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- 🛒 Strong Coffee Company - Protein Coffee 💰 Get 20% OFF | Promo Code: HELPFULL https://strongcoffeecompany.com/discount/HELPFULL CURTIS: Hey everyone, welcome back toParent Support Circle podcast ! I'm Curtis, and as always, I'm joined by my co-host RJ, who's successfully raised two kids who are now thriving adults. RJ: Thanks, Curtis! And today's topic is one I remember all too well—what do you do when your kid says school is boring or stressful? CURTIS: Right? So if you're listening because your kid is struggling with school right now, you're in the right place. We're going to break this down and give you actual strategies you can use today. RJ: And I'm bringing the hindsight wisdom of someone who's been through it and survived! CURTIS: Let's dive in. [Transition music] SEGMENT 1: LISTEN FIRST & DECODE "BORING" (1:00-6:30) CURTIS: So picture this: your kid walks in, drops their backpack with a dramatic thud and says, "School is SO boring!" What's your first reaction? RJ: Honestly? I used to jump straight into fix-it mode. "What's wrong? Let me talk to your teacher!" But I learned that sometimes they just need to vent first. CURTIS: So listen before fixing? RJ: Exactly. Ask open-ended questions like, "What makes you feel that way?" My son once said math was boring, but after we talked, it turned out he didn't understand a concept and felt left behind. "Boring" was easier to say than "I don't get it." CURTIS: So "boring" can mean different things. RJ: Right. Four main things: First, the work is too easy—my daughter was reading at a sixth-grade level in third grade and was genuinely understimulated. Second, it's too hard—she later struggled with algebra and checked out emotionally. Third, they don't see the relevance—"When will I use this?" And fourth, the teaching style doesn't match how they learn. My son is hands-on; lectures just didn't work for his brain. CURTIS: So you've got to play detective. Ask: "Is it boring in all classes or just one?" "What DO you find interesting?" RJ: Exactly. The answers tell you what you're dealing with. SEGMENT 2: SOLUTIONS FOR BOREDOM (6:30-10:00) CURTIS: Okay, so what did you do when your daughter wasn't being challenged enough? RJ: I scheduled a meeting with her teacher, but I kept it collaborative. I said, "I've noticed she's expressing some boredom. Is there a way we could provide additional challenges?" Her teacher was great—gave her advanced books and let her mentor struggling readers. CURTIS: So she got challenged AND got to help others. RJ: Win-win. But we also enriched at home—library cards, online courses, author talks. And she joined a robotics team where she was constantly challenged. CURTIS: And what about when "boring" meant struggling? RJ: With my daughter's algebra struggles, I noticed she'd avoid homework, call math "stupid," and her grades slipped. So I sat down with her—not during homework stress—and asked if she felt like she was understanding it. CURTIS: Non-judgmental approach. RJ: Right. She admitted she'd been lost for weeks. We got her a tutor, and we also had her evaluated for learning differences. Turns out she had some processing challenges with multi-step problems. Once she got accommodations and understood her brain just worked differently, everything changed. CURTIS: So the key is: get support early. Tutors, teachers, evaluations—don't let them struggle alone. RJ: Absolutely. And help them break work into smaller chunks. Use timers, celebrate small wins. SEGMENT 3: TACKLING STRESS (10:00-15:00) CURTIS: Let's talk about stress, because this is different from boredom and needs immediate attention. RJ: Yes. Watch for physical signs: headaches, stomachaches, trouble sleeping. My daughter got headaches before big tests. Emotional signs: irritability, crying easily, withdrawing from activities they used to love. CURTIS: What causes stress for kids? RJ: Heavy workloads, test anxiety, social drama, too many extracurriculars. And honestly, Curtis? Sometimes we parents accidentally add to it with well-meaning pressure. I wanted my kids to succeed so badly that I didn't realize I was adding stress. CURTIS: That's really honest. So how do you reduce it? RJ: First: sleep and nutrition. A tired, hungry kid cannot handle stress. We enforced better bedtimes even though my teenagers fought me. Second: downtime. My kids were overscheduled—soccer, piano, debate, volunteering. We cut back, and they