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Dear Banya: A Leg Graze Could Do It · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everyone.
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  Speaker 2: We are scrubbing in. No, it was like living living.
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  Speaker 1: How you doing doing great? How are you doing doing great?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much? So Okay, do you remember how
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  Speaker 2: on the podcast you asked me my favorite Taylor Swift
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  Speaker 2: song to describe where I'm at right now or like
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  Speaker 2: our relationship, my relationship with Haley. It was after that.
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  Speaker 3: It was the yeah, yeah, yeah, I think it was
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  Speaker 3: a Facebook question.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, oh and I said daylight.
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  Speaker 1: M So there's this said we are in love? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you are in love?
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  Speaker 2: And so there's this trend on TikTok where you just
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  Speaker 2: pick a picture and then TikTok chooses the sound, so
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  Speaker 2: you don't it just automatically chooses it. And I did
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  Speaker 2: a picture of me and Haley to choose daylight.
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  Speaker 1: No way, can you do me?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: You let me see what it is. Yeah, do you
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  Speaker 2: have a picture you want me to choose?
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  Speaker 1: Sure? Maybe our wedding or the one from from me
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  Speaker 1: and Robbie.
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  Speaker 3: I was thinking one of the two of you might
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  Speaker 3: be interesting to see what comes up.
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  Speaker 2: That would be Mark, you're a real thinker. One from
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  Speaker 2: the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Use this one, Becca, use this one, and then which
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  Speaker 1: one I'm sending you to you right now? And then
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  Speaker 1: use wait this one.
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  Speaker 2: I literally was going to use that I have three
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  Speaker 2: times in my phone because you sent it Robbie sent
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  Speaker 2: it the photo's birthday Whoopsie.
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  Speaker 1: And then use that picture I sent you me and Robbie,
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  Speaker 1: the one.
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  Speaker 2: Where you're licking him.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, okay, I think it's gonna be a nice little
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  Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry, I didn't really just sent the other one,
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  Speaker 1: meant the licking one this, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, come on, okay, so this is
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to do the one of me and you first,
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  Speaker 2: and then so you pick as you just pick it,
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  Speaker 2: and then it looks like.
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  Speaker 3: You're trying to get something out from in between his
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  Speaker 3: teeth with your tongue.
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  Speaker 1: You know what, I would help anybody out.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So here's let's see what it picks.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Oh my gosh. Some people are just good people
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  Speaker 3: and you can just feel it.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know how to explain that, but there's
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  Speaker 1: like this little sark they have in their monologue with
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  Speaker 1: everyone just you feel safe and happy.
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  Speaker 3: Some people.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that's really cute it is.
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  Speaker 3: Do we know what that's from or anything?
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  Speaker 2: I think it's an Emma Chamberlain podcast. Oh sure, and
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  Speaker 2: they've added some music over it.
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  Speaker 1: Perfect. I feel like we lost our People's Choice Award
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  Speaker 1: to her in twenty twenty. So that's really opera po popo.
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  Speaker 3: But you guys are giving off podcast vibes, which is interesting. Yeah, uh, okay,
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  Speaker 3: here's licking him, yeah, Robbie. This is Robbie Tanya licking
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  Speaker 3: Robbie's mouth.
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  Speaker 4: Time.
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was butterflies. Way you down in my head?
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  Speaker 3: What do you think daisies Daisy's beaver?
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  Speaker 1: I mean it's very viral right now, so I'll take it.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, good.
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  Speaker 1: I figured it would be something a little more like
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  Speaker 1: the reason I picked that photo because raunchy. Yeah you
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  Speaker 1: don't keeping it classy?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, they're classy that way.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, that was exciting.
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  Speaker 1: Well that was fun. Yeah yeah yeah, I love to
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  Speaker 1: see it. Do you know what trend I want to try?
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  Speaker 1: And I've been wanting to try for a week now.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, my name is Pink, and I'm really nice
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  Speaker 2: to know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand that one I woke up into a
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  Speaker 1: new boogotty.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've intel done it, just like not a
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  Speaker 2: lot of time. Oh, it should be pretty fast.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know we're not. Yeah, I know. I know.
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  Speaker 1: You're right. It should be fast. I've been wanting to
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  Speaker 1: do it for like a week.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Just make sure you don't do it on carpet.
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  Speaker 2: Do it on like wood, yeah, hardwood.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen some people tend to do it on carpet,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, well, that's gonna be tough. Yeah. We
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  Speaker 2: do have a dear Bonia episode today, so we should
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  Speaker 2: jump right in.
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  Speaker 3: Let's jump right in. Anonymous says, do I want to
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  Speaker 3: date a friend that I friend zoned? No. I have
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  Speaker 3: a guy friend of ten plus years, let's call him Brad,
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  Speaker 3: who has always had a crush on me, and I've
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  Speaker 3: always friend zoned him. However, he's exactly what I'm looking for.
