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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Joy of Purposeful Divine Service 12.10.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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Yeah, so on no do I was saying yesterday, yeah, so we're going
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to take Clay out even more many. So on 391 and three 92393 inside
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a shame is talking about one of the big ways of loving Hashem is
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being happy in his service. So he explained yesterday that
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the idea of being happy in God's service is the feeling, and this
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is a major source of joy, and that is a feeling that you're
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doing something that matters. He said a couple examples #1
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when it comes to praying, the feeling that you get to talk to
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God, you get to thank Him, everything goes right and you
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get to talk to Him before something happens.
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You know, we think of that as like a, a side element in our
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life. It's not side.
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That is your form of going to work.
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When you talk to us before and after it's over and things go
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well, that is your form of making money, getting the money
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in and then thanking God for getting it.
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It's really directly all him and in that your perspective this
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some how that a person has by having that capability and the
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ability to be able to talk to God directly.
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Is it unbelievable? That was somehow, why could you
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say yesterday, you're talking to the source itself, you're
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talking past the buyer, you're talking beyond the company,
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beyond China, you're talking to literally the source himself
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each and every day. And it sounds like an
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exaggerated point, but we know by now it's a reality.
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And that is supposed to give us unbelievable sunka, being that
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we're dealing directly with the source.
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The whole idea of sunka with service, joy and service of
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Hashem is a concept. See all these areas of joy, we
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said this point yesterday, all these areas of joy are really
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point to the one I did. When you do something that's a
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mitzvah, when you talk to God, when you learn God's Surah, when
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you do his mitzvah, you're doing the most direct action possible.
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I'm going to tell you what I mean.
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Everything else in life is outside when I learn to die,
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right? So I am literally reading the
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word of Hashem. I am.
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I'm at the center of the universe because I'm dealing
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with the thing itself. I'm not doing anything that's on
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the side. I'm not doing anything.
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That's a distraction. That's a side point.
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I am doing literally the purpose itself.
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I am living my purpose. And the joy a person gets when
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they're living their life's purpose is a kind of joy.
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We may not realize that constant until we actually learn it and
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understand it. But the joy the person should
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get when they are living life's purpose is basically saying I'm
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not doing anything. That some, you know, a lot of
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things you do lead to other things, right?
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I'll give you an example. You know, you work so hard to
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worry about your summer situation.
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Think of your situation, right? You work so hard.
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So you spend a few months, some time looking for a house to rent
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and you prepare it. And you may take the move or you
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bring the truck. You move and then you get your
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family set up. You work on camps, you work on
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all these different things. You make sure your family's
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settled, you stock the fridge. All these things are the things
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that lead to the point. And what is the point when it
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comes to going to deal in the summer?
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The point is that sense that you have on a Sunday afternoon where
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nothing's going on, that feeling that's the center of that
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universe. So all that you did was all work
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to get to that point, right? Saying you should go into work
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every day. You run a company, you're
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involved in the company, you work hard, you drive to work,
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you park, you deal with people, you fly, you go away on
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business, you do all the UPS and ups and downs, you have all the
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headaches, you do all the emails, all to get to the
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dollar, all to use to support your family.
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So a lot of things that we do in our lives lead to things.
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A lot of things that we do all means to an end and not the ends
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themselves, correct? Now, your person could change
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when it comes to work and make his work until mitzvah itself.
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But typical, all that he's doing, his effort to lead to
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something. You raise your children, right?
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You raise your children. Think about how much effort you
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put into raising your children, even how much time, money,
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stress, thoughts, conversations with the teachers and the
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principals and sleepless nights and all these different things
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and doctors and million things, right?
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All that, excuse me, it's meant to lead to the goal.
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What's the goal? A good child, a child that gives
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you prior, a child that gives you when they get married, when
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they build their own family. So all the things that we do
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have, so many things lead to the center, to the spot, and you
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spend 95% of time working on getting to that moment.
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You follow my point with this paper now.
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Yeah. When it comes to work, that's
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the case. When it comes to going on
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vacation, that's the case. When it comes to raising a
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child's case, when it comes to even being married, that's the
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case. Marriage, the beauty of the
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marriage are those certain moments.
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And how much effort do we put in for those certain bubbles,
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Right? Also, a lot is done to get to
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the spot. The idea of sukkah, of joy when
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you serve Hashem, when you learn, when you do, when you're
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doing with thought, is to realize this moment is that a
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means to an end? It's the ends itself.
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When I sit right here and we discuss these concepts, we are
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living the ends themselves, or we pray everything.