were actually happier. CURTIS: That's counterintuitive to our culture. RJ: I know! But a stressed, burned-out kid won't thrive anyway. Third: teach coping strategies. Deep breathing before tests, journaling for my daughter, running for my son. And I had to model it myself—show them how I dealt with work stress. CURTIS: What about reframing failure? RJ: Critical! I started sharing my own failures—times I bombed presentations, didn't get promotions. I talked about what I learned. Once my kids understood failure was part of learning, they were less afraid to try. CURTIS: When should parents escalate beyond home strategies? RJ: If it's not getting better after a few weeks, involve the school. Talk to teachers or counselors. Keep it collaborative: "Here's what I'm seeing. What are you seeing? How can we work together?" Document everything and follow up. CURTIS: And when does stress become a mental health issue? RJ: Red flags: dramatic behavior changes, withdrawing from everything, frequent meltdowns, physical symptoms with no medical cause, talk of hopelessness. My daughter had panic attacks and stopped seeing friends. That's when I knew we needed professional help. CURTIS: And therapy made a difference? RJ: Changed everything. She learned coping tools, we learned how to support her, and she's thriving now. So the message is: don't wait. If you're worried, reach out to your pediatrician or a therapist who specializes in kids. SEGMENT 4: MAKING LEARNING FUN AT HOME (15:00-18:00) CURTIS: Let's end positively. What can parents do to cultivate a love of learning at home? RJ: Connect learning to their interests. My son loved video games, so we explored coding, game design, storytelling elements. Suddenly he's interested in programming. CURTIS: Learning felt relevant. RJ: Exactly. Also, change how you ask about school. Instead of "How was school?"—which gets "fine"—ask, "What's something that made you think today?" or "Did you help anyone?" CURTIS: That invites deeper conversation. RJ: Right. And celebrate curiosity! When they ask questions, even inconvenient ones, say "I don't know, let's find out together!" Make learning experiential—museums, documentaries, cooking. When my daughter complained about fractions, we started baking. Suddenly fractions had a purpose. CURTIS: That's brilliant. RJ: And just show interest in what they're learning. Ask them to teach you something. Kids love feeling like the expert. OUTRO (18:00-20:00) CURTIS: RJ, this has been such a great conversation. Any final thoughts for parents in the thick of this? RJ: Yeah. First: you're not alone. Every parent deals with this. Second: be patient. This is a process. Some things work immediately, others take time. CURTIS: And give yourself grace. RJ: Absolutely. You're going to make mistakes—I made plenty. But showing up and caring is what matters most. CURTIS: So true. Remember, folks, if your kid is saying school is boring or stressful, they're giving you information. They're opening a door for you to help. RJ: Listen without fixing right away. Dig into what's really going on. And don't be afraid to get help when you need it. CURTIS: Alright everyone, thanks for listening to Parent Support Circle podcast . If this helped you, make sure you subscribe to our YouTube channel, hit that like button, and ring the bell so you never miss an episode! RJ: And head over to our Facebook page to leave a comment and tell us your stories! What's worked for you? What challenges are you facing? We're all in this together. CURTIS: Also, if you're looking for ongoing support and a community of parents who get it, join our Parent Support Circle at www.parentsupportcircle.com. It's an amazing resource. RJ: Until next time, remember: you're doing better than you think. CURTIS: Your kids are lucky to have you. CURTIS & RJ: [together] Take care! [Music fades out] SHOW NOTES / RESOURCES Episode Resources: Signs of school-related stress in children Questions to ask when your child says school is boring How to talk to teachers collaboratively When to seek professional mental health support Activities to make learning fun at home Key Takeaways: Listen first before jumping to solutions "Boring" can mean: too easy, too hard, irrelevant, or wrong teaching style Get support early: tutors, teachers, evaluations Stress requires immediate attention: sleep, nutrition, downtime Don't be afraid to seek professional help for mental health Connect learning to kids' interests at home