Latest / Scene Projects Sports Network / Brandon Day: From Football to Flow States and the Science of Performance
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- 0:06SP SN.
- 0:14Welcome into the Scene Project Sports Network.
- 0:17I am your host, Bubba Starts, and we have a really exciting interview for you guys today.
- 0:21I'm bringing in neural coach and trainer, Brandon Day.
- 0:26Brandon, welcome to the show.
- 0:27Hey, Bubba.
- 0:28Thanks for having me, man.
- 0:30Hey.
- 0:30It's my pleasure.
- 0:31We we don't do a ton of interviews over here on this network.
- 0:34A lot of what we do is just sports coverage.
- 0:37But because you work with athletes and you work in that space, I thought that this was a little
- 0:41bit better fit for the conversation that we're gonna have today.
- 0:45So before we get into, you know, too much about what you're doing now, I I'd love to know a
- 0:50little bit about your history.
- 0:52I know you're rocking the four zero six shirt today.
- 0:54So, shout out to a fellow Midwesterner.
- 0:57I know you're from Montana, but give us a little bit of the backstory.
- 1:01Yeah.
- 1:02So like you said, I'm from Montana, the 406.
- 1:06Shout out to Papu and his company.
- 1:08I'm always repping their stuff as much as I can.
- 1:12But, yeah, I grew up in Montana and played sports all my life.
- 1:17I ended up playing football at a small college in Montana in Helena where I'm from called
- 1:22Carroll College.
- 1:23Had a great run there.
- 1:24I played in three national championships in the NAI.
- 1:27We won two of them.
- 1:29I was an all American captain of the team, and I ended up on the cover of Sports Illustrated
- 1:33in 2007 when we played against your boys down there in Sioux Falls.
- 1:41It was a muddy game.
- 1:42There was a photographer there that was from the Associated Press.
- 1:45He snapped this picture at the end of the game of me sliding through the mud and doing this
- 1:50like celebratory celebratory pose.
- 1:52And, it got picked up by Sports Illustrated and it was a was a wild story that we can certainly
- 1:58go into if you want but
- 2:00Oh, we're gonna talk about that one.
- 2:03The short version is it it it really highlighted a lot of my insecurities and, self
- 2:11worth issues.
- 2:12And so the substance abuse issues and the ways that I would self medicate and hide from the
- 2:17spotlight just amplified a lot.
- 2:21So then I went into independent film because that's a pretty easy transition for somebody
- 2:26with substance abuse and insecurity issues.
- 2:29Ended up in LA and kinda hit rock bottom and I was in so much chronic physical pain and mental
- 2:36and emotional pain.
- 2:38The substance abuse was not helping and I hit I hit rock bottom and I had to make a change.
- 2:44So I decided in that moment, you know, when I was very near the brink that things needed to
- 2:52be different.
- 2:52And so from then, for the last fifteen years, I've been trying to heal my body and heal my
- 2:58brain because I knew all those hits to the head probably weren't helping things.
- 3:02And so it was a long journey, spiritual, physical, emotional, mental, everything.
- 3:08And I people that know me, this is no surprise, they they I'm kind of a a rebel of sorts, and
- 3:17the traditional ways of going about things don't really jive with me too much, so I had to
- 3:23find my own way.
- 3:25And that led me down lots of different paths of education, some formal, so a lot of informal.
- 3:31And through my experience and these kinda off the beaten path education methods and things, I
- 3:37found my way and eventually landed in this world of applied neurology.
- 3:45And that's what really changed the game for me.
- 3:47That and the idea of flow states and the neurobiology of what's going on in your brain
- 3:54when you're in a flow state.
- 3:56And for those that aren't familiar with the flow state, it's when you're in the zone.
- 4:00When you feel you are performing at your peak so much so you're so involved in the moment, in
- 4:06the task at hand that everything else fades away.
- 4:09Time goes away.
- 4:10Your sense of self goes away.
- 4:12It's the most enjoyable and our, most intense, focus and peak performance state that we can
- 4:20find.
- 4:22And so when I finally understood that and that that's what I had lost after sports, I made my
- 4:29life about finding that again and making that the goal.
- 4:34And as I tell all my clients, like, when you make flow the goal, everything else takes care
- 4:40of itself.
- 4:41The outcomes, they just take care of themselves.
- 4:45Like, you're focusing on the process.
- 4:48You're focusing on being present in the moment.
- 4:50So from, like, the mental mindset side of things, that's that's my jam.
- 4:55Right?
- 4:56I love flow states, and I love chasing flow in everything that we do, and that's what I coach
- 5:00people on.
- 5:01And then on the physical, you know, and then brain optimization side, there's the
- 5:05neurotraining, which was what really unlocked my chronic physical pain.
- 5:12Like, I'm talking like instantly fifteen years of pain gone.
- 5:17So no surprise that I'm like, okay.
- 5:20I'm going head first into this.
- 5:22Whatever this is, let's just go.
- 5:24Let's see where this takes us.
- 5:25Cool thing about the brain is is that you'll never reach the end.
- 5:29It's a universe inside of itself, so you can never learn it all.
- 5:33And I think that's awesome.
- 5:35Right?
- 5:36You can always chase mastery in that one thing.
- 5:38So
- 5:39Man, I'm so glad, that we matched on PodMatch.
- 5:43Shout out to Alex Sanfilippo.
- 5:44He has he has changed my life with this, network that they've built and, for this
- 5:51because I come from the artist world.
- 5:54I come from music.
- 5:55I grew up playing sports.
- 5:56You know, I didn't go on to play at any collegiate level.
- 6:00But you talk about the flow state, and that's on stage.
- 6:02Right?
- 6:03And for a player where you're in the game and and you get into that zone and I felt that as
- 6:08a, you know, a high school, you know, athlete.
- 6:10But for me, it was always in music, and I had grown up playing and performing on stage.
- 6:15It's probably why I didn't pursue sports more was because I had found music and found it
- 6:19easier to achieve that in this other area.
