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There's No Crying in Baseball... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: Hello, brothers and sisters, Welcome to the After Show podcast.
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  Speaker 1: That's you, The After Show Army. It's a Monday. Today
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  Speaker 1: is June twenty second. Nice three day weekend. Felt so good,
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  Speaker 1: finally get some rest. And it was very busy weekend,
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  Speaker 1: very very busy. Not only was it Father's Day, it
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  Speaker 1: was my daughter's birthday yesterday. We had her recital on Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: There was just so much going on. I'll touch on
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  Speaker 1: each of those as well, but a reminder, I'd love
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  Speaker 1: to hear from you. I'd love to come in to
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  Speaker 1: hear some talkbacks. People that are, you know, joining the
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  Speaker 1: after Show leaving questions comments. I love that so much,
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  Speaker 1: so I just want to remind you that if you
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  Speaker 1: listen to this podcast and you got something to say,
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  Speaker 1: something to ask, send a talk back in makes me
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  Speaker 1: happy and we'll get a ton of them obviously for
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  Speaker 1: the regular show. And I know a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: listen to this after Show and I would love to
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  Speaker 1: hear from all of you. So I hope you had
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  Speaker 1: a great Father's Day. If you're a dad listening to this,
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  Speaker 1: or your dad, or even if your dad has passed on,
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  Speaker 1: you know, in the memory, like my wife's dad, passed on.
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  Speaker 1: She put up a beautiful picture of her and her dad,
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  Speaker 1: who I never met. That was before I was with her.
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  Speaker 1: He died in two thousand and five. And it's wild too,
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  Speaker 1: because she looks just like him. She doesn't look anything
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  Speaker 1: like her mom. You know, when I talk about nanny,
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  Speaker 1: you know Nanny. You know she's very outgoing, very loud Italian.
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  Speaker 1: My wife's nothing like that. She looks just like her dad.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely got all of his genes. But he passed in
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  Speaker 1: two thousand and I believe it's two thousand and five
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  Speaker 1: of brain cancer. So I never got to honor to
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  Speaker 1: meet him. I had to ask her mom for her
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  Speaker 1: hand in marriage. I would have loved to meet him.
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  Speaker 1: She says that we would have got along. Got sorry,
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  Speaker 1: got along great, So it's too bad. So anyway, it
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  Speaker 1: was a great Father's Day. Let's go back to Saturday. Though,
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  Speaker 1: my daughter had her first recital. She's been doing hip
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  Speaker 1: hop dancing in Salem, New Hampshire, and so there was
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  Speaker 1: a lot of build up to this recital.
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  Speaker 2: It was.
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  Speaker 1: Very It was kind of expense, it's been, to be
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  Speaker 1: honest with you, not a ton of money. But you know,
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  Speaker 1: we had six people go and I think it was
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  Speaker 1: like thirty or forty dollars a ticket, and I really
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  Speaker 1: didn't know what to expect, but we got the itinerary.
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  Speaker 1: You know, this show schedule, it was like almost three
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  Speaker 1: hours long, and you know, by chance, my daughter was
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  Speaker 1: the second and last to go, so we had to
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  Speaker 1: sit there and watch the whole show.
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  Speaker 2: And it wasn't terrible.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there were a ton of acts, all different
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  Speaker 1: dancers of all ages, and.
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  Speaker 2: It was super cute.
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  Speaker 1: But I had my son there and you know, he's
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  Speaker 1: not into this, and that's a long time to sit.
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  Speaker 2: There and watch.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, I enjoyed the shows, and then obviously
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  Speaker 1: when my daughter came out, it was just the cutest
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  Speaker 1: thing ever.
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  Speaker 2: She did really great.
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  Speaker 1: We were nervous that, you know, she would get up
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  Speaker 1: on stage and not really move, that she would freeze up.
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  Speaker 2: But I did post a.
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  Speaker 1: Show a little clip on my Instagram and she was dancing. Man,
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  Speaker 1: you know, she really likes it. She was doing gymnastics
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  Speaker 1: and dancing, but she she seems to like the dancing more.
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  Speaker 1: So I think we're going to keep her in hip hop,
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  Speaker 1: maybe try different type of dancing, tap dancing or something.
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  Speaker 1: I think she showed an interest in that. But it
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  Speaker 1: was cool, man, it was great. My dad came obviously,
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  Speaker 1: Nannie and Nana, her gran my wife's grandmother all went
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  Speaker 1: and I did post a picture of that as well.
