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All About Faith and Hope (Nia Long 90s fine and dating/ Angel Reese Keeps It Private · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 3: Now let's get on into the latest.
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  Speaker 5: So we I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: These last couple episodes, we've been talking about the dating
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  Speaker 2: a lot, the celebrity lovers a lot. But Nia Long,
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  Speaker 2: who is the epitome of nineties fine. Okay, we're about
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  Speaker 2: to get all up in her dat MBS nest because
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  Speaker 2: she sat down with Kiki Palmer.
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  Speaker 3: She says she wants a.
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  Speaker 2: Little sneaky link, a little fun, but a little NDA
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  Speaker 2: because it might get serious. Now before we get there,
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  Speaker 2: I told y'all, she is the epitome of everything nineties fine.
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  Speaker 2: She he was on the red carpet for the Michael
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  Speaker 2: Jackson movie premiere in LA and she was talking to Gapeppers.
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  Speaker 2: Shout out to Gapeppers, who was a journalist. She was
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  Speaker 2: working with xsens with Essence on the carpet. And then
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  Speaker 2: we're talking about why everybody Shawn be nineties fine a
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  Speaker 2: secular here at Essence, we know that the girls have
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  Speaker 2: been nineties fine for a long time, and.
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  Speaker 1: You're still sitting in goulgeous.
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  Speaker 8: But why do you think everyone is so obsessed with
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  Speaker 8: the nineties and nineties?
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  Speaker 4: Fine?
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  Speaker 3: Like, what's the king? The nineties was authentic.
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  Speaker 8: We we were the originators. We were the ones who
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  Speaker 8: set the bar. We were the ones who dictated fashion.
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  Speaker 5: We were the ones who.
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  Speaker 8: Dictated movies, films, television. We are the generation of iconic art,
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  Speaker 8: and we also encouraged everything else after that.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing else to say.
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  Speaker 5: I think that's really a mic drop.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell y'all right, Neil, Okay, I consider myself
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  Speaker 2: a ninety fine, all right. That is always the inspo,
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  Speaker 2: that is always the vibe, that is always up there
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  Speaker 2: on the mood board, and it's been for a long time.
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  Speaker 2: I will say it is trendy now all the girls
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  Speaker 2: are doing the Pixies and the you know, the over
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  Speaker 2: brown lineup with the clear gloss and you know, just
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  Speaker 2: a very like soft look. But that has always been
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  Speaker 2: it for me, always, Like I don't know, I obviously
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what it is about the nineties, but
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  Speaker 2: I think that's what it is about the nineties.
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  Speaker 4: Fine.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like the celebrities during that day, the eight
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  Speaker 2: Girls during that day, the women in general, even if
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  Speaker 2: like just regular girls. From the clothing that they wore,
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  Speaker 2: to the makeup, to the hair, everything was just so
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  Speaker 2: effortless and a little bit mysterious, like you didn't know
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  Speaker 2: too much about them, but when they popped out, they
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  Speaker 2: popped out. The girls were soft even when they weren't.
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  Speaker 2: The look was soft. The hair was trimmed, baby, the
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  Speaker 2: bumps in the hair, the pumps in their hair were
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  Speaker 2: pumping like it's just whatever they did, they did it,
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  Speaker 2: but it was so effortless. I love that about the
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  Speaker 2: girls from the nineties. The bodies were natural. It was
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  Speaker 2: given shake what Schamma gave you for real, for real,
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  Speaker 2: literally was she actually gave you from birth, not what
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  Speaker 2: she gave you and you in hands. And it's no
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  Speaker 2: shade to the girls with the bodies. We love y'all too,
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  Speaker 2: but the nineties, that's what it was.
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  Speaker 3: And Neolong and.
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  Speaker 2: Keiki Palmer talked a bit about that in this episode
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  Speaker 2: of Hey This is Keiky Palmer with Kiki Palmer. Ni
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  Speaker 2: al Long is in a lot of press promoter in
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  Speaker 2: the Michael Jackson movie. Let's get into her talking about just,
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  Speaker 2: you know, the vibe that she gives off.
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  Speaker 9: But speaking of love, because I love what that you
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  Speaker 9: just brought up that whole like I mean, stepping back
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  Speaker 9: and I'm single, you know, stepping out, Like how are
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  Speaker 9: you feeling about dating?
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  Speaker 3: It's stupid.