- 6:22But, yeah, that high, that riding that high of that flow, which is exactly what leads a lot of
- 6:29artists and, you know, the physical pain of performing, the same as athletes is that you
- 6:34kinda end up chasing that high.
- 6:36I myself have dealt with substance abuse issues.
- 6:38My substance abuse and and bad decisions landed me in prison for a couple of years.
- 6:43Right?
- 6:44And I and I didn't murder anyone.
- 6:46I I sold a lot of weed, right, which was also, you know, not a great decision, but also now
- 6:52not the social stigma that it was ten years ago, when I caught my charges.
- 6:58We're talking about descheduling and now it seems kind of well, I was like, what are the
- 7:01last people that did hard time for marijuana?
- 7:03But, I digress.
- 7:05Right.
- 7:05Talking about just everything you're hitting on there has so many relations outside of the
- 7:12sports world.
- 7:13And you talked about how you help corporate clients and corporate athletes, I think you
- 7:17called them, because they are using while they're not maybe physically using a lot of
- 7:23those muscles, they're using their brains at a much higher level and securing these big deals.
- 7:28And writing the deals, I mean, I can't imagine, and I hope I get there.
- 7:31We're talking about some pretty massive sponsorships with our company right now, a big
- 7:35tour we're planning.
- 7:36But, like, the thrill of landing a mill multimillion dollar deal, right, because you
- 7:41are in the zone for that presentation and nailed it.
- 7:45And then, you know, walking out of there and being like, we're gonna celebrate.
- 7:50Let's all go get drinks at the bar.
- 7:52Right?
- 7:52And and for some people, you're riding that high for a long time.
- 7:56And and before you know it, you know, you've built a habit out of that celebration even when
- 8:03you have nothing to celebrate.
- 8:05And Right.
- 8:05So there are so many things in your backstory that are just like, man, even though I never
- 8:10attained that at any kind of collegiate sport level, I have been there on, like, the artist
- 8:15side.
- 8:15I've played in front of thousands of people.
- 8:17I have performed in those moments and have been there.
- 8:21And the the the brain, the the chemistry of it is exactly the same.
- 8:27Right.
- 8:27Exactly.
- 8:28Yeah.
- 8:29And the that's why I call my corporate clients and my entrepreneurs, corporate athletes.
- 8:38And that's why I work with artists and musicians, and I call them athletes too because
- 8:43they are.
- 8:44We're playing different sports, quote, unquote, but it's all the same.
- 8:48And that's flow states.
- 8:49That's what underpins it all.
- 8:51Right?
- 8:51And so when you treat it all like that and if that becomes the goal, then you can train
- 8:56anyone to achieve that.
- 8:58The context is a little different.
- 9:00The technical skills are a little different.
- 9:05It's my transition out of sports, what actually got me really back to that place was music.
- 9:13I play guitar and sing as well.
- 9:15And so that I mean, it took a while.
- 9:19It's a it's a hill to climb, right, to learn in any instrument.
- 9:23Think it's hard to learn a sport, try picking up an instrument.
- 9:26Yeah.
- 9:27Yeah.
- 9:27Because you
- 9:28don't just look bad.
- 9:29You sound bad too.
- 9:30Oh, man.
- 9:31That's terrible.
- 9:32You you you I spent I spent seven years in a dark room
- 9:37before I I learned when I was, like, 12, 13 years old that I picked it up quickly.
- 9:42Happened to come from a musical family, so I had some advantages.
- 9:45Right?
- 9:46But, yeah, I mean, I know people that have learned in their twenties and that I don't get
- 9:50people in their forties that are pretty good performers but have that mental block where
- 9:55they're like, oh, I would never perform in front of people.
- 9:57Like, I I can't do that.
- 9:59And you're like, well That's could, but but you have this mental block that you can't get past.
- 10:06That's where I that's where I come in as a coach.
- 10:08Right?
- 10:08Well, now I have someone to refer them to when I hear that.
- 10:12Well and and and the the short answer is, for anybody out there that's listening and is in
- 10:16that position, is you gotta for flow states, and this is the the like, no matter what the
- 10:21sport, the skill, anything, no matter what it is, flow sits in the perfect balance between
- 10:30challenge and skills, where you are challenging yourself just a little bit outside of your
- 10:36current skill level.
- 10:37If the challenge gets too high, and this is perceived challenge by the way.
- 10:42Right?
- 10:43Performing in front of I just performed in front of a full bar, like a few 100 people at
- 10:51my mom's sixtieth birthday.
- 10:52This is my first performance ever in front of like an actual crowd, but I had performed in
- 10:58front of the family at parties, you know, I'll pull it out at a campfire or at a pool party
- 11:03and we'll just sing some songs together.
- 11:06And I could do the bigger performance because I had done the earlier ones, the easier ones.
- 11:15I felt a little bit more confident because I had done those.
- 11:18So my skill level was getting better.
- 11:20You know what I mean?
- 11:21So that's that's all I'm saying.
- 11:22Like, was it hard?
- 11:24Yes.
- 11:24I was shitting my pants.
- 11:26Sorry.
- 11:26Sorry for the You're
- 11:27good.
- 11:28You're good,
- 11:29man.
- 11:29The language.
- 11:29But Yeah.
- 11:31I literally had to go sit in the car and do, like, my little vocal warm up, and I, like,
- 11:36hyperventilate for a while because it was so scary to me in that moment.
- 11:41But that is what life is all about.
- 11:45That's why we play sports.
- 11:46That's why we perform.
- 11:47It's for that because when you go through the fear and you approach and you tackle that
- 11:55challenge, the outcome actually doesn't matter.
- 12:00Like, you can bomb or you can do well.
- 12:03Like, I don't even remember most of it.
- 12:05Right?
- 12:06You've been watching out right.
- 12:08Yeah.
- 12:08You kinda do.
- 12:10But you feel so good for taking on that challenge afterward.
