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3 TOP Asperger's and Relationships Tips YOU NEED! · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the ASPY world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism Ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  Here are three tips for navigating relationships whilst
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  on the autism spectrum. Having Aspergers?
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  Guys, What's going on? Welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan, I have autism and ADHD and week weekly videos
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  all about this stuff. So if you want to learn more and
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  join the journey with me, we just hit the subscribe button
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  but click on the notification bell down below.
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  So the first one is communication and openness.
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  When you have an open communication flow between you
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  and the other person, you are able to understand each other on
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  a decent level. There's no kind of like unsaid
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  things. There's nothing that you should
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  pick up or understand because of the situation.
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  If you are open and completely honest, if you say this is
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  what's upsetting me, this is what I like, this is what I
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  don't like. This is what doesn't work, and
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  you're completely open both ways.
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  Each of you know exactly where you are on the page, and there's
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  no kind of, like ambiguity between you 2 about anything to
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  do with the relationship. This is like #1 way to make sure
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  that you stay on track and keep that relationship solid.
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  OK, so #2 is developing social skills.
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  Now when you're in a couple, you're a couple.
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  You're a powerhouse. You have to gather and you go
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  out together. You do things together.
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  Yes, you do things individually, but a lot of the time you'll be
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  doing things together. Now, navigating through this is
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  developing social skills together to help you manage
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  certain situations where you might go out and you'll develop
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  social skills. These skills will be greatly
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  beneficial to your relationship because then you'll be able to
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  say, oh, this is what people do when they socialize.
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  Or we'll go out to a bar together and then we'll buy a
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  drink. And you know, what do people
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  formally do? What do people do in, you know,
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  going out for dinner, reservation situations, working
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  out all those things and developing those social skills
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  will pay dividends not only between you as a couple and your
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  friends, but between you as a couple, between each other.
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  That's a really, really important.
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  And it's kind of like a big, big deal.
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  OK, so #3 is establishing a routine and creating
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  predictability. Now, people on the autism
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  spectrum love predictability, right?
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  They love having a routine and it sticks with because it's
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  comfortable and it's safe. Now explaining this to your
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  partner and creating a life together where your relationship
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  has predictability within that and a routine or a schedule.
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  Like you know you always go off a dinner on a Thursday night,
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  you have a movie night on a Friday.
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  Like all of these things that come into play for creating a
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  routine, creating something that flows easy, something that you
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  can remember, something that you feel comfortable with.
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  All of those things will help you have the stronger bond
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  together and actually help you increase your likelihood of
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  having a more successful relationship.
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  But it also helps the autistic person navigate through the
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  relationship to make sure that they are also calm enough to
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  understand where things may go wrong or things may not happen
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  in a certain way. At least they have their
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  predictability and routine that they can stick to, that they
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  feel comfortable with. Everything else can be learned
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  along the way. This is so important now.
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  If you think this is important for people, please share it on
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  social media by clicking the share button down below and I'll
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  see you in the next one. Guys.
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  Peace. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  checking out this podcast. Make sure you are subscribed
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  subscribe. OK guys.
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  See you in the next one. Peace.