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The Seven Money Wounds Series: Worthiness Wound – Do You Believe You Deserve Wealth? · Rock My Finances

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  Speaker 2: so what is it all about? Let's find out. Now
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back, y'all. This is the seven money wound series.
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  Speaker 1: This is number three, the worthiness wound. Do you believe
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  Speaker 1: you deserve wealth and abundance or love and relationship or
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  Speaker 1: wealth and happiness? How we feel about one thing is
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  Speaker 1: how we feel about everything, right? So today, all of
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  Speaker 1: these money wounds that I've been talking about, the seven
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  Speaker 1: different ones, this is the one that's, I think it's quietest.
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  Speaker 1: Like it most often hides beneath the surface. We don't
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  Speaker 1: walk around saying, I don't deserve well. And we don't
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  Speaker 1: walk around saying, I don't feel worthy. Like we don't
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  Speaker 1: even usually think of these words. Instead, it shows up
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  Speaker 1: in our behaviors. We settle. We play small. We put
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  Speaker 1: everyone else's needs ahead of our own. Any fellow codependents
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  Speaker 1: out there? Like it's just way easier to do that
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  Speaker 1: when you're coming from feeling less than or not enough.
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  Speaker 1: We convince ourselves that we'll ask for the raise next year.
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  Speaker 1: We'll increase our fees next year after we get one
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  Speaker 1: more certification, a few more letters behind us to make
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  Speaker 1: us really confident. Or we'll start investing after we feel
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  Speaker 1: more confident. The truth is confidence rarely comes first. I
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  Speaker 1: know this is terrible, but it just doesn't. Like Nike,
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  Speaker 1: just do it, right? That builds confidence. Confidence comes first.
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  Speaker 1: Good old Tony Robbins talks about this all the time
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  Speaker 1: as well. The confidence follows first. But when we don't
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  Speaker 1: believe we're worthy, we wait and wait and wait. We
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  Speaker 1: wait until we're smarter, we're older, we're more successful. We
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  Speaker 1: have more experience. We try to be more perfect. And
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  Speaker 1: that day just rarely comes. So where does worthiness begin?
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  Speaker 1: And where does this wound come from? Like many of
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  Speaker 1: our money stories, it often starts in childhood. Maybe you
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  Speaker 1: grew up hearing that wealthy people were greedy. selfish or
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  Speaker 1: dishonest even. Maybe your family struggled financially and you learned
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  Speaker 1: not to ask for anything because you didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: be a burden. Maybe you were praised only when you
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  Speaker 1: achieved something, leaving you to believe that your value depended
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  Speaker 1: on performance instead of just simply who you are. Or
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  Speaker 1: maybe you watched your parents work endlessly, sacrificing everything, teaching
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  Speaker 1: you that success only comes through exhaustion. Now, we did
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  Speaker 1: work seven days a week, 365 days a year. I
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  Speaker 1: just thought that's the way life was. But I did
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  Speaker 1: see my friends going on vacation and their friends' parents
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  Speaker 1: would hang out with other people and play cards and
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  Speaker 1: things like that. My parents did bowl. They definitely bowled
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  Speaker 1: a lot. My dad was a senior pro. So I
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  Speaker 1: get that. But I definitely lived a different lifestyle than
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  Speaker 1: a lot of my friends. As children, we don't really
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  Speaker 1: question these messages that we're getting subliminally from our families, right?
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  Speaker 1: We absorb them. So over time, they become beliefs. And
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  Speaker 1: then those beliefs become decision-making beliefs. Without even realizing it,
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  Speaker 1: we begin telling ourselves stories like, I'm not qualified enough.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't been doing it long enough. Someone else deserves
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  Speaker 1: this opportunity more than I do. If I make too
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  Speaker 1: much money, people aren't going to like me. Or if
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  Speaker 1: I make too much money, I'm not going to be
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  Speaker 1: able to hang out with my friends because I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to have a different lifestyle. Good people shouldn't want to
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  Speaker 1: be wealthy. They should just be happy. Those stories quietly
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  Speaker 1: influence our financial choices for years. One of the biggest
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  Speaker 1: misconceptions is I hear that wanting financial success somehow is selfish.