- 12:16You've been in the flow state, and then you get the, you know, the the euphoria that comes
- 12:21afterward.
- 12:22That's really why you do it.
- 12:24Right?
- 12:26You know, all of the other things that come after that, right, that's like, you know,
- 12:31you're sitting in that afterglow and you wanna have fun and you wanna celebrate.
- 12:36That could be its own thing.
- 12:37Right?
- 12:38But why we do it is is for that state of consciousness.
- 12:44It's literally an altered state of consciousness.
- 12:46Your brain totally changes and this part of your brain up here, the frontal lobe, which is
- 12:51where our self referential thinking is, where our inner critic lives, our self doubt, our
- 12:57second guessing, all of that just shuts up and goes completely quiet.
- 13:02That part of your brain literally shuts down and you just start acting on instinct.
- 13:08Right?
- 13:08That's where that's why when you improvise, you can do things that you're like, I've never done
- 13:15that before.
- 13:15That was insane.
- 13:16It was so good.
- 13:18Right?
- 13:20You do that because your this brain shuts down and you go on your current your skill and your
- 13:25instinct and you're making these connections in your brain that you don't have the ability to
- 13:31make when this thing in the front here is running the show.
- 13:36So it literally changes everything about your brain and allows you to access these these
- 13:43parts of your brain that you don't normally have access to.
- 13:47So it's like big creative breakthroughs, huge problem solving breakthroughs happen in a flow
- 13:56state.
- 13:58Einstein was well known for going when he would have a really intense problem, leaving when he
- 14:07would be at his, like, most intense point of frustration.
- 14:10And he would go out on the little Lake Geneva, whatever it's called there at Princeton, and
- 14:17take his little sailboat out there and just go sailing.
- 14:21Fun fact, he's not a sailor.
- 14:23Didn't even know how to sail.
- 14:25So he would get stuck out there more often than not.
- 14:28But it would take that you could call it a distraction.
- 14:33Really, it's like a in the flow cycle, we call it the release phase.
- 14:37There's a great book called the breakout principle that talks all about this.
- 14:41Like, you go through this struggle phase at the start of any, task, and then when you release
- 14:47and let it go, you let that brain just, like, turn off.
- 14:53Totally forget about the problem, and then you'll have this boom moment of insight.
- 14:58They call that the paradox of inspiration.
- 15:01That's why you have these ideas in the shower or when you're just about to fall asleep.
- 15:06You have the best idea for a song ever.
- 15:08You gotta write it down because it's gonna be gone.
- 15:10Right?
- 15:12Well, in the in the case of problem solving or in the case of a game or in a performance, when
- 15:18you drop in through that release phase and you let go, these these chemicals, like, flush your
- 15:25system of all the stress.
- 15:28Right?
- 15:28This is why calling extreme sport or adventure sport athletes adrenaline junkies is not
- 15:35correct because adrenaline is not fun.
- 15:39Like, when you're highly adrenalized, like I was sitting in that car before that
- 15:43performance, like, I'm hyperventilating.
- 15:45I'm freaking out.
- 15:47That perceived challenge is, like, too high at that moment, and I'm, like, anxious.
- 15:52But when I like focus on my warm up and my breathing, bring myself back down and approach
- 15:59that challenge for what it is, it's just a challenge and I'm getting more excited about
- 16:03it, then those stress chemicals start to release.
- 16:06And once you're on stage, at least for me, once you got on stage and you got through the first
- 16:13song and you realize that nobody's like throwing things at you and there are people
- 16:18actually singing along and they're like, oh, okay.
- 16:21They're kind of enjoying this.
- 16:22Alright.
- 16:22This is kind of fun.
- 16:24And then you drop into that flow state and then you just let go.
- 16:28And that's where you really start to, you know, connect with your instrument, connect with your
- 16:33voice, and connect with the crowd.
- 16:35Like, that's some magical shit there.
- 16:40That connection with the crowd, which.
- 16:43God, you went down the rabbit hole with this stuff, didn't you?
- 16:47Oh, I've done deep deep down the rabbit hole with all this.
- 16:51Cool, man.
- 16:51Seeing athletes get a rap of being dumb jocks.
- 16:54Look at you.
- 16:56Look at you.
- 16:58Am sorts of notes.
- 16:59You know what?
- 17:00I I've performed for so long in my life that, like, almost being on stage and playing music,
- 17:05like, doesn't do that for me.
- 17:07Like, I get into the flow in that so easily.
- 17:10I just like, it's it's natural.
- 17:11So I don't have that.
- 17:12Like, the gratification of it didn't reach.
- 17:15And that's probably why I picked up podcasting, and it kinda took over in that.
- 17:19So I quit my welding job in 2024.
- 17:22I thought it was gonna be a rock star.
- 17:24Right?
- 17:24And it was I had these gigs booked.
- 17:26We had these big, you know, amphitheater shows.
- 17:28We were opening for arm chair boogie, you know, Wisconsin kinda new grass band.
- 17:33Right?
- 17:33And that was gonna be the biggest one of the the summer.
- 17:37And then, like, that next I think later that day, I think I played the show on a Friday, and
- 17:42then I went up and played Saturday, Sunday in Minneapolis, two shows I'd never done before
- 17:46because I didn't wanna be, like, to get too big for my britches.
- 17:49Right?
- 17:49So it was immediately going from, like, the pinnacle of the stages I can play in South
- 17:53Dakota.
- 17:54There's, like, one stage that's bigger, the Denny Sanford Premier Center, which I'm sure
- 17:58you're you're familiar with.
- 18:01And I've worked in there.
- 18:03Right?
- 18:04I've done some I have done some work with the podcast and stuff in there already.
- 18:07So it was like, that doesn't like, I it takes a a massive move in my career for me to get that
- 18:13opportunity.
- 18:13So I was kind of at the upper echelon of what I could achieve in my music career.
- 18:17It was important for me to, like, go out and play to an empty room, and I did.