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  Speaker 1: So that was my first like daddy recital, you know,
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  Speaker 1: recital for my daughter. You know, I'm used to the
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  Speaker 1: boy life of baseball.
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  Speaker 2: Games and all that. So that was on Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: And then I went to a birthday party for my
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  Speaker 1: son's friend and my friend's son, Aaron, which.
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  Speaker 2: Was really cool. They had a video gaming truck.
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  Speaker 1: Come. I had never seen one of those before I
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  Speaker 1: heard about them. You know, the truck comes in the
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  Speaker 1: front of the house and you can go in. It
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  Speaker 1: has air conditioner, air conditioning or heating. It's in the winter,
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  Speaker 1: but they have like, you know, all the video game
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  Speaker 1: screens and you can go in and out of there
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  Speaker 1: and play. So that was cool too. And then Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: Father's Day was fantastic. It was great spending time with
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  Speaker 1: my family. But it was also my daughter's birthday. Now
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  Speaker 1: here's where it gets weird, Okay, because the recital was
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  Speaker 1: the weekend of her actual birthday, we had to move
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  Speaker 1: her party to next Saturday. So in my head. This
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  Speaker 1: is the same for my wife. In our heads, I
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  Speaker 1: should say, we kept forgetting that it was her birthday.
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  Speaker 1: Like we knew it was her birthday yesterday, but we
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  Speaker 1: couldn't wrap our heads around it because we keep thinking
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  Speaker 1: of her birthday is next weekend because that's when the
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  Speaker 1: party is. So we woke up Sunday, Father's Day, her
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  Speaker 1: birthday obviously.
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  Speaker 2: But my son had.
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  Speaker 1: Tryouts for Travel Baseball. Now here's where the story gets good.
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  Speaker 1: So my son plays rec baseball and this again, this
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  Speaker 1: is all new to me. You know, he started in
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  Speaker 1: the Salem youth system T ball up to farm. Now
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  Speaker 1: he's in minors, okay, and then he'll play another year
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  Speaker 1: of miners. Then he'll move up to majors. And that's
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  Speaker 1: like Salem wreck. But then they have Travel Baseball. And
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  Speaker 1: there's a ton of different programs all around the area,
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  Speaker 1: but the one out of Salem is called Travel New England.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I had thought about I have a
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  Speaker 1: really good friend of mine whose son plays travel And
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  Speaker 1: you know, my son's pretty good. You know, he's got
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  Speaker 1: a really good arm. He kicking definitely ball, you know,
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  Speaker 1: but last year he was he's nine years old. Now
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  Speaker 1: he was eight years old last year, he could have
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  Speaker 1: tried it, but I was like hesitant because it's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of money.
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  Speaker 2: First of on, it's a lot of time. It's not
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  Speaker 2: so much the money, it's the commitment.
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  Speaker 1: To it, and I wasn't sure that he was going
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  Speaker 1: to be fully committed to it. But then my wife
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  Speaker 1: reminded me that he's never not wanted to go to baseball.
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  Speaker 1: It's like the only thing that he's never put up
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  Speaker 1: a stink about, literally his entire short baseball career, going
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  Speaker 1: back to t ball, every game, every practice, he is ready.
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  Speaker 2: And willing to go.
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  Speaker 1: He absolutely loves baseball. And when she said that to me,
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  Speaker 1: I thought, you're right, You're one hundred percent right, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try him out this year. Now, all I've
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  Speaker 1: been hearing about travel is it's very competitive. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's not like wreck where everybody makes it. They give
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  Speaker 1: every player a turn. You know, you need to try
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  Speaker 1: out for these teams. They're gonna pick the best players,
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  Speaker 1: and even if you get picked to be on a team,
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  Speaker 1: you might not play, you know, but it's year round baseball,
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  Speaker 1: and even in the winter it's you know, you're constantly playing,
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  Speaker 1: and it's not just the playing, it's the coaching as well.
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  Speaker 1: You have some of the best coaches. It's a nonprofit,
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  Speaker 1: the coaches are not being paid to be there. And
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  Speaker 1: I've just heard nothing about, nothing but good things about it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So I signed him up for the tryouts for Travel
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  Speaker 1: New England, and then I also have him trying out
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  Speaker 1: on Wednesday for a different program out of Windham. Now
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  Speaker 1: that program is also a fantastic one, but that one
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  Speaker 1: pretty much every kid makes because they'll just make enough teams,
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  Speaker 1: so every kid makes it. I believe it's a for profit.