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  Speaker 7: I hate it.
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  Speaker 5: It's so dark.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be like the nineties. How y'all made
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  Speaker 1: it look into movies. It ain't fun niya.
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  Speaker 5: I want flower scent to my house. I need you
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  Speaker 5: to show consistent efforts.
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  Speaker 9: Like I need you to show me that I need you, okay,
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  Speaker 9: cause that's the thing that I want somebody to play dumb.
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  Speaker 1: But then you already dumb.
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  Speaker 2: Now we be dumb.
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  Speaker 5: You know I'm not lying there. You know I'm not lying.
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  Speaker 1: They want you to play dumb. But it's like you've
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  Speaker 1: already you already are dumb. So now what do I do?
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, somebody's got to teach somebody something.
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  Speaker 5: Somebody has to be the student, and someone must you
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  Speaker 5: come in like that.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, anybody pulling up to a knolong, you just
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  Speaker 2: got to pull up the right way and that Like,
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  Speaker 2: as a woman, I think we look at you know,
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  Speaker 2: the neolongs, the halle Berry's, the Gabrielle Unions, the Taraji
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  Speaker 2: p Henson's and it's like, this is the energy you
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  Speaker 2: want to give off, like you want the world to
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  Speaker 2: like think twice before they play with you, and not
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  Speaker 2: because you've had to scream it and yell it, but
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  Speaker 2: just by the energy that you give off when you
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  Speaker 2: walk in the room, the look, the the you know,
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  Speaker 2: the ibadding the conversation.
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  Speaker 3: All of that is important, but it's subtle.
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  Speaker 4: Now.
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  Speaker 2: They also got into I told you guys at the
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  Speaker 2: top of this episode, ne Along's dating life because Na Alone,
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  Speaker 2: she's single. You know, she has been separated from her ex,
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  Speaker 2: who was one of the head coaches with the Celtics.
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  Speaker 2: It's been almost it's been probably almost like two years now.
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  Speaker 2: They do share children together. But you know, there was
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  Speaker 2: a whole big, like cheating scandal and the world came
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  Speaker 2: out swinging for n Alone because she just wasn't really
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  Speaker 2: protected well in that situation, like the team kind of
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  Speaker 2: released the information and you know, she didn't have a
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  Speaker 2: chance to put it out there herself, and there's children
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  Speaker 2: involved that Look, all that stuff went down. Neolong's in
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  Speaker 2: a whole different space, a way better space now, and
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  Speaker 2: it's very obvious, and I think it's always obvious in
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  Speaker 2: a woman who you know, whether you go through heartbreak
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  Speaker 2: or not, but when you're in a dating space that
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  Speaker 2: is not motivated by anger or get back or pettiness,
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  Speaker 2: but by actually wanting to date, experience, have fun, actually
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  Speaker 2: find something serious, it's just a different conversation.
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  Speaker 3: Like I remember being single, and I just remember. I
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  Speaker 3: just remember for me when.
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  Speaker 2: The conversation shifted, like when the conversations I was having
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  Speaker 2: when I wasn't serious about intention versus when I was shifted.
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  Speaker 2: And when I say being serious about intention, I don't
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  Speaker 2: necessarily mean that you're out here like okay, the next
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  Speaker 2: person I'm going to date or I'm looking for my husband.
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  Speaker 2: Just being intentional about what you're allowing your space is
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  Speaker 2: also dating with intention as well too. And as a woman,
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  Speaker 2: you know, in someone who was new to dating, I've
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  Speaker 2: been a relationship for like ten to eleven years so,
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  Speaker 2: and I was young, like I never really spent any
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  Speaker 2: of my adult life single. I think that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: once I got to a more intentional place of like
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  Speaker 2: what I was allowing in my space and literally even
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  Speaker 2: not even just physically in my space like in person,
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  Speaker 2: but like even just like in communication with myself, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it changed, Like looking back on some of the conversations
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  Speaker 2: I was even having on a breakfast club about my
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  Speaker 2: dating life and all of that at the time. Things
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  Speaker 2: definitely change once you kind of get in a certain
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  Speaker 2: respect level for yourself and ni Along is there.
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  Speaker 3: It is very obvious.
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  Speaker 2: So they talk a bit about the fact that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: Nia Long says she wants to stay a little bit,
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  Speaker 2: have a little fun as we all zoom.