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  Speaker 1: I hear this a lot. Like making money is greedy.
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  Speaker 1: It's just not. Making money is fun. Let me just
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  Speaker 1: tell y'all, it's a freaking blast to have money. My
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  Speaker 1: daughter just got married in Iceland. Love her husband. They're amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Love his family. We had such a good time. We
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  Speaker 1: had 70 people come from the Costed money, y'all. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody came and took a nice vacation. The wedding was
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  Speaker 1: four or five days. And then a lot of us
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  Speaker 1: stayed for another six days, seven days. It was so
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  Speaker 1: much fun. Money is just a tool to enjoy this
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  Speaker 1: world and this life. So don't fall into that trap
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  Speaker 1: that making people with money are selfish because it's not
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  Speaker 1: true at all. I've so experienced so much generosity. Money
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  Speaker 1: just simply gives us choices. It allows us to care
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  Speaker 1: for ourselves and our family and support causes that we
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  Speaker 1: believe in. Do you have any volunteering out there or
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  Speaker 1: philanthropy out there? If there's something that you really believe in,
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  Speaker 1: it feels really good to give money to it. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: I'm also a life insurance salesperson agent, whatever you want
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  Speaker 1: to call it. And I do a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: that instead of giving every single week to one of
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  Speaker 1: their charities, such as a church, they'll do a life
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  Speaker 1: insurance policy. pay for that. And now upon their passing,
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  Speaker 1: their cause gets lots of money, way more than they
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  Speaker 1: could ever do with their weekly tithing. So there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of ways to give financially when we don't have
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  Speaker 1: a lot. We can help families in need, people in need,
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  Speaker 1: create opportunities for others and reduce unnecessary stress. I know
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  Speaker 1: that when someone is ill and there's There's doctors and
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  Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. It can be very stressful.
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  Speaker 1: And to help somebody through something like that is wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: Money does not change who we are. It just doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: It's not going to change you. More often, it just
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  Speaker 1: magnifies who you already are. So if you're already great, compassionate,
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  Speaker 1: loving person, you're just going to be a bigger, greater, compassionate,
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  Speaker 1: loving person to be able to do more stuff. A
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  Speaker 1: generous person usually becomes even more generous and a compassionate
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  Speaker 1: person becomes way more compassionate, finding way more ways to give.
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  Speaker 1: It's amazing. Here's a question I ask my clients that
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  Speaker 1: often stops them in their tracks. If you truly believed
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  Speaker 1: you are worthy, what financial decision would you make today
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  Speaker 1: that would be different? Worthy to me means so much.
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  Speaker 1: It means there's plenty for everyone. I'm never going to
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  Speaker 1: run out my money. I make money easily and effortlessly daily.
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  Speaker 1: My money makes money while I sleep. When we feel worthy,
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  Speaker 1: we think very differently about money. So what decision would
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  Speaker 1: you make differently today? Now, can I say that once
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  Speaker 1: you feel worthy, you're always going to be worthy? No, unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't work that way. I'm always on a roller
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  Speaker 1: coaster still. Now, my roller coaster is much better than
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  Speaker 1: it used to be. It was crazy with the loop-de-loops
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  Speaker 1: and everything. I don't have that so much anymore, but
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  Speaker 1: there's still ups and downs. And we have to remind
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  Speaker 1: ourselves that the universe has got my back. The universe
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  Speaker 1: has got my back. I'm okay. This is a dip.
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  Speaker 1: This is a slump. This is a whatever. And sometimes
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  Speaker 1: that's the time that we got to go inward and
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  Speaker 1: be creative to heal ourselves, spend our time with our spirituality,
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  Speaker 1: our religion, or our God, our angels, whatever you believe.
