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Some narcissists are "too smart" for their own good · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how some narcissists are
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  too smart for their own good, how some narcissistic people are
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  easy to manipulate. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. So welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Yes, y'all. Yes, yes, yes.
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  There are quite a few toxic narcissistic people out there
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  that are very easy to manipulate.
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  Just keep it hot. I know people.
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  Most videos you see or about how narcissists manipulate other
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  people, how narcissists or master manipulators and get away
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  get away with so much and how they do this and how they do
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  that. It just it is it.
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  Is it true a lot of times how narcissists can be the master
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  manipulator in the relationship? Yes, but there are so many
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  narcissists out there. Y'all that are think.
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  They think that they are the smartest person in the room,
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  which makes them so vulnerable to be manipulated themselves.
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  You see, there are a lot of narcissists who scam people in
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  real life like love scammers and things like that.
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  But there are also a lot of narcissists who are scammed.
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  You know, they're the result of a scam.
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  Because nobody's going to be, nobody's smarter than me,
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  nobody's going to, nobody's going to suspect this.
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  Nobody knows who I really am, but they are.
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  They can be manipulated. And this is not me.
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  This is not the videos. They're trying to teach you how
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  to get, you know, teach you how to hurt a narcissist or anything
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  like that. It's just to show you or just to
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  tell you that you can get what you want from a narcissistic
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  person, maybe not emotionally, but get them to move in the
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  direction that you want them to move in, you know, And the
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  simplest way of doing it, y'all, is to make them feel like the
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  smartest person in the room. That's the simplest way about
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  doing it. And then I say of course, of
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  course, of course. Let me say this for dig deep
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  into this video. Use discretion.
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  View or discretion is advised. You know, they're all they're
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  all saying. Use discretion when you're when
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  you're applying this type of this type of mindset to dealing
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  with narcissistic people. But use, of course, use
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  discretion, but just listen to what they say, like make them
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  feel like they are the smartest person in the room.
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  Make them feel like you, you like, damn, you know you're
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  right. Even though you know they're not
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  right. And like sometimes that's how
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  you have to get what you want from them.
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  You know, I'm not saying you just for you to say out loud,
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  you know, you're the smartest person in the room.
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  You're the brightest person ever.
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  I'm not telling you to stroke their ego because does that
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  work? Yeah.
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  But some narcissists can see right through that.
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  Like you is you being fake as hell right now?
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  You've never said these words before, so why would you say I'm
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  now? You know, there's a lot of
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  narcissists out there who feel that way.
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  Like, you never uttered these words before, but right now, all
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  of a sudden you're uttering so much, you know, but just making
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  them feel like they're the smartest person in the room,
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  making them feel like what they say goes and whatnot.
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  Look, that's that's how you can get what you want from them.
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  Well, I well, like in a situation like that, let's just
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  say you're making an escape plan.
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  You don't want to tell them that you're leaving, right?
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  You don't want to tell them that you're leaving.
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  So make them feel like they everything is going OK.
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  Because sometimes, like, if you make an escape plan, if you feel
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  like this narcissistic person is dangerous or whatever they get,
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  they're good talkers, they're good communicators or whatever
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  they get. They're highly manipulative
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  people. You can make a plan by just
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  like, damn, you know what? You're right.
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  Everything's going fine. You know, making them feel like
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  that, but then you disappear. Then you protect yourself.
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  But then you are able to make an escape plan because they didn't
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  suspect things were coming, because they don't anticipate
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  you or they think they're the smartest person in the room, say
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  they they don't anticipate you to be able to make those
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  decisions on your own. They don't anticipate you to be
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  able to talk like this and perform these, you know, to do
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  these type of things. To to have enough strength and
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  work with all. To leave, you know, to have your
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  own private bank account where you can save money up as a, you
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  know, in a fund for you to leave and things like that.
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  For you to be, you know, have, you know, just have cold words
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  and things of that nature around your friends and family to let
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  them know. And you know they don't expect
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  that from you. You know it really, really
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  don't. And believe how do we stroke the
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  ego over Narcissus? How do we make them feel this
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  way? Y'all you have to study your
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  partner. You absolutely have to study
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  them and see what makes them tick.
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  Because I said this in the video earlier this week.
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  They're watching you. They're studying you to to to
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  understand what makes you tick. So sometimes you have to do the
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  same thing to them, study what makes them tick.
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  You know, study the things that they like to do, like you have
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  to make an escape plan you don't have.
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  They're always in the house. You don't know how to get them
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  out of the house. You have to be kind of like, you
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  kind of have to be like them. Sometimes you got to, like, they
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  like going out with their friends or whatever.
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  You can set up a you can set up a surprise date, surprise time
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  with their friends to play poker somewhere else, poker night or
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  something like that, right? Or you set it up for them to go
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  out for mimosas or something along those lines.
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  And now you just bought yourself a few hours to escape.
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  They didn't suspect it because they think they're the smartest
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  person in the room. They don't think that you have
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  the work with all to leave them like that, to set them up like
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  that. You know, like, damn, you really
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  set me up. They they come home and you
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  gone. Like, damn, you really left, you
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  know, you really did this. You really made their plan on
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  your own because they're. Yeah, I'm just telling you that
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  they think some narcissist just think that they are smart.
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  They just think and they exude this confidence like they really
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  are smart, but they're super predictable.
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  They're extremely predictable. Like once you get to know them
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  and start noticing the patterns, they're extremely predictable
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  and you can you can base your actions on what you predict that
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  they're going to do. Can some narcissists throw you a
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  monkey wrench? Right?