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  Speaker 3: He's cute, he's tall, he's the kindest person ever. He's funny,
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  Speaker 3: he's smart. Faith is important to him. He has the
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  Speaker 3: best family and really good friends. When I go on dates,
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  Speaker 3: I usually say, well, why would I date this random
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  Speaker 3: guy when I could date Brad. He's a little meek
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  Speaker 3: and doesn't have the most swag, which is what I
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  Speaker 3: think is missing, and maybe the tingles. But if we
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  Speaker 3: ended up together, I think I'd be like, Wow, I
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  Speaker 3: have the best husband ever. I tend to want what
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  Speaker 3: I can't have, and I feel like you're dating as
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  Speaker 3: entertainment sometimes even though legitimately want a husband and family.
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  Speaker 3: Do I give Brad a chance? Can he break out
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  Speaker 3: of the friend zone? And if so, how or is
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  Speaker 3: this a lost cause? Love you guys?
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  Speaker 2: You have Brad a chance?
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  Speaker 1: I think so, I say, no, why why the tingles?
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  Speaker 2: I think the the tingles can come?
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  Speaker 3: Can you earn the tingles?
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  Speaker 1: You can't earn the tingles? The tingles either tingle or
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  Speaker 1: they don't.
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  Speaker 2: No, because you might see someone as a friend. For
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  Speaker 2: I have someone who just had a friend for a
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  Speaker 2: long time and then they started dating and she got
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  Speaker 2: the dingles?
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  Speaker 1: Are you sure?
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  Speaker 3: Arry?
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  Speaker 1: Let's text her.
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  Speaker 2: And ask I don't need to text.
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  Speaker 1: Because I think sometimes some people just settle. They're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm waiting, like it's like, oh, we had a slow burn.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm like, my thing is give Brad a chance,
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  Speaker 2: go on dates, open up a romantic relationship, and if
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  Speaker 2: the tingles don't develop, then you tried. I don't see
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  Speaker 2: the next She's.
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  Speaker 3: Lost her friend Brad and also probably tortured him in
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  Speaker 3: the process because he's into her her and now she's
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  Speaker 3: giving him hope and then it doesn't come through and
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  Speaker 3: he could be devastated by this.
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  Speaker 2: You'll say, I have I know we've only seen each
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  Speaker 2: other as a friend, but I think you're amazing and
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  Speaker 2: you have all the qualities I'm looking for in someone,
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  Speaker 2: and I want to see if we can get out
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  Speaker 2: of a friendship. And I don't. I don't want it
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  Speaker 2: to forever. Here's the thing, Brad is gonna be around.
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  Speaker 2: It sounds like Brad's gonna be in her life. So
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  Speaker 2: maybe they have a chance. Maybe it's awkward for a
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  Speaker 2: little bit, but they'll get back to it.
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  Speaker 3: How about just kiss him, kiss him and see what happens.
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  Speaker 3: Like you go out, you hang out, you go to
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  Speaker 3: a movie, whatever you do, You go get dinner, and
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  Speaker 3: then you go back to your place and you have
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  Speaker 3: some wine or whatever. Just kiss him and see what happens.
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  Speaker 3: Because maybe the tingles are just they're just being a
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  Speaker 3: little bit. They're hiding right now. The tingles are there.
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  Speaker 1: The tingles come with kissing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, how do you have tingles if you're not kissing
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  Speaker 2: or like doing something physical.
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  Speaker 1: Leg Grays can do it, I know.
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  Speaker 2: But it sounds like they're strictly friends, so I don't
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  Speaker 2: think they've done anything very What does that mean to
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  Speaker 2: the tingles? It's very little. For compare yourself on.
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  Speaker 1: The upper thigh. I can bring them, but they're not
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  Speaker 1: doing that tight hug.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're not. My god, I think you kiss Brad
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  Speaker 2: and I think you tight hug.
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  Speaker 1: And you can steal things. I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Well, okay, yes, but you do see more sensitive to
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  Speaker 3: tingles than most people. They're a little bit repressed her tingles.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, and especially around Brad because Brad has just
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  Speaker 2: been a friend for tener, so she's there's no newness
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  Speaker 2: to Brad in terms of just seeing him or hanging
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  Speaker 2: out with him, but kissing him will bring newness.
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  Speaker 3: And maybe he's a great kisser. And then maybe he
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  Speaker 3: goes to the bedroom and he's graded other things too,
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  Speaker 3: and maybe he's got what.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think he's good at?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe he's got swag in the.
