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What Will Matter at the End of Your Days? | Episode 245 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Hey everyone, thank you again.
• 0:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi there, thank you again for joining us on this episode of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 0:13
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm your host, founder and executive director of Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes.
• 0:20
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us for your first episode, or you've been with us since the beginning.
• 0:26
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We can't thank you enough that you would take any time out of your day to join us.
• 0:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you.
• 0:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It is well known that we are a charity 501c3 nonprofit.
• 0:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We accept donations.
• 0:44
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're able to great.
• 0:48
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You're not able to great.
• 0:49
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But what's free is giving us that thumbs up, subscribing, liking, sharing, those types of things.
• 1:00
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Those are free.
• 1:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We would very much appreciate that right now.
• 1:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Where?
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  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Or a small organization, a small tv show, podcast, with a small amount of followers and people that are really what keeps us going, what gives us that high octane to want to continue, to continue on.
• 1:49
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: There's a lot of things in life.
• 1:50
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: A lot of things in life.
• 1:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: A lot of things you can take the easy way, and who doesn't like something that's easy?
• 2:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And who doesn't like something that's easy?
• 2:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Or you can take, if presented, maybe a little bit harder way.
• 2:20
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Anyways, let's get her going here.
• 2:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You won't be able to see totally because how the shirt is, but I have the one and only Voices for Voices shirt that has been in and around the United States of America and across the world.
• 2:44
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This is the very first Voices for Voices shirt ever designed, ever made.
• 2:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I still have it and I haven't worn it for quite a while.
• 2:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I wanted to wear it for this episode, because nothing that's worth something is easy.
• 3:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: People come and go, organizations come and go, organizations come and go.
• 3:40
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Things aren with Jesus Christ.
• 3:45
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Nothing is impossible.
• 3:47
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: He gives me strength, gives you strength.
• 3:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you have another religion, another following, that's okay.
• 4:17
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, just sharing information, opinions, thoughts, experiences, things, tips, tricks, what have you, and you automatically get to decide.
• 4:40
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Freedom of speech is a beautiful thing, especially here in the United States of America, and that is a cornerstone of the United States Constitution Free speech.
• 5:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so you may have tuned into an earlier episode where we did quite a show, a popular show.
• 5:18
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We talked about that for quite a bit, majority of the show, and what can I say?
• 5:33
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: The organization Voices for Voices, myself, justin Allen Hayes, everybody that's associated it was somebody, a confidant, a person, anybody that has joined us at any point, that has joined us at any point.
• 6:06
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe you're with us at the beginning and whatever reason went a different way.
• 6:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's okay.
• 6:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's freedom, freedom of speech, freedom to make that decision.
• 6:20
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: How does that make you feel when you get to make that decision?
• 6:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Makes me feel good have.
• 6:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: At times, maybe we thought we were being silenced, coming after whatever.
• 6:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Whatever.
• 7:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you don't like a fact, if you don't like information, you don't get to tell another person that they're not entitled to their opinion, their opinion, their thoughts, and especially when information is shared and shown and spoken about, and and that we're not going to like everything, we're not going to like everybody.
• 7:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not, you're not, no, it's.
• 8:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not, you're not, no, it's.
• 8:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It is our hope that we're able to help again that big number of 3 billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 8:19
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But it doesn't mean that those three billion are going to like me, like our organization.
• 8:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: They may like being helped, though I like being helped.
• 8:40
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I like being helped.
• 8:50
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We share, we talk, we converse.
• 8:56
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We do lots of things in the short amount of time we're on earth and it's beautiful to be able to talk and share and even just us having and I got goosebumps here because I'm thinking about the mere fact that, yeah, we have this huge goal of wanting to help three billion people, what about one?
• 9:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What if we help one?
• 9:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What if we help one person who's contemplating ending their life and they don't, for whatever reason?
• 9:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe it's a quote from us, from a guest of ours.
• 9:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's why we do what we do.
• 10:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We have big goals, but we also have a big God and there's nothing he can't do.
• 10:18
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: There are miracles that there's nothing he can't do.
• 10:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We may have low faith at times, higher at others.
• 10:34
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: One, if we're able to help one person to step forward and say you know what I like?
• 10:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Dan Reynolds, a lead singer of Imagine Dragons, talks about his therapy journey and he continues it to this day, and I do too.
• 11:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And so maybe that one person says you know what?
• 11:16
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm one of the 100,000 people at this concert and I just heard Dan Reynolds, lead singer of Imagine Dragons, talk about therapy, and therapy may have been a, a word that we didn't like, we didn't like to talk about.