- 18:21That Sunday, I played on a rooftop in Minneapolis, the Lynn Lake Brewery now closed,
- 18:25which is a shame, really cool bar, that it's, there was nobody there.
- 18:31It was my wife and my kids.
- 18:32Right?
- 18:32And I needed that to, like, to stay humble.
- 18:35And I booked it that way.
- 18:36Right?
- 18:36Like, nobody sent me out on that.
- 18:37I did it on purpose because I knew mentally it's like if you make that the pinnacle and you
- 18:42think that that's the way that it's going to be, you're going to totally screw yourself for
- 18:46the rest of your career.
- 18:48And Mhmm.
- 18:48You know, from that summer it got to the end of the summer where I was like, I don't have the
- 18:53passion for this that I thought I that I thought I did.
- 18:56Like, to make it, I was gonna have to play five, six nights a week, play in these bar
- 19:00shows and doing all these things.
- 19:01And it was fun, but it was so taxing.
- 19:04Right?
- 19:05Like, physically exhausting every single day, and I was like, I don't wanna live my life in
- 19:10this, like, perpetual tiredness.
- 19:11I'm an early riser.
- 19:13I like, I'm up with the sun.
- 19:15I get my walk in.
- 19:16I get my physic you know, like, I like to get that brain moving.
- 19:20Yeah.
- 19:20The bit like, just, like, being up until 2AM and sleeping till ten or eleven, I was just
- 19:25like, this doesn't fit the lifestyle that I really enjoy living.
- 19:28I like to be up kind of before the sun and working and getting, you know, that time in
- 19:33when the world is quiet.
- 19:35And podcasting was already part of my life at that point, and it really I I really started to
- 19:42invest a lot more time into it.
- 19:43So I kinda came off the road, you know, after the summer, you know, fall tours were kind of
- 19:48over and really started dedicating myself to the podcasting.
- 19:52And in that time, I was very blessed to cover the Cinch playoffs, Governors Cup at the Denny
- 19:57Sanford and got to interview Rocker Steiner who is the now world champion, bareback rider.
- 20:04And I interviewed him at that point.
- 20:06He had just become the world number one, money earned.
- 20:09And interviewing him then and then interviewing him again this year when we got the opportunity
- 20:15to cover it, and he's been number one ever since, more money than anybody's ever earned in
- 20:19the sport, at least in his division.
- 20:22And, he's been on this ride.
- 20:24They're they're releasing a TV show about him on the cowboy channel.
- 20:28And then to meet him again this year and to see where he was, because he's a young man, 19, 20,
- 20:3421, 22 years old.
- 20:35Very young kid.
- 20:37Right?
- 20:37Yeah.
- 20:37At the top of his game comes from a and comes from a family of champions.
- 20:41Mom was a world champion.
- 20:43Dad was a world champion.
- 20:44Grandpa was a world champion.
- 20:46Like, somebody that not only did it at a high level himself, but grew up around people that
- 20:50had done it at a high level.
- 20:51And, getting to have a conversation with him this year, working a PGA tour event this year
- 20:57where I got to interview Chris Carter and Ronde Barber and Sir Nick Faldo, the world number one
- 21:02golfer for ninety six weeks in a row.
- 21:05And, you know, Ronde and Chris, both hall of famers.
- 21:08Ronde, a Super Bowl champion.
- 21:10Brother, that's I was sweating.
- 21:12Right?
- 21:12Like, I my pits were drenched from just being in the room with these high caliber, you know,
- 21:18people and and being in a new space.
- 21:21Right?
- 21:21I wasn't playing music now.
- 21:23I was in the press conference side, and really nobody else in the media, was asking a lot of
- 21:28questions.
- 21:29So it really came on to me, you know, like, having to drive some of this conversation.
- 21:33And that 45 presser and those nerves and, like, man, instantly became a junkie for that again.
- 21:40It was like, I I love this.
- 21:42I love that feeling, but it was getting in that flow state.
- 21:45And I'm so glad that, like, I had one camera facing at me and one camera facing at them.
- 21:51And there's a point in there, where, you know, Ronde is talking directly to me, and it's a
- 21:56small press conference, man.
- 21:57You're talking about less than maybe 15 people in the room.
- 22:01Right?
- 22:01And you're 15 feet away from, I mean, like, league MVPs.
- 22:06Right?
- 22:07Like, the freaking man, right, at the top of his level on the biggest platforms in the world
- 22:12and just incredible experience in that.
- 22:16And the the neural pathways that I had walked in music had served me so well to be in that
- 22:21room with those gentlemen.
- 22:23And, at one point, I think I referred to The Open as one of the other majors and having Sir
- 22:28Nick Faldo be like, the other?
- 22:31This is a a knight.
- 22:32Right?
- 22:32A literal knight ribbing me.
- 22:34My wife loves it, by the way.
- 22:36Right?
- 22:36She's like, they're making fun of you.
- 22:38I'm like, yeah.
- 22:38Honestly, he's knighted.
- 22:40So what am I gonna do?
- 22:42Right.
- 22:43But just being able to laugh about it and all of that stage experience coming in handy, you
- 22:48know, fast forward another two months from there, I did a 150 interviews on the red carpet
- 22:54at the Grand Ole Opry House.
- 22:55And a 150 independent artists who I vibe with.
- 22:59Right?
- 22:59They're they're me.
- 23:00I I have that.
- 23:01But working on these massive stages is just like that whole music career was only
- 23:07preparation for this broadcasting career.
- 23:10Right?
- 23:11And all of those neural pathways that I built being on stage and performing in that essence
- 23:16prepared me for that.
- 23:18And and in some way, the sports that I played as a kid had prepared me for the time on the
- 23:23stage and just the way that everything and to hear you now kinda talk about the technical
- 23:28side of that.
- 23:29Yeah.
- 23:29Right?
- 23:30Like, the neuroplasticity and all of these things that you built and that it's no
- 23:35different.