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  Speaker 3: But there's a catch. That's the thing.
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  Speaker 5: Every girl wants to feel special.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, but I also feel like I've experienced good love
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  Speaker 6: in my life, and so I know when it's good
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  Speaker 6: and when it's just playtime.
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  Speaker 5: But what I do think I need to do more
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  Speaker 5: of is engage in playtime.
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  Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying because because I've always been in
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  Speaker 6: a relationship, I've always been like, oh you like me,
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  Speaker 6: I like you, Okay, now we're a thing, and then
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  Speaker 6: five years later and you're like, oh, whoa.
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  Speaker 5: But I don't really know how how to like casually date.
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  Speaker 9: I feel like guys don't want to casually date when
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  Speaker 9: you're not begging for more. That's what Because I am
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  Speaker 9: very aloof want me to you girl, I'm like, do
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  Speaker 9: your thing.
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  Speaker 4: I got to do.
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  Speaker 5: We're not chasing.
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  Speaker 1: They don't want that. Like to me, it's like, why
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  Speaker 1: can't we have a little Why can't we be consistent
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  Speaker 1: sneak links? Why can't we just say, hey, talk too much?
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  Speaker 1: Where's the ND too much? I do eat d the NDA.
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  Speaker 1: I need stats right now because I'm looking for Friday
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  Speaker 1: Night again? Are we on Friday Night again?
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  Speaker 9: Yeah?
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  Speaker 7: I ate that.
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  Speaker 3: Can't eat that?
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  Speaker 5: Maybe we definitely eat yes, eat it because I'm done.
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  Speaker 1: I'm done with it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell y'all right, Neil, Okay, I'm gonna tell
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  Speaker 2: you guys right now. I don't think that there is
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  Speaker 2: anything wrong with someone requiring an n d A to date.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it's nothing wrong with it. I didn't
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  Speaker 2: do it myself, but I thought a lot about it.
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  Speaker 2: I had friends literally recommended to me shout out to
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  Speaker 2: the Plastics NYC, which is a clothing brand by my
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  Speaker 2: brother Jayvon James.
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  Speaker 3: He literally made a.
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  Speaker 2: T shirt called NDA to play because of the things
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  Speaker 2: that we were experiencing when we were single and dating,
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  Speaker 2: and we're just like yo, people don't shut up, and
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  Speaker 2: people are really just excited to be in the space
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  Speaker 2: like period, And I don't even think that it requires
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  Speaker 2: you to be a celebrity, right, Like, of course it's
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  Speaker 2: nia long, so I feel like anybody coming into her
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  Speaker 2: space you wouldn't even second guess the NDA. But I
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  Speaker 2: think you can be a non celebrity with a lot
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  Speaker 2: to lose, and then NDA can still be registered upon
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  Speaker 2: the first date or before you go on it. I
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  Speaker 2: think a lot of it is just protection, especially in
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  Speaker 2: today's time, like in twenty twenty six, you end up
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  Speaker 2: a store time on TikTok Instagram threads and only barely
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  Speaker 2: had a drink or two with a person, Like everything
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  Speaker 2: is doing It's not even about doing it for the
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  Speaker 2: Grand Nomore. It's like doing it for the content across
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  Speaker 2: the platforms. It's like fifty of them. So it's just
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, things are just very different and also too,
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people right now, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: you have people out there that are looking for substance,
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  Speaker 2: that are looking for actual real things and even if
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  Speaker 2: not like a long term relationship, just want to, you know,
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  Speaker 2: date in a way that is a bit more elevated
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  Speaker 2: and you know, not all the games and y'all know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying, like just grown and mature but you
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  Speaker 2: do run the risk of running into people who are
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  Speaker 2: you know, like they just out here. Now, those are
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  Speaker 2: dangerous people to run into because even if they have
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  Speaker 2: something to lose, they're not considering it whatsoever. I'm not
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  Speaker 2: mad at it Nda, for her, especially for Nia alone,
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  Speaker 2: but for her for you listening. If you are listening
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  Speaker 2: to this and you like ooh Nia alone might have
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  Speaker 2: a point, I think you should considerate because that means
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  Speaker 2: that there is something that you want to protect, that
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  Speaker 2: you have thought about, and if this is your first
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  Speaker 2: time thinking about.
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  Speaker 3: It, that is, it might be a sign from God.
