most exciting things that are happening
- 46:14Speaker 3: or are around our podcast group Chat. Yeah, we have
- 46:18Speaker 3: something that's super special. It's also a community. I think
- 46:23Speaker 3: it also comes down to that community is the underlying
- 46:28Speaker 3: theme of everything that I want to do going forward.
- 46:31Speaker 3: And it's amazing when I go to I was just
- 46:34Speaker 3: in Chicago and I've met people that listen to group Chat,
- 46:39Speaker 3: our Menlo Club customers and are running our challenge that
- 46:43Speaker 3: we're currently doing. So it's like that to me is
- 46:46Speaker 3: like the trifecta. I found my community. I just need
- 46:49Speaker 3: a million of them. Yeah like that. And the podcast
- 46:53Speaker 3: has so much momentum, and it's creating this audience of
- 46:56Speaker 3: people that we never could probably reach through advertising or
- 47:00Speaker 3: through other forms of content. And it's completely in our control. Yeah,
- 47:06Speaker 3: no one's going to tell me what I can say,
- 47:08Speaker 3: what I can do. Who can listen to it? And
- 47:10Speaker 3: I'd always been in the mercy of other people, whether
- 47:13Speaker 3: it was retailers, whether it was press media, like people like,
- 47:16Speaker 3: how come you're not in Forbes, Because I'm like, I
- 47:18Speaker 3: don't give a fuck what Forbes thinks it does. It's irrelevant,
- 47:21Speaker 3: it doesn't affect my business. And I want to control
- 47:24Speaker 3: my narrative. I want to control my audience. I want
- 47:27Speaker 3: to tell them my side of the story on everything.
- 47:30Speaker 3: And now I don't have to rely on anyone. I'm
- 47:32Speaker 3: going to slowly build our audience so that becomes a
- 47:36Speaker 3: television show, which we're in the works on, or if
- 47:38Speaker 3: it becomes a platform online where our listeners can all
- 47:42Speaker 3: connect with each other. There's just that to me is
- 47:44Speaker 3: the most exciting thing. It's so powerful because if we
- 47:47Speaker 3: build it at scale, it's a very unique offering to
- 47:50Speaker 3: actually have direct contact to your audience. We never had that.
- 47:54Speaker 3: We were always a mercy of a platform.
- 47:56Speaker 2: Right, And I think that's really special too, because you've understood,
- 48:01Speaker 2: you've come to understand the most important part of creating
- 48:05Speaker 2: your own thing in that it's being authentically yourself. When
- 48:10Speaker 2: you try to speak a certain way or feel like
- 48:13Speaker 2: you should act a certain way or embody a certain
- 48:15Speaker 2: presence to satisfy a certain brand, like, that's when you
- 48:18Speaker 2: lose that genuine connection that you are cultivating successfully with
- 48:23Speaker 2: group chat. Like I turn on group chat because I
- 48:26Speaker 2: like want to catch up on the news, and like
- 48:28Speaker 2: here it shots me straight. Yeah, I don't want bias
- 48:32Speaker 2: or I mean and obviously like you guys all have
- 48:34Speaker 2: your own opinions, but I.
- 48:35Speaker 1: Don't want any of that shit.
- 48:37Speaker 2: Like I want to get it straight, hear about things
- 48:41Speaker 2: that I'm interested in. And I think that's like what
- 48:43Speaker 2: makes what you guys doing so excellent.
- 48:46Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate that, and I think that that's
- 48:49Speaker 3: the beauty of today's media. Anyone can go do that. Yeah,
- 48:53Speaker 3: there's no buried entry. I mean, like we talked about it,
- 48:56Speaker 3: you know, previous times. When we started, we didn't have
- 48:59Speaker 3: any listeners. It was a struggle, even even drama shorts.
- 49:03Speaker 3: Story long. He did it for eighteen months before I
- 49:06Speaker 3: think you got a thousand downloads. Yeah, and then all
- 49:09Speaker 3: of a sudden it took off and he had a following. Yeah,
- 49:12Speaker 3: he had millions of followers across platforms and he still
- 49:15Speaker 3: couldn't even get a short cut. So it's just about
- 49:19Speaker 3: dedicating to that and then slowly building the audience. And
- 49:23Speaker 3: I think what we're doing group chat is so special
- 49:26Speaker 3: and just the impact has had on people and the
- 49:29Speaker 3: way they're connecting with us is so special. So to me,
- 49:32Speaker 3: that's the most exciting thing. I'd love to see in
- 49:34Speaker 3: five years where it all goes. I could be completely
- 49:36Speaker 3: wrong and it goes a completely different direction, but it's
- 49:40Speaker 3: going somewhere yeah like that, which is promising.
- 49:42Speaker 2: Yeah, when you look back on the last I mean,
- 49:47Speaker 2: how long has it been since.
- 49:48Speaker 3: You launched fright fourth Seventeen years?
- 49:50Speaker 2: All right, So seventeen years is a hell of a
- 49:52Speaker 2: decent amount of time. Yeah, when you look back on
- 49:55Speaker 2: that amount of time and what you've done with the
- 49:57Speaker 2: business so far, what would you say one of the
- 50:00Speaker 2: the best pieces of advice that someone has offered you
- 50:02Speaker 2: has been.