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  Speaker 1: It's a little bit more money too, but that's at
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  Speaker 1: They have a great facility, great program as well, but
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  Speaker 1: you're pretty much guaranteed to make it. I believe that's
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  Speaker 1: what I'm being told. But you know, the Salem one
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  Speaker 1: is really tough, right, So I got up Saturday, I
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  Speaker 1: explained it to him. I've explained to him what I
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  Speaker 1: just explained to all of you, right is like we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna try out. You're gonna do your best. If you
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  Speaker 1: make the team, great. If you don't make the team,
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  Speaker 1: that's okay. You can do this program and then try
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  Speaker 1: try out again next year for this one. Like it's
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  Speaker 1: all good. You're gonna play either way, I hope. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that's just one I'm being told as far as the
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  Speaker 1: other program. So woke up Sunday morning, I worked out
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  Speaker 1: in the morning, I came home, we hit the backyard.
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  Speaker 2: I warmed him up.
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  Speaker 1: We did, you know, pitching, hitting, fielding pop ups, warmed
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  Speaker 1: his shoulder up, and again I just gave him the
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  Speaker 1: pep talk, like, you know, buddy, we're just gonna go
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  Speaker 1: out there and give our best, you know, like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: proud of you either way. I do believe that you
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  Speaker 1: have what it takes to make it. I really really do.
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  Speaker 1: But there's the thing with kids. If you have small
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  Speaker 1: kids that have played sports, you probably can identify with this.
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  Speaker 1: You know how he plays in the backyard with his
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  Speaker 1: friends when he's comfortable, right, he plays hard and he
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  Speaker 1: looks good. But then he gets on the field and
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  Speaker 1: you know, he's more reserved, he's more shy, he's not
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  Speaker 1: as aggressive, if you will, And I try to tell him, buddy,
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  Speaker 1: if you just bring the backyard energy to the games,
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  Speaker 1: to the practices, to the tryouts, you have a really,
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  Speaker 1: really good shot. So we get to the to the tryout,
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  Speaker 1: and sure enough, only a cup. Only three kids showed
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  Speaker 1: up for his age group, so he's going for ten you,
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  Speaker 1: so it's ten year olds and under because of his birthday,
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  Speaker 1: he's going to turn ten in January, so he falls
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  Speaker 1: into that category, right. So we get there and the
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  Speaker 1: coach to coach explains, like, listen, we only had like
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  Speaker 1: four or five kids show up to the first tryout,
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  Speaker 1: which he missed, and now this one there was only three.
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  Speaker 1: You need at least twelve kids to make a team. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like shoot, and like, we're still going to
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  Speaker 1: have the tryouts, but you know, it is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: So at the same time that the ten, they had
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  Speaker 1: twelve you tryouts as well for the twelve year olds.
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  Speaker 1: There are two fields, one on each, so they decided
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  Speaker 1: to combine them so just the three kids for the
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  Speaker 1: ten just try them out with the twelve year olds,
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  Speaker 1: not for the twelve U team, but just to make
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  Speaker 1: it easier because it's all the same coaches that run
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  Speaker 1: the program.
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  Speaker 2: So I thought that was cool.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, that would actually be good for
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  Speaker 1: him to kind of play with the older kids. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm seated behind home plate. Okay, Now I don't know
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  Speaker 1: any of these coaches. I don't really know anybody there.
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  Speaker 1: This is a different program. It's all brand new. So
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  Speaker 1: I get there. You know, he Able gets out there
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  Speaker 1: with the other kids. It's him and two other ten
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  Speaker 1: year olds or he's nine years old, and they start
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  Speaker 1: doing you know, different drills. So they started with fielding.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So they had three or four kids at each position.
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  Speaker 1: At shortstop, Abel was there. It was two twelve year
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  Speaker 1: olds Inabel.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So the guy who runs the whole program was the
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  Speaker 1: one hitting the balls to the kids. So he hits
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  Speaker 1: him at third base, you know, each kid, and then
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  Speaker 1: they moved to shortstop. They hit you know, first twelve
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  Speaker 1: year old you know, kind of gets it a little fumbled,
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  Speaker 1: throws the to first, you know, makes it not the
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  Speaker 1: best throw. Second kids a little bit better, but you
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  Speaker 1: know these are they're twelve year olds. You know, they
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  Speaker 1: can throw hard. So then Able goes he's the last
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  Speaker 1: one at shortstop. The guy hits the ball to Abel.