- 23:36All these different stages, all these different pathways.
- 23:39And in some ways, like, your, athletic career prepared you for being on the stage as a
- 23:44musician.
- 23:45Right?
- 23:46Yeah.
- 23:46I I good friend of mine, Riley Wieslowski, paid for played for the Rapid City Rush, but he also
- 23:51played music and was mostly, you know, campfire strummer, but him and his brother started
- 23:56playing out around Rapid City and stuff and, you know, having conversations about him about
- 24:00the the similarities, right, between the two stages in life and how you both lock in.
- 24:05To have you iterate that now on this show is really just like a huge full circle moment for
- 24:11me.
- 24:11So I appreciate everything here.
- 24:14Can you talk more about, like, the you know, obviously, it was your rock bottom that pushed
- 24:20you into the neural, but, like, what keeps you going in that?
- 24:24Is it seeing other people kinda have these realizations and helping them along that
- 24:28journey now that kind of inspires you to keep going?
- 24:33In a word, yes.
- 24:36It's also still I sometimes say it's such a selfish pursuit because it still is a lot of
- 24:43it's about me and being the best version of myself.
- 24:48And, you know, I still have a lot to work on.
- 24:51I've I've kind of come out of the fog of chronic pain and the mental health and the
- 24:57substance abuse.
- 24:59This I'll be celebrating ten years without alcohol this year, which was a huge turning
- 25:06point for me.
- 25:07Yeah.
- 25:07Good for you.
- 25:08It's the easiest one.
- 25:09Right?
- 25:09It's so readily accessible and so socially accepted that it's
- 25:13it's hard Especially
- 25:15one to kick.
- 25:16Especially in the, you know, the Midwest or the Northwest.
- 25:19Oh, yeah.
- 25:20Montana, the Dakotas.
- 25:22It gets cold out there.
- 25:23You're stuck inside.
- 25:24You know?
- 25:25Alcohol is a big part of the culture.
- 25:27And I I didn't fully understand that until I moved away and got to Southern California and
- 25:33then over to Arizona here where I live now.
- 25:36Started running in some other groups and I'm like, you mean that booze is
- 25:40not You don't drink every night?
- 25:42Every at every occasion and you know?
- 25:45Yeah.
- 25:45So I've I did quit that, and that was that was huge for me.
- 25:50But coming out of that fog of all of that was just kind of the start of the journey.
- 25:58You know, like, getting out of chronic pain is great, but that is not the end point.
- 26:05Right?
- 26:05Every single client that I that comes to me in pain, we have a conversation day one.
- 26:11It's like, okay.
- 26:12You got this pain.
- 26:13That's obviously your goal is to get out of pain.
- 26:15Right?
- 26:16But I need you to pick something bigger and better for yourself that you wanna do when
- 26:21you're done with this pain.
- 26:22You need something else to strive for because too many times people will get out of pain and
- 26:28they'll come out of that fog and they'll be like, oh my god.
- 26:32Thank you.
- 26:33Finally.
- 26:34And then they stop doing their drills, then they stop striving for something and they get
- 26:39complacent, you're always gonna come back to that pain.
- 26:42Right?
- 26:42It's gonna be it's right there waiting for you if you don't continue to move forward.
- 26:46So for me, understanding what flow states are and how that's such a huge part of I think in
- 26:57my opinion, it's everything.
- 27:00It's it's what we're seeking in all of the things that we do.
- 27:03It gives our life meaning, right, in many ways.
- 27:08Like you, you found it in music and then it got a little stale, stagnant.
- 27:13And so you flip that.
- 27:14You switch to podcasting and interviewing people and you started to find that spark
- 27:18again.
- 27:19Right?
- 27:20Could you find that in music still?
- 27:22Hell, yeah.
- 27:23You could.
- 27:24But you gotta tweak it a little bit.
- 27:25You gotta you gotta tweak the challenge, and so it starts to challenge you again, right, in
- 27:33some way, if you wanted to.
- 27:35Right?
- 27:35Yeah.
- 27:35That's the ADHD.
- 27:37Right?
- 27:37Where it's like, I'm I'm I'm playing.
- 27:39I'm singing.
- 27:40I got my pedalboard in front of me.
- 27:41I'm running sound from the stage.
- 27:42I'm running the lights from the stage.
- 27:44Like, I'm doing like, literally, I'm on I could not be doing more physically than I am right
- 27:49now, and then you're like, this isn't enough.
- 27:51I need something else.
- 27:53Like
- 27:53Well and so the other part of that is you have to be really in touch with why you're doing
- 28:00anything.
- 28:02You know what I mean?
- 28:02Like, if the reason that I played sports was for the adoration, was for the applause, then
- 28:13eventually, you reach a pinnacle, and it's just like, well, okay.
- 28:17Now what?
- 28:18Right?
- 28:19There's no there's that's extrinsic motivation from outside of yourself, and that always
- 28:25always reaches a limit to where it's no longer motivating.
- 28:30You know, money is the classic example.
- 28:31It's like we it's very good motivator if you don't have any.
- 28:38If you are struggling to pay rent and pay your bills and you're living paycheck to paycheck,
- 28:45it sucks.
- 28:46Like, I've been there.
- 28:47It's not fun.
- 28:48It's very motivating to get out of that and to get to a place where you have enough money to
- 28:53cover everything.
- 28:54But once you get to a certain point, and I don't know what it is now.
- 28:57Ten, fifteen years ago, it was like $75,000 a year.
- 29:00Once you hit that point, you got everything covered, all your survival needs, food,
- 29:06shelter, whatever, your happiness doesn't increase anymore.
- 29:11It levels out.
- 29:12So you gotta find something else.
- 29:14So that's where extrinsic rewards no longer serve us to keep us motivated and keep us
- 29:21driven.
- 29:22So we gotta leverage our innate biology, and we gotta find intrinsic driven rewards.
- 29:29These are things like mastery.
