83: "How do I tell someone they're not a 'Hell Yes'?" (Q&A)

Now We're Getting Somewhere · Nov 4, 2026 · 25m

In this Q&A episode, I answer a question about friendship from a newsletter subscriber, Bee.

Bee asks: How does one action the "if it's not a hell yes, then it's a no" guiding principle for building meaningful relationships?

In response to this question, I get very tactical + give you some scripts for literally what to say, along with my general philosophy for scripts like this. Then I go one level deeper and talk about why it can be so tricky to just say no.

I hope this episode helps Bee, and everyone who finds themselves in similar situations.

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