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  Speaker 1: Bedroom, like he can bake a cake, if you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: She's hiding, sir, She's hiding her tingles, he's hiding his
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  Speaker 3: swag and they're going to come together in beautiful way.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I give him a chance. See where what if
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  Speaker 2: not you? Who? Honestly, if not you, it's going to
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  Speaker 2: be someone else and you're always going.
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  Speaker 1: To go, oh, he's such a friend.
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  Speaker 2: That a chance.
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  Speaker 3: She's got the best husband ever?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and then you might do it? What if Brad's
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  Speaker 2: like I thought I liked you, but I don't get
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  Speaker 2: the tingles as possible. I mean, I'm just saying, got
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  Speaker 2: to give it a chance.
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  Speaker 3: To give it a chance, and I really want to
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  Speaker 3: know what happens with this one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, please update us with Brad and good luck.
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  Speaker 3: Give Brad.
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  Speaker 2: Brad deserves it all right.
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  Speaker 3: Here's another anonymous Hi Mark, Tanya Easton and Becca ooh Becca, sorry, last,
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  Speaker 3: it's not last. Where. I've been friends with someone for
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  Speaker 3: six years and she started dating her current boyfriend about
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  Speaker 3: six months ago. A mutual friend told me that not
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  Speaker 3: only does her boyfriend use hard drugs, but she started
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  Speaker 3: using them to Before this relationship. The most she ever
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  Speaker 3: did was occasionally smoke weed. Alcoholism runs in her family,
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  Speaker 3: and her boyfriend is a bartender who drinks a lot,
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  Speaker 3: especially around her which she needs to be encouraging her
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  Speaker 3: or drink more often. Now she drinks almost every day,
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  Speaker 3: and it's become her go to anytime she's even a
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  Speaker 3: little stressed. I'm not sure how to talk to her
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  Speaker 3: about all of this. I can't tell her I know
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  Speaker 3: about the drug use because she's been hiding it. I
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  Speaker 3: wasn't supposed to find out. But I'm really concerned about
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  Speaker 3: the relationship, the drinking, the family history. Any advice on
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  Speaker 3: how to approach the conversation. We mean a lot. I
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  Speaker 3: love the podcast. Everything you post brings me happiness.
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  Speaker 2: This is hard because you have to approach this in
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  Speaker 2: a way that's not going to make her distance herself
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  Speaker 2: from you, because I think that she seems to still
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  Speaker 2: you still have a friendship with her. But I think
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  Speaker 2: maybe you just approach it as in, I'm here for you.
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  Speaker 2: I can't tell if I don't know if something's going on,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.
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  Speaker 1: I know. Stuff like this is really hard because it's
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  Speaker 1: like you can't tell someone what to do. You can't
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  Speaker 1: tell them like.
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  Speaker 2: The person they're dating is a bad influence.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't remind them of the alcoholism and you
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  Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I feel I mean, you
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  Speaker 1: can do all those things, but I just feel like
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  Speaker 1: it's going to push her into more.
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  Speaker 2: Of a whole you know what I mean with him?
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  Speaker 1: No, yeah, right, Like she's going to start pushing you
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  Speaker 1: out as the friend. So I feel like you have
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  Speaker 1: to be really careful about these things because but you
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  Speaker 1: have the best intentions, you know, like you just want
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  Speaker 1: your friend to be healthy. So I honestly don't even know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know what you do.
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  Speaker 2: I almost wonder if you to say, hey, I've noticed
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  Speaker 2: that you've been more stressed a little more anxious lately,
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  Speaker 2: and I just want you to know that I'm here
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  Speaker 2: for you if you ever want to talk, like, no judgment,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on, but I love you
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  Speaker 2: and I'm here because unfortunately, when people get into a
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  Speaker 2: relationship like this, he's probably telling her, like he if
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  Speaker 2: you tried to approach her and say, you know, confront
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  Speaker 2: her about what's going on, he'd probably go she just
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  Speaker 2: is trying to tear us apart and she doesn't like me,
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  Speaker 2: and you know, try to make it seem like he's
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  Speaker 2: the victim. And I think you you seem like a
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  Speaker 2: good friend, and I think that she's going to need
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  Speaker 2: you eventually, So I think you just set it up
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  Speaker 2: to where you're there for her and approaches in I
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  Speaker 2: I know something. I can tell something's going on. You've
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  Speaker 2: seemed a little off. If you want to talk about it,
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  Speaker 2: I'm here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's all you can do, right Otherwise you
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  Speaker 3: just going to push her away.
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  Speaker 2: Into him what you don't want.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm sorry. Yeah, Yeah, Jessica, I'm a scrub a
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  Speaker 3: dub dub from Spooner Wisconsin, Hey, Spooner way North like
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  Speaker 3: darn near Canada or Minnesota, dare Hey. I fell in
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  Speaker 3: love with backup from The Bachelor, Ben's and full in
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  Speaker 3: love with Tanya on the Morning Show when she was
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  Speaker 3: in the background of Demi's heart attack video. Wow, gosh,
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  Speaker 3: I remember that day so clearly. The song had just
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  Speaker 3: come out and you knew all the lyrics and Demi
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  Speaker 3: was so impressed that you knew all the lyrics and
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  Speaker 3: she was like singing it with you through the glass.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was epic.
