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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Are You An Energy Faucet Or Drain? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Emily Evadi here with five Minute Friday. I
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  Speaker 1: am feeling like I'm doing a thousand things this morning,
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  Speaker 1: including recording this, so it is in your feed at
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  Speaker 1: the right time for Friday morning. I am gearing up
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  Speaker 1: to host an event midday for Athleta and so they
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  Speaker 1: have a new flagship location, Flagship location opening just south
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  Speaker 1: of Houston Street, and then I will be hopping on
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  Speaker 1: a plane and making my way to DC to spend
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  Speaker 1: some time with my loved ones, one of which is
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  Speaker 1: newly pregnant and another is newly engaged, so lots of
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  Speaker 1: things to celebrate.
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  Speaker 2: I digress.
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  Speaker 1: I have been having one of those weeks where I
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  Speaker 1: am reminded the beauty of surrounding yourself with good people.
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  Speaker 1: So last Sunday night, I had a few girlfriends over,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that I was going to be away this weekend
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  Speaker 1: and Thanksgiving is coming really fast. I am hosting Thanksgiving
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  Speaker 1: and I wanted to have the tree up in time.
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  Speaker 1: So I decided to combine the process of getting the
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  Speaker 1: apartment ready for the holidays with having some girlfriends over
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  Speaker 1: and had a little marrymaking evening.
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  Speaker 2: If we will, the.
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  Speaker 1: Only rule for the marrymaking evening on Sunday was that
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  Speaker 1: you needed to bring an ornament. And I was just
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  Speaker 1: so blown away by the thoughtfulness of all of my
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  Speaker 1: friends to bring something that they genuinely thought of me
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  Speaker 1: when they looked at And let's laugh that a lot
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  Speaker 1: of these have to do with food. A croissant, a
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  Speaker 1: bagel with locks. Oh, a friend of mine and I
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  Speaker 1: dressed up as astronauts for Halloween. She brought me an astronaut.
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  Speaker 1: I have donuts. I have a pizza box, like truly
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  Speaker 1: the cutest things. Oh, we can't forget the converse sneaker.
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  Speaker 1: I digress. I just had such a lovely evening with
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  Speaker 1: these women in my apartment who made me feel loved
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  Speaker 1: and valued and exchanging, like really beautiful conversation. And I
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  Speaker 1: woke up on Monday feeling really charged up for the week.
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  Speaker 1: I noticed that I was on my coffee walk and
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  Speaker 1: I was smiling, and I accidentally tipped three dollars. If
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  Speaker 1: you go to the coffee shop and you use one
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  Speaker 1: of those like iPads that you pay on typically when
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  Speaker 1: you pay there's one, two, three dollars, three separate options,
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  Speaker 1: and then there's no tip. And I went to go
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  Speaker 1: press the one, but pressed the three just in like
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  Speaker 1: the bagginess of my jacket and the things that I
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  Speaker 1: was holding, and I thought to myself, like, obviously, no harm,
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  Speaker 1: no foul. I didn't mean to tip three dollars, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy too. But I texted my friend and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I was just so flustered at the coffee shop,
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  Speaker 1: and I tipped three dollars, and I was like, karma
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  Speaker 1: is about to come back to me big time, and literally,
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  Speaker 1: as I walked outside, a woman by the name of
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  Speaker 1: Katie I believe, walked up to me.
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  Speaker 2: She was a hurdler. She is a hurdler. She introduced
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  Speaker 2: herself to me.
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  Speaker 1: We had like this really beautiful conversation and I left
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  Speaker 1: that also smiling and just thinking about how great it
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  Speaker 1: is that we can be the energy that we want
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  Speaker 1: to attract, right, And I said that I was walking
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  Speaker 1: around and I was smiling, and I was happy on Monday,
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  Speaker 1: and I felt as though that good karma just came
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  Speaker 1: with me, right. It was like one thing just flowed
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  Speaker 1: into the next thing. And then I felt as though,
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  Speaker 1: because I was on such a high, that I had
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  Speaker 1: more to give, which brings me to the concept of
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  Speaker 1: energy faucets and energy drains.
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  Speaker 2: You can choose to be a faucet.
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  Speaker 1: You can surround yourself with faucets individuals that give positive
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  Speaker 1: energy to or you can be a drain, a person that,
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  Speaker 1: because of one thing or another, just is sucking the
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  Speaker 1: goodness out of a situation. I think we can all,
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  Speaker 1: like nod our heads, in agreement that we have been
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  Speaker 1: in situations where we have been surrounded by drains, and
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  Speaker 1: sometimes it is easier to get away from that than others.
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  Speaker 1: Know that you can choose to be an energy faucet.
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  Speaker 1: You can choose over time. It might take a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of work, but to surround yourself with faucets as well.
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  Speaker 1: Be mindful of how you feel when you leave people,
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  Speaker 1: and know that you are the sum of those that
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  Speaker 1: you spend the most of your time with. So consciously
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  Speaker 1: choose your relationships. Know that you are worthy of energy faucets,
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  Speaker 1: that you are worthy of walking around with that smile
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  Speaker 1: on your face on Monday morning.
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  Speaker 2: Period.