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  Speaker 1: When I tell you, he like everything that I had
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  Speaker 1: taught him and been telling him over and over, it
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  Speaker 1: like it all clicked. And in this moment, I never
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  Speaker 1: I did not think it would right because think about it,
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  Speaker 1: these are brand new coaches, brand new, you know, kind
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  Speaker 1: of style of playing. And not only that he's with
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  Speaker 1: the older kids. He's not even with kids at his age.
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  Speaker 1: These are twelve year olds. They're considerably bigger and better
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  Speaker 1: than him. But he showed up. So he hits the
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  Speaker 1: ball to him. He charges it just like he's told
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  Speaker 1: scoops it right up, throws it to first so hard,
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  Speaker 1: right to the Yes. Now I'm seated behind home plate.
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  Speaker 1: The guy doesn't know that I'm his dad, right, he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't even know I'm that really, but I'm just saying.
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  Speaker 1: And the guy says to the other coach, who the
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  Speaker 1: fuck is that kid? And the guy goes, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't seen him before. I think he's a ten
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  Speaker 1: I think he's a ten you kid. And the guy goes,
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  Speaker 1: he's ten you and he's like yeah, and he's like huh.
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  Speaker 1: So then he moves to third base, same exact thing,
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  Speaker 1: hits the first couple of twelve year olds they make
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  Speaker 1: the play. Hits it to able line drive able, fucking
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  Speaker 1: like nothing gets it, throws it all the way to
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  Speaker 1: first base again, perfect throw to third base, and the
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  Speaker 1: guy goes, I like this kid, now he's talking to
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  Speaker 1: the other coach. He goes, I like this kid. I
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  Speaker 1: like this kid a lot, and like I lost it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, is it my age? Is it just
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  Speaker 1: I could not control myself and I had sunglasses on,
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  Speaker 1: and I started to cry because, you know, you have
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  Speaker 1: my son who who's had a lot of ups and
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  Speaker 1: downs in his life, right, like behavior issues that we've
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  Speaker 1: tried so hard to manage, you know, and just watching
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  Speaker 1: him grow and you know, having a lot of problems
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  Speaker 1: early on in school, to really like doing great and
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  Speaker 1: kind of just maturing and just all the ups and
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  Speaker 1: downs of parenting and fatherhood and to just see your
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  Speaker 1: son show up like that, it was so overwhelming. It
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  Speaker 1: was so so I'm on this. I'm sitting there at
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  Speaker 1: a tryout, at a fucking tryout, I'm weeping.
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  Speaker 2: Like a baby. And it's on Father's Day too.
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  Speaker 1: I think that played into it as well, And it
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  Speaker 1: just felt so good that, you know, I don't I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know he was gonna make the team, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm going in with with hope, but who knows.
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  Speaker 2: And he nailed everything. So then they moved to pop ups.
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  Speaker 2: Same thing. Hits.
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  Speaker 1: The hit, you know, caught every single ball. He didn't
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  Speaker 1: drop one ball. He made every throw. I mean he
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  Speaker 1: was throwing and catching and hitting better than some of
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  Speaker 1: the twelve year olds. I can honestly say that. And
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  Speaker 1: the coach was like blown away by him and another
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  Speaker 1: one of the ten year ten kids. There was another
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  Speaker 1: ten year old who the coach liked as well. So
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  Speaker 1: then one of the other coaches came up to me
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  Speaker 1: when they realized that was his dad, because I kind
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  Speaker 1: of was yelling for him like yeah, yeah, yeah, hey
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  Speaker 1: boll he came up to me and he goes, so
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  Speaker 1: here's the deal. He said, Uh, we think we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have enough kids to possibly make two eleven you teams.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, if we make the second team and it's
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  Speaker 1: competitive enough, and we think that they're going to be competitive,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to ask that you play him up. We
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  Speaker 1: would like you to play him up, and we recommend
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  Speaker 1: that you do that that he just skips ten you
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  Speaker 1: and just goes right to eleven you because you can
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  Speaker 1: play you can play up, but you can't play down.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you're ten, you can't play in nine, but
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  Speaker 1: you can play up. And I was like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, do you think they will, and he's like, we're.