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  Speaker 3: That was epic. That was a long time ago.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I also foun in love with Mark and Easton from
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  Speaker 3: day one and listening to other podcasts. Background on me.
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  Speaker 3: I'm thirty four, I'm single, having only recently gone on
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  Speaker 3: one of my first few dates ever. I moved to
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  Speaker 3: Wisconsin from Chicago because I wanted some change in my
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  Speaker 3: life and to be closer to family. Since moving to
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  Speaker 3: Wisconsin in October, I would have to say I'm happy
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  Speaker 3: and I've been on four dates with different guys. Guy
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  Speaker 3: one ended up being a huge player, Guy too genuinely
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  Speaker 3: think he's gay. Guy three we did it for a
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  Speaker 3: couple of months. I lost my virginity with him. He
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  Speaker 3: ended up being possessive and a huge liar. Guy four
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  Speaker 3: just didn't work out. Part of me is saying these
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  Speaker 3: experiences are making me grow and learn, But another part
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  Speaker 3: of me is the scourage that I will never find
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  Speaker 3: my ninety five P. I read Starbirs, my Amy or
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  Speaker 3: my Allison. Do you guys have any advice? Thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much and love you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Girl.
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  Speaker 1: Guy four, I mean I went through like Guy forty four.
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  Speaker 1: So you're just starting, Jessica. Don't feel discouraged yet, because
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  Speaker 1: you've got you might have got some some triple quadruple
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  Speaker 1: that number before you find your ninety five P.
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  Speaker 2: Right, Well, I think I think that's the thing. I
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  Speaker 2: think it's different for everybody. Like, if you have listened
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  Speaker 2: to the podcast from the beginning, you've heard Tanya go
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  Speaker 2: through many of the types of men that she stated.
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  Speaker 2: My experience was different because I was very just it'll
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  Speaker 2: come when it comes, and you know, Haley was very
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  Speaker 2: much a surprise for me. So I think that getting
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  Speaker 2: just you can't let yourself get discouraged because it is true,
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  Speaker 2: like you are learning you're literally just listic qualities that
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  Speaker 2: you don't want in someone, and that's what you're learning
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  Speaker 2: as you're meeting these people. Yeah, Fortunately, it's like painful
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  Speaker 2: and it's like, oh, why am I even trying? I
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  Speaker 2: remember Tellanya having one of those moments of just like
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  Speaker 2: why bother?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but at.
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  Speaker 4: Some point you're gonna meet what it's just exhausting, Like
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  Speaker 4: I just think you get to points, and you'll maybe
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  Speaker 4: get to many, many more points where it's just exhausting.
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  Speaker 1: Dating can be exhausting. Dating the wrong guys can be exhausting,
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  Speaker 1: but it's a means to an end. So it might
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  Speaker 1: be four more guys, it might be ten more guys.
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  Speaker 1: It might be guy number five. For you, it might
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  Speaker 1: be guy number fifty you just don't know and you
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  Speaker 1: just have to like you literally just have to keep
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  Speaker 1: going until you find it.
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  Speaker 2: But I also think you have to be in the
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  Speaker 2: right head Like I feel like I would have to
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  Speaker 2: be in the right headspace to even want to go
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  Speaker 2: on date to meet No.
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  Speaker 1: You don't really need to, that's just an old wives tale.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like you were in a good headspace when
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  Speaker 2: you met Robbie, like you were like ready to find someone.
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  Speaker 2: But I think you went through something is where you're
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  Speaker 2: just gonna like I'm so tired of doing this song
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  Speaker 2: and dance.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just going through the motions. Yeah, but it
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  Speaker 1: just keeps them coming, come and go, they come and go, next, next, next.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think if you're not like draining yourself going on
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  Speaker 2: dates with people, I say, just go, like, yeah, you're
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  Speaker 2: gonna meet people that you really like their qualities. You're
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  Speaker 2: gonna meet people where you're just like exhausted by their
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  Speaker 2: qualities and some might just be neutral.
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  Speaker 1: And don't be discouraged because I promise you, once you
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  Speaker 1: do find that person, all of it is worthwhile. Like
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  Speaker 1: the happiness that I have found in Robbie is worth
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  Speaker 1: all the crying, the tears, the confusion, the whatever it
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: was that I was feeling.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: The misters, the doctors, the on the face, the.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: Signors, yeah, you name it. He was worth it.