- 50:04Speaker 3: I haven't really gotten a lot of good advice really.
- 50:08Speaker 3: I would say I got told to do things, but
- 50:12Speaker 3: not I don't felt like I had someone that was
- 50:16Speaker 3: like coaching me along the way. But the things that
- 50:21Speaker 3: I've pulled as like a through line from a lot
- 50:23Speaker 3: of different people that they just had a roundabout way
- 50:26Speaker 3: of saying. It has been focused, like you got to
- 50:31Speaker 3: nail one thing, you don't need to nail a hundred things.
- 50:35Speaker 3: And in whether it's me focusing on one of our
- 50:40Speaker 3: brands or whether it's me focusing in a brand on
- 50:44Speaker 3: one particular category, it's just about focus and time and
- 50:49Speaker 3: time again, that has been a mistake we've done. We've
- 50:52Speaker 3: lacked focus, and I think seventeen years later, we are
- 50:58Speaker 3: learning how to be focused.
- 51:00Speaker 2: I also think that's like the saying, if you're trying
- 51:02Speaker 2: to be a leader for everyone, you're a leader for
- 51:04Speaker 2: no one.
- 51:04Speaker 3: Correct.
- 51:05Speaker 2: So yeah, just like establishing the things that you really
- 51:09Speaker 2: feel like are worth your attention and your energy and
- 51:11Speaker 2: giving them what.
- 51:11Speaker 3: You have exactly And now, like with our brands and
- 51:14Speaker 3: our businesses, it's like everything is slow motion. I could
- 51:18Speaker 3: see it's like a baseball player seeing a pitch comes slow.
- 51:21Speaker 3: There's when you're at that the peak of your career,
- 51:25Speaker 3: it just feels like or a basketball player shooting baskets.
- 51:28Speaker 3: You just know it's going in. And I finally feel
- 51:31Speaker 3: like I'm at that.
- 51:32Speaker 1: Point where the baskets are going in.
- 51:34Speaker 3: Where I'm like, I know I'm going to shoot the
- 51:36Speaker 3: shot and it's one hundred percent going in, where I'd
- 51:38Speaker 3: never don't. I didn't have that till probably the last
- 51:41Speaker 3: two years.
- 51:42Speaker 1: Yeah, soon after you became a man.
- 51:44Speaker 3: Yes, it all kind of coincides. Yeah, it's even like
- 51:48Speaker 3: the money you make and how you handle yourself and
- 51:50Speaker 3: how you handle life. Like the way I'm handling life
- 51:54Speaker 3: today is just better than I would have handled life
- 51:58Speaker 3: ten five, ten years ago.
- 52:00Speaker 2: And I mean this is also in sync with like
- 52:01Speaker 2: when you had your first kid.
- 52:03Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's all in sync with marriage and children. Yeah,
- 52:07Speaker 3: because you I mean, you have to have a partner
- 52:10Speaker 3: also that pushes you that way. My wife has definitely
- 52:14Speaker 3: pushed me to like step your game up, yeah, you know,
- 52:17Speaker 3: and I think that's allowed me to also hold myself
- 52:21Speaker 3: more accountable. And then once you have a child, it's
- 52:24Speaker 3: it's a game changer. Your life changes.
- 52:27Speaker 2: I know you mentioned that you didn't really feel like
- 52:29Speaker 2: there was any one specific person that was like constantly
- 52:31Speaker 2: giving you good advice, But do you now feel like
- 52:34Speaker 2: you are that person for other people.
- 52:36Speaker 3: I'm that person for a shit ton of people. Yeah,
- 52:39Speaker 3: and I feel very responsible to give them good information
- 52:44Speaker 3: and good advice.
- 52:45Speaker 1: Do you feel overwhelmed by that?
- 52:47Speaker 3: Yeah? Sometimes, because it is sometimes I don't have the
- 52:50Speaker 3: answer for them. That's where I actually feel overwhelmed. I don't.
- 52:53Speaker 3: I'm not overwhelmed by the number of people who ask me.
- 52:57Speaker 3: I'm okay with that. I'm comfortable with that. I actually
- 52:59Speaker 3: feel that that is my duty as an entrepreneur that
- 53:04Speaker 3: has had success. But I don't. I sometimes people ask
- 53:09Speaker 3: me stuff and I'm like, damn, I don't. I'll just
- 53:11Speaker 3: be honest, I'm like, I don't know what to do,
- 53:13Speaker 3: Like you kind of you might be fucked.
- 53:15Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'd rather you tell me that upfront than
- 53:20Speaker 2: be like, I have this great solution for you in
- 53:22Speaker 2: the Yeah, this girl is.
- 53:24Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think and I think the reality is
- 53:26Speaker 3: is a lot of it is just it's coaching from
- 53:30Speaker 3: a mental standpoint on how to get through a situation.
- 53:35Speaker 3: It's like I wish someone was helping me with that stuff,
- 53:38Speaker 3: like when I got frustrated to have a sounding board.