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  Speaker 2: Going to look at it.
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  Speaker 1: We'll let you know in a couple of days, by Tuesday,
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  Speaker 1: but we really like, we really like your.
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  Speaker 2: Son, and we want to be a part of the program.
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  Speaker 2: Oh ah.
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  Speaker 1: So again he crushed everything. At the very end, he
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  Speaker 1: was pitching, which is what he that's his favorite thing
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  Speaker 1: to do. He's best at pitching. And you know, one
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  Speaker 1: of the time the kids went up, all the twelve
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  Speaker 1: year olds enable and he was throwing harder than some
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  Speaker 1: of the kids. And it was like, when I talk
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  Speaker 1: about the emotion, you got to picture this, you know,
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  Speaker 1: while he's out there fielding, and when he's pitching and
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  Speaker 1: when he's hitting, especially when he's throwing the ball. Like
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  Speaker 1: all the parents they don't know who I am. They're
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  Speaker 1: like their heads are like on a swivel because they
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  Speaker 1: see him and they see that he's smaller, but he's
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  Speaker 1: throwing harder and they were just like whoa, whoa. And
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  Speaker 1: then when he was pitching, there was a guy that
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  Speaker 1: came up to me and he said, you know, he
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  Speaker 1: was a parent, and he said, listen, if they ask
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  Speaker 1: you to play him up, he goes, I would recommend
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  Speaker 1: that you do that. You know it could be tough
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  Speaker 1: his first year playing with the older kids. He might
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  Speaker 1: not get as much playing time at the coaching and
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  Speaker 1: it will improve him as a player. And I said, well, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they did actually say to me just now that they
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  Speaker 1: may make a second team to play me.
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  Speaker 2: He goes, do it, do it.
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  Speaker 1: And then as he's talking to me, Abel's pitching, and
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  Speaker 1: then Abel throws the ball and the guy goes if
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  Speaker 1: he's throwing like that at nine years old, like that's
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  Speaker 1: he has something this kid.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, play him up. I was like, okay.
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  Speaker 1: So he wrapped up tryouts and we're leaving and you know,
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  Speaker 1: like I want to be the strong dad, right, which
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: I which I am, right, I want to be the
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: you know, the guy.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: But we're walking off the you know, to the.
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: Car, and I just started to tell him like how
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: proud I was of him, and and I lost it
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: again and he just looked at me and he's like,
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: are you crying? And I have my sunglasses on, and
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: I just like lost it to him and then he's like,
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: I love your dad. We had this really really really
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: really cool moment and uh, yeah, I love fatherhood, I
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: really really do. But it wasn't like this great thing,
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: like he didn't even make a team yet. It wasn't
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: And it's not so much the fact that he may
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: make this team, they may play him up because he
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: is good and he has something. It's more of that
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: like he listened and he showed up and he showed
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: what he could do, you know, And my son's he's
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: hard headed, man, he's just like me. He's that kid, right,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: you tell him over and over again the same thing.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: He doesn't listen, you know. And then to yesterday when
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: it counted, he did, and he looks so good out there,
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: and he was so reserved and so.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Mature.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: I guess, not that I wanted to grow up fast,
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: but he was in there with the twelve year olds
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: and he just was like dialed into it, man. And
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: just to hear the coach say that thing, like it
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: was like, that's my boy, that's my boy. You know,
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: who is Who the fuck is this kid? Why don't
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I know who this kid is? Because they don't know?