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, So I would just throw this in there. I've
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: never I don't think I've been to Spooner, Wisconsin, but
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: there's like two thousand people in Spooner, Wisconsin. I'm a
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: little concerned that your pool is a little shallow. Yeah, Chicago,
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: that pools intimidatingly deep. I'm wondering if there's a happy medium,
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: like I don't know, Duluth, where there are more guys
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: to choose from, because I gotta believe that in Spooner
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: it's not a lot of guys, and there's certain kind
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: of guys. So I don't know. Maybe I'm generalizing about Spooner, Wisconsin,
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: but small town Wisconsin's not a great place to meet
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: guys in my opinion.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Small town in general is tough. You know, you might
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: need to head to the big city.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: Or at least a bigger city, or just open your
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: dating up mile range.
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: Yes, at least a Hayward.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: But we're rooting for you, Yes we are, and we
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: need updates.
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: We do need.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: Updates, and we love Updates. Next, we have someone who
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: doesn't want to act a bridle on their wedding day.
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: But this is interesting.
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: Oh crash, all right, we're back, Mark, take it away.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: This is Alison. She says, Hi beca Tanya Mark and Easton.
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: I am getting married in less than a month. I'm
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: excited to marry my fiance. We've been together six years
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: and he's one of the best people I know. Even
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: though I'm excited, I'm also nervous and anxious about the
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: wedding day. I'm thirty three, and I feel embarrassed to
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: act super bridal I'm too old, and everyone else has
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: already had this moment and they've moved on to having
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: babies and buying homes. I keep trying to tell myself
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: to enjoy the moment and don't live by everyone else's timeline,
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: but I can't help it feel a little silly, and
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: I fear it's going to ruin my day because I
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: won't be able to just relax and enjoy the moment
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: with my fiance. Any advice, thank you.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: What does acting bridle mean being brided?
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, excited about being bright.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: I like a princess on that day. You're like the
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: center of attention. You know, you're like the star of
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: the show.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm confused why you don't want to do
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: that because you feel silly that you're thirty three. Yes,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: I did it at thirty seven, and I could not
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: have done it been more bridal. No, No, I because
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: it's the first time for you. It doesn't matter if
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: you didn't do it at twenty five. Who cares. I'm
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: glad I didn't do it twenty five because my wedding
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: is exactly the way that I wanted it to be.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: And I think had I gotten married at twenty seven
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: versus thirty seven, my wedding would have been way different
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: and not for the better.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: I hope that you have people around you who make
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: you feel excited for this, because I think sometimes if
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: we surround ourselves with people who make things that should
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: be exciting feel silly, it dims the freedom to get
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: to fully enjoy moments. You know, when people downplay moments.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: So I hope that all of your friends are ready
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: to celebrate you, and regardless of if they're if they
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: have kids, if they've been married for ten years, whatever
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: the reason, this is your day. Like they're all coming
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: to celebrate you, and you need to let yourself celebrate
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: yourself and be the most bridal version of you that's
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: ever been because when not, if not they've not at
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: your wedding, when else will you ever be bred?
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: But also it's like do what you want? Do you
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, don't do stuff.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: If you don't have to perform it.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't perform. But like like the for a honeymoon,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: I was like, why don't we get like the just married,
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: you know, sweatshirts or like whatever, And Robbie was like, well,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: because we're not. We weren't. We're not just married, like
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: we've got married three months ago. And I'm like, I
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: don't care. I like it's I ended up thinking about
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: it too late and it was just I couldn't turn
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: it around in time. But like, let yourself be silly,
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: let yourself do all the things like who cares?
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say, I know, and I get it.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: There's a social media thing too, where you compare yourself
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: to like what other people are doing at their weddings,
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: and if that's not you, you go, wait, should I
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: be doing that? Should I be like wanting to do
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: these things? As the bride, you don't have to do anything.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: But also if you want to act a certain way,
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: or you want to do certain things, or you want
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: to take certain pictures as the bride, do it.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember everybody kept sending me like all these magazines, right,
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: like the top four trends for you know, twenty twenty
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: five brides, and like the top whatever trends for wedding
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: trends of the whatever, and I would literally just like
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: trash all of them because I'm like, I'm doing my wedding.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: I don't care what's trending. Yes, like, I'm doing what
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I want for my wedding, and don't worry.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: About what other people think. Like I feel like that's
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: running through this email. She's worried that the other people
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: at the wedding are going to be judging her, Like,
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: oh here comes to yeah.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Hello thirty three year old.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah I know, but but don't you can't worry about
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: what other people think. But also, like you said, I
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: like the advice don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: All you have to do is show up on that day,
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: walk down the aisle, kiss your husband, dance with your
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: dad at the reception.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like fun.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: It's not you. You're not over the top with anything thing.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: You're just doing it. Yeah, and you're gonna love it.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Think of it as a big party with all your
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: favorite people that are coming to celebrate your.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: Love and they're ready to do that. They're not going
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: to be judging you. They love you.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: And get some new friend alert.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: Caitlin, this is relatable. How do I find motivation to
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: do anything? Dear Easton, Mark, Becca, and Tanya. This is
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: alphabetical by last name.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh.
