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Blunt People · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mamas. Dear mama's, what do you think
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  about people who are deliberately blunt and rude when they talk to you? Well,
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  let's ask our American mamas A Mama and Jini Is? Now are American
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  mama's Terry Edville and Kimberly Burleson. Look, you know some people, they're
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  just straight shooters. They speak their mind, you know, I just I
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  just tell it how it is. What do you think of those folks?
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  Well, first of all, I think there's two different kinds of people.
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  There's old people, okay, which we've heard they just outgrow tact and I'm
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  beginning to understand that feeling. You just you stop being a people pleaser.
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  I've told my mom since I was in high school that I've been afraid of
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  the day that she gets so old that she just starts just saying whatever song.
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  Terry and I grew up with grandmothers that were they had no problem.
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  I'm telling us exactly what they thought about about how we looked, how we
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  held ourselves, how we presented our you know, no problem whatsoever. They
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  also had no problem telling people in service positions if they were being rude if
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  they weren't being kind, they had no problem, and I really and I'd
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  be so embarrassed. But I'm like, something happens when you reach a certain
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  age. You don't care. You don't care. There's also people that are
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  just direct their whole lives. They're very direct, and actually those kinds of
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  friends scared me because you know, they were very in your face what seemed
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  confrontational. But now I love them. I love people that are very direct
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  and tell me exactly where that what they feel, because I can respond to
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  them right right. I feel the same way. I mean, you know,
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  it's so funny because I am I've always been a people pleaser, as
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  Kimber you are always been. And yet I feel like the older I get,
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  the more I'm like, why am I trying to please? This person
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  doesn't give a rip? But my friends, like, I think I got
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  Denise Arthur. I beloved Denise Arthur and she she is a straight shooter,
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  and you knew that she had your back. She would shoot it straight,
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  like if there's something that I you know, that maybe I needed to hear,
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  she had no problem and she did it. She'd delivered it in a
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  loving way, and she trusted her. She did it in a way that
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  you usually ended up laughing. Yes, yes, and everything was with good
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  intention. I think of my friend that passed away, Sharie Humphrey. She
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  was the same way. And people adore people like that who have there's a
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  certain grace about it. Like you could be a straight shooter and turn people
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  off because it's too harsh you feel judged by them. Then you have those
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  who used that can use humor and love and you're like, you get it.
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  They love you enough that they care and not they're going to shoot it
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  straight and what they want to return is for you to shoot it straight right
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  back. We've had Ben Shetler on the show. Ben Shetler is the founder
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  of the what was it Truth in Love Foundation? Yeah, And their point
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  is you have to tell people the truth, but you have to tell people
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  the truth and love and that that is a biblical admonition that we have to
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  what is true because the truth will set you free. Yes, but we
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  have to do it in a loving and kinding way so that it will be
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  received. Yes, And that is the absolute truth. And you know,
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  there's a difference in we all have our friends, Like there are some friends
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  and sometimes your mom. You know, we love her so much. Her
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  approach sometimes could be taken the wrong way if you don't know her. She'll
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  say I don't care on her post, I don't care if I lose friends
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  over this. This is how I feel. This is what And you can
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  actually see her in your minds doing that. Her intention is to wake you
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  up. Some people might take that that don't know her and go, Okay,
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  well then I'm not going to be your friend either, and you know,
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  defriend or whatever. And but you if she were with you, because
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  she's one of those brilliant she's so smart, and she'll tell us. She'll
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  say, look, you need you know, I love how you're doing.
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  I've been listening to y'all. Terry, you need to do this. Kim,
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  Well, you're doing better at this and you love and appreciate people who
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  care enough to shoot it straight like that. But was she always or was
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  she a people pleaser that kind of grew into this or was she always this
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  person that shot it straight? Interestingly, I think it was she used to
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  be a people pleaser, uh huh. But then she was an army wife.
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  Ah, and being an army wife with a what an eighteen month old
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  son while while her husband was sent off to Vietnam. Right, she had
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  to learn how to speak what she really thought and what she really wanted to
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  protect the family that she had. Yeah, at the time, strong and
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  so that I think being an army wife is really partly what changed the way
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  she approached it. And then she ends up recently getting all these awards.
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  Oh yeah, you know, because of who she is well and all these
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  different charities that she's worked for in West Point, so Sides and stuff like
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  that. Yeah, she's she's honored and recognized for her ability to just cut
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  through and say we're going to do it this way. I love people like
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  that. I have a couple of best friends, Kathleen gag Milsicone very direct
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  people, very direct. But I find people like them are the most authentic.
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  We have real conversations. There's nothing fake. They don't they're not fake
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  at all. I now admire people like that more so than I did.
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  Probably when I was younger, I was probably more scared of people like that,
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  But now I'm that's who I want, That's who I want around me.
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  Joni, you're one of my new best friends. If you like to
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  ask our American Mama is a question. Go to our website Americanground Radio dot
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  com, slash Mama's and click on the ask the Mama's button. Turn out
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  vill kiberiber listen. Thank you so much, Thank you,