- 29:32And when you're chasing mastery of a craft, then all of the extrinsic stuff doesn't matter.
- 29:39Right?
- 29:43I've John Mayer comes to mind here.
- 29:48A lot of people, a lot of my friends, macho guys are like,
- 29:52John Mayer.
- 29:53And they because all they've they've heard is daughters and, like, your body is a wonderland.
- 29:58But I'm like, bro, you need to go listen to his, like, catalog.
- 30:03His blues stuff.
- 30:05Like, he's a wizard on a guitar.
- 30:08And he has played so many different styles of music, and he changes himself up all the time
- 30:13because he is continually chasing mastery.
- 30:17Yeah.
- 30:17He's written some huge pop hits.
- 30:20Not for a long time now but
- 30:22Not for a long time because he kinda did that thing.
- 30:25Mastery.
- 30:26Yeah.
- 30:27But he continues Yeah. Going
- 30:28Going Why is he playing with the dead?
- 30:32He doesn't need to do that.
- 30:34He's touring all over the world with the dead.
- 30:38Like there's no notoriety there.
- 30:41There's no big I mean, he's probably getting a decent paycheck but that doesn't matter to him.
- 30:46You know what I mean?
- 30:47He's doing it because I've never actually been to a Grateful Dead show, so I can't actually
- 30:53say from experience.
- 30:53I have.
- 30:54But I know
- 30:54You got tattooed on my arm.
- 30:56I'm a huge deadhead.
- 30:57I know why you're chasing it.
- 30:58Right?
- 30:58Like, as a musician, I know because I've been in love with that music forever
- 31:03Yes.
- 31:03And everything that it meant.
- 31:05And I thought it was thrilling because I wasn't I had listened to he he released a couple of
- 31:11albums around the time I was in prison, and I really dug into those.
- 31:17The the name of the songs, you know, evading me now, but I remember the words all the time.
- 31:22And, it's just the wave is one of them.
- 31:25And That album my
- 31:27favorite album.
- 31:28Song, man.
- 31:30That whole album is incredible.
- 31:32Just
- 31:33Emoji of a wave, I think, is the actual
- 31:34Emoji of a wave.
- 31:35Yes.
- 31:36Yeah.
- 31:37And I think that explains flow state.
- 31:40Right?
- 31:40I mean, that's kind of what it's alluding to is, like, you know, you can't you're not
- 31:44necessarily in control of it, but there's things you can do to get yourself there.
- 31:49You know?
- 31:49You you Yep.
- 31:50But there's always, like there's a risk.
- 31:52Right?
- 31:53So you have to get in the pool to ever achieve flow state.
- 31:57And would you say that, like, the mental block to that is, like, people standing at the edge
- 32:00of a diving board.
- 32:01Right?
- 32:02And they're like, I can't.
- 32:03I can't.
- 32:03I can't.
- 32:04When you're literally one step away from doing it, it's right there, and you just can't take
- 32:11that step.
- 32:12That's the perfect analogy, Bubba, because we talked very briefly about this flow cycle.
- 32:20And flow is not a binary thing.
- 32:22It doesn't turn on or off.
- 32:23It always goes through a cycle, and those stages are struggle, release that we talked
- 32:29about with Einstein and letting it go, then flow.
- 32:33And then after you're done with the flow state, which is very demanding on your energy and your
- 32:38brain, you recover.
- 32:39You have to recover.
- 32:42So it always happens in this cycle.
- 32:44Now what you're talking about is the struggle phase, and this is where most people fail and
- 32:49why they don't have flow in their life is because they don't know how to struggle and
- 32:54struggle well and get through the struggle.
- 32:57When I was talking about that frustration earlier, that's part of it.
- 33:00Like, you're working on a problem and you're like your brain is, like, starting to increase
- 33:05the arousal and the stress chemicals and you're starting to, like, get so frustrated, that's a
- 33:11good sign.
- 33:12That means your brain is working hard and it's gathering all the information it can and it's
- 33:16holding all in your working memory and then you release it and let your brain go to work.
- 33:21Let the subconscious go to work, find the connections.
- 33:24It will solve the problem for you.
- 33:25K?
- 33:26That's like problem solving.
- 33:28Now when we talk about performance or a sport, and this is where action adventure sport
- 33:33athletes have been killing it in the game of flow for a long time because they understand
- 33:41the struggle phase.
- 33:43Take the diving board example.
- 33:45Yes.
- 33:45Most people, they wanna get there.
- 33:47They know on the other side it's flow, but it's scary.
- 33:52Now they did some research on this at the flow research collective in which they they they the
- 33:57the title of the paper was something about like the first two seconds of flow or something,
- 34:01like what's happening in the brain.
- 34:03And what they found was that in your brain, you have this area that has to choose what the
- 34:10fight or flight response.
- 34:12Like, you're backed into a corner, people coming at you, they want your money or to hurt
- 34:16your family, you're gonna you're gonna fight.
- 34:19Right?
- 34:20It's an instinct we all have to fight or flee.
- 34:24This is required for a flow state.
- 34:26You have to choose to fight.
- 34:30You have to get those chemicals, those stress chemicals all the way to the max.
- 34:36And where most people fail is they distract or they flee or they go do something else.
- 34:44It's too scary.
- 34:46I'm walking away from the diving board.
- 34:49Okay.
- 34:50It's your choice, but you don't get flow now.
- 34:53Right?
- 34:54So there is a there is a certain amount of risk.
- 34:57And again, when we understand that, we can tune the dials up and down, tune that risk trigger
- 35:03based on what your tolerance for risk is.
- 35:08The six foot diving board might be more than enough for one of my you know, well, it's
- 35:17probably way too much for one of my triplets.
- 35:19I have 18 old triplets.
- 35:21Oh, Yeah.
- 35:22So talk about challenge skills balance.
- 35:25Like, think we're a little bit off.
- 35:26Thank god.
- 35:27Thank god you've studied flow state.
- 35:30No doubt.