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, welcome to do then yeah ouch. I work
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: at a high school as a counselor, so I'm currently
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: on summer break.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Yay.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: However, I am struggling to find motivation to do literally
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: almost anything on these long days at home. I've watched
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: two whole seasons of Below Deck in the last two weeks.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: I've finished a couple of audio books just sitting in
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: my house. I should be doing dishes or cleaning, or
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: going on walks or something, but I'm just not motivated.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: I know that you all work kind of non traditional
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: hour jobs, but especially beca, so I'm wondering, if you
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: don't have something scheduled, how do you find the motivation
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: to do the menial tasks around your house.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: The gram on Beca's face right now is A speaking
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: their language?
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Or limit yourself on screen time or if you don't,
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: how do you give yourself the grace at the end
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: of the day to not feel like you've wasted the
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: day completely? Love you all so much, Thank you for
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: the work you do what really does matter.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: This is just funny because I go through these way,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: like these feelings when I'm lazy of like, oh my gosh,
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: I need to be getting up and doing something, And
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I'm like why, why, Like, what do I need to
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: do unless it's for myself? Why do I need If
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: I'm enjoying sitting here and watch binging a show, why
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: do I need to get up? If I feel like
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: I've had too much screen time, I'll go on a
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: long walk, I'll go on a hike, I'll take Phoebe
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: and do something. Or I'll put in my earphones and
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: like listen to a pod something that's like keeping me
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: distracted while I clean because I can't just do it
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: in silence. But I also think you're a school counselor
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: and do like some of the hardest work. I think
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: there is being like a teacher and working in schools
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: right now. So you have summer break for a reason
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: to decompress and do the things that you want to do.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: If it's if it's making you feel bad just because
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: you want to do more, then try and make a schedule,
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: have something where you're like checking off a list.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: But I wish I had a little bit of this
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: in me because I feel like, and I think I
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: realize it's called sunshine guilt. Yeah, if there's sun shining outside,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: which is a lot in California, Yeah, I don't feel
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: like I can be in my home like I feel guilty,
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: just like watching TV in my house on like a
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Saturday afternoon, like I have to be outside, whether it's
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: like having lunch outside or like running errands outside. I
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: just feel like I need to be like doing stuff.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Like even yesterday, yesterday, whatever day, the day after my
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: birthday party, Rob and I were exhausted, and he was like, babe,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: like come put your feet up, just relax, and like
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: I was just washing and putting stuff away and he's
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: like we'll do this all on Monday, like give yourself
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: the day like we've had a long weekend. Just like
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: put your feet up. I put my feet up and
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I close my eyes and I was like, wow, this
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: feels good.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I don't. I don't have that. I think
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: about it and then I quickly shut my thoughts down of.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: Wow, respect, I can't do it. I cannot watch TV.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: If the sun's out, I can't. I don't know what
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: that is.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: But the thing is is like if the sun's out
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: and you want to be I think that's beautiful. I
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: think seizing the day and like doing enjoying it. But
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: I also think if you're if you're like I just
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: want to stay in and binge a show, I think
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: that's okay too. I don't think there. I do think
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: screen time can bring you down, Like I think if
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: you're constantly looking at your phone or like seeing news
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: and stuff, and like especially the rains of emotion, range
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: of emotions that social media causes. I think sometimes you
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: need to just go out and like be in nature
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: and like touch grass. But I've really noticed when we
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: were in Spain, nothing opens or starts to because people
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: are sleeping and just like resting and have their mornings
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: and then they just go do their thing all day.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: But there's no like pressure around like hustle culture like
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: there is here in the United States, and I really
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: noticed it, and I feel like I should maybe live
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: in Spain because it really felt like my pace. But
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: it made me realize, like we prioritize like going and
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: doing so much here that like we do kind of
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: forget to just like it's okay to let your body
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: just rest and you're in summer break and that's why
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: it's called that, So do what you want. And also
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: if you don't feel healthy and your like mental state
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: isn't good, then go feel the sunshine. I don't know
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: where you live, but go buy some water, Go get
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: in the pool somewhere. Go get a resort pass and
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: go to the nice hotel and be outside. You know,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: read a book. Sometimes just reading a book is nice.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: What it helps me is a schedule. And when I
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: was there was a stretch when I was unemployed and
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: I needed a schedule. Even though I had nothing to
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: do all day, I was from this time to this time,