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  Speaker 3: Won't do it? Ain't nothing wrong with it?
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  Speaker 7: Now.
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  Speaker 2: Will people violate the NDAs, Yes they will. I think
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  Speaker 2: people don't respect NDAs as much as they used to.
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  Speaker 2: But it's worth It's worth the shot. And I think, honestly,
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  Speaker 2: you know, even outside of actually physically making someone sign
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  Speaker 2: an actual India, because I know that there's a whole
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: thing of like how do you even have that conversation.
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  Speaker 4: To do that?
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  Speaker 7: You know?
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  Speaker 3: A big part of it too, is is like even
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  Speaker 3: if y'all are.
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  Speaker 2: Just dating for fun and it's not going to go
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  Speaker 2: anywhere long term, trying to be very transparent about what
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  Speaker 2: you guys are expecting and checking in on expectations like
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  Speaker 2: that was one thing that I appreciated. Like my boyfriend, now,
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  Speaker 2: one thing that I appreciate it with him, even though
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  Speaker 2: I was like this is.
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  Speaker 3: He is fronting, like yeah, he ain't going nowhere.
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  Speaker 2: One of the things that I appreciated about him though,
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  Speaker 2: was like, you know, in the beginning, when we were
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  Speaker 2: like first just having conversations, there was a lot of
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  Speaker 2: like all right, just checking in to see where we are,
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: about how we feel about what we're experiencing, what we're
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: not experiencing each other's situations before we met each other,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: and like things that need to be cleared up before
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: we're able to be together. Like, there was just so
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  Speaker 2: much that was that we were like very honest with
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  Speaker 2: each other about and that I think created a foundation
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  Speaker 2: where we were able to be like, Okay, if we
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  Speaker 2: really want to go into this with each other, here's
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: at least what it'll looked like from the surface. So
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: it's different dating someone and being in a relationship with
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: them is completely different, But I think the foundation is important,
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  Speaker 2: and I think if you can have a very clear, vulnerable,
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  Speaker 2: honest conversation build trust with a person everything that the
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: NDA would honestly do for you. If a person respects that,
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: you get from just having a little fun to a
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: bit more intentional.
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  Speaker 3: Now, Nie along went into dating with intention. Let's listen.
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  Speaker 6: The the thing about dating for me is I want
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  Speaker 6: to date with intention, yes, but I also want to
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  Speaker 6: have fun.
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  Speaker 5: I just don't think I'm like into it though, like
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  Speaker 5: it's here's the other thing. I don't have time. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: that's really the truth. I don't have time.
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  Speaker 9: To your point, I don't have time to do something
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  Speaker 9: that doesn't feel worth it to me. And I can compartmentalize.
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  Speaker 9: I can do the same thing a guy I can
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  Speaker 9: do respectfully and ethically right. I can have a sneaky
• 17:32
  Speaker 9: link vibe or not even sneagling, but just like a
• 17:34
  Speaker 9: like a guy that we know, we were good friends
• 17:36
  Speaker 9: and we you know, we enjoy each other's company every
• 17:38
  Speaker 9: now and then, but there's nothing serious between us.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: And then the opportunity of possibly being something.
• 17:43
  Speaker 9: Serious with someone you know, I often, but it's not
• 17:46
  Speaker 9: I don't feel like there's a lot of I.
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: Think I need to get I need to get into
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: that I would do. There's a couple that I do
• 17:52
  Speaker 5: that with that I know.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Ah, you think they're scared. You know, they're scary because
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: they gotta fall in love with you.
• 17:59
  Speaker 9: I don't know about that, baby, because once you put
• 18:01
  Speaker 9: it them a they don't know how to control theyselves.
• 18:07
  Speaker 5: Back that thing up.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just saying.
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  Speaker 2: I want to know who the sneaky links are. Nia Along,
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: gott to drop them names. Who are the sneaky links? Okay,
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna hold you. I'm not even mad
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: about it. I'm glad that she admitted that she got
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: a few, you know, sneaky links, because I feel like
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: one thing that people try to do with women when
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: they're single and their dating is like they try to
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: make any woman who has like anything casual going on,
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: a woman who like is like stupid or who is
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: you know, to sexually to sexually uh, polarizing and just
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: basically out here like outside right. I think a woman
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: like Nia Long who was able to do it on
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: her own terms in the way that she wants to
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: do it, It's a whole different conversation. Basically, what I'm
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: saying to y'all is it the summertime is here? Okay,
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: if you are not in love and living your best
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: life like some of us right now. It is nothing
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: wrong with that, ladies. People always try to make it
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: seem like the single life is so miserable. I was
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: literally just telling somebody this. I think the single life
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: is as miserable as you allow it to be because
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: people only do to you with them what you allow.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: Like I didn't have a horrible single life, but I
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: also didn't get super attached to every person that I
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: was like in conversation with, in like small like with
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: like you know, I didn't.