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We're living down themselves. We give charity, we're doing the
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ends themselves. And there's a joy that's
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supposed to come alive that is bigger than any other joy.
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And the feeling will be I am doing them as thyself.
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I am living life's purpose right now is nothing better than that,
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right? That is the idea, that's the
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theme, the same concept to escape about that we shouldn't.
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Live a life you know, for Alan. Habar Well, we exactly the idea
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of not living life alone about is that a person realizes right
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here, right now, I am doing the goal all of us is to live man's
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purpose. Our goal is to it's the same
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thing as if you think of a ball player, how much time as he, you
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know, he goes to Little League, high school, college, triple AI
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mean the model lease single A AA, AAA all is meant to lead to
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that moment to that spot to a small amount of time and there's
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so much we do to repair. That's the moment we're trying
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to have our mitzvot and our feeling while we do the mitzvot.
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I'm supposed to feel like I am living life's purpose and is
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nothing better than this. And yes, you shouldn't be
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thinking about Allah Bah Bah, you shouldn't be thinking about
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getting anywhere else. You are doing the thing itself.
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That's the mindset and the frame of mind is that many other
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things in our lives are things that lead to things.
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These miss what are actually living life is when you're able
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to do what it feels like. It's purposeful.
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When you live a meaningful life, you're living when you do all
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the other things to get used to the meaningful life.
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Well, those other parts are the effort that you're putting in to
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get to the spot. So the joy a person should have
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while they're doing a mitzvah. Now, what I just described to
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you is hard to see because it's hard to see this right here
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right now. Learning this is living and
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figuring out how to find parking is not living or you know, or I
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mean, that's easy to see, but dealing with the buyers is not
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living or flying out to do work is all means so and it's hard to
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see that. And by the way, is couple of
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things of here. Our bigger task is to turn all
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those things into living as well, right?
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Which means you, you turn therefore you put into your
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children before you get any nachat as a form of meaning.
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You turn all the different days of work as a form in your
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meaning as well. Those are more complicated to
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come by. That's the ultimate goal.
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But the start is the concept. When I syrup Hashem, I feel like
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I'm alive. I feel like I hate the purpose.
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I'm hitting the spot. I am literally living Haim.
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That's when they say, when I tell you Torah, it's considered
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Haim, right? It's Haim la razigimba.
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It's Haim, it's life. What do they mean?
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They mean literally this. The soul, while it's doing its
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actual purpose, is living. While it's doing all the effort
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to get to that purpose, it's not a symbol that is living.
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And if you shave down life and you look at our likes or
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people's lives, some people could be living.
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I think about this all the time. Some people could be living the
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equivalent of a couple of years the whole life.
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How does that make sense? Off the guy is sitting on the
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couch all day, right? Or even if he's going to work,
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but he does work the wrong way, even if he's running a family,
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but he does it out of stress, frustration and anger.
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Even if he's currently married, but his marriage is a mess.
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If he's living life and always doing our means to the end and
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he's not doing those means properly, he's not living life
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is literally doing this purpose and doing it the right way.
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That is hype and that creates somehow because you feel good,
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excuse me, you feel good or you're doing the right thing.
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You feel like something special. The idea that a person when they
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sit down and they learn, they have a certain feeling.
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Now, it's challenging to get that.
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Let's struggle to remain there. All those things are correct.
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But when you sit down and you do the misfort properly, the
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feeling that you have is somehow that you're supposed to have is
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a feeling like I am doing what I was born to do.
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You know, people say that I feel right.
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I feel like I'm telling you I was, I was waiting for this.
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I'm born for this. This is my Forte.
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Torah and mitzvot are our so scorp and everything we do up
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until that point all means that I end, and they're not as joyous
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as the end itself. This is the point.
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Maybe be here as the council. So, for example, on 392, the
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further a person enters inside the hadre diat que de la toy
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para inside the connection to God, your tear tidal BU azenka,
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he's going to have greater joy via heli Bo SA speaker Bo and
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his heart will be happy. The Omar ismaki cel BU O sav
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bereza be happy with and rejoice me your creator Benettion aguilu
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be makan People of Tione should be happy with the melech vidavid
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Shequanic via Aguila E mahamala Azad shirgat O davi who reaches
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point, say get out of your words.
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God make me so happy. I know he is.
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I am so happy. Your words, this idea over
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Hashem over and over again. A person should say should reach
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a point that I feel good. It feels right when he's sitting
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by a Shabbat table. It feels right when he's sitting
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to learn, feels right when you're giving charity, even
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feels right when you give me someone you feel like in your
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moment. All these different things.