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna I get to watch TV in this time
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: to this time. Then I'm gonna go for a hike,
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: then I get to do this. Then at lunch, then I'm
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: gonna do it. Then I'm gonna I'm gonna exercise from
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: this time and this time. I'm gonna read from this
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: time to this time, and that helps me so much.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: And yeah, at the end of the day, I still
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: sometimes feel like I didn't do anything today, but the
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: schedule helps me throughout the day not feel like I'm
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: just a blob.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but here's the thing. When school starts back up,
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: you're gonna be going. I have no regrets for resting.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: And what I've earned this summer. Yeah, sure, we have
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: one more, but before that, there are some products and
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: services that you need to know.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: My gosh, please listen. All right, we are back with
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: an email from Tara.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: Tara could be Tara, could be Tara, I don't know,
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: but we're gonna read it. Hello, Scrubbing and fam Becca, Tanya, Mark,
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: and Easton. I'm a long time listener and I really
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: enjoy listening to you all banter about everything, like Tanya.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I'm a super fan of Traders and a bunch of
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: reality TV like Beca. It takes me a minute to
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: jump on board some of the shows. I enjoy listening
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: to the feedback and sometimes join the conversation as I'm
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: driving I love that. I love the idea that scrubbers
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: are in their car going good one. Tanya, you know
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: that sort of thing. I love that because I do
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: that sometimes, not with us but other shows. Anyway. I
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: have also loved hearing book recommendations in the past, and
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: wonder what books you have read this year or are
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: planning to read. I am trying to read the summer
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: I turn pretty, but oof, I feel as if all
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: belly does is wine. Becka, did you feel that way
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: when you read the book? For context? I'm forty eight.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: My two kids are twenty six and twenty five, so
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: that could be why. Wow, you guys started early and
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: finished early. Anyway, Love you all so much. Thank you
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: for entertaining me when I bop around Cincinnati, Ohio running errands.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: You really do bright in my days. Your friend Tara
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: and the Queen the City.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Wow, I'm gonna tap out of this one because I
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: don't really read much. No so No, the book I'm
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: reading I took. I took a book on her honeymoon.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Maybe read like two pages.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: Well, you're a nonfiction type anyway, you always.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Read My book was I think it's called like Limitless
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: and it was like all about.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the book I'm currently reading is Atmosphere by Taylor Drinkins,
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: read because she also wrote Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo,
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: which literally changed my life. And so that's what I'm
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: currently reading. And everyone who's read it said it competes
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: with that book. So I'm just getting into it. But
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: I've read really good reviews. I still feel like, if
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: you haven't read the Housemaid series, oh yeah, I feel
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: like that's a really good one. All her books they
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: are because of you. Yeah, the movie is being made.
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: I think, yes, interesting casting.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: I thought, well, Amanda Seiffer, it's great.
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: Always great, but she's like the Dowdy Older. Yeah mom,
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: which I thought was interesting. Sidney Sweeney, Oh.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, really good in my opinion.
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: I mean both great. I have a hard time picturing
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: the mom and that I pictured my head is not
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: Amanda Cipher. It as much as I love her, same.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: But give me, give me a we did it?
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Elizabeth what's her name from Handmaid's Tale?
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: Oh Moss.
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's literally who I pictured as the wife. But yeah,
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: I'm excited for the movie and I I'm trying to
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: think if I've read anything before, then I'm kind of
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: in a self help I try to do like, if
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: I'm going to read, I try to do self help
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: books during the day or in the morning, and then
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: if I'm going to read it at night, I do
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: fiction because it like puts me asleep.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: Everything puts me asleep. Literally, anything puts me to sleep.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: I cannot read a book sitting down or I will
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: be asleep.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I started the Summer I Turned Pretty, and I think
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: I got through the first half of the book. I
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: don't even think I finished it because I couldn't. I
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: wasn't like super into it, and maybe that it's like
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: a I felt very disconnected from the youth, and I
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: was like, oh, this is cute, but like I just
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: since this the show made me like want to have
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: a summer fling with like the the you know our
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: best my mom's best friend's son, you know, like it
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: gives us like false sense of utopia as a kid.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: But beyond that, I just don't really resonate with it.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: It's just cute and good music.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Right, I'm gonna suggest the four Agreements.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: That's not quick, that's very deep.
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: Don't read that.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: This is Tanya's read for you.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: Go ahead, you give us a self help books that
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: everyone should read.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: The Four Agreements, What's the bridge one that I feel
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: like Untethered Soul?
• 30:48
  Speaker 5: Oh?
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: I started that.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Hold on, what's the books?