• 11:38
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We just said, yeah, yeah, yeah, therapy, you know, it's for wim, it's for wimps, it's for not strong people, but I was at this concert or that concert, and I heard him talk Just person to person.
• 11:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, he's on, he's at the front of the stage.
• 12:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: He's not in the nosebleeds like the one song he has that they have, but he's sharing his, his experience, his thoughts and I bet you, if you ask Dan, I don't know I invite him to be a.
• 12:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Come with us, be a guest on our show.
• 12:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We'd love to have you on, dan.
• 12:27
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Any other members of Imagine Dragons we'd love to have you on open invitation.
• 12:34
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You let us know, we'll make it happen.
• 12:38
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But one.
• 12:43
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If Dan helps one person, maybe that person's you, maybe you're at that 100, you're one of the 100 000 or 30 000 or 50 000 at a sold out imagine dragons show and you're there for the music and then you hear Dan and what's he do.
• 13:05
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: He shares, shares about him.
• 13:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: He doesn't have to Excuse me, I don't have to, others don't have to.
• 13:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But if you're there and therapy's been not in your vocabulary for whatever reason, and he talks about that, and you think, wow, I about real life stuff, day-to-day stuff, moment-to-moment stuff, and maybe I thought about therapy but for whatever reason, didn't do it, Didn't reach out Too easy, just to not do it, and so that's part of Voices for Voices.
• 14:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We want to amplify voices that can help others, that can share, inspire.
• 14:23
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And if that person's you or somebody you know, and you reach out and say you know what inside your mind, I'm going to swallow my pride, I'm going to swallow my ego.
• 14:37
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't do this on my own.
• 14:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I need help, I need to talk to somebody.
• 14:47
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I just need a vent, I need to share, I need somebody to listen to me, and you reach out and you go to one visit and you go to one visit and maybe that one visit turns into two and that two turns into three.
• 15:11
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe you only have to come once a month, maybe it's once every two months, I don't know.
• 15:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But after you leave, whether it's an in-person or virtual session you don't know what it is, you don't know why you're feeling that way, but you feel just a little bit, maybe lighter, maybe a little easier to process information and think Maybe that happens.
• 15:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe that's you, or maybe you know somebody that can benefit.
• 16:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And by you being at that Imagine Dragons show, maybe there's somebody you know they'll listen to you, they'll at least hear you out and what that person is thinking about taking their life and they have a plan.
• 16:24
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And what that person is thinking about taking their life and they have a plan and it's written out or it's in their mind and how they're going to do it, whatever.
• 16:38
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And then they get a call or they get a text, or they get a text, or they get a knock on the door or they get a chat on any number of apps, and who is it?
• 16:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's you, and you don't know.
• 17:05
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: This person is where they're at, don't know what they're going through, because sharing is hard, it's hard to share, it's hard to talk, and that's one of the biggest reasons why people don't go to therapy is because they're like ah, you know, they're going to be asking me all these questions and they're going to be intruding into my life.
• 17:35
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: They're going to ask me personal questions and well, that's life.
• 17:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're human beings, we have brains, we have thoughts.
• 17:46
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We have good thoughts, we have thoughts that aren't so great.
• 17:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Here and there we're good at something.
• 17:56
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're not so good at others.
• 17:57
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's life.
• 17:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Somebody likes me and they don't like me.
• 18:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: They won't listen to me.
• 18:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's life.
• 18:07
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's a hard thing to hear.
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  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not something that's talked about in schools a lot, and it needs to be part of curriculum how to handle traumatic events, one that is, it has touched us at one point or another, and that's the loss of a loved one going to heaven, that we pray that they're going to heaven.
• 18:42
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I got goose once again because again, I'm a human being.
• 18:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I've experienced loss, loss of people, I know people, I love my dad, and nothing can prepare you, me, others, for how we react, how we process things Some faster, some slower, some impact one way or impact the other way and so we all have gone through and are going to continue to go through traumatic events.
• 19:38
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's up to educators it's up to not just educators, because we know that we don't have to go to college or university.
• 19:51
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If we don't want to, maybe we have.
• 19:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're an entrepreneur, maybe we start our own business, and then other people are looking up to you Because you need to hire an extra person, because business is picked up and that one person has a family, has people and has a human race.
• 20:21
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Life's worth living.
• 20:22
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'll be straight up, like I always am it's a very hard thing to think about.
• 20:36
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's even harder to talk about.
• 20:41
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You may think, oh, dan Reynolds, imagine Dragons, oh, it's easy to talk about.