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  Speaker 1: And then we come out stronger and ready to go
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  Speaker 1: take to the next step. Would you finally ask for
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  Speaker 1: a raise if you felt worthy? Would you raise your
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  Speaker 1: fees if you're a business owner? Would you start investing
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  Speaker 1: money maybe? Maybe you've been afraid of investing money. Would
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  Speaker 1: you buy a rental property maybe or another business or
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  Speaker 1: make your side hustle your hobby? Would you make that
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  Speaker 1: into a business? Would you stop apologizing for your success?
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  Speaker 1: And would you spend money on you, your own health,
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  Speaker 1: your own education, and your own personal growth without feeling guilty?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, the therapist, the money coach, the financial planner,
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  Speaker 1: the spiritual guidance person. I got one of those for
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  Speaker 1: you too. Like, would you spend, would you get a
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  Speaker 1: massage every week? Would you do, what's that stuff where
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  Speaker 1: they acupuncture, where they put the needles in? Would you
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  Speaker 1: do that? All these seem to be, would you go
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  Speaker 1: to the chiropractor more often? These things seem to be extra,
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  Speaker 1: but are you worthy to be healthy? This is my
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  Speaker 1: number one goal is to be healthy. And so, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I do put money. where my health is 100%. That's
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  Speaker 1: actually the first place that it goes because I want
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  Speaker 1: to live forever. Just saying 104 is what I'm planning on. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And guilt doesn't get us anywhere, right? And we all
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  Speaker 1: love personal growth. So this is where healing begins, not
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  Speaker 1: with more money. I know we all think if I
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  Speaker 1: just had $ 50, 000, a million dollars, whatever it is, I'd
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  Speaker 1: feel so much better. And you would, you absolutely would
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  Speaker 1: feel better. If you had zero debt, you were financially free.
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  Speaker 1: We would feel better. And then the whole other set
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  Speaker 1: of problems come in as well. So then we still
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  Speaker 1: have to look at our worthiness. We're always going to
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  Speaker 1: have to look at our worthiness and making sure that
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  Speaker 1: we feel worth. So healing begins, not necessarily. with more money,
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  Speaker 1: but with a different belief about yourself. We're always going
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  Speaker 1: to have to go inward and have the belief that's differently.
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  Speaker 1: So here's our first coaching exercise for today. Open up
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  Speaker 1: your money journal and finish this sentence in 10 different ways.
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  Speaker 1: So you organize it like me, maybe write one through
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  Speaker 1: 10 down. Number one, I don't believe I deserve wealth
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  Speaker 1: because now finish that sentence. I don't believe I deserve
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  Speaker 1: wealth because then finish the sentence. So when I very
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  Speaker 1: first found out that I didn't believe that I deserved
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  Speaker 1: wealth was when I did not, I felt like subconsciously
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  Speaker 1: I did not protect my children. So if you hear
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  Speaker 1: my other stories, you'll know that I suffered a tragedy.
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  Speaker 1: I lost my two kids like 33 years ago. And
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  Speaker 1: that was a subconscious that my coach helped me find
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  Speaker 1: a thought that I had that I did not deserve
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  Speaker 1: to be wealthy because I did not protect my children.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what I would put there. And it took
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  Speaker 1: me forever to find that just so, you know, it
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  Speaker 1: just doesn't pop up to the, to the surface. Cause
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  Speaker 1: that was painful. Right. And that brought up all the
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  Speaker 1: pain and I had to deal with all of that
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  Speaker 1: and that was okay. And then I healed from that.
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  Speaker 1: And then it's an onion. It's just always there and
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  Speaker 1: coming back and forth. Right. So don't filter what comes up,
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  Speaker 1: just mind down. Even if you don't want to be
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  Speaker 1: in one through 10, just mind up. I don't believe
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  Speaker 1: I deserve wealth because I don't know enough about money
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  Speaker 1: because I was never taught in education because I have
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  Speaker 1: way too much debt because I spend frivolously because I
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  Speaker 1: shop to feel good because I lie about my money
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  Speaker 1: because I don't tell my husband what's happening. Like it
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  Speaker 1: could be so many different things, right? Don't filter your answers.