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  And can some of them throw you a monkey wrench and start to act
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  wild and weird and do a lot of wild, weird things?
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  Yes, some of them absolutely can do that.
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  There are some narcissists that will just change up their
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  behaviours and be extremely erratic, right?
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  But there are some who a lot of them don't do that.
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  They just pretend that they they have the smartest brain, the
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  best brain, the best way of thinking.
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  But you can, if you can anticipate their actions, you
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  can push them in the right direction that benefits you the
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  most. You know you have to make like
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  another way to do that. Y'all is to make them feel like
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  doing something for you is beneficial to them.
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  That's one of the easiest, most efficient ways to go about doing
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  it, to make them feel like something that they do for you
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  is equally or more beneficial to them.
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  You know what babe? Getting me a new car would make
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  things so much easier around the house.
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  I know we only have one car, but getting another car would just
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  make things so much easier to go, to go to take the kids
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  places, to do things, you know. So I won't like that I don't
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  have to ask you all to, you know, I know you get tired of me
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  asking you for the car and do to do things, so let's get another
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  car. It'd be so beneficial to you and
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  I'll be out your way. And if there's less stress for
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  you, make it feel like they're benefiting them.
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  They're like, you know what? It doesn't always work.
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  It's not always going to work. Is an example.
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  So it's just in that space right there.
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  So this is just an example of how this thing could go.
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  So once you get to that space, it's just like they go get you
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  the car, then you can make a plan.
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  You see, yeah, you had it. You made it seem like it was
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  mutually beneficial for both of Y'all, but more beneficial to
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  you, you know, because that's how it can go right there.
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  It can be more beneficial to you in this space as opposed to
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  being beneficial to them. You know you made it feel, you
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  made him feel like it was beneficial to them because
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  sometimes you have to play the game.
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  Y'all, let's be realistic. And this is not no no dark, no
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  dark ass video to take you out a dark path.
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  Sometimes you have to be realistic in real life.
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  You know, real life stuff happens.
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  Like, you have to be able to adjust on the fly and you know
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  you can't always just ask them straight up to do something for
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  you because they're not going to do it.
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  Some of them just will refuse to do it if it's not going to
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  benefit them in some way, shape or form.
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  So the easiest way to get what you want from them, the easiest
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  way, you know to manipulate them, is to make it seem like
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  it's beneficial to them because that's what they do.
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  Yeah, being realistic, that's what narcissists do to you.
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  They make it seem like some of their toxic behaviors are going
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  to benefit you in some way, shape or form.
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  Look, I I have a side chick because you know, take some
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  stress off of you. I don't have to yell and scream
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  at you when I'm out my side chick.
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  It's just better for everybody over this one sided open
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  relationship. It's better for everybody
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  because it allows me to do this, it allows me to do that and I
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  don't have to bring home the stress to you.
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  You see how it's beneficial to both of us.
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  This is the wild example. But sometimes that's the type of
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  stuff that they will say and what they will do, you know,
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  they will try to make it seem like so some type of wild, wild,
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  type of wild mindset, wild excuse wild behavior is somehow
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  beneficial to you. They that's what they do.
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  So sometimes you have to just kind of flip their own mindsets
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  on to them, you know, make it seem like it's beneficial to
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  them because they're not as hard to manipulate or move as a lot
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  of people. A lot of people make it make
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  them seem to be. Like I said, this doesn't work
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  on every single narcissist. There are some narcissists who
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  will be stone cold and don't care if it benefits them.
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  They don't want to do do anything for you anyway, yeah,
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  but the ones that are movable, study their behaviour, study
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  them, See what makes them tick. See what you You've been with
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  them for a long time. You know what they like and
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  don't like. You know you've been walking on
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  egg shells for so long, so you definitely know what they don't
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  like. If you're walking on egg shells,
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  you already know what sets them off, you know?
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  And typically it's hard for a leopard to change his stripes to
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  what people say, right? Leopard, leopard or zebra
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  doesn't change his stripes. So they're going to be the same
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  things. They've been ticking them off in
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  the past, are probably going to tick them off right now.
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  So just adjust. Move accordingly, You know, move
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  accordingly. Especially if you have to deal
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  with Co parenting. If you're Co parenting with one
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  of them, make you know, definitely Co parenting, you'd
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  have to definitely make it seem like it's beneficial to you to
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  them sometimes to do certain things.
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  If you're on time for the pick ups and drop offs, then this
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  won't happen right here. You know, you won't have to hear
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  my mouth if you're just on time, you know, or, you know, you know
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  they're going to be, you know, if, you know, they're always 15
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  minutes late, you start showing up.
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  Yeah, I'm just telling you they're so, like sometimes
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  they'll show up 15 to 15 to 30 minutes late on purpose just to
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  make your life hard. So you start showing up the same
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  time. Yeah.
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  Yeah. I'm on the way.
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  I'm on the way there. Just make it seem like you're
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  stressed out. But you know they're going to be
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  there 1520 minutes late. So you're chilling.
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  You know, you made a plan. You're only you.
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  You're going to get there the same time they get there, you
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  know? That's what she said.
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  Just make a plan. Y'all.
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  It's not as hard to manipulate. There's a lot, a lot of
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  narcissists are dumb. You know for like a better word.
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  They're just dumb. They just think they're smart.
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  They exude this confidence of this aura of being smart, but
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  they really are dumb and easy to manipulate.
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  You get down to the nitty gritty.
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