- 53:41Speaker 3: It's so powerful. It's like mentorship is real if you
- 53:44Speaker 3: find the right person. Yeah, it could be so impactful. Yeah,
- 53:47Speaker 3: you know, like today I have people where I feel
- 53:51Speaker 3: comfortable sharing information with and I'm like, all right, give
- 53:54Speaker 3: it to me straight. But previously I didn't have that.
- 53:58Speaker 2: And I also feel like it's really special when and
- 54:00Speaker 2: that mentorship becomes then like a two way conversation and
- 54:03Speaker 2: that now. I mean when I started getting closer with
- 54:07Speaker 2: my mentor was a friend of my cousins and I
- 54:10Speaker 2: would go to him for advice constantly. But as I've
- 54:13Speaker 2: gotten older, you know, I've known him for eight nine
- 54:15Speaker 2: years now. We sat down the other night in Santa
- 54:17Speaker 2: Monica and had dinner, and I was the one that
- 54:19Speaker 2: was offering him my opinion on like something that he
- 54:21Speaker 2: was doing. So I just feel like that's like when
- 54:24Speaker 2: you understand just like the true benefit of that situation
- 54:27Speaker 2: is when it just becomes such a two way street.
- 54:30Speaker 3: Yeah. And I you know, a lot of the young
- 54:32Speaker 3: people that asked me for advice, I asked them all
- 54:34Speaker 3: the time for stuff. Now, Yeah, I'm comfortable. I'm also
- 54:37Speaker 3: very confident secure. I have no problem going to a
- 54:39Speaker 3: nineteen year bick. What do you think about this? I'm
- 54:41Speaker 3: trying to do this. Do you think it's a good idea? Yeah,
- 54:43Speaker 3: because like I don't want to miss. I don't care
- 54:46Speaker 3: you're shooting your shot. Yeah. Like if I have to
- 54:48Speaker 3: ask an eighteen year old kid to help me, I
- 54:50Speaker 3: have no problem doing that.
- 54:51Speaker 1: Now, you got to put your pride aside and just
- 54:53Speaker 1: go for one.
- 54:53Speaker 3: Yeah. Then, but I'm I think that's part of being
- 54:56Speaker 3: an adult. You get over that.
- 54:58Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, winding down here.
- 55:01Speaker 2: So the question I wrap up with every time you
- 55:04Speaker 2: have an opportunity right now to give the d a
- 55:07Speaker 2: piece of advice. Who's going through that tough time? You
- 55:11Speaker 2: had money, you don't have money. Haley's like, I want
- 55:14Speaker 2: nothing to do with you. I'm all set. You're not
- 55:17Speaker 2: the best. You have an opportunity to give that guy
- 55:19Speaker 2: one piece of advice right now? What do you tell him?
- 55:22Speaker 3: Just be patient, because you can fix if you're an
- 55:28Speaker 3: open minded person. So like people always say, you can't
- 55:32Speaker 3: teach an old dog new tricks, and I think most people, unfortunately,
- 55:38Speaker 3: as they get older, become very fixed in their ways
- 55:41Speaker 3: and their stubborn And I would say I'm very similar
- 55:45Speaker 3: like that on a lot of different things. But for
- 55:48Speaker 3: whatever reason, I've constantly been evolving as a person, and
- 55:53Speaker 3: the best thing about what I've experienced life now, I
- 55:57Speaker 3: would say I've been an adult now for twenty years.
- 56:01Speaker 3: Patience is the most powerful thing because people get so
- 56:05Speaker 3: frustrated when they fail, and it leads to so much anxiety,
- 56:11Speaker 3: so depression downwards spot in life, but when you really
- 56:15Speaker 3: look at the long scheme of life, it was a
- 56:19Speaker 3: It's just a bump in the road, that's all it is.
- 56:21Speaker 3: And if you're patient, have a positive attitude, you'll get
- 56:24Speaker 3: through it. Like you can get through anything like success
- 56:28Speaker 3: and failure, and all these things are all relative to
- 56:30Speaker 3: perspective that you view yourself in. So my thing is
- 56:34Speaker 3: just patience. Even now now I'm too patient. I'll start something,
- 56:38Speaker 3: it fails, I'm like, oh, it's gonna take ten years.
- 56:40Speaker 3: What can I do? But like, but like, I have
- 56:43Speaker 3: a very and I actually thought I was a pretty
- 56:46Speaker 3: patient person when I was younger, But now knowing what
- 56:49Speaker 3: I have done now, it's like, just be patient, positive attitude,
- 56:53Speaker 3: you'll get through it.
- 56:54Speaker 1: Patience that's it. Awesome do you think so much for
- 56:57Speaker 1: sitting down with me?
- 56:58Speaker 3: Thanks for having me.
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- 57:16Speaker 3: Find you on Instagram and Twitter at de Murphy. I'm
- 57:20Speaker 3: trying to be more active on LinkedIn, so I'm on
- 57:23Speaker 3: there my name as well, and group chat pod.
- 57:27Speaker 2: Group chat pod, wherever you get your podcasts. Yes, awesome,
- 57:30Speaker 2: I am at Emily Abadi. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you
- 57:34Speaker 2: guys next time.