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And now we go further. How do we go further?
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We expand it. Let's expand.
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Let's take the preparation for Shabbat and make that special
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too. Let's take not only the NACHA
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for our children, even the effort we put into our children
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and make that meaningful too. Let's take the effort we put in
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to get to learn and make that powerful too.
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How about the effort we put in to bring an income?
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Make that powerful too. So you take the core, which is
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somehow bash him and you expend it.
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And the overall theme is for a person to recognize and feel and
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what I'm doing, what I was meant to do and I'm doing it right.
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There was a joy, there was a feeling of subha, There's a
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feeling of purpose. There's a feeling of no agita,
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no stress. Here's the key theme.
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If I told you right guys saying that to learning and learning is
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bothering you. It's hard If I told him he's
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living life's purpose, he'll feel better about it.
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If you go into work every day right and I told you is
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expanding the zone. Now I told you you know dealing
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with that buyer. It's a headache and I have but
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God wants you to do this and when you do it right, you're
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living your purpose. You'd feel better about it if
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you would have Hashem overseeing you were telling you right
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there, dealing with that annoying coworker who's getting
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me nervous and getting along with him.
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That is life's of meaning. That's your purpose here.
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You feel better about it too and you keep expanding the zone,
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expanding the zone and you recognize that everything that
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you're doing, which felt like means to an end.
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They're actually themselves an end.
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You'd feel by some high. That's the concept.
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That's our goal. Our goal is to rejoice, is to be
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happy, to be content. How do you reach content levels
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when you recognize that everything that you're doing are
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not just like we said originally means to the ends, but rather
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they are the ends of souls and you turn your entire life into
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service of Hashem. Some people to be living just a
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few times that they do much thought that's their whole life.
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Other people could be living a full life because they do
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misfault all day long. And other people can be living a
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full life because they work all day and they put a lot of stress
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into their life. But it's all means to an ends
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and they recognize that I'm living life's meaning.
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If you have the right approach, has the right mindset, you will
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have some kind everything. I know it's a lofty goal, but I
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want to see if it's possible to have persons that feel like I'm
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not fighting life, I'm not fighting my purpose, I am living
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my purpose. I'm not going against the grain.
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I'm going along with the grain. And when you feel that way, you
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will have a joy and a some ha by recognizing I'm doing what I
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meant to be doing. Is this doable?
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It's the only way. It's the only way.
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Go to work every day and you have do annoying people all
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right have deal with headaches. We all do.
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And you say to yourself hurdles 3 steps 2 steps 1.
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You say I recognize my 4th on my life.
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What's this? Where did this come in?
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Where does this headache come in?
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Right? Step 2 is to say after you
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realize you must, what a Haim. The steps that lead you to him,
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it's what also Haim. So the work that you deal with
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every day, if you deal with it right, that too is your purpose.
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I had a conversation with a bunch of boys and on Sunday and
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they were so surprised by what I said.
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I don't know why I wasn't surprised, but he was surprised.
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I said I'll give you 2 people. One guy is in a cave.
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He learns, he wakes up in the morning.
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He goes in like there every day. He goes to pray.
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He says the Liam hair for tea, Lima day and now he does the
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kukatsu. I'll give you another guy who
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has to deal with a wife and make Shalom to his marriage, has to
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raise his children, doesn't get so frustrated, has to go to work
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every day and avoids getting insulted and insulting others.
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Is can't know what he says. He goes to pray in the morning.
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Sure, he goes right and he goes pray at night.
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He has a learning schedule, a regular guy, but he makes sure
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to be able to get along with people or work on his character.
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I said, if I had to ask you guys, which one are you going to
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for a better? The first one who does Mcvan in
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the morning, half the Delian cave at night, What the good had
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thought. Or the second one who wakes up
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like a regular person, goes to work, deals with people, tells
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his wife, creates Shalom, raises children, has a praying schedule
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and learning schedule who shouldn't be going to the better
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heart. I said they all told me.
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The first guy, I said, I'm tell you, a little surprised.
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Second was pretty good too. Not only am I going to the
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second one, the second one he's doing, he's in the Hall of Fame.
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He's doing everything that he's supposed he's in the Hall of
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Fame. The first guy, I don't even know
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if he makes it to the big leagues.
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I have no idea. It depends if he's a good guy or
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no tests, depends if he's a good fellow or not.
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The fact that he does all those things doesn't mean that much to
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me. What means to me is that if a
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person deals with life and focuses on life the right way
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and acts and develops himself the right way, that person makes
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to the Hall of Fame because that person we should all realize can
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be us and is US. And it's a much according to
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Messiah Shanine, a much happier life.
