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Social Media Pressure & The Passing Of Rapper Oladips · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Banter
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  Laurentia. How are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing great. Now for today's episode is going
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  to be a short one. I just want to talk about the
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  passing of all our dips. Now Oladipo's is a Nigerian
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  rapper who I think his song about Die Young is just about to
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  be released or was supposed to be released today.
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  And he passed on just the early hours of this morning.
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  It is sad because he's a very young guy in his 20s and I think
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  this is just at the back of more bad.
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  So everybody is kind of feeling in their feelings a little bit
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  because why are young people, you know, depressed?
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  Because according to reports, he's been going through
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  emotional challenges for the past two years now.
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  I think according to the whole story, he had issues with his
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  record label, which is also run by Reminisce, who is also a
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  rapper. He very kind of legendary rapper
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  also in the entertainment industry.
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  But I think one of the things that we're getting to notice now
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  are young entertainers or young people who just feel that, who
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  look up to their the big cats, basically Burna Boy, Wizkid that
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  we do and the likes of, you know, Ram and all that.
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  These are young people who are doing very well in the
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  entertainment industry. And then you see these younger
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  ones coming up and they want to be exactly like them.
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  Most of them. They are making money, yes, but
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  they want to sell out cinemas. They want their names to be
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  known everywhere. They want people to like we need
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  to start addressing issues because if you have this
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  established successful cats, big cats, if that's what they want
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  to be called, they need to start talking about their stories more
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  because we see these younger ones who want to be like them.
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  And once they are not selling out cinemas, they are not flying
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  private jets, they are not buying cars the way that those
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  ones are buying cars. They are not living the
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  lifestyle that they are living. They become depressed.
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  It is really sad. It is sad.
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  I mean, we live in a social media world where everybody
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  wants to be successful, everybody wants to be known,
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  everybody wants to live the high life and there's nothing wrong
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  with that. But I think people also
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  understand that not everybody will blow.
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  You can make money from the music industry, you can make
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  money from the statement industry, you can make money as
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  an actor and what have you, but you may not blow basically.
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  And because there are a few job opportunities in Nigeria, you
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  see them, they go into, they start using their talents
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  basically. But then again, even that talent
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  that they're trying to use, they make money.
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  But then they are looking at the big cats and they're thinking,
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  OK, I want to be like these people.
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  And once it looks like they are not getting what they want,
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  depression sets. I mean, and it starts, you know,
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  you need to have people who tell their stories more, who talk
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  about their challenges, who talk about how they have gone from
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  point A to point B. Yes, there are people who are
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  very lucky. They have Grace.
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  They are young, in their 20s, and they've made a lot of money.
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  They've gotten fame, fortune, the likes of Rama.
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  But at the same time, there are some people who are also, let's
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  say, the previous generation who made all those impacts when they
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  were young and all that. But today, where are they?
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  So fame and fortune is something that people should, but we need
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  to start teaching these things in school because we have
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  younger people who are. They look at social media.
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  You know, you see somebody who is very young, very, you know,
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  talented and before 20 they make their first million makes, you
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  know, multiple millions before you know what is going on.
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  But then again, when that money is not coming in as they used
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  to, these people get depressed. They want, they want that high
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  because it's a high that they've gotten and they want to continue
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  in that trajectory. But what are you putting in
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  place to ensure that you take care of your mental health?
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  Because once easy money, easy comes, easy go.
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  Let's say you release a song and that song did very well.
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  Everybody wants you to appear in their show.
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  You have endorsement deal here and there, but then once you
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  can't produce another hit, then that becomes a problem and then
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  depression sets in. So managing expectation is
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  something that we should start teaching the youths, especially
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  the under 20s, because we, I think those in their 50s or even
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  40s should start talking about what challenges that they have
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  faced. Let's say somebody who has made
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  money in their 20s and now in their 40s, But then again you
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  see these younger generations, no one even wants to listen
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  because they feel OK, You have done this.
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  That is your story. My story is going to be
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  different. Everybody want to be on social
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  media. You see a lot of people, they
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  will tell you, I want to be a tik toker and want to be an
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  influencer. I'm a YouTuber without any
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  backup. Now there are some people doing
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  that full time, Not a problem, but it took them a long time.
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  Like I do firmly believe that something that you have done and
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  it comes quick, you are not going to.
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  There's no foundation. You don't have that solid
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  foundation that can keep you grounded regardless of the, you
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  know, faces you will be in. So record labels or parents, I
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  mean I don't want to put this on record labels because families
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  and parents have a full to play in these things.
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  But also in this generation whereby social media is raising
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  kids, social media is the one, even your your kids or your
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  relation or relative your siblings, they are more exposed
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  to social media stuff. It is very hard to now tell them
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  listen do these do these or as you're doing this run this in
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  parallel just in case nobody wants to hear like have a plan
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  BI see a lot of people who say ohh if you want to do music, you
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  do music make sure you give it your 100%.