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  Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week, if you do an
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  Speaker 1: inventory of your life, is there anyone that is ever
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  Speaker 1: present that when you walk away from them you feel better?
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  Speaker 1: And what does that feeling really mean to you? Describe
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  Speaker 1: it again? Is there someone in your life that is
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  Speaker 1: an energy faucet that makes you consciously feel better when
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  Speaker 1: you leave them, and can you describe what that feeling
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  Speaker 1: is like for you? An added extra challenge, whoever you
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  Speaker 1: think of right now that this person is, maybe go
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  Speaker 1: out on a limb and tell them, Yeah, I'm sure
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  Speaker 1: they'll appreciate it. And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, this is Ali from Philadelphia. I've been a
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  Speaker 3: huge Hurdle fan for a few years now, and more
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  Speaker 3: recently I've been especially loving your five minute Fridays and
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  Speaker 3: the prompts that you leave all your listeners with. I'm
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  Speaker 3: normally mid run when i'm listening, so it's really the
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  Speaker 3: perfect time for my own personal self reflection. So with
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  Speaker 3: that two part question for you, one looking back on
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  Speaker 3: your adult life, what is one piece of advice that
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  Speaker 3: you would give your younger self? And then looking ahead,
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  Speaker 3: where do you see yourself in five years? And more specifically,
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  Speaker 3: where do you see Hurdle in five years. It's been
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  Speaker 3: really awesome seeing the podcast and the brand evolve. I
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  Speaker 3: would love to hear more about where you see Hurdle
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  Speaker 3: going next.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks Emily, Ali from Philadelphia coming in with the hard
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  Speaker 2: hitting questions this Friday. PS.
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  Speaker 1: If you are listening right now and you have a
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  Speaker 1: listener question, we need them, we want them. I want
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  Speaker 1: to answer all of them asap. Please do me this favor.
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  Speaker 1: Give me the gift of question for this Thanksgiving Seriously,
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  Speaker 1: I would really appreciate it. Click on over to the
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  Speaker 1: show notes and leave me a voice message. I do
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  Speaker 1: have an upcoming listener Questions episode on deck, so in
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  Speaker 1: order to give you that, I need them in return. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that is my call out. Please now let's see the
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  Speaker 1: first question. Advice to my younger self, I would say
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  Speaker 1: that you don't need to look into somebody else's eyes
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  Speaker 1: to determine how you feel. For so long, as I
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  Speaker 1: mentioned earlier, I was a people pleaser, and I determined
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  Speaker 1: how I felt based on the emotions and like the
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  Speaker 1: temperature and the energy of everybody else around me. And
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that these days I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: make others happy. Of course I do. It's literally one
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  Speaker 1: of my biggest joys. But I know that how I
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  Speaker 1: feel that starts with me. And so my piece of
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  Speaker 1: advice is to listen to yourself, to truly do a
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  Speaker 1: regular audit and know that your happiness lies in your hands,
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  Speaker 1: it is not determined on how those around you feel.
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  Speaker 1: That's a really big piece of advice I would give myself.
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  Speaker 1: And then the next question, here, where's Hurdle going to
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  Speaker 1: be at in five years?
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  Speaker 2: I want Hurdle to be a brand.
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  Speaker 1: Brand Like, yes, Hurdle is a brand now, and yes,
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  Speaker 1: many of you listening to this in a five minute
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  Speaker 1: Friday every week you listen to the show regularly. It
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  Speaker 1: has become a staple in your routine. And for that
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  Speaker 1: I am so thankful. But there's so much more that
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  Speaker 1: I want to do, and other evolutions of let's call
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  Speaker 1: it my business that have yet to take flight. And
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  Speaker 1: I think about being on Forbes lists, and I think
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  Speaker 1: about just things that are so far from where I'm
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  Speaker 1: at right now that I dream of, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: have a lot of answers on how to necessarily get there.
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  Speaker 1: But I know that if I ask questions and put
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  Speaker 1: my ego aside and keep stepping up and like embracing
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  Speaker 1: my spot in these different spaces and sitting down at
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  Speaker 1: the table and making a name for myself, that eventually,
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  Speaker 1: with hard work, that the things that I envision will come.
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  Speaker 1: So I wanted to be a brand brand. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be a bigger website. I want to have a
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  Speaker 1: legitimate team. I want to have a business that has
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  Speaker 1: a full time employee in five years at least one.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that I look back on this episode and
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  Speaker 1: like kind of laugh a little bit, because maybe it'll
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  Speaker 1: be even bigger than I imagined, which is already where
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  Speaker 1: it is right now. In terms of me, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: in five years, gosh, I would love also to be married.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I'll have a child, maybe I won't.
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  Speaker 2: Have a child. So I'm going to manifest that for
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  Speaker 2: myself as well.
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  Speaker 1: I want to continue on being happy in my life
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  Speaker 1: and share that love with others as I have been doing.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, maybe by this time I'll have a Brownstone.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, A woman can dream, right, A woman can dream.
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  Speaker 2: That's it for this week.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along with Hurdle over on social
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  Speaker 1: It's at Hurdle Podcast. I myself am over at Emily
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  Speaker 1: Abadi another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time, and
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  Speaker 1: don't forget to submit a listener question.