- 35:32Sidebar your diapers.
- 35:34If you want to see flow state, just watch a kid.
- 35:39Watch a kid playing around.
- 35:41They're in flow all the time.
- 35:43But Yeah.
- 35:44The reason I landed on the diving board analogy, Brandon, was because, I learned how to
- 35:50do backflips off a diving board at, like, 35 years old.
- 35:52Right?
- 35:53Nice.
- 35:53And, you know, doing and I started with the front flip, and I over rotate a couple times,
- 35:57smacked my face.
- 35:58The backflips, you know, took a while.
- 35:59They were ugly.
- 36:00My wife was always filming while they were ugly.
- 36:02Soon as I did wanna improve, I could do it repeatedly.
- 36:04The camera went down.
- 36:05She didn't care anymore.
- 36:06All all the kids were like, oh, do a backflip until I could do them regular, and they're
- 36:10like, yeah.
- 36:10Whatever.
- 36:11It's not that cool.
- 36:12You know?
- 36:13And so I started teaching my kids, like, hey.
- 36:15Front flip.
- 36:16This is kinda how you do it.
- 36:17I understand the body mechanics of this now.
- 36:19And, obviously, they were scared.
- 36:21Right?
- 36:22Like, they're they're so scared in that first time of running game.
- 36:24Well, the run up and then stop and then the run up and then stop.
- 36:27And I watched my, my my 12 and and just turned 13 year old last summer go from scared to do a
- 36:34front flip at the beginning of the year to throwing gainers and double front flips off the
- 36:40low dive by the end of this summer.
- 36:42Right?
- 36:43Yeah.
- 36:43And watch him challenge himself in that way, you know, throwing gainers.
- 36:48Because I was just always saying, hey, man.
- 36:49Well, try it.
- 36:50Just try it.
- 36:51Just keep going.
- 36:51I can't get it.
- 36:52I can't
- 36:52do it.
- 36:53I can't do it.
- 36:53I was like, the only thing stopping you from doing it is you saying that you can't do it
- 36:57because you can do it.
- 36:58Right?
- 36:59And watching him kinda learn that.
- 37:02And, you know, now he's like, cool.
- 37:04I can do it.
- 37:04Now you can do it.
- 37:05I was like, no.
- 37:06I can't do it.
- 37:06My ass is too bad.
- 37:09Oh, it's like, I the risk the risk isn't there.
- 37:11Right?
- 37:11I'm like, man, I'm almost 40.
- 37:14Judah is is my boy.
- 37:15Like, look, brother.
- 37:16I dubbed the back flips.
- 37:17I've learned how to do, you know, front flips.
- 37:19Now I've trained you guys, but, like, the risk reward isn't there for me to try and train
- 37:25myself to do a gainer.
- 37:26I'm not willing to go through
- 37:27That's the thing.
- 37:27I watched him smack him's face how many times, you know, getting three quarters of the way
- 37:33around that gainer, eating all this water up in his face, and I was like, I don't have that.
- 37:37Right?
- 37:37Like, I I don't have the ability to go through that.
- 37:40I'm gonna find other ways to challenge myself, but I'm pretty happy getting to come up to the
- 37:45diving board.
- 37:46And when the kids who haven't seen me do it are like, do a backflip.
- 37:49And I'm like, you know?
- 37:51Mhmm.
- 37:52Having that was good enough for me.
- 37:53Right?
- 37:54But not him.
- 37:54Yeah.
- 37:55He he kept pushing himself and kept pushing and kept pushing, and it was really cool to watch
- 37:59it in over the course of, like, a month of just, nope.
- 38:03I'm going to the pool today.
- 38:04I'm gonna get it.
- 38:05I'm gonna get it.
- 38:05I'm gonna get it.
- 38:06And but it had to he had to take that first leap.
- 38:10Right?
- 38:10He had to go out there and fail that first time miserably in that tenth time and that eightieth
- 38:16time.
- 38:17But, man, that eighty first time, he got it.
- 38:19And it was like, dude, you did it.
- 38:21Right?
- 38:21And now he's chasing
- 38:23Good feeling.
- 38:24Man.
- 38:24Yeah, man.
- 38:25It was awesome.
- 38:26As a dad, I think that's been one of my, like, most gratifying moments because Mhmm.
- 38:30It wasn't on me at all.
- 38:32Right?
- 38:32It was on you know, I encouraged him and, you know, I didn't train him how to do that.
- 38:37I had no idea.
- 38:37I'd seen little mechanical things that I was like, hey.
- 38:40Try this.
- 38:41Right?
- 38:41Like, you're not talking when you do this.
- 38:43You're like, you you gotta get a little more rotation or just like but I didn't do that.
- 38:47I there was nothing I could do for him.
- 38:50Yeah.
- 38:51Yeah.
- 38:51You're hitting on a lot of, like so flow is pretty intuitive.
- 38:57Right?
- 38:58Especially if you've gone through some kind of skill training process like you did with music,
- 39:03also with sports.
- 39:04That's why I love sports so much.
- 39:06But also many, like, might say physical artistic pursuits, like learning an instrument.
- 39:14It's a progression.
- 39:15Right?
- 39:16And the the biggest my biggest pet peeve is people that are, like especially coaches and
- 39:26teachers that are expecting kids or others to be somewhere that they aren't.
- 39:35Right?
- 39:36Not meeting them where they're at and expecting, like, oh, you should know all of
- 39:40these scales by the end of next week.
- 39:42It's like there's too much challenge.
- 39:44We need to break the skill down more and when you break any skill down, the analogy I think
- 39:50is like a Buddhist analogy is like, an elephant, you know, is just one bite at a time
- 39:59or something like and there's this actually the story of this guy in France or somewhere that
- 40:04actually ate an entire airplane.
- 40:08Literally ate an airplane.
- 40:12So you take, like, one piece of metal and swallow it every day.
- 40:16And over time, he did that.
- 40:17But the point is is, like, you break skills down.