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  Speaker 3: I just didn't do that.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: And I think that's kind of where we as women
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: go wrong. Like men compartmentalize so well. I don't think
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: that we do that well, and we should because I
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: do think that every woman deserves a season. You know,
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: hopefully it's one season and then you find your forever.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: It might be two, three, four, five seasons, right, but
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: you deserve that time no matter what point of your
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: life that it's in where you're able to like just
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: checking on you. Make sure you still got it okay,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: make sure you can still put your little roll on,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: call them over, go out, have drinks, have a good time,
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: do the little sneaky link thing, do the dating you know,
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: intentionally thing and just see what happens and set the boundaries,
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: set the guardrails. Like I heard Angel Reese on Michelle
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Obama's podcast today and she was like, I know people
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: be talking about how crazy the treat.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: Is, but I'm good over here. I ain't had that experience.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: Let's say a listen, what do you make of the
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: dating scene?
• 20:36
  Speaker 7: You know how you know?
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: And I know it's hard to you.
• 20:40
  Speaker 7: It's like, because you're beautiful and you're smart and you
• 20:42
  Speaker 7: know your own thing. I'm always like, what what does
• 20:45
  Speaker 7: it feel like being out here these days? And that's
• 20:49
  Speaker 7: not about the who or no, it's just like, what's
• 20:53
  Speaker 7: your take on this situation?
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: I think, like I said, finding someone that doesn't care
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: about all the extra stuff. I don't want you to
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: fantasize over me because of what you see on social media,
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: Like you know, I'm that girl, But at the end
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: of the day, like when we go home, like, you're
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: still a genuinely good person and I have my own
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: so I don't need to be with someone for their
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: own So I think it was very intentional for me
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: one I date privately. That's what I've learned over the years.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: Not putting your business out there, sharing what you want
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: people to know, and keeping things private what you want
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: to keep private. But I haven't had like a hard
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: life in the dating scene. I think, of course I'm
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: having a soft life. But I'm very big on like,
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: like I said, like you treat me right, yeah yeah.
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: But if you don't like yeah, yeah, you gotta go ye.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: This is a podcast full of hope and faith today
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: for all of my single guy and single female listeners.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: The pot is not as full as piss people would
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: like to make you think.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: What you put out is what you receive. I am
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: a testament of that.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: So go on out there, brothern charge on strong and
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: such your boundaries and really, like Taylor, who is my
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: editor of this podcast, is probably listening and laughing because
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: when I was dating and like experiencing different things and
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: I would talk to her, I remember she used to
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: always say, do you don't want to be in a relationship?
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: Like what are your intentions? Because you're probably attracting what
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: you're putting out there. I don't think you're serious about
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: anybody that you're And she was right because once I
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: mess on one and I was like, oh wow, okay,
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: hold on everything changed my mindset. You know what I
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: was putting out in the world because I just wanted
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: certain things to come back to me.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: It was just different.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: And let the girl these tell you. Let Angel recently
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: along tell you you guys will find out here respectfully.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: This has been another episode of the Latest with Laura
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: l Rosa. I'm your host, Laura La Rosa, and I
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: tell you guys, every single episode od y'all could be
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: anywhere with any old body talking about all of the things,
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: but you guys choose to be right here with me.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: This episode has been all about the black women in
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: love and we love.
• 23:09
  Speaker 8: To hear it.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: I posted a meme on my Instagram that I want
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: to read to you guys as we close out. It says,
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: don't let social media lie to you. There are black
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: men out here loving black women correctly, and I believe
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: that I am experiencing that.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: It's possible.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: I hope that these interviews gave you all a little
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: bit of hope because I was watching them.
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: Like, oh my god.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: These made me feel so good. They made me smile,
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: made me feel like a hug. I just want to
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: try to feel that too. I'll see y'all in Atlanta
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: and on my next podcast episode,