• 20:45
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, they travel the world and they got money and whatever houses and mansions and cars or whatever they're able to take private jets, and it doesn't matter.
• 20:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm just an average, regular human being and in the past there's been, you know, thoughts that have crept into my mind at one time or another, for one reason or another, of wow, why am I?
• 21:30
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What am I doing living?
• 21:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What am I going to?
• 21:34
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: What am I supposed to do?
• 21:36
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it to sit in an office?
• 21:47
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And I've done my fair share of sitting.
• 21:56
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's one of the things that I would like to improve on.
• 22:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: When you're on vacation and other environments where walking is just a little bit easier, walking on the beach versus walking on the sidewalk, I mean, it sounds much better when you say, oh, I'm well, yeah, I'm for a walk on the beach.
• 22:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But to get back to you know, life is it's hard, and it's hard enough without others to put us down, to try to control our lives, to say no, you're not allowed to say that, you're not allowed to have an opinion.
• 23:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You're not allowed to have an opinion, you're not allowed to have free speech when I don't agree with every single thing you're saying, and they'll do that one time.
• 23:27
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: They'll do it a second, a third, a fifth, a tenth, a fiftieth, a hundredth, and so when I say life's hard, life is hard, you know, we think about, you know, the end of our days on earth where we're of as close to sound mind as can be.
• 24:02
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: One thing I don't want is to be at that, present here, thinking so.
• 24:19
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you had asked me 20 years ago, I'd probably have a different answer.
• 24:25
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But as we share this episode, we talk, listen, we watch At the end of, again, at the end of my days, whenever that is, and that's the thing.
• 24:44
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't know when it is, when it's going to be, and so that's why it's so important, because at the end of my days, I want to.
• 24:53
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: That's why it's so important, because at the end of my days, I want to be able to think that, no, I wasn't perfect, I wasn't special, I wasn't the richest person, money wise, I didn't have the biggest houses, I didn't have the fastest cars, I didn't have this, I didn't have whatever that is.
• 25:29
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You know what I want to think about and what I want wanna think about, and what I wanna think about, I put everything.
• 25:39
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I put things that have gone on in my life and invited others the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast and other other means of sharing sharing a good experience, a bad experience, but I just put it out.
• 26:09
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I put it out on the line because it's hard, but I just put it out on the line Because it's hard, life is hard, and to know, or that I hope to have, the thought and the thoughts of you, know what, justin, at the end of the day, I want to know that I put it out there, I shared, I did the best that I could, and while that may sound cliche, oh, do the best.
• 26:54
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You can do the best that I could.
• 26:55
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And while that may sound cliche, oh, do the best.
• 26:56
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: You can do the best you can.
• 26:58
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: No, it's true, as a child growing up, we do the best we can, maybe we succeed, maybe we don't, maybe we succeed, maybe we don't.
• 27:18
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: But as you grow and as I grew and I'm still growing and I'm still learning, sharing and talking to my therapist that I finally swallowed my pride, I swallowed my ego, I told myself, Justin, you can't do this alone and that I'm pretty sure that I was able to help somebody.
• 28:05
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's the one.
• 28:10
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: It's not going to be.
• 28:14
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Oh, I didn't reach this goal or that goal.
• 28:17
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: When we try, we don't know what's possible until we find out what's possible.
• 28:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And then life is hard and there's going to be some moments and experiences that are going to seem overwhelming down, depressing, and so that's what I want to have that as much a peace of mind as possible at the end of my days.
• 29:03
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And it's a hard thing to talk about, but I don't want to.
• 29:11
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to live in regret.
• 29:12
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to say well, justin't want to live in regret.
• 29:13
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to say, well, Justin, you had the opportunity to talk and share and express yourself and the organization voice through voices, and that I have this guest instead of that and say no, and I don't.
• 29:30
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to.
• 29:31
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want that to happen.
• 29:32
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to do the best I can and to help one person, and so Voices for Voices.
• 29:52
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We're real, we're down to earth and we love free speech as well, as you should too.
• 30:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you tuning in.
• 30:04
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for tuning in to this episode of the show.
• 30:08
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: If you can give us a big thumbs up, subscribe, like, share all that free stuff, we would appreciate that.
• 30:17
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: And until next time.
• 30:19
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm Justin Alan Hayes, founder and executive director of Voices for Voices.
• 30:24
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for joining us on this episode of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast and, as always, please be a voice for you or somebody in need.
• 30:36
  Voices for Voices Founder, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you next time.