• 30:53
  Speaker 6: Apple's books, Very Body Mark, Come on Girls, Girls Like
• 31:05
  Speaker 6: Girls by One.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Actually, my aunt called me yesterday and she was like,
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: I sat down and read Haley's book yesterday and finished
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: it all in a sitting. I was like, there you
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: go a testimonial.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I think it's the Untethered Soul. I'm just trying to
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: google it something.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: While you google. My wife is currently reading Don't Let
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: Him In by Lisa Jewel and she is loving it.
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: So I recommend Don't Let Him In by Lisa Jewel.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: And I just finished Listen for The Lie. Did we
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: talk about that on this show? I don't remember. Listen
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: for The Lie by Amy Tintera. It's great because, uh,
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: it's about there's it's about a podcast about a murder
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: that takes place, and it alternates in the building kind
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: of one chapter is the podcast, and then the next
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: chapter is the woman who is actually the suspect in
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: the killing and her story, and then it goes back
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: and forth the podcast piecing together the evidence and the
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: woman living her life and going back to her hometown
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: where the actual killing happened and help people react to
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: her and stuff. It's great. The audiobook is even better
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: because the podcast portions really sound like a podcast, and
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: you almost forget it's not a real podcast and it's
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: all fiction. Yeah, it's incredibly well made. And I read
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: the book, my wife listened to the audiobook. We both
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: loved it. So you're you're good either way, you know.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: And I also loved Hail Mary, which is the new
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: movie coming out with Ryan Gosling about an astronaut. Maybe
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: not everyone's speed about that Hail marytt project. Hill Mary
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: was really really good.
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  Speaker 1: Back to you, Tanya, It's called The Untethered Soul.
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  Speaker 3: That's it.
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  Speaker 7: In order to recommend, Nope, some of the Shine Mine
• 32:43
  Speaker 7: that's that's a good devotional. Sunshine a nice little daily
• 32:47
  Speaker 7: devotional for your.
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  Speaker 2: The courage to be disliked, that's good, a good self
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: help for people pleasers. Yeah, those would be the ones
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: that I'd say. I have a original script of Heley's
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: upcoming book where There's Room for Us, but I can't
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: share that yet. Wow, it's a little bit about that.
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  Speaker 3: So impressed. Writing a book is so impressive. Yeah, same, Tanya.
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  Speaker 3: I don't mean to take because what you did with
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: your book is very impressive.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but even mine was like bite size, right.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: The idea of a three hundred page narrative with characters
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: and subplots and all that stuff and all the dialogue,
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: I can't even imagine doing that.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: She let me tell you, she has what did you
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: call it? Sunshine guilt?
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: Sunshine gill.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she doesn't rest, she doesn't sleep, like.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: Okay, over there by the way, sorry, hand a little
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: too caffeinated over there? That sellsia.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, my hands are shaking.
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: Yes, well, you're very into her hands lately. What's going on?
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Because of the kind of weird it's like a maybe
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: you have a hand fetish.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Maybe you do only only hands?
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, only are you like like someone's biggest only hands.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: I'm just saying I think Haley might be brilliant.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: She's she has a different brain than I.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, to write music and to write books, I care
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: either one, and to direct she might be brilliant.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: But she does fall asleep playing wordle every night. Like
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: we'll get through Wordle and then we'll be on connection.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: She's like, I'm all, let's at least get to the
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: mini cross words.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: How about the one the other day at the beginning
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: of the Ninja Turtles, Did you do that one?
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh man, no, I haven't got I'm
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: behind all my connections, but I'll.
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: Be for that one alright.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm like this is crazy.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: There's crazy topics. Sometimes I know.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, they're normally the crazy ones are my
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: default for like I've gotten the other three things, and
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: then like the last ones, I'm like, how do these
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: connect You get it?
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: By default? Is not a New York Times.
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: Who that would be fun for you and Robbie to
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: do together.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: Not about that? Oh yeah, he does wordle by himself.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: He does oh everything. I make fun of him as well.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: Does he do connections and many crosswords?
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know if he knows about that. You should
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: never have seen him do that.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: Connections is so fun. I love it, Okay, Yeah, so
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: it just stretches your mind to think bigger than.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: How do I need that one? I love Island on
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: my I know exactly.
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: I always feel better after watching reality TV of going.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: Something like that. Yeah.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: Also, we started watching basically like it's called Making the
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Band or something.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: Oh the one with the aj Yes and Liam Payne,
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: the late Lam Pain right right right, Yeah, it's really good.
• 35:48
  Speaker 5: It is.
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: It's like Love is Blind a band. Yeah yeah, it's
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: really cool and there's some like amazing singers on there.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so that's a little bit about us. But Tara,
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: I hope that Tara, Tara, I hope that we gave
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: me some good back. I think she probably has read
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: all the ones we listed.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: Maybe if not, we can only do what we can do.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: That was a big yawn lost her. You know what
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: you gotta say, it's.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: Been a long week.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: Mama's gotta no.
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: Like.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: We love you so much, love you