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  Now younger generation giving their 100% to let's say their
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  talent, music acting and all that and that is not giving them
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  what they want because if you look at what ladies he is
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  successful. I mean he he has a good car, he
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  has a good house, he's making money.
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  But I just think he is not in the kind of level that he
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  thoughts or he that he assumed that he would be.
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  And that is when all these little little depression setting
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  you start thinking about comparing your life.
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  This is all social media does. You just sit down and start
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  comparing your life with a B&C. It is so sad.
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  It is sad that as young as it is, I don't even know how old he
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  is, which is it is just sad. So he's 28 years old.
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  The management released a statement and they said Body
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  Wrapper or Lady Pupo or Labo Di or Lady Meiji, famously known as
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  Oladipo's, is dead. His management announced the
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  passing of the 28 years old singer via his Instagram page on
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  Wednesday afternoon. The statement announcing the
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  demise of the rapper hints that he has been battling with
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  unstated ailment for the past two years.
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  It is sad because he is about to release this song which he
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  titled Die Young. I mean it's just sad.
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  I saw a video of him, you know, talking about more bad justice
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  for more bad. Even his DP still has more bad
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  on it and you start asking yourself what is going on, what
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  is going on. This is just sad.
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  We wish to family and friends the fortitude to bear the loss
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  and for anybody going through any challenges.
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  We wish that you find the help that you need.
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  You talk to somebody and if your craft or your talent is what is
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  causing your depression, you can always move to something else.
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  I know how hard it is when, let's see a singer who makes 10
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  million for a show. What job can you give that
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  person to do? You know, they cannot go back to
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  office work or anything. So I always have, you know, a
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  cousin who wants to be a singer. And I said, you know, you're a
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  singer, you're trying to break into the entertainment industry,
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  you want to sing and all that. What I will tell you to do is
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  don't just focus on music. Think about writing, think about
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  learning how to do instruments, think about learning beats, how
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  to create beats. Because if you go into that
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  space and let's say the singing part of it is not working, you
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  might be creating beats for people or you can be playing an
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  instrument or you can you can walk behind the scenes shooting
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  videos, video editing. I know that takes more money.
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  Ball have you make 1010 million per sure, let's say, even if
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  it's a million per shoe. You can put things as you're
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  getting contacts, knowing people and different things.
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  You can also tell them, OK, I do this, I do that, learning the
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  process. Be an all rounder so that when
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  one is not working, you can always lean on the other one to
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  make sure that you know you push yourself out there.
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  Because they heard one of his lyrics when he was saying that
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  there was no inspiration for him to sing like he couldn't sing.
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  And that can be depressing, especially for somebody who.
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  That is his full time job. He's just like waking up in the
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  morning and you're thinking, I don't have the will to go to
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  work, but I want to go to work because I need to put food on
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  the table. Also, I think his dad passed
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  recently and one thing he was saying was the responsibility.
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  Responsibility. People now give kids a whole lot
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  of responsibility without thinking about the mental health
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  of that child. I understand that things are
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  very difficult and to most children now because of the
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  Internet around the breadwinners of the family.
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  But even at that, parents need to be careful of the kind of
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  responsibility you give to children.
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  They have their own problems. They are going through their own
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  challenges and if they now have to worry about taking care of,
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  you know, the feeding, the expenses of every other person,
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  that is a double stress on that person who is already going
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  through their own stress. So sometimes live children to be
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  children. Allow them to find their path.
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  If you as a parent, you're struggling, you can just go and
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  struggle. Honestly, just go and struggle
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  and leave that child alone for that child to be.
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  Even if they are spending the whole money, they're not giving
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  you any money. They're trying to find their
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  path. One day as a parent, they're
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  going to remember you, but giving them response.
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  Or even if they are trying to take that responsibility and
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  ensure that you cannot curtail that because they may be happy
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  to do it when they were getting it, but when that money is no
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  longer coming in, it's going to become a burden on them because
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  they are thinking, oh, I need to take care of this.
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  I need to take care of that. I need to do this, I need to do
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  that. That becomes a challenge.
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  It becomes a challenge. I am not saying that was what
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  happened to him. I am just saying that in this
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  generation, in this day and age, the Internet of people looking
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  at other people make money, spend money and live lavish
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  lifestyle, there is pressure on people to be a certain way,
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  especially those in the entertainment industry.
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  But that does not mean that you should let it affect your mental
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  health. Check on your kids, check on
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  everybody around you that you know is going through something.
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  That's all I have to say. So thank you very much for
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  watching this episode. Please like, like, like and
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  share. Thank you very much.
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  Bye, bye.