- 40:20And whatever as hard as something may seem, if you can break it down into smaller chunks that
- 40:26will fit both the challenge and the skill level that you currently have.
- 40:30If your skill level is zero, then you start with the most basic thing.
- 40:35Learn to approach and then jump on a diving board.
- 40:40That's day one.
- 40:41Like, do that.
- 40:43Nail that and then go on to the next thing.
- 40:45Increase the challenge a little bit.
- 40:47And for risk, your son's risk tolerance is a lot higher because he's got a malleable, like,
- 40:55smaller body that doesn't get injured as easily as your 35 or 40 year old body.
- 41:01Right?
- 41:02So, like, for me, yeah, I'm not going straight to a gainer off the diving board because I'm
- 41:07two hundred and twenty pounds and, like, I've been through a a full life at this point, maybe
- 41:14more than one lifetime that I've done to my body.
- 41:17So my risk tolerance is gonna be lower to start.
- 41:21Can we reach the same point?
- 41:24Absolutely.
- 41:25But maybe my path is a little bit further.
- 41:27And maybe my risk tolerance just ends at a certain point.
- 41:30I noticed after I had kids, my tolerance for risk and a lot of things changed, Like taking
- 41:38financial risks changed big time.
- 41:42Taking physical risks, you know, I used to be into skydiving, you know, I did a little rodeo
- 41:48back in my day, you know.
- 41:52A lot of the riskier sports, I don't do them anymore because it's not worth it to me anymore
- 41:59because now it's not about me.
- 42:01It's about way more than me as a father.
- 42:02So you gotta know where your risk tolerance is, and this is where action adventure sports have
- 42:08been killing it because they play with that trigger a lot.
- 42:12Like, standing on the edge of a black diamond on your skis or on your mountain bike, there's
- 42:20a big risk there.
- 42:21And, like, flow follows focus.
- 42:26You gotta have intense focus.
- 42:30And when the risk is higher, you get focused for free.
- 42:34That's the saying.
- 42:35This is why public speaking is such a flow rich activity in the, the cognitive realm because
- 42:45the risk, the social risk, or risk to your reputation is high, at least perceived.
- 42:53Right?
- 42:54So that's why it's intense.
- 42:57It's challenging.
- 42:58You get more flow there.
- 42:59A lot of athletes go into motivational speaking, public speaking of some kind.
- 43:04Podcasting, same thing.
- 43:06Like, there's there's a little bit of that risk there.
- 43:08You know?
- 43:11So when you start to understand these different triggers and depending on who you're talking
- 43:16to, there's anywhere from, like, 20 to 25 different triggers for individual flow.
- 43:21And then group flow is a is a different thing that's even more intense and impactful.
- 43:29So playing with a band, getting in touch with the crowd and connecting with the crowd, that
- 43:35elevates your experience way higher.
- 43:38Right?
- 43:39That's what John was chasing.
- 43:41Right?
- 43:41Yeah.
- 43:42Exactly.
- 43:42Because he had because
- 43:43he had attained it at such a high level in a studio because he could play all the
- 43:48instruments too.
- 43:48Right?
- 43:49He could do that.
- 43:49Oh, yeah.
- 43:50He got really good in that studio doing it.
- 43:52And then the chase became, well, how do you create that on this massive scale and connect
- 43:58with the crowd and connect with the band and to do that?
- 44:01Like, that's what he was chasing.
- 44:03Brandon, I've kept you long enough today.
- 44:06We could talk daily, I think, and still hit on stuff in this.
- 44:11I think it's incredible.
- 44:12But, obviously, you got triplets at home, and your time is extremely valuable to you.
- 44:17Share where everyone can find you before I let you go, and I'll make sure that we send anyone
- 44:23who needs this.
- 44:24Obviously, we touch so many artists and athletes now with the Scene Project Sports
- 44:29Network as well that would definitely be interested in in what you have to say and some
- 44:34of these services.
- 44:35So go ahead and plug away, man, and thanks thanks for taking some time for me today.
- 44:39This was this was brilliant.
- 44:41Yeah.
- 44:41No.
- 44:42Thank you, Bubba.
- 44:43This was fantastic.
- 44:44Really great conversation.
- 44:45You're a great interviewer, and I appreciate the space and the and the and the flow of it.
- 44:50So evolvedathlete.coach is my website where you can go kinda check out what neurotraining is
- 44:57all about.
- 45:00And some of the some of the other places I show up are, I have a school community.
- 45:06That's s k o o l.
- 45:08School.com/evolved.
- 45:12So you can join that for free.
- 45:14We also have some, you know, subscription based models where you get a little more access to me
- 45:18and our group training programs for flow states and neuro training and and my VIP coaching one
- 45:24on one stuff.
- 45:25You can find all the information there.
- 45:26You can follow me on Instagram at I am brandon day, all one word.
- 45:32And those are my three areas where I spend most of my time when I'm not watching little
- 45:36triplets run around and being flow all the time.
- 45:39Yeah.
- 45:39That's gotta be so much fun.
- 45:41My kids are a little bit older, but, you know, my wife has helped me raise children that
- 45:46weren't hers for a long time now.
- 45:49So we're talking about having another baby in the future, and that's kind of been my luck.
- 45:54We're like, we're talking about having one more, so we'll probably end up having three.
- 45:57Right?
- 45:57Probably.
- 45:58A time.
- 45:59Right?
- 45:59That would be our luck.
- 46:01Brandon, absolutely incredible stuff, man.
- 46:04We're putting together some some creator conferences.
- 46:07And when we get down into the the Southwest, I'm definitely gonna look you up and and have
- 46:12you jump in with us.
- 46:13So thanks for being part of the Scene Project Sports Network, and can't wait to chat with you
- 46:18again, man.
- 46:18This was a lot of fun.
- 46:20Yeah.
- 46:20Absolutely.
- 46:21Thanks, Bubba.
- 46:26SPSN.