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If you realize that's your pertinence.
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If you realize that's why I'm here.
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I'm here from my mitzvot like beside from the beginning.
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There's some hot right there, and I'm here also for all the
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steps that lead to you mitzvot. But the other?
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Guy gets all the glory. I I would have thought up until
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4 1/2 years ago that the first guy was the guy because seems
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pure, right? Yeah.
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So I got clips for like 150 gram and the guy wouldn't drink my
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pole because it was in Halawa so.
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Right. But I'm just saying a guy is
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doing everything right. I mean, no, he tried to buy me a
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second pitch because he and the whole thing right?
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And they might be doing that stuff, but they're never
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fighting the grain of the daily grind.
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So to work. On them, you know?
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Yeah. So in the real world, in the
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real world, so it is. And in the rabbi's real world,
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the rabbis, they value the actual person who went through
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things, who deals life the right way, way more than they do.
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That first person, they do. Real people do.
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I know people get excited over that, that color, and they think
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that it's something special. There's no difference between
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the other side of the world is real and here.
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If you are a good person, you're a good person.
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If you're not, I'll see you later.
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I don't care. It means nothing to me.
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All these different heebie jeebie or whatever, any of those
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things you do, it doesn't mean anything to me.
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If I find that that person is dishonest, goodbye.
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If I find other guy who had a temptation to be dishonest and
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gave over money just to avoid a fight, who gave all money just
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to remain fully honest, bravo, Right?
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And that second person is a person who's living life the
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right way, but at the core is what a person realizes.
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This is my job. You know, the part of the reason
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why I grew up a Harry Potter kid, OK, You know that.
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And one of the big themes at the end of Harry Potter is a
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consequent the greater good, right?
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Where they believe that certain things were permissible.
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That was the whole big fight at the end, based on the greater
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good. That was the big fight.
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Do you believe in the greater good or not?
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A lot of times people do things inappropriate based on the
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greater good outcome. You know I'm going to bash that
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person. The end.
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Justifies the means. Exactly, simply right and
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justify means I'm going to bash that person because I don't want
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them to be around me. So I'm going to shamble them or
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I'm going to, I don't know what I'm going to do.
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I'm going to do something wrong because I have a certain goal in
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mind. I'm going to do whatever I need
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to get to that goal. And we know many people, many
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things, many institutions who fall and do the wrong thing
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because of that thing, right? What all those people slash
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whatever organizations are missing is a realization that
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God wants you 1000% to be a good person to run through and he has
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no interest. 0 interest in I'll gun gains and wrongfully develop
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ends. God can care less but such ends.
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If a guy shambles another guy, I can't call him a case in my mind
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right now, but someone shambles some because doesn't want to
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have a bad influence on his child.
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So you shambles that person wants to protect this child.
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No good. You don't shambles that person
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thing. You figure a way around it to be
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like your child. Even though protecting my
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child's such a valuable thing doesn't give you the right to be
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a bad person. And in fact, yeah, mitzvah is to
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figure a way in the process to do things right.
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That is your goal. That's the point.
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In general in life, the more people realize this, the more
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their entire process will be proper.
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The less they realize this, the less the process.
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Process is going to be good. Only the outcome is going to be
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good. And if you're living a life
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outcome based, it'll be a lot of flaws and a lot in this you're
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not a lot of tests. Why?
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Because let's say you're running a shoe outcome based, right?
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I think running a shoe outcome based, you could be a little
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sketchy in your fundraising. You could be a little dishonest
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in your books. You could be a little of this, a
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little of that. You could treat people the wrong
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way because it's all about the outcome.
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All about the outcome. You change the minute Hagim or
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people are not comfortable with them because the outcome.
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You want it to be comfortable for the people.
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You do all those things that are wrong because it's based on the
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outcome and in the end you end up having nothing.
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You run your family based on outcome.
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All my children to be protected, all my children to be safe, all
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my children to have. Don't want around them that's
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bad or anything wrong. So what do I do?
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I shamble, I do certain things. I'm tough on the teachers, I'm
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annoying to the principles. I'm a difficult person.
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If you do life the wrong way just cause of the outcome, a
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whole process can be ruined, right?
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Even though your goal is to result to be result, to be
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right, that's wrong as a wrong approach.
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And the job is to serve Hashem based on the fact that you're
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serving Hashem all the way through the right way.
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And then every step of your life has joy.
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Every detail of your life feels right because everything you're
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doing is an ends in and of itself.
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That's the idea. All right.
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What's U with this?