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  Speaker 1: Just let them come naturally. You'll be surprised what comes
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  Speaker 1: to the surface. Usually around the fifth, seventh one comes
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  Speaker 1: that shocks you. These answers are so revealing and beliefs
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  Speaker 1: that you've been carrying are not necessarily true. That was
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  Speaker 1: not true. I do deserve to be wealthy. And I
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  Speaker 1: did have to heal that little part of me. And
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  Speaker 1: I had to acknowledge my part that I played in
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  Speaker 1: any circumstance at all. So I'm really big on taking responsibility.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not big on beating myself up. There's not necessarily,
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  Speaker 1: not necessary at all. However, When I did something and
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  Speaker 1: I played a part in something, I got to look
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  Speaker 1: at that and say, okay, I screwed that up royally.
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  Speaker 1: I should have, could have, would have never have done that.
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  Speaker 1: And I did the best I could at the time.
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  Speaker 1: I knew what I knew at the time. I felt
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  Speaker 1: what I felt at the time. And I did the
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  Speaker 1: best I could at the time. Now I'd be doing
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  Speaker 1: something so different. But at the time, that's the person
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  Speaker 1: I was. And that's what I knew. So we have
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  Speaker 1: to love her. Like that, all this happened when I
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  Speaker 1: was 29. So I love my 29 year old who
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  Speaker 1: was broken and heartbroken and devastated and just overwhelmed and controlled.
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  Speaker 1: And on the verge of a nervous breakdown, like she
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  Speaker 1: was a mess. She was just an utterly mess. So
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  Speaker 1: I have to pick her up and hug her and
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  Speaker 1: love her and say, okay, 29 year old, you're going
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  Speaker 1: to be okay. Look at us now. We're 62, 62,
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  Speaker 1: I think I'm 62. And here I am. I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all good. I'm happy. I'm joyous every day. right?
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  Speaker 1: So we sometimes have to go get our past person,
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  Speaker 1: bring them with us to heal this worthiness. That makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that makes sense. I'm not getting too woo
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  Speaker 1: woo for you. Okay. Next, we're going to ask ourselves
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  Speaker 1: these 10 questions that we wrote down. If I don't
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  Speaker 1: believe I deserve wealth because, and then we have all
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  Speaker 1: these statements. Next, ask ourselves, where did I learn this?
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  Speaker 1: So I don't believe I deserve wealth because I'm not
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  Speaker 1: smart enough. Okay, who told us that I'm not smart enough, right?
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  Speaker 1: Where did we hear that I'm not smart enough? Was
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  Speaker 1: that family members, high school, boyfriends, teachers, next door neighbors?
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  Speaker 1: Where did we hear that? Was it something someone said?
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  Speaker 1: Was it something that you just observed in your household?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you felt bullied or criticized by your parents. Was
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  Speaker 1: it an experience that left you just feeling not good
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  Speaker 1: about money? Remembering and understanding your story is not about
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  Speaker 1: blaming yourself, absolutely, or blaming your past or anyone in
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  Speaker 1: your past. It's only about understanding why you think the
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  Speaker 1: way you think now so that you can begin to
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  Speaker 1: choose differently. Your second exercise is to write a list
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  Speaker 1: of everything you've done and become today that you've pursued,
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  Speaker 1: all your higher education, whatever it might be, the challenges
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  Speaker 1: that you've overcome, the people that you've helped. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: The skills that you've developed. and the obstacles that you've survived.
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  Speaker 1: So these are your skills and traits that are just
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  Speaker 1: amazing that you've done. I want to spend time on
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  Speaker 1: focusing on what we have accomplished and not what we
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  Speaker 1: have not accomplished, right? We are great at spending time
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  Speaker 1: at how we can be better, do better, do better,
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  Speaker 1: all that. I want to spend time on what have
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  Speaker 1: you done, right? I got out of a really bad marriage.