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: They why is he already in the program. They were
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: probably thinking like if this kid has this skill, where
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: did he come from? And why isn't he playing? So
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: he has another tryout for a different organization on Wednesday,
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: and if he makes the eleven year, I'm going to
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: play him up, so I told, I said to him
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: at the end. They came up at the end and
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: I said, listen, I go, I'm going to try him
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: off for this other organization. They go, no problem, you
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: can do whatever you want. I was like, but if
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: he's offered, I will play him up. And they said,
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: we'll let you know before Wednesday. So if he makes it,
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: then he won't try out for the other organization. If
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: they don't, then he'll try out for the other one,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: and he's still going to play baseball and he'll be fine.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: And I made sure to like tell him, you know,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: in teaching him about humility, right, I say, cause I
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: didn't tell him like all the details of what the
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: coach said and all that. I just told him that
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: they really liked him a lot, like a lot, and
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: if nothing else, it was memorable and they know who
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: you are now. So if he doesn't make it, let's
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: not get upset. You can do that. He's still going
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: to play baseball. But then next year they're going to
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: remember you, because guaranteed he would have if they had
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: a ten you team, he would have made it, but
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: they don't have enough kids, you know, so if they
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: make the second eleven you team, then they'll they'll play
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: him up.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: So that was an amazing moment.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: We got home and uh, we're you know, we had
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: family coming over.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: My dad came over, my brother came over. Father's Day.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: We grilled, and when we got home, before any of
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: them came, my wife was in the garage and my
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: son could not wait to tell her that his dad
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: was crying, and so he's telling her, I'm over by
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: the pool, and then I kind of walk into the garage.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: Then she's like, great job, Able, I'm so proud of you.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: And then she looks at me and she goes, you
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: were crying and I was like yeah, and then I
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: started to explain why, like like I just did to you,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: and I started crying again.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then she was like, you're gonna make me cry.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: Oh man, It's just I don't know, you know, my
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: clean Day's coming up on Wednesday.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: What's today? Yeah, clean, It's coming off on Wednesday.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: And again, I'm just grateful for my life, grateful for
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: everything that I have in my life, especially my family
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: and my children. And it's another reminder man to keep
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: going and to not fuck around, not pick up anything,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: you know, not to mess around with what I have,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: because it can all be taken away, and I don't
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: want it to be.
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: That's that's what it is.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: I want to keep what I have, And like the
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: moment that I had with my son yesterday is something
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: that like I never want to lose, you know, And
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: so as my clean date approaches, it's even more like
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: evident to me and even more motivation like to keep going,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: you know, like if you watch that Channel five special
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: thing they did onlike my story in my life, you know,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: I talk about when my brother used to find my syringes,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: and I didn't find out those things until I got clean,
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: and it was like heartbreak to hear, like when my
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: mother told me that my brother, you know, at nine
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: years old, would come into my room and he would
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: he would look for like drug paraphernalia, and he would
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: find syringes, use syringes, and as a nine year old,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: would put them into his backpack and he would take
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: them home to my mother and just and say I
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: don't want my brother to die, you know, And to
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: hear those things was so painful, but it was motivation,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: and that's like what this is too. These are things
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: in life that motivate me to keep going. And if
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: you're listening to this and you're not in recovery and
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: you're not into addiction, you can still apply these to
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: your life. You know, when good things happen when you
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: do the right thing, you know, that's motivation to keep going.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: Because life is hard, man. I have friends of mine
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: that are struggling so so bad right now, and you know,
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: I try to be there for them and talk to them.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: But it's hard, man, And life is hard. Why do
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: you think people do drip? Why do you think they
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: drink because they don't want to deal with it? And
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: then you have mental illness too. Like life is hard,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: but you got to show up. You got to show up.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: And it's really just about putting the work and doing
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: the things, positive things that will have a positive impact
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: on your life. Oh man, what a weekend. So yeah,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: that wrapped that up. So we are here, we're back
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: this week. We have next week up until the fourth
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: and then we're off on vacation, which you know, I
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: am looking forward to, looking forward to spending some time
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: at Old Orchard.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: Beach and with my family and friends.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: So that should be good. But we have a little bit,
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: a little while to get there. We have this week
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: and next week, so again, talkbacks. I love, please send
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: them Tomorrow. Maddie and Damon are coming back. Are we
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: going to get a part two of Maddie's story.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: I left my first setup. I think I'm not sure
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: if it went through that.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: I am voting for part two of Maddie's story.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Maddie told half of the story and then Damon
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: and I interrupted very rudely, and he did not finish.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: So they're coming in tomorrow, and I'm actually I actually
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: want to hear the second half of his story more
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: than the first, because the first is active addiction, right,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: and I've heard a million I live my own right.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: The second half is how he built, what power of
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: recovery is, and how he built this huge thing that
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: helps so many people. So they're coming in tomorrow. If
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: you have any questions or comments anything about addiction, if
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: you're struggling, if a family member is struggling, these are
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: the guys. These are the professionals that can help. They
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: can offer with advice, they can get you placed or
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: a family member or a friend placed into treatment, so
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: leave a talk back. They'll be here tomorrow. Have a
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: great day, everybody,