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  Speaker 1: I saved my life. I now put that to good
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  Speaker 1: use by my training and education I can now help
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  Speaker 1: someone else get out of that situation. I can also
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  Speaker 1: have more compassion for anyone because I've been at my depth,
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  Speaker 1: this bare door, right? I've been at the bottom. So
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  Speaker 1: when we've been at the bottom, sorry y'all, but we're
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  Speaker 1: kind of badass. And I feel like we have a
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  Speaker 1: secret power here because when we've been at the bottom,
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  Speaker 1: the deeper our bottom, the higher our joy. Yes, this
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  Speaker 1: is me. This is my thought, but the higher our
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  Speaker 1: joy is. So yes, Definitely have been to despair and
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  Speaker 1: I can find something so simple to be so happy
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  Speaker 1: about in just an instant. And it brings me to
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  Speaker 1: such joy. I love it. I love it. So we
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  Speaker 1: have a secret power there. We have a secret weapon there.
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  Speaker 1: So we want to look at that list. What have
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  Speaker 1: we accomplished? What have we done? Yeah, all the regular stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But what about the other stuff? I'm putting myself first
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  Speaker 1: and it's not easy. I'm putting my health first because
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  Speaker 1: we're here. I'm here in a community with amazing people.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. And they're so busy. Everyone's doing something
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  Speaker 1: like tonight, we're going over a friend's house to watch
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  Speaker 1: the dink movie. Okay, great. So there's going to probably be,
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know, 10, 20, 30 people there watching
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  Speaker 1: this dink movie. Like that's so fun, right? So when
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  Speaker 1: I'm putting my health first, my dietary restrictions are there,
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  Speaker 1: you know, to bed early, drinking all my water, all
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  Speaker 1: the electrolytes, all my supplements, my good food, all that
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  Speaker 1: kind of stuff. So sometimes that precludes me from going
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  Speaker 1: and doing some of these activities, but it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 1: My health comes first and it makes me feel so
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  Speaker 1: good when I'm healthy, right? So we got to be
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  Speaker 1: selfish with ourselves a little bit. I also want you
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  Speaker 1: to start practicing receiving. Oh my gosh, this was so
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  Speaker 1: hard for me because I'm the doer. I'm the doer
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  Speaker 1: and I'm the helper and I'm the fixer, right? I'm
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  Speaker 1: the codependent. I fix everybody. When someone compliments your work,
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  Speaker 1: just simply say thank you. When someone offers to help,
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  Speaker 1: Thank you. Allow them. Even if you could do it yourself.
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  Speaker 1: We all know you can do it yourself. Don't even
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  Speaker 1: go there. I know you can do it yourself. I
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  Speaker 1: can do it. I can have two bags of groceries.
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  Speaker 1: I can kick the door open with my foot. I
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  Speaker 1: can hold it open with my butt and I can
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  Speaker 1: reach over and I can do all of this and
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  Speaker 1: I can do it all myself. I know that. It's
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  Speaker 1: not about that. It's literally not about that. It is
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  Speaker 1: about allowing people to serve you. It's about allowing people
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  Speaker 1: to help you Think about the last time that you
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  Speaker 1: helped somebody. Wasn't it amazing? Like it felt so good
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  Speaker 1: to help. Felt so good to help. And that feels good.
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  Speaker 1: So we want to make sure that we allow people
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  Speaker 1: to help us. And it's hard. That was hard. That
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  Speaker 1: was so hard for me to learn this lesson. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: when opportunity comes your way, resist the urge to say,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not qualified, or I don't think I'm good enough,
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  Speaker 1: or whatever you might say. Instead, pause and ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: What if I am worthy of this amazing opportunity? Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: healing begins with allowing yourself to receive what you've spent
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  Speaker 1: years believing that you did not deserve. So sometimes it
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  Speaker 1: feels uncomfortable to say, yeah, I want to do this. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I want to start this business with you. Yes, I
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  Speaker 1: want to do this. It's so fun. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to leave you with a thought here. Your self-worth and
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  Speaker 1: your network are not the same thing. Your income may
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  Speaker 1: rise and fall. Markets might go up and down. Businesses
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  Speaker 1: will have good years and some difficult years. None of
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  Speaker 1: those things have anything to do with your value as
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  Speaker 1: a human being. Marriages come and go. Relationships come and go.
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  Speaker 1: None of that has to do with who you are
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  Speaker 1: as a human being. Your worth was never something you
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  Speaker 1: had to earn. You are worthy because you're breathing. You
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  Speaker 1: were born, you're on this planet and you're breathing. You
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  Speaker 1: are worthy. Like you gotta know that. It is something
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  Speaker 1: you were just born with. When you truly believe that,
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  Speaker 1: you stop chasing money to prove your value. Instead, you
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  Speaker 1: begin making financial decisions to reflect the value that you've
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  Speaker 1: already had all along. And it feels so good. That's
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  Speaker 1: where confidence grows. That's where healthy wealth begins. We want
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  Speaker 1: healthy wealth. And that's where your money story starts to change. Ah,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't that feel good? I know it's going to feel
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  Speaker 1: so great for you. So there's some other ways that
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  Speaker 1: the worthiness wound shows up. Constantly comparing yourself to other
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  Speaker 1: people that are more successful or just other people. Like
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  Speaker 1: around here, it's like, who's retired? How big is their house?
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  Speaker 1: You know, what are they doing? How's their vacations? Things
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  Speaker 1: like that. Staying in a job that underpays you because
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  Speaker 1: you're afraid no one else is going to hire you.
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  Speaker 1: I always have my clients go look and go on
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  Speaker 1: interviews just to build up their self-confidence. Overworking to prove
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  Speaker 1: your value instead of believing you already have value. and
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: not work yourself to death. Like take your time off.
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  Speaker 1: Anybody that has built up days off, take those days off.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care if it's a stay vacation. Like you
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  Speaker 1: take that time off. You be good. I know a
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: lot of us feel like an imposter, right? Even when
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: we're highly qualified, we feel like an imposter. That is
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  Speaker 1: a worthiness. wound that's sharing its little, little thought there,
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  Speaker 1: apologizing excessively when you've even done nothing wrong. Okay. I
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: do this on the pickleball court sometimes. And I hear
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  Speaker 1: a lot of women do this all the time. I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Like, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: Stop apologizing. Don't apologize for anything. Like things happen. Now,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: let me say not anything when you screw up. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Like there's some times I put my foot
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: in my mouth. I should say a lot of times
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I put my foot in my mouth and I will
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: text that person later and just say, you know what?
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  Speaker 1: I should have never said that. I'm so sorry. I
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  Speaker 1: hope they didn't hurt your feelings. I do that a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Sabotaging opportunities because success feels unfamiliar. Actually, success might be scary.
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  Speaker 1: Like Oprah said, you're actually more worried about becoming successful
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  Speaker 1: than staying where you're at because it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: so unfamiliar. So know that you're worthy. Know that the
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  Speaker 1: universe has got your back. Know that abundance is right
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  Speaker 1: here for you and it's going to feel amazing and
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  Speaker 1: you're going to be able to help yourself and help
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  Speaker 1: others when you step into that true person of who
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  Speaker 1: you really, really are. I hope you'd enjoy today's podcast
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: This is wound number three. Yeah, scarcity. I can't remember
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  Speaker 1: two or three, but check them all out. There's seven.
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  Speaker 1: So there's seven. And there's one that explains them all.
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  Speaker 1: This is true healing right here. I promise you, your
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  Speaker 1: life will change if you go through with it. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much. I'd love for you to come back
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  Speaker 1: and watch all the episodes because I want you to
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: be able to walk away and say, I rock my finances.
• 21:34
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• 21:41
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• 21:45
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• 21:49
  Speaker 2: and Talk4TV. It's not about the zero. It's about the
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: F word, feelings. Feelings Jennifer can't wait to explore with
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  Speaker 2: you next week. Until then, let's all say, I rock
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